to think the women in "Don't Tell The Bride" should go through the day their OH has organised? [contains spoilers]

(232 Posts)
MardyBra Wed 23-Oct-13 17:36:25

Like the woman on the last one.

She didn't like the dress her bloke chose, so she had a tantrum to get another one.
And then she didn't jump out of the plane he so thoughtfully organised her.

I mean, if you're going to prostitute your big day and accept thousands of pounds of our licence fees to get a free day, you should go through with the premise of the show.

Otherwise the brides should pay the money back.

MardyBra Wed 23-Oct-13 17:37:42

And after all, they've got to expect their OH to do something daft. The producers always pick some bloke with a truly crass idea.

MardyBra Wed 23-Oct-13 17:38:08

I'm the only one who watches this trash aren't I?

MardyBra Wed 23-Oct-13 17:38:30

I am strangely hooked. Teenage DD is slightly aghast.

DownstairsMixUp Wed 23-Oct-13 17:39:04

It does seem a bit daft they are giving the 12k for the groom choosing everything then if they stamp their feet - they get their way anyway! there's been quite a few episodes where the bride's have had tantrums and got their way. I never warm to them as much. As much as I know what sort of dress I want, i would wear it for my DP anyway seeing as it was all paid for and he tried his best!

What i don't get is why are they so bloody stupid some of these grooms?! My dp knows the style dress i want, the sort of venue etc etc, either they are doing it for good tv or just don't give a shit!

Writerwannabe83 Wed 23-Oct-13 17:39:07

I love Don't Tell the Bride!!!

I did think she was being a bit 'precious' last night.....

MrBolton Wed 23-Oct-13 17:41:04

I think she was pretty shitty last night, I know he was a dick for organising it but as you have all said, that's the deal.

She also showed what she was like in the dress shop(her dress shop) when she didn't like a single style and called them fussy. Oh the irony

Even if they offered me 12k in cash I would not jump out of a sodding plane!

MardyBra Wed 23-Oct-13 17:43:32

Yes, but I wouldn't marry anyone who thought it would be a good idea to organise a parachute wedding.

They don't take licence fee money, as it is sponsored by a mix if other Channels , C/E4 etc.

The jumping out of an aeroplane, I understand, refusing but some of them have been over reacting to the dress.

The Bridesmaids haven't, though, I don't blame some of them for putting their foot down.

I watch it regularly and know one couple who went onto it.

I live the ones were the groom gets it right, even if it isn't what the Bride would of chosen ( and stupidly have cried at some).

Writerwannabe83 Wed 23-Oct-13 17:44:07

One thing that does annoy me though is that you see the Groom sending his bride out on a really, really shitty Hen Night (or to do an event the woman will obviously hate, like in last night's episode) but then he will spend £100's on his Stag Do which is always brilliant! That makes me a bit hmm when I watch it...

FlapJackOLantern Wed 23-Oct-13 17:44:26

I did see an "One year on from Don't Tell the Bride" and.........some of them were appalled at how they carried on and felt quite ashamed !

MardyBra Wed 23-Oct-13 17:44:29

Isn't it BBC though birds. Anyway, it's the principle.

RedPencils Wed 23-Oct-13 17:44:50

I've never seen one where they haven't gone through with it. Bugger.

My favourite one was when the groom went to Vegas for his stag do. Sent the hens to the bingo. Bought bridesmaids dresses in some kind of 2 for 1 bargain in Primark. And bought the most god awful bridal shoes way too big so she ended up wearing her mums flip flops.

DownstairsMixUp Wed 23-Oct-13 17:44:59

I think if the bride refuses to wear the dress - then she should have to pay for a new one out of her own cash - same rules for the bridesmaids. But then I am really harsh.

MrBolton Wed 23-Oct-13 17:45:09

My favourite ever was the guy who did the Glastonbury wedding. He sang wonderwall and made a video with her ds. Dress was gorgeous too.

'twas years ago, I'm sad

MillyMollyMandy78 Wed 23-Oct-13 17:45:34

Both my husband and i are completely addicted! So is my brother and his gf. What i don't understand is if these women know they are complete control freaks, and they never trust their partners to organise anything, wtf are they doing going on the show? Surely they know that things won't be to their taste and will only stress them out?

MardyBra Wed 23-Oct-13 17:45:56

I feel most sorry for the ones whose DH organises a wedding abroad and then can't afford to fly friends and family over.

UnexpectedFrightInShaggingArea Wed 23-Oct-13 17:46:23

Why don't these brides just leave a ma-hoosive list of dos and don'ts before leaving?

I assume that they enter because they want a free wedding and take the risk of it being crap.

MyfavcolourisOrange Wed 23-Oct-13 17:46:34

I've been one of the brides on DTTB shock

To my knowledge we were contracted to follow through with whatever our grooms planned (which presumably is why no groom has been left at the alter!) It can be quite costly to the couple if the rules aren't adhered to on the day of the wedding.

So I'm not sure how she got away with it last night.....

ColderThanAWitchsTitty Wed 23-Oct-13 17:46:48

yanbu, but I am not jumping out of a plan for anybody.

MardyBra Wed 23-Oct-13 17:47:06

Red She still got married. She just refused to do it in a plane and wouldn't do the parachute jump he'd organised.

MardyBra Wed 23-Oct-13 17:47:49

Yeah Orange! which one were you.

Give us all the inside gen!

UnexpectedFrightInShaggingArea Wed 23-Oct-13 17:47:59

Is there a 'are they still together' website somewhere? Some I had massive doubts about.

BruceWillisLovesMe Wed 23-Oct-13 17:48:44

It'll all be chivvied along in the most dramatic ways by the producers though. I mean, if you were applying to go on it, wouldn't you prep your future husband about everything you liked?

I'd love to know how much of it is actually staged or influenced. "Hey stag, it would make great telly if you spend hundreds on your night and a tenner on your future wife's night!"

MrBolton Wed 23-Oct-13 17:48:50

It also massively pisses me off when the bride and groom cry cos they have to spend three weeks apart.

UnexpectedFrightInShaggingArea Wed 23-Oct-13 17:49:05

Orange! Spill!

I'd quite like to see an older couple/second marriage on, they are all so young!

GoldenGytha Wed 23-Oct-13 17:51:31

I love this programme too,

I thought the dress the groom picked was lovely, and the one the bride tantrummed to get hideous.

I was shocked at her kicking off the hoop, moaning "Get it off me, Get it off me" was childish and spoilt in the extreme.

Though I don't blame her for not jumping out of the plane, I would not have done that either!

DownstairsMixUp Wed 23-Oct-13 17:51:36

Which one were you orange?! I randomly had one of the guys from DTTB like one of my instagram photos (from ex modelling days) he was the rocker tattooist guy whose wife fell out with her mum and said she didn't want her at the wedding. i'm so sad

I think I would cry to though if i left dp blush

imnotwhoyouthinkiam Wed 23-Oct-13 17:52:08

I havent watched dttb for a long time, so was last night's a repeat? Because I'm sure I saw it! No way would I jump.out of a plane on my wedding day, but then I hope that if I were getting married my husband to be would know that!

RedPencils Wed 23-Oct-13 17:52:23

I wouldn't jump out of a plane either, so fair enough on that one.

MrBolton Wed 23-Oct-13 17:53:22

It's a brand new series imnotwho

imnotwhoyouthinkiam Wed 23-Oct-13 17:54:21

Really? I definitely seen that one!

ClangerOnaComeDown Wed 23-Oct-13 17:54:23

Oh orange spill the beans!!

ExcuseTypos Wed 23-Oct-13 17:59:49

Imnot- it's not the first time someone has been made to do a jump from a plane. I remember there was a Scottish woman, who did actually jump.

I started watching last night, then switched it over when he mentioned a plane. I just thought 'what a twat' and couldn't be bothered watching anymore.

