to think, actually, most people are just nice?

(26 Posts)
CailinDana Wed 16-Oct-13 12:40:17

and all most people want is a bit of friendliness and respect?
Two very kind people helped me with my dcs while shopping this morning. They made my day easier and brighter and I think they enjoyed chatting to my dcs (who really had the cute turned up to 100 bless them). Oh and a man put back my trolley for me. No particular reason he just did it. Small things make a big difference.

outragedofsuburbia Wed 16-Oct-13 12:42:12

I agree, most people are nice. Especially in times of need. Its just the ones that are not nice stick in the mind somewhat!

WorraLiberty Wed 16-Oct-13 12:43:30

I agree totally

However, I think it's easy to get a skewed view on how many not so nice people there are out there, because we tend to mention them more.

Fleta Wed 16-Oct-13 12:45:17

Agreed. I always try to do one "nice" thing a day, even if it is only stopping to say hello to someone or giving someone a nice smile.

Make me feel better about myself smile

Ragwort Wed 16-Oct-13 12:48:44

I agree - and I find most people are kind, lovely and helpful. So much so that it always shocks me when you do meet the occasional rude person.

Inertia Wed 16-Oct-13 12:50:29

Agree with you. And attitudes do seem to be transmitted - kindnesses are often carried forward by people, whereas negativity seems to be spread by everyone getting cross.

I encountered a lovely traffic warden yesterday- even they exist!

MomentForLife Wed 16-Oct-13 12:50:56

Yep,agree. I know cynical people who think you're a mug if you do something for nothing and it drives me mad. Its called being nice!

aturtlenamedmack Wed 16-Oct-13 12:51:42

I agree too - unfortunately the negative experiences stand out in your mind, but the reason for that is because most of the time people treat each other with kindness and respect, so when they don't, we remember it.

CoffeeTea103 Wed 16-Oct-13 12:54:36

I agree, a lot of people are generally very nice.

jimijack Wed 16-Oct-13 12:54:51

A gentleman opened the very stiff post office door for me this morning. Made my day as I struggle with the pram.

Thurlow Wed 16-Oct-13 12:58:06

Yes - I think the reason you get so many threads etc about people who have been rude is because, actually, it's rather out of the ordinary. Normally people are quite nice to each other.

KellyElly Wed 16-Oct-13 12:58:08

Agreed and even some people who seem moody or rude are probably nice people having a bad day.

Rummikub Wed 16-Oct-13 13:08:57

I agree too, lots of kind lovely people around. I have had strangers pay my bus fare because I didn't have enough and I now pay it forward to others. A small kindness goes a long way. Really helped me see good in my life at even my darkest times.

moldingsunbeams Wed 16-Oct-13 13:10:44

Yanbu.
Most people are decent.
I always try to be kind and people have mostly been kind to me.

I was very proud of my dd the other day, an elderly man at the till was 32p short on his food shopping, he was having to put some meat back because he was short which meant the cashier had to call someone over to take it off the till for her.

I could see dd squirming and was going to moan at her for being inpatient. She has SEN and hates queues.

But she was basically trying to decide what to do, she took 40p out of her own pocket (grandparents had given her money earlier in day) and handed the 40p so the cashier.

CailinDana Wed 16-Oct-13 13:12:53

Aw bless your dd molding that's so sweet. What was the man's reaction?

MomentForLife Wed 16-Oct-13 13:22:49

Very lovely of your DD.

enormouse Wed 16-Oct-13 13:23:03

These are lovely.

Ds has a favourite waitress at our usual cafe and will always toddle to the counter to say hello to her, get shy and run off. The last time we went in he pinched a small packet of biscuits which I noticed when we sat down. I insisted he take them back so we could pay for them. The waitress refused to accept payment insisting she wanted to treat him and that she loved it when he came in. Cue massive smiles from Ds.

CoffeeTea103 Wed 16-Oct-13 13:24:32

Molding what a lovely dd. Genuinely kind heart. You must be so proud of hersmile

moldingsunbeams Wed 16-Oct-13 13:35:10

He thanked her a lot , he was very old and I think he was probavly a bit embarrassed as she is only ten but she gave it to cashier not him so he couldn't say no. She said if it was her Grandad she would not want him not to have his tea.

She can be very hard work due to her sen so I was proud of her very much.

Loads of people are kind, we have a lady who works in the shop who pays for a tub of lollypops out of her own money for children who have had a bad day, are being good or simply to distract them for a tantrum.

The man who works in a cafe that makes dd special drinks that he is thinking of putting on menu and tells her she is his special assistant knowing how much dd finds things a struggle, She thinks she is really important to his cafe now.

My friend who lives miles away but knows the situation with dds dad and messages every day to ask how she is and praise her on what she has done because he knows her dad doesn't.

The grannies who we posted on their facebook page to say we had seen their knitted items wool bomb on the sea front asked us which item we had got, when we said we had not realised we could take them she knitted dd a huge doll free of charge and sent it to us, wouldn't take payment.

moldingsunbeams Wed 16-Oct-13 13:39:59

We won a holiday and my mum fell very badly while out there, a Greek family stopped and helped me get her up and back to hotel even though we spoke no Greek and them no English.

On same holiday sen desperately wanted something but we just didn't have the money, dd had already paid for a small bracelet 2 euros with the last of her spending money and the shop keeper over hearing the conversation insisted to dd that she had infact already given her enough to cover the item as well and infact too much and gave her her two euros back too.

LadyRabbit Wed 16-Oct-13 13:47:47

Yes, most people IRL are decent and kind and just trying to get along.

People on the Internet and under the guise of anonymity, however...

KissesBreakingWave Wed 16-Oct-13 14:52:17

The problem is that the arseholes fart out so much noise and stink that they get all the attention.

Nancy66 Wed 16-Oct-13 14:55:08

Yes, it's true. Most people are thoroughly decent. It's why we notice it so much when somebody is not.

semirurallife Wed 16-Oct-13 15:02:48

nice thread to celebrate niceness. and i think you're right, its just that as kisses says the noise gets the attention. and the greed... most people don't care and just want everyone else to be ok, but we're not allowed to say that now coz the Daily Fail will call it socialism...

Owllady Wed 16-Oct-13 15:02:55

I agree
I also think you are more likely to share an awful experience rather than a good one. It's liek trip advisor, are you more likely to report a nice meal (that wasn't amazing, but nice none the less) or a bit of fluff on your plates and a miserable waitress?

I personally don't do this grin but I know people who do. One of my husband's friends is an absolute stickler for complaining and it really gets on my nerves

DuckToWater Wed 16-Oct-13 15:04:29

Yes I agree.

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