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To think there's nothing wrong with all the Facebook "look at all these xmas presents" photos

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As Christmas dawns I'm reminded of numerous AIBU threads whereby people moan about folk that post photos on FB showing all the xmas gifts they've bought for their kids.

Personally, I love it when people post these photos. I'm a self-confessed shopaholic and love having a good gander at the photos to get ideas for what to look for in the January sales. I'm also a nosy cow.

Am I in the minority? Do most people hate these photos?

kotinka Tue 29-Oct-13 20:13:59

Yeah most people hate them. I don't mind them.

usualsuspect Tue 29-Oct-13 20:16:20

I like them.

Some people are miserable buggers.

AngelsLieToKeepControl Tue 29-Oct-13 20:16:26

They don't bother me one way or the other, there seems to be a lot of people who hate them though.

MamaBear17 Tue 29-Oct-13 20:17:05

I prefer pictures with people in, but completely admit taking pics of the pile of presents and the living room set up for dds memory album. I only put pics with people in on Facebook but I don't mind what others do.

LumpySpacePrincessOhMyGlob Tue 29-Oct-13 20:17:16

Yabu. Facebook is eeeeeevvvviiiilllllllll.

WorraLiberty England Tue 29-Oct-13 20:17:44

I don't mind them at all

I get more fed up of people moaning about Facebook...like it's compulsory to have it.

Heartbrokenmum73 Tue 29-Oct-13 20:18:17

I have literally never seen one of these photos!

I obviously lead a very sheltered life and now I feel left out sad

usualsuspect Tue 29-Oct-13 20:18:32

Some people just like moaning about FB.

YoureBeingAnAnyFuckerFan Tue 29-Oct-13 20:18:33

Theyre just so boasty though. Why do people do it? confused

fragola Tue 29-Oct-13 20:18:59

I've never seen one. What an odd thing to do.

Unexpected Netherlands Tue 29-Oct-13 20:19:10

I have never seen a photo like this on FB, thank heavens! I might defriend someone if they did that! Why would anyone think that was an appropriate thing to do ?

SinisterMatic Tue 29-Oct-13 20:19:45

I don't mind, I wouldn't do it personally as I do not like people seeing what I have etc, I appreciate I am a little paranoid.

I do like seeing happy pictures and statuses so post away!

Burmobasher Tue 29-Oct-13 20:20:09

I'm not keen, they just seem a bit showy offy and "hey look I've spent shit loads more than you"

Pinupgirl Tue 29-Oct-13 20:20:47

I don't post pictures like these because I wouldn't want to make any of my friends feel bad if their dcs don't have much. Its boastful and nobody likes a boaster.

My mum goes mad at xmas and buys dcs far too much-its literally a mountain of toys in our living room and I do feel a bitblush

How do you know the person has spent shit loads? I have tons of presents for my DCs for under £80 each. Their piles are going to be huge....

GreenShadow England Tue 29-Oct-13 20:21:55

What a strange thing to do -I never seen anything like this. Most people I know would never do anything like this - if anything they (and I) would play down how much they have bought/spent.

OddBoots Tue 29-Oct-13 20:23:04

I'm not bothered by them but we are okay (not great, but okay) financially, I think if I couldn't afford to get what I wanted to for my children then seeing those kinds of pictures could be rubbing the salt in.

Burmobasher But how do they know what you've spent?

WorraLiberty England Tue 29-Oct-13 20:24:54

I don't post pics on FB but while I've still got the scrolling wheel on my mouse, I take no notice of other people's pics if I don't like them...I move straight down the page.

ICameOnTheJitney Tue 29-Oct-13 20:29:19

It's "Common" isn't it? Coarse...materialistic...akin to discussing money or religion at the dinner table. I love the fact that some posters on thread have said "Goodness...I've never seen such a thing!" because they're far too well bred to KNOW people who do this. grin

Burmobasher Tue 29-Oct-13 20:31:29

wombles i don't, that's why I used the word seems. It's how these photos are perceived by some and happens to be my own personal opinion. Feel free to disagree.

Elsiequadrille Tue 29-Oct-13 20:32:43

I think they sound very odd, but I'm not a big fan of Facebook generally. Never seen one, however.