NaturalBloodsuckerYeahRight Wed 23-Oct-13 18:00:56

I can't watch it anymore, I just spend the whole time repeating 'surely you would discuss roughly what you want, surely!'
Do they pick the young ones because they have weirder ideas? do the blokes have to come up with bonkers ideas in the interviews, is that how they get on?

Stealmysunshine Wed 23-Oct-13 18:01:30

I'll also jumping on the orange tell us!! Bandwagon!

I love to watch it but I also agree that if you go on the show you have to do it all.

Or simply tell him what you want??

I was looking for a thread on this last night, I was shouting at the TV (its my secret pleasure and the one night a week I am on my own so it was ok to argue with the telly) for him to not go through with the wedding, oki I can understand not wanting to jump out of a plane, but god, she was like a little spoit brat. She had no faith in him at all did she.

I thought the derelict church last week was lovely, all of her family was moaning at the start, I thought it was bootiful, its near me, wish I had got married in there with all the candles.

Mrspebble Wed 23-Oct-13 18:03:34

I love this programme. I didn't think much of the girl on it last night and the bridesmaid was fairly bitchy when she said're ginger and receeding ... To the groom! Was uncalled for

Even at the end, the girl said she is always like that.

MyfavcolourisOrange Wed 23-Oct-13 18:03:57

Well I have to be careful not to out myself AND we have a confidentiality clause written into the contract hmm

I was really lucky and had a lovely day....I wasn't weird at all - I had a lucky escape! I did have a scenario similar to what Bruce has said though!

However, the producers were adamant to make me look like a diva and would go to any lengths to do so, they also have huge influence in what the grooms do. You have to stick with what you've said you'll organise through the application process. You can't get on the program (they have 1000's of applications each series believe it or not) and then change your mind so not to upset the bride. It's what's best for good tv obviously. Basically once the contract is signed you and your day is the property of DTTB.

Which I guess is what we sign up for when you want a free wedding......

jellyandcake Wed 23-Oct-13 18:04:30

My wedding venue was on DTTB! Was so excited. It wasn't a very dramatic episode though. I don't think they should be allowed to refuse the dress as it defeats the whole point! I would forfeit the money in order to not jump out of the plane though!

MyfavcolourisOrange Wed 23-Oct-13 18:05:06

No that's not my husband Downstairs - thankfully!!!!! grin

MardyBra Wed 23-Oct-13 18:06:16

Yes Orange I'm sure there is a lot of editing to make the bride look diva-esque and the groom look like a nobber. But some couples look like they don't need much editing.

DownstairsMixUp Wed 23-Oct-13 18:06:17

I still have no idea what bride you might of been!

MardyBra Wed 23-Oct-13 18:07:02

Are you still together Orange?

BatPenguin Wed 23-Oct-13 18:10:24

There was a programme one year on from a previous series - including the couple who had the Jordan carriage and helicopter. Think her name was Laila and he was a postman. They separated after the wedding quite quickly, as had several other couples.
It really annoys me when the groom spends thousands on his stag going abroad etc and then sends the hens to bingo.

DoJo Wed 23-Oct-13 18:12:03

MrBolton "It also massively pisses me off when the bride and groom cry cos they have to spend three weeks apart."

Why? I have never spent more than two days apart from my husband (and we once lived in hotel rooms, so never more than about 3 meters from one another, for 5 months and it was great!) and that is one of the main reasons I wouldn't want to be on DTTB.

MardyBra Wed 23-Oct-13 18:12:22

My favourite bit is always when the bride gets to see the dress for the first time.

RedPencils Wed 23-Oct-13 18:15:14

orange do they really do all the planning in such a short time? I always wonder how they manage to find a venue in 2 weeks.

Blissx Wed 23-Oct-13 18:16:04

I find some of the mothers just as bad the brides! I think you come across as really sensible and realistic Orange and glad you had a lovely day. I watched them all before my own wedding and still have the one recorded that was filmed at my venue. Keep up the good work crazy brides and grooms out there!

Blissx Wed 23-Oct-13 18:17:24

RedPencils, is it because they often have mid week weddings, maybe?

RedPencils Wed 23-Oct-13 18:19:34

Me too Mardy. They always hate it till their mum starts crying and then they love it

MissStrawberry Wed 23-Oct-13 18:21:00

I watched the jump refuser and she really annoyed me. I wanted to see her reaction to the tattoo when she saw it and was very hmm at her bridesmaid telling her about it before hand. I am sure they are not meant too.

I am surprised people do this show. Is it really more important to have a free wedding than to have a smaller one you pay for yourself and that is what you want.

MyfavcolourisOrange Wed 23-Oct-13 18:21:14

Yes we're still together smile

I was much more diva-like during the application process but when push came to shove I knew I didn't want to be portrayed like that (the producers aren't that subtle which what they're trying to get you to do) because I live in a small town and I have a career to think of so having a reputation as a cow-bag didn't really appeal to me. I always needed to be on my guard so that nothing I said could be edited to make me look bad. Some things slipped through the net thoughhmm

I'm shocked at how some of the brides behave.... I would have married my husband ANYWHERE after three weeks of not seeing him and when it came to my dress, I guess it wasn't really what I would have chosen but when the shop owner told me he'd taken 6 hours to choose it I couldn't not wear it.

Like I said I was one of the lucky ones, he tried really hard to make me happy and to be romantic and I wasn't humiliated....too much!

MardyBra Wed 23-Oct-13 18:22:06

I've got so many questions Orange, although I'm sure you can't answer any of them.

Did you regret going on the show at all?
Did you like your dress?
What did your friends and family think?

I hope you had a great day, whatever.

MardyBra Wed 23-Oct-13 18:23:06

Ooops, x post. Thanks for that.

MardyBra Wed 23-Oct-13 18:24:45

The ones I've felt most sorry for this series are the one at the footie match, the zombie wedding and the concrete body building venue in LA.

LoreleisSecret Wed 23-Oct-13 18:25:32

It's all set up, a friend of mine was on it last year!

DownstairsMixUp Wed 23-Oct-13 18:25:40

I'm actually dying to know who orange is now.

MardyBra Wed 23-Oct-13 18:26:19

We need more Lorelei wink

The concrete body building one Mardy was hilarious, what was he thinking, I would have stomped off.

And she was over two hours late last night, and refused to walk up his little red carpet angry She was disappointed in him grin

LoreleisSecret Wed 23-Oct-13 18:29:56

I wrote that before I see Orange's comment! She's actually been on the show, definitely trumps me smile

MrBolton Wed 23-Oct-13 18:30:20

Dojo- I appreciate that. I really do. But it's the same principle as signing over your whole day. You know it's gonna happen, and some go way ott. Why sign up if you don't want to be apart?

Annagramma Wed 23-Oct-13 18:30:34

I was on DTTB.

As we were a couple, DH had a pretty good idea of what I would like, and it was a perfect day, the kids loved it and played a central role, my dress was traditional, hen do wasn't boring or horrible (so no spa days or disgusting stuff).

Loosingthebigkickers Wed 23-Oct-13 18:30:40

Has anyone else noticed how many of the people in receipt of this 12k have obviously got money?

For ex. the couple whose groom lost his body building uncle a few years before so flew them to some famous body building beach in the us? ......I mean come.the.fuck.on ..did you see his parents house? two flash bmws on the drive..own business. . detached new build.

How about giving people who really have no access to extra funds get married? oh..and they really must start putting a limit on how long you've been together to qualify. one couple had been together less than a year!

Bogeyface Wed 23-Oct-13 18:31:24

Red I would imagine they line up potential venues, including negotiating the price in exchange for free adverstising. So, as happened in the episode from my town, one of the most in demand and expensive venues just happened to be available a week before the wedding and just happened to offer the type of all in deal you would never get as a member of joe public. I know because we looked at it for our wedding and just to get the marquee, liner, floor, tables, chairs, decorations etc before any catering would cost more than what they charged the DTTB groom in total. hmm

DownstairsMixUp Wed 23-Oct-13 18:32:52

Ok now want to know who anna and orangea are!

