people who split their food shopping into 'batches' to pay for separately

(267 Posts)
BooCanary Sun 22-Sep-13 21:25:32

How annoying is that?
Today I went to Asda and BOTH people in front of me at the till did this.

Person one paid THREE different times, one for the majority of the shop, one for a few essentials ( milk, bread etc) and a third time for an item of clothing.

Person two then proceeded to pay for their shopping in two sections.

I was waiting bloody ages, fuming and wondering why these people can't just pay once and then divide it up later based on the receipt if they happen to be buying for other people.

Sparklingbrook Sun 22-Sep-13 21:26:27

Ooh did they have 3 individual envelopes of money too? angry

They might be buying for their employer and need a dedicated receipt. They might not have enough in their account to cover their friend's shopping and need to pay by cash they have been given. Does it really matter that much?

BlackholesAndRevelations Sun 22-Sep-13 21:28:29

Yabu. Maybe they use different accounts for different things. Eg if I'm buying clothes for dc I sometimes use my account whilst all the food shopping is bought with joint account.

Maybe the person they're buying for wants their change back and it's just easier to pay with their money.

What exactly is the problem?!

carolmillen Sun 22-Sep-13 21:29:02

YANBU - you choose your queue depending on how many people are already in the queue so it's irritating when you find that someone is splitting their shopping up in this way.

Sparklingbrook Sun 22-Sep-13 21:29:06

You think you are waiting behind one customer, but they take the time of 3 basically.

BlackholesAndRevelations Sun 22-Sep-13 21:30:01

Oh and yes, stuff for work needs a separate receipt.

BrokenSunglasses Sun 22-Sep-13 21:30:07

Three separate transactions is a bit cheeky, you know you're going to hold people up too much if you do that. But two is ok. Sometimes DH and I will do it if we're doing a big shop and one of us wants to buy something out of our own money rather than out if the joint account which we only use for essentials and bills.

HerrenaHarridan Sun 22-Sep-13 21:30:09

Get over yourself

Just because your time is so utterly fucking precious that you can't wait a couple of mins extra in a q doesn't mean that I shouldn't put my shopping through however is convenient for me, which includes having 3 separate receipts to give out.

Have you considered online shopping so you don't have to come into contact inflict yourself on other people

Trills Sun 22-Sep-13 21:30:56

They don't take the whole time of three, unless they put away their purse in between and faff about to find it on three separate occasions.

BlackholesAndRevelations Sun 22-Sep-13 21:31:09

Still fail to see the problem. I usually choose based on how much stuff is on the conveyor belt.

DaddyPigsMistress Sun 22-Sep-13 21:31:18

I used to do a weekly top Up shop for 3 old ladies who live in assisted living with my nan before i got them hooked on internet shopping.
I split the shop, they all like to keep the receipt so needed one each.

You'd of hate to be behind me grin

Annunziata Sun 22-Sep-13 21:31:40

YABU, if its for work/ elderly parents etc it's much easier.


I'd find it bloody annoying tbh.

Euphemia Sun 22-Sep-13 21:34:03

YABU.My dad used to do this shopping for his housebound mum. It made life easier to have two separate receipts, then my grannie could see what her shopping cost each week, item by item.

People don't go about looking for ways to inconvenience other people. Get over yourself.

Sparklingbrook Sun 22-Sep-13 21:34:33

This is why I use Click and Collect. grin No cashier/no conveyor/no annoying customers doing stuff like that.

Yonionekanobe Sun 22-Sep-13 21:34:37

My mum shops for two neighbours who for different reasons cannot manage a trip to the supermarket. She always splits out the shopping so that people can see what the shop cost etc. I'll let her know that taking out time from her very busy life to help others is causing people like you such a huge inconvenience hmm

BooCanary Sun 22-Sep-13 21:35:01

Bad night Herrena? hmm

Asda on a busy Sunday afternoon with two DCs aged 6 and 4 (4 yo is a nightmare in queues), and yes I did choose what I thought would be the shortest queue, and yes I did get pissed off at the complex financial transactions that meant I had to wait considerably longer.

Trills Sun 22-Sep-13 21:35:12

YANBU to find it bloody annoying when you've carefully chosen your till based on amount of shopping, number of shoppers, age of cashier (if they will have to call for help to sell alcohol) etc.

YABU to think that they are actually doing anything wrong.

It's just another factor to add into your till-choosing algorithm. Does this person look like they are doing multiple shops for home/work or for other people?

carolmillen Sun 22-Sep-13 21:35:56

Wow ... HerrenaHarridan - that's quite a reaction shock

PeppiNephrine Sun 22-Sep-13 21:36:33

Oh please, what were you going to do with those 5 mins you saved?

The things people can get worked up over never cease to amaze me.

NotYoMomma Sun 22-Sep-13 21:36:53

my mil does this as she is a carer with poa for her mother and gets her shopping at same time with seperate money and also unofficially cares for her neighbour and gets all her shopping too

obvs being a carer she has little income so can't get all the shopping at once and settle later.

she also needs seperate reciepts for the neighbour to show what she got/ spends in case her actual help asks

and reciepts for her mother in case her family asks.


it still all going through the till anyway and she was still ahead of you.


BooCanary Sun 22-Sep-13 21:37:56

I shop for my DM sometimes, and its very simple for me to add her bits up from the receipt afterwards. Not rocket science.

And yes paying three times for one shop split into 3 does take considerably longer than paying once for everything.

Mum used to do this when she did the shop for my grandad. It made sense to do it that way.

People who are carers will often do this. Pay for the shopping of the person they care for.

In fact some work has been done with supermarkets to help them spot carers (and this is one way) so that they can then direct them to support.

YABU. Very.

BooCanary Sun 22-Sep-13 21:39:50

What was I going to do for the extra 5 mins? - I was not going to spend it trying to get my 4 yo to hold my hand, that's what!

KirstyJC Sun 22-Sep-13 21:40:08

I do this when Tesco have their vouchers for £5 off a shop of £40, if I have more than one voucher - I ask the cashier to stop when it gets to £40 and then I pay and get my £5 off. Then I carry on and do it again so I get £10 off an £80 shop instead of only £5.

