To think spending £64 a month on cereal for one person is insane?!

(201 Posts)
Mittensonkittens Wed 23-Oct-13 07:53:21

Dh has become addicted to Special K. Addicted. He is living on the stuff. He's eating normal meals too but in addition to this is eating bowls and bowls of the stuff.

He's getting through a box (£3.99) every two fucking days! His cereal habit is costing me £64 a month! There's a sentence never thought I'd type.

I've explained to him that his cereal is now costing us one fifth of our monthly shopping budget. Aibu to think he needs to cut back?! Is there some sort of special cereal addiciton group he can go to?

£64! £768 a year!

simpleth1ngs Wed 23-Oct-13 07:54:20

Can you buy from a wholesaler?

rocketeer Wed 23-Oct-13 07:54:25

Refuse to buy it?

HormonalHousewife Wed 23-Oct-13 07:56:18

get a store brand ?

Mittensonkittens Wed 23-Oct-13 07:56:40

Yes perhaps I should look into wholesale.

It started innocently enough with just one bowl a day but before I knew it it was two bowls, then three, then four, then five! Now whenever I see him he's got a bowl and spoon in his hand. What the hell are they putting in it?!

thestauntonlick Wed 23-Oct-13 07:56:53

He's going to get really fat! Has he put weight on? He'll have to go cold turkey, or get a Saturday job or something.

Mittensonkittens Wed 23-Oct-13 07:57:20

Store brands are unacceptable. Apparently. It doesn't hit the spot in the same way.

SantiagoToots Wed 23-Oct-13 07:57:42

He's going to get affy fat on all those refined carbs. Tell him that!

Spirulina Wed 23-Oct-13 07:57:42

He must be putting on weight! It's not good for him either

Mittensonkittens Wed 23-Oct-13 07:57:47

Ha ha at have to get a Saturday job to feed his habit!

aturtlenamedmack Wed 23-Oct-13 07:58:01

Why is ot costing you that much?
If he wants it he can buy it out of his own money, not family money!

Sister77 Wed 23-Oct-13 07:58:30

Buy the store brand and put it in the Special K box

£3.99 for a box of cereal?! Bloody hell. It clearly works as a weight loss tool by making you too poor to buy other food.

YANBU for thinking he's being excessive. Tell him to get a paper round. Or go to costco (and leave him there)

Mittensonkittens Wed 23-Oct-13 08:01:41

It's coming out our food budget. I buy about 5 boxes when I go on my big shop - otherwise I have to make a special trip back in the week for more. The shop by us only has the small boxes which are even less cost effective because they are £2.99 but only last about a day - it then costs £21 a week.

Mittensonkittens Wed 23-Oct-13 08:02:27

Exactly enjoying it's extortionate! I'm not sure why...unless it's because they're lacing it with heroin or something.

Reality Wed 23-Oct-13 08:03:13

Oh god.

I spend £30 a month on coffee pods, and at least £100 on wine.

The monthly shop (other than that) is around £350.

I woudl HATE to think DH was working it all out as a percentage and being resentful. We work hard, we earn good money and as adults I feel we can eat what we like, within reason.

DH is a cereal muncher, I've never added it up but he has at least three,. often four or five bowls a day. He's 11 stone and 5'11. He eats whatever's available but with three DC plus us eating it we go through a box a day.

Unless you really can't afford it, I wouldn't make this into an issue.

LeGavrOrf Wed 23-Oct-13 08:04:12

Is he pregnant? grin

Haha at take him to costco and leave him there.

That is mad to eat that much cereal. It's a load of crap. He may as well eat a bag of skittles.

If it is really a huge proportion of your food budget it's selfish of him to eat so much. Tell him to stop being so greedy and just have 2 bowls a day.

Ragwort Wed 23-Oct-13 08:04:20

Does he eat it in addition to other meals?

Can you afford it? I spend about £50 a month just on the brand of ground coffee I like grin - but we can afford it, I would not be impressed if my DH told me to cut it out.

LifeofPo Wed 23-Oct-13 08:04:37

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LeGavrOrf Wed 23-Oct-13 08:05:50

Crikey I can't imagine eating so much cereal.

Actually reality is right,if you can afford it just let it go tbh.

Mittensonkittens Wed 23-Oct-13 08:06:59

Well not really, I'm a sahm and I find the shopping budget doesn't go as far as it used to anyway. I've cut back other places. Dh also has coffee pods!

I suppose I just think it's unnecessary to eat that much cereal. It's in addition to his other meals so effectively in now having to find that £60 odd pounds a month that would have gone on something else. And where will it end?! Will it be a box a day soon?!

Gobbolinothewitchscat Wed 23-Oct-13 08:07:13

This is very odd. How can he fit this amount of cereal in
and his normal meals?

If be really worried if DH was doing this - Special K (like most cereals) is loaded with sugar.

You need to have a serious chat with him. Load hiseals up with lean protein and get him to eat porridge in the morning. That should fill him up a bit so he can't eat as much cereal

If he's still craving it even though full, I'd get him to the docs to get checked for any deficiencies

iwantanafternoonnap Wed 23-Oct-13 08:08:00

Its because it is full of sugary crap and he has become addicted to that. It is awful shite.

I wouldn't buy it and also why do you have to go back to the store?? he's a grown man isn't he. Buy one packet and tell him when its gone it's gone.

Did laugh at him having to get a Saturday job though LOL

3asAbird Wed 23-Oct-13 08:08:53

I used to like special k redberries but is costly try and only buy when on offer at £2 and spar had it for £1.50 other month.

check out my supermarket see whos on offer annoyingly they dont do bigger than 500g boxes and they never seem to be on offer.

marks, waitrose and aldis do own version maybe try those.

could live off cereal use semi milk,no sugar and sometimes add fresh berries.

Reality Wed 23-Oct-13 08:09:41

How long has he been eating like this?

My food fads only ever last a couple of months. I'm currently on cheesy chips with gravy which has lasted me longer than usual. Before that it was noodles, before that it was black pudding and a poached egg.

I get obsessed once in a while and eat the same thing every day, but it eventually wears off.

Mittensonkittens Wed 23-Oct-13 08:10:22

He has a couple of bowls for breakfast (ok will accept this), he has a box at work and then eats it throughout the day, he has a bowl before tea when he gets home and then a bowl or two after tea.

Basically he needs to be drip fed Special K at ALL TIMES!

Chopstheduck Wed 23-Oct-13 08:10:36

Costco sell it, and it works out cheaper. But honestly, a box every two days is absurd.

Assuming you mean the 500g boxes, half a box of original special K with semi milk is around 1200 calories a day. That would be half of his calorie intake for the day!

Gileswithachainsaw Wed 23-Oct-13 08:11:12

That's not normal. If he's that hungry all the time he should see a dr. This is not good for him and is bordering in obsessive.

