...to be surprised at this 2yo still sitting in a baby-stage highchair at the table?

(97 Posts)
HowlerMonkey Tue 22-Oct-13 21:35:56

Our DS1 got shifted out of his highchair and into a booster seat when he was 19mo, in order to make room for DS2 (who was 6mo at the time).

Consequently I was a bit surprised to see a photo of one of DS1's friends (who is 2 weeks younger than him) at his family dinner table in one of those giant highchairs which you'd happily put a 6mo baby in (i.e. very supportive and all-encompassing). I think his mum may have been spoonfeeding him too - if I tried that with DS1 he'd grab it off me with a 'Mother, what are you DOING?' look hmm

The little boy is physically capable of feeding himself (I've seen him do it) and NT as far as I'm aware.

I do understand putting toddlers in highchairs when you're out to imprison them - I do that myself. But at home? At this age? Is that usual? I'm not sure whether we just moved DS1 up really early or what.

I'm not looking for a row or to be told how unpleasant I am; I'm just curious as to other people's outlooks. Thanks in advance!

HowlerMonkey Tue 22-Oct-13 21:36:51

Just realised I never specified how old DS1 and his friend are now. DS1 is 2.4 and his friend is slightly younger.

yawn

DS is 21m and in a booster seat at the table. If we didn't have the booster seat he would still be in the high chair because it's suitable up to age 3.

I don't think it's a problem either way.

SlinkyB Tue 22-Oct-13 21:39:35

Who cares?

pianodoodle Tue 22-Oct-13 21:40:53

DD is 2 and 3 months.

We're happy with either or depending really! She feeds herself regardless of where she sits.

I'll still tend to pop her in the highchair at lunch time. She doesn't nap so it's the only time I can guarantee she's sitting in the same place for half an hour smile

At dinner time and when eating out (rare occasion) she sits on a normal chair round the table with us.

Tiredmumno1 Tue 22-Oct-13 21:41:02

MYOB

absentmindeddooooodles Tue 22-Oct-13 21:41:39

Ds is 2.6. Up until a few months ago I pinned him into his highchair as he point blank refused to sit still at the table and not wander off. Hes been totally capable of sitting on a chair at the table since quite young....but it was more for my own sanity and to ensure he actually ate something rather than buggering off every 2 seconds, and me having to disipline/retrieve/restrain him.

Depends on the child I think. If he had been agreeable and didnt have the attention span of a gnat, he would have been out a lot earlier.

Fwiw alot of 2yo I know are still in highchairs.....the big ones too, as the mothers ( and I agree) dont see any point with buying a new one.

woodlandwanderwoman Tue 22-Oct-13 21:42:33

Either you're looking for a pat on the back or a row... You won't get either from me, each to their own. I really don't think the kid will suffer too much in the long term!

hettienne Tue 22-Oct-13 21:43:38

I think it's one of those things that, um - doesn't matter.

DS is 3.2 years old and has a Tripp Trapp style chair at home so is using the same chair he did as a baby. At my parents' house he is still in a big highchair. At nursery he sits on a little chair and if we eat out he sits on a normal dining chair.

ravenlocks Tue 22-Oct-13 21:44:53

YABU. My twins are in high chairs with harnesses at 22 mths, ones that sit them up at the table (rather than having a tray) and they have a foot rest at their level.

pigletmania Tue 22-Oct-13 21:45:06

Yabu horses fr courses. We have a strapped booster seat for ds 21 months, if we dident the little brighter would run off

elQuintoConyo Tue 22-Oct-13 21:45:10

DS 22mo is still in his Antilop. Am I not doing it right? Is this something else I'm not doing properly? Is my DS a bit behind everyone else's dc? We've taken off the tray so it's against the table where he can reach his food to fling it round the room more easily. Shoudl I be spending more money on another chair? How many chairs will he need before he's in a big chair? And and what age? Lordy, I hope I'm not setting LO back developmentally blush

What's MYOB ?

hettienne Tue 22-Oct-13 21:45:40

Your friend probably just doesn't see the need in buying a booster seat while their DS still fits in his high chair but is too small for a normal dining chair.