MardyBra Wed 23-Oct-13 18:33:31

Ooh. Hello Anna. Another one! Glad to hear you had a lovely day.

Was yours one of the early ones. They seem to have got more outlandish.

MyfavcolourisOrange Wed 23-Oct-13 18:33:44

I wouldn't say it was a set-up fact it's more true to life than what people believe because the couples are contracted to follow through with what they've said during the application process - usually quite outrageous things to get on the program!!

Mardy - lucky I wasn't on any if those three episodes, I felt sorry for them too!

MardyBra Wed 23-Oct-13 18:34:38

It's telly rather than charity though Loosing. The producers will go for whoever will provide the best entertainment surely even if other people are more deserving.

MardyBra Wed 23-Oct-13 18:35:34

I love the way all the brides are coming out of the woodwork. Are there any more on MN?

saintmerryweather Wed 23-Oct-13 18:41:21

my favourite one ever was the couple who got married on hms belfast. unusual venue, beautiful dress, unique invitations, krispy kreme cake, and the groom really tried to make his bride happy, and the bride was happy and grateful at the end of it all

MardyBra Wed 23-Oct-13 18:53:30

Maybe if we mention enough episodes either Anna or Orange will jump up and down and say "Yes, that one was mine!"

DownstairsMixUp Wed 23-Oct-13 18:54:57

I wonder if they are allowed if we just guess?! I want to put a face to their names now grin

BeScarefulWhatYouWitchFor Wed 23-Oct-13 18:57:53

I see this occasionally, not as much now I'm working. I didn't like the body building one and I have to admit I wouldn't jump out of a plane.

I wouldn't go abroad to get married either. My dc don't have passports and there's no way they could arrange passports in the short time between the groom telling people the wedding was abroad and the day of the wedding. There's no way I would get married without my dc there, I'd rather go into debt for the £12,000.

Loosingthebigkickers Wed 23-Oct-13 19:06:37

Mardy..its true! riles me a bit though. .I dont remember it being like that in the earlier series. I also LOVED hms Belfast too.

a few series back there was a v young bride who got married at leigh court in bristol. She was flipping unbelievable .jeez, I hope she looked back a regretted how she played to the cameras. She was so vile when Irrealised they'd used 'our song' for their first dance it ruined it for me!

I really liked lauren (?) and Perry from this season. Her entrance in thar awesome side car was great. ..I just found out our photographer shot her wedding too..!

enormouse Wed 23-Oct-13 19:06:53

I quite like the one with the irish guy and the Welsh girl who had the wedding on the beach a few weeks ago. I thought it was such a sweet idea and he was so gutted when it didn't quite come off.

Pulled at my hormonal pregnant heartstrings somewhat. blush

WaitMonkey Wed 23-Oct-13 19:15:26

I love this thread. grin

Loosingthebigkickers Wed 23-Oct-13 19:15:59

ooh yes..I felt awful for the irish bloke. .he tried soo hard and put soo much thought into it! Sad they all got soaked

I felt so sorry for the Irish chap, that would have been such a beautiful wedding, but she was pretty lovely and happy about it all, even though she wanted to get married in the Wales.

Theimpossiblegirl Wed 23-Oct-13 19:33:25

The wedding in Ireland was lovely though, even though it all went wrong for him they had a good wedding and she was really nice about it.

LoreleisSecret Wed 23-Oct-13 19:42:11

Obviously you know better than be Oranges but, with my friends weddings the team were very very insistent on exactly what they want.
They made the brides mother (who is absolutely lovely) out to be a real monster in law, they didn't allow the groom to actually pick the dress (they showed him 3 hideous ones and said pick out of these) and they was determined to have it in a certain location even though the groom wanted it elsewhere!

I was very shocked with how they made the bride do morethan one take on walking down the aisle (making it considerable less special), the best man was told what to say in his speech and they let all the guests wait until 7pm to eat because the team were too busy filming.

It used to be my favourite show ��

Grennie Wed 23-Oct-13 19:46:36

That is so disappointing to hear Secret.

I love this programme. And I thought the derelict church looked beautiful.

salsmum Wed 23-Oct-13 20:09:02

My DD loves this programme and I thought the Bridezilla last night was awful...but I also think it's wrong when they get extra funds from DPs too I thought the idea was to stick to your budget hmm x

Stealmysunshine Wed 23-Oct-13 20:15:03

Stalking this thread cause I love it lol!

I would love to go on the show, we would never be able to afford a wedding as we have both have bad credit and no savings so only a lottery win would make us seriously think about getting married.

Orange how did you decide on going on the show? Had your dh already propose or did he propose after discussing going.

Nosy me! smile

Stealmysunshine Wed 23-Oct-13 20:16:05

'Scuds my grammar!

Stealmysunshine Wed 23-Oct-13 20:17:03

Ha ha! I hate predictive text.

I can usually write, I promise.

ALittleBitOfHalloweenMagic Wed 23-Oct-13 20:37:11

Love this thread I was obsessed with DTTB while planning my own wedding ! Still try and catch it the odd time now .

Oh Lorelei is that really truesad that makes me really sad she had to retake walking down the aisle sad

Grennie Wed 23-Oct-13 20:38:04

Just watching it, but I don't think there is anything wrong with them getting extra money from relatives.

Grennie Wed 23-Oct-13 20:40:51

I actually think it is fair enough for a bride to refuse to wear the dress chosen. If you don't feel happy with what you are wearing on your wedding day, it is going to affect the whole day.

BeScarefulWhatYouWitchFor Wed 23-Oct-13 20:51:54

Just watching the plane jumping episode now and although I haven't changed my mind about jumping out of a plane the bride is really coming across as a spoiled brat. Mind you so was her sister over the bridesmaid dress.

Pinupgirl Wed 23-Oct-13 20:52:20

If you don't feel happy having some tv producer decide what dress you are going to wear on your big day then perhaps don't sell your soul to be on tv?

I used to enjoy this show but it is so clearly all staged now. There was one with a very young bride who insisted she didn't want a "princess" wedding-aye right! You could tell from looking at her-fake nails,hair,eyelashes-that,that was exactly what she was after and lo and behold-a pink carriage appearshmm

Grennie Wed 23-Oct-13 20:53:37

PinUp - I don't care about that kind of staging to be honest. I just like seeing the grooms saying it will be easy, and then getting very stressed.

NuggetofPurestGreen Wed 23-Oct-13 20:55:44

I rarely watch this as I get too annoyed and just assumed it was all staged but I saw it last night and actually couldn't believe when your one said she was reconsidering marrying him cos she hated the dress!

MyfavcolourisOrange Wed 23-Oct-13 21:17:55

Lorel you may well be right....even though it's the same program, by the same production company the producers are all different (they have to be because some shows are filmed simultaneously and they are with us for the whole three weeks, sometimes 12 hours a day, every day!) So I suppose that's why some couples have better experiences than others because really it's down to the producers how it's run. It sounds like your friend had a bit of a tyrant of a producer!!!! confused

Sunshine we got engaged and then applied, it was my idea and my husband was confident he could do it (his confidence dwindled though and he was one of the crying grooms when I left!smile)
I trusted that he wouldn't do anything that outrageous....I suppose we were one of the couples that could have been seen as "not needing the money" if you took the show at face value, however, we don't have savings and no family to help fund the wedding so the money was a big part of why we applied. I just wanted us to be married without having to go into debt and it seemed like a fun way to do it.

It happened quickly though, engagement > application > marriage was less than 12 weeks in total!

Grennie Wed 23-Oct-13 21:21:10

Did you enjoy your wedding orange?