It's 'common' and vulgar, apparently.

soontobemumofthree Tue 29-Oct-13 20:32:48

I've never seen anyone do this, but it's probably people excited that they get to have Christmas with children. I'm not really one for piles of presents, prob frugal compared with some.
I think esp as my kids are so little that Christmas is so long away from their perspective. I get them occasional things in the year and they have presents from other people at Christmas too.
I don't think I'd feel too strongly if I saw a pile of presents. YANBU, people aren't doing it to harm.

soontobemumofthree Tue 29-Oct-13 20:34:50

I doubt I'm too well bred, just not enough time on fb probably

Heartbrokenmum73 Tue 29-Oct-13 20:37:59

I did have a friend who posted each pile of presents when they were all wrapped up, but it was a 'wrapping done' thing. And I know for a fact she spent very little cos I went shopping with her a few times, so definitely not that kind of a boast.

I still hated that she was done and everything wrapped by mid-December though, the caaaaaah grin

GiddyStars Tue 29-Oct-13 20:39:55

I did this blush

But the presents were just kind of 'in' the photo if that makes sense. I just wanted to take a picture of how nice and tidy Christmassy the room looked with the tree and decs and Father Christmas footprints etc.

Not to boast, I hadn't thought it could offend anyone the present piles are tiny anyway

BeCoolFucker Tue 29-Oct-13 20:40:29

I'm another who have never seen or heard of these photos before this thread.

I might post a picture of the tree with a few presses under it closer to xmas but I don't think that is what you mean is it?

usualsuspect Tue 29-Oct-13 20:42:18

Some people are offended by everything on FB.

I wonder why they are on it tbh.

Coupon Tue 29-Oct-13 20:44:13

YABU. A set of presents is meant to be preparation for a special family time, not a shop catalogue to be scrutinized by others.

usualsuspect Tue 29-Oct-13 20:46:43

Don't whatever you do post a picture of your Christmas tree,or Christmas dinner.
Or there will be 50 threads as MN moaning about it.

GeeTeeEff Tue 29-Oct-13 20:47:11

They are usually accompanied by a caption of "omg, look at all these presents, I hate to think how much I've spent"

HappyMummyOfOne Tue 29-Oct-13 20:48:59

If FB is just limited to family and close friends, then surely people can tell the difference between ahh its christmas and those who are bragging. If your FB has nine million friends then its a daft thing to do if they have an idea where you live.

KCumberSandwich Tue 29-Oct-13 21:21:14

They don't bother me, but i don't see why my friends and neighbours would be interested.

"Father Christmas footprints"

How did you do those?

LynetteScavo England Tue 29-Oct-13 21:28:11

I've never seen one of these photos.

I'd probably just think "what a load of crappy tat". I'd probably quite like a nosy, though. grin

TooTabooToBOOOOO Tue 29-Oct-13 21:31:49

I put pics up of the Christmas presents.

I don't do it to show off (I would be the worst show-off known to man if that were my intention)

I always put a "he's been" picture up just before I go to bed and then one of DD sat in the midst of wrapping paper and opened presents in the morning.

My parents did this when I was little, it's just that now I can put it out "there" and I love seeing other people putting their pics up - it adds to the excitment.

People don't like it they know where the Unfriend button is.

Mim78 Italy Tue 29-Oct-13 21:33:39

I've never seen one either! Glad I'm not the only one having read all the replies! Usually too busy for FB on Christmas day.

mrsjay Tue 29-Oct-13 21:34:05

some folk are just miserable though I like to see the piles that santa has left smile

mrsjay Tue 29-Oct-13 21:35:40

all the presents look look lovely and bowy and sparkly

MrsDavidBowie Tue 29-Oct-13 21:37:19

I can't imagine wanting to look at a photo of someone else's presents.

That's one reason I don't have FB, so I never have to look at pointless things. A bit like reading about peoples' dreams.

Mummyoftheyear Tue 29-Oct-13 21:38:00

Never seen any. How bizarre. But then again, I just posted a video and a photo of the new table I bought my children. grin Yes - table. No ordinary table though. It's the old fashioned roll-down bureau.

Amandine29 Tue 29-Oct-13 21:43:42

I've never seen this on Facebook but I am quite nosy so I would like to.