HowlerMonkey Tue 22-Oct-13 21:46:09

Thanks to those of you who actually responded informatively!

That's interesting. I guess the fact that DS2 followed rapidly after DS1 (and stole his chair grin) meant that we haven't followed the usual toddler timelines. We did end up having to buy DS1 a booster seat just so he'd bloody stay in one place though!

This may also explain why another of DS1's friends looked confused when we were looking after him the other day and I just plonked him on a chair for his lunch. I thought he just didn't like the food.....

TheRobberBride Tue 22-Oct-13 21:46:34

Does it matter? My 2 year old sometimes sits on a chair, sometimes in a highchair. She has a tendency to get up and wander around if she's not strapped in and I can't be doing with that when I need her to eat breakfast in a timely fashion so we can do the school run.

Thurlow Tue 22-Oct-13 21:46:39

If the toddler isn't complaining about being in the highchair, why would you go out and buy a booster seat? Do you think you would have bought a booster seat and moved your DS over if you hadn't needed the highchair for your DS2?

5madthings Tue 22-Oct-13 21:46:44

My dd is three in Dec and still uses a highchair sometimes, we also have Tripp trap chairs and she will use one of those but if it is messy or she keeps getting down from the table or we have guests and need the chairs then she goes in the highchair.

ILoveAFullFridge Tue 22-Oct-13 21:47:16

Our dc were still in the big highchair at 2. Nothing babyish - just convenient. They climbed in and out themselves. Sometimes they wanted feeding, and we obliged. No big deal.

Our dc all have boosters, because otherwise the table is up to their chests, and we don't like them to kneel on the chairs to eat.

Sparklysilversequins Tue 22-Oct-13 21:47:22

It wouldn't occur to me to have "an outlook on this".

HowlerMonkey Tue 22-Oct-13 21:47:49

MYOB is mind your own business!

I wasn't looking for anything other than an overview of what everyone else does, and now I am getting one. Which is good smile

AngelsLieToKeepControl Tue 22-Oct-13 21:47:49

Your ds would probably still be in that chair of you didn't need to make way for ds2, different situations create different priorities. It really doesn't matter at all, childhood isn't a race or a competition.

ILetHimKeep20Quid Tue 22-Oct-13 21:48:48

You actually spent that long thinking about this?

HowlerMonkey Tue 22-Oct-13 21:50:33

Yes, I did spend that long thinking about this. I have been accused of thinking too much from time to time wink

I never said it did matter, I was just wondering!

Also, I'm pretty sure DS1 would still be in the chair if DS2 hadn't usurped it.

ChippingInNeedsSleepAndCoffee Tue 22-Oct-13 21:51:48

You bought a booster seat - they kept using the highchair - what the hell is the difference?

Your tone is both superior and unpleasant.

Wow, your DS is so advanced. Well done you. Everyone else is just crap.

ICameOnTheJitney Tue 22-Oct-13 21:52:27

I get where OP is coming from. at two and a half it's not really good for the child to be rammed into a highchair unless he's tiny....my friend's DS is still prised into his at 3 and a half ffs and it winds me right up. The poor lad needs to move on.

Beavie Tue 22-Oct-13 21:52:28

Dd is 3.3 and still uses her antilop. So does her friend who is 3.9. They both choose to sit in them rather than a chair, and it suit me because she tends to eat better when she is in it.

thebody Tue 22-Oct-13 21:52:34

if you have kids close together age wise, like we sort of did, then the older one gets shifted on pretty soon. the younger one stays the babe.

my 4 : older 2 16 months apart and the 9 years later 2 more 16 months apart.

it's just life!!

ChippingInNeedsSleepAndCoffee Tue 22-Oct-13 21:53:15

Oh FGS. If you just wanted an overview your OP wouldn't have been full of pointed comments. You were after a row or gold stars...which?

halcyondays Tue 22-Oct-13 21:54:13

I don't suppose it's that unusual. Tbh I can't remember what age my two were when we stopped using highchairs.

mikkii Tue 22-Oct-13 21:54:13

DD2 has just turned 3, at the dining table she uses a trip trapp style chair. In the kitchen she uses the same high chair DS started using at 4 months. It suits us for her to use that chair in the kitchen a there isn't enough room for all 3DC at the breakfast bar without blocking the fridge.