It might piss people off, but I don't care. My saving a fiver is more important than making a random stranger wait about 30 secs longer for their shopping.

Actually I found, many moons ago, when I worked on a checkout that the number of objects (within reason)is not the main factor, it is the number of transactions. A decent checkout person will zoom through a conveyor belt of shopping fairly quickly - it is the waiting for the person to pay which takes the time. It tends to be quicker to go to a till with just one person buying 50 objects (as long as not splitting bill) than a till with 5 people buying 5 objects. This is just based on my months of tedious work in my gap year but I always avoid the basket queue if possible if more than a few people waiting. It might be slightly quicker if it is the same person and paying cash, but it still takes time to print out the receipt etc. Having said that I wouldn't loose sleep over it.

Sparklingbrook Sun 22-Sep-13 21:40:49

It's like when you want to buy a newspaper at the kiosk and the person in front is doing a bajillion complicated transactions involving the Idiot Tax National Lottery. With millions of envelopes, coins and scribbly bits of paper. hmm

Holliewantstobehot Sun 22-Sep-13 21:40:53

I used to shop for my housebound mum and myself and always put it through separately as i was on a very low income and couldn't have afforded to pay for all the shopping and then get the money back. It is stressful enough doing two lots of shopping with a baby and a toddler, followed by two lots of unloading and putting away without going through a receipt.

HoneyDragon Sun 22-Sep-13 21:42:13

I put everything in my trolley in two groups. All the full price stuff together. Then all the discounted. I pay for all the full price then get my price match voucher.

Then I pay for all the cheap stuff.

I could give a fuck I'm annoying someone, but as I usually save a good £5 on a £40-£50 shop I'm to happy to give a shit grin

Trills Sun 22-Sep-13 21:42:26

Sometimes people do things that are perfectly reasonable, even admirable (e.g. getting shopping for elderly neighbours, and getting separate receipts) but they are still really bloody annoying to be behind in a queue.

It's like letting people out at junctions when driving. It's kind to let people out at junctions. It's a very lovely thing to do. But if I am in the car behind you, and you continually let people out, and I am in a rush, I am going to find it annoying because now I am 4 cars further back than I would have been.

RabbitFromAHat Sun 22-Sep-13 21:43:29

Wow, I've never see anyone do this - do people really do three separate transactions, holding people up for longer? That's incredibly, incredibly rude. OP, YANBU.

Top tip - don't look at the number of people in the queue, look at the number of dividers separating the shopping.

morethanpotatoprints Sun 22-Sep-13 21:44:03

Was it staff double discount day?
My ds does this for me, you get different discount from different departments and it all needs to be tilled separately.
Or it could have been carers shopping for their patients, my ds says this is really taking off atm.

SkinnybitchWannabe Sun 22-Sep-13 21:44:26

Im a cashier and this is quite common.
Like the above have said I see alot of carers paying for items seperately because they have three different purses/envelopes of money.
I also get people wanting to pay for things with different cards or part cash part card.
It doesnt take that much longer to split, maybe a few minutes...Wow.

HoneyDragon Sun 22-Sep-13 21:44:28

I also shop for my neighbours too. And do their lottery. But I make a special trip just for them for the lottery.

southeastastra Sun 22-Sep-13 21:44:44

i wouldn't let it bother me really, don't sweat the small stuff people

exexpat Sun 22-Sep-13 21:45:36

YABU. I don't think anyone chooses to split their shop into three chunks just for the fun of it, or even as a deliberate attempt to piss people off. I would assume they're buying stuff for someone else (I shop for my elderly parents and sometimes do it).

SkinnybitchWannabe Sun 22-Sep-13 21:45:58

Honeydragon that is a brilliant idea..going to try that smile

GemmaTeller Sun 22-Sep-13 21:46:09


You chose the wrong till.

I buy shopping groceries out of the joint account and clothing and make-up for myself out of my personal account, and I use money off vouchers...

...and if you were standing behind me tutting and drumming your fingers in a 'I'm so busy and too important to be standing here' kind of way I'd be making sure I was going even slower.

HerrenaHarridan Sun 22-Sep-13 21:46:36

Yes I have had a bad night actually and im not usually one to flame someone.

As someone who picks up shopping for others on a regular basis I know what a difference it makes to just pay with the recipients money and hand them receipt and change, if its for two people should I nip to the library and photocopy the receipt?

chances are if someone is splitting a shop not just into two but 3 they are going well out of their way to help others. And yet you grudge them the 30 secs it takes to process separate payments.

CeliaLytton Sun 22-Sep-13 21:47:32

YANBU to have been a bit fed up at spending longer in the queue but YABU to think that they were unreasonable to split the shop.

I shop for my very elderly neighbour occasionally. She likes to have a receipt and I like to give her exact change. Should I go to the back of the queue after my shop in order to pay for hers?

Way to make a favour seem like a big bloody hassle, and these are the people who need looking after/help and only wish they could get as far as the shop on their own to be held up for 5 mins.

So sigh deeply and then get over it.

ICameOnTheJitney Sun 22-Sep-13 21:48:17

My next door neighbour likes her own receipt...she's 87 and I'm not going to argue! YABU

BooCanary Sun 22-Sep-13 21:50:50

It really grips me that people would go deliberately slower just if they felt that the person behind them was a bit fed up. Thats a very me me me attitude.

And I wasn't drumming my fingers, I was trying to wrangle my feral child!!

f we didn't sweat the small stuff, half of MN would disappear grin

LondonNinja Sun 22-Sep-13 21:51:37

I do this. It's pretty blooming clear from the divider that I've got two lots: one lot for me; the other for my parents.

I'm pretty swift and don't faff, so don't see the problem.

HerrenaHarridan Sun 22-Sep-13 21:53:43

And huffing and harrumphing to try and make the person in the q ahead of you feel rushed is somehow very selfless?

CaptainSweatPants Sun 22-Sep-13 21:54:03

Don't go shopping on a Sunday afternoon with two small children

Do online shopping

Like someone says dont sweat the small stuff

Annunziata Sun 22-Sep-13 21:54:35

No, a me me me attitude is letting the person in front of you know that you have decided they are taking up too much time.