Mittensonkittens Wed 23-Oct-13 08:11:31

Yes the 500g boxes.

I'd say his cereal habit has been getting worse since about June and has been at crisis point for two months hmm

I take it you don't have teenage boys? wink I can't bear to calculate what I spend on cereal (or bread, or shampoo...)

Like a poster up thread said, I'd hate for my partner to calculate how much of the food shop went on wine a particular item, and grudge me it. Your DH is an adult - he can eat what he wants.

Gileswithachainsaw Wed 23-Oct-13 08:12:23

Oh and start buying lidl or aldi version and put in a Kellogg's box

curlew Wed 23-Oct-13 08:12:46

Is he genuinely hungry? You're not one of those "I can get 4 meals for 4 people out of one small chicken, two potatoes, a carrot and half a cabbage with plenty left over to make soup" are you?

FuckyNellItsHalloween Wed 23-Oct-13 08:13:02

750g boxes are 3 for 2 at tesco till end of tomorrow

Gobbolinothewitchscat Wed 23-Oct-13 08:13:36

I don't think the money is the real issue. It not a concern -very lucky, I know-- for us re food shopping but I'd still be very worried if DH started eating a family size cake a day.

This amount of cereal can't really be compared to coffee pods or wine as they are obviously more expensive but if that started to be abused eg 10 coffees a day and three bottles of wine a night, then that would be concerning

LateForMyOwnLife Wed 23-Oct-13 08:13:38

I buy about 5 boxes when I go on my big shop - otherwise I have to make a special trip back in the week for more.

Erm - it's his habit - stop buying it. He might not be as tempted if he has to schlep to the shop for it himself confused

ivykaty44 Wed 23-Oct-13 08:13:42

how much is the milk bill to go with the special k habit? I would be worried that he could turn into some type of cereal monster.

Get him to go cold turkey this stuff has a lot of sugar in it and so will be addictive

Mittensonkittens Wed 23-Oct-13 08:13:43

Yes but agent we can't afford to spend anymore on our shopping so I'm having to cut back drastically on other stuff to buy the bloody cereal!

Thewalkingdeadkr Wed 23-Oct-13 08:14:51

Sounds a bit like he lacks self control, there are many things id like to eat four times a day (largely chocolate) but you just don't do you? Not good for you and a bit 'spensive innit?
Buy 2 boxes then let him buy more if he wants it.
Stop being his cereal dealer grin

LauraChant Wed 23-Oct-13 08:15:29

Well don't buy it then! What would happen if you didn't?

Mittensonkittens Wed 23-Oct-13 08:15:40

Right perhaps id better hightail it to tesco to stock up!

I think for christmas I'm just going to get him 50 boxes of Special K. It's the gift that keeps on giving.

MissMarplesBloomers Wed 23-Oct-13 08:17:21

Just don't buy it?

This is not normal & certainly not healthy.

Why should the whole family have to cut back just for this?

Tell him he's in charge of cereal buying from now on. Maybe if he actually sees how much it is costing he'll stop.

TheBuskersDog Wed 23-Oct-13 08:18:26

Tell him to stop eating Special K which is crap and start eating porridge which is much more filling.

Gileswithachainsaw Wed 23-Oct-13 08:19:22

And urge him to see a dr. There's perhaps a reason he's craving it so much. Maybe he's deficient in something

Waggamamma Wed 23-Oct-13 08:20:00

I love cereal, especially Special K! I would eat it all day long if I could but I don't because:
a) we can't afford it
b) I would be the size of a house

YANBU. Tell him to cut back or buy it from his own spending money not family money.

Think what you could do with £64 a month. We've just given up diet coke for this reason, far too much money and it's no good for us.

EBearhug Wed 23-Oct-13 08:20:21

If you're having to cut back on other stuff, then tell him you just can't afford more than one box a week and explain why. If he's that desperate, then he's the one who has to go to the shop midweek, with his own spending money, not the household budget.

3asAbird Wed 23-Oct-13 08:22:19

64quid be 25-50%monthly food budget

we cant even justfy £40 month for eldest school dinners.

havent brought specal k regular in ages as just too pricy.

kids get cheapy rice krispies o choc flakes rarly buy kellogs but never value as that,s shite or only when on offer.

This week ran out so they been eatig reduced crumpets when see them buy a few packs and freezer or they have choice jam on toast, butter or nutella.

FuckyNellItsHalloween Wed 23-Oct-13 08:22:31

thlgrin at the gift that keeps on giving

LeGavrOrf Wed 23-Oct-13 08:22:48

I am the same reality with short term food obsessions.

Cheesy chips and gravy sounds delicious.

My food obsessions this year include

Cabbage with mint sauce. Had that for dinner for weeks.
Cauliflower cheese
Green skittles.
Jalapeño hummus

Scarymuff Wed 23-Oct-13 08:24:31

I agree with Giles that he should check with his gp. He may be low in iron or something. Our bodies are incredible at knowing where to get particular nutrient sources, that why we crave them.

ExcuseTypos Wed 23-Oct-13 08:25:25

Well they say sugar is as addictive as crack cocaine and I think your DH is proving the point.

He's addicted to the sugar. Simple.

Just stop buying it. If he wants it he can go and buy it himself. But I'd be telling him that you weren't feeding his habit from the family budget. Also that he's going to put on so much weight if he carries on like this.

I've just goggled- 100g is 379cals. He's having 500g in 2 days, so that's roughly an extra 1900 cals every 2 days.

He's eating and extra 1000cals a dayshock in fecking cereal.

What does he say when you tell him how much it's costing and how it's affecting the food budget?

Thants Wed 23-Oct-13 08:27:12

Special K is rank! Bleurgh. How he can eat one bowl is beyond me. Yanbu

Crunchymunchyhoneycakes Wed 23-Oct-13 08:28:59

It just sounds a bit selfish of him.

I also get food obsessions. During the summer I can eat salad two meals a day every day for weeks. But, I eat my things for my actual meals, not instead of my meals. His cereal habit is nuts.

kmc1111 Wed 23-Oct-13 08:37:57

First suggestion would be just stop buying it. If he wants it it can come out of his spending money not the food budget.

Second suggestion is you say he doesn't like the cheaper Special K knock-offs, so buy one of those and put it in the Special K box. If he doesn't notice you can just keep buying the cheap version. If he does notice then suggest they must have reformulated, hopefully he won't like the 'new Special K' and won't want it anymore.

LineRunner Wed 23-Oct-13 08:41:11

Is the cereal his actual lunch at work?

Because you could argue that he is eating it for his breakfast, his lunch, and afternoon and evening snacks.

If my teenage son were doing this I wouldn't particularly worry - partly because it would pass. But he would be chipping into the cost if we couldn't afford it. Special K is very pricey.