2tiredtoScare Tue 29-Oct-13 21:44:05

I've genuinely never seen any on my FB

YoureBeingAnAnyFuckerFan Tue 29-Oct-13 22:20:08

But tootoo- why do you do the 'he's been' photo on fb? I can understand the one of your dd enjoying opening her presents but i dont get the other one of just a stack of wrapped up presents. Also, there are about 8/9 people on my fb who do the "he's been" photo also. Well really its not original. And 'he' hasnt really been. Who is the picture for? Why dont you just post a picture saying "ive put all the presents under the tree" because thats really what your showing people.

Runwayqueen England Tue 29-Oct-13 22:24:08

I have to admit I did post a photo of my dd's presents hidden away today, more so because for the first time in her 3 1/2yrs I've been organised instead of my normal last minute panic buying, not to rub it in to any friends or family. I feel now I've got all the bits and bobs she would love I can enjoy December and Christmas for the festivity of it all

usualsuspect Tue 29-Oct-13 22:27:27

What's wrong with saying 'he's been'
Everyone says it

Or is that something else that people moan about

YoureBeingAnAnyFuckerFan Tue 29-Oct-13 22:28:46

Yeah i say it to the dcs but not to a load of adults on fb who are fully aware of the fact that it was me stuffing presents under the treegrin

usualsuspect Tue 29-Oct-13 22:34:02

Well its sort of a joke.

I say it to.my DS and he's 21 grin

TooTabooToBOOOOO Tue 29-Oct-13 22:35:27

YoureBeing because I enjoy doing it. I like to see other people's pics too.

I find it fun. The picture is for me, my friends and ultimately the pic will be viewed by DD in years to come.

mrsjay Tue 29-Oct-13 22:37:00

dunno who comes to your house yourbeing cos santa comes to ours and the dds -15and20 love santa coming wink

TooTabooToBOOOOO Tue 29-Oct-13 22:38:21

*I don't FB on Xmas day at all - I go on Christmas Eve when I'm sat, alone, glass of wine in hand, DD in bed (and DS this year - squeeeeeeee! 9 mo at Xmas, far too exciting)

I suppose that's one reason why I enjoy putting it on FB as I am able to share the excitement. Otherwise it's just me looking at the dog and asking her "so, pretty cool eh?" grin

TooTabooToBOOOOO Tue 29-Oct-13 22:38:57

mrsjay - I was wondering the same, maybe she's Jewish?? grin

YoureBeingAnAnyFuckerFan Tue 29-Oct-13 22:41:16

hmm Because santa is all to do with religion.

TooTabooToBOOOOO Tue 29-Oct-13 22:43:02

oh I do love it when I interact with somebody with a pole shoved up their arse.

G'night all.

mrsjay Tue 29-Oct-13 22:46:44

well the baby jesus isn't going to magic himself down the chimney is it, Christmas presents it a tradition and how people want to celebrate (ornot) is their business nobody elses

YoureBeingAnAnyFuckerFan Tue 29-Oct-13 22:52:20

Well when you start making fun of people for having a different opinion than you, you cant really be surprised that they dont high five you. I didnt poke fun at you. I asked why you did what you do. Why did you start questioning my religion because i pointed out that i was the person who put the presents under my tree? You can dislike my opinion and your free to express that but just because you disagree doesnt mean i have a pole shoved up my ass ( vile expression btw)

TooTabooToBOOOOO Tue 29-Oct-13 22:53:53

Oh get down off your highhorse.

I wasn't making fun of you. I mistakenly thought we were having idle chat.

You are obviously reading more into my comments than I ever intended.

YoureBeingAnAnyFuckerFan Tue 29-Oct-13 22:54:11

And i agree its people's own business but this is a thread on a public forum that invited discussion on the topic. We are all familiar with how MN works so dont be surprised if when you post something, someone comments on it.

YoureBeingAnAnyFuckerFan Tue 29-Oct-13 22:55:28

No we werent having an idle chat. You started talking about me to another poster you didnt address that to me.