HoneyDragon Sun 22-Sep-13 21:56:06

Skinnybitch it works, the major supermarkets still can't price fix everything each day. wink

ELR Sun 22-Sep-13 21:56:45

I do this all the time, I run my own business teaching cooking classes and workshops and often have to buy various ingredients. At the same time I pick up a few bits for home but I need to pay for my ingredients on my business account, so pay separately.

MiddleAgeMiddleEngland Sun 22-Sep-13 21:57:06

I often pay in two or three lots. One account for food, one account for treats/clothes. My elderly aunt's account (I have poa) for her shopping.

Sorry, if you really cannot stand in the queue while I do that, please either do online shopping or go elsewhere. And I'm normally an extremely patient person.

ImperialBlether Sun 22-Sep-13 21:57:47

Honey dragon, that's what one of the till operators in Asda tell me to do. She asked if I did the Asda challenge, and then said make sure that you don't put any discounted items or bog off items through in the main shop because that will affect how much you get back. Seems like a good idea.

footballagain Sun 22-Sep-13 21:57:57


There's loads of reasons to do this that other people have posted about.

But I think it sounds like you're pissed off because you had to control your 4 year old for 5 mins. Which, frankly, is no one else's problem.

BooCanary Sun 22-Sep-13 21:58:50

I didn't huff or harrumph because, unlike those who go deliberately slow to 'punish' those waiting, I am not rude and have manners. I was internally pissed off.

And it is not always possible to do internet shopping, or avoid shopping on a certain day/with kids. Things crop up, and sometimes you need to shop at short notice.

NotYoMomma Sun 22-Sep-13 21:59:51

it would have been 5 minutes more, seriously get a grip

HoneyDragon Sun 22-Sep-13 22:01:02

I'm also the nice person who passes £5.00 off vouchers behind me if I know I can't use them in the date provided.

I don't give them to tutters.

MrsKoala Sun 22-Sep-13 22:01:57

its very simple for me to add her bits up from the receipt afterwards. Not rocket science

If i did this weekly for my nan it would be a major production:
Me <take shopping to Nans house, rummage round for receipt, sit down start adding it up while nan fusses and frets> Right, that's £12.68 Nan
Nan: WHAT...twenty pounds forty two
Nan: well take Twenty <shoving a note into my hand>
Me <sigh> NO! (then proceeding to have an hour argy bargy where money get's pushed back and forwards)

I may get home and find she'd stuffed a twenty on my bag anyway. Or maybe get a call from my aunt saying Nans really upset you wouldn't take the money, she says she'll do her own shopping this week. Which involved infirm nan with arthritis and parkinsons on buses etc. It may not be rocket science, but for some older people it makes them feel it's not so much of a favour and keeps them in control of their money. I do think YABvU.

BooCanary Sun 22-Sep-13 22:02:09

It seems football, that I am to be understanding of people with a variety of complex financial setups (treat accounts etc) but those people don't have to be understanding of me. So does it only go one way?

I am very thoughtful of other people, which is why I don't make my banking complexities impact in others.

ChippingInNeedsSleepAndCoffee Sun 22-Sep-13 22:03:14

If you put this much effort into teaching your child to be less feral it wouldn't be an issue smile

GemmaTeller Sun 22-Sep-13 22:04:47

Why don't you see if they've got a GRIP on a 3 for 2 offer next time you go shopping and get yourself one (or three).

UniS Sun 22-Sep-13 22:04:54

Needed different receipts as different people paying for things. seems reasonable to me.
I'm mildly annoyed that I can't have 2 quick check scanners at once in Waitrose when I'm shopping for me and someone else.

woodlandwanderwoman Sun 22-Sep-13 22:07:23

What's the alternative? The lady should go home, separate all the items into three groups, copy her receipt twice, tally up the group totals two or three times, count out exact change where necessary?

Doing 2 - 3 transactions seems pretty smart to me, how do you know her time isn't more precious than yours just because she doesn't have a screaming four year old? As others have said, there could be a lot of good reasons for it and I would place money on none of them being to piss off the person behind.


Fakebook Sun 22-Sep-13 22:08:05

Always go to the supermarket with an open mind and fully aware that you may get held up. YABU to expect people to hurry up just because you can't control your children. At 4 and 6 I'd expect them to be sensible enough to not run away and be naughty in a shop.

Every supermarket in our city has a self checkout now. I use them when I'm in a big rush or toddler is crying. Infact I sometimes cut my shopping to essentials only when I have my 5 and 1 year old with me on a weekend and buy the rest of the stuff the next day.

MiddleAgeMiddleEngland Sun 22-Sep-13 22:08:25

I am very understanding of others. I let people go in front of me if I feel it would help - if they've got a lot less than me, or if they have restless children for example. I also mention to anyone joining the queue behind me that I may take a bit longer as I'll be paying in two or three lots. They can join another queue if they're in a hurry (or just impatient and grumpy by nature).

It's give and take, I think you just need to breathe deeply smile

Sparklingbrook Sun 22-Sep-13 22:10:22

I think if you are brave enough to venture into a supermarket these days, you have to assume there will be all sorts of annoying things going on. From parking, to paying it's all pretty grim.

whatshallwedo Sun 22-Sep-13 22:10:27

Yabu clearly you feel that your time is more precious than the person in front of you. They got there before you therefore they can take as long as they need.

BooCanary Sun 22-Sep-13 22:11:51

Thanks Chipping! Next time I might try his shopping technique and start whining 'why does it take so loooooong, when can we go hooooome, I'm bored' grin

Clearly I am the most intolerant person on the planet. I'm sure none of you ever get internally exasperated about anything. And I expect you certainly never 'sweat the small stuff' by posting minor issues on MN. Off to buy a grip, out of my treat account, which I shall pay for separately from the clothes which will be bought from my clothing account; the shopping for my mum which I will pay for in loose change; the reins for my DS which I will purchase from my separately held child benefit; not forgetting my food shopping which will be paid for based on food group.

smokinaces Sun 22-Sep-13 22:12:25

I did this yesterday. With three kids. I had my two as aged seven and five and their baby half sister aved one as her parents were at the hospital. I put two separate lots of shopping through - one for me, one for my ex husband. Was a hell of a lot easier to give him the receipt to pay me back than to try and count up who owed what. took a whole extra ninety seconds to run the card through on two different occasions. Yabu.