MyfavcolourisOrange Wed 23-Oct-13 21:26:00

Lorel I've read again and that's awful for your friend having to walk down the aisle more than once.... Our actual day was left to run through from the moment I got into the wedding car - obviously we had to do interviews throughout but there were no re-runs and the day went ALMOST as my husband planned!

MyfavcolourisOrange Wed 23-Oct-13 21:41:18

Yes Grennie I loved my wedding....I didn't enjoy the three weeks running up to the wedding because it was tiring and stressful but the day was wonderful - he did really, really well.

I'm not sure it came across how happy and grateful I was though, I'm afraid I looked like a bit of a madam though which is my main regret hmm

DownstairsFucker Wed 23-Oct-13 21:43:37

Sounds lovely orange... now tell us who you are!!! grin

Grennie Wed 23-Oct-13 21:44:35

I am sure they film and edit it to make the participants look less than ideal Any intelligent viewers will know that. But I am glad you had a great day.

ALittleBitOfHalloweenMagic Wed 23-Oct-13 21:49:14

Ok orange you need to give us a bit more details ?

Theme ?
Do you have kids ?

I need to work out who you are I can't not know !! gringringrin

Loosingthebigkickers Wed 23-Oct-13 21:54:07

I considered applying but was too scared of it being edited and me looking like a horrible cow! ..Plus stbdh was terrified at the thought!

EBearhug Wed 23-Oct-13 23:37:23

As we were a couple, DH had a pretty good idea of what I would like

This is one of the things that puzzles me about DTTB (though obviously makes it more entertaining TV.) If you know each other well enough that you agree to marry and spend the rest of your life together (because surely that's what everyone thinks, even if they end up not making it to their first anniversary) - shouldn't you have a fairly good idea of what sort of wedding and dress and so on might be appreciated by the woman you're going to marry? I mean, if anyone were ever going to marry me, I think they'd have a pretty clear idea of my view of what sort of wedding may or may not be appreciated long before it got to that point, whether it was important to have my family and friends there, in a church or definitely not at all religious, all that sort of thing.

Mind you, I can't imagine wanting to marry someone as clueless as some of the grooms they have on DTTB in the first place, but it's hard to know just how much editing there is and if they're really that useless - probably not in most cases.

It's probably no surprise that no one's ever wanted to marry me!

Grennie Wed 23-Oct-13 23:39:59

DP would have a good idea of the kind of wedding I would like, but wants something totally different to me. So the question would be whose desires win out. And DP wouldn't have a clue about choosing a wedding dress.

Preciousbane Wed 23-Oct-13 23:55:53

I loved but cringed at the Nose wedding cake with the reception at the Miners wedding. Groom was such a wind up merchant.

The sweetest groom was the guy that gave his GF the Pride and Prejudice wedding.

Grennie Wed 23-Oct-13 23:56:43

I loved the farmer one where he made the barn look amazing.

Lilypad7 Wed 23-Oct-13 23:56:57

Love this thread! The older series were better where the men actually tried to make their weddings good and what the bride would want, now it's what the groom wants and the wackier the better, for example, the alien themed one! That was awful, the poor bride sad

cerealqueen Wed 23-Oct-13 23:57:54

The last episode must be an exception as its all a bit OTT now, with the bride and groom totally opposed on how the day should be, so we get worked up thinking the bride will get very angry but she always says 'he did better then I thought he would, he knows me better than I know myself ectzzzzzz.'

The concrete body builder was a classic case. Doing it all in memory of his dead uncle, FFS.What about his future wife?!!!

cerealqueen Wed 23-Oct-13 23:59:14

Still, the irish version is dull, dull, dull. I love the narrator on the english one, she has a sense of humour.

thenightsky Thu 24-Oct-13 00:00:18

I never understand why the feck they take the bride to try on all the lovely dresses she CAN'T have and she gets all excited. hmm Anything the poor bloke chooses after that is sure to be a let down.

Grennie Thu 24-Oct-13 00:01:23

nightsky - They do it to up the ante.

DownstairsMixUp Thu 24-Oct-13 10:57:20

The builder guy was one of the worst. I imagine him as one of the people that goes gym them updates his status to say he "smashed it"

Writerwannabe83 Thu 24-Oct-13 11:08:25

I also couldn't believe the selfishness of the guy who booked his wedding at the wrestling place in LA to honour his uncle - I watched the whole show in total disbelief! If I was the fiancé I don't think I could ever forgive it hmm

NotYoMomma Thu 24-Oct-13 11:10:43

she hacked me right off always saying 'its such a shame'

aye its such a fucking shame to be given 12 and you be a fucking nobba

DownstairsMixUp Thu 24-Oct-13 11:13:07

Yep thats the one i was going on about writer no idea why i said builder! Selfish twunt.

Harrin Thu 24-Oct-13 11:31:37

I remember reading an article where the couple claimed the producers made the delivery of the bridesmaids dresses late on the day as there wasn't enough drama and it was running too smoothly

squoosh Thu 24-Oct-13 11:49:21

The worst one was the Glaswegian couple from last year who got married at a festival, she threw a hissy fit of EPIC proportions. Even her Dad was cringing.

The most uncomfortable episode to watch was the Vegas wedding, what an idiot he was!

Oh and the recent muscle beach wedding was atrocious, so tacky, so grim.

I'd be interested to see which couples are still together.

Grennie Thu 24-Oct-13 11:53:58

The things that make me smile is the way the presenter sometimes tries to create drama in the narration when there is none. For example, oh no if she doesn't like the dress, will there still be a marriage. When the bride has never suggested for a minute that she won't get married.

Writerwannabe83 Thu 24-Oct-13 11:55:26

I'm pretty sure I read somewhere that the couple in the Vegas wedding show from a few series ago broke up quite quickly following the wedding.

Bogeyface Thu 24-Oct-13 12:02:07

I remember the Vegas one and I was thinking at the time that she only went through with it because she had to. Didnt he leave half her family behind so she couldnt get married with her mum and dad there or something?

I do remember discussing it with my sister and we both agreed that she wasnt throwing a hissy fit but genuinely gutted and we both thought that she would be filing for annulment once it was all over. I felt so sorry for her.

Bumpotato Thu 24-Oct-13 12:05:44

Orange please tell me you are the bride who got the nose cake and cat toilet seats...that's my all time favourite episode.

Writerwannabe83 Thu 24-Oct-13 12:08:20

Me too bogeyface - I felt really, really sorry for her.

What about the one a few weeks ago where the guy arranged the wedding on a beach (was it Wales?) and it absolutely pissed it down and the tide came in? I saw all those guests, freezing cold, climbing up and down those dangerous wet was just awful! What an idiotic idea!!

aquashiv Thu 24-Oct-13 12:15:39

The Vegas was a classic in two people that really were not on the same wavelength.
I am slightly hmm that they have to go through it. I always thought the will she wont she is part of the drama.

mrsjay Thu 24-Oct-13 12:22:12

DTTB gives me the rage i stopped watching it I was shouting at the telly blush the men seem so self centred some of them anyway, I saw one where he did an abroad wedding her family couldn't afford to go abroad he spent all the budget so her mum paid to go, yet ALL his side went to the wedding even after HE said it is about me and her, I was angry and thought you are marrying this git, oh the wedding was somewhere he always wanted to go,

mrsjay Thu 24-Oct-13 12:23:25

the one im on about isn't the vagas one was this series i caught it when i was in bed ill one night, the vegas one sent be over the edge thats when i stopped watching it ,

DesperatelySeekingSedatives Thu 24-Oct-13 12:28:48

Does anyone remember the groom who organised the wedding to take place in Magaluf despite his bride hating it there? He was a knob of epic proportions but I think that's a common theme on this show, or what they'd like us to believe anyway. That's been one of "worst" weddings ever. ceremony on a yucky looking beach surrounded by nearly naked people getting wasted while they tan, reception at a grubby looking sports bar and food provided by a burger joint across the road. lovely. hmm

2 of my favourites have been the slightly loopy (but utterly lovely) groom (who's bride was equally nice) who had an Alice in Wonderland theme. Think it was Alice theme anyway although they went through a wardrobe to get to the actual wedding. The other was the guy who held his wedding at a space centre. He'd been raised JW and his stag do consisted of his mates celebrating all the birthdays his missed out on. I may have cried at that So sad his parents refused to attend (think it was due to him marrying out the faith?) but the couple seemed lovely.

