In thinking its not ok to pass negative comment about names unless directly asked?

(117 Posts)
IneedAsockamnesty Wed 16-Oct-13 11:50:05

No issues at all if your actually asked your opinion but if your not asked

if you are not one of the parents of the actual baby being named or recently named you should do nothing other than smile or say something nice.

Anything else is overstepping rude and hurtful.

SaucyJack Wed 16-Oct-13 12:08:06

Amen. My two have stupid and pretentious names and I've actually had people laugh in my face when I've told them.

TheCraicDealer Wed 16-Oct-13 12:11:57

I wouldn't say anything negative and would try my best to be positive, even if I thought "what the fuck". But I think if you pick an "original" name you've got to be prepared to get some interesting responses from people with little or no filter.

Sirzy Wed 16-Oct-13 12:13:37

What thecraicdealer said

MarthasHarbour Wed 16-Oct-13 12:14:07

My friend is a bit out there and picked a dreadful (IMO) name and middle name for her DS2. I didnt say a word, none of my business and even though i find her a tad hmm i wouldnt dream of upsetting her.

No need for it - YANBU

sonlypuppyfat Wed 16-Oct-13 12:15:03

Sometimes silence speaks volumes.

Morgause Wed 16-Oct-13 12:16:16

I think sometimes you have to.

I'm pleased to report that I'm responsible for a girl not being called Annette Kirton. And a friend stopped parents calling their DS Justin Case.

Sometimes you have to say something.

KittyLane1 Wed 16-Oct-13 12:44:30

I completely agree OP its bloody rude! DD has a fairly common first name but slightly unusual middle name that sounds like a more common name. For example her name is Sarah Lucky Smith (its not, just an example) and neither my parents or IL can get their heads around it being Lucky not Lucy and just call her Sarah Lucy. Irritating!

However my best friend may disagree as her name rhymes and she hates it. Her mum has the same name as someone very famous, for example her name is Doris Day. She then named her daughter Fay Day! She says she wishes her parents had called her Claire like her gran suggested.

PeppiNephrine Wed 16-Oct-13 12:55:04

I wouldn't say a word. My eyebrows may rise of their own accord though.

PumpkinGuts Wed 16-Oct-13 13:03:04

It's incredibly rude if the person is already named. If a parent is about to unwittingly give their child a pun as a name its worth politely mentioning. If you just don't like a name, keep it to your self

meditrina Wed 16-Oct-13 13:06:05

I wouldn't dream of saying anything negative about a name when talking to a real person in RL.

But I do speak up on this board! For this is where people are asking for opinions, assumptions, pitfalls, plaudits and need to take the rough with the smooth.

Fleta Wed 16-Oct-13 13:08:21

I always feel very sorry for people who are so very rude that they are unable to observe even the most basic of social niceties.

Like not reacting when someone tells you their child is called a name that you think is "way out".

If someone says to you - here's my shortlist of names, please tell me what you think. Then fair enough.

TheBigJessie Wed 16-Oct-13 13:12:17

Annette Kirten and Justin Case thlshock

A friend I knew stopped a couple naming their daughter Tia Maria!

They'd always planned on Maria as a middle name, and then they started looking at first names separately, without putting it all together.

Milkjug Wed 16-Oct-13 13:13:23

Agree it's rude. I take TheCraicDealer's point, but the thing is that counts as 'original' or quirky varies wildly from place to place, and within social classes etc. My very ordinary Irish name is exotic and unpronounceable in England; my son's not-much-used Biblical name didn't cause a raised eyebrow where he was born, but has attracted comment in the small, rural place where we now live where all baby boys are called Harry or Louis.

I have recently met a little girl with a particularly awful toddlerish, made-up, frilly name which sounds more like a Tellytubby than a child who will eventually become an adult. I am not remotely judgemental about names - my NCT coffee group where I used to live included babies called Ace, Mindy, Ferdinand, Ophelia, Soren, Jedd. Magnus, Percy and Scarlett-Lily - but in this case I did judge. But silently. There is no excuse for rudeness.

charleslingus Wed 16-Oct-13 13:22:50

I would never comment on a common/top 10 name as being unoriginal and boring or say something like 'aren't you worried about them being one of many' but that is just good manners to keep opinions that may hurt or offend to myself. I don't know why they don't seem to apply the other way round. Yanbu.

