About drinking alcohol in front of children?

(81 Posts)
stoopstofolly Sun 13-Oct-13 13:59:13

My DH and I are not big drinkers IMO(compared to our pre-children 20s!). We'll share a bottle of wine on Sat might if we're not going out and sometimes my husband had a bottle of beer in the evening after work. No more than 3 per week, as that's all I buy! We don't eat together much as a family during the week as DH works long hours , but always eat together every breakfast, Sat lunch and Sunday dinner. Sun dinner is at about 5.30. We've got into the habit if having a glass of wine at Sunday dinner (children are 7 and 3 and have water!). We don't drink the whole bottle at dinner- usually just a (large) glass, and then finish it sun evening/ Monday evening once children are in bed.
They have NEVER seen us drunk or really even tipsy.
My American friend was horrified by this- she said by drinking in front of the children on Sunday we were normalising alcohol use...
Now, I know that I'm exceeding the maximum daily units twice a week, but I hadn't really thought about what message this sends to the children. Do other people drink at family mealtimes or us my friend just reflecting a more puritanical American approach...?

I think drinking a small amount of wine with a meal is a very healthy thing to see. Far better than learning to be quiet on a Saturday morning because Daddy is hungover.

lizzzyyliveson Sun 13-Oct-13 14:02:48

Americans are weird about alcohol. A friend emigrated there and her new friends thought she had a drinking problem because she drank wine at home on an evening by herself. It's apparently not the thing to do in that area.

Beastofburden Sun 13-Oct-13 14:03:06

I think your drinking is entirely moderate in European terms. I have noticed that some Americans react to alcohol as I do to smoking- any amount is too much, and never in front of kids.

I think I would argue that of course you are normalising alcohol use- that is kind of the point. You are getting your DC to see normal, responsible family drinking as part of life. That's the European model.

I wouldn't get through a whole bottle with my own DH, binge drinking (which this is, though only just) is not a great idea. But have a glass less each, and I can't see what there is to complain about, TBH.

NotCitrus Sun 13-Oct-13 14:04:40

YANBU - and your friend is reflecting a particular puritanical minority of Americans (so yes it's a cultural divide, but there's even larger cultural divides on alcohol within the USA).

Tell her damn right it's normalising alcohol as something to be drunk one glass only on occasion, by adults, with a meal, and let her either chill out or get stuffed.

Lj8893 Sun 13-Oct-13 14:05:33

I think Americans have a very different view to alcohol than Brits and Europeans. A glass of wine with your meal in front of your children is absolutely fine IMO!

kali110 Sun 13-Oct-13 14:05:35

Op dont take any notice. Your not getting pissed every night in front of them!
My parents would have few drinks in week wiyh dinner, made me realise you can have few frinks socialising without getting paralytic.

stargirl1701 Sun 13-Oct-13 14:05:41

Americans can find normal European levels of social drinking very odd. I wouldn't worry. It's just different cultural perspectives.

Custardo Sun 13-Oct-13 14:05:43

god perfe t parenting bullshit. nothing wrong with getting plastered every now and again imo

and i definatley don't think your drinking enough

AlexaChelsea Sun 13-Oct-13 14:06:14

Half a bottle of wine is not binge drinking.

Anyway, YANBU. You're friend is ridiculous.

quoteunquote Sun 13-Oct-13 14:07:22

Has your USA(?) friend ever been to france? Where parents give children watered down wine with meals, the french have far few problems with youth drinking than either the UK or the USA.

demonstrating sensible participation is perfectly sensible,

Having been a teenager in the USA and here, I would say, that part of their huge problem, is because the adults don't engage in sensible demonstrations of alcohol consumption and expect total absence , USA teens go crazy on the stuff, and take far more drugs as it easier to get hold of.

Renniehorta Sun 13-Oct-13 14:08:15

Ridiculous. Americans have some very strange ideas about alcohol. Left over probably from the years of Prohibition. The state where I went on holiday this summer only permits spirits to be sent in state monopoly outlets.

Also some states do not permit under 21s to drink alcohol. So they are bound to have different views to the average Brit.

