To not buy my 11 month old any Christmas presents?

(175 Posts)
sparklyskyy Fri 27-Sep-13 10:05:01

My baby will be 11 months at Christmas with his 1st birthday a month later.

We have a large family with lots of grandparents, aunts and uncles and friends so he is going to receive a huge number of gifts.

Due to this I decided to not buy him anything because he's not going to have a clue about presents and who from. I'm not doing it to be a tight wad just because he's going to have loads as it is plus we'll be getting asked left, right and centre what everyone should buy him.

Anytime I've told anyone this they have been horrified, including DP to begin with, which has now made me think I am being unreasonable to not buy my son anything for Christmas.

What do you think?

ChestyNut Fri 27-Sep-13 10:08:39

Makes sense.

Is there anything you'd have to buy anyway you could wrap for photos/ 1st christmas memories?

I'm a compulsive christmas buyer tho blush

What about a baby's first christmas decoration?

noUggscuse Fri 27-Sep-13 10:08:39

YABU. It doesn't have to be something expensive, just something from the heart.

OHforDUCKScake Fri 27-Sep-13 10:09:50

I always think these threads are sad.

MisselthwaiteManor Fri 27-Sep-13 10:09:58

YANBU, he won't have a clue. I am buying presents for my baby who will be 6 months old but she won't be getting much from family so I am buying her clothes and toys/books to last until her birthday in the summer and then will be doing the same then to last until next Christmas. If she was going to be given all of this stuff already I wouldn't bother buying her anything extra.

OHforDUCKScake Fri 27-Sep-13 10:10:31

"What did you get me for my very first Christmas Mum? Can you remember?"

"Errrrrr...."

MisselthwaiteManor Fri 27-Sep-13 10:11:35

Why are they sad? It's nice if you can afford to be extravagant but there's no need for it if the baby is getting loads of presents already. He won't know.

oldgrandmama Fri 27-Sep-13 10:11:44

As you say, he won't notice the lack of a present from you. But how about opening a savings account for him and bunging a few quid in? Or getting a nice money box, and doing the same?

BuskersCat Fri 27-Sep-13 10:12:05

my dd was 9 months old on her first Christmas, and yes she was more interested in the paper and boxes, but those pictures, and memories of her tipping out her stocking will last a lifetime.

Onlyconnect Fri 27-Sep-13 10:12:27

YANBU. I think even if he poses ohforduckscake's question in years to come you can tell the truth and he will see what you mean.

MisselthwaiteManor Fri 27-Sep-13 10:12:28

I doubt OP means she won't even get one token thing.

sparklyskyy Fri 27-Sep-13 10:14:13

I'll def be buying a first Christmas thing. Nearly bought one last year with his name on it because we knew the sex and name but my DP talked me out of it until he was here. I got him a gorgeous Christmas jumper last year to wear on Christmas day but he's a wee tank so it won't fit him! smile

Why do you find threads like these sad Ducks?

whitewineforme Fri 27-Sep-13 10:14:15

YANBU. I bought lots of presents for my baby's first Christmas when he was 6 months old, we also have a big family and he got a ridiculous amount of presents. For his 1st birthday I had learnt my lesson and just got him 2 small presents as I knew he would get spoilt again! Maybe you could see what he receives and then buy him something afterwards that you feel he really needs, or put the money aside for a family day out?

BaldricksTurnip Fri 27-Sep-13 10:15:00

I think it's a bit miserable tbh.

bicyclefish Fri 27-Sep-13 10:15:49

YANBU, the first years of a childs life you are constantly buying things that will help them adapt and grow and they do this at such an alarming and wonderful rate (hopefully!) that the toys and curious etc that you do get them are soon discarded for something more interesting and age appropriate so it's basically like one long Christmas anyway, at least for your bank balance!
However, I do think you would feel a bit sad in later years if you didn't get 'something' to mark Babys first Christmas, maybe simply a decoration for the tree that they can always put on every year and know it was their special one, for your special one.

CruCru Fri 27-Sep-13 10:16:09

Why not do her a small stocking? Doesn't have to be fancy but will make you feel a bit more like your first Christmas as a family.

In any case, other people won't (or shouldn't) be doing stockings for him. That is a parent's job.

rumbelina Fri 27-Sep-13 10:17:37

I have never asked my parents what they got me for my first Christmas nor do I even remember what we got ds(now 3) for his.

YAsooooNBU

IKnewHouseworkWasDangerous Fri 27-Sep-13 10:17:48

Well you are and arent being unreasonable. I think you will be sad if he has nothing at all from you. On the other hand it is silly to buy just for the sake of it. I would go for something he will need anyway. A new outfit. Stacking cups.....stacking cups are always a winner. Cheap cheerful and great for learning motor skills.

YABU. Don't you want to buy anything? An 11 month old will be able to play with wrapping paper etc. And any visiting children would find it appalling if your DD was forgotten.

SoYo Fri 27-Sep-13 10:19:10

I'm going to buy our then to be 10mo a decoration for the tree and her next size up car seat. That way she still has a gift from us and the rest of the extended family can provide the fun factor.

rumbelina Fri 27-Sep-13 10:19:11

Yy to the decoration actually. we have got one every year for ds and I write on a paper bag which is from which year.

WowOoo Fri 27-Sep-13 10:19:15

We did the same and bought something very small but special for both ds1 and 2.

When we were asked what we were buying, we said we hadn't decided yet, but something very small.

I also get mine to choose a Christmas tree decoration now - but only in the January sales. blush
They have the ones from last year's sale to get excited about!

mum2jakie Fri 27-Sep-13 10:20:26

I don't think you are unreasonable at all. You will remember your baby's first Christmas and it will be special for that very reason. You don't need to feel guilty about being sensible. Why feel obliged to buy stuff for the sake of it?

I would get your baby a lovely card and a book and wouldn't think twice about buying anything more. Enjoy your little one's first Christmas!

nancy75 Fri 27-Sep-13 10:22:35

nothing at all? Could you not even buy a teddy or something?

I agree with the poster that finds these threads sad, it doesn't matter what other people are buying, I can't imagine getting nothing for my own child's first christmas

Boobybeau Fri 27-Sep-13 10:22:59

Oh, they really do know a bit, my dd lover helping unwrap all the gifts and it was lovely to see their little faces. Can you go to your local toy library and borrow something, wrap that up and then when the novelty wears off/new toys are given you can give it back and it's not cost you a sausage. I can totally understand of its a cost/religious belief thing but you have another 3mths of development yet which is a l

Boobybeau Fri 27-Sep-13 10:23:48

Sorry posted too soon, 3mths is a long time in a baby's life

I Have the same dilemma with my twins. First grandchildren on both sides, 4 doting uncles plus a million kind and generous relatives and friends. I am already steeling myself for the avalanche. It's all so kind but if even immediate family just buy them one thing each, that's still a shit load of stuff. And I am still trying to deal with the stuff they have outgrown from over the summer. Don't even get me started on the cuddly toy mountain we already have.