Sparklingbrook Sun 22-Sep-13 22:14:37

I will dash ahead of you with my one item Boo then spend ages trying to find my purse, and once found will try every bank card, give up and pay in two pences rummaged from the bottom of my handbag. Ha!

MiddleAgeMiddleEngland Sun 22-Sep-13 22:15:18

I find uncontrolled children one of the most annoying things of all. At 4 and 6, they really should be able to stand in a queue quietly for a couple of minutes. (With the usual MN disclaimer of special needs, obviously) smile

BooCanary Sun 22-Sep-13 22:18:56

You will NOT Chipping! Your time is not more precious than mine you know. If I am in front of you in the queue I have RIGHTS and I will assert them by taking all day if needs be! grin

PeppiNephrine Sun 22-Sep-13 22:20:27

Maybe you should have stopped fuming and wondering why and spent the time working on your childrens manners?

BooCanary Sun 22-Sep-13 22:21:45

Anyway, good to know that as well as being the most intolerant person ever, I am also the only person who has a 4yo who gets restless supermarket shopping and gets fed up with standing in a queue for 15 mins.

Oh well....

ChippingInNeedsSleepAndCoffee Sun 22-Sep-13 22:22:23

I think you might mean sparkling grin

FreeWee Sun 22-Sep-13 22:23:19

Sparkling I'm that idiot! I do the work syndicate but because not everyone is in the syndicate every week (only do mega Euromillions rollovers) if we win I reinvest the money in one pot but keep a separate pot for that week's tickets. All paid for in £1 coins!! Sorry blush

notthefirstagainstthewall Sun 22-Sep-13 22:23:47

YANBU. I wouldn't mind 3 separate shops if people didn't faff so much. It's no surprise that you need vouchers,loyalty cad, car parking ticket and money shock. So have them ready.

Thank goodness cheques have gone.

It's the expectation. If you wait in the self serve queue you do expect to take hours because they are liable to fuck up. You expect the queue at the cashier to be quicker.

BooCanary Sun 22-Sep-13 22:24:43

Ooops sorry Chipping, i did mean Sparkling! <adds getting names mixed up to list of personality flaws>

Sparklingbrook Sun 22-Sep-13 22:25:46

Right well if you can stay out of the Morrisons kiosks in the Worcestershire area that would be grand FreeWee. grin

Shop at 2am then you won't have to deal with those that don't shop the way you want them to.

NotYoMomma Sun 22-Sep-13 22:27:15

why bother posting here?

its not banking complexities really (seperating their own clothes/ food etc)

its three seperate people ahead of you in the queue. but 2 of them are

go by the number of dividers or use the self serve

TiredFeet Sun 22-Sep-13 22:28:40

My husband often does this as some stuff will be for work and some personal. What is he supposed to do, go round and queue again? It only takes the length of time of typing in one extra pin number really

I get far more annoyed by people who produce about 30 little voucher things! But I get that its the stores decision to issue them so I should be pissed off with the shop really

FreeWee Sun 22-Sep-13 22:28:45

I'm on maternity leave till next year unless I win the Euromillions rollover all on my own bah hahaha so you're safe Sparkling

NaturalBaby Sun 22-Sep-13 22:29:08

YABU. I do it sometimes and often have at least one, if not all 3 dc's (all under 6yrs old) with me.
They had as much right to do their shopping on the same day and time as you, it's not their fault you're child was not in the mood for a supermarket shop.

HoneyDragon Sun 22-Sep-13 22:30:20

Last week I gave up in the world goods aisle sat on the floor and refused to go any further. Because of the incessant whining I had to endure.

GemmaTeller Sun 22-Sep-13 22:30:50

Off to buy a grip, out of my treat account, which I shall pay for separately from the clothes which will be bought from my clothing account; the shopping for my mum which I will pay for in loose change; the reins for my DS which I will purchase from my separately held child benefit; not forgetting my food shopping which will be paid for based on food group

And whilst you're doing all that make sure you talk on your mobile the whole time and piss the cashier off as well.

sparkle12mar08 Sun 22-Sep-13 22:30:52

I will do two splits if I'm in Sainsburys to get the maximum value out of their Brand Match offer. Otherwise you can end up not getting the full value back.

cooeeyonlyme Sun 22-Sep-13 22:31:45

I had someone do this to me in Tesco's when they had that spend £40 and get £5 off voucher.
They had about £200 of shopping. I wanted to kill them.

Yanbu, it's rather like waiting for those people who have loads of couponsangry or those that pay with pence. It takes a century, a special till should be made for these nuisences!

LoopThePoop Sun 22-Sep-13 22:32:40

I know a couple who go to the supermarket with their DD in the trolley.
You will see one or the other of them with a separate basket for their own things.
I think they take turns to do a 'big' shop and then get their own things separately when it's not their turn.

Seems nuts! They are married FFS.

Thatdidnotgowell Sun 22-Sep-13 22:34:33

I regularly do this to buy stuff for work. I do always apologise to anyone who is behind me for delaying them but it doesn't take that much longer really, I always have cards/cash ready to pay and try and get through as speedily as possible.

FreeWee Sun 22-Sep-13 22:35:05

Oooh there was a thread a while back about people baggsying places in queues with trolleys, small children, auras Eddie Izzard I was in Arrrsdar today and the lovely pointy finger lady was pointing to a no queue. A lady sent her young daughter ahead to steal the space ahead of me. Fortunately for me her daughter has less front than her mother who clearly thought I was deaf and didn't hear her send her daughter to get in the queue ahead of me! and I calmly started placing my items on the conveyor belt while her daughter hung around the sweet display. Oooh if looks could kill from her mother grin

LittleNoona Sun 22-Sep-13 22:36:06


Have some consideration for others.

