To ask how often you shower / wash?

(183 Posts)
springthorn Fri 11-Oct-13 00:58:45

This came up in a conversation with friends the other day. Some shower morning and night, some just once a day, others only once every couple of days and then others only when they have to leave the house, so potentially less than that! Just wondered what was "normal" for you?

ComtesseDeSpair Fri 11-Oct-13 01:09:12

Most days twice, morning and evening. Morning to be clean and presentable and feel fresh for leaving the house and evening because I go running or to the gym most evenings.

I know that supposedly we all wash more than necessary but I know a couple of people who only shower every other day or less and they honestly do usually whiff a bit. I'd feel grotty without at least a morning shower.

Every morning, apart from occasionally if I've had a bath last thing at night, and I'm not doing much the next day, then I might skip my shower, but I always have a wash before I leave the house.

Mellowandfruitful Fri 11-Oct-13 01:11:12

Shower daily in the morning.

springthorn Fri 11-Oct-13 01:14:31

I grew up in a household where it was drummed into me to wash morning and night regardless. As an adult, I'd definitely never leave the house in the morning without showering and wash in the evenings too if I'm going to the gym or on a night out, but if I'm staying in, I often don't bother. When I said this to my friends I was shocked that they were shocked at the frequency - several of them seem to wash less, perhaps only every other day, although I've never noticed them smelling unpleasantly!

EBearhug Fri 11-Oct-13 01:21:09

It depends. I have a bath most evenings, as it's partly for relaxation and washing the day away before I sleep, and yes, I know it's not very eco friendly. Yesterday was unusual, but I got distracted by MN, and it was rather late, so I just went to bed and had a shower in the morning before work.

I shower after swimming, but I'm not sure that counts, as I've been in water anyway. Usually after yoga, unless it's the weekend and I'm home alone. I would shower if I've got particularly grimy while gardening, and I've also showered in the summer to cool down, and also when I've been having an allergic reaction to cats or pollen - then I might shower to ease the itching and wash the allergen off. I will also shower before a big night out.

Generally bath or shower once a day, though. I have been known to go two days when it's the weekend, and I'm just staying at home, and just have a strip wash instead. It's not like that takes any less time than a shower, so it's a strange way of being lazy.

I do remember when I was doing one of my DofE expeditions back in the last millenium - we were doing 3 or 4 days across Dartmoor, and on the second night, I washed my hair by the river we were camping near. I felt about a hundred times better, even though the water was rather icy. No showers though, just a good wash of the sweatier parts. We were all in the same state, so I don't think we offended each other's noses too badly.

scurryfunge Fri 11-Oct-13 01:25:08

Shower daily and will sometimes bath at night too. Have sometimes showered at work too when needed.

springthorn Fri 11-Oct-13 01:25:15

My DP never showers, he always has a bath. At first I grumbled at him that this wasn't very economical, but then I tried putting the bath plug in when I showered over the bath and realised that my shower actually used just as much water as his bath! I do find baths very relaxing :-)

pollywollydoodle Fri 11-Oct-13 01:27:21

i wash most mornings and most evenings ...unless i am home alone and having a slobbing day.
i probably shower 2 or 3 times a week. maybe more if it's hot.

springthorn Fri 11-Oct-13 01:30:45

My parents, despite showering twice a day, never bathe - they say they hates the feeling of being submerged in water, whereas I love it. When they had their new bathroom fitted, they got rid of the bath altogether. I really wouldn't want to live in a house without a bath!

OctoberNights Fri 11-Oct-13 01:31:04

I'm disabled now so one a week on good weeks , one a a month on bad.

I don't stink or smell so have come to the conclusion that the frequency I bathed before (one shower a morning with frequent evening bathing) was a waste of time and water

springthorn Fri 11-Oct-13 01:31:05

*hate, not hates

springthorn Fri 11-Oct-13 01:33:49

OctoberNights that's interesting, because I have a friend who stopped washing his hair and after a couple of months of looking greasy it naturally started to cleanse itself. I can imagine that our bodies have the capacity to do the same - I've never tried it myself though.

Leavenheath Fri 11-Oct-13 01:34:20

Shower every morning. In summer it's not unusual to have 3 a day (especially this past summer). Love baths on winter evenings or when very cold, but come what may, will have always showered in the morning.

poppingin1 Fri 11-Oct-13 01:47:38

I was brought up to wash daily and in hot weather to have a cool and quick wash at night if sweaty and sticky. Until my DD was born I did this. Now I wash when I know I am leaving the house. But I do feel guilty if I don't have at least a quick wash everyday. Baths are not very hygienic IMO so I prefer to shower. I do have a bath for relaxation, but I follow with an actual wash.

poppingin1 Fri 11-Oct-13 01:50:01

Sorry should have said "until my DD was born I did this but now most days I feel too damn tired to even bother"

Lj8893 Fri 11-Oct-13 03:29:10

I bath or shower once a day, normally in the evening but depends on what my daily plan is.

I will often have a freshen up wash in the morning too.

I feel gross if my hair isn't washed daily!!

filee777 Fri 11-Oct-13 03:35:18

Every other day usually, I bath then DH baths in the same water

Bath the kids once a week. Can't wait to get a shower

scarletforya Fri 11-Oct-13 03:51:44

Once a day, more in hot weather.

But I only do it out of duty to society. I don't enjoy the process itself, although I enjoy being clean when the shower bit itself is done.

chrome100 Fri 11-Oct-13 05:42:46

I swim every morning so shower then and have a bath when I get in from work in the evening to "wash the day away". I always feel really sweaty after a day at work

mathanxiety Fri 11-Oct-13 05:53:04

Shower daily in the morning, wash hair every time, and if I exercise or go swimming, shower after that too, and wash hair.

I hate the bath, never feel clean afterwards, never feel my hair is rinsed properly.

I am curious about the friend who stopped washing his hair. Did he stop even wetting it and doing a manual scrub of his scalp and a rinse in the shower?

Disclaimer: I follow the curly girl method of using no shampoo, only conditioner for my hair, and both my hair and scalp are clean, but I wonder if even that could be dispensed with.. I have a vague memory of a woman on some tv programme many, many years ago revealing a head of gorgeous hair that she apparently never washed, and I am curious.

festered Fri 11-Oct-13 05:59:19

Varies. I tend to go for a run every day and if It isn't before I leave the house to do something else, I dont shower until I have ran.