DalekInAFestiveJumper Wed 16-Oct-13 14:06:50

A friend once told me her baby's middle name was 'Danger', and I admit I double took and blurted out, "Seriously!?"

I then apologized profusely, because silly as it is, it's her kids name and obviously she must like it. Thankfully, said friend was forgiving,

And on the plus side, the embarrassment of that moment kept me from doing it again. I've since had two students whose middle name was Danger.

IneedAsockamnesty Wed 16-Oct-13 14:45:53

Fair enough in the case of a unintended pun or combo that its obvious the parents haven't thought off or a name likely to have the registrar refuse

But perfectly usual unremarkable names that have been in regular use for a long time or ones that used to be popular but are now in occasional use nothing odd like fire dragon or anything like that just names actual real not made up names?

Asking with the sole intention of saying "oh no not xyz" or snorts of laughter its just rude and hurtful.

somewherewest Wed 16-Oct-13 14:59:06

I mostly agree, but I can't quite warm to 'your baby, your choice' either. If you're getting lots of shock hmm faces, maybe you should...you know...reconsider before you inflict Bilbo or Rosey Blossom on your poor helpless offspring?

IneedAsockamnesty Wed 16-Oct-13 15:18:34

Well who else is going to name a baby apart from the parents?

And seriously I'm not talking about out there names I'm referring (in the situation that has prompted this thread) to perfectly normal everyday names.

The friend who has not long left my house crying because her DH and her wanted to name their baby after her grandmother their older child is named after his grandfather. The name in question I'm pretty sure is in the top 10 (haven't checked recently but if memory serves me correctly from the most recent ONS list) so really not unusual.

FeckOffCupofBatBlood Wed 16-Oct-13 15:28:15

Dalek that would probably have been my reaction to Danger as a middle name too. It's not even that funny or original.

WestieMamma Wed 16-Oct-13 15:30:10

It's also not OK to suck air in through your teeth in that way you do which conveys more disapproval than any words ever could. Looking at you MIL

DreamingofSummer Wed 16-Oct-13 15:45:57

It took all my self control not to laugh out loud when I heard about baby Jupiter

TheBigJessie Wed 16-Oct-13 15:50:48

I am still proud of myself for not reacting to Princess or Bluebell in the baby clinic. grin

MintyChops Wed 16-Oct-13 18:32:55

Unspeakably rude!! I have had one (ex) friend tell me she liked the diminutive of DS1's name but not his actual name (hadn't asked her opinion). Silly cow. That's not why she is an ex friend but it really irritated me.

IneedAsockamnesty Wed 16-Oct-13 19:01:53

I'm not quite sure why people think its ok or that they have some sort of ownership over the decision

picnicbasketcase Wed 16-Oct-13 19:15:32

So have people have been mocking the name your friend wants to use? That is quite horrible, particularly if it's after a relative.

IneedAsockamnesty Wed 16-Oct-13 20:14:38

Yes, it was laughed at and ridiculed for about half an hour along with "you can't possibly inflict that on the child"

Her dh is very hurt and upset (it was his parents and an aunt) that they dd it.

And really its a very normal name fuck it its Amelia.

KateCroydon Wed 16-Oct-13 20:24:44

What on earth is wrong with Amelia?

Catsize Wed 16-Oct-13 20:43:48

I really like the name Hermione but fear the reactions, to be honest. Also like Persephone, but think that would provoke even more wrath! Perhaps bump will be a boy...
The only time I have bodged on this is when I thought a friend was joking when he told me his son was called Clive and I said 'no really, what's his name?'. blush
And Amelia is fine! but perhaps I am not best judge due to liking Hermione

Apileofballyhoo Wed 16-Oct-13 20:50:04

What's wrong with Jupiter or Clive?

IneedAsockamnesty Wed 16-Oct-13 20:52:46

I'm not sure apparently as soon as she said the name the aunt started laughing and the mil said something along the lines of it being an up itself sort of a name and she would be bullied and they all went on about it.

She was ever so upset

MarcelineTheVampireQueen Wed 16-Oct-13 20:55:22

I have a top 10 every day run of the mill name for my son. Someone in my last job asked me his name and when I told her, she sid "Thats a dogs name, you should change it" I said, thats rude, besides he is fucking SEVEN I am not going to change it!