It's not their fault you find it difficult to control your child.

eatmydust Sun 22-Sep-13 22:36:20


I do all the shopping for an elderly relative who is housebound. I always pay separately so I can give her a receipt. It would totally confuse her if I had to separate items on one receipt. She also likes to keep her receipts in case she forgets what she had bought and she can keep track of her spending.

I do always have my money ready though and let people go in front of me. Just spare a thought for the people who are doing their shopping in this way - you don't know the story behind it.

sharond101 Sun 22-Sep-13 22:36:48

More and more people are doing this now because of the price match policies. They split things up which they know are cheaper elsewhere and put them through together so the other items which may be cheaper in the host shop don't interfere with the difference they will get back in vouchers.

HerrenaHarridan Sun 22-Sep-13 22:37:55

Boo canary, your last post was really ducking funny grin

but ya-still-bu

I am sorry for biting you head off, I have actually had a pretty hellish day.

But seriously though, reins for your 4 yo why not just stick him in the buggy wink

GemmaTeller Sun 22-Sep-13 22:38:20

Maybe they should have an 'Awkward' till as well.

HoneyDragon Sun 22-Sep-13 22:39:19

My MiL doesn't like to hold people up and has everything ready to pay. She had her money lifted whilst in the queue sad

TSSDNCOP Sun 22-Sep-13 22:40:21

I do it in Sainsbury when they have petrol for a £50 shop so I get at least 2 vouchers.

I don't see why it gets you bent out of shape it's the same amount of stuff on the belt, and the payment takes seconds.

Why take kids to the supermarket when you could shop online if the queue bothers you that much.

judgejudithjudy Sun 22-Sep-13 22:43:45

yabu & rather silly - they didnt do it on purpose & why is it there fault you cant control your dc? suggest you do online shopping in future as you sound as miserable as sin tbh.

EndoplasmicReticulum Sun 22-Sep-13 22:46:30

Oh my children go feral in supermarkets. Which is why I never take them.

ChinaCupsandSaucers Sun 22-Sep-13 22:48:20

those that pay with pence

Do you mean people who use coin cash?

Blame the banks, and the surcharges on those change machines in the supermarket lobbies - I run a cash based business and I'm jiggered if I'm going to incur costs to pay cash into my account just so I can use a card/notes in the supermarket.
So yes, I split my shop into home and business (as advised by the HMRC), I pay with coins and I organise my packing into different bags depending on where I'm going to use the shop (home, shopfront or catering kitchen) , as well!

But then, I put £000 through the supermarket tills every year; which keeps the prices lower for those Sunday shoppers who only need one or two items a week wink

EndoplasmicReticulum Sun 22-Sep-13 22:52:11

I do get annoyed at people using more than one card at cashpoints though. It's because you think you're nearly there, they have pressed every single option it's possible to press, thought long and hard about whether they wanted a receipt, and just as you think it'll be your go next.... out comes another card.

WetDog Sun 22-Sep-13 22:56:08


My nan would love to be in good enough health to do her own shopping - and it would mean I didn't have to annoy people like you by doing a split shop while she can't physically get to the supermarket.

In fact, if she's feeling well enough in a couple of weeks, I'll take her to Asda. She's looking forward to it already smile

But for now, while she's recovering from a major operation and hoping for her Parkinson's symptoms (which have got considerably worse due to the operation) to hopefully improve a little, I'm doing her shopping for her.

Which means it's easier for me to split the shop, as I can give her her own receipt and the right change.

I've never seen anyone get visibly annoyed or impatient because a) it takes an extra thirty seconds for me to pay for part of the shop separately and b) I think the vast majority of people have a little empathy and probably realise that I must have a good reason (like a poorly grandparent) to be doing two separate shops.

Have a bit of a heart for goodness sake. And if waiting in a queue for any reason is this much of a problem to you, then shop online.

Things are hard enough as it is without me having to worry about sensitive souls quietly fuming because I'm taking an extra 30 seconds of their time while I pay for my poorly nan's shopping angry

HildaOgden Sun 22-Sep-13 23:02:50

This is a classic example of somebody with children thinking that their needs/wants/requirements come above anyone else.

The customer in the queue in front of you had every right to be served the way they were.You don't get special entitlements just because you have a child (perhaps you would be better trying to teach that child to behave better for the few minutes it took?Is that beyond the realms of reason?)

Sunrunner Sun 22-Sep-13 23:10:06

I have to do this once a week as I do my uncles weekly shop and as I am there (and it's my day off) I may as well do my shopping.

I like to have his stuff on a seperate reciept, not that he ever looks at it though.

notthefirstagainstthewall Sun 22-Sep-13 23:12:09

HildaOgdenThey are expecting to be served twice though or in the Op's case 3 times. Whats the point of a queue if you effectively have 3 people's shopping for every one.

I'm amazed at the amount of people who suggest the Op should go online and shop. Her transaction seemed relatively simple.Why don't all you who spend ages trying to play the supermarkets do it online instead? Even better since they usually get something wrong online you can complain and get even more of it free/cheap.

TedMoseby Sun 22-Sep-13 23:13:46

I just fail to see how it took that much longer. There was the same amount of shopping to go through the till as if they had paid in one go, just they had to change cards/get cash out.

Let's say it took 2 minutes for each transaction (which is generous tbh). You lost 6 minutes of your life. I hardly think it matters in the grand scheme of things.

BooCanary Sun 22-Sep-13 23:14:42

No it isn't Hilda. I didn't hold ANYONE up with my shopping. I was ready to pay promptly, I packed my shopping speedily and got the hell out of there.

Why? Because I am thoughtful of other people and don't like to inconvenience them. If i pay with vouchers, I get them ready beforehand, if I am asked about cashback I give a decisive answer, rather than fishing around in my purse for 5 minutes trying to decide.

It has nothing to do with my DCs. They did not inconvenience or effect anyone, other than me! I do not expect anyone to make allowances for my DCs but I do expect other people to be generally understanding that there are other people in the world.

ChinaCupsandSaucers Sun 22-Sep-13 23:17:01

I do expect other people to be generally understanding that there are other people in the world.