And then I have to deal with it all over again in early Feb!

HandMini Fri 27-Sep-13 10:25:14

YANBU at all. If for no other reason, you may have found that 11 months into your baby's life your house is already over run with baby toys and books and he/she just DOESN'T NEED ANY MORE. Go to a lovely carol service, sit her under your Christmas tree and take loads of photos. Lovely family time and memories. I have never even thought to ask my parents what my first Christmas present was, but I have seen loads of photos of all our family Christmases which I love.

MisselthwaiteManor Fri 27-Sep-13 10:27:51

I think it's sad to think giving your baby a memorable and enjoyable first Christmas is all about a heap of unnecessary presents tbh.

Weller Fri 27-Sep-13 10:28:07

I didn't buy for my dc under 1 for birthday or Xmas due to family presents I did add to grans money for dc and bought premium bonds. If they have presents I don't see that it matters there all from Santa anyway.

sparklyskyy Fri 27-Sep-13 10:28:42

I like the idea of a stocking and I'm always into personalised things so would be lovely to get him one that we then use every year.

I was going to get him some small things like stacking cups etc and then mentioned it to my mum who said she's already got him them. She does this with everything smile I said the other day I was going to buy him some more sleeping bags and she turned up with 4! This happens a lot!

WhenSheWasBadSheWasHopeful Fri 27-Sep-13 10:36:07

YANBU, he or she really won't need anymore stuff. If it makes you feel better I haven't a clue what I bought my dd for her first Xmas and she's only 2.5.

You will have their birthday coming up after xmas so that will mean yet more presents.

MisselthwaiteManor Fri 27-Sep-13 10:36:28

I think a stocking sounds like a lovely idea

Shenanagins Fri 27-Sep-13 10:39:22

Yanbu. Getting a personalised stocking sounds lovely and its not as though he's not going to get anything.

tbh i can't remember what we gave my toddler for his first Christmas!

I remember visiting a Santa who gave dd a stretchy, slinky green key-ring just before her first Christmas. She was about 9 mths and she loved it!
I have some great pictures of her playing with it in her Santa hat.

I think YANBU at all, but don't make any issue about it even to yourself ...
just think I'll probably get her some little thing at some point, and will enjoy seeing which of her presents, from everyone, she enjoys most.
A little stocking for her is a good idea too, that can be especially from you both smile

Sorry sparkly - because I got carried away reminiscing about dd I forgot you have a boy. Hope you have a lovely first Christmas with your little man smile

Chopsypie Fri 27-Sep-13 10:50:25

I bought them each a my first Christmas keep sake, a book and a toy. No need to go mad, but I enjoy all opening presents together and I wouldn't of wanted them to be left out

sparklyskyy Fri 27-Sep-13 10:53:35

Thanks Juggling smile We're very excited!

themummyonthebus Fri 27-Sep-13 10:53:44

I don't think YABcompletelyU.

DC1 also has a birthday close to Christmas. I was the same as you to start with but in the end we did buy him a couple of small things and let the gps go mad. The year he turned two he was starting to show preferences for some particular toys (eg Duplo) so we asked the gps to get him some of that and told them that we were getting x as a main present so they could get something to complement it if they wanted to, to try to channel the over enthusiasm for present buying.

This all has worked quite well, particularly as the initial new grandchild craziness has died down.

IceCreamForCrow Fri 27-Sep-13 10:54:39

I think yabu.

I hear all the practical reasons why not but...not even a small stocking from Father Christmas??sad

sparklyskyy Fri 27-Sep-13 10:55:59

Thanks everyone for your replies. I think I probably was making into a big deal when I heard how horrified people were about it as if how good a mum I am is being measured on how many Christmas presents I buy him!

IceCreamForCrow Fri 27-Sep-13 10:58:25

Please don't let the Christmas and birthday presents morph together. (Speaking as a January baby myselfwink)

kali110 Fri 27-Sep-13 11:06:21

I dont think yabu at all.

IKnewHouseworkWasDangerous Fri 27-Sep-13 11:07:28

Dds first stocking had a toothbrush. Kids toothpaste. A pack of 3 aeroplanes unpacked and individually wrapped. A childrens cuttlery set (i believe from the pound shop) a couple of fun bits but mainly stuff she would need anyway plus a lot of wrapping paper!

squoosh Fri 27-Sep-13 12:18:54

I think it's a bit miserable. You don't need to spend much at all but I don't know why you wouldn't buy one little thing to mark his first Christmas.

Emilyeggs Fri 27-Sep-13 12:23:47

My ds will be 1 the first week of jan and I we'll be getting him a Xmas present, something little but can't not get him anything.sad

poppingin1 Fri 27-Sep-13 12:25:17

Buy something practical that you would have bought anyway.

That's what I have done and it is far better than having an extra toy in the house just for the sake of it.

It is not sad to not see the importance in buying an 11 month old something for Christmas. Honestly it is because we live in such a gluttonous culture that many feel this way IMO.

DoJo Fri 27-Sep-13 12:30:39

Don't worry OP - in a couple of months everyone here will have had to do their Christmas shopping in a series of sweltering shops with the same bloody Christmas music pumping out at them as they struggle around with an increasing number of bags, fighting over the last toy in the shop and fending off their annoying family members. Then everyone will be moaning about how commercialised Christmas is and how children are entitled and have too much stuff and how spending time together is more important than buying presents. grin

Hulababy Fri 27-Sep-13 12:35:54

I have to buy something. It would feel wrong to me to not buy my child, especially their very first Christmas, anything at all.

Doesn't need to be expensive. Just a token is needed.

SimplyRedHead Fri 27-Sep-13 12:37:54

It wasn't until Xmas day that I realised I'd forgotten to buy my then 6mo PFB anything. And yes, I mean ANYTHING!! blush

Rachel778 Fri 27-Sep-13 12:49:59

I like the idea others suggested such as opening a savings account instead . It is entirely up to you but I would do something . . I understand your baby would get lots of pressies and to be honest none of my Children have ever asked what I got them for their first Christmas .. First Birthday Yes , but never Christmas.