PasswordProtected Sun 13-Oct-13 14:08:25

Normalising alcohol use?hmm
Well if you were throwing back vodka or alcopops out of the bottle, possibly, but what is wrong with having a glass of wine with a meal?
It is normal in large parts of Europe. Far better to put consumption into context, surely?

dietcokeandwine Sun 13-Oct-13 14:09:57

I think what you describe is absolutely fine. I would happily do similar. I also have friends from the US who would happily do similar! As someone else has said, there are huge cultural differences, and differences of opinion on alcohol, within the US itself. You've obviously encountered someone from one of the more extremist puritanical parts.

I would keep doing as you are tbh.

Canthisonebeused Sun 13-Oct-13 14:11:16

It's ok to normalise alcohol use. It is a normal aspect of many healthy adult lives. What you are doing is fine.

DisgraceToTheYChromosome Sun 13-Oct-13 14:11:31

How about telling your American friend that 14 year olds can drink with a restaurant meal in the UK?

That'll make her shock

Libertine73 Sun 13-Oct-13 14:12:00

Oh Lord, don't send her round here! YANBU

hettienne Sun 13-Oct-13 14:12:35

Having a glass of wine with dinner is normal so I am fine with it being normalised for children.

stoopstofolly Sun 13-Oct-13 14:13:41

Phew! Feeling better. It really hadn't occurred to me that it might be a problem- I remember being upstairs for some parties that my (then early twenties) parents threw in the 1970s and probably witnessed a lot more unsafe drinking- emerging unscathed! smile. She was just SO SURE of herself I had a wobble. Damn it - I'm European.

ChippingInNeedsSleepAndCoffee Sun 13-Oct-13 14:14:17

What you are doing is perfectly fine and normal. Even if your children see you a bit tipsy sometimes it's really not going to do them one bit of harm. Drinking alcohol, as an adult, is normal - why would you want to hide it from your children?

We were always allowed to taste it if we wanted to (with warnings we probably woudn't like it!), had the odd shandy in the summer and as we got older were allowed a bit if we wanted it. I have a very 'take it or leave it' attitude to alcohol, never needed to hide it or binge as an (older) teenager - it was never the 'forbidden fruit'.

Some people have an odd attitude towards children seeing adults drinking alcohol - I suggest you <shrug> and let them get on with it whilst you enjoy your wine

MissMarplesBloomers Sun 13-Oct-13 14:15:18

Of course you are normalising MINIMAL alcohol consumption and when they are older maybe they will have a well watered down glass with their meal too.

That way it becomes a sociable , well monitored thing & not the forbidden fruit that leads to over consumption.

I have always had this attitude to drinking with mty DD's and we have talked about the perils of overdoing it & yes they have giggled at me getting tipsy on occasion and alcoholism etc.

One DD never touches a drop as she doesn't like the taste the other is always up for trying a sip of mine & is learning about different types of wine & what she likes, in a safe controlled manner.

There are worse things that the Americans could worry about like their attitude to guns!

insancerre Sun 13-Oct-13 14:15:45

Good God, Americans are so weird
Normalising alcohol?
Alcohol is normal in our house
Their attidtude to alcohol amazes me given their laissez-faire approach to gun ownership
I know which I would find more dangerous between a gun and a bottle of wine

wearingpurple Sun 13-Oct-13 14:15:50

Well, the ready and legal availability in all supermarkets, plus the existence of dedicated establishments for drinking the stuff, in in large number, across most of the western world, suggest to me that drinking alcohol is indeed 'normal'. So I'm not sure how you can 'normalise' it.

I have American friends who drink wine at home as well, so I wouldn't say she was exactly typical.

Bloody hell. Drinking wine is the only way I can parent wink

TheNunsOfGavarone Sun 13-Oct-13 14:46:50

Presumably what your friend said has made you worried that your (quite modest sounding) intake may cause your children to grow up with unhealthy attitudes towards alcohol and at risk of becoming alcoholic.

I don't think you are doing your children any disservice whatsoever by drinking in their company from time to time in the way you describe. I suspect how they respond to alcohol as adults is as likely to depend on their make up as individuals as on the example you are setting them now.

My parents drank daily, although not to excess. I occasionally saw Dad a bit drunk or hungover but never Mum. I am alcoholic but my sister, who grew up in exactly the same environment, is not.

Your friend might be interested to know that AA's big book has plenty of stories about people who grew up in the Prohibition era or in teetotal households only to become lushes.

I'm in agreement with your friend we have a 10, 8, and 20 month old none of them have ever seen me or dh drink alcohol, they know we have a drink (very rarely, around 5/6 times a year) when they are staying at their nanas, they have also never seen us hungover, I am really uncomfortable with people drinking infront of kids I have a few friends who drink several times a week in front of their dcs and it makes me cringe. I wouldn't leave my dcs in the care of someone drinking any alcohol.

