to think ds does not need to say 'mum' and I say 'yes' each time he says something to me

(47 Posts)
daphnesglasses Sun 27-Oct-13 15:15:41

grin bless him.

if I don't say yes he says mum again till I say yes and then says the thing

mawbroon Sun 27-Oct-13 15:17:32

It's to make sure that they have successfully diverted our attention away from MN wink

iklboo Sun 27-Oct-13 15:18:22

DS does this. He's nearly 8. If he doesn't get a response immediately he repeats 'mum' until I do.

ginmakesitallok Sun 27-Oct-13 15:19:15

Dd(10) is the same, drives me mad

SPsTombRaidingWithCliff Sun 27-Oct-13 15:19:39

Mum, mum, mum, mum, mum, mum,

I get that all day! I can say yes ams he just keeps going. Its like he can't stop

I still do this to my mum blush

She often threatens to change her name grin

BurnThisDiscoDown Sun 27-Oct-13 15:31:31

SP I have the same conversation with my DS!
Him: mummy...
Me: yes?
Him: mummy
Me: yes?
Ad infinitum. grin

OverMyDeadQODdy Sun 27-Oct-13 15:32:07


My dh always says my name is QOD have we got, QOD can you ... Etc, drives me NUTS!

However, dd and I just start talking
Ie have we got ...

Now WE know we are not talking to him but because we didn't specify we weren't but prefixing a mum .... He always fecking answers!!
Drives me NUTS!

He can't win.

ha ha - he really really does need to say that. In the same way I have to ackowledge every single thing that DS (5) says.
And at bedtime mum! mum! mum! muuuuum!
ermmm muum uhhhhmmmmmm
yes? goodnight
mum! mum! muuuuuum!....

RandallFloyd Sun 27-Oct-13 15:38:19

Oh my god, I was about to start an almost identical thread.

My DS is lovely, he is the sweetest funniest 2yo there has ever been. But I am seriously about to lose my shit.

He repeats every single sodding sentence until I say it back to him. Then says it once more just to confirm.

'I'll call the NumberJacks'
'I'll call the NumberJacks'
'I'll call the NumberJacks'
'I'll call the NumberJacks'
'I'll call the NumberJacks'
'I'll call the NumberJacks'
'I'll call the NumberJacks'

'Yes, fine, call the Numberjacks!'

'I'll call the NumberJacks'

daphnesglasses Sun 27-Oct-13 16:35:04

smile thanks everyone - always good to see the funny side and I loved the family guy cartoon mrsterrypratchett grin

yourlittlesecret Sun 27-Oct-13 16:53:42

I'm here
Can I / will you /when is?

Ha, DS2 still does it at 15 grin.

NoelOfLorst Sun 27-Oct-13 17:00:51

My six year old...

HIM: Mummy...
ME: Yes?
HIM: Mummy...
ME: Yes love?
HIM: umm mummy....
ME: You haven't thought of what to say yet have you?


Shallishanti Sun 27-Oct-13 17:04:00

If it's just 'Mum' it's not so's 'Muuu...uuum' that did my head in.

Bambamb Sun 27-Oct-13 17:06:43

I was having this exact rant to DH this morning. Drives me crazy!
DS is 4, I was hoping he'd grow out of it soon. .....

you know what
no but I'm sure your going to tell me
I forgot

uselessinformation Sun 27-Oct-13 18:20:04

ds aged 15 still does that!

kawliga Sun 27-Oct-13 18:31:45

Oh my, I don't find this funny at all, it drives me crazy. DD is six and by now she knows it is not acceptable to do this. She says 'mum, can I have a sweet?' not 'mum, mum, mum, mum' waiting for me to answer before she asks her question. Sometimes she forgets and goes 'mum, mum, mum, mum' (silence from me) and then remembers so she just follows up with the question 'can I have a sweet?'. Then I answer. She knows if she just calls me endlessly she will get no answer from me, she might as well go ahead and say what she wants.