Then I will usually not shower again until the next day.

If I'm not running,or know I can't run until later, It's usually not long after I get up, then again after I have ran later if I'm doing that.
I sometimes shower after a run and still have a bath as well later on, bathing to me is less about getting clean and more about relaxing, soothing my muscles plus I can shave more successfully in the bath lol
But very rarely go a day or longer without.

catgirl1976 Fri 11-Oct-13 06:42:24

I shower every morning. I will have a bath three or four evenings a week.

I will also shower in the evening if I am going out, have been to the gym or the stables or if I need to wash my hair and won't have time in the morning.

MrsKoala Fri 11-Oct-13 06:50:01

I usually immerse my entire body in water every other day - so a shower or bath with hair wash. But i wash in the sink/bidet on the days in between (sometimes there are 2 days in between, if i am busy and can stretch with hair up and dry shampoo). I'd like to shower/bath everyday but i don't because it makes my hair dirty and i don't often have the time.

Fairylea Fri 11-Oct-13 06:51:15

Shower every morning. Occasionally a bath in the evening too just because I find it relaxing.

The dc get a bath every evening as part of their bedtime routine.

Every day. Even if I don't have to leave the house.

mamij Fri 11-Oct-13 07:05:01

Shower and hair wash every evening. Can't stand going to bed with the dirt and dust on my body and in my hair. That's just rolling about in your own dirt.

usualsuspect Fri 11-Oct-13 07:08:34

Every Christmas and Birthday.

BadLad Fri 11-Oct-13 07:13:44

Shower in the morning and the evening. Morning is most essential, and that has been my routine since my teens. Here in Japan they consider it dirty not to shower before bed , so now I do that too. Wash my hair every single shower.

I shower every morning, pretty much. I might skip it if I had a bath the night before. DH and DS do the same. If I don't shower, I definitely wash. I teach so I think that it is vital that I am nice to be near, otherwise I can hardly teach pre-teens that you should be clean and fresh!

Bath or shower every evening before bed. I hate the thought of taking the day's grime and smells to bed with me, and I love the feeling of being all clean and moisturised in bed - plus it keeps the bedding smelling fresh and lovely for longer.

Only shower in the morning if I feel I need it - sweaty, freezing cold, or half asleep - which is probably a couple of times a week. I'll happily skip it if I can't be bothered or don't have any time, I don't smell so it's purely for my own comfort!

BlingBubbles Fri 11-Oct-13 07:18:12

Shower every single night and wash hair every couple of days.

I actually love washing and am a bit obsessed with toiletries. It's not a hygiene thing for me so much, I just like the pampering and the smells and the alone time, and the way you feel fresh and new when you get out. Sylvia Plath puts it beautifully in the Bell Jar, can't remember the exact quote.

shewhowines Fri 11-Oct-13 07:41:57

So many of you do it twice a day. That's not normal is it? There is more to life than spending that amount of time in the bath or shower. The millions of us who do it less must be reading this and feeling intimidated.

Ok I'll confess.

I'm a every two days person, unless I go to the gym or go out. Nobody has ever said i smell. I must be so skanky...

<runs away in shame>

Every morning unless, as this norning, the bastard shower has packed up. Evenings if it's a high day or holiday smile

ShabbyButNotChic Fri 11-Oct-13 07:52:44

I tend to have a 'proper' shower every other day. Eg, washing hair, exfoliating, shaving etc and a quick 5 minute shower on the other days, where i just have a wash but dont do my hair or anything.
Always at night, i cant be bothered in a morning, and i like showering then putting pjs on. It symbolises the end of the day for me smile

Never have a bath, i think they're gross. Washing then sitting in the dirt? Bleurgh no thanks!

capercaillie Fri 11-Oct-13 07:52:55

Less than I used to. Often it is every day as I've either been for a run or swim. If I haven't, then I tend to not bother so it would be every other day. Not washing (or going longer between washes) as frequently seems to have made my hair less greasy.

Can't believe some shower more than that - waste of water.

IDontBowlOnShabbos Fri 11-Oct-13 07:54:18

I shower every morning and sometimes have a bath in the evening if I can be bothered.

I used to be a bit more skanky lax and only wash maybe twice a week. I didn't smell or look anymore greasy than I do now though so I think the body must clean itself or get used to the amount of washing it gets.

deepfriedsage Fri 11-Oct-13 08:04:43

Due to an accident I entered a washing experiment, and being unable to go upstairs.

If you wash below the belt and your pits twice a day and wipe the whole body with a flannel you do not smell. I did notice dry skin sitting around that you don't have if you shower bath daily.

As for the hair, it goes greasy as He'll if you don't wash it. If you don't have greasy hair then maybe it isn't a problem to stop washing it. The grease went right to the ends as if it was wet by the end.

pointythings Fri 11-Oct-13 08:27:43

I shower every morning because I don't wake up properly otherwise. I try for a bath weekend mornings.

It's probably not necessary though, because on those rare occasions that I don't manage a morning shower, no-one says I pong.

Latara Fri 11-Oct-13 08:49:27

I shower daily and wash hair on alternate days (it's curly so a pain to dry).

I know i'm getting depressed if I stop showering...

Hair does get greasy if you can't wash it because I've seen it on some of my patients. Unfortunately there's no quick or easy way of washing our patients hair if they can't get in the shower because our ward has no hoist baths.
I know that sounds awful sad

ToggyD Fri 11-Oct-13 09:57:19

I'll work it out. I'll just go get the calendar.

PresidentServalan Fri 11-Oct-13 10:37:37

I shower every morning, but like Leaven said in the summer I shower in the morning, when I get home from work and before I go to bed.

ElleBelly Fri 11-Oct-13 10:43:49

I wish I could shower in the morning but more likely to have a quick strip wash, as leaving the house for school run seems to take such a ridiculous amount of time and effort. DD always well presented but I'm often seen in a truckers cap due to hair issues.
Usually bath with the DC's (4months and 4 so not weird i hope?) in the evening. The rare occasions when I get a shower or bath to myself for more than five minutes is bliss!