Point is people are rude. Fuck em, name the baby Amelia (Which I like btw, not that it should matter!)

CharityFunDay Wed 16-Oct-13 20:57:11

I am responsible for a woman with the surname "Hagger" not calling her daughter "Sophie"...

Catsize Wed 16-Oct-13 21:00:57

No! Are people really that dim?! confused

FreeWee Wed 16-Oct-13 21:01:17

Amelia is very popular as is Amelie. Definitely not to be laughed at. This is why we didn't tell anyone any of our names so they couldn't veto them with smirks/laughs/comments. I liked Leo for a boy but my DH doesn't. I said "I was thinking of Leo" knowing we'd never go for it as my DH doesn't like it just to see what people would say. Lots of "Oh no. I don't like that" So I'm glad I didn't try it with names we were really going to go for.

Height of rudeness if the baby is already named, and, named or otherwise, definitely rude if it's a family name so someone dear to the couple is called it.

CharityFunDay Wed 16-Oct-13 21:10:56

No! Are people really that dim?!

She was a bit of a prize plum, to be honest. I once asked her if she could change my £1 coin for a £2 coin, and she handed it over without question.

I did wonder whether it was my place to say anything at all, but when I considered the torment that poor girl would go through during puberty, and which would follow her around for the rest of her life, I thought I had to say something.

jacks365 Wed 16-Oct-13 21:18:31

Wish someone had mentioned something before baby jacks was named. Now there's a child who will have problems with her initials as a teen. I would however think it rude if you pointed it out now.

Thesebootsweremadeforwalking Wed 16-Oct-13 21:31:10

What's wrong with Sophie Hagger? confused

squeakytoy Wed 16-Oct-13 21:35:08

S.Hagger......

DisappointedHorse Wed 16-Oct-13 21:37:51

S.Hagger did amuse me!

I have also been told DS has a dog's name, many times. It's not liked we named him Rover FFS. It is rude.

picnicbasketcase Wed 16-Oct-13 21:38:24

What the hell? Amelia is a lovely name! There is no reason for anyone to react violently against it other than to just be a cruel shit.

Thesebootsweremadeforwalking Wed 16-Oct-13 21:45:18

Oh blush

<<frantically checks that own DC have not been similarly afflicted by accident>>

I did once meet twins called Sam and Ellie at a baby group, and had to leave the room for a moment.

Nottalotta Wed 16-Oct-13 21:47:28

I love the names victoria and edward. But our surname is wood.....

Tbh i wasn't keen on my sisters name for her second child and expressed preference for one of her other choices. But she chose the one i didn't like so i shut up.

Amelia is lovely.

Thesebootsweremadeforwalking Wed 16-Oct-13 21:54:00

Posted too soon.

ButI would not have dreamt of saying anything to their mum as it's none of my business.

TheBigJessie Thu 17-Oct-13 14:13:58

Amelia is fine, surely. I may be biased, as I named my chair that.

Look, I was seven, alright? was weird child Our dictionary had a section for boys' and girls' names. This means I have used up most of the girls' names I like on Barbies. If I have more than one daughter in the future, this will make things awkward!

Wasn't Amelia the top name last year for girls in the uk?

I would be nice in real life, but I give my honest opinion online. Because I think the world has plenty of Braydens, Kaidens and Loo-cees.

What's wrong with twins called Sam and Ellie?

ColderThanAWitchsTitty Thu 17-Oct-13 14:29:52

salmonella?

delasi Thu 17-Oct-13 14:40:28

an up itself sort of a name

I'm coming across this more and more, some people thinking that certain names are 'snobby'. I could possibly understand that some people might think that a name like Jonty Tarquin Chalmondeley III was on the 'posher' side of things, but it's just a reflection of the parents having named the child. Ridiculous to attribute something like snobbery or 'up oneself' to a baby's name hmm

DS has a name that seems to divide people into 3 groups - it's posh, it's for an old man, it's lovely. Maybe when he retires he'll be all 3 grin

captainmummy Thu 17-Oct-13 14:43:03

I knew someone with a dd called samantha and a ds called samuel - apparently she never called them by the diminutive...

Also when I was in hospital having ds2 the cow woman girl across from me told the nurse her newborn dd was called 'Amber'. Nurse says 'oh I used to have a dog called Amber.' grin grin

DreamingofSummer Thu 17-Oct-13 14:57:07

Apileofballyhoo Really?