Pagwatch Wed 23-Oct-13 08:43:49

Seriously, why do you buy it?
You don't have to buy it. You don't have to go out and get it when he runs out.

If he has to get up and go to the shop to buy it it will be out of his money plus he can work off some of that mountain of sugar and shit in his diet.

I would say 'you have lost your mind. I am not buying it anymore. I am putting the money towards buying a hat for your funeral when you die of eating crap'

SidandAndyssextoy Wed 23-Oct-13 08:46:48

My head hurts just at the thought of eating that much sugar. I wonder if he has low blood sugar for some reason. Definitely try to get him to the doctor. And yes to make him buy his own. I eat less of anything I'm craving if I have to move my lazy arse and get it rather than have it delivered to me.

Mittensonkittens Wed 23-Oct-13 08:46:58

No he has a baguette for lunch.

I've told him it's extortionate, I may start keeping the Special K receipts so he can see for himself. It started off gradually so it wasn't a problem at first but before I knew I was buying 15 boxes a month. At least we will have plenty of cardboard to use to sleep under when we are made homeless after falling behind with the mortgage to finance his addiction.

liquidstate Wed 23-Oct-13 08:47:36

When I saw the title I thought your DH was buying limited edition hand made organic shite that included gold covered rolled oats. grin

Aldis version is exactly the same as the old style special k. The new 'improved' version is packed with sugar so I switched when they changed the recipe.

I agree with kmc111 and he should pay for it out of his own budget. My Dh is addicted to chocolate spread and I buy 3 jars a month on the household account - he knows that once it is gone, its gone and he has to buy his own.

jammiedonut Wed 23-Oct-13 08:50:03

What did he say when you told him how much it was costing? I'm not sure if you are being unreasonable or not. I guess it would be slightly easier to stomach the cost if it was something you could all enjoy? Either stop buying it or ration to a smaller amount. When it's out, it's out, he'll just have to wait until you have time to get it (at your convenience).
I'm lucky I do the shopping so dh doesn't notice how much is spent on nutella and wine!

3asAbird Wed 23-Oct-13 08:50:32

stop buying today op.

liquid nuttella is very addictive.

mittens does he buy baguette or make at home and take in.

my hubby ust gets plain boring sandwch reduced bread, value ham, pack crisps and value yogurt.

still he smokes so £64 better than fags.

LBDD Wed 23-Oct-13 08:51:44

My kids love Special K for some reason and I have discovered that Aldi's do a cereal called Benefit which has fooled them completely. It is about half the price and I just buy it and put the plastic inner bag into an old Special K box as they are food snobs and won't eat anything if they know it's from aldi. Worth trying maybe.

littlewhitebag Wed 23-Oct-13 08:57:21

Just stop buying it. Tell him if he wants it he buys it.

He will soon see his money disappear and then i am willing to bet his habit will disappear too.

MorrisZapp Wed 23-Oct-13 09:00:24

So. You say: 'DH, this cereal is costing so much that me and the kids are having to do without other stuff. Also I'm dragging ridiculous volumes back from the shop each week'

And he says.... ?

I think this is relevant. We can't advise without knowing.

HappyMummyOfOne Wed 23-Oct-13 09:01:19

It doesnt sound healthy to be eating so much on top of normal meals so you could chat about that.

Cost wise, try a supermarket brand as normally cheaper and bigger boxes. Given he's the sole earner, i dont think you can stop him having it. I would be mightly annoyed if i couldnt have something i liked after working hard all week.

Sorry but I just started laughing on the bus on the way to work after reading tell him I am putting the money towards buying a hat for your funeral when you die of eating crap and now everyone is looking at me.

Don't buy it. Tell him to stop being so bloody foolish- who eats 5 bowls of cereal a day and normal meals???

Personally id just present the cereal as breakfast lunch and dinner with no other food provided

MissMarplesBloomers Wed 23-Oct-13 09:05:26

Just STOP BUYING THE FECKING STUFF!!!! grin

No brainer.....what happens when he runs out? Does he get arsey?

CerealMom Wed 23-Oct-13 09:06:34

Now I'm partial to a bowl or two of the flakey stuff myself, but even I would be asking him to dig deep into his pocket money for this one.

<dreams of Lizzi's granola>

MrsPennyapple Wed 23-Oct-13 09:08:51

Iit's possible he's not really aware of just how much he's getting through, so making him buy it himself might bring it home to him. Ultimately it's not on for the rest of the family to have to go without to feed his addiction.

lottiegarbanzo Wed 23-Oct-13 09:11:05

Yes, what is his response?

Given the impact on your budget I'd buy a few boxes, tell him that's it for the month, it's up to him to ration it and when it's gone it's gone.

Stop enabling him in his absurd addiction!

HotCrossPun Wed 23-Oct-13 09:12:44

OP you haven't answered the point about why you can't just stop buying it?

You don't need to stock up, go to Costco, keep receipts etc. Just stop buying it.

Howlsmovingcastle Wed 23-Oct-13 09:12:50

Stop buying it for him altogether, or cap it at 4 boxes a week or something.

I'd be annoyed by this - it seems selfish considering you can't afford it!!

horcruxmanzini Wed 23-Oct-13 09:16:37

When I read the thread title, I assumed someone was addicted to that £6/packet farmer's market organic granola stuff. Not Special K. Do you have to buy milk in those monstrous rectangular tank-shaped bottles?!

Maybe get him a mankini version of those red Baywatch Special K swimsuits they make women swan around in for the ads, and ask when he's planning on getting into it?

LineRunner Wed 23-Oct-13 09:16:50

He has a baguette for lunch as well?

He can stick it away, can't he?

Mittensonkittens Wed 23-Oct-13 09:17:06

Oh god, I'm a feeder aren't I?

He just laughed when I told him, I said we will have to increase the shopping budget and he didn't seem to believe it was costing that much.

I will buy two big boxes a week and that is it. That should be enough for two bowls a day. If he can't keep the habit he will have to go to aldi or rehab

expatinscotland Wed 23-Oct-13 09:17:57

You are drastically cutting back on food for your kids to feed his greedy gob this brand of fucking cereal? Seriously? Why the fuck are you buying it? just don't. I'd love to eat our budget away on chocolate, but in adulthood, we NEVER let food obsessions compromise feeding the family, unless you are an absolute cunt weasel.

Mollydoggerson Wed 23-Oct-13 09:18:02

What else does he spend money on? Booze? Nights out? Some hobby.

Tell him he needs to choose which luxury is his priority?

Also tell him he will get huge if he keeps this up?

oh oh alternative suggestion, could he give up the flakey stuff for the month of November as a sort of count down to xmas, he might break his habit.

Mittensonkittens Wed 23-Oct-13 09:18:59

There's his christmas gift sorted: a Kellogg's mankini and 50 boxes of Special K.

expatinscotland Wed 23-Oct-13 09:20:41

I was the sole earner for years, it did not entitle me to behave like a selfish arse because I 'worked hard all week' hmm

grin @ stop being his cereal dealer

I can't put my advice any better than that!