MYOB

HowlerMonkey Tue 22-Oct-13 21:54:38

I never said DS1 was advanced or anything of the sort. I said he got moved up earlier 'cos we have a smaller child.

I was just wondering when, in other homes, highchairs tend to get shoved in the garage. Maybe I should have stated it that way to start with. It wasn't my intention to sound superior, honestly.

ICameOnTheJitney Tue 22-Oct-13 21:54:44

Like the OP I wonder why that's all. Most 3 year olds sit perfectly well in a chair...why not use one? Highchairs take up masses of space.

MammaTJ Tue 22-Oct-13 21:54:59

My DD1,PFB, was in a high chair until she was 3, and fed my me up until 2 at least. She is 18 and survived my not allowing her to grow up, and even grew up eventually. grin

My DD2 and DS sat in a high chair for about a year for meals, fed themselves much earlier and will still be the same at 18 as DD1.

IT DOESN'T MATTER!

runningonwillpower Tue 22-Oct-13 21:55:07

You are being unreasonable. Why are you even comparing at this level of parental choice?

You've got a long journey ahead.

JockTamsonsBairns Tue 22-Oct-13 21:55:16

Goodness, what does "following the usual toddler timelines" even mean? Is this something else I've been getting wrong then?

Note to OP - none of this matters.

HowlerMonkey Tue 22-Oct-13 21:56:32

I wish I could backtrack and ask a general 'When did your child stop using a highchair?' question. I didn't mean to cause this amount of annoyance!

jessieagain Tue 22-Oct-13 21:57:03

Yabu

You had a reason to buy a booster and move your ds out at that age.

I don't see the point of buying a booster yet, no younger dcs and ds 2.5 is happy enough in his ikea one.

We took the tray table off so he eats at the table with us.

I will put him in his highchair for as long as he needs to be in there (which is until he can sit on a regular chair) as long as doesn't mind too much (which is when I will get a booster if if he is still too small for regular chair).

I don't think it will harm his development. Also sitting in a booster seat isn't a development milestone to achieve as far as I'm aware of hmm

ChippingInNeedsSleepAndCoffee Tue 22-Oct-13 21:57:08

I think his mum may have been spoonfeeding him too - if I tried that with DS1 he'd grab it off me with a 'Mother, what are you DOING?' look

The little boy is physically capable of feeding himself (I've seen him do it) and NT as far as I'm aware

I do understand putting toddlers in highchairs when you're out to imprison them - I do that myself. But at home? At this age?

I'm not looking for a row or to be told how unpleasant I am

hmm

thestauntonlick Tue 22-Oct-13 21:57:53

I kept ds in his until he complained his legs were hurting blush. I liked having him unable to run off during meals.

HowlerMonkey Tue 22-Oct-13 21:58:12

Ok, alright, IABU. I am sorry for wondering about things that do not directly impact on my day-to-day life and that I will never actually talk to my friends about because I don't want to inadvertently offend them. I am sorry for thinking it would be ok to ask about it on an anonymous forum.

Sorry. Yeesh.

CecilyP Tue 22-Oct-13 22:00:53

It's not a bloody competition. You needed the high chair for a younger child - they didn't. No problem.

DS wouldn't go in a high chair after 18 months, threw a tantrum when I tried to put him in, so had to manage without. Didn't think it was anything to boast about. And he was so skinny he would probably have fitted the thing till he was 5.

ArtexMonkey Tue 22-Oct-13 22:02:15

It never ceases to amaze me what people on here will find to concern themselves with.

HowlerMonkey Tue 22-Oct-13 22:03:09

I WASN'T INTENDING TO BOAST. Argh.

I have clearly phrased this very badly so I've just asked them to delete it. Sorry to have wound anyone up.

bundaberg Tue 22-Oct-13 22:03:25

does it really matter? confused

ThoughtsPlease Tue 22-Oct-13 22:04:07

Good grief in a high chair until 19m?