DesperatelySeekingSedatives Thu 24-Oct-13 12:29:34

...and the award for using the word lovely the most times in a post goes to me blush

squoosh Thu 24-Oct-13 12:33:12

One of the couples that made me think 'oh, you're both lovely' were the two who used to be Jehovah Witnesses but had left the church, I think the groom was estranged from his family as a result. They were so sweet.

squoosh Thu 24-Oct-13 12:33:40

x post with DesperatelySeeking!

mrsjay Thu 24-Oct-13 12:35:48

the under water wedding one had me going oh thats different until it was revealed it was underwater at the local swimming baths grin

squoosh Thu 24-Oct-13 12:37:54

OMG The underwater fucking wedding!!! How could I forget?

DownstairsMixUp Thu 24-Oct-13 12:43:43

Is that true the vegas couple seperated? I would so not have married him. He was a total arse wipe. I hated the look on his face when she said she might not go, what did you expect dumbass?

Szeli Thu 24-Oct-13 12:46:07

I think Orange is blonde, from Chester-ish and is a beauty therapist... Based on very little other than 'small business' and 'village' haha

mrsjay Thu 24-Oct-13 12:52:28

wouldn't be surprised if they have split up, when it first started it seemed to be a balance of awwy ones and WTF ones now they just seem to show the dramatic hmm

Writerwannabe83 Thu 24-Oct-13 12:56:03

I'd forgotten about the underwater wedding at the local swimming baths, haha grin Absolutely ridiculous!!!

mrsjay Thu 24-Oct-13 12:57:38

It was bonkers she is in the changing rooms sobbing I would have went home made me howl then they had to go to the registery office anyway with wet hair grin

Writerwannabe83 Thu 24-Oct-13 13:12:31

I found the one a few weeks ago a bit strange as well where he arranged for the wedding to be held in a tiny tree house! I have never forgotten the episode at Thorpe Park either and how furious that bride was grin

mrsjay Thu 24-Oct-13 13:15:26

oh yes it was pissing of rain in thorpe park and she was furious , these women are the ones who come on here and say My dh can;t work the washing machine bless him whats he like hmm

Grennie Thu 24-Oct-13 13:16:44

I guess they select couples where the groom is an idiot and will make a mess of it. But it is the selfishness of some that takes my breath away.

mrsjay Thu 24-Oct-13 13:18:37

the selfishness baffles me one i watched It was a gay couple and his best man was furious of some of the guys decisions so he sulked till they were changed and the groom did it regardless of his partners feelings,

Loosingthebigkickers Thu 24-Oct-13 13:20:39

the one at the festival shocked me too.. bridezilla!

Grennie Thu 24-Oct-13 13:23:38

To be honest, I always give the brides the benefit of the doubt. I
am sure the production team are winding them up. And certainly getting them to choose a dress and visit their dream venue will do this. So I am sure some behave in ways they would normally never dream of doing.

Grennie Thu 24-Oct-13 13:24:58

Have any of you ever watched the programme where 4 brides go to each others weddings and rate them? Now there is some real awful comments on that programme.

spritesoright Thu 24-Oct-13 13:25:40

I thought the bride's behaviour on last night's episode didn't bode well for the marriage itself. Okay, jumping out of a plane is a bit much but she wouldn't even wear the dress and it was stunning! In my view she ruined the day by throwing such a massive strop but then somehow convinced the groom that it had been his fault all along. Incredible.
They do seem to choose grooms with totally outlandish/selfish plans for the wedding and I always think 'it's not going to happen' but the brides always realise that what is actually important is that they will be spending the rest of their lives with these partners, so the ceremony itself isn't so consequential. But I'm not sure last night's bride could see that.
Maybe I'm being too harsh...

MoneyMug Thu 24-Oct-13 13:29:49

I lov this program so much. DP pretends Not to, but he loves shouting at the tv just as much as I do. grin

I need to know who orange is. Please give us a clue?

My favourite one was the one in the tree house.

Why does there always seem to be a pregnant bridesmaid?

MoneyMug Thu 24-Oct-13 13:31:30

grennie do you mean 4 weddings? I used to watch that all the time. Those brides were so bitchy!

Grennie Thu 24-Oct-13 13:32:47

Yes I do. Couldn't remember the name. There were sometimes really lovely brides on it who said nice things about everyones wedding. But yes, many of them were awful.

PervCat Thu 24-Oct-13 13:33:02

There's a blog somewhere from a couple who were on dttb. Is interesting

Pigsmummy Thu 24-Oct-13 13:55:02

The Vegas one was terrible, I would have actually prefered her to not go through with it, groom was a selfish "insert expletive", I really liked the one where the groom spent loads of budget to fly her brother over from Australia to give her away, he rang the doorbell on the morning of the wedding, happy tears from me!

Loosingthebigkickers Thu 24-Oct-13 14:10:21
Lilacroses Thu 24-Oct-13 14:12:03

Great thread! I love DTTB and had always wondered how much the producers guided the couples. I wouldn't do it myself but I can understand why you might. The one I really don't "get" is 4 weddings. The idea of having 3 women you barely know at your wedding precisely to pick holes in it on your special day for the 1 in 4 chance of winning a honeymoon!

MyfavcolourisOrange Thu 24-Oct-13 14:28:13

Nope my cake wasn't a nose. It was three tier with little statues of me and my DH on it.

I'm not blonde or a beauty therapist and I live about 100/125 south (ish) of Chester.

Personally I can't understand why brides would want to go on four weddings. I know that I have effectively 'sold my day' but we did get a lovely wedding out of it and were surrounded by people that wanted to enjoy the day and wish us the best. On four weddings you usually have three sour faced brides nit-picking the day that you've worked so hard to plan and you may not get the honeymoon at the end - usually down to one horrible bride marking tactically! hmm

sashh Thu 24-Oct-13 15:49:12

Is there a 'are they still together' website somewhere? Some I had massive doubts about.

There was a programme where they went back to a few couples.

The one who got absolutely everything perfect for his 'princess' was the only one still married.

I have not seen this last series but I was talking to a male friend and we said it might be a laugh, he said if he organised it he would spend 10K on the hen/stag dos. Not sure they would let him but i liked the idea.

katystar Thu 24-Oct-13 15:49:47

I have on quite good authority been told the Vegas couple have spilt up, apparently when she didn't want to go the production team told her she/they had to pay back the money, he promised her that when they got back they would have a big party and renew there vows and she could get the dress of her dreams (not sure why they took part as they could have paid for the wedding themselfs) anyway she ordered the dress booked the do and found out he was seeing someone else!

mrsjay Thu 24-Oct-13 15:57:50

I love 4 weddings it is great ,

I dont understand the dttb they say they have only a few weeks to organise the wedding but you need to post the banns 6 weeks before in your parish (area) don't you ?

mrsjay Thu 24-Oct-13 15:58:29

nyway she ordered the dress booked the do and found out he was seeing someone else!

No way shock

squoosh Thu 24-Oct-13 16:03:46

Katystar she's well rid of that tosser, he was so gormless! Can't believe he had two women on the go.

WaitMonkey Thu 24-Oct-13 16:41:09

Am glad the Vegas couple split up. Hope she is having more luck now, he was awful.