Naming a boy Jupiter would lead to a lifetime of ridicule. It's the name of the largest planet - a gas giant with a great red spot or the King of the Roman gods who hurled thunderbolts every which way. Either way the poor lad will have the piss taken out of him unmercifully

ColderThanAWitchsTitty Thu 17-Oct-13 15:00:16

Names are either up themselves or chavvy ime. I have one of each according to mumsnet apparently!

MoominsYonisAreScary Thu 17-Oct-13 15:11:18

dreaming someone was thinking of doing just that in the baby names section a few weeks ago.

A friend stopped me from inflicting dc1 with the name Sharna Giles, although turns out he was a boy anyway

DreamingofSummer Thu 17-Oct-13 15:14:08

Moomins Please tell me they didn't do it.

charleslingus Thu 17-Oct-13 15:16:01

My godfather is called Jupiter and he's bloody fabulous, a seemingly unscathed and well rounded individual.

charleslingus Thu 17-Oct-13 15:18:54

(To be fair we all have unusual names, and growing up I would never have even questioned his name. He was just Jupi or Jupiter, as normal as Pete or Peter to a small girl)

Jengnr Thu 17-Oct-13 15:19:41

I spoke up once when my brother's friend was considering Tyler for a boy.

Their surname is Taylor. I think I did the right thing.

badtime Thu 17-Oct-13 15:20:27

I find it weird that people think that 'Jonty' is a posh name. I knew a few Jontys when I was at school (I'm from NI) - it was a fairly normal nickname for Jonathan.

PeppiNephrine Thu 17-Oct-13 15:22:14

which bit of ni though? To most people Jonty is an incredibly posh name.

MoominsYonisAreScary Thu 17-Oct-13 15:22:26

Dreaming no they called him Apollo iirc, cant remember what they called the girl though

QueenofallIsee Thu 17-Oct-13 15:30:11

I read an article in a trashy paper about a couple who named their poor baby Drew Peacock - seemingly didn't realise their error until well after baby was named and registered.

Amelia is lovely - anyone that thinks its OK to do down someone else choice like that (most especially due to some idea of poshness) is not someone who should be allowed to influence naming.

captainmummy Thu 17-Oct-13 15:30:30

dd would have to be Venus then, Moomins?

badtime Thu 17-Oct-13 15:49:10

I think it was Artemis.

delasi Thu 17-Oct-13 15:50:00

badtime I wondered when I wrote that if someone would say one or all of the names were in fact not 'posh' grin Afaik in England the more common dimunitive/nickname for Jonathan would be John or Johnny - Jonty seems to only be used in, er, 'posher' circles?!

My favourite name/nickname however has to be Sir Jock Stirrup. I find it hard to take the news seriously when he is involved... so childish

HavantGuard Thu 17-Oct-13 16:00:30

It was the top name in 2012 with 7,061 baby Amelias born. So tell your friend that it's her, her DH and the UK population vs her idiot MIL.

nonmifairidere Thu 17-Oct-13 16:06:12

Oh yes, Jupiter, poor kid. I would never comment unless asked, then I would be honest.

I have no problems being 'frank' on the Baby Names section; if you ask for opinions about your supposedly uber cool, clever choice, 'unusual' names, it's to be expected. I'm sure little Pomegranate, Medlar and Tankeray will be thrilled to be so 'unique'.

delasi Thu 17-Oct-13 16:20:22

grin at Tankeray.

Or Li'l Tank, as we like to call him.

sashh Thu 17-Oct-13 17:21:49

Is this just to the parents though?

A friend's brother has just announced the name of his son and we have both been shaking our heads.

But neither of us has said anything to the parents, and they won't find out.

Caitlin17 Thu 17-Oct-13 18:12:26

Amelia is lovely. Less keen on Amelie, did anyone use it before that film.

I'm also not keen on names which are diminutives being used as proper names and don't see why one can't use the full name on the birth certificate and use the diminutive if you want. It gives the child the option of using a grown up name later if they want.

I'm also not keen on surnames being used as first names. I know that might be illogical as all names were just names if you go back far enough.

And finally not all unisex names are unisex. Evelyn, Hilary, Vivien, Lindsay are are, albeit the latter two have m and f spelling, but there are others being used as girls' names which aren't.