PumpkinPie2013 Fri 11-Oct-13 10:49:00

Shower every morning as I can't stand getting dressed without having showered hmm

Often a bath in the evening but that's to help ease the aches of being 34 weeks pregnant smile

DH also showers every morning and sometimes at night if he's been doing something like running/gardening.

LittleprincessinGOLDrocks Fri 11-Oct-13 10:54:03

Latara do you not have shampoo caps on your ward? They are like shower caps filled with a solution that you pop in the microwave for a few minutes, then place them on the patients head and sort of scrub at the cap. Its not as great as actual washing, but it does a pretty good job. They were fabulous for our HDU patients where the blow up sink was not a good idea.

As for me, its daily baths. Can't shower as mine is broken. I miss showers as I find them so much quicker.

42notTrendy Fri 11-Oct-13 10:56:02

A shower every other day. Unless I exercise then always after exercise. If it's hot then every day.

wannaBe Fri 11-Oct-13 10:56:56

to those that say nobody says they smell, people are generally too polite to say that though aren't they?

I have a bath every day (don't like showers). I think I would be put off a bloke if he didn't wash daily. Think there's no excuse for not having a wash on a daily basis.

LittleprincessinGOLDrocks Fri 11-Oct-13 10:57:05
ILoveAFullFridge Fri 11-Oct-13 10:57:45

Some posters are saying that if they don't shower (or bath) they wash. What does that mean?

shewhowines Fri 11-Oct-13 10:59:48

to those that say nobody says they smell, people are generally too polite to say that though aren't they?

My husband and family members certainly wouldn't hold back.

springthorn Fri 11-Oct-13 11:02:03

To me a wash means face, underarms and below the waist using water from the basin.

eurochick Fri 11-Oct-13 11:02:12

I shower every morning without fail (occasionally at the weekend I will substitute a leisurely bath for a shower).

I wash my hair every other morning.

If I go to the gym after work or want to get jiggy, I will shower again in the evening. I will also have a bath after work when my period is at its heaviest and I feel a bit "ick".

Thurlow Fri 11-Oct-13 11:02:38

Shower and hairwash pretty much every morning. On the rare occasion I don't shower in the morning, it's because it is a lazy day and I'm barely going to leave the house to go to the shop or the library or see anyone, so I am comfortable wallowing in my own muck all day!

shewhowines Fri 11-Oct-13 11:03:54

bath and period, dont work in the same sentence for me. A shower twould be in order to lose the "ick" factor.

Shower every morning and sometimes a bath at night.

CaptainPoop Fri 11-Oct-13 11:10:27

I have a shower or bath every morning. If I don't I definitely smell and feel sticky. My dh always says he doesn't think I smell even when I know for a fact I do. I think he must just be used to my odour and it doesn't register as 'bad'. I have a friend who bathes every other day and tbh she really smells sometimes, but she isn't aware of it.

My biggest fear is that I may absolutely stink and be completely unaware of it.

Thurlow Fri 11-Oct-13 11:12:42

Ooh, no, I couldn't get in a bath during my period! I know people have different periods, but still... That would not be a happy bath!

But then I discovered the other day that some people think that needing to wear a liner overnight constitutes a heavy period. I nearly choked on my drink at the idea that some people have periods that light envy

livinginwonderland Fri 11-Oct-13 11:18:13

We don't have a shower. I have a bath probably four days a week and wash my hair/shave/etc. each time. If I've had a really long day at work or I feel gross, I'll have another one.

woozlebear Fri 11-Oct-13 11:23:36

Shower or bath every morning without fail. More often than not on work days a flannel wash in evening too. Hair wash most days too.

The logic of it depending on whether or not you're leaving the house seems confused

Quite frankly most people I've met who do much less than that end up noticeably icky.

I experimented with not washing my hair for about 6 months several years ago. I rinsed it in water but nothing else. It only ever felt about as dirty as if I hadn't washed it for a few days, so I guess it did self clean, but I do have quite dry hair. I stopped in the end as in winter it annoyed me as my hats ended up smelling a bit whiffy. It was v mild but enough to make me feel ick. I know some people with greasy hair who only wash hair once or twice a week and it really, really notices. They genuinely think it doesn't need washing even when it's wet-looking with grease and actually smelly...

GreenGiant3 Fri 11-Oct-13 11:30:35

Every day in bath, every day I wash my hair

Latara Fri 11-Oct-13 11:32:22

Thanks Littleprincess I will print off the link and show our Clinical Leader. We don't even have a blow up sink.

Sometimes when long haired elderly patients arrive on the ward their hair is so matted that we can't get combs through it!

I'm going to take in some Batiste Dry Shampoo and some leave-in conditioner in the meantime.

Pennyacrossthehall Fri 11-Oct-13 11:37:30

... I have a friend who stopped washing his hair and after a couple of months of looking greasy it naturally started to cleanse itself. I can imagine that our bodies have the capacity to do the same - I've never tried it myself though.

No no no no no no no no no!

This is not true! People who do not wash smell. And if they avoid washing for long enough they stink!

And, personally, I find it utterly disgusting. The whiff of smelly unwashed people when you pass them in the supermarket makes me recoil.

Filthy feckers.

Shower daily, sometimes twice, although hair is washed every 2-3 days depending on waht I've been doing, the weather etc. It gets too dry if I wash it daily. I only bath if I want to relax as I feel cleaner after a shower.

Crinkle77 Fri 11-Oct-13 11:49:53

I shower every evening. I can't be bothered doing it in the morning before work. If it has been a hot night I might have a quick wash to freshen up. I might skip a shower on one day over the weekend if I am not going out of the house.

HeadsDownThumbsUp Fri 11-Oct-13 12:11:22

Washing your hair twice a day is mental. What a waste of water and energy.

Dahlen Fri 11-Oct-13 12:19:04

I think a lot will depend on your physiology and lifestyle. A person who doesn't sweat much who is pretty inactive could easily get away with less washing than someone who is constantly rushing around and getting sweaty, for example. The frequency with which you have sex makes a difference too I think. Sex produces a particular smell that would surely be very noticeable if you didn't shower/bathe even if you top and tailed with a flannel.