As an aside one of my sons was 6 months old on his first Christmas and me and my Husband had seen these elephants that walked, then stopped then roared (for want of better word) and the trunk would lift up . . we thought he would love it . . He did not love it , in fact it scared the life out of him lolol (can laugh now but it really did upset him at the time)

TinyTear Fri 27-Sep-13 12:50:09

I was in your position last year (birthday end of January)

We got a £20 activity table, then wooden puzzles, a shape sorter and books.

The table was a waste of money, only now she likes the puzzles and shape sorter, she always loved the books...

Her favourite thing last christmas? two cardboard boxes full of shredded paper/newspapers/packing paper. she would go in and our and throw the paper about and go back in and out...

So, go for it, get her a little something to open - books are always good... but keep the majority of stuff for the birthday/later on... even though a lot of things say from 12 months, often they don't show interest till later

oscarwilde Fri 27-Sep-13 12:51:07

What about one of these? They are fab - much nicer than they appear on the website.
www.newbridgesilverware.com/present/XMASHANG/SC026/SteamTrainChristmasDecoration

DesperatelySeekingSedatives Fri 27-Sep-13 12:54:12

I'd maybe get him a keepsake and do a stocking for him and let other people get the toys and stuff. You might get away with getting him something for the garden to play with in the summer? swing or sand and water table or similar.

I personally couldnt not buy my DC anything at all certainly not with my addiction to shopping

NewBlueShoesToo Fri 27-Sep-13 12:54:37

When mine were little we just used to wrap up some wet wipes and other bits you would buy anyway. Especially good to wrap in tissue paper which they love. They were always inundated with books, clothes and toys from relatives.
If you feel bad just think of the fortunes you'll spend in years to come and start saving!

skyeskyeskye Fri 27-Sep-13 12:56:51

We got DD a little wooden chair for her first Christmas, with her name on. She loved it and it was really useful too. It cost about £15. We didn't get anything else as didn't see the point.

My friend put money in their bank accounts for her DC first Christmas.

Christmas doesn't mean anything to them at that age. We have pictures if DD fast asleep. She was 9 months old.

A stocking with little board books and a soft toy and a bits and pieces, maybe a Christmas bib , tree ornament, might be a nice idea.

Norfolknway Fri 27-Sep-13 12:58:45

I will have a newborn.

I will still buy books, teddies, clothes. Things like that...stuff that'll do for the next few months.
I'd feel rotten buying nothing!

Each to their own thoughgrin

MmmmWhiteWine Fri 27-Sep-13 13:03:33

Well, he's 11 months old so will not know one way or the other. In our house the kids don't get presents from us...their presents are from Santa. And they do still ask what Santa brought them for their first Christmas. So you might want to be prepared that he might ask in years to come!

SunshineMMum Fri 27-Sep-13 13:11:01

Aw couldn't you get him one special gift, it is such sensory experience crunchy rippy paper, sharing new toys and games etc?

Squitten Fri 27-Sep-13 13:13:06

YANBU

We never bought our kids anything for their first Xmas (they were much younger though - 3mths and 3wks!) The baby won't know what's going on and will have plenty to open from other people anyway. He won't understand the concept that you bought him anything and will likely just lay with wrapping paper all day!

First Xmas stuff is really about you - not the child. The kid could care less so do what makes you happy!

StuntGirl Fri 27-Sep-13 13:16:41

Christ, of course YANBU.

YWNBU if you did either, so do whatever you think.

80sMum Fri 27-Sep-13 13:18:27

YANBU at all. If you buy Christmas presents for an 11 - month old, they are for the pleasure of the giver, not the recipient. Your baby will be completely oblivious of the date and it's significance. So, if s/he is already going to be receiving lots of gifts from others it's far better for you to wait till later in the year before buying anything.

SmokedMackerel Fri 27-Sep-13 13:20:02

I didn't get anything for my baby's first christmas. She was a few days old, so I would have had to unwrap stuff for her anyway. I don't feel remotely sad or guilty about it, it seemed daft to waste wrapping paper. And I did buy her some Christmas baby grows for Christmas day, I just didn't wrap them.

But an 11 month old can rip paper, so I think it is a bit different. I would get a small token for him to unwrap, even something tiny like Christmas socks. It is just a token, but it acknowledges his important place in sharing the celebration of Christmas within your family.

FeckOffCup Fri 27-Sep-13 13:22:45

I got my DD a couple of small presents when she was 2 weeks old on her first christmas. I did find myself thinking WTF did I do that for after wrapping them as she was in no way capable of opening them grin so I took them to my parents' when we went for lunch and got them to open them, and she had some from them that I opened. It's nice to get them something and at 11 months you could do a little stocking of small toys, bath stuff and chocolate coins that he would love.

raisah Fri 27-Sep-13 13:25:07

No big deal, if anyone asks say you have put £xxx in the bank for him later. That is much more important than spending the equivalent in plastuc tat which will get dumped or broken.

My friends son is going to uni next week with zero in the bank & she cant afford to give him anything because she spent £5k on a holiday over the summer. With a bit of sensible planning & less money spent on treats he should have gone to uni with a financial buffer.

forceslover Fri 27-Sep-13 13:40:42

Nothing? Not even a bib for Xmas dinner or a new plate and spoon? Do you need anything? No? Then maybe no one should buy you anything either! Is your middle name Scrooge wink

Edendance Fri 27-Sep-13 14:17:42

Oh I think that's so sad. Why wouldn't you want to buy him presents? I always see toys and little clothes and think how I'd love to buy them for my own babies one day and though I know in reality it's not always so rose tinted as that but I think it's sad that you wouldn't just want to get something.

sheeplikessleep Fri 27-Sep-13 14:21:33

We are doing a mini-stocking for our 4 month old at Christmas (but more so his older brothers don't question it) and one small, probably v practical gift from us. However, I am keener to put money in his account, to at least attempt to even it up with his brothers!!

Fresh01 Fri 27-Sep-13 14:24:52

Or say you are getting x for the garden in the springtime as a belated Xmas present.

Our DC4 has her birthday 3 days after Xmas and we will be away over the actual day. So I have got her a poncho peppa pig towel and a book to open then will tell her 3 siblings she is getting a slide for the garden for her birthday but we will get it in the springtime. She has something to mark the day and then something to enjoy over summer instead of more inside toys.

WinteronPluto Fri 27-Sep-13 14:25:18

YANBU.

No brainer.