I'd never say anything to the parents.

ohmymimi Thu 17-Oct-13 18:18:43

delasi - thlwink

Thisghosttrainisreversing Thu 17-Oct-13 18:45:30

My friend gave her baby an old lady name. I like it and it suits her. We bumped into a lady we both knew in town and after cooing over the baby she asked what she was called. When my friend told her she actually said "oh my fucking Christ, you are joking aren't you?! That's fucking disgusting" and walked off shaking her head. My friend burst into tears, it was an attack on her beautiful DD.

Some people are just vile.

delasi Thu 17-Oct-13 18:56:06

Thisghosttrain shock

What I find particularly strange is that when these babies are adults, and they introduce themselves as Kayden or Jonty or Amelia or Emma-Louise, no one will care. I highly doubt anyone would say, "Woah, why did your parents name you that?!", unless it was truly bizarre.

Some people argue that certain names can 'close doors', and there has been research to that effect, but that's a slightly different matter. Fwiw I knew a successful PA to executives who was called Princess, so a non-traditional name doesn't always close doors smile

Fraggle3112 Thu 17-Oct-13 18:59:39

DS has a traditional first name and traditional middle name which is after my dad. One of my closest friends first comment after I told her his name when he was about 5 hours old was,"oh I hate it, how dull" she to this day continues to tell anyone and everyone that while DS suits his name now it's not what she would have chosen! I was hurt but decided to let it go as I know she meant no harm. YANBU OP some people just have no tact!

MrsKoala Thu 17-Oct-13 19:03:53

I fucking hate this. We have loads of comments like 'ooh that's a mouthful' and 'what a big name for a little baby' 'he'll be half way thru his exam before he's finished writing his name' It's three syllables FFS!

And don't get me started on people who pretend they can't say it. It's THREE VERY EASY SYLLABLES said in every day use.

Oh and Artemis is on my list for the next DC smile I love it.

IneedAsockamnesty Thu 17-Oct-13 21:14:16

* charleslingus*

I'm pretty sure your RL name is the one I'm giving to my daughter whose being induced in 2 weeks, I'm not a cyber stalker or anything I just remember it from another thread because its the name I'm giving her.

lifeinthefastlane1 Thu 17-Oct-13 22:19:56

Im a fan of lesser used names, but not chavvy ones, unfortunatley the name I gave my DD does not translate well in our hideous hull accent to the rest of the uk, I didnt notice this at all until this summer when she was trying to tell the friends she made on holidays her name, they couldnt get it at all and as dd is only 4 she doesnt know she has an accent yet so couldnt explain it to them blush

MoominsYonisAreScary Thu 17-Oct-13 23:23:11

MrsK boy or girl though? I always thought it was a boys name

TheBigJessie Thu 17-Oct-13 23:48:46

visualiseAHorse

If you say the names fast together, as people will be doing each day...

Come on Sam and Ellie, we'll be late
It'll turn into Salmonellie (salmonella) or smelly, depending on accent.

MrsKoala Fri 18-Oct-13 04:00:59

Moomins - for a girl. She was goddess of the hunt iirc.

Sunnysummer Fri 18-Oct-13 04:26:37

Artemis definitely for a girl. So many books (ok am now sharing my trashy tastes in reading during night wakings) seem to have Artemis as a male name. Not usually hugely pedantic, but this one gives me the rage, not least because I'd love it for a girl but DH thinks way too masculine (as well as
too fancy for the like of we hmm)

MrsKoala Fri 18-Oct-13 04:43:14

Sunny what prole names are you allowed then? wink My sons name is a Spartan name and i love it just so much - we couldn't give a shiny one if people don't like it, that's fine, i don't like the sound of some names either. But i hate it when people start making the 'posh' noises or eye rolls or say he will be an x because of his name. It is a beauteous name and i feel genuine joy whenever i say the word. it also suits him very much and if we have a little girl next she will be Artemis or Persephone to go with our little Spartan and every inverted snob can shove it up their arse! grin

SprinkleTwinkleMagic Fri 18-Oct-13 06:42:25

I found people to be damn rude when I was thinking of names when I was pregnant. Befire I foubd out I was expecting a boy I liked the name Aurora for a girl, my sister and dad really took the piss, i was fuming. So after that whenever people asked if we had picked any names I told them Grizelda for a girl and Hagrid just tovsee peoples reactions lol.