I shower every morning. If I go running in the evening, I will obviously shower after that too because I seem to sweat loads more during exercise as I've got older. I will also have a bath at least once a week, with a lovely glass or red wine and a book simply because it's a lovely way to relax (I rinse off with shower afterwards, for which I probably deserve a flaming).

TeamJavert Fri 11-Oct-13 12:21:36

I shower,and wash my hair every morning. Sometimes I'll have another shower in the evening,just because I enjoy it.

TheFabulousIdiot Fri 11-Oct-13 12:22:02

I used to bath every night. Recently averaging once a week.

sherbetpips Fri 11-Oct-13 12:24:18

every other day with washing in between. Cant be arsed drying my hair more than every other day. if I have done exercize then every day.

Jan49 Fri 11-Oct-13 12:26:36

I usually shower every morning, hair wash every day or every other day in the shower. If for any reason I can't, I wash bits and pits and maybe feet using a wash basin and flannel. I see a bath as more of a leisure activity, to relax rather than get clean.

But when I was a child, we had a bath and no shower and limited hot water and I think we all bathed once a week and I don't think we were smelly. I couldn't do that now. I need a shower at least every other day. My skin gets dry and I think it would be better if I washed less often, but for hygiene I need regular showers.

GoldenGytha Fri 11-Oct-13 12:28:39

I hate showers so almost never have one,

I have a bath most nights, and use the shower attachment to wash my hair while I have my bath.

If I do have a shower, it's a very quick less than 5 minutes affair, just in, wash and straight out again, DD1 takes about 25 minutes which baffles me confused

ZZZenagain Fri 11-Oct-13 12:29:05

daily. Sometimes more than once if I feel I need it . I don't wash my hair every day though, it tends to be dry.

PeppiNephrine Fri 11-Oct-13 12:29:35

When I need to. Every day, twice a day, evry other day...whatever.

Why is this in aibu?

SingSoftKittyToMe Fri 11-Oct-13 12:35:12

Shower everyday wash hair every other day.

LondonMan Fri 11-Oct-13 12:35:32

Shower twice a day, wash hair each morning.

I'll also answer on behalf of Andy Capp, as I don't think he has internet. He has a bath every six months, regardless of whether he needs it.

WalkingDeadFan Fri 11-Oct-13 12:38:50

I usually bath in the late morning while baby naps before we go out in the afternoon food shopping/baby group.

I always have a bath on a night.

So usually twice but sometimes the morning bath is skipped.

FrightRider Fri 11-Oct-13 12:42:02

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

SuperiorCat Fri 11-Oct-13 13:02:05

Growing up in the 70s we would have a Sunday night bath, and that was it, just a strip wash in front of the sink, but that was at primary age so maybe I would have been told to do it differently as a teen, but by that time we had a shower and could afford the hot water on every day.

Now I shower every morning, it's quicker more efficient and less messy than a strip wash. If it's hot or I have done something physical or I'm on a heavy day on my period then I will shower or bath at night too.

Beastofburden Fri 11-Oct-13 13:04:35

I find people are not great judges of whether they smell or not. They get used to it, and some genuinely cant smell themselves. One of the smelliest people I ever worked with was convinced he didnt need deodorant and would sometimes come to work unwashed- it was hard even to walk past his open office door.

Men who dont dry clean their trousers often enough are another thing <boak>.

I shower and wash my hair each morning. Baths are a treat and nothing to do with getting clean, I love them.

comewinewithmoi Fri 11-Oct-13 13:08:01

Have a shower or bath most days, sometimes stretches to every other day if I'm --lazy- busy/tired.

comewinewithmoi Fri 11-Oct-13 13:09:44

By the 2nd day, I am getting a bit wiffy.

Famzilla Fri 11-Oct-13 13:11:34

Shower every morning then bath/shower every night. I'm a 90's kid but was only allowed to have a bath once a week by my wicked mother and I was the smelly kid at school. I'm a proper sweaty Betty and sometimes I can even wake up smelling, even though the last thing I did before bed was bathe and apply deodorant. I can never wear grey or anything that shows sweat easily.

I was hoping DD would get DH's glands but the poor mite sweats loads at 6 months. I will be letting her have as many baths as she wants!

Famzilla Fri 11-Oct-13 13:12:45

Oh but I only wash my hair once a week. It's thick & curly and honestly never gets greasy. Plus it takes an age to dry.

bobbywash Fri 11-Oct-13 13:15:00

Have a shower every day in the morning, I do an office job so will only shower in the evening if I'm going out or have done something that makes me feel I need one.

I haven't used shampoo or conditioner or any stuff in my hair for about 10 years now, just a rinse with warm water. It was a bit horrible for a week or so, but now it's fine (people are shocked when I tell them so I take it that it's not obvious)

angelinajelly Fri 11-Oct-13 13:15:06

Usually shower twice a day, definitely once. I'd feel minging and half asleep all day if I didn't have my morning shower. Even if you're at death's door, being clean makes you feel a tiny bit less shitty.

Beastofburden Fri 11-Oct-13 13:49:15

Comewine- do you feel that being a bit whiffy is a purely private thing? Just trying to ask without being snarky, as I am curious about the people who come a work at bit whiffy too. I get grumpy thinking they are being deliberately selfish. Am I being unfair?

comewinewithmoi Fri 11-Oct-13 13:51:30

Beast, I'm a sahm so not inflicting myself on colleagues. Tbh, I don't think anyone else would notice unless they put their head under my armpit or in my croch. grin

Beastofburden Fri 11-Oct-13 13:52:34

Thanks come. I will have to find a way to ask my niffy colleagues someday- but there is seriously no good way to raise this. Ever. Their whiffiness definitely travels! sad

ThePinkOcelot Fri 11-Oct-13 13:52:41

I have a bath every night.

Tailtwister Fri 11-Oct-13 13:55:36

Each morning at a minimum. I couldn't leave the house in the morning without washing, even to go to the corner shop. Before we had children I would shower/bath each evening too as we would usually be going out, but now it's usually just one a day.

Now the children are older and get grubby they have a bath each evening. When they were babies it was every few days.

comewinewithmoi Fri 11-Oct-13 13:55:38

If they are that bad, beast raise it with manager? Or hr?

