Menopause anger ... ?

(38 Posts)
GreenVelvet Tue 22-Oct-13 17:21:35

This morning a few irritating things happened, and within a very short time I had such an anger/tension headache I barely knew what to do with myself.

1. First problem - yet another flat/Landlord issue. I kept my cool, but I was hacked off.

2. Then a problem with Royal Mail Complaints - getting through on the phone that is. No post for 3 days and am waiting for an important letter.

3. Row on phone with mother.

4. At the supermarket. The usual drug addicts selling Big Issue trying to beg money off customers outside. One of them persistent and started following me, telling me about his alcoholic father, etc,etc. I actually felt like swearing at him.

5. By this time I'm in a dark mood, angry, and thinking Is It the Menopause? Only on Saturday I shouted angrily at my son because he'd bought the wrong orange juice confused.

Are these anger spikes going to last long? To feel so angry or so stressed that I actually sometimes get "anger" or "stress" headaches at what seems the slightest provocation feels weird.

Other times I'm quite a nice person, realllyyyy....

RegTheMonkey Tue 22-Oct-13 17:39:08

I am quite a placid, tolerant person, but in the early stages of menopause I was like the Incredible Hulk! The slightest thing would enrage me, and I would go from calm to frothing anger in seconds! It didn't last long I think, but it was spectacular while it was happening.

CaptainSweatPants Tue 22-Oct-13 17:41:39

If you post in health people might be more helpful, suggest things like primrose oil, or is that pmt

Anyway since you asked yanbu grin

squeakytoy Tue 22-Oct-13 17:42:32

sums me up lately.. I can fly into a rage at the littlest thing and while I am yelling, I can hear a voice in my head telling me to shut up...

JamieandtheMagicTorch Tue 22-Oct-13 17:44:41

If you really believe the Big Issue sellers are not genuine and/or are harrassing you, then you should report them to the organisation.

JamieandtheMagicTorch Tue 22-Oct-13 17:48:00

But YANBU otherwise. I think my hormones are all over the place.

MrsDavidBowie Tue 22-Oct-13 17:57:42

Know the feeling.
I am also having lots of anxiety of small things eg loud noises.

May go to the drs. I am on HRT which has been great, but maybe I need a different one.

JamieandtheMagicTorch Tue 22-Oct-13 18:10:07

Can I ask how old we are?

Me: 44

squeakytoy Tue 22-Oct-13 18:11:44

44

My mother had her menopause at 40 and said it was over and done with in a year and she had no problems.... grrrr..

Facebaffle Tue 22-Oct-13 18:22:23

If you post this in the menopause topic you will gets loads of great advice.

MrsDavidBowie I started a thread about this. I've just changed my HRT tablets in the hope of feeling calmer.

MrsDavidBowie Tue 22-Oct-13 18:51:00

Am 53.

Facebaffle..what are you on? i am on Elleste duet.

Beamur Tue 22-Oct-13 18:54:03

I have been in a foul mood this week.
I'm 43.
Rats arse.

Littlefish Tue 22-Oct-13 18:56:42

MrsDavidBowie - I'm on the same tablets and have been much calmer since I started taking them 4 months ago. Before that I seemed to feel permanently stabby!

You sound like me OP! I'm 47 and GP said I was too young for menopause! I'm definitely getting more angry, road rage too blush I'm having hot flushes too, think I need to o back to GP!

Venushasrisen Tue 22-Oct-13 19:06:12

Well, I'm past menopause but I get annoyed if I don't get time for myself, whether it's an hour or two round the shops or just browsing the internet. Constant demands and tedious jobs like phoning call centres to sort things out really annoy me, and somehow the rest of the family seem able to avoid these thankless jobs.
Just wondering if you get free time OP as that definitely cheers me.

MoreThanWords Tue 22-Oct-13 19:08:32

46 here - feel as though I've tried every tablet for it!

It's the joint pain that's crippling me - it's excruciating. Not sure if it's low oestrogen still, may need to tweak my patch dosage.

AwkwardSquad Tue 22-Oct-13 19:09:02

I'm getting horribly irritable at the moment and weepy last couple of weeks too. I think it is mostly stress and exhaustion (not sleeping due to stress) but I'm beginning to suspect there is more to it... I really am very irritable! I could bite people's heads off and shout down their necks at the slightest provocation.

I'm 47. Periods still regular but getting lighter and lighter. Hmm.