Didn't get anything for my dd for first Christmas (she was 2 months) for same reason. She got so many presents and took no notice!

In fact the following Christmas she didn't really understand opening presents either so I needn't have bothered then either (although I did).

2tiredtocare Fri 27-Sep-13 14:27:15

My turns one in December and we won't be buying anything specific but will put money in his account. He is our third though so we already have a house full of crap

2tiredtocare Fri 27-Sep-13 14:29:43

Edendance because they wouldn't have a clue, best save your money until they are aware of presents. I doubt the ops 11 month old has made it to this age without a whole stack of clothes and toys already

Lj8893 Fri 27-Sep-13 14:30:45

I'm due end of oct so my baby will only be about 2 months! But we have decided that as we will be getting her one anyway, we may as well get a playmat/gym as a Xmas present. the excitement of her first Xmas present is more for me to be honest

mrsjay Fri 27-Sep-13 14:30:48

it is his first christmas I think if you dont get him anything you will regret it he will get cards from people saying babies first christmas and all that get him a few bits and pieces you dont need to go mad about it but get him something to unwrap and also a very tacky christmas outfit so you can tease him with when he is a grown up grin

OvertiredandConfused Fri 27-Sep-13 14:32:33

We still don't do big presents at Christmas for our DC (now 10 and 12) because grandparents, godparents and aunts and uncles spoil them rotten. I get a few inexpensive bits that I know they want plus stockings, chocolate and a smart outfit that I know they will also like and be happy to wear.

Herisson Fri 27-Sep-13 14:32:43

When my DD was tiny, I bought her some useful things that I would have bought anyway and let her unwrap them - spoons, a nice cup, a melamine bowl with bright pictures, clothes etc. She loved unwrapping them and still uses the bowl for snacks. She likes knowing that Father Christmas brought it (she's 7 so may get the hang of it not having been FC soon).

howtoboilanegg Fri 27-Sep-13 14:33:02

YANBU!
My first child is a Jan baby. I did nothing - she had loads of stuff already and more coming for her birthday and she had a lovely day and we have the photos.

However, if your DC is second born or later, you will not get away with it, as the older siblings will not understand why the baby got nothing!

2tiredtocare Fri 27-Sep-13 14:33:18

A little Xmas pud would be adorable....

AdmiralData Fri 27-Sep-13 14:34:25

OP, yanbu. I don't remember my first Christmas. The only thing I remember about Christmas as a child is my parents rowing, getting drunk and generally neglecting us. Your 11 month old won't notice. If your lovely baby is anything like mine he will just enjoy you playing with him and involving him in the Christmas dinner etc You could get him a little stocking if you want to. I may be biased as I am Anglican and hate the commercialisation of Christmas and the competitive buying. The extra money I would have spent buying pointless plastic tat for my son will be going on groceries for the food bank in my area, not getting on my high horse but not having a mountain of toys that probably wont be used isn't the end of the world. Good on you OP.

IceCreamForCrow Fri 27-Sep-13 14:34:41

I'm with Edendance, but then giving dc presents when they were that small was pleasure for me and them so I suppose I got something out of it too.

I do understand the practicalities of what people are saying, all valid points, it was the same for us I suppose looking back. I just wanted to I guess.

EugenesAxe Fri 27-Sep-13 14:35:06

I think you are being TOTALLY reasonable. However, 'opening' and playing with paper is quite exciting, so if he will not have that on the day when everyone else is doing so, perhaps wrap up some household objects so he gets the 'sensory' experience. If the relations gifts are going to be there to do that with then I wouldn't bother.

I also agree that it would be totally fine to get him a present later, in the summer or just whenever you spot that he would be ready for something or other.

MurkyMinotaur Fri 27-Sep-13 14:35:29

YANBU but have you considered buying a picture book or two, that your DS can enjoy now or in the future? Maybe one you enjoyed as a child. That can a meaningful, well-used, educational but inexpensive present.

Ragwort Fri 27-Sep-13 14:36:23

Of course you are not being unreasonable, your baby will have a lovely day & receive so many presents from other people, it's not as if you are all sitting there with a single candle, a scrap of bread and one lump of coal to heat the house grin.

I hate this idea that Christmas has to be totally about the presents.

And really, who asks anyone else what they are buying their own children for Christmas (excpet on Mumsnet wink).

2tiredtocare Fri 27-Sep-13 14:36:37

But not wanting to doesn't make you unreasonable

GaryBuseysTeeth Fri 27-Sep-13 14:36:50

Yanbu. Ds1 was born just before christmas 2011 and we've not bought him for either of the ones he's been about for. Have plenty of pics of him unwrapping gifts from other people.
We'll get him something this year but ds2 (who will be 4 months) is going without from us, although we may wrap up ds1's old toys for him.

You won't be measured or judged by the number of presents your get for your DC, as you say he will have lots of unwrapping to enjoy.
But, it does sound faintly off to let your family and friends buy him gifts and then use that as an excuse not to buy him anything yourselves, as though you are saving yourself some money at their expense.
I'd put some money aside for your DC at Christmas and then buy him something fab in the spring for use in the garden. My DD is a November baby and it is nice to be able to treat her in the summer, rather than her getting all her presents in a lump in the middle of winter.

Edendance Fri 27-Sep-13 14:42:33

I know that they won't 'get it' but I don't think that's really the point, at least it isn't to me anyway.

I love giving presents and find the whole process really enjoyable so maybe if you're one of those who finds it more of a chore then it's a more difficult opinion for me to appreciate.

TooMuchRain Fri 27-Sep-13 14:43:53

YANBU, I hate the spending money=love equation that some people are making here

Put some money in an education fund. That's what I and most of the relations did for DD. She is almost three and has more money in savings than me.

When he is 18 and can go to University without debt, you can tell him that is his first present form you.

mrsjay Fri 27-Sep-13 14:52:46

nobody said that toomuchrain and tbh if the op felt like you do they would tell their friends and family not to get the baby any presents for Christmas , I think a babies first christmas can be fun for the parents you dont have to spend a lot to buy a small gift ,

2tiredtocare Fri 27-Sep-13 14:55:55

I don't think anyone finds it 'a chore' that's very simplistic

Emilyeggs Fri 27-Sep-13 15:49:11

I don't buy my boy toys often at all so will be getting him something even though he will be nearly one. And DoJo, I'll be doing it online smile playing my own Xmas music at home. I love Xmas music, I listen to it not just at Christmas. grin

Barbeasty Fri 27-Sep-13 15:54:42

How about buying a voucher so you can get something in 6 months, either slightly more grown up toys or next size clothes. Then you won't decide in 6 months you don't have the cash & won't bother.