Even DC1 was in a booster seat before that, and by DC3 well I'd sold the high chair years before, he had a booster seat as soon as he could sit up, no high chair to be seen.

Oh and he's perfectly capable at 17m of now feeding himself, but given too much freedom with the cutlery, he repeatedly chucks it on the floor, and drives me nuts!

morethanpotatoprints Tue 22-Oct-13 22:05:24

My ds1 was still in his high chair at 2, so what?
He's 22 now and functioning very well, ta.
What's it got to do with you anyway?
YABVVVVVVVu

ChippingInNeedsSleepAndCoffee Tue 22-Oct-13 22:07:17

Jitney - ours doesn't. It's a TripTrap, it pushes under the high oak table, small person is 2.6, we have a heavy tiled floor. It's safer than her sitting on some kind of booster (which she'd need or her nose wouldn't clear the table!!) and faffing about the way 2 year olds do. She doesn't sit in one when out (unless she wont do as she's told - then it's the 'baby chair'), but the tables are normally lower, the floors not so hard etc as well as that natural 'slight caution' they have when not at home.

SPsTombRaidingWithCliff Tue 22-Oct-13 22:07:47

My son came out of me and asked for calamari and twirled his moustache. No need for these baby things, especially high chairs and booster seats.

RandallPinkFloyd Tue 22-Oct-13 22:07:54

Mine never had a high chair. I've only ever had a booster.

<queues up for medal>

jessieagain Tue 22-Oct-13 22:12:02

This is very annoying, now do I have to worry about people judging why ds is in a highchair? angry

Already have had some comments about why he is in a buggy. Answer: because he runs off otherwise and I would get absolutely no shopping done or he would run under a car! hmm Yes he does have plenty of time to run around, this is why we go to parks.

Doh, highchairs are sold for babies stating from 6 months to 3 years!
Well of course some people actually want use out of a product that is clearly fit for purpose for the age it is intended for 6m-3yo!

Why are you intruding into such things as a simple photo of a 'friends' (ahemhmm) child sitting in a fit for purpose baby/toddler apparatus?
Rather judgey don't you think?

AnneOfCleavage Tue 22-Oct-13 22:17:15

FWIW my DD age 9 still uses her tripp trapp Stokke chair for eating and homework and actually prefers to use it than an ordinary chair as it is the correct height and her feet are placed firmly (not dangling iyswim).

No one has ever commented on us still having it but I do wonder how long she'll use it as she's year 5 now. Apparently it can be used until they are 18+ i'm just chuffed we've had our money's worth already

Each to their own smile

scarlettsmummy2 Tue 22-Oct-13 22:18:27

Why on earth do you care? Obviously your child is incredibly advanced. Maybe even gifted wink

JollyScaryGiant Tue 22-Oct-13 22:18:51

DS is still strapped into his Tripp Trapp at 2.6 and I use a high chair for him if we're out for food. He's fed himself since 6mo though. No spoon feeding here. The babyset for the Tripp Trapp will be passed to DD when she starts weaning.

ADishBestEatenCold Tue 22-Oct-13 22:21:41

I have clearly phrased this very badly so I've just asked them to delete it. Sorry to have wound anyone up.

Do mumsnet delete things just because someone has end up looking a bit of twit? I'm surprised if so, seems a strange thing to delete over, but maybe I'm treating that feeling too lightly. I suspect I'm often a bit of a twit! grin

Alibabaandthe40nappies Tue 22-Oct-13 22:23:17

Chipping I thought you said 'a row of golden stars' not or. As if the OP was a Macdonalds employee grin

OP - YABU, and smug.

GertrudeTheDog Tue 22-Oct-13 22:23:37

It's a bloody chair FFS

CuriosityCola Tue 22-Oct-13 22:23:47

I think you are getting an unnecessarily hard time op. This probably would have been better placed in chat.

My ds was in a booster seat at a year and has been sitting without the booster from 2 years old. He could probably still use the boost, but wants to sit like us. I would like to say it's because he is advanced, but really it's due to my lazy parenting style smile

Mumoftwoyoungkids Tue 22-Oct-13 22:26:05

Dd is 3 years 6 months and only moved from a high chair to a booster seat a couple of months ago because her baby brother needed the high chair.