Mollydoggerson Wed 23-Oct-13 09:24:15

You guys need an intervention.

Preciousbane Wed 23-Oct-13 09:29:07

Has he put on weight?

I thought DH small casserole bowl of cornflakes for breakfast was excessive.

Get him to cereals anonymous.

HardFacedCareeristBitchNigel Wed 23-Oct-13 09:29:48

Your DH is an adult - he can eat what he wants
Not when the OP is having to cut back on other areas of the food budget. I suspect you wouldn't feel so forgiving if the OP had posted that her DH was eating his way through £64 of junk food per month ?

The fact that it is a supposedly "healthy" cereal is a red herring. The point is that the OP's DH is snacking on food that they cannot afford and that he doesn't need.

He should be buying it himself. OP, I would stop buying the coffee pods.

thestauntonlick Wed 23-Oct-13 09:34:39

He needs to cut down on the carbs and increase his protein and fat, then he'll feel satisfied and unable to eat so much cereal I would imagine. Tbh I could probably eat as much as that, so have had to start low-carbing and I do feel better and much less hungry. Those kinds of refined carbs can be addictive, as your dh has discovered.

DontmindifIdo Wed 23-Oct-13 09:35:14

No, sit him down again, say you are worried - he's eating an extra 1000 calories a day in cereal, as well as costing you money, it's really an unhealthy food to eat so much of, and you think he needs to make a doctors appointment to see why he's craving it so much. If he says he doesn't need to go to the doctors, suggest he tries avoiding it other than for breakfast for a week and see how he feels, if he feels he needs it rather than just fancies a bowl then it's a sign there's something wrong with his health. Monitor the usage and make a big point of booking a doctors appointment because you are worried about him.

Most men I know will do anything to avoid going to the doctors, you'll soon solve the problem, unless he really is craving it and then at least you'll know.

thestauntonlick Wed 23-Oct-13 09:40:49

If he's not putting any weight on, it could be a sign of diabetes, I think, not an expert though.

sparkle12mar08 Wed 23-Oct-13 09:41:37

Stop making excuses for him, and just stop bloody buying it! If he really wants it that badly he can get off his soon to be very fat arse and get it himself. Show him the reciepts, tell him exactly how much it costs, and also lob in Dontmind's thoughts that this is not normal, it is genuinely abnormal behaviour and that he really ought to see a doctor. Honestly, it is utterly shameful that you are cutting back your family's food budget - your children's food budget - for your husbands selfish and ridiculous obsession. Shaneful.

HotCrossPun Wed 23-Oct-13 09:43:25

<gives up>

Chunderella Wed 23-Oct-13 09:43:43

If you're on a limited budget and have to be careful, yes spending about one seventh of it (probably the amount of cereal he is snacking on, it's ok to eat it for breakfast) is BU. I agree in principle that adults ought to be able to eat what they want, but sometimes the money isn't there. When money is low, meals come before snacks. If you're still struggling after that, filling your belly is top priority, and special k doesn't really do a great job at that for the price. Then you consider nutrition, and only if everyone has enough to fill them up and to nourish them properly can you look at snacks, treats and adults having the right to eat what they want.

A lot depends on the finances really. It sounds like you have about £75 a week OP. How many are you feeding on that and does it include cleaning stuff etc or just food? If its just you, DH and a toddler and you're not buying anything but food with that £75, there probably is enough in the budget for him to have lots of cereal. If you've several DC and are buying toiletries, nappies and cleaning stuff from the £75 then he's behaving appallingly.

ScreamingNaanAndGoryOn Wed 23-Oct-13 09:44:10

Second substitution with a cheaper alternative. My DH refused ALCAFE as it tasted awful, which is why he's been enjoying it out of the gold blend jar for the last 3 months.

That much cereal is excessive.

ExcuseTypos Wed 23-Oct-13 09:44:21

www.dailymail.co.uk/health/article-2472672/Is-high-fat-diet-GOOD-heart-Doctors-say-carbs-damaging-arteries-butter-cream.html

Show him this and tell him to have a fry up for breakfast. That should satisfy him much better then a bowl of sugar.

ethelb Wed 23-Oct-13 09:47:02

Half a pack with milk is 2064 calories and 132g of sugar a day!

introduce him to the concept of bread?

DH comes hoem from work and eats half a loaf (toast), we can afford that ;)

jellyandcake Wed 23-Oct-13 09:52:06

I went like this about cornflakes in the last weeks of pregnancy. My husband (gently) drew my attention to the salt and sugar content. I stopped eating them - it really isn't healthy and I was on about seven bowls a day! If we had Special K in the house I would hoover it up, I love it. But I know I can't be trusted around cereal so we don't buy it! It is soooo addictive.

As bloke with a moderate cereal habit myself (anything with a "noney nut" label gets me. I can't stop eating it if it's there.), I think YABU. Yes, it's £64 a month. But is it really that bad?

And my DW spends about £50-£60 a month on Coca Cola (depends if it's on offer though). And you're average smoker will spend about £125-£150 on cigarettes. My mother spends roughly about £100 on wine a month. We all have our addictions.

Let the guy enjoy a bowl of cereal. Or a few more.

And god dam, I really fancy a bowl of cereal now.

englishmumcominghome Wed 23-Oct-13 09:53:10

its' also really high in salt btw.

I'd get him to the Dr and tested for deficiencies

grin at the Mankini for christmas. Do post pics

Pogosticks Wed 23-Oct-13 09:53:15

Swap the normal milk for milk that has gone off. This might trigger a dislike of Special K!

Or wait until he's asleep and dress him in a slinky red dress and scatter sand all over the floor. As we all know if you eat enough Special K you will end up swishing around a beach in a red frock.

BeCool Wed 23-Oct-13 09:54:06

if you can't afford it, then buy as much as you can afford with your shopping and when its finished its finished.

Quite simply, he needs to get a grip.

bionic77 Wed 23-Oct-13 09:57:37

At present you are feeding his cereal habit. From now on put 60 quid in an envelope marked cereal money and give it to him. Tell him he is responsible for buying his own cereal and making sure he always has what he needs. I bet when he has to hand over 60 quid each month just for cereal he'll start to adjust.

EldritchCleavage Wed 23-Oct-13 09:59:17

Addictions are to be fought, not indulged. Don't buy any. If he wants it, let him buy it. Bet you the thought of wandering back into work after lunch with 5 boxes of Special K like a cereal weirdo will put him off a bit.

HumphreyCobbler Wed 23-Oct-13 10:04:05

last time I looked at the ingredients of special K it was half sugar. Incredible in a food marketed as healthy.