Or just wrap up something you'd need around then- age 12-18 months clothes, someone earlier suggested the next car seat.

I feel a bit sorry for DS having his birthday 11 days before Christmas and then waiting a year. Especially between age 1 &2 their interests become much more sophisticated. It was so much easier for DD with 6 months between.

ceeveebee Fri 27-Sep-13 15:55:17

Our twins were 12 months in November, we got them lovely presents for birthday (wooden rocking horse and an activity cube thing). We didn't get them anything for that Christmas other than two small plastic toys. Just did not see the point, GPs and other family all bought loads and there is only so much they can play with at once!
This year is different, they'll kind of know what's happening so we'll get them a stocking and a big present each.

Sparklysilversequins Fri 27-Sep-13 15:58:43

I think people who post this kind of thing just want a big pat on the back for being so sensible.

I think it's tight.

flippingebay Fri 27-Sep-13 16:00:06

My dd's birthday is in January so for her 1st Xmas we didn't get her anything smile

She's never once asked what we got her for her first Xmas. I guess some people are more sentimental than others

What about a lovely special story book that you can read to them at bedtime that they can keep (you could write in the cover a little note then you will have proof you got them something grin) and some money in the bank if you can afford it and a few bits of tat in a stocking. If yu have a big family they will get plenty of niosy flashy tat from them grin

squoosh Fri 27-Sep-13 16:29:24

I always think that too Sparklysilversequins. A stealth boast in being solidly sensible.

Wahla Fri 27-Sep-13 16:30:58

DD1 (but DC4) will also be 11 months at Christmas and is only getting one present as we are already awash with toys and no doubt she will get plenty from other sources.

It is a special present though as I'm going to have her a memory bunny made up from her newborn sleepsuits.

PandaG Fri 27-Sep-13 16:42:33

DD didn't need anything - second child, adoring GPs and aunts, so for her first birthday we bought a really decent backpack for us to carry her in on family walks - we'd borrowed one for DS. DS chose her a book from him, and she had plenty of presents from other people.

Could you buy a stocking that you can use year after year? It would be a present in itself and something that will remind you of the first Christmas? It wouldn't seem wasted then. Don't tell anybody you are buying it - it sounds like somebody else will pinch the idea if you did. I would put something small like a book in it. For all the presents he will be given elsewhere you have plenty of choice with books. You could buy something he will enjoy much later on, when the new baby novelty has worn off and/or you have more children for your family to spoil. A collection of classic stories for example.

And to the person who thought that all Christmas presents come from Father Christmas, no they don't! Presents from friends and family come from friends and family. Presents from FC are totally separate. How can your child thank the right person (when they are older) if they think FC bought everything?

FWIW, I remember exactly what I bought DS1 and DS2 for their first Christmases and they are 13 and 10- nothing flashy or particularly exciting but I still remember. To say nobody will remember simply isn't true. They don't remember of course except we have photos which they have looked at over the years. They haven't been interested in what we bought but the fact we bothered at all.

sparklyskyy Fri 27-Sep-13 16:52:39

I'm definitely not looking upon it as everyone else is doing it so I won't need to bother or that I'm boasting about being sensible about it.

I love buying presents and spend a lot of time trying to find special, meaningful presents for people. After reading all your comments I really like the idea of getting him something sentimental for him to keep.

I just did not see the point in buying him lots of toys, probably duplicates, because he is going to get a ridiculous amount anyway. As it is he has loads and still prefers trying to get the remote controls, playing with shoes, harassing the cat etc rather than playing with his toys.

neontetra Fri 27-Sep-13 16:54:53

Having just read Wahia's post, I am now OBSESSED with the concept of a memory bunny. I want one made up of fabrics pertinent to all my major life events.
OP, just buy a little book or something - it can't hurt, will be cheap, won't clutter your house up and will be a nice keepsake if your child proves sentimental.

ExcuseTypos Fri 27-Sep-13 16:57:07

Yes, a small sentimental thing is lovely.

Dd2 was born just before Xmas, she did didn't get a single thing from us. She wasn't actually due until after Christmas, and it just felt silly buying for a baby who want there yet.

She's never asked what we got her for her first Xmas. If she did I think I'd say 'oh I can't quite remember'

specialsubject Fri 27-Sep-13 16:58:20

baby doesn't know it is Christmas, Sunday or whatever the hell day it is. Make the most of the time free from the overpriced tat.

especially as there is going to be an avalanche from elsewhere, let them battle through the crowds.

bluesbaby Fri 27-Sep-13 16:58:36

I loved the mementos my mum kept for me as a child - first book, first teddy, first piece of jewellery, baby bracelet from the hospital, etc.

I've still got those mementos. It's nice to keep a little something! I am a bit sentimental though.

It doesn't have to cost much at all. You could get a baby book from a charity shop, or pick up a small book for less than £5 at Waterstones. Even small teddies aren't very much.

pigletmania Fri 27-Sep-13 17:00:21

Just buy him a little token present so tat he can unwrap it and have photos to remember his first christmas

loveliesbleeding1 Fri 27-Sep-13 20:06:56

All my babies were only a few months old around their first xmas's, so I used to buy clothes and pj's, and wrap those up.i still felt like they had some things to unwrap,but I would have needed to buy clothes anyway, especially a couple of sizes up.

CruCru Fri 27-Sep-13 20:16:22

Hmm. Perhaps the issue here is more that others buy far too much - is it reasonable to ask them to go canny with presents? Do you feel that their buying so much kind of usurps?

LaGuardia Fri 27-Sep-13 20:18:09

Poor little baby.

2tiredtocare Fri 27-Sep-13 20:23:15

Yes poor little baby, so deprived confused

GillyBillyWilly Fri 27-Sep-13 20:28:36

YANBU but why don't you just get something small? A little soft toy or a new outfit to wear on Christmas Day? Doesn't have to be expensive.. Could just be something from Primark!

GillyBillyWilly Fri 27-Sep-13 20:29:46

Or a "baby's 1st Christmas" stocking with a bear inside?!

kali110 Fri 27-Sep-13 20:30:28

Yes poor baby who wont have a bloody clue

Arisbottle Fri 27-Sep-13 20:30:49

We have not bought ours presents as babies. I hardly think that makes them deprived - or poor babies

2tiredtocare Fri 27-Sep-13 20:32:51

I was being sarcastic, I thought that was clear!