By ensuring they follow your expectations of their conduct at the checkout, rather than do it the way that is more convenient for them.
Oh, the irony!

BooCanary Sun 22-Sep-13 23:17:26

You'd be surprised how long people can take to pay, Ted. In an ideal thoughtful world it would be quick, but add champion faffers into the mix and it takes ages.

BooCanary Sun 22-Sep-13 23:19:34

I would have thought SOCIETY would expect that if there were a long queue of people, it was only polite to be thoughtful of that fact. I certainly always am, but perhaps I shouldn't bother.

Turniptwirl Sun 22-Sep-13 23:20:26

Yabu it doesn't take that much longer as they have the same amount as you saw

Maybe OP you should try understanding that there are others in the world and that they have reasons for doing things the way they do.

BooCanary - we do this in Tesco, when they are doing their 'Spend £40, get £5 off your next shop' - if we split it up, we can get £15 off, which is jolly useful. We do do our best to do it as quickly as possible, so as not to hold people up too much.

DaleyBump Sun 22-Sep-13 23:28:30


I do this occasionally. I go to the shops for my gran and if I pay for all of our things at once she won't actually split the bill, she'll just give me all of the money so she ends up paying for my things too. If I was able, I would just pay for her shopping too but I can't afford it. I have to pay for our things separately.

Delilahlilah Sun 22-Sep-13 23:29:37

Yabvu. People have reasons, usually of the selfless variety, e.g. shopping for those who are unable.... and your excuse is that your 4 yr old is unable to behave for that period of time? I don't think that reflects badly on the others involved, does it?

McNewPants2013 Sun 22-Sep-13 23:29:42

You would hate me.

Last week in tesco 4 loads of shopping. Mine mums Nan's and FIL

FIL is practically housebound, my nan was due out of hospital, my mum as she didn't have time with going back and forth at the hospital ( my nan is fine now)

Next week it will be back to 2.

I did this on my own with 2 children, the one has ASD so very difficult I was proud of myself smile

HaroldLloyd Sun 22-Sep-13 23:31:02

SDTG, I never thought of that!

Bring on the batches I say.

TSSDNCOP Sun 22-Sep-13 23:33:24

But it would seem that the pesky queue hoggers are in fact doing their bit for society in helping with other people's shopping.

TSSDNCOP Sun 22-Sep-13 23:34:59

Except me, I'm doing it for petrol vouchers and I don't care that much about the people behind if I can save a tenner at the pump.

<vows to help society more>

Misspixietrix Sun 22-Sep-13 23:38:13

dCould be any number of reasons OP. My DM used to run à Church Coffee morning and all their things had to be on seperate receipts. Also my SIL os a Carer and I remember many years ago she would be in Asda at 9pm buying 5 différent peoples bits of shipping too smile

candycoatedwaterdrops Sun 22-Sep-13 23:40:03

Well aren't you a little ray of sunshine!

footballagain Sun 22-Sep-13 23:45:59

This thread is bonkers.

Only you op made mention of your kids.

WetDog Sun 22-Sep-13 23:49:12

Why don't all you who spend ages trying to play the supermarkets do it online instead? Even better since they usually get something wrong online you can complain and get even more of it free/cheap.

My nan is 81. She doesn't want to trouble people. Other family members shop for her sometimes as well. But quite often I'll call her if I'm on my way to see her and ask if she needs anything and she'll admit she's not felt well enough to do her own shopping. But that she's at least got enough bread for breakfast tomorrow sad

So I have to get her shopping as and when on my way over to her house. It's stuff she can't wait for, I just do it when I can.

It's so sad that so many people seem to completely lack any concern or empathy for others.

ontheallotment Sun 22-Sep-13 23:51:16

I shop for myself and my inlaws, I need to keep careful records of whose is what and make sure the right shopping goes in the right bags. This is far, far easier with separate receipts and with the shopping rung through separately so I virtually always do this. I like to think I am reasonably quick at paying up and bagging so not too much extra delay for the person behind - far less in fact than if I had FiL in tow and let him pay for his share (this takes for ever), though I appreciate the sight of an extra person might put people off joining the queue. But really, OP, until you have actually had the extra hassle of regularly purchasing and claiming back the costs of all of another persons shopping just relax and stop fuming. It really does create a lot of extra work just doing the shopping (I hate having to choose for other people) and getting out a calculator to figure out the total owed (not forgetting to include the relevent BOGOFS and discounts) afterwards and annotating the receipts accordingly for accounting purposes would be the last straw.

It is a total faff, but somebody has to bring groceries to the home and bed bound. I have to do this when I am shopping for my dad. His shopping is usually too big to filter out from mine afterwards, plus I sometimes forget what goes where. confused And he is very particular, worried that I would "cheat him" angry I dont have time to shop twice! But hey, there you go. I usually manage to get it separate in the bags too, to make it easier and more exact for later.

I dont feel guilty for holding up the queue. I feel pissed off that my dad is in a wheelchair paralyzed after his stroke and unable to shop, and my mum is in a care home with dementia and does not remember me. This is really on the forefront of my mind every time I do my dads shopping. Not the impatient people behind me rolling their eyes because they have to wait while I pay twice, because that is their only delay. Me paying one extra time. Otherwise, it would have been the same.

I think home helps do this.

I do it if I am buying stuff for work and don't really want to have to hand over a list of MY shopping time it was a multipack of preg tests

RhondaJean Sun 22-Sep-13 23:54:41

I do this shopping splitting.

It's just to piss people like you off op.

Nah seriously, today, I had three lots in tesco. I had the food shop which is on a credit card DH pays for, some candles n shizzle which I paid for myself and some sweets which dd1 paid for in cash herself.

I did feel embarassed when one of the million coupons I had didn't go through, the cashier buzzed for help, the guy went to swap my item and it took ages. If you were behind me, sorry, but there were other tills that were moving and tbh unless you are actually on your way to deliver a transplant organ or to perform the transplant op, you don't have anything that urgent that requires you to be a twat about people in front of you.

Oh, that message also goes to teh arsehole in the red Peugeot who beeped me cos I wouldn't undertake a car turning right when I would quite obivously have required me to put wheels upon the pavement in the main street this afternoon.