DonkeysDontRideBicycles Thu 24-Oct-13 17:23:12

They must have tons of couples applying, I suppose the wackier the idea the better chance they'll have of getting selected.

ExcuseTypos you're right. A Scottish couple got married, he fixed for her to parachute out of a plane, she wasn't keen but she did it and said he knew her better than she knew herself because she loved it.

orange and Anna glad you had a lovely time.

I don't enjoy Four Weddings as much as DTTB. I wouldn't want 3 strangers sitting in on my wedding being critical and with faces like smakcked bottoms if they thought mine scored higher in any respect.

Grennie Thu 24-Oct-13 17:25:08

I find 4 weddings morbidly fascinating. But I don't understand why anyone takes part.

mrsjay Thu 24-Oct-13 17:31:37

I think they get paid to appear and of course the winthe holiday to some exotic place don't they, last Four weddings i watched 2 women had fallen out on facebook before the last wedding it was all bit awkward grin I am always fascinated by what they are eating , there is also 4 weddngs US but they seem politer about the other brides

expatinscotland Thu 24-Oct-13 17:39:10

I thought that parachute guy was a dicksmack.

Get fucking REAL!

Thinking someone is going to be game to marry in a fucking boiler suit in a noisy aeroplane, with no one there, and then jump out.

Spent all the money on that stupid idea.

I'd have told him to go fuck himself.

purplepingu Thu 24-Oct-13 17:42:27

I'm a photographer and one of my couples told me at their pre-wedding chat that they'd applied to be on the show and were rejected. Apparently he'd told the producers he'd love a New York themed wedding in a local hotel, hire props, have New York food etc. and they keeps pushing him to get married in New York instead. When he said they'd got elderly relatives who couldn't fly and wouldn't go without them, they were rejected.

Writerwannabe83 Thu 24-Oct-13 17:44:20

That's shocking!!!!

squoosh Thu 24-Oct-13 17:46:49

I think it's fair enough, the programme is being made for the viewers not the couple. Viewers like drama!

mrsjay Thu 24-Oct-13 17:50:08

I suppose sqoosh it is an entertainment programme and we do love a bit of drama dont we that is why we watch it but it is so annoying sometimes

Firsttimemom2013 Thu 24-Oct-13 17:51:57

Love don't tell the bride! Really did think last night she was going to kill him though and did go a bit over the top, my hubby likes it too and said the one with the alien autopsy wedding was a bit too much lol but I love it going through it from a blokes point of view of organising a wedding and seeing how much of it their brides do like, thought she was going to refuse to get married last night though x

mrsjay I think you only have to publish your intent to marry.

Wiki says "Since July 1, 1837, civil marriages have been a legal alternative to church marriages, under the Marriage Act 1836, which provided the statutory basis for regulating and recording marriages. So, today, a couple has a choice between being married in the Anglican Church, after the calling of banns or obtaining a license or else, they can give "Notice of Marriage" to a civil registrar. In this latter case, the notice is publicly posted for 15 days, after which a civil marriage can take place. Marriages may take place in churches other than Anglican churches, but these are governed by civil marriage law and notice must be given to the civil registrar in the same way. The marriage may then take place without a registrar being present, if the church itself is registered for marriages and the minister or priest is an Authorised Person for marriages."

We got married with an Archbishop's Licence which is also known as a Special Licence. DH was able to apply for this without my knowledge/consent/signature (although I did know) so it's about the only way to surprise someone with their own wedding. It's also not published and can be rushed.

mrsjay Thu 24-Oct-13 17:58:23

ah ok thanks I am sure ours was posted and displayed at the registry office a few weeks before the wedding saying that it was 20 yrs ago I wonder if the law is different in England than scotland,

katystar Thu 24-Oct-13 18:06:32

The sister apparently know what was going on which is why she refused to go....he also had lots of one night stands!!! hmm

Bogeyface Thu 24-Oct-13 20:15:36

A friend of ours got married by special licence a few days before he passed away, so giving notice isnt a necessity, although I have wondered if the calling of the banns is why you dont see many church weddings on there.

mrsjay Fri 25-Oct-13 08:49:36

oh im sorry about your friend passing bogey but least he managed to get married which would have been lovely

Tiredemma Fri 25-Oct-13 08:59:44

I loved the one recently with the Mod bloke who had his Bride transported to The Forum in London in a Mod Bike Convoy.

Oh how i sobbed as she appeared on the stairs as Mod blokes mate sang.

The Vegas one had me screaming at the TV- the groom and best man were just idiots.

Trills Fri 25-Oct-13 09:18:00

saintmerryweather the HMS Belfast is my favourite too.

It wasn't at all what she would have chosen but I think she really dd love it - and the bit where the bride and her dad come up to the big boat in a little boat, with everyone clapping.

Grennie Fri 25-Oct-13 09:26:02

I have tries unsuccessfully to persuade my DP to apply for this. I think we would be picked as we want totally different things.

DownstairsMixUp Fri 25-Oct-13 10:14:09

I'm getting married in 2015 and have been told I have to give notice to my wedding, and 35 quid each for it to!

bebopanddoowop Fri 25-Oct-13 11:41:41

I love this show. My favourite was the tattooed skater guy with slightly older OH she was beautiful with black hair and she had a kid from another relationship that he totally doted on. They were such a lovely couple and he really did his best by her and put on a really fun summer fete type day with coconut shys etc and the kid loved it too.

Anna or orange if that was you congrats and your husband made me cry!

DuckToWater Fri 25-Oct-13 11:48:34

I love DTTB.

I have actually wanted the bride to walk away from the whole thing on a couple of occasions, when the groom has been so incredibly thoughtless. I have also wanted the groom to walk away when he has been incredibly thoughtful and the bride has thrown a tantrum.

Then there are probably a higher proportion of really nice couples and what the groom is doing is made to seem a bit bonkers and disorganised at first, but then it all comes right in the end.

We would never have been picked for DTTB as DH would be very organised and pick stuff I liked, and I was laid back about my dress anyway, and would have been overjoyed for DH to organise everything. It would probably make for a very boring non-controversial episode!

ScarerAndFuckItsAGhost Fri 25-Oct-13 12:27:09

I saw the parachute wedding one.

He was an idiot. He was. If he wanted to spend a day out parachuting he could have picked a better day than his wedding day to organise it.

And he let her get all dressed up, wedding dress, jewellery, hair and make-up, by 9am, so she could go to some airfield and mess it all up again by putting on a boiler suit and grubbing about on the floor.

And then he wanted her to get on a plane, get married without any friends or family to witness it, and then fling herself out, probably ruining more hair and make-up, before putting her dress back on and going off to the reception.

No. Just no. Almost any bride would be pissed off by that. And I was the least precious bride ever, but I could still see why she had a problem with it.

On the other hand, she was a bit of a nightmare. The dress tantrum was one thing, the refusing to walk down the red carpet because it was all a joke wasn't nice, but saying "this is his day now, I don't care, I'll just do whatever because it's nothing to do with me and we'll deal with the consequences later" was all a bit passive aggressive.

I did meet someone who has been on the show and they are still married. I haven't seen the show they were on though so have no idea how well or badly it all went.

ScarerAndFuckItsAGhost Fri 25-Oct-13 12:35:18

MrBolton the crying annoys me as well.

Nobody died, nobody left the country, nobody got sent off to war.

Someone's just spending three weeks at their mums house while someone else spends twelve grand of someone else's money on a free wedding. What's to cry about?

angelos02 Fri 25-Oct-13 13:31:07

It bugs me when the bride to be says things like 'if I don't like the dress, I'm not going to marry him. FFS. If you love someone you'd marry them in a plastic bag if need be.

My shout-at-the-telly favourite was the recentish one where the bride was a wedding photographer confused so everything she thought she wanted to make a "unique" wedding was bloody obvious and conventional.