This might sound harsh but I just had to train her that way or go out of my mind. But I also had to teach her that this rule only applies if we're physically together in the same room or she knows I'm nearby and knows I can hear her. Obviously it wouldn't work if I were out of ear shot as she would ask the question and then there would be no answer so in that situation she has to call 'mum, mum, mum!' to try and figure out where I am. I will say 'I'm in the kitchen!' and then she can find me and ask her question.

I pay her the same respect and don't go 'DD! DD! DD!' if I want to speak to her. I just say 'DD can you come pick this up' and if she doesn't respond then either I approach her to get her attention or if it's not important I wait until I have her attention. Glad for those able to see the funny side of being endlessly called but it just really annoys me.

BrainSurgeon Sun 27-Oct-13 18:38:33

Joining the club. DS is 5 and not only he does that all the time, but he also shouts from downstairs when I'm upstairs and viceversa confused

Sometimes when I start to lose my temper he'll just call me and say "I love you", the little shit monkey

grin @ ditta

BrainSurgeon Sun 27-Oct-13 18:40:40

Interesting that the majority so far (on the thread I mean) are boys. I think it's a "mummy's boy" thing smile

indecisiveandclueless Sun 27-Oct-13 18:42:27

Haha, I'd forgotten this!
Mine just don't bother talking to me any more (teens), just the occasional grunt!

ProfYaffle Sun 27-Oct-13 18:45:08

Oh Lordy, am I not the only one then?! Both my dd's do this, at least dd1 (9) does it when she wants to ask something specific. dd2 (6) is of the "Mum?", "yes?", "........", "what dd2?", "can ... um ... is ....", "WHAT?!", "I love you" persuasion.

happinessisfree Sun 27-Oct-13 18:46:42

My 8 year old daughter still does this and if I dont answer quick enough she says my name instead

Iwaswatchingthat Sun 27-Oct-13 18:49:26

I get "Mummy can I tell you something?"

I have to confirm "yes" or the question just gets repeated over and over and over again.

I don't understand why she does not just start speaking.

SausageDogGeorge Sun 27-Oct-13 18:51:44

My DD does this even when I'm sat right next to her...drives me crazy!! She's 8 and I'm now trying to 'train' her not to do it - I've told her she doesn't have to say 'mum' and wait for me to say 'yes' before every. single. sentence!!....but she still does. DS age 11 doesn't do it anymore (thank goodness!)

carlajean Sun 27-Oct-13 19:08:28

Martin Amis, at the beginning of The Information, wrote
This was my older son, Louis, then aged eleven.
My dad would have said '....yes?' With a dip in it, to signal mild but invariable irritation. I once asked him why he did this and he said 'well, I'm already here, aren't I?'.For him, the Dad-yes?interlude was a clear redundancy, because we were in the same room together and established as having some kind of conversation, however desultory (and unenlivening from his point of view). I saw what he meant, but 5 minutes later I would find myself saying 'dad'. And then I would brace myself for an especially vehement affirmative. I was a teenager before I broke the habit. Children need a beat of time , to secure attention while the thought is framed.

I think that he hit the nail on the head there.

2kidsintow Sun 27-Oct-13 19:17:25

OMG - my 9 year old does this and it drives me (and my DH) bonkers.
For me it's the long pause that follows the "Mum.........." and the pause after I've said yes before she then says what was on her mind that drives her mad.

SharpLily Sun 27-Oct-13 19:18:05

Not only that, carlajean, but I've seen children get told off for interrupting if they just start to speak without being given some kind of permission. That 'mum' isn't just what the very annoying Martin Amis has explained so well, it's them trying to follow instructions. My niece has always done it and it's annoying, but I find myself wondering what she's supposed to do when she's trying to get her mother's attention but basically being ignored? She says 'mum' - no answer, so she repeats, no answer and so on. If she just goes ahead and speaks, she gets told off for speaking without being spoken to. If she, in effect, asks for permission to speak, she gets ignored.

weneedtotalkaboutkettles Sun 27-Oct-13 19:20:35

Hehe, I used to do this.