TedMoseby Sun 22-Sep-13 23:56:43

Boo, I wouldn't be suprised as I've worked on a checkout myself. I tend to have a little compassion for people if they're faffing.

I've had people reveal to me when they were getting flustered (because of tutters like you) that it was their first time out shopping since having a stroke, an elderly woman tell me that it was her first time shopping since she lost her husband of 50 years the week before and people with various other health issues that you wouldn't necessarily know were there.

You're probably the people who tut at me when I spend an extra minute passing the time of day with elderly people. You may be in a rush, but I appreciated that I was sometimes the only people that they had spoken to all week.

Have a little compassion.

Goldmandra Sun 22-Sep-13 23:56:54

Maybe it would help the OP to think about the fact that these people aren't generally splitting their food into batches.

How about thinking of it like this?


Mary's food is scanned and she pays for it from her account/money.

Beryl's food is scanned and she pays for it from her account/money.

Janice's food is scanned and she pays for it from her account/money.

That causes you no problem.


Mary's food is scanned and she pays for it from her account/money.

Beryl's food is scanned and Mary pays for it from Beryl's account/money.

Janice's food is scanned and Mary pays for it from Janice's account/money.

This winds you up.

The same three people's food is being purchased. The only difference is that in the second scenario the same person is paying for it each time. It takes no longer and is possibly slightly quicker.

You would prefer that Mary checks out all of the shopping together, causing extra work to herself, complications if there are 3 for 2 offers etc, and possible confusion to probably vulnerable people who are unable to be there and do the paying themselves. All this should be imposed on them in order to make Mary quicker because you think your time is more important than hers.

YAB massively U.

If you are thinking more of people saving themselves money by splitting their shopping into batches to hit spending targets you should address this with the management as it is the poor design of their systems which necessitate the palaver in order to save the maximum amount of money on shopping.

BeCool Sun 22-Sep-13 23:57:00

It's amazing the tensions and annoyances you can add to your own day by focusing on minor matters like this.

People do this for lots of different reasons, often because they are helping someone else out.

But continue to degrade your own day by getting all twitchy about it, by all means. Just realise you are free to choose to act differently. You can make it a non issue really quite simply.

You should really try do your shopping with an open mind and an open heart. All sort of stuff unfolds in shops.

I recently spent 10 minutes chatting with an elderly lady while choosing pastries. She looked a little lost, dithered and looked uncertain. So I smiled at her. She looked ever so grateful at being noticed, being smiled at. She asked me where to find ice cream, I pointed to the ice cream. She said, maybe she rather have a pastry and could I recommend some. We measured the merit of pastries up against each other. She told me she had just moved in across the road, into sheltered housing. Her husband had passed away. She was originally from Finland and without her husband, she realized she had so few people. She felt so alone in foreign lands, even if this had been her home country for over 40 years. Her children had grown up and lived elsewhere. She missed them, her house and her husband. She wanted to cheer herself up by buying something nice to eat, like an ice cream or a pastry.

Sometimes people are vulnerable. Sometimes people dither, and faff. They may have their minds elsewhere.

I often end up behind somebody who struggles with their purse, hold up the queue, and I can see their frustration. The check out assistant apologizing to me for the delay. I normally just smile and say "thats allright, I am not in a hurry". I prefer to seethe inwards, as pointedly tapping my fingers on the counter or shooting daggers with my eyes is not going to help anybody. Just make everybodys day a little bit more unpleasant. Mine included.

StuntGirl Mon 23-Sep-13 00:44:29

Aww quint that's really sweet smile

MrsKoala Mon 23-Sep-13 00:53:01

aaah Quint that made me cry. <Disclaimer - i'm in bed ill atm and a bit fragile>

LadyBigtoes Mon 23-Sep-13 01:08:23

I do it if I am buying a significant amount of stuff for myself (like nice shampoo, make-up, magazine, socks etc) from the supermarket - too much to shove in the joint account food shop with a clear conscience!

So I am tolerant of people in front of me doing it - though one person doing three separate shops might be slightly annoying.

I was once behind this (normal-looking, 40-something like me) lady who put each item on the conveyor belt then gave it a little pat as if to comfort it as it went on its way towards the scanner.

I started off thinking hmm wtf you daft woman but after a minute I stared actually really liking it, it was so sweet. I do it myself now

Bogeyface Mon 23-Sep-13 01:10:59

People don't go about looking for ways to inconvenience other people.

This, couple with what Quint said.

Be grateful that the only thing you have in your life that pisses you off is someone taking their time in the supermarket queue.

cumfy Mon 23-Sep-13 01:57:10

Surely as long as they put the requisite number of dividers down it's OK ?

expatbrat Mon 23-Sep-13 02:06:21

YABVU My Mum is housebound and very ill. I live 1000's of miles away and if it wasn't for the kindness of her neighbour bringing her shopping (and a cooked meal every day) She would never be able to live in her own home.
It's the difference between her living in her own home and living in a 12 x 12 room in a care home.
Hope you're as lucky when you're her age angry

Notafoodbabyanymore Mon 23-Sep-13 02:07:24

I used to do my FIL's weekly shop with mine when he was housebound with emphysema. Mine was paid for on a card, his with cash. Please explain to me how it would be easier to put his through with mine and for us both to end up with the right money? I would have had to get cash out myself, then have it split into small change so that I could then sit with a receipt, work out how much change he was owed and give him the right change.

Or I could spend less than 30 seconds paying seperately.


Also, I used to have my 1 year old in tow and managed to keep her entertained if there was a hold up.

garlicbaguette Mon 23-Sep-13 02:26:06

This is bonkers! grin

What the bloody hell do you want the person to do - carry three baskets to the till, check one out, then go to the back of the queue with the remaining two, rinse and repeat all over again?

It'd be a teensy bit inefficient, don't you think?

LaGuardia Mon 23-Sep-13 02:49:49

Never happens in Waitrose.

HicDraconis Mon 23-Sep-13 03:56:44

YABU. We do this every week - because "personal" groceries go on the credit card (to get the airmiles) but "business" groceries have to go through the business account. So we have to pay with 2 separate cards.