He got her married in a tree house. It was stunning.

She had a major dress tantrum too. As far as I could tell, the dress he chose and the dress she stamped her foot for were identical...

mrsjay Fri 25-Oct-13 15:17:29

Someone's just spending three weeks at their mums house while someone else spends twelve grand of someone else's money on a free wedding. What's to cry about?

but they missed them wink does my head in as well all the wailing i am like fgs calm down

FunLovinBunster Fri 25-Oct-13 16:05:59

What about the ep where bloke insists on Vegas wedding but can't afford to fly her family out??
I was AMAZED she went through with it.....

FunLovinBunster Fri 25-Oct-13 16:08:11

Note to page 7 of the thread, FLB!!

AnyBumFuckerPotato Fri 25-Oct-13 18:33:59

Three weeks living with my mum would see me in an institution, and not the institution of marriage. No wonder the brides are stressed.

handcream Fri 25-Oct-13 18:37:45

I often think this programme is like some lottery winners. They just dont know how to spend it!

I am staggered at the average cost of a wedding. Why do people spend such a lot!!

Loosingthebigkickers Fri 25-Oct-13 20:14:29

Sorry but I thought the parachute bride was vile. What a nasty nasty cow. So he booked a parachute jump..not the best idea but the way she stomped up to him and literally gave him the coldest look she could. how awful.

Loosingthebigkickers Fri 25-Oct-13 20:15:00

....and they'd only been together 18 months. that won't last!

areyoubeingserviced Fri 25-Oct-13 20:41:20

Love DTTB. I also liked the one where the groom flew his brother in law over from Australia to give the bride away. The look on the bride's face and that of her mother was priceless. I hope they are still together

Florabella Fri 25-Oct-13 20:58:17

That one where he flew the brother over is the only bit on DTTB that had ever made me shed a tear - it was lovely

AnyBumFuckerPotato Fri 25-Oct-13 21:01:08

That made me cry too.

williaminajetfighter Fri 25-Oct-13 23:20:17

I used to love watching this show but now feel it is just horrible and exploitative.

They seem to choose the roughest couples, the stupidest men who have no experience of managing money and it becomes an exercise in watching a 18 year old princess from a council estate have a meltdown about her dress while her drippy dumb fiancé 'Lee' tries to organise a piss up in a brewery. It's a total mockery.

The formula is grim and I just can't bear to watch more bumbling non-verbal grooms or shrill underage teen brides.

fatlazymummy Fri 25-Oct-13 23:38:33

I just watched the last 2 episodes on iplayer. I loved the derelict church one, I thought the groom 'got' the brides offbeat personality.
Parachute bride - well, she was a bit of a cow. Having said that, there are some people that are never ever going to jump out of a plane. I'm one of them, and I really wouldn't take kindly to anyone who tried to make me. So I can understand her anger on that point.
She shouldn't have been allowed to change the dress though (though I hated the one the groom chose).

juneybean Fri 25-Oct-13 23:52:28

I was at a wedding a few weeks ago and the photographer looked so familiar and because someone further up mentioned one bride was a photographer I googled and it was that bride ! Thank you, I've been stalking wedding blogs ever since trying to work out how I knew her blush

parques Sat 26-Oct-13 00:03:07

Bit off thread, but my guilty secret is the programme where they have the 4 brides & they have to judge each others weddings. Love the whole tackiness & bitchiness of it all!!!

I'd like to discuss the role of the best man on DTTB. Sometimes it seems like a battle between the bride and the best man, with the groom stuck in the middle but going along with the BM because the bride is "out of sight and out of mind".

MyfavcolourisOrange Sat 26-Oct-13 00:11:17

Ummmm bit of a generalisation there Jetfighter.

Neither me or my DH are how you describe and the show didn't portray us to be so either - quite the opposite in fact.

Not that being from a council estate, a teenage bride or being called Lee is a problem in my eyes..... hmm

williaminajetfighter Sat 26-Oct-13 00:23:40

Sorry orange I wasn't talking about you but the many episodes I've seen recently have followed this same formula and in most instances the entertainment comes from laughing at the daft groom and shrill bride which I don't think is much entertainment frankly.

AnyBumFuckerPotato Sat 26-Oct-13 00:59:37

I watched the parachute episode tonight on I player because of this thread. Loved it. Give the marriage 6 months though...

MyfavcolourisOrange Sat 26-Oct-13 01:07:18

I can think of one specific episode that sounds how you describe Jetfighter (the bride was young with black hair) and I agree that episode made cringe - she was in no way ready for marriage. I guess it's a formula that works; although they do try to differ the couples slightly it wouldn't be entertainment if the groom didn't make any mistakes and the bride wasn't at least a little bit diva-like.

MrsCakes they make the best man/men an integral part of the episode - in fact ours had to attend almost as many auditions as we did and sign the same contracts....I think the producers use them to encourage the groom for their own means. They are encouraged to move in together and basically joined at the hip for the three weeks! If course if the bride doesn't like some of the things she hears during the process (certain info is drip fed throughout to create drama ofc) then that makes the producers v. happy! smile

JumpingJackSprat Sat 26-Oct-13 06:58:31

I think it's gone downhill recently. I used to watch it religiously now I mostly can't be bothered. I heard there was a lot of manipulation from the producers.

ForwardSheCried Sat 26-Oct-13 07:03:51

Well, if they're daft enough to let him organise the whole damn thing in the first place...

Fivemoreminutesmummy Sat 26-Oct-13 16:09:21

orange if you have to go through with what has been written on your application form then surely the bride knows what is going to happen? Not many men would independently apply so I'm assuming the woman has involvement with what has been written.
Love the show (and this thread) btw

You get to go on telly - and there are plenty of people who would sign up for that reason alone - and get twelve grand you haven't had to save up to pay for your wedding.

It's very tempting now that the average British wedding costs £21k ::gulp::

fatlazymummy Sat 26-Oct-13 16:20:27

The problem with DTTB is the same with any reality tv programme. They start off being genuine and quickly become manipulated by the producers to create coflict and filled mainly with stereotypical 'wannabe' contestants/cast members (not directed towards any of the posters on this thread).
After the 1st series or so they're not really about the actual subject anymore.
I used to watch every episode, now I only watch the odd one. I often get the impression that they're not even real weddings.

MyfavcolourisOrange Sat 26-Oct-13 20:11:51

Fivemore.... The application process is quite lengthy and the initial application (just a form) is done as a couple or as you say usually by the bride (I did ours!) but after that there are 4/5 interviews which have to be done separately. For the majority of our application process we were separated to ensure secrecy.

Of course I'm sure some couples still speak once the interviews are over but my DH didn't tell me what theme he had planned for the day because he genuinely wanted it to be a surprise for me.

BridgetJonesStoleMyPants Sat 26-Oct-13 22:55:59

I watch dttb to keep me grounded when dealing with the next drama of my own lol

Theimpossiblegirl Sun 27-Oct-13 12:55:56

Just discovered backto back DTTB on Really. Watching the skater boy wedding now. Just the ticket when I'm stuck on the sofa ill.

Fag ash cup cakes though!!!!

MikeTheShite Sun 27-Oct-13 12:58:58

I'm watching today too! She was very pretty smile

Mia4 Sun 27-Oct-13 13:47:17

To be fair jumping out that plane after all that getting ready, I think most people would be pissed off. If anything they could have done it at the start of the reception after vows and photos.

Most of the grooms tend to think more about themselves, then them as a couple or their bride. Though there are the minority who seem to think. One was really sweet, made a barn up to look stunning.

She was a bit of a bridezilla but you could see she would be like that without the wedding, her sister was a bridesmaidzilla and made a bitchy comment - says a lot about her personality- he thought of himself and what he wanted rather then both of them and her bridesmaid that 'tattled'-sad, very sad, she was obviously after drama.