TheDietStartsTomorrow Fri 27-Sep-13 20:37:00

YANBU at all. First of all, those people who made comments about what others would say/think really need to understand that living life according to what you think others would say is a very sad state to be in. You can have all the presents in the world but what's the point if here given for show.

I wouldn't buy a present if I were you. We don't do Christma but when I do give presents it's because I want to. I would never, ever, give my child anything because ofwhat others might think. Not when when he's 1 and not when he's 18.

kali110 Fri 27-Sep-13 20:43:01

It doesnt make op or others tight. At that age it is about your pleasure and def not the baby's.. The baby will have loads of presents to open anyway.

littleblackno Fri 27-Sep-13 20:52:09

Both of my dc's have b'days near xmas. For 1st xmas - DS 11months he got a stocking with his name on it, some wooden bricks and a teddybear (I think!). DD was 6 weeks old and I got her a stocking, teddy bear and a money box. We did have to explain to DS that santa doesn't really bring new babies presents as he was worried about what she might get!

littleblackno Fri 27-Sep-13 20:54:57

Posted to soon - YADNBU. Like others have said it's your pleasure not hers at that age. My DS got SOOOOOOO much stuff from other people he had 2 naps beore he opened everything and he really wasn't interested in any of it!

bababababoom Fri 27-Sep-13 20:55:37

YABU. I only ever spend £20 or so on each of my three children at Christmas, as they have so many presents and just don't need hundreds spending on them - but even as a baby I did a stocking for them. Do you really want to miss out on the joy of choosing something (small) for him??

MY DC's still hang up stockings I bought for their first xmas's, the eldest is 23! They had loads of stuff from other people but the stockings still remain!! You don't need to spend a fortune

fuzzpig Fri 27-Sep-13 21:22:53

For DS (our second) we just bought a little very hungry caterpillar rattle/teething toy, and a 'that's not my penguin' book.

HungryHorace Fri 27-Sep-13 21:53:00

I've bought DD a walker. She'll be 6 months in December.

I've also got a personalised first Christmas sleep suit and Christmas vest plus a personalised Santa's sack.

We won't be buying anything else for her. :-)

NK493efc93X1277dd3d6d4 Fri 27-Sep-13 22:04:31

Of course YANBU just sensible. The number of suggestions that you buy something for the sake of it just proves that the commercialisation of xmas is out of hand! I know plenty of people who splurge like mad on xmas presents but then claim that swimming lessons or similar are too expensive for their kids.

Tinpin Fri 27-Sep-13 22:21:03

My son was 3 months old for his first Christmas and had only tiny things from us-and they were so that his sisters didn't think Santa had forgotten him.He was 19 a few days ago and appears remarkably unscarred by this deprivation and doesn't hold it against us!

kali110 Fri 27-Sep-13 22:23:06

So she should spend money on a cheap toy that the child wont even acknowledge and will be surrounded by load of other crap just to make other people feel better?
At this age it isnt your childs pleasure but your own.
I dont remember what i was bought at that age, nor care.
Op if you want to get a stocking or something little then do it, but dont feel like you have to or that your a horrible mum for not doing so!your child is going to be surrounded by all gifts from your family anyway.
Enjoy just spending time at christmas with your little family.

CockBollocks Fri 27-Sep-13 22:24:34

I spent £20 on some books and little toys. I also bought a Disney tigger dressing gown which I had personalised. That is in his memory box.

YABU - infact neither of my children got lots for the first couple of years, tried to keep the budget to £50.

squoosh Fri 27-Sep-13 22:24:53

I think the stocking is a lovely idea.

CockBollocks Fri 27-Sep-13 22:27:05

Whoops, YANBU!!!

CockBollocks Fri 27-Sep-13 22:28:30

Both of mine also have personalised stockings we use each year!!!

Clearly I am a dream customer for 'not on the high street'!!

squoosh Fri 27-Sep-13 22:32:13

I was looking at stockings on Not On The High Street. Some of them are over £40! Surely no one loves their kid that much.

Licketysplit123 Fri 27-Sep-13 22:33:56

YANBU! I did the same last year but caved at the last minute and bought one gift - one of those wooden house advent calendar things because it can used every year. Glad I got it now because it's a lovely thing to keep and a bit expensive to get other years when I will be buying Xmas presents.

Topseyt Fri 27-Sep-13 22:37:02

I don't think you are being unreasonable at all. I did buy (I think), but can't remember what).

Your baby won't even remember the first Christmas. If I remember rightly, mine at that age were more interested in scrunching the paper any gifts were wrapped in rather than playing with what was inside.

auntmargaret Fri 27-Sep-13 22:40:35

I was 6 months old at my first Christmas. My parents bought me a dog cuddly toy, I had it forever, through 3 house moves, I cherished it. YABU. It doesn't have to cost much, just be given with love. You sound a bit miserable, tbh.

petswinprizes Fri 27-Sep-13 23:34:56

YANBU My ds was 7 months at Christmas, we got him a book, nothing flash, just a board story book. I like Lickety's idea of a posh advent calendar thing though - something for the future.

RoadToTuapeka Fri 27-Sep-13 23:39:17

Both my DSs have birthdays very close to Christmas, one on boxing day and one couple of weeks later. so we also have dilemma of not wanting to get too many 'age appropriate' things that will be no fun by later in the year (both are under 3 at the moment). We got the eldest things that he could open on the days, but could be put away til later in the year when they could be played with better.
Will probably do the same for DS2s first Christmas and birthday. Really the younger ones will love opening anything so presents could be books that they will grow into or other special toys you can bring out later in the year as nice surprises given that there will be no birthdays later in the year for ones born close to Christmas!
I like the idea of a special tree decoration each year, that could be something special.

SugarHut Sat 28-Sep-13 05:09:54

DS was 6mths for his first Christmas. I bought shedloads. Like you can't imagine. So did Mum, as he is the first and only grandchild. So did Nans, Grandads, and pretty much everybody else. We had more stuff than you could ever give him and he outgrew a lot of it before it even got played with. 2nd Christmas, DS 18mths, he got almost bugger all from me, as yet again he got an insane amount from everyone else and I was keen not to make the same mistake, baby toys are huge chunks of wood or plastic and I wasn't going to flood the place unnecessarily again. I got him his first Dr Seuss, which we will always keep, and I also took a load of photos and made him a "Christmas Album" of him opening pressies, munching his dinner, wearing silly hats, dressed like a banker in a little navy 3 piece. He loves looking back at this already. Would have been even better if I had immortalised his 1st Christmas this way. Maybe you could do that? Then when he asks about his 1st Christmas, you can show him. As long as he has one pressie from you that he can see in the photos, the album will mean lots more to him.