Laquitar Sun 13-Oct-13 14:57:14

Take her to France.

Alisvolatpropiis Sun 13-Oct-13 15:00:06

Better to normalise it that it be a big taboo thing.

A glass of wine with food - normal
15 pints - not normal

Bowlersarm Sun 13-Oct-13 15:03:45

ThreeCackles think that might be just you. And the ops American friend.

BigDomsWife Sun 13-Oct-13 15:18:53

ThreeCackles - calm down would you please? There is nothing wrong with having a drink whilst your children are present. Drinking alcohol is part of most peoples lives in the UK so I believe the more you make it out to be taboo, the more appealing it will be to your children.

My Parents bought me up teetotal & I had my first drink aged 25 as the mystery got me. What happened? I became a full blown alcoholic by age 30. Ive recovered now and make a point to have ONE drink when my Children are with me. No big deal, just us enjoying a family drink. Relaxed and enjoying One or Two drinks thats all. Never say never (or cringe).

bugster Sun 13-Oct-13 15:21:30

Don't worry OP, my DH and I have a glass of wine with dinner much more often than once per week, more often than not, with DCs present and eating with us. For us it is normal to drink wine with a meal - not every day but regularly. My parents did the same. We never drink to excess though. It is fine by me if our DC think that it is normal for adults to drink in this way.

I have to say though, our DC are very interested in what we drink and often want to try it themselves. Very occasionally ( like once per year) we let them have a sip and they like it. Don't know if I should be worried about that! We tell them they shouldn't drink anything as it is worse for them than us as they are still growing.

Yes & No

Glass of wine, or half pint of beer/cider with a meal= perfectly fine and shows children how alchol should be drunk.

Drinking until you are sozzled= No

WorraLiberty Sun 13-Oct-13 15:25:23

ThreeCacklesLovesCandyApples if your children know you sometimes drink but never see you do it...isn't that a bit unhealthy?

It may come across to them as your dirty little secret that you're ashamed of.

Rather than something that's perfectly normal in British culture?

Libertine73 Sun 13-Oct-13 15:29:02

I agree, it will be all mysterious, something that you go off and do alone, could back fire?

not mysterious or taboo here at all we just don't think being under the influence of anything and In care of children (for us) isn't something we want to happen.

my dds are well aware drinking in moderation is completely normal.

we always worry that one may become ill and if your drunk or tipsy not in the best head space. probably because 2 of them have required urgent hospitalisation during the night one of which was a life threatening illness.

HearMyRoar Sun 13-Oct-13 15:36:54

Neither Me or dp drink alcohol at all. We both used to drink a lot but just sort of stopped for no real reason then we just don't fancy it. Anyway, I think your friend is being silly. I actually worry a bit about the fact that as we don't drink we will not be able to give dd that example of how to drink sensibly and in moderation.

MinnesotaNice Sun 13-Oct-13 15:39:43

I'm American and my DH and I have a glass of wine/beer with dinner at least once or twice a week. I don't think that drinking in moderation is seen as a terrible thing by most Americans (at least not by the ones I know).

NoComet Sun 13-Oct-13 15:41:17

Same as you here drinks with meals two or three times a week. Depends what we are eating.

Occasional very small glasses of whiskey or slow gin on cold weekends (DMILs, 'sin')

DD1 has joined in occasionally since she was 13, DS2(12) doesn't and I don't think will for a while because she only likes sweet drinks.

Conversely DD1 says she was the only one in her PHSE class who had never seen a member of her family drunk.

Actually I've never seen DH drunk either and he hasn't seen me properly pissed since my graduation ball well over 20 years ago.

NoComet Sun 13-Oct-13 15:41:42

Sloe gin

mrsjay Sun 13-Oct-13 15:43:49

you get brittish people who are horrified atd rinking in front of children they go all pearly clutchy and talk about if a child is ill and needs to be rushed to hospital who will drive blah blah, OP you dont sound like you are on the road to being alkies enjoy your wine I have always drunk with children around <shrug> my dd is an adult and didnt go wild with alcohol when she was younger

ErinExquisite001 Sun 13-Oct-13 15:45:38

I see absolutely no problem with having a large glass of wine with a big meal once a week in front of your children.
IMO you are actually showing them how to sensibly and moderately consume alcohol as an adult.
Don't let others unwanted opinions make you doubt your perfectly reasonable behaviours around your own children.

lainiekazan Sun 13-Oct-13 15:47:10

We were in the US a few years ago and stopped off at Target for a few supplies (dh's beer!).