I know this has been said before but why do a lot of the brides always end up with rubbishy hen dos when the groom spends loads on a stag? And you must know if your groom is self-absorbed or selfish so if they are why would you go on DTTB and expect them to suddenly be not-like that?

Bea Sun 27-Oct-13 15:59:10

Aww! Just watching repeat of Pride and prejudice themed wedding and the groom is soooo lovely and thoughtful and everyone is sooo reasonable... must be the first series!!!

MikeTheShite Sun 27-Oct-13 16:16:22

I love the one that's on now, the fishing one smile

Lj8893 Sun 27-Oct-13 16:52:51

Loved that pride and prejudice one, and the fishing one that's on now.

Dp said he would do something like the P&P one if we did it (I would never be able to relinquish control so its not going to happen!!)

AnyBumFuckerPotato Sun 27-Oct-13 17:28:31

My DD2 who is 9, is now watching series one one Really. She's now hooked because I've been watching on iPlayer.

BeScarefulWhatYouWitchFor Sun 27-Oct-13 17:32:51

I'm currently watching the one with Nick and Laila, no idea which series it is.

I have to admit I have, in the past, been pleasantly surprised with some of the weddings that the grooms have organised. Some though are very selfish and I agree with a pp that some seem to be more what the bm wants/thinks than the bride.

Loved the P&P one.

Theimpossiblegirl Sun 27-Oct-13 17:40:10

I loved the P&P wedding. The fishing one was funny, I thought he was great, but worryingly off the mark.

The one that's on now is good too. I think I may be addicted.

Theimpossiblegirl Sun 27-Oct-13 17:59:00

Ahh, Nick and Leila, that was sweet.

ScarerAndFuckItsAGhost Tue 29-Oct-13 21:54:50

Watching tonight's episode. Grant and Callie and the weird Medieval-Ninja wedding he is planning.

I don't quite get the point of organising this big showy thing where they aren't actually married at the end of it and have to go off to a registry office? Especially when she wants a meaningful ceremony.

Picturesinthefirelight Tue 29-Oct-13 22:18:21

My parents were at the football match one. They wernt guests but they are season ticket holders in the executive suite at the club

Mum got really annoyed with it all as they pay for a nice meal before the match & there was so much to-ing & fri- ing then during the match itself they kept getting their view blocked by all the going up & down the steps repeatedly.

They did spot themselves on the TV when it was aired.

Boredwench Wed 30-Oct-13 10:14:19

I love/loathe this show in equal measure, along with ‘Four Weddings’ these are my trash shows.

I think it’s mostly made up (i.e. 90%). There’s a common theme throughout the majority of episodes – the bride is a nightmare, the groom is a selfish bell-end. In quite a few seasons I can’t recall a single episode where it’s been a normal run of the mill wedding; it’s all ramped up to the max for tv.

If I was going on the show I’d of got every major decision sorted long before, and my OH would need to simply turn up and ‘pretend’ to decide on everything. It’s almost as if the producers deliberately steer the groom into nothing that the bride actually likes, it’s all about capturing that the car crash tv moment where her face drops at being told xyz. I don’t believe after being with each other for years that the grooms would know so very little about their bride’s, it’s made up tosh designed to make you at home go ‘omg what a selfish prick’, it’ll make you stick and watch a lot more than someone doing everything right.

It’s always the same: the groom has a massive lavish stag doo, complete with limo and a dozen mates, whereas the hen has a crappy night out in the local ‘Yates’ or something equally as lame. You only ever see the bride being told the bad stuff throughout the night (i.e. money running out, the grooms stag is 10x bigger), and never having fun. I know blokes can often be thoughtless, but I simply don't believe the grooms are that brazenly selfish and downright nasty. It's all designed to make us sit at home and think 'LTB!!', considering the viewership the programme is aimed at, it's no surprise men are portrayed as cretins. Most blokes do well to come away with a 'borderline twat' editing job, but most end up coming away with a lot worse.

They're never specific enough on the costs of venues, it should be stated whether catering is included or not, as that can easily double/triple a budget.

The plane episode - I can't believe it actually got that far to the point she got on the plane, it was obvious the groom knew it wasn't going to work before he'd even got to the airfield. They both come away looking idiots after that episode. She was incredibly cold and rude, and seemed to imply very heavily she was leaving him soon as the camera's stopped and they had the money. It went from her spewing venom, to the next scene with her comforting him and saying they'll get on with the day. I reckon he went nuts off camera and smashed the archway up and she saw how much he was being forced into sticking with it, her tears during the ceremony seemed genuine enough. All that aside I can't believe they were 4+ hours late, that's madness. Also another thing that makes me not believe a word is that they managed to find a registrar last minute for the alternate venue, going by how my council works, there's no way they'd be so accommodating and helpful.

Wedding photographer episode - As if any self-employed wedding photographer getting free advertising on the BBC is going to turn round and say they think disposable cameras for each table is a great idea, talk about doing yourself out of the job. The decorations and everything else miraculously appeared too (same as every other episode).

It would make a change if the producers had a normal straightforward wedding episode. I'm seem to have gone on one they're, my apologies, I want TV to stop treating me like I have shit for brains!

Boredwench Wed 30-Oct-13 10:16:59

Go on one 'there'.... Bloody predictive text

It annoys me enough that the stag and hen dos are paid for out of the wedding budget anyway. Because that isn't how it works!

MaryZombie Wed 30-Oct-13 16:36:58

I have only just seen this thread, but I agree absolutely.

If you go on the programme, have the guts to see it through so we can all point and laugh

Otherwise it's just a boring programme about ordinary weddings.

--Am I the only one who secretly loves it when the groom and his mates have a fancy stag and the bride has to go to the local pub with three mates?==

MardyBra Thu 31-Oct-13 23:50:33

Just seen the Larper one. What a sweetie the groom was. And I may have been a little choked when his dying dad took the service.

But please don't tell me that the wedding theme was a surprise to her.

ThePearShapedToad Sat 02-Nov-13 18:50:20

Just wondering if any of the brides from "four weddings" are MNers???

< nosy >

gemmal88 Sat 02-Nov-13 22:01:30


Which is why all of the money in China would not be enough for me to go on that program!

CrapBag Sat 02-Nov-13 22:37:53

Have we managed to work out who the 2 brides were on this thread?

And why aren't they allowed to say? I don't understand that.

I do think this series, they seem to be going for the really outrageous ones where you are just cringing. That football one wasn't great, the fans were clearly hostile and it seemed to fall really flat.

Previous series there were at least a few that were 'normal' weddings, like the Jehovah's who's family didn't want to know.

I liked the one that was on this week though, that bride was just so happy the whole way through (apart from her hen do) and I loved how happy she was with her dress, I thought he did a good job designing that dress. Better than the 'bum pad' dress. grin

CrapBag Sat 02-Nov-13 22:38:41

What channel is this Four Weddings on? I have never heard of it but it sounds trashy intriguing.

ThePearShapedToad Sat 02-Nov-13 22:41:40

Oooooh crapbag it's fabulously awful. The American version is on tlc, they show the uk version on really I think (or one of the home lifestyle sky channels)

The bit that always makes me laugh is that they dress them up at a private jet airport at the end and have endless shots of them posing next to a jet; and make it seem as if the luxury honeymoon they win includes them jetting off in said jet, when actually it's Thomas cook economy or equivilent. Not that I'm knocking that, I'd love a free holiday, but I never quite understand why they include the airport / private jet bit when none of the programme revolves around it!

CrapBag Sat 02-Nov-13 23:04:57

Ah bugger, I only have freeview and freesat, I don't think we get Really and those channels.

NatalieC02 Thu 18-Sep-14 22:18:42

Orange- are you Lauren and Perry? With the lights at the Forum?? That was such a lovely episode when you/she walked down the stairs. X

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