Both my dad and brother use my first name a LOT, though, and it can be annoying!

mewmeow Sun 27-Oct-13 19:41:12

Yanbu sad
'i want mummy to do that' 'i want mummy to do this' 'im waiting for mummy' 'muuum?! watch Thomas with me' 'muuum?! i've done a wee on the floor' 'muuum?! im angry/my tummy hurts/ im hungy/im tired/i need this/ i want this/ give me this'
The torture never stops..

gobbledegook1 Sun 27-Oct-13 20:12:32

My DS (4) does this too, it can be a bit irritating at times.

CeliaFate Sun 27-Oct-13 20:19:56

YANBU, my dc do this mid-conversation too.

hugoagogo Sun 27-Oct-13 20:28:21

Hooray You have made3 me realise dd (11) has stopped doing this thlgrin.

But, she is my 'little one'-no one will ever do it again. thlsad thlhmm

Gullygirl Sun 27-Oct-13 20:45:50

DS1 ..."and Mum..."
DS2.."Dad...I mean Mum.."
Both of them,"M u u u um."

daphnesglasses Sun 27-Oct-13 20:47:01

aww hugoagogo food for thought yes better enjoy it while it lasts - always helps to share on MN and know there are others smile bless them all (seems sweet now they're in bed grin)

ScabbyOozingCarbuncle Sun 27-Oct-13 20:48:02

I hate to say this, but my 17yo DS still does this! hmm confused grin
An average Scabby:Ds phone call begins...
S: Hello?
DS: Hello?
DS: Hello!.....
DS: Muum...
S: Son?

Every flipping phone call!

daphnesglasses Sun 27-Oct-13 20:48:50

gullygirl yes I occasionally get 'dad.. I mean mum' grin
does seem to be more ds that dd doing it by very unreliable straw poll of this thread

daphnesglasses Sun 27-Oct-13 20:49:28

grin grin scabby

Guiltypleasures001 Sun 27-Oct-13 20:52:17

My son is 15 and still does it, I lost a daughter 18yrs ago and never thought at the time I would here that word. Even now literally every time i hear it from him the novelty value never diminishes.

daphnesglasses Sun 27-Oct-13 20:57:55

smile that's nice guiltypleasures I'm so sorry about your daughter. Thankyou it's a reminder just to enjoy these phases and be grateful

hugoagogo Sun 27-Oct-13 21:03:39

Motherhood is like that isn't it?

ds (15) was a late talker and I longed for him to call me 'mummy' of course when he finally did; the novelty quickly wore off and I just wished to listen to my own thoughts for a bit. thlconfused

ironmansmum Sun 27-Oct-13 21:32:28

My son's fav is to make me feel guilty! (He's 4 and a bit so pretty sure it's not intentional). He'll shout to me when I'm getting his tea ready etc "muuuuummy?" and I snap back "yes??" (bearing in mind this has happened every minute for the last hour even though I have been sitting next to him lol) and then he replies "you are the best mum! love you!".
How rubbish do I feel? Totally agree, it's the boys and they are little monkeys!!

ZingWantsCake Sun 27-Oct-13 21:46:42

I want to cuddle you
but you are already cuddling me
but mum I want cuddle you!
confused ok grin

mynameisnotmichaelcaine Mon 28-Oct-13 07:18:06

My ds prefixes most utterances with "Hang on, Mummy" or "But, Mummy?" Deeply irritating. I have taken to ignoring him until he just says what he wants to say.

yourlittlesecret Mon 28-Oct-13 09:25:01

I do think when they are very little it's just a way of making contact. The poster who said "you haven't thought what to say" yet was spot on. In fact when I think back DS rarely had anything to say, it was like a verbal hand hold.
Two teenagers now and they yell "mum" from their room. I usually answer very quietly " I am downstairs, come here if you wish to speak to me"

Hulababy Mon 28-Oct-13 09:29:42

I have this not jut at home with DD, but also all day when I'm at work with Mrs .... Over and over too!

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