Ds was helping to put the stuff on the conveyor belt when the cashier suddenly shrieked, "The minor touched the alcohol!!" and called her supervisor. We were standing there a bit stunned and rather sheepish that we had been branded unfit parents!

I worked in US for some years and frankly third are God-fearing milk-drinkers, third are health freaks and only drink low-sodium mineral water, and other third are alcoholics. (Raving mad generalisation!!)

IHaveA Sun 13-Oct-13 15:50:35

Umm, I lived in the US for a number of years with my DH and kids. I didn't find their attitudes to drinking any different than in the UK apart from teen binge drinking is more 'open' and 'acceptable' in the UK and we found the Americans much more likely to drink and drive.

It's a big place and I expect it depends where you live. We were in California and I can't think of anyone who would not have drunk in front of their kids.

We got in the habit of asking who was the designated driver when our guests arrived at our home as we had had a number of guest argue about who was driving at the END of the evening when they were already pissed. confused

pointyfangs Sun 13-Oct-13 15:52:22

Drinking sensibly in front of your children = OK
Getting drunk in front of your children and then minimising how bad that is = not OK.

I do think there is a real problem in the way it is socially acceptable to be drunk in public in the UK, and that is what I do not want my children to learn from us.

claraschu Sun 13-Oct-13 15:53:17

I am American, and have never seen any evidence of weird attitudes towards alcohol among my friends. The people I know seem fairly similar in their drinking habits to people over here (just the small sample of people I know, not statistically significant obviously).

PaperSeagull Sun 13-Oct-13 15:56:24

I'm American. I have never even thought twice about children seeing adults drinking alcohol. A glass of wine with dinner? Completely normal.

MinnesotaNice Sun 13-Oct-13 15:57:33

Honestly in the US, there really is a huge divergence in peoples' reaction to alcohol.

For example, when we go to an event with my DH's family I usually bring my own since I know that there most likely won't be any alcoholic drinks offered or available.

My family on the other hand is completely blitzed at any opportunity. In fact, at the last funeral I attended, after the service there was an open bar at the restaurant and we finished the night at a casino.

Weeantwee Sun 13-Oct-13 15:58:21

We don't have any children yet and are not big drinkers. We have bottles of gin and malt whisky in the house but probably have just one or two drinks a month.

I was 5 when I realised my dad had a problem with alcohol. I'm 27 now and incredibly wary of anyone who is drunk. I don't think having a glass of wine with a meal in front of children is an issue though. Sounds very civilised.

Gileswithachainsaw Sun 13-Oct-13 15:59:13

Yanbu. Sitting around all day swilling beer/vodka/wine/floor cleaner til you passed out would not be good.

However a glass of wine with Sunday dinner is nothing to even consider. Kids shouldn't see parents plastered. France/Germany/Italy, lots of countries have their family meals with a glass of wine. It's nothing to be ashamed of and shows normal, moderate responsible alcohol consumption.

My parents used to have a glass of wine with Sunday dinner.

Or have the occasional lager and lime of an evening after dinner. I never thought anything of it.

DioneTheDiabolist Sun 13-Oct-13 16:03:33

My DS and I have attended weddings and been on holiday with other family members. I enjoy the opportunity that these occasions give to model "sensible" drinking. I want to show him that one drink is enough and it's not about getting drunk.

MissMillament Sun 13-Oct-13 16:04:48

DH and I have always drunk wine in front of the DC. For us it is a normal part of a family meal. When we were on holiday in Europe this year my 16 year old DD was very pleased to note that at dinner the waiters automatically brought a wine glass for her as well as for DH and me. She filled it with water though because she chooses not to drink alcohol as she doesn't like the taste. If we had made a big mystery of it perhaps she would feel differently, I don't know. But I'm happy that she has a mature understanding of what drinking involves. You are doing the right thing.

kerala Sun 13-Oct-13 16:08:24

Our local hospital is at the end of our very short road so blows that "reason" for not drinking wine ever out of the water grin. We also have wine with meals at weekend in moderation and don't drink in the week (polishes halo). That said I crave my ice cold tonic water in a wine glass every evening at 6 ish witnessed by the kids but not actually an alcoholic drink hope am not irredeemably damaging them....