MoominsYonisAreScary Fri 18-Oct-13 07:01:01

We liked Darragh but everyone hated it

kerala Fri 18-Oct-13 07:12:22

When I told the other mothers on the ward dd2s name there was silence they didn't say anything! Which shook my confidence rather. Still when they finally decided on their names (Ben Tom etc) I gushed how lovely despite thinking utterly dull. Just politeness surely. Dds name is amazing and suits her perfectly.

MoominsYonisAreScary Fri 18-Oct-13 07:23:16

Hey Kerala l have a Tommy! grin

Jacksmania Fri 18-Oct-13 07:34:44

I once stopped someone naming her daughter "Destiny Raven Dawn" by blurting out "she's going to hate you for that". Friend stomped off in a huff. Complains to mutual friend. Who fortunately said "I agree with Jacks".
Friend's daughter was eventually named something different and lovely IMO.

I'm still in the doghouse grin
I don't care a tiny bit.

I have a horrible first name, I can never introduce myself without someone saying "huh?" or "what?" or "how do you spell that??" or my pet hate "where's THAT from???" my parents, you fuckwit, that's usually where names come from. All of which is really fucking rude, so, OP, YANBU in the sense that I've had this name for a long time and commenting on it is just really bloody rude, but on the other hand, you have no idea how much I really wish someone had spoken to my parents before I was named and pointed out that they were setting me up for a lifetime of the above.

God, how much do I wish my name was Claire!!!!!!

musicismylife Fri 18-Oct-13 07:59:44

I'm not quite sure why people do get their knickers in a twist about other peoples' CHOICE to call THEIR child hmm

It's not as if you have to answer to it so what does it matter.

I remember that thread about the middle name Mae/May being used as a middle name and it's so common, blah blah blah.

I did think that the poster of that thread just sounded a judgemental twat.

charleslingus Fri 18-Oct-13 09:33:59

Oooh sockreturningpixie I LOVE my name, your daughter is a lucky little one. I once met a person who told me it was her middle name, I later found out it wasn't, she just loved it so much she told everyone it was!
So the box and Adrian mole jokes are all worth it.

I jest, no one's ever ribbed me about my name.
Have you decided on Middles yet? Good luck!

IneedAsockamnesty Fri 18-Oct-13 09:47:05

I have two middles to chose from but going to decide that when she comes out

MatryoshkaDoll Fri 18-Oct-13 09:53:05

I told MIL that when DD is born she's going to be called Beatrice and she turned straight to DP and said, 'oh I don't like that'.

I wasn't fucking asking you, MIL!

I have never, ever commented on a name choice. Even if it's horrendous. DP's best friend just had a DD and they've given her the ugliest name imaginable - think 'Agatha' or 'Enid', but even worse than that.

When we heard, DP and I both plastered on the smiles and said 'how lovely'.

What's wrong with Darragh?

There are a couple of different spellings but it is a very old Irish name.

crumpeteater Fri 18-Oct-13 10:17:30

I had very negative reactions when I was pregnant with DD and we chose Hugo as a potential boys name. It seems quite popular now, but 8 years ago I ridiculed as a pretentious loon and told in no uncertain terms that he would be bullied throughout school for his silly name. In the end I chose my potential names and didn't tell anyone until after DD was born.

FWIW I think Amelia is a nice, ordinary name. And I mean ordinary in a good way!

persimmon Fri 18-Oct-13 10:20:23

An acquaintance named her DD a name starting with K with the surname Hunt.
Someone should have said something.
But if you just don't like the name, keep schtum, unless it's a really close friend and the name is unbelievable awful.

persimmon Fri 18-Oct-13 10:20:37

unbelievably

IneedAsockamnesty Fri 18-Oct-13 10:54:47

I don't think I would ever say I disliked a name unless I was directly asked.

Tbh I wouldn't notice if it made a funny combo my brain does not work that way unless they are very obvious.

MoominsYonisAreScary Fri 18-Oct-13 10:54:55

Dont know little friends/family just didnt like it at all

foslady Fri 18-Oct-13 12:20:10

One of my pet hates is this. It takes a lot for me to hate anything but I REALLY hate it when people judge on names and feel they have a right to mouth off about it. I'd much rather have a parent with a child named because it's the name they love than because everyone hated the name they wanted.....