Twiddlebum Sat 28-Sep-13 08:12:48

My baby will be 2 months at Christmas and is getting a jumperoo. But only because I had bought one anyway because they were on offer on amazon.

2tiredtocare Sat 28-Sep-13 08:17:21

Mine was 10 days old last Christmas so it's a bit of a blur, I can't remember what I bought if anything

HaveTeaWillSurvive Sat 28-Sep-13 08:32:11

Pfb was 4 months last Christmas and we bought a few little things to make a stocking and mark our first Christmas as a family.

This year we are away at my parents and he will be spoilt rotten by them so he is getting a lovely low single bed for his room! Logic being he still doesn't really know what's going on, he'll need it eventually and it will make my life a lot easier when he's sick - he will only sleep with me then and I don't get a wink of sleep for fear he'll crawl off our very high bed.

Namechangesforthehardstuff Sat 28-Sep-13 08:35:53

I have not RTFT. Not all of it. But what about a charity donation? Then in the v fucking unlikely event that they ask later in life you can tell them that you knew they wouldn't remember or need for anything so you gave money to help girls go to school in rural Pakistan or something?

Lililly Sat 28-Sep-13 09:04:55

Wow, I am glad I never knew about how much others think it is sad not to have presents. Christmas for me involves family coming for a big meal and a good old laugh, no presents to or from extended family, only usually one say £40 thing for my own children, less so when younger (under 8ish) more for the teenagers who have had a bike or a phone.
Never had any complaints, always had a very nice day.

Wanksock Sat 28-Sep-13 10:01:29

I think they do 'get it' at that age in terms of even at that age they enjoy hanging up a stocking, looking at santa's snack (maybe eating some of it!), opening the door to the living room and yippee there are new toys to play with! My DS was 10mo for his 1st xmas and he got the elc whizz round garage, a big box of blocks and a tractor from santa, all things that he enjoyed playing with on the day and for the next few years!

OnTheRunFromTheAcademe Sat 28-Sep-13 10:13:02

YANBU. My ds was 9 months last Christmas and I didn't buy him anything. He had more than enough shiny paper and plastic tat to play with from the rest of the family.

Until they can understand what presents are for, I don't really see the point.

jacks365 Sat 28-Sep-13 10:28:31

Dd4 was 2 months old for her first christmas I filled a stocking with little bath toys and wrapped up a couple of outfits including the one I'd bought her for Christmas day. Things she did need anyway some people wouldn't class them as presents as they are essentials but some would. Clothes in the next size or a special outfit or always a good fall back for a child who gets lots of toys.

sparklyskyy Sat 28-Sep-13 11:26:40

I didn't think my original post would get so many responses!

I'm surprised that people think this makes me miserable hmm

More people by far agree with me or think I should buy a token something for sentimental reasons which I agree with and will enjoy choosing something for my baby, I had never thought of that before.

HollaAtMeBaby Sat 28-Sep-13 15:32:03

YANBU. It's like people who buy their pet a Christmas present. What is the point?

"What did you get me for my very first Christmas Mum? Can you remember?"
FWIW my "very first Christmas" (blee!) was over 30 years ago and it has never occurred to me to ask my parents what they got me for it. I couldn't give a rat's ass.

MiaowTheCat Sat 28-Sep-13 16:13:40

Nice to offload all that nasty present shopping to everyone else so you don't need the inconvenience of paying for anything for your own kid. You sound cheap and wanting everyone else to provide for it all to be honest.

Dd1 was 9 months last Christmas, dd2 will be a similar age this year. Haven't bought them lots for their first ones but they were both well aware of the joy of ripping shiny paper and there was no way I could have lived with the feeling of not buying them gifts to participate, irrespective of how much the grandparents had got them themselves.

kali110 Sat 28-Sep-13 16:36:51

My god shes cheap And miserable, thats so funny!
Shes not making other people buy things so she doesn't have to. These presents r going to be
anyway, why go out and but more crap to fill the house up with that the baby's really not going to appreciate at the moment?
If your buying presents for them at this age is not them your really buying for its your own pleasure.
Christmas to a lot of people is about being with your family and friends.
Second what others have said and buy something sentimental they can keep. Think the calendars a brilliant idea you cAn get it out every year.

2tiredtocare Sat 28-Sep-13 16:39:39

Miaow

TrueStory Sat 28-Sep-13 16:40:39

yanbu, but i remember my mother looking aghast at my decision.

IamSlave Sat 28-Sep-13 16:43:27

i think what some people get for little ones is obscene esp when struggling for money.

You don't have to go to Hamleys and buy inflated prices crap.

What about a little token gift, or babys first xmas etc...

chairty shops, they dont know where its from...

jellyandcake Sat 28-Sep-13 17:57:18

My DS was 3 days old for his first Christmas. He did have a stocking and presents - my nephews were greatly concerned that Father Christmas might not get to us in hospital smile If, however, he asks me in future what we gave him for his first Christmas I will gaze at him blankly as it is all a sleep-deprived newborn haze now.

We definitely did that for our benefit rather than his. The following year he got great enjoyment out of his stocking and other gifts but with such a close birthday and Christmas it is hard to get things as he gets tons from family so I understand the OP's point and think small and meaningful is the way to go.

morethanpotatoprints Sat 28-Sep-13 18:06:54

Mine didn't get anything for first Christmas neither, we were skint and everybody else bought for them, and with dd its her b'day in January . When they got older everything came from Father Christmas and family members. They have never expected anything off us.
They will never know if you did or didn't buy anything, YADNBU there's more important stuff to worry about.

sparklyskyy Sat 28-Sep-13 21:02:20

grin to Miaow

Yes it is such a "inconvenience paying for anything for my own kid" hmm

I find it mildly amusing how you have have came to the conclusion that I am cheap and want everyone else to provide for it all.

My son will have several hundreds of presents so will thankfully not be deprived from the joy of ripping shiny paper.

I think you are being a touch melodramatic when you say "there was no way I could have lived with the feeling of not buying them gifts".

Thank you for making me smile

SparkleToffee Sat 28-Sep-13 21:11:52

I bought both if mine ( among a few other little bits ) things they needed like dressing gown , warm slipper socks, also put balloons in a box and a small teddy. Then for 1st bday I had a large photo frame made up with their name cut out and s picture of them in their first year behind each letter. They still have them in their bedroom now. So if you don't want to buy plastic, rather than them not have anything why not get them something they can keep . Or you could make things like bottles full of water and glitter - babies love shaking things like that but when interest wanes you can throw them away.