Chunderella Wed 23-Oct-13 10:04:31

That approach only works if you can afford it though KnightsWhoSayNi. OP hasn't really given us enough information to work out whether £64 a month is 'that much' or not. But even in best case scenario, that they have £75ish a week for food only and only one small DC, that's still a pretty substantial slice of the budget. it would be all his 'treats' money. It sounds like you and DW can afford your indulgences, so no problem there. But if people have to cut back on other things to afford them, it depends what exactly is being gone without elsewhere.

I agree about addictions, though. In this instance, I probably would want him to get checked out. And is he eating enough protein? He might do well to make that a bigger part of his diet, if he's always wanting to eat.

We can afford some indulgences. Not all of those are ours. In fact, we barely ever drink at all. I was just making a list of things some peopel have.

I've tried getting my DW off the Coke, mainly for her the sake of her pancreas. The interesting thing about that addiction, though, is that when we didn't have much money, supermarket own was acceptable. Now we can afford it, it has to be proper Coca Cola or Pepsi. I;d say it's the same thing as OP's DH.

What I'm saying, though, is it depends on what other habits he has. If he's also smoking and drinking or spending a fortune down the pub or gambling, or any other monetary wastes that people do, then he's costing here loads.

If this cereal addiction is his only costly vice, then it's relatively small.

LeGavrOrf Wed 23-Oct-13 10:13:59

If the OP has to cut back on other necessaries to feed herself and her children that is woefully unfair.

I wouldn't go round trying alternatives from Aldi and sneaking the bag into a kellogs box, or pander to him in that way. If it is plain unaffordable you should be able to tell him 'we are going without x, y and z this month to pay for your Special K'. If he still insists on having this then you have deeper problems than cereal. Hopefully he wouldn't be so selfish.

Buy 1-2 boxes a week. If he wants more, he can go and get it himself.

Scholes34 Wed 23-Oct-13 10:16:44

He won't be getting fat though, because it's for "grown up people who'd rather not grow any more". He's no doubt got a lovely flat stomach to go with the red bikini.

Aslo, I may be accused of sexism on this one, but it's a problem we sometimes have. I require a fairly sizable calory intake (due to being 6"2' and 13st). DW is substantially smaller and requires far less food than I do.

She can sometimes find it hard to understand why my internal organs are beginning to consume themselves after a few hours without sustinance. And is often scornful of this issue. Hence why a bowl of cereal is often used as a top up an hour or two after dinner.

Give him bigger dinners and perhaps he will cut down on top ups?

Has the OP actually said they can't afford it, or is she just irritated at paying for it?

I wouldn't have thought the cost - at less than £2 a day - is the biggest issue here. It's the equivalent of having a take-away coffee each day - yes, a bit extravagant but not a massive issue ? (Depending on family finances)
I'd think the main issue is whether he needs these extra 500-1000 calories a day, and agree he's probably addicted to the sugar. If he's been putting on weight he needs to look at his new habit and question his behaviour - as potentially costing him more than those couple of quid a day.
But also I agree, get him to buy his own, and it may help him see things differently.

SayCoolNowSayWhip Wed 23-Oct-13 10:26:10

Just snorted at the 'we all know you turn into a goddess frolicking in a red frock' grin

Chunderella Wed 23-Oct-13 10:27:12

Hmm I think it depends more on how much they have than his other vices Ni. Whether this cereal addiction is relatively small depends totally on what their income after essential expenditure is. And shrubberies, obviously. I would say that for a sufficiently wealthy family, £64 a month would be nothing even if combined with expensive hobbies, gambling and pub every night. You could say it was still a waste of money I guess, but not that it was a big deal.

ringaringarosy Wed 23-Oct-13 10:33:18

i tried to work out how much we spend on fruit every week but stopped bothering when i realised i spent 15 a week just on apples!i actually panic if i have less than 4 apples in the house (one for each dc)thats not even including pears,bananas satsumas berries grapes and any other "special" fruit i buy.

He will probably get bored of them soon,im surprised hes not already actually!

Mydelilah Wed 23-Oct-13 10:38:21

My DH used to have a coke habit (as in cola wink) had to be branded coca cola and he got through almost 2 2l bottles a day plus smaller bottles he bought from vending machine at work. It was extremely expensive and dangerous. I limited him to 4 2l bottles a week and we agreed we wouldn't buy any more. He managed to cut down to this and often 3 bottles aren't finished in a week now. I think your idea of buying 2-3 boxes of cereal a month and telling him to ration himself is the most effective way forward.

Also agree with pps - he should go to doctors to get checked out - craving that much sugar is concerning and diabetes came to my mind too

Dahlen Wed 23-Oct-13 10:40:15

He's allowed to choose his own diet but only within the confines of the family budget. It simply isn't on for his food fads to be prioritised over basic foodstuffs for everyone else. That's how I'd present it to him. I can't see anyone reasonable disagreeing with that although he may be a little bit in denial about how much he's eating initially.

There are certainly cheaper, healthier alternatives he can go for. Porridge is insanely cheap in comparison and way, way better for him. He can also add lots of different things to it to spice it up and give it some variety.

MokuMoku Wed 23-Oct-13 10:40:15

Yes, Ni the OP has said several times that she can't afford it.hmm

I agree 1-2 boxes a week is plenty.

fluffandnonsense Wed 23-Oct-13 10:43:36

Buy him 2 boxes a week and tell him if he runs out he's welcome to go and buy more!

ouryve Wed 23-Oct-13 10:43:43

Never mind the sugar, there's 7.5g of salt in a 750g box of special K. That's more than the RDA for an adult.

What would your DH do if you refused to buy it? It's not on if his craving is eating into your food budget. If you are in any way afraid of his reaction to not being able to get it, then he seriously needs help.

MillyONaire Wed 23-Oct-13 10:45:15

It is one of the most expensive cereals out there!! Introduce him to bricher muesli or something more economical!

Clutterbugsmum Wed 23-Oct-13 10:53:47

Buy him his special K, but give him Smart Price bean on toast for his dinner. If he complains then tell him you can not afford to feed him dinners as well as his Special K. And you will not be cutting things from the shopping bill to spend £60 a month on one thing for him. If he wants to continue then tell him to buy out of his own money.

Remotecontrolduck Wed 23-Oct-13 11:01:00

It's not awful, but it's a lot of extra food! I do think he should see a doctor to be honest, 1 or 2 bowls is fine but that is a crazy amount. How is he still hungry for his meals?!

If it's just a case of him being greedy and indulgent then he needs to grow up, not a problem if you can afford it but you've mentioned you're cutting back on other things. That really isn't right! You need to be straight with him, doctor or you have 2/3 boxes a week and that's all you can afford unless he's willing to make sacrifices.