TooTabooToBOOOOO Tue 29-Oct-13 22:55:53

you're preaching to the converted there.

mrsjay Tue 29-Oct-13 22:55:55

because PARENTS have enjoyed playing santa for years I dont see anything wrong with saying he has been it is just silliness amongst the adults thats all

usualsuspect Tue 29-Oct-13 22:55:59

Maybe you should lighten up a bit?

Famzilla Tue 29-Oct-13 22:56:52

Not really digging the whole "she's Jewish because she doesn't believe in Santa" thing someone seems to have going on here but whatever.

I don't like the pictures. As someone said up thread I find it boastful & vulgar. Just like I cringe when people upload pictures of their valentines gifts or post statuses documenting every part of their "super awesome amazing" day with "the best hubby in the world". Just feels so competitive & insensitive, like it's being done to make others jealous sometimes. I appreciate not everyone is like that, but Facebook brings out the worse in people.

YoureBeingAnAnyFuckerFan Tue 29-Oct-13 22:57:36

Thanks for answering my question mrsjay. Thats all you/anyone needed to do.

TooTabooToBOOOOO Tue 29-Oct-13 22:57:48

I was having idle chat.

You are spoiling for a fight. Bad day? Me too, shittest of days.

Come here for idle chat.

I shall think of you fondly on Xmas Eve.

TooTabooToBOOOOO Tue 29-Oct-13 22:59:34

Oh dear me, I really did not mean to diss the entire Jewish community by that one throw away comment.

Christmas isn't a Jewish celebration that's all I was inferring.

It. Was. A. Joke. (and a really crap one at that)

usualsuspect Tue 29-Oct-13 23:01:02

Its not boasting ffs

Thank fuck I don't have miserable buggers on my FB

YoureBeingAnAnyFuckerFan Tue 29-Oct-13 23:01:03

Im really not spoiling for a fight. I asked you a question about why you do on xmas eve. Asking why you did it. You then started talking about me with another poster. Referring to me as 'she' and questioning my religion because i asked you to explain why you did what you did. I dont know why you had that response to my question.

mrsjay Tue 29-Oct-13 23:02:27

I thought it was pretty clear people are playing santa <shrug>

GiddyStars Tue 29-Oct-13 23:04:29

<rings gentle sleigh bells to get attention> grin

Foot prints = cut out a foot print in 2 parts like a boot print template and sprinkle fake snow bits (screwed up paper stuff). I'm not a Christmas fanatic and it takes no time at all but the DC LOVE it. Especially as we don't have a chimney so I say FC was naughty and didn't wipe his feet when he left the north pole. Causes much hilarity I admit they are an easy bunch to amuse

YoureBeingAnAnyFuckerFan Tue 29-Oct-13 23:04:41

It wasnt clear to me why people were playing santa to other adults. The dcs, yes obviously. But i dont get why people do it on fb.

TooTabooToBOOOOO Tue 29-Oct-13 23:05:25

Haven't done footprints before, DD is possibly too old now I think she is humouring me grin

I shall save that one for DS in a few years.

I know a woman who is a bit obsessed with material possessions. She posted her Christmas mountain of presents, a slightly smaller mountain for Christmas Eve, another mountain for her birthday a few days earlier and a Christmas book tree with just piles of books underneath. Every gift bought, wrapped and labelled by her, with an equal number for her daughter and herself. The weirdest and saddest part is that they are bankrupt and she is divorced from her long suffering husband, and living in a crappy trailer with no heating and squalid conditions. The kid has no space to use her hundreds of new toys. Just the strangest situation.

LordPalmerston Wed 30-Oct-13 04:01:36

I just hate Facebook

NynaevesSister Wed 30-Oct-13 07:36:03

I am more appreciative of my FB friends now! I have one friend who does this and I love it. I love Christmas and giving presents and eating heaps. I love seeing the mounds of presents under the Christmas tree and I love seeing all the presents under everyone else's trees on FB too. It makes me feel happy. I have one friend who photos the while thing from presents laid out to them wrapped up an I love it. She has six kids so present wrapping is a mammoth operation!

I don't go with the whole Father Christmas thing. It isn't fair on the people who give the gifts (if Aunty X has gone to the effort then they get the credit ).

eurochick Wed 30-Oct-13 07:58:32

None of my friends do this do I've never seen one of these photos. I agree with whoever said it seems vulgar and boastful.