MrsDavidBowie Tue 22-Oct-13 19:12:30

Maybe I'm just a miserable fucker grin

Facebaffle Tue 22-Oct-13 19:15:38

MrsB I started on Elleste Duet when I was 44. I changed to Novelle Continuous when the monthly bleed stopped but they made me constantly stabby so I've started on Elleste Duet Conti this week. All trial and error I suppose sad

BelaLugosisShed Tue 22-Oct-13 19:18:41

I'm on fluoxetine for menopausal symptoms, it has transformed me from a shouty, tearful, insomniac wreck to a normal human being.

MrsDavidBowie Tue 22-Oct-13 19:43:06

I am sure if I was REALLY Mrs DB I would be fine grin

GreenVelvet Tue 22-Oct-13 20:53:52

I'm 51.

Constant demands and tedious jobs like phoning call centres ... yes, this. I can feel this pressure actually in my head on days like today, Venus. And agree the way to feel better too.

I am 49, back in the summer I felt like homicide could sometimes be justifiable. It seems to have worn off now, there is no sign of periods stopping but the mood swings were horrendous.

dementedma Tue 22-Oct-13 21:42:25

I am 49 and suffering the most awful rages. I am permanently irritable and snappy and I swear I might actually kill someone soon. Its quite scary. What can I do?

OMG. Could I be early menopausal at 41????

That would explain my mood.

AwkwardSquad Wed 23-Oct-13 06:59:14

Maybe we are all justifiably really fucked off, and it's not our hormones at all grin

That would be good....

RegTheMonkey Wed 23-Oct-13 10:11:53

I went into early menopause at 44 after a hysterectomy. The symptoms lasted about 6 months and I didn't/don't bother with HRT. Returned to 'normal' after the 6 or so months were up.

Beamur Wed 23-Oct-13 11:09:07

Awkward. You're right. It's not me. It's them.
:-)

MoreThanWords Wed 23-Oct-13 13:05:02

quint I started hrt when I was 42; had definitely had symptoms before that hmm

Beastofburden Wed 23-Oct-13 13:15:07

see if you are anaemic. That makes it worse

VenusDeWillendorf Fri 25-Oct-13 10:20:29

I read this very interesting article this am about peri menopausal symptoms. http://www.bcendocrineresearch.com/newsletter/v03/n03/Perimenopause__The_Ovary_s_Frustrating_Grand_Finale_s01.php oops here

I'm on the peri side of menopause, and woke early dripping in sweat - nice - with ovulation pains and nipples like rocks! Norks like pregnant ones, but apparently having a lot of oestrogen, and ovulating like I'm in the last chance saloon.

Greetings to the other Venus.

GreenVelvet Fri 25-Oct-13 17:40:38

I actually get "anger" headaches and body pain when under stress, which is awful and takes ages to subside. (I do have another health condition so that could be contributing to that, but I don't know). And the road-rage thing, OMG.

Re. the dripping sweat thing, I had that for a while a year or two ago. It was totally bizarre to wake up soaked through, I was quite worried. But it did subside and I don't get it now smile.

Abra1d Fri 25-Oct-13 17:43:59

This is soooo interesting. I have been feeling Very Cross for the last two weeks. It might be useful because there are one or two people in my life who probably need me to get cross with them and I wouldn't normally dare.

Is it part of the menopause just not to care about appeasing people as much?

Meglet Fri 25-Oct-13 17:55:54

I've had all the symptoms for around a year now, I've even started sweating which isn't like me at all. The bit about wanting to bite peoples heads off and shout down their neck sums me up perfectly sad. The poor DC's have to put up with me when I'm raging about something.

The GP said my blood test results were fine confused. Although it's since occurred to me that as we don't know what my normal / baseline hormone levels were then the GP's 'normal' might be my dropped like a stone, batshit crazy, stabby hormone levels.

My GP said my bloods were ok too, but said hormone tests are usually inconclusive as, like you say meglet we don't know what our 'normal' is hmm I just wish It would stop, I'm constantly hot, my legs hurt, I bleed randomly (although have got mirena coil for heavy periods which has helped) My DM apparently sailed through her menopause and hardly noticed envy

FoxyHarlow123 Fri 25-Oct-13 23:30:30

Another raving madwoman here! When one of my bad moods descends, I pray for my next door neighbour to appear cos I would so enjoy going off the rhicter scale at them. They never do though, spoilsports!!

NadiaWadia Sat 26-Oct-13 06:46:46

OMG, for the last few years I have been (quietly) getting furiously angry about things. Sometimes it gives me a stabbing pain in the head. I even told the GP, but she didn't seem concerned. So it's a symptom of menopause, then? Had not even thought of that, although I am certainly the right age for it.

I am still getting regular periods though, and to be honest after 35 years of them, wouldn't be sorry to see them go!

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