LifeOfPee Sat 28-Sep-13 21:12:20

YANBU. My DS will 8 months at Christmas. I don't intend on buying him a present or at least nothing like the amount/cost that will go on my 11 year old DD because he won't have a clue what's going on and there'll be plently more Christmasses to come when he'll get tonnes of presents from us.

I will definitely be starting his Christmas decoration collection though and that will probably be a Baby's 1st Christmas type of thing.

blondefriend Sun 29-Sep-13 10:26:05

YANBU - my children will be 3 and 5 this christmas and they wouldn't notice if they got nothing from DH and myself because of the volume of pressies from everyone else. Even their stockings would have bits in because the family always think of small things for people during the year and just put them in the stockings. I can't remember what I bought each of mine for their first Christmas. TBH one was only a week old and still in hospital and the other was very poorly so I expect we saw Christmas in a slightly different light those years.

monkeymamma Sun 29-Sep-13 10:44:06

My ds was 11mo last Xmas and I went wild on pressies, only to find he received so many that we didn't even get chance for him to open the ones from us. Which made me very stressed (trying to get through the pressies from others) and sad (seeing all the unopened gifts at then end of the day). For his 1st birthday we got him one small thing and then focussed on enjoying the day!

monkeymamma Sun 29-Sep-13 10:44:08

My ds was 11mo last Xmas and I went wild on pressies, only to find he received so many that we didn't even get chance for him to open the ones from us. Which made me very stressed (trying to get through the pressies from others) and sad (seeing all the unopened gifts at then end of the day). For his 1st birthday we got him one small thing and then focussed on enjoying the day!

Wuxiapian Sun 29-Sep-13 11:00:43

YANBU.

My DS will be 11 months at. Christmas, too. We plan to buy maybe a couple of very small things just to open - bits that he needs, but, like your DS, he'll be receiving so many presents, he really won't know what's from who.

ipswichwitch Sun 29-Sep-13 11:19:16

Dc2 will be about 10 days old on Christmas Day, and there's no way in hell I'm traipsing around shops that close to Christmas with a newborn and 2 year old just so I don't look mean hmm
I refuse to buy a present before he/she is here so I will put some money aside and get something when LO is about 6 months and will at least be interested in stuff. I plan on keeping birthday presents for both DC (DSs birthday is October) fairly minimal in future so we can get them something spring/summer time and all the present giving isn't bunched together.

Lora1982 Tue 01-Oct-13 10:04:06

hi Wux!!

Dexter will be two ish weeks off turning one shock due to the lack of funds becaause im taking three months extra mat leave unpaid we aren't buying anything. I will no doubt make a stocking and start a bauble tradition for him, just because I think it adds to their excitement each year if theres a tradition.

He'll get hundreds of presents and so with his b'day just after we'll save our pennies this year.

JadziaSnax Tue 01-Oct-13 12:55:03

I know exactly what you mean. DD will be 1 a fortnight after Christmas and I know she'll get tons from family, then same again two weeks later. I'm just going to do a stocking and a couple of small gifts.

melliebobs Tue 01-Oct-13 12:59:53

Dd was 10 month last Xmas. We got her a decoration for the tree (not a 1st baby one) and got her 1-2 small presents as she had plenty off grandparents. As it turned out is was so overwhelming for her and a lot goin on so glad we didn't splurge loads of cash. smile

Rooners Tue 01-Oct-13 13:00:13

Ds3 is going to be 1 about a week after Christmas and I think it's all going to be a mish mash with presents tbh,

he will have something from my parents, and my sister and SIL and a few things from me and his brothers, probably for both occasions - I don't know. We don't have a big family.

But with children that little, they don't understand the significance of a particular day and also developmentally they do need new things frequently anyway, so one or two things I had bought him have already been given to him, as he wanted that sort of thing at that point iyswim.

He will probably enjoy the wrapping paper more than anything.

Rooners Tue 01-Oct-13 13:03:19

HOWever I do think the significance of everyone having a gift is important and therefore he will have his own stocking, and at least one thing for a present on the day.

I love buying them all presents and probably go OTT if anything, so I'm not tight by any means but I do think babies are kind of beyond the whole fuss really. People hiring halls and discos for their 2yo's birthday make me a bit worried, too.

cornflakegirl Tue 01-Oct-13 13:27:27

YANBU. I can't remember what we got DS1 for his first christmas. For DS2 we brought down age appropriate clothes and toys that we'd put away after DS1 and wrapped them up. He was only 4 months, so the wrapping was entirely for DS1's benefit.

However, I have a christmas music book that has an inscription indicating that it was given to me by my uncle on my first christmas. I obviously don't remember, and I couldn't play the music for years, but it does mean something to me now.

2tiredtocare Tue 01-Oct-13 13:47:58

Almost snap Rooners, my baby boy (DC3) will be 1 the week before Christmas

Blankiefan Tue 01-Oct-13 22:08:37

You are being absolutely reasonable. I'm pg, due early Nov so our dc1 will be about eight weeks old at Xmas. I've not even considered buying the baby Xmas pressies (and hope others don't bother much either given they are likely to have just bought "new baby" gifts) - it seems a bit absurd and totally unnecessary frankly...

IHaveA Fri 11-Oct-13 16:01:36

Sounds like a good idea. He will be happy with the wrapping paper from you and your DPs presents. You can always buy something for him later in the sales or in the springtime when something comes up that he needs,

I don't think YABU and wish I could have been so sensible about it myself, but fact is that I love shopping and Christmas and I just see an excuse to spend money! I really like the idea of buying a personalised stocking or wooden advent calendar - those reusable advent calendars are great but we have ripped so many felt ones and I can't afford to buy the wooden ones now, I wish I had done that for their first Christmases.

magicberry Sat 12-Oct-13 14:12:09

I always have to get a little something even if it's only a tenner or so - now I have older kids I wouldn't want them thinking Father C had left their brother out. (That's a whole other thread I know...)

nokidshere Sun 13-Oct-13 17:05:09

Of course they don't know what's going on all they know is that's there is lots is attention and cool stuff
To play with (ie boxes and paper)

YANBU for my youngest we
Just wrapped toys that his older brother had had and he opened them -
What's the point of spending money if you don't have to? My oldest was 4 weeks old at Christmas and got tons
From everyone else and we didn't get him anything

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