It's a bloom (the egg style one) so there was still plenty of room.

I'm of the view that "if it ain't broke don't fix it" and she was perfectly comfortable and happy in the chair.

She needs something to lift her up as meal times are a big thing in our house (we have "eaten as a family" since the day she started on solids) so they tend to last for longer than is comfortable to sit on your knees.

We stopped using the straps ages ago and she could get herself out so if she hadn't been comfy she'd have just climbed out!

sparkle12mar08 Tue 22-Oct-13 22:26:39

Aw don't worry OP - come back and take your battering like a good girl wink We've all cocked up on AIBU I'm sure!

In answer to your general question, ds1 was out of the big Mamas & Papas monstrosity at 2y 7m because that's when ds2 went into it, otherwise we'd have kept it for longer I'm sure. At that point though, he went into one of the smaller seat-on-chair boosters, for about another two years (he's v short!). Was on a normal dining chair by 5. I think most people just continue to use a first style highchair until another sibling needs it tbh.

gamerchick Tue 22-Oct-13 22:27:15

I still have to mush food up and feed to my nearly 7 yr old op.

Please stop judging other people and concentrate on your own kids.

Brittabot Tue 22-Oct-13 22:27:27

For what it's worth my DS1 (3.5) & DS2 (2) sit in Antelops for meals in the kitchen as they're the correct height for the kitchen counter. They are not strapped in and quite happy to sit there. For family meals in the dining room they sit on chairs. I want this to continue as long as possible as I like having them in the kitchen and normal chairs wouldn't fit.

You do sound a little as though you want confirmation that your friend is a bit behind you in this, but just because you've seen her child in a high chair doesn't mean they can't sit on a chair!

Oldraver Tue 22-Oct-13 23:22:40

DS2 was well over three when he came out of his highchair. He was a little child and no sibling following behind that needed the chair. Even at nearly 8 he has a booster seat as he cant reach the table properly (elbows all awkward). When we are out he manages fine, but the booster makes it easier.

This all falls into the 'doesn't matter one shit' catergory. In 10 years time all this kind of trivia will not matter on jot.

RoadToTuapeka Tue 22-Oct-13 23:30:16

My DS2 (nearly 3) is in a cheapo version of a Stokke highchair, no tray tho, he eats from the table, he is far too small to sit on a standard chair without kneeling/standing and frankly neither of those appeal!

As for whether the mum was feeding her child, well sometimes I still do with mine! Occasionally he refuses to feed himself (since the baby arrived and he gets less attention) sometimes I do hard line feed yourself line, but sometimes I'd rather he just felt special and actually ate something so I will do 'mummy's turn' and then 'littleRoads's turn'.

His 9 month old brother is in DS1's old highchair but we don't have the tray up just eats off the table.

Horses for courses and yabu.

TheFabulousIdiot Tue 22-Oct-13 23:33:10

Just as a overview my ds was onto the high chair very early, though often wonder if that's why he is so bad at sitting through a meal.

Dd1 sat in a high chair then a me too until she was about 3.5. We only had a breakfast bar and I didn't want her falling off the bar stools. She is 4 now and I would think nothing of putting her back in one if she can't sit nicely at the table. I have a friend who dispensed with the high chairs really early for her dc, who stand on their chairs and run around the kitchen and they make me a bit mental wink

OctopusWrangler Tue 22-Oct-13 23:45:56

My not quite two year old needs a high chair. Actually he needs gaffertaping to the kitchen wall but a highchair is more socially acceptable! grin

PedlarsSpanner Tue 22-Oct-13 23:49:29

hah puts me in mind of that poster whose kid 'rejected' the highchair; she did that <tinkling laugh whilst surveying leaden lumpen offspring of her friends> thing

[eyeroll]

havatry Tue 22-Oct-13 23:55:50

I think it's quite normal to have a dc in a high chair until about 2-3. Normal chairs aren't high enough for them until then. As for spoon feeding - some will clear a table of food, others it's a nightmare few years of coaxing and encouraging and desperately trying to get some calories in them. Be grateful you got an easy one.

imnotwhoyouthinkiam Wed 23-Oct-13 00:13:20

Ds2.didn't stop using his 'proper' highchair (mamas and papas prima pappa if it matters) until after he turned 5. He cpuldnt reach the table without it, and I couldn't see the point of spending money on a booster seat when he still fitted in the highchair.