Tailtwister Fri 11-Oct-13 14:00:26

Famzilla - poor you, my mother was the same. I'll never understand it. I used to get up at a ridiculous time in the morning (4am) just to wash without her knowing (although my poor brother used to get woken as he was in the room next to the bathroom. Bless him, he never said a thing). I had really greasy fine hair and she had this thing about me washing it too often. She used to put talcum powder through it each evening to try and stop it going greasy. It was awful and really affected my self confidence and I suspect this is what makes me neurotic about being clean now. I would never do that to my kids.

Tiredemma Fri 11-Oct-13 14:03:09

I have a shower every morning and every other night when I wash my hair (dont wash my hair everyday)

In the winter, the alternate night shower is replaced with a bath.

I grew up in a house where we could only bath twice a week max and even then I had to share the bath water.

Boys and DP shower everyday- DP twice.

Frettchen Fri 11-Oct-13 14:03:44

My shower is broken; has been since I moved in, so I have baths. Usually I have a bath 3 times a week (i.e. Sunday night, Tuesday night and Thursday night) which will include shaving my armpits and washing my hair. Will wash my face and hands plenty of times between each bath.

I use deodorant and wear clean clothes every day. As far as I can tell, I don't stink. I trust that my family, who I see regularly, would tell me if I do.

GhoulWithADragonTattoo Fri 11-Oct-13 14:05:55

I shower every morning. In the very hot weather I might also shower (but not wash hair) in the evening. If I am doing exercise (sessions are in the morning) then I don't shower beforehand and have one after exercise instead.

MummyPig24 Fri 11-Oct-13 14:06:05

I normally shower every morning and sometimes have a bath at night too if I need to unwind or I can't get warm.

Frettchen Fri 11-Oct-13 14:09:15

What I meant to say is that yes; YABU to ask this. It's none of your business (despite the fact that I happily proffered the requested information!) and these threads usually only serve one purpose; to allow people with a holier-than-thou attitude to come out and proclaim that they shower four times a day, and that anyone who doesn't, for whatever reason, is a smelly cowbag.

loveandsmiles Fri 11-Oct-13 14:14:26

Shower every morning and every evening. DC shower or bath every morning and bath at night ~ I am a clean freak smile

TiffanyAtBreakfast Fri 11-Oct-13 14:19:36

I would feel yucky if I didn't shower every single morning. When I was younger it was less frequent though.

I wash my hair every other day because it's blonde and would look like straw otherwise grin

ThePuffyShirt Fri 11-Oct-13 14:25:46

If it's a gym day I have 3 showers. Otherwise it's 2.

I love a bath too but jump in the shower afterwards.

These threads pop up fairly frequently. Who remembers that poster that said stands at the sink & washes with yesterday's knickers?

jammiedonut Fri 11-Oct-13 14:29:49

Shower every other day, more often than not once a day if I've exercised. Very dry skin and a few skin conditions that get extremely irritated by water/washing. Lucky I'm not a smelly person :-)

Farewelltoarms Fri 11-Oct-13 14:38:07

Gosh you lot shave a lot. My pits get done if I'm going swimming and then only if I remember.
My husband fortunately was at an impressionable age when Nena did 99 Red Balloons.

Farewelltoarms Fri 11-Oct-13 14:38:47

Oh I shower once a day but never or very rarely twice.

TheFabulousIdiot Fri 11-Oct-13 14:45:59

I shave my legs about 4 times a year but I am not that hairy.
I shave my armpits every couple of weeks.

Lweji Fri 11-Oct-13 14:47:40

I shower every day, once a day, except if I feel lazy (mostly Sundays if I stay at home) or if I have self defence classes (I shower before as well because of the close contact we get).

RevelsRoulette Fri 11-Oct-13 14:50:08

Shower every morning and I wash my hands, face, pits n bits every evening. I like to feel fresh and clean in the morning and it feels really nice to crawl into bed when you're all freshly washed.

StepAwayFromTheEcclesCakes Fri 11-Oct-13 15:26:47

shower or bath every day usually, odd time it gets missed if I am out late or feeling lazy but would then shower in the morning. sometimes I do twice, but always was morning and night even after shower or bath. after 23 years married I asked DH if I had ever smelt, he said only once had he ever detected a slight whiff of sweaty armpit, grin

Beastofburden Fri 11-Oct-13 15:33:12

come I did with the really bad person and it is sorted but it was difficult and horrid to do.

missmartha Fri 11-Oct-13 15:33:19

I try to shower ever morning and mostly I do but sometimes just can't be arsed.

Showering twice a day isn't something I'd do unless I was actually filthy.

Isn't it bad for the skin?

Almostfifty Fri 11-Oct-13 15:45:22

I can't wake up properly without a shower. I wash my hair every morning too.

If we're going out, I'll shower again, but not otherwise.

somewheresomehow Fri 11-Oct-13 15:52:22

I shower every morning or i look like a hedgehog on a bad day,

blahblahblah2014 Fri 11-Oct-13 15:52:44

Bath 2 or 3 times a week, hair washed maybe twice a week. Deoderant....It's a shower in a can ;)

ShakeRattleNRoll Fri 11-Oct-13 15:53:38

in the summer once or twice a day in the winter maybe 3 times a week

BellaVita Fri 11-Oct-13 15:55:25

Every day, quite often twice (after gym session).

NorbertDentressangle Fri 11-Oct-13 16:00:21

I shower every morning without fail and sometimes, like today when I went to the gym, I'll have another one.

In the summer or on holiday I tend to have a second shower late afternoon/early evening if I've been wearing suncream as I hate that sticky feeling that it leaves on your skin.

Shower every morning, and again in the evening, if I want to. I would feel horrible if I didn't have that morning shower.

Hair washed every other day.

Absy Fri 11-Oct-13 16:04:28

I shower at least once a day, normally in the morning (otherwise I can't wake up). If I go to the gym, I shower after the gym, and if it's summer and hot I shower in the evening as well (particularly after being on the tube which is just rank, particularly if you end up near someone who doesn't believe in washing/deodorant).