FalseWidow Wed 23-Oct-13 11:07:42

imo most people have got something that they really want, whether it's wine, cigs, magazines, etc. that their OH doesn't want, and if you looked at your budget you'd say that's a luxury we should do without. Maybe try looking at everything, and if there's something he thinks you could do without, both of you get it out of your 'own' money, rather than the shopping budget. If he has to fund his own Special K habit he might soon realise it's not worth it.... ?

SidandAndyssextoy Wed 23-Oct-13 12:04:55

Diabetes was my first thought as well to be honest. And if he's also eating a baguette every day, he's eating a vast amount of sugar before the rest of his diet is even considered. There is so much evidence now that sugar does dreadful things to our bodies.

Alibabaandthe40nappies Wed 23-Oct-13 12:12:17

If he is continuously hungry like that then he could be diabetic. He needs to go to the GP.

Unless of course he isn't really addicted, he just likes it and is being an arse.

I fail to see why you are having to worry about it though OP, if he wants it that badly he can go and buy it himself.

Sugar is also extremely addictive, isn't it? The supermarket's own probably doesn't "hit the spot" because it doesn't have the sugar content.

Are you saying risk of diabetes or chance he's craving it because of diabetes? Because sugary stuff can be very addictive. I really don't like not having my chocolate bar snack each day, for example.

Thumbwitch Wed 23-Oct-13 12:15:16

STOP pandering to him!!
Buy one or two boxes a week and tell him when it's gone, it's gone until the next week, or he can buy his own.

But, I do think that his consumption is utterly unnatural - unless someone has started lacing Special K with cocaine or similar, he shouldn't be craving it like that - and I also wondered whether he is becoming diabetic.

If not though, then he's just being a greedy pig and should cease and desist forthwith! Utterly bloody selfish of him to be eating such a large percentage of your weekly food budge, unnecessarily and all by himself.

SidandAndyssextoy Wed 23-Oct-13 12:25:10

Knights, craving sugar can be a sign of diabetes. It can also be a sign that your blood sugar is out of whack, and you need to address that to try to prevent diabetes. If you are craving sugar 1-2 hours after eating, that suggests to me that your blood sugars are not reacting properly and are spiking and then falling, creating low blood sugar and a sweet craving. That can lead to type 2 diabetes over time.

whatsthatcomingoverthehill Wed 23-Oct-13 12:26:45

This is bizarre. In terms of how much he's eating, if it's cereal alone you're talking maybe 800 calories a day. If you add milk it's goes up to about 1200 calories a day. That's half of his recommended calories intake. Unless he's not eating other stuff he's going to start putting on a lot of weight.

DialsMavis Wed 23-Oct-13 12:28:40

I would love to spend that much each month on booze, but we simply can't afford it at the moment. As an adult who can eat/ drink whatever I like, but as an adult I also have to necessary cognitive power to understand that we can't afford that much on treats.... Therefore I can't have them.

My favourite wine cost £13 per bottle. I would like to have a bottle a week. We cant afford it, so we dont. My monthly wine budget comes to around £14, that is 2 bottles. (Unless I need to marinate something. grin )

Inertia Wed 23-Oct-13 12:33:45

Just stop buying it! Buy a box a week and when it's gone it's gone.

Cutting back on the rest of the family's food to afford a box of cereal a day for one person is insanity.

I don't know about this 2,500 calories a day. I usually put away 3,500-4,000 a day, and if I don't I'll lose weight quickly. (I also have a very low fat content - I'm about a 33" waiste at my 6"2', so I'm not overweight.) If I tried surviving on 2,500 I'd be a walking pole within a couple of months.

If he really is craving the sugar this badly, a diabetes check certainly won't be a bad idea. I just thought sugar was addictive to non-diabetics as well.

Dollybird86 Wed 23-Oct-13 12:34:26

The asda version tastes the same! And is about 1/2 the price! My dh is also addicted to cereal but lucky for me its lidel muesli.

That should have been a 33' waste, not a 33" waste. I don't have a thirty-three foot waste.

Mmmm. Lidl's Museli.

shocksmile[schock]smile (That's my impression of an animiated eating)

ouryve Wed 23-Oct-13 12:38:27

" is the correct one for inches, knights

Ah! That went wrong!

shocksmileshocksmile

Is it? I thoguht it was " for feet and 'for inches. Is it the other way around?

RichManPoorManBeggarmanThief Wed 23-Oct-13 12:40:07

Has he got worms?

Also, Special K is cereal dust , sugar and salt cemented into flakes. It's the economy burger of the cereal world. I'm actually quite impressed with their marketing because they manage to pass it off as a highish end product

2rebecca Wed 23-Oct-13 12:40:08

I'd stop buying it and tell him he can only eat cereal if he eats it instead of meals not as well as and he's turning into a greedy pig. Let him shop for it if he wants it.
I'd tell him it's getting silly and has to get a grip and just eat food at meal times and stop stuffing himslef with special k for the sake of it.

nocarsgo Wed 23-Oct-13 12:41:11

I think the cost is a red herring. The main issue is no one needs to eat five bowls of cereal a day in addition to their meals, that's just greedy!

2rebecca Wed 23-Oct-13 12:41:26

I like lidls muesli, but if I'm eating it during the day it's instead of not as well as another meal eg lunch if I'm feeling lazy.

LittleBairn Wed 23-Oct-13 12:44:22

You have my sympathy my DH is seriously seriously addicted to Pepsi and 7up spends on average about £75-100 per month on it. At least he goes and buys the stuff himself and it doesn't come put of the household budget. Still I have to trip over the cases of Pepsi all over the house.

I would insist that his addiction be funded outside of the household food budget.

Right, I'm not even checking this thread again until I've had dinner!

All this talk of museli and Special K and economy burgars. I'm eating the stationary on this desk over here!

umiaisha Wed 23-Oct-13 12:49:09

I buy the Waitrose 'Essentials' version now and think it tastes exactly the same.

Beastofburden Wed 23-Oct-13 13:02:04

Special K is full of sugar. this is a sugar addiction.

Make him go cold turkey for a week, he will stop.

GreenVelvet Wed 23-Oct-13 14:21:41

All those processed cereals are very, very expensive IMO (as well as rubbishy). I'm sure fillet steak is cheaper by weight.

Try Weetabix (less processed, more satisfying!).

Or porridge, better still. I have mine with roasted pumpkin seeds and raisins. Heaven in a bowl. And you're not hungry 10 minutes later.

Maybe the medical comments here are right about cravings and blood sugar problems.

IneedAsockamnesty Wed 23-Oct-13 14:32:17

He's a grown adult he can eat what he wants even if chances are it will make him drop dead or be ill BUT what he cannot do is deprive the rest of his family of needed food to fund his gluttony (love that word even if I was gutted the day I found out it did not refer to an odd sexual practise) on what planet is doing that ever going to be ok.