CoolStoryBro Sun 13-Oct-13 16:11:51

I was at a festival yesterday, packed with families and pretty much every adult was holding a beer. In America.

I agree with Ihavea. I've found my American friends to have very similar attitudes towards alcohol as my British friends. The big difference is that my American friends would never dream of offering their 16 year old a drink in a way my British friends do.

eurochick Sun 13-Oct-13 16:21:47

Alcohol is a perfectly normal part of life for most people in this country, so what's wrong with "normalising" it? It's available in every supermarket. There is a pub on pretty much every high street. Alcohol is available at pretty much every restaurant. It's a good thing for children to see adults enjoying alcohol in moderation.

Gileswithachainsaw Sun 13-Oct-13 16:22:47

It's more the situation than the alcohol it's self that's going to damage or not damage the kids.

They don't even know what it is at that age. However if daddy went from being happy and chatty to agressive and nasty then yes kids would notice that those green cans daddy has make him go all mean. Much the same if you took them to a party and people were loud or staggering about holding bottles and glasses or someone was sat on their own on a park bench downing cans then of course those are situations kids would notice and be affected by.

If people are acting sensibly and normally I'm not even sure children would notice that they even had a bottle of wine. Unless they ask what it was.

stoopstofolly Sun 13-Oct-13 16:31:11

Thank you people (and apologies to any and all reasonable, moderately drinking Americans!) I added the nationality as a bit of context, as I have noticed that Americans I work with do (usually) drink substantially less than Brits. My last (US) boss booked a wonderful Xmas lunch one year. When asked how he afforded it (the per head allowance for Xmas festivities was not generous!) he said it was because he wasn't ordering ANY wine. He was a bit shocked at the response....grin

Teapot13 Sun 13-Oct-13 16:41:53

The American described in the OP doesn't reflect the "American approach" -- she's just bonkers.

Madratlady Sun 13-Oct-13 16:44:29

I think normalising alcohol use is a very good thing, it takes the mystery out of alcohol and demonstrates a responsible attitude to drinking (as long as it's just a glass or 2 as in your case and not several bottles).

If alcohol is seen as something mysterious or forbidden then when they get older children are more likely to drink too much and not behave in a safe way with alcohol in my opinion.

hootiemcboob Sun 13-Oct-13 16:50:44

US resident here. I was once told that my child wasn't allowed to push the cart in the grocery store, because it had a bottle of wine in it.

It's odd how the American (I'm generalising hugely here) is different from the European perspective. I've noticed similar with coffee. In America, I gave DD a few sips of my coffee and Americans (relatives and people sitting nearby) were shocked. In Europe (by this I mean Germany, Austria and northern Italy) I've given DD weak coffee and no-one is shocked at all.

Gileswithachainsaw Sun 13-Oct-13 16:52:07

shock would that go for tampons or condoms or DVDs above a pg? That's ridiculous, they see the shopping wherever they stand

SatinSandals Sun 13-Oct-13 16:53:16

My American friend was horrified by this- she said by drinking in front of the children on Sunday we were normalising alcohol use...

I should hope so too! If you go out for a meal in a good restaurant or to a celebration it is perfectly 'normal'. Drinking it with meals, in small quantities, regularly is a very good example to set.
I would just tell her that that is your intention and change the subject.

hootiemcboob Sun 13-Oct-13 16:56:10

I did laugh when she told me this, then went about my business!

hootiemcboob Sun 13-Oct-13 16:58:03

A girl my daughter know is not allowed to go to Starbucks, because they support gay rights. Mind boggling!

Venushasrisen Sun 13-Oct-13 17:03:34

DH worked for an American company - I remember feeling a bit confused at the annual Xmas dinner dance. Many Brits v drunk at the company's expense, ties loose, red faced, sweaty, Americans totally sober, leaving relatively early. Were the Brits making idiots of themselves or were the Americans boring and stuffy? Bit of both imo.

Lonecatwithkitten Sun 13-Oct-13 17:20:18

I was a student for a while in a US state where liquor can only be purchased from special stores, put on brown paper bags and transported home in the boot of the car to protect the minors.
Then I saw what all these young people who had been protected from the liquor got up to in their Frat and Soriety houses when they arrived at college. Far, far great binge drinking than I ever saw at any UK Uni.
IMO children need to grow up seeing alcohol as something that is consumed in small quantities in a social setting.