Donkeyok Fri 11-Oct-13 16:08:58

usual suspect 'every birthday and Christmas' grin whether I need it or not

YoniBottsBumgina Fri 11-Oct-13 16:17:28

We used to have baths once a week as kids, and a stand-up at the sink underarm wash every morning from puberty onwards. I think I have some weird issues around personal hygeine now because to get in the shower always seems like a big thing, it's freezing when you get out and takes ages to get dry. I don't know why I see it as this big thing though when others clearly don't and just do it as a matter of course every day confused

I need to wash my hair about once every 2-3 days or it starts to get greasy. Currently I'm trying to exercise 2-3 times a week and that always makes me want to shower without fail.

Whathaveiforgottentoday Fri 11-Oct-13 16:41:11

Shower daily in the morning normally. (very occasionally miss a shower but only when not planning to leave house)
I only wash my hair every 3 days as its very dry and washing too often dries it out.
In very hot weather I might shower in the evening as well if I feel really sticky.

It's like another world confused

Twice a week, probably, one of which a hair wash. I genuinely have the shiniest, strongest hair in the school playground, and always had the clearest skin in my year as a teenager. I have naturally dry and sensitive skin, and am lazy so don't sweat much grin

You can still smell shampoo on my hair by the next time I wash it. I wear clean clothes every day and use APD daily. I do not use body lotion or moisturiser (my skin can't breathe if I do so I react horribly even to E45 etc).

In other words, I'm lucky. There's genuinely less to wash off than there is for other people.

poppingin1 Fri 11-Oct-13 19:00:10

Wash to me means an actual shower.

MadAsFish Fri 11-Oct-13 20:24:00

Every second day. The water here is so hard, and my skin is so dry that I look amazingly papery if I shower every day.

samu2 Fri 11-Oct-13 20:37:48

I only wash my hair once every three days. It is very dry so I really don't need to do it that often, could get away with 4 days but don't want smelly hair.

I wash/shower or bath every day.

Littlestgirlguide Fri 11-Oct-13 21:03:03

Iloveafullfridge - have you never had what my grandmother termed a 'strip-wash'?
Strip off and a good wash all over with a flannel and a bowl of soapy water basically. When I was a teenager we didn't have a shower, only a bath, and my mother taught me to strip-wash daily in between bath-days (Sundays and Wednesdays!) this was to save time and water I think. Gets you just as clean, honest.
We are regular campers (the username should give a clue) and use campsites with no facilities so knowing how to strip wash is essential.
It really is not necessary to shower three times a day, surely?! Nowadays I shower every other day and have a very long soak in the bath for relaxation on a Sunday evening, with regular washes in between.

ByTheSea Fri 11-Oct-13 21:04:46

I shower every morning. If I get dirty, I will shower again in one day.

eatriskier Fri 11-Oct-13 21:41:04

I shower once a day, normally in the morning. 2 or 3 a week I call "proper" showers where I do the full on hair, shaving, etc.

I feel dirtier after a "strip wash" than before. I think I am doing it wrong.

Also it's much much slower than a shower, so doesn't save time even if it does save water.

everlong Fri 11-Oct-13 21:56:45

Bath every night. It's not to get clean ( because I shower in the morning ) but to get some peace and quiet. And get warm. I'm constantly freezing to my bones even with the heating on!

tiggerpigger Fri 11-Oct-13 21:58:13

I shower at least once a day. Ive got a mate who only washes when he leaves the house which is sometimes not for a few days and a time. He ended up with anal boils.

everlong Fri 11-Oct-13 22:02:22

Fucking HELL at anal boils.

tiggerpigger Fri 11-Oct-13 22:02:41

At a time not and a time

susiedaisy Fri 11-Oct-13 22:04:41

Shower morning and evening. Wash hair every morning!

tiggerpigger Fri 11-Oct-13 22:08:11

Everlong - yep, not only did he get them, he also told people about them with no shame!

poppingin1 Fri 11-Oct-13 22:24:46

Anal boils!! shock

Does he wipe his backside properly?

Thank goodness I leave the house frequently grin

ChippingInNeedsSleepAndCoffee Fri 11-Oct-13 22:38:07

Every morning (& wash hair) & most evenings (wash hair 50% of the time), occasionally in the middle if I've done something to warrant it or if it's hot.

NorbertDentressangle Fri 11-Oct-13 23:32:03

Even when I had my foot in plaster I had a bath every day.

I'm normally a shower person but that was completely out of the question so I devised a way of getting in and out of the bath whilst keeping the plaster dry.

I just don't feel human if I don't shower or bath in the morning.

rockybalBOOOOa Fri 11-Oct-13 23:42:32

Daily shower.

gail734 Fri 11-Oct-13 23:43:54

I've always thought that people really overdo it, that shower or bath twice a day can't be good for your skin, esp with all the detergent cleaning products. Unless you work down't pit. My DH is obsessed with the fact that he totally stinks. (He doesn't, I would SO tell him if he was remotely whiffy.) Where does this modern paranoia come from? He showers twice a day, wears spotlessly clean clothes every day, is coated in deodorant, and works at a desk. Sweat doesn't stink - OLD sweat stinks! When I have a shower, it takes 4 or 5 minutes. DH is in there for 20 minutes.

lurkerspeaks Fri 11-Oct-13 23:50:27

Shower pretty much every morning (unless I'm on night shift when I shower before work in the evening).

Shower in the evening if I've been to the gym/ for a run etc.

dobedobedo Sat 12-Oct-13 00:24:40

Once a day I'll shower, but when it's particularly hot outside I'll have as many cool showers as I need not to be a sticky, sweaty mess!
If I have a bath I always have a shower afterwards as I don't feel clean sitting in my own filth. (not that I'm very dirty, it's probably more psychological)

SelectAUserName Sat 12-Oct-13 04:12:47

Shower and wash hair every morning apart from the occasional slobbing-in-the-house day. When I used to work in a bar (pre-smoking ban) I also used to shower and wash hair before going to bed as I hated getting into bed stinking of other peoples's stale cigarette smoke.

Sunnysummer Sat 12-Oct-13 04:24:55

Shower every morning, or if I know I'll be exercising in the afternoon I just dry shampoo my hair and wait until after sport. Usually wash my hair every second day unless I run or swim.

Bath DS every evening, occasionally a quick top and tail if he is particularly sweaty / vomity / food smeared during the day!