I've lost count of the amount of women who come into my office hungry and quite frail because they have to starve themselves because the great god man in the house requires vast quantities of food stuff that is not a need and they cannot afford or insists on food or drink way out of the family budget and does not give a shit about the rest of the household. Its abusive wankerish behaviour and is no different to blowing the household budget on special brew.

And most people who over eat to such a massive extent are not diabetic they do so because of learned behaviour boredom and habit and greed some need help but often they just need to stop it.

Sorry if that sounds harsh but last week I had to spend one day at the hospital with a woman who has been surviving on little bits of paper and tesco value squash whilst her husband eats steak most days because that's what he likes.

ifyourehoppyandyouknowit Wed 23-Oct-13 14:43:40

He's eating half a big box of cereal a day on top of all his other normal food? That is weird. Does he have worms?

EldritchCleavage Wed 23-Oct-13 14:55:39

Sock that is absolutely dreadful. Those poor women.

Gileswithachainsaw Wed 23-Oct-13 15:21:20

shock that's awful sock

littlemisssarcastic Wed 23-Oct-13 16:42:42

I'm also interested to know how much milk you buy every week to go with all of this cereal??

Thants Wed 23-Oct-13 17:23:07

Nocarsgo the cost is not a red herring. It's the entire issue. He's allowed to be greedy if he wants just not if it financially affects the other members of the household.

propertyNIGHTmareBEFOREXMAS Wed 23-Oct-13 17:39:54

Yanbu. That sort of money on Special K is beyond the realms of sanity.

grovel Wed 23-Oct-13 17:47:03

Open a box carefully. Put a dead mouse in the box. Re-seal box. Let him open the "new" box.

Annagramma Wed 23-Oct-13 18:11:02

YANBU. We currently spend less than £5 a month on cereal (and have 4 kids, two adults and good cereal for the supermarket). Not necessary and it will be damaging your family. He needs to put finances/the family's food before his own personal favourites.

Chunderella Wed 23-Oct-13 18:37:42

Sock when you say little bits of paper, is that a nickname for some type of food, or is there someone literally having to eat paper? Sorry if this is really obvious and I'm being dense. And what do you do?

mrspremise Wed 23-Oct-13 19:24:48

Cereal killer (sorry) smile

IneedAsockamnesty Wed 23-Oct-13 19:37:07

Its actual real paper apparently it gets rid of the hunger pains. She had been doing it for over a year because the money she had access to was nt enough to feed them both within the conditions he gave so she was eating a combo of paper and the scraps he left on his plate from his beef Wellington and steak and other such basic food stuff.

WANKER

She's in a safe place now ( hospital but will go on to a refuge)

Sidge Wed 23-Oct-13 19:42:47

Bloody hellfire, if he's not diabetic and hypertensive already he will be soon.

Finance aside (and that's a big factor!) his health will suffer over time. Breakfast cereals are not healthy in large volumes.

phantomnamechanger Wed 23-Oct-13 19:43:42

Look, if he is eating all those extra calories, yet not putting on weight, there is something wrong somewhere. Forget the annoyance over the apparent selfishness/greediness, and forget the expense. THIS IS NOT NORMAL - and could be a sign of several illnesses including worms, diabetes and coeliac disease (one sign can be you're really hungry but not absorbing foods properly hence not gaining weight and actually being malnourished!).

Talk to him and get him to see a Dr.

shrunkenhead Wed 23-Oct-13 19:52:06

There is clearly something in this product that is addictive, I notice they regularly try to get you to "drop a dress size" by substituting another meal for the special stuff....this is how they get you addicted and before you know it you're craving the stuff morning noon and night!

Chunderella Wed 23-Oct-13 19:54:04

Wow sock. That's awful.

Strumpetron Wed 23-Oct-13 20:02:06

If this was my DP I'd just say 'oy, that is costing us a fortune you're gunna have to give a bit more to the budget - oh and it's going to make you fat'

done and dusted.

Thumbfuckerwitch Thu 24-Oct-13 14:08:44

Maybe it DOES contain cocaine... that makes you thinner too, doesn't it? Or have I got the wrong drug? [dim]

3asAbird Thu 24-Oct-13 14:29:19

Sock thats terrible he was deliberatly starving her? Dd they have kids?

read about parents missing meals so kids can eat in some cases.

Im not sure if been raised but could ops husband have a binge eating disorder?

got tesco cheapy special k red berries today £1.50 and hardly any berries.

PervCat Thu 24-Oct-13 14:31:30

is he mentally ill?

Thumbfuckerwitch Thu 24-Oct-13 14:32:02

I think my brain must be on holiday or something - I did read Sock's posts and then just ignored it in mine! blush

Sock, that is truly terrible. I can't believe there are still "families" (I use the word carefully) out there where the "man" gets the best of everything and everyone else has to make do with scraps, or in this latest case, paper. These are not "men", they are leeches with no humanity and I'm appalled that anyone stays with them - poor woman, I hope she never has to go back to that situation. sad

IneedAsockamnesty Thu 24-Oct-13 15:12:19

She was pregnant but as you can imagine that situation is not conducive towards an actual birth.

Yes there still are abusive men like this but its ok because they don't actually beat there wives so they must be decenthmm

Apparently they need a million more kcals than everybody else because they are men

Xmasbaby11 Thu 24-Oct-13 15:20:54

How long has it been going on? Likely to be a fad, or going on for years?

DH probably has 3 bowls a day (but sometimes part of meals). It wouldn't occur to me to work out the cost, though - presumably your DP be eating something else instead, eg bought snacks, bigger portions, which all costs money.

I would just point out the cost and encourage him to eat something more nutritious.

Xmasbaby11 Thu 24-Oct-13 15:25:38

I think if you break down the cost of any one item of food/drink it can seem ridiculous, eg coffee shop coffees/snacks, alcohol.

FrankieStien Thu 24-Oct-13 16:17:29

That is so awful, Sock sad I hope things get better for her.

KCumberSandwich Thu 24-Oct-13 18:53:21

buy a shop brand, put the bag inside the special K box. bet he wont notice. Asda isn't far off the mark though it gets soggy slightly quicker.

Howlsmovingcastle Fri 25-Oct-13 10:08:19

So have you had another word with your DH, op? Has he realised that 200 extra calories per day is a wee bit excessive?

I had a special K addiction. The oats and honey one. Started out just having my one bowl for breakfast but then I found myself craving another later in the day.

I put on over a stone in weight and have only just lost it really.

Evil stuff. grin

Anyway he's being unreasonable to be so addicted since they changed the recipe, it tastes awful now.

BeCoolFucker Fri 25-Oct-13 10:50:50

When I first read the OP I thought there was a new variety of Special K called "Special K Addiction" thlgrin

BeCoolFucker Fri 25-Oct-13 10:53:01

do you think it is because bits get stuck in your molars, so it keeps a steady stream of Special K Addiction pumping ever so slowly into your system? Thereby keeping you extra hooked?