Gileswithachainsaw Sun 13-Oct-13 17:23:04

Oh yes, watch out fir those pesky gays at Starbucks confused

I should hope any business supports gay rights.

puds11isNAUGHTYnotNAICE Sun 13-Oct-13 17:26:01

I think children should see their parents drinking responsibly. I don't see a problem with it.

When we were younger we were allowed to drink with sunday dinner from about the age of 12. Nothing massive, just a little.

I think it helps to teach moderation.

FWIW at my school we were taught to drink responsibly (in theory) by having a Sixth Form Bar where you could have up to two alcoholic drinks a night from a limited selection, and formal dinners where a couple of glasses of wine were provided.

Conveniently forgets the vodka jelly in the U6 fridge and the Baileys under the bed

expatinscotland Sun 13-Oct-13 17:34:06

Americans can be very silly about alcohol, probably why they have such a HUGE problem with class A drugs over there.

thebody Sun 13-Oct-13 17:38:56

I think your American friend needs to ponder for a moment on how many children are shot to death in her country on a daily basis.

how many children go hungry.

that the adult politicians are so against free health care that they are prepared to bankrupt their economy to prevent it.

don't think we need to take lessons in parenthood from America to be honest.

sensible drinking in front if children and then with them when they are old enough is perfectly normal.

cory Sun 13-Oct-13 17:41:02

I don't drive anyway and dh didn't either when dc were little so any late night trip to the hospital would always have to be done courtesy of the local taxi company.

And personally I am well capable of having a class of wine with my supper without ending up in such a state that I can't make a rational decision.

Now that dd is old enough to go to unsupervised parties where alcohol is present I am glad that she is aware that ordinary sensible people can be around alcohol without ending up rat arsed.

If it was something that was so uncontrollable that you couldn't possibly have it around without it getting out of hand, then I'd worry a lot more for dd when she goes partying.

Beastofburden Sun 13-Oct-13 17:55:21

Oh for heavens sake, nobody is saying get drunk or tipsy when in charge of kids. If they need hospital you get a taxi or an ambulance.

Agree that teen binge drinking, and young adult binge drinking is a big issue, but I don't think it is caused by examples of moderate drinking. Of my 3 DC, the two over 18 one doesn't drink and the others, a student, drinks maybe twice a week, and I think he has got drunk ,about four times in his life, none recently.

Off to pour a glass of wine. Yes, in front of DD.

BigDomsWife Mon 14-Oct-13 16:16:47

Agree with beastofburden - If there was an emergency situation with one of my Children, I would prefer to get a Taxi as I would be too panicky to drive.

As mentioned earlier my Parents NEVER had a drink . . . in front of me. I used to spend time thinking about alcohol and wishing I could have a drink but knowing there was something 'wrong' with it. I am seriously against making a huge deal out of alcohol when children are present. Please believe be that in this day & age, hiding things will only encourage it. My 3 year old has asked me if she could try my drink but I tell her 'you wont like the taste' for now. Im planning on letting her taste Wine when she is older.

Lweji Mon 14-Oct-13 16:21:30

I do think it's the parent's responsibility to demonstrate responsible drinking to the children.

If you were getting drunk, then it would be different.

Lweji Mon 14-Oct-13 16:21:59

Or rather, parents' grin

bumpandkind Mon 14-Oct-13 16:34:59

I think it's maybe too normal in my circle of friends. When my friend was getting worked up telling me a work story her 6 year old DD went to the fridge and poured her a glass of wine 'to relax mummy'!

Ooh, one of my favourite stupidity indicators! 'Wah, you mustn't drink when you have children in case you have to drive!' If you are one of the fucknuggets who comes out with this statement, do you think that people who don't own cars should not be allowed to breed or something?

Trills Mon 14-Oct-13 16:46:29

It is possible to "normalise" something that is normal?

Tell them that they are normalising car use, or normalising wearing shoes.

ProudAS Mon 14-Oct-13 16:46:37

I was drinking wine at 7 - a few drops in a sherry glass on Sunday lunchtime. The right way to introduce a child to alcohol in my opinion.

Retroformica Mon 14-Oct-13 17:20:19

I think you are modelling good behaviour in relation to alcohol. Your children will see you drinking in moderation and responsibly.

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