Am a bit surprised by recent threads showing that lots of people wash towels every day and shower twice - coming from a place with permanent water issues this makes me shock

goldopals Sat 12-Oct-13 04:52:46

I shower daily in the evening (after my workout). I wash my hair once a week after basketball or netball (depending on the season).

Bubbles1066 Sat 12-Oct-13 08:08:59

I shower and wash my hair every other night. I think that's rather a lot; was always once a week as a kid, many of my family still do once a week and I can't say they smell at all. No wonder we use so much water and power in the UK! Can't believe people need to shower/bathe twice a day unless mega sweaty. Maybe everyone goes to the gym twice a day or something.

FamiliesShareGerms Sat 12-Oct-13 08:39:43

I shower every couple of days. My skin flares up if I wash it with water too often and I'm lucky to have hair that doesn't need daily washing. I also don't do exercise or have sex that often, so I'm happy I'm not stinky! If I'm on holiday somewhere hot I'll shower once or twice a day

I agree with Sunnysummer that there is an awful lot of water being used with these twice daily ablutions. Maybe in the future our descendants will look back on early 21st century washing habits with the same sort of curiosity as us and people washing in tin baths once a week in front of the fire.

bochead Sat 12-Oct-13 09:12:13

Squaddie scrub (strip wash) at night + bath/shower every morning. I can't go every other day as that means I'd need to use too much soap on my dry skin. Winter excema isn't funny. When Aunty flo visits I up the baths to twice daily or I feel yukky.

Hair once a week as I have VERY dry hair & scalp (like many of afri descent I add oil to my hair to maintain it rather than constantly wash out the excess grease like Europeans need to).

DS needs his nightly bath as he's a filthy critter who loves rolling around in the mud/sand/paint/floor etc. He'd hate going to bed feeling grubby though, and likes starting the day feeling "fed & fresh".

Beastofburden Sat 12-Oct-13 10:46:12

So here's a real, honest question for those who wash less often.

I understand that you can't smell anything wrong. There coulda be two reasons- either you smell less than others, or you have a worse sense of smell and you can't tell.

If you have really runny earwax then you probably don't smell as much as others.

If you don't, you smell the same as the rest of us. But you have different ability to tell, or different ideas of what smells nasty, like the PP who posted that fresh sweat doesn't smell or that deodorant is a shower in a can.

If I am working next to you in an office I will send my day breathing through my mouth and going for walks for a break. Is there any way that I can raise this with you, where you won't feel really hurt and offended? Has anyone ever been told in a way that they found sensitive, kind, respectful, but really clear?

Because there is much, much more variation in the sensitivity of people's sense of smell than there is in how smelly people get.

Beastofburden Sat 12-Oct-13 10:47:55

Sorry- not really runny earwax- it's really dry earwax that means you don't smell.

I am a less-often type. I don't have anybody else's ear wax to compare to grin but I only really get waxy ears when I'm full of a cold.

DH is definitely naturally greasier than I am and consequently washes more frequently. It remains to be seen whether DC will be dry and sensitive like me or normal-to-greasy like DH. I suspect the former, given the preponderance of eczema creams chez nous.

poppingin1 Sat 12-Oct-13 14:09:51

The type of earwax you have is dependant on ethnicity from what I understand.

Beast I know what you mean because I used to attend college with a woman who washed every other day and said it was just because she didn't sweat as much as other people. But she did smell and looked as if she hadn't washed. I could never say anything to her.

I also think it depends on where you live. Living in a big city I think you are exposed to more dirt and pollution than in the middle of the countryside. Maybe that makes a difference?

Beastofburden Sat 12-Oct-13 14:18:18

I dunno. But i really wish I knew how to say something. The problem is, whenever we have these online discussions the not washers are convinced there is no problem and the washers are being holier than thou. I am sure that's the response you would get IRL as well.

City/country does matter. I definitely needed to wash more when I was commuting.

And I'd be surprised if I smelled, tbh, because (a) I have pregnancy super-smell-sense so the faintest whiff of sock has me heaving grin and (b) I cornered DH earlier to ask him and he looked at me like I was insane for even considering that I might smell. He doesn't know how often I wash (presumably because he isn't the one who launders towels or cleans the bathroom hmm ) and he guessed far more often than the truth is.

Pobblewhohasnotoes Sat 12-Oct-13 14:30:46

I shower every morning. I don't necessarily wash my hair every day. Normally every other day at least. I like feeling clean. Not a bath fan though, get bored.

Beastofburden Sat 12-Oct-13 14:50:31

Horrey- not everyone who washes less often smells. I couldn't claim that- not least as I have no idea how often people wash when I meet them at work, so some of the fragrant ones might almost never wash.

I would really love a good way to approach those who do. It just seems to be almost impossible to say to someone. Which is weird, cos we have ways of saying nicely that their work needs to improve. Why is hygiene so much more personal than competence?

FamiliesShareGerms Sat 12-Oct-13 14:58:07

I'm not sure whether I have dry or wet wax (the descriptions online aren't conclusive!) but I do know I just don't sweat that much. I have one, close fitting satin dress that can make my armpits a bit whiffy in hot weather, but even if I have done lots of exercise I'm not always hot and sticky.

MrsDavidBowie Sat 12-Oct-13 15:03:54

Twice a day, three times if I have been to the gym. Wash hair every 3 days.

I couldn't contemplate not having a shower in the morning....would feel totally skanky.

DrDre Sat 12-Oct-13 19:13:09

If I exercise (gym or run) I shower and wash my body all over. Otherwise I have a really quick shower and only wash my hair, face, armpits and privates. I usually exercise five days a week, so five days a week I wash my whole body, but the other two days only the "smelly" bits!
I am sure I read somewhere that dermatologists think we wash way too much now, and it is detrimental to the natural oils that keep our skin healthy. However, on a hot day I have to shower otherwise I feel too smelly!

expatinscotland Sat 12-Oct-13 19:17:25

Daily shower.

Ifancyashandy Sat 12-Oct-13 19:23:53

Once a day - every morning - unless I've been to the gym. Then twice. And wash hair every day, else I look bananas. And often have a bath to relax in the evening whether I've been to the gym of not.