TooTabooToBOOOOO Wed 30-Oct-13 08:10:03

In my house the gifts from FC are separate to the gifts from relatives. The FC gifts do not go under the tree, the under tree gifts are from relatives.

DD knows that I am responsible for the FC presents, but that FC gets to decide whether to bring them or not based on good behaviour (touch and go so far this year... grin )

Sparklingbrook Wed 30-Oct-13 08:10:20

The teens love to unwrap theirs and display them artfully (splaying the notes of the money out next to the latest I phone etc. With a vomit inducing ' I love Mummy and Daddy sooo much' type quote.

That could be seen as boasty.

NanooCov Wed 30-Oct-13 08:15:42

Ordinarily this wouldn't bother me but my cousin's wife does it or every occasion - birthdays, Christmas, Easter, etc. Even then I wouldn't be particularly bothered but they are always pleading poverty so it annoys me to see them then boasting about what they have bought their kids. You can tell how much they've spent - one year she even included a list of what the presents were in the caption!

Trills Wed 30-Oct-13 08:17:00

YABU to be posting about it in OCTOBER.

TooTabooToBOOOOO Wed 30-Oct-13 09:11:02

October - better than August though surely? wink

moldingsunbeams Wed 30-Oct-13 09:24:14

I don't care if people post those pictures thats their business but they do make me feel a bit shit.

DD will have three presents to open this year.
One from me because she wanted a tablet (got one second hand)
A stocking with tat in
A present from my parents.

We have no other family who exchange presents and her dad doesn't bother.

So it does make me feel a bit crap.

Sparklingbrook Wed 30-Oct-13 09:27:43

I would just be interested to know why they post the pictures. What could the reasons be other than-EVERYONE LOOK AT THIS!!

But that's FB all over isn't it? confused

TooTabooToBOOOOO Wed 30-Oct-13 09:32:11

I can only speak for myself. I do it because it looks lovely, I am caught up in the excitement, for DD to look back on when she's older (as part of the overall story of that Christmas) and also because, as I said upthread, sitting here alone on Xmas eve it is nice to feel you're sharing that specific moment with your friends.

I love seeing pics from others too, I have yet to see anything excessive or boastful though, just a photo shared between friends.

Freddiefrog Wed 30-Oct-13 09:37:31

Nothing on Facebook annoys me to any great extent - that's what the "unfriend" button is for surely.

Burmobasher Wed 30-Oct-13 09:39:12

I have no problem with photos of Christmas trees (with or without gifts underneath) Santa footprints and rosy cheeked children beaming up at their parents.
It's just the ones with stacks of presents all piled up usually accompanied by captions like "looks like my lil' princess is getting spoilt this year lol" They get my back up for some reason.

Come on, unless you restrict FB to very close friends and family, there will be always be something on there to inwardly grumble about that's half the fun

Sparklingbrook Wed 30-Oct-13 09:40:39

Nothing on FB annoys me-I don't have it. But I get annoyed at what the teenagers use it for on behalf of DS1.

misskatamari Wed 30-Oct-13 09:40:59

I must say I hate these. I'm in a Christmas bargain hunters group as thought it might be useful as I'm expecting DC1 but so many people post pics like this and talk about how they've already spent hundreds of pounds and are still going.

I mainly dislike the fact that it's just so materialistic and excessive - especially as most kids will get all that from their parents plus a shed load of other gifts from friends and family.

I'm probably a bit if a Scrooge tho and this time next year will probably have a spare room full of crap I can't wait to give to my 8 month old dd (who won't notice either way) wink

Lilicat1013 Wed 30-Oct-13 10:17:59

I add pictures of Christmas presents. I do one of all the gifts wrapped (all as in every gift I give out not just gifts for my children). Last year I did it to make a joke that my Mum's cat at got the biggest gift. I had wrapped up an empty nappy box for him as he loves a nappy box to play in.

I also do a 'Santa's been' photo of the Christmas stocking hanging up on the bedroom door. You can't actually see the presents, just a wrapped gift poking out the top. I like it because in our old house I could take it at an angle that showed the filled stocking in the front of the picture with my son sleeping in the background which I liked.