In fact we only stopped using it because it got.left outside in the rain for a few days.and went rusty.

Fakebook Wed 23-Oct-13 00:20:44

What exactly is wrong with a high chair? confused. DS is 21m and still uses his. It's quite big and roomy and he can feed himself too. Why would I buy a booster seat and waste money when I have a high chair? Really? Why?

stopgap Wed 23-Oct-13 00:24:22

Mine is 2.3 and sometimes in the high chair unstrapped, sometimes the booster seat and sometimes in a regular chair. It depends on the circumstances, whether we have guests etc. Not a big deal.

Summerblaze Wed 23-Oct-13 00:24:36

Dd was out of her high chair by 2 but ds1 was nearly 4 when he did. He does have developmental delay but COULD sit on a chair much earlier and did when we were out. But he liked it, he would climb in and out himself too. The mess was contained to one area and I knew he would eat if he was in there. Why would I take him out. He decided himself he didn't want it anymore. I agree. MYOB.

JenaiMorris Wed 23-Oct-13 00:35:23

Anne has kind of beaten me - ds sat in a wooden highchair thing (one of those ones that converted into a table and chair) til he was about 5. It meant he was sat at a comfortable height. He's now 13 and as tall as me, but still chooses the chair with an ergonomic (as opposed to a toddler) cushion to do his hw <shrugs>

DoJo Wed 23-Oct-13 00:41:04

I guess the fact that DS2 followed rapidly after DS1 (and stole his chair grin) meant that we haven't followed the usual toddler timelines.

Indeed - everyone else has the wall planner which tells you what a 'normal' toddler should be doing, and we all follow it slavishly, ticking off the milestones and arranging our holidays to ensure that we don't accidentally use a high chair at a non-approved time in our child's life. grin

In all honesty OP, from the asides in your initial post it does sound as though you know you are being massively judgemental about this, and there's nothing wrong with being proud that your situation required you to move your first child into a booster seat ahead of one of his peers. However you have to understand that this kind of comparison pisses people off because it is both completely irrelevant and wildly subjective - there are many factors which go into the decision of how to seat a child while they eat rather than it being based solely on ability, maturity, dexterity or any other factor which is related to the child's age or stage of achievement.

Morloth Wed 23-Oct-13 00:41:20

DS2 still uses his highchair to sit at the table and he is 3 and a half.

We just took the tray off and push it up to the table. He gets in and out as he likes.

Why does it matter?

ColderThanAWitchsTitty Wed 23-Oct-13 00:46:38

we havent got a table, I suppose I could stick my 2 year old on the lazy boy with a tray.. but I feel like that would end badly... and she is nearly 3 and HUGE. I love her antiklop and will keep her there until she cant bloody fit anymore

NoComet Wed 23-Oct-13 01:09:17

DH remembers sitting in his high chair so he must have been quite old.

(My earliest memory is 2.5)

He does say it was a huge old fashioned high chair.

JellyTopicecreamisthebest Wed 23-Oct-13 01:41:08

my girls 12 and 8 still sit in their trip traps

sleepywombat Wed 23-Oct-13 01:56:12

My 3.5 yo is in a booster, my 21 mo is in a highchair. Will have to buy another booster when new baby is weaning (not for 9 months), as my eldest is small for his age & cannot reach the table properly without.

Like others, I don't understand what's wrong with older children being in highchairs (as long as they're not unattended/climbing out etc)? It works fine for us.

I don't spoonfeed my 21 mo (very independent, aka messy), I did sometimes spoonfeed my 3.5 yo at that age (very clingy - really different personality). He now has lovely table manners, eats with knife & fork just fine.

NewbieMcNewbie Wed 23-Oct-13 03:25:49

I'm sure DS was in a high chair far longer than would be acceptable to some people. He didn't particularly need to be in it. I wanted him in it. It made my life easier. He didn't mind.