I don't eat any cereal at all these days - haven't done for years. I think it's all pretty dreadful stuff, apart from porridge which is OK.

riskit4abiskit Fri 25-Oct-13 11:28:16

Sorry op but this made me chuckle!

Perhaps he has a very fussy tapeworm?

Could you make the cereal go further by specifying it has to have banana chopped up in it? Or use prebiotic yog instead of milk? Or mix it with cheap weetabix?

It could be worse and be a burger or crisps obsession@

volestair Fri 25-Oct-13 15:46:00

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

So does that mean I'm the only one who has to cover Special K in more sugar to make those tastless flakes edible?

HildaOgden Fri 25-Oct-13 15:51:50

Get him a magnesium supplement,it will knock his cravings on the head.

volestair Fri 25-Oct-13 15:52:32

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

Madratlady Fri 25-Oct-13 15:56:24

My DH has a biscuit habit. I buy him a few packs when I do the weekly shop but when they're gone that's it till next week. We can't afford to spend a fortune on snacking. Same goes for ribena (1 bottle a week) and crisps and stuff. I buy plenty but if he eats excessive amounts he just has to put up with running out. He doesn't miss them when he runs out, he just eats more fruit and healthier stuff.

But a thin coating of sugar just starking to dissolve into the milk makes those flakes taste like they are fizzling in pleasure on your tongue as you crunch. Mmmm.

I don't need sugar if it's a properly nice tasting cereal. Like honey & nut anything. Mmmm. Any edible substance coated in honey & nut.

Littleredsquirrel Fri 25-Oct-13 16:13:46

I haven't read every response and she may have already posted here but my sister split up with her ex boyfriend (they lived together) over Special K. They'd just bought a house and he resented her buying the most expensive cereal on the shelf.

I second those suggesting put the own brand stuff in the special K box. Do it gradually. First time take out a third of the real stuff and add in the own brand, then second time do half and half, next only a quarter real. Within four boxes he won't be able to tell the difference. I did it with DS1's crunchy nut addiction. DH also insisted for years that he could only eat real marmite. When I finally confessed that he'd been eating sainsburys own yeast spread for months, decanted into the real marmite jar he was shocked but admitted it taste no different at all.

shock What's shocking about that is that the mere stench of yeast spread, be it value, own brand or expensive stuff, is gross.

Everyone says it, but there are certain things were you can tell the difference. It's like an arguement I once had with my dad and brother. Due to some bizar health kick, they refused to put butter on beans on toast. They insisted I do the same as you "can't tell the difference".

DB made me dinner one day, and when I questioned whether there was butter on the toast, he said that there was. I ate some and insisted there was not. This argument continued. I eventually, with both him and my dad arguing that the toast had been buttered, I agreed that it must have been. What with me being 10yrs old at the time, and they being far older than me. At which point they laughed and said there was no butter on the toast and I therefore must not be able to tell the difference. [cross]

And I don't mean marge as apposed to butter. I prefer marge. But they were trying to push dry toast onto me. This has obviously caused me great anguish for the last twenty years, so I'm glad I got to get that out.

That [cross] should have been angry. It was probably completely irrelevent. But anyway, trickery. I don't like it.

Make him eat the dam cheap stuff and if it's making you cut back on regular stuff, tell him to grow the f* up and get a grip of himself.

Littleredsquirrel Fri 25-Oct-13 16:26:50

I would also be able to tell beans on toast without butter in flash. Of course you can taste it!!

DH insists I shouldn't season mashed potato and add butter to it. He insists that it won't taste any different to the mash his mum makes which is a potato mashed up and mixed with a bit of water. Ewww!

Littleredsquirrel Fri 25-Oct-13 16:28:08

Its not trickery, (you fess up or else its pointless), its "good home management".

volestair Fri 25-Oct-13 16:30:21

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

Without a little butter and milk, mash doesn't bind properly and kind of crumbles! With the appropriate seasoning, it becomes a good soft, consistent gloop.

You can also taste the difference between butter and marge in stuffing, no a similar subject. What gets me about that is that it wasn't as if I needed to loose weight, anyway. I was as skinny as a rake until I was 25. Now I'm kind-of-human width.

Volestair, I'm not alone in my anguish! Perhaps we should start a support group for those traumatized by beans on toast arguements as children.

Blu Fri 25-Oct-13 16:40:45

How much is all the extra milk costing?

There's only one answer, OP, he will have to go cold turkey.

(the Lidl Special Flakes are v good, better than Tesco and Sains own brand)

MrsDeVere Fri 25-Oct-13 16:49:08

I had to explain to DH that apples, whilst good for you, are expensive and that they don't just keep reappearing in the bowl by magic.

I reckon £25 a week on apples is excessive.
And those bloody actimel things that he seems to think are a magic potion.

He has a muesli habit too.

Bastard

Cheaper apples? Cheaper Museli?

Tried those actimel things when theuy were half price. Too bloody expensive to buy. Just get him a Tesco Value Low Fat Yogart. 33p for 4 smile

MrsDeVere Fri 25-Oct-13 16:57:43

I did the cheaper thing.
I always go for the cheapest apples.

Own brand drinky yogurts too. I tried mixing v.cheap muesli with the more expensive stuff.

Its just the amount he packs away shock

It feels wrong moaning about him eating too much healthy food. grin

"I'm having to cut back drastically on other stuff to buy the bloody cereal!"
Then just stop buying the friggin stuff! You're enabling him to be an arse over this. Keep the receipts so you can show him how much it's adding up if he doesn't like it. His selfishness is having a negative impact on the family; don't allow it.

"I buy about 5 boxes when I go on my big shop - otherwise I have to make a special trip back in the week for more"
You don't have to do anything Mittens, least of all go and make a special trip to the shops if he's been so greedy he's run out of it. Just buy a normal amount of cereal so he can have 1 bowl a day like a normal person, and if he wants more let him fund his habit out of his own pocket and go get the stuff himself.

Retroformica Fri 25-Oct-13 17:41:45

I would tell him you are only buying 1 box a week and he needs to make it last.

Retroformica Fri 25-Oct-13 17:43:23

Buy one box a week and don't get any more. If asks for another box don't kick up a fuss but instead conveniently forget.

Just buy him two boxes a week and tell him to buy "extras" out of his own pocket.

There are about 120 calories in one of those tiny 30g bowls. It sounds like your DH is eating at least 300g of Special K every day. That is 1200 calories before he's even thought about other meals.

Perhaps you could get him to do a weekly weigh-in and show him his weight as it steadily climbs.

needaholidaynow Fri 25-Oct-13 18:10:10

He's going to gain loads of weight. All the carbs and the sugar and then the milk as well.

Cereal is evil and quite deceiving. It bloats you up and makes you gain weight. Yuck.

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