AdmiralData Fri 18-Oct-13 12:24:12

YANBU, OP. The name I wanted to call my son was sneered at by everyone to the point where I changed my mind and now he has a bog standard, normal and slightly boring name. However I still love him to bits (obviously) As long as it isn't anything that could cause offence eg, titzilla or HItler people should keep harsh opinions to themselves.

DreamingofSummer Fri 18-Oct-13 12:27:12

A close relative of mine who is a nurse had to talk a mother out of calling her daughter Klamydia. She liked the sound and thought it would be all right if spelled with a K

PeppiNephrine Fri 18-Oct-13 12:33:26

Thats another urban myth. It's even on snopes (its from the US and deemed to be an offensive joke)
here

I knew someone at school named Ursula Ryan. Not good.

PeppiNephrine Fri 18-Oct-13 13:20:05

I don't get it.

Spanglemum Fri 18-Oct-13 13:42:25

My DD has what is considered to be a 'chavvy' name. I don't care, it's her name, it was chosen for a reason and she likes it. The name snobbery on MN is one of its less attractive features. YANBU OP

Apileofballyhoo Sat 19-Oct-13 11:18:59

U. Ryan, Peppi.

Alisvolatpropiis Sat 19-Oct-13 11:54:09

It depends on how close I was the person.

I would expect honesty from my closest friends as they would from me. People I know less well would just get the nod and smile. When a friend of my dp girlfriend was pregnant I did that when she told me their boy name. Fortunately they had a girl.

Though I must admit I struggle to understand it when posters post on the baby name board on MN asking for opinions and then get shirty when people offer them in a polite manner. Obviously there are limits though. I find it fascinating when somebody asks for opinion on x name to go with y siblings name and people focus on the already very much named sibling. That's just deliberately seeking to be rude surely?

U. Ryan, Peppi.

I still don't get it? confused

Apileofballyhoo Sat 19-Oct-13 12:42:27

Urine.

Ah, ok, is it an accent thing then? I don't pronounce Ryan like that so got a bit confused. Sorry blush

AndYouCanDance Sat 19-Oct-13 12:55:17

I gave my son a one-syllable first name.
DM said "oh you can't call a baby that. It's so abrupt" hmm

Well he is now almost a man and his short name suits him perfectly.

PeppiNephrine Sat 19-Oct-13 13:50:42

U. Ryan doesn't sound anything at all like urine.

Along the same vein, please don't say, "But that's a BOY'S NAME".

Yes, it traditionally is. I don't give a fuck. That's my daughter's name, and repeating it and then uttering the above sentence will make me want to punch you in the face.

It's not even as if it's unheard of as a girl's name. Just unusual.

So as not to drip feed, she is Cameron.

Alisvolatpropiis Sat 19-Oct-13 15:40:33

Bunty

I would possibly do a slight double take, but it's because my brother shares the name not because I'm inclined to ranting about it being a boys name per se. It's not on heard of. If you had called her Jonathan they may have a bit more of a point.

Worse still David Cameron came into office I'm not always immediately sure who people (who know my brother) are referring to when saying "Cameron is such a knob" grin

I had an ex who started a conversation about how much he hated surnames as first names and used my brother (and your daughters) name as an example. I wasn't exactly impressed. It didn't last.

AndYouCanDance Sun 20-Oct-13 01:48:55

I like Cameron as a girls name. It's lovely.

Strokethefurrywall Sun 20-Oct-13 02:19:37

Bunty I love Dylan for a girl. Is one of the top choices if this hobbit turns out to be a she but we're plenty aware that it will get lots of raised eyebrows and "but it's a boys name!" - I don't give a toss, it's my baby and I'll name it what I want!

I don't think having a boys name has done Cameron Diaz any harm... I think Cameron is ace on a girl.

skinoncustard Sun 20-Oct-13 02:30:09

I really wanted to call my DD Verity until my DH pointed out our surname begins with the letter D . The name sounded great, pity about the initials !

Cluesue Sun 20-Oct-13 02:58:45

My dd is Devan,i had a lot of negative reactions and over the phone with strangers they assume she is a he a lot!

kiwik Sun 20-Oct-13 09:10:29

I've had lots of negative comments about my youngest DS's name. I don't really care what others think (other than that they are rude), as I love his name.
He's Horatio, but called Ray most of the time, as DS2 couldn't say Horatio and it stuck. smile

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