I didn't have a second child close behind him though. I imagine small age gaps force you to move through all the stages a lot quicker. We were in no hurry.

flatmum Wed 23-Oct-13 03:40:56

My ds3 has just turned 3 and still sits in his ikea blue highchair that he has been in since weaning at 6 months (antilop or whatever it is called). He also still sleeps in his cot. He is quite small and fits nicely in both - eats well without too much mess and sleeps like a dream. Hence, as he is the last with no one coming behind him, I really dont feel any huge hurry to shift him - though we will soon. I really just need to go down to ikea and buy one of those tall stools for him - bit as he still fits in the highchair (no tray for ages) - whats the rush?

I think with your first you do rush through the stages a bit due to the novelty factor, and both his brothers had to shift earlier due to upcoming siblings.

SantiagoToots Wed 23-Oct-13 04:36:03

It's a fucking chair! Sometimes I sit on a wooden stool (too small for my are), sometimes I slouch on the couch. IT"S A FUCKING ARSE REST!

SantiagoToots Wed 23-Oct-13 04:38:05

It come with sadness I note I've never bought a booster-chair, have I failed my children? Have they not developed properly due to my poor parenting and oversight? sad

MrsMook Wed 23-Oct-13 05:12:28

DS1 changed to a booster at roughly 18m-ish as he was wanting to climb out of the high chair at the end of a meal, and we felt a booster was safer for self service.

He will occasionally request being spoonfed when he's tired. This has increased now we've started weaning DS 2. But generally he will feed independently, and ask for a bit of help with cutting when he's struggling.

He's very independently minded on that kind of skill and does things like that sooner than his cousin who's 6m+ older. They're all different.

JamieandtheMagicTorch Wed 23-Oct-13 06:08:20

OP HAS ADMITTED SIBU.

read the thread

JamieandtheMagicTorch Wed 23-Oct-13 06:09:19

sorry for shouting, and that wasn't addresssed at anyone in particular, just anyone joining the thread .

Yabu. Dd was more than capable of sitting on a
Booster seat at about 19mo, but she wouldn't actually stay there for more than 3 seconds so she was imprisoned in her high chair until she was nearly 3 when she learned to sit still.

Sorry Jamie, just making sure op got the message ;0)

MiaowTheCat Wed 23-Oct-13 07:39:50

If the dining tables clear and both kids are eating at the same time then the eldest goes on a booster seat, if not, then we use the high chair. So what?

MothershipG Wed 23-Oct-13 07:54:28

My 11 & 13 year olds are still using the tripp trapp chairs they had when they were babies, DH and I use them too, do I win? wink grin

cory Wed 23-Oct-13 08:04:34

Some people like buying all the right things, others try to muddle through with as few things as they can.

We never bought a Moses basket (put the detachable basket on the buggy in the cot) or a car seat (didn't have a car) or a booster seat (used highchair until child tall enough to sit on ordinary chair) or a travel cot (put child on mattress on the floor). Just economy, really.

Have a lovely photo of ds in his high chair happily spoon feeding his 5yo sister, so I don't suppose it did any harm.

Featherbag Wed 23-Oct-13 08:04:57

Isn't this a bit of a non-issue? DS (just 2 but at very top end of height and weight centiles) has a highchair at home (antilop) as otherwise he escapes and throws food around, he has a stays-in-place bowl that only works on the highchair tray. He has a booster seat for eating out. It has honestly never occurred to me that someone would give even a millisecond of thought to what my toddler sits in to eat!

imofftolisdoonvarna Wed 23-Oct-13 08:53:41

I am can be a bit of a judgy pants sometimes, but here I think that immortal AIBU line 'why do you care?' could not be more appropriate. We are talking about a 2 year old not a 22 year old.

Although to be fair op has conceded that SIBU.

soverylucky Wed 23-Oct-13 09:08:25

Dd was in her high chair till nearly three. It was much easier for us that way and as she didn't walk till she was over two she didn't have the balance that most two year olds have that is necessary when sitting just on a booster cushion. I honestly think there are greater things to worry about than what age a tot sits in their high chair for. She has grown up fine and has not been damaged by this experience.

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