I love a bubble bath, glass of wine and general candle inspired pampering! That, followed by Strictly & X Factor is my perfect Saturday night in.

I also watch Newsnight & Question Time

HeadsDownThumbsUp Sun 13-Oct-13 11:06:13

Agree with other posters who say that future generations will probably look back on our showering 2/3 times a day will bewilderment and anger. It's totally ecologically irresponsible, and probably very bad for our skin too.

expatinscotland Sun 13-Oct-13 11:47:48

Some of you must have enormous water bills.

I wonder if the reason water rates are so eye-wateringly high is that so many ratespayers have eleventy showers a week.

filee777 Sun 13-Oct-13 12:34:23

I agree with the ecological argument, there is also no need to live in such fear of your own (clean) smell. People actually smell quite nice until they are dirty!

pollywollydoodle Mon 14-Oct-13 04:32:21

equally, is there a way to raise the issue of the cloying smell of cleaning products ...these have me breathing through my nose
honey and vanilla product users, i'm looking at you....

I have a friend who has just has his genome mapped and apparently there is a gene which means you are unable to smell your own sweat, which it found he has! So perhaps that's why some soap-dodgers don't realise they whiff.

I agree there is a big difference between someone who just hasn't washed for a day or so and someone that hasn't washed for a week or more. I love the natural soft (but not funky) smell of my DCs and DP, even my parents' actually. I think it also makes a big difference whether you put your dirty clothes back on after washing or fresh clean ones.

ILoveAFullFridge Mon 14-Oct-13 07:26:02

Since going fragrance-free (I am allergic) I've developed an even more sensitive sense of smell. The amount of fragrances, and the number of different fragrances, that people sometimes use all at one time is overwhelming! I'm with you on that one, Pollywollydoodle. I know that I pong horribly if I don't wash, I certainly do not lack that gene! And I know that I do not pong if I wash but do not use any fragrances. My family do not h

ILoveAFullFridge Mon 14-Oct-13 07:28:12

old back their opinions on that!

BTW, there is a gene which controls whether ot not your sweat becomes smelly. Apparently 90% of Europeans have that gene, whereas 90% of Jspanese do not.

Heymacarena Mon 14-Oct-13 07:28:18

At least once per day.

If I am going running first thing, then obviously I wait until I get back home. but other than that I find it icky to leave the house without clean body and hair.

ArgyMargy Mon 14-Oct-13 08:05:34

So, Beast, you want other people to wash more often because you have on overdeveloped sense of smell?

ArgyMargy Mon 14-Oct-13 08:05:50


Beastofburden Mon 14-Oct-13 10:46:06

Argy not at all. There are a lot of people that I can smell, who dont disturb anybody else, so that is for me to put up with.

What I was trying to ask is, where we have someone at work who loads of people find smelly, but some poor sod (such as me) is delegated to tell them-

How do you do it? is there any kind, respectful, acceptable way?

and why is it so much more offensive to be told that you smell, than to be told that your work is not good enough? Both are pretty personal things, but one clearly far more than the other.

FreshLeticia Mon 14-Oct-13 22:54:52

it's very hard to do Beast, I really don't envy that job at all.

My DH reckons that people just make it worse by washing more as it makes their scent hormones/skin sebum (lubricant) work harder to compensate for their extra washing.
I disagree a bit but I also think that smelling sweaty is definitely gene-linked. Me, my DD1 and DS all need to wash every day properly, otherwise we smell. DH can get away with several days if I let him and he never smells at all. MIL has terribly dry skin, so she only bathes her whole body once a week. She washes her face, underarms, bits and feet daily once or twice of course.
I can do the same, even though I am sweaty. I find that it is those bits which smell, so washing them properly once or twice a day is the key, whether that is in a basin, shower or bath.
I have perfected the art of washing in a bowl of warm water in a tent at festivals etc.

Hair is another thing. My family have greasy fair hair which needs daily washing and DH's do not. I have found that as I have got older my hair is more dry, but still looks dull if not washed. Again, a very little shampoo goes a long way, and even just cold water if camping.

I do agree that city/office life makes you need more washing. I work outside mostly, but find that being in the the office is sweatier because there is always too much heating on and no fresh air. Yuk.

whois Mon 14-Oct-13 23:03:49

People's skin, hair, environment, propensity to sweet etc all play a part in how often you need to wash.

In summer in the heat I was showering 3x a day which got a bit annoying (on waking up, after biking to work, after biking home from work).

Generally once or twice a day depending on level of exercise. Sometimes not during the day eg Tuesday night then Thursday morning.

Nottalotta Mon 14-Oct-13 23:04:08

I used to shower twice a day. Until we moved to a house with no shower. I now bath every other day and wash at the sink morning and night in between. Hair is washed when i bath.

Its amazing how you get used to it and fed up of waiting for the damn bath to run

whois Mon 14-Oct-13 23:06:24

Some of you must have enormous water bills

Yes! My DP has very long showers and our water bills are huge for 2 people I think.

whois Mon 14-Oct-13 23:08:32

Oh, I also shower sometimes in the evening as a relaxation thing. If I've been working late a dose of hot water can clear my mind.

fridayfridayfriday Tue 15-Oct-13 00:04:21

every payday.

VerySmallSqueak Tue 15-Oct-13 00:20:07

Depends on what I'm doing.
If I'm camping or doing 'great outdoorsy' stuff it can be significantly less than when I'm doing every day stuff.
I have no problem with being dirty,but also enjoy the feeling of being clean.
So,could be once a week or twice a day.

ADishBestEatenCold Tue 15-Oct-13 01:12:16


goodasitgets Tue 15-Oct-13 01:37:51

Depends. I bathed this afternoon so I won't shower in the morning. Will shower after gym tomorrow
Usually works out as every other day with a quick strip wash in between
Hair can go weeks but I do it every 2/3 days (incredibly dry!)

Depends. In the summer or on holiday I shower daily. At home in the winter, every other day, sometimes 2 days. I do wash face pits and bits twice daily though. The rest of me is under cover and I can't imagine that it gets so dirty that I'd need to wash it daily/twice daily. I do have very dry skin in places though, so don't like dousing myself in soap more than I actually have to as it makes me itchy and flaky.
I will probably be called out as a slattern/minger but it works for me.

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