They only time I make a point of taking photos of unwrapped presents is when they are something weird. My husband is in to Godzilla and I am an X Files fan so we tend to give each other unusual gifts that can be used to set up funny pictures.

With my son's toys, if they have been given to him by a family member who doesn't live nearby I take pictures of him opening them and playing with them so they can see he is enjoying their gifts. I also send thank you notes but they like to see the pictures.

I love Christmas and do a huge amount of pictures of Christmas and the run up to it. The focus isn't on the 'stuff' though it is on the people. We have pictures of my son sitting on my husband's shoulders at the Christmas light switch on, decorating the tree, my brother wrapped in tinsel with the cat sitting on his shoulder that sort of thing.

I don't do it to show off what we have or things we have brought, I want to show the family who don't live nearby and who we don't get to see as often as we like what we are getting up to.

I love it when other people post Christmas pictures, all that I have seen seem to be in the same tone as mine. Showing what they have been up to and what fun stuff they have been doing. I have never seen any I have thought have been posted just to show off purchases but then I suppose it is how you view them.

I don't have Facebook, the teenagers do and DH does although he rarely uses it.

But...what are you supposed to post on there then?
Because you are not allowed, according to threads on here, to post anything happy. Because that's "boastful" and "rubbing people noses in it"

You can't post anything about your children , again boasting. And showing off.

You can't post anything sad because that's attention seeking and being a drama queen.

Clearly I've missed the whole point of FB. Because I thought it was designed so you could share things with other people. Apparently you are not allowed to share anything because people get annoyed.
God forbid you should be happy.
Sometimes I forget that you aren't allowed to be happy or to be doing well, or to have anything nice, in case it upsets people who do not have any joy in their lives.

We should all walk about being as miserable as possible. Bit keep it to yourself though. Don't share it with anyone

I don't mind them, I like having a nose at what other people have bought/been given and getting ideas for the next years birthdays or christmas.
As long as they are not accompanied by lots of showy offy/stealth boasting comments.

LionelRichieAndTheWardrobe Wed 30-Oct-13 10:47:34

They don't annoy me, I tend to think 'more fool you' for buying shitloads of presents but it's entirely up to them what they spend their money on.

TooTabooToBOOOOO Wed 30-Oct-13 11:29:49

Everything Tantrums said, with sleighbells on grin

NynaevesSister Wed 30-Oct-13 13:29:05

Goodness Moldingsunbeams why on earth would you feel crap? That's a fabulous haul for Christmas. A second hand tablet - genius! I may just nab that one too. Wanted to look at getting one for youngest but couldn't afford it. No idea why I didn't think of that before.

Also, one main, special present and a Santa stocking? That's what most people do you know. Well at his age son get three 'special' presents from us and a Santa sack. When he gets older and the gifts become things like a tablet then he will just get one. The older two get some cash!

TooTabooToBOOOOO Wed 30-Oct-13 13:39:23

My first year in this house, DD was 2, I had no money. My dad had got Argos vouchers as a bonus from work and gave them to me (£25) I saved £30 and bought DD a bike from Argos and a toy giraffe from a local Hospice. The rest of her presents were from charity shops and the Woolworths bargain bin.

She had about 5 presents in total.

I wasn't on FB back then, but I have the "he's been" pic in an album, followed by various pics of her opening and loving every minute.

Never be ashamed of what you've bought, you buy within your limitations and don't get yourself into debt for presents.

My fondest Christmas memory turned out to be the year that mum and dad had no money and all my presents were from a charity shop or bought second hand/were given by friends/family to help out.

I'd no idea.

NynaevesSister Wed 30-Oct-13 13:46:49

I have often bought presents from charity shops etc. second hand is brilliant. They get to an age where they are aware of packaging etc but until then make the most of it!

ipswichwitch Wed 30-Oct-13 13:54:44

See, this is why I dont like facebook anymore - theres already been a disagreement on here and we're not even on bloody facebook! It causes no end of bother even just being mentioned. Every row our bloody family has, you can guarantee there's FB involvement.

I'm quite glad I dont bother anymore - I don't need yet another thing in my life to get all irritable about. I like seeing our presents under our tree. Couldn't care less how many everyone else has/how big the pile is.

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