We're still scanning through the same amount of shopping, takes about 2.5 mins to slide card into reader, enter PIN, smile and say "thanks, the next few bits are ours too" and pack bags into trolley while next lot of groceries are scanned and packed.

And we're not even shopping for other people, just us smile is it really worth getting so hot under the collar for an extra 2.5 minutes?

(Love the stories of random shop encounters. Will look out for someone to smile at next week!)

loveblackcats Mon 23-Sep-13 04:07:37

FFS if it bothers you that much OP, simply shop online, or suck it up. YABU

loveblackcats Mon 23-Sep-13 04:20:31

You appear incredibly selfish

Twiddlebum Mon 23-Sep-13 04:27:47

You would hate me then because I use the self service tills so I can pay using all my small change!!! (I have been tutted at many times!!

Crowler Mon 23-Sep-13 06:03:55

I find it frustrating to be in line behind the scratch ticket people. Otherwise, I have patience. But I can certainly appreciate that 1 minute feels like 10 when you've got toddlers in a supermarket.

try shopping with students , one trolley and I haven seen 6 seperate transactions out of that one troleey. OP I suspect you would have spontaneously combusted.

CairngormsClydesdale Mon 23-Sep-13 06:40:34

YABU. But next time someone does this, explain that it's all well and good them picking up a few bits for an elderly neighbour, but that they should wear a sign around their necks reading "BEWARE - SLOW SHOPPER".

Shop on the internet then you impatient twat.

Misspixietrix Mon 23-Sep-13 06:45:28

I just cant get worked up about having to wait a new minutes longer for my turn to be served. confused

Sparklingbrook Mon 23-Sep-13 06:45:58

If this was in Chat it would be a completely different thread. Some on here are far more arsey than the OP.

Misspixietrix Mon 23-Sep-13 06:46:32


Blimey think most of the replies to this are actually worse than the op!
I don't believe anyone enjoys waiting any more than necessesary for a slow as a snail shopper, as tbf we all have places to be and other things to do than wait for someone to pay numerous times.

Crowler Mon 23-Sep-13 06:57:16

I really love it when people take lots of time to ensure their cards have gone back into the correct slot in the wallet, the receipt is carefully folded, they've got their car keys in their hand, their hat back on properly, etc - before vacating the checkout spot. I enjoy the pageantry of it all.

Sparklingbrook Mon 23-Sep-13 07:01:34

That's what I think pumpkin. The replies on here are really rude. the Op didn't actually say anything to the 2 lots of shopping splitters. By the replies on here you would have thought she offered them outside for a fight. confused

BooCanary Mon 23-Sep-13 07:08:13

Loving the fact that all the people telling me to chill out, don't sweat the small stuff and stop being rude/selfish, are the same people ranting at me, calling me a twat and telling me to get a fucking grip.

Seems just as much an over reaction to an internet forum thread, as say, getting slightly miffed about being held up in a supermarket.

Maybe you 'chill out'ers should take some of your own advice. grin

ChinaCupsandSaucers Mon 23-Sep-13 07:10:15

we all have places to be and other things to do than wait for someone to pay numerous times.

Do most people really live such hectic and deadline-driven lives that a few minutes extra at the Supermarket checkout results in lateness, delay and things not being done?

I'm quite glad my life is lived at a much slower pace!

I work in residential care and we have to split the shopping based on how we code it when we put the receipt through petty cash. So food has to go through separate to toiletries separate to household goods separate to stationery... We have to have separate receipts as we put through different petty cash folios.

So, several different reasons why people would do this, as you can see. And maybe if they are buying for different people they don't want to split it up, as it's much easier to divide it at the till and have separate transactions than it is to be faffing about taking off a few items later and making a calculation. Perhaps the other person wants their own receipt. I also don't quite see how it takes that much extra time...the vast majority of wasted time at the checkout is caused by slow packing and slow money finding. The packing will be the same time as it's the same number of items, so you've only got the extra money finding time. If someone's quick anyway it shouldn't be much difference at all.

SoupDragon Mon 23-Sep-13 07:13:12


Sparklingbrook Mon 23-Sep-13 07:26:02

YY the people saying 'don't sweat the small stuff' are getting very sweaty indeed. grin

Lweji Mon 23-Sep-13 07:26:27


It can be annoying, but they probably need to.

Just put up with it.

You'd also be annoyed to see my 8 year old go to the self-checkout to pay for his own stuff, wouldn't you? smile

kungfupannda Mon 23-Sep-13 07:37:23

I hate supermarkets.

Every single person in them annoys me. The only way I'd enjoy my grocery shopping experience would be if the place was entirely empty, save for rows of silent staff, waiting to predict my every need and usher me to the right aisle.

However, I have, after many years, accepted that this is entirely my problem and nobody else cares if my blood pressure is getting so high that my brain might actually be forced out of the top of my skull like a volcano. I have therefore perfected my breezy "Oh, that's ok" smile. It seems to convince everyone but me.

Tonight I have an online delivery coming. This makes me happy.

Sparklingbrook Mon 23-Sep-13 07:39:18

It's the way to go kungfu. Click and Collect or Home Delivery. Perfect.

QueOnda Mon 23-Sep-13 07:40:09

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

hackmum Mon 23-Sep-13 07:41:56

Some people on here are getting very aggressive towards the OP, presumably because they are the sort of people who think the world revolves around them and their needs and they have the perfect right to hold other people up.

I bet they're the same people who are in front of me in the queue at the train station going, "I want to travel from London to Newcastle via Leeds, stopping off first in Birmingham, is it more expensive if I go on a Friday or a Saturday, oh, hang on, I also need to come back on a Sunday, and while I'm here, can I pay a family rail card?"

SatinSandals Mon 23-Sep-13 07:54:14

It doesn't take much longer. Those who are carers generally have separate money and want a separate receipt.

Tee2072 Mon 23-Sep-13 07:55:42

Huh. My four year old knows how to act in a queue. He doesn't whine, bother other people or ask 'are we doonnne yyetttt?'

And he has a SN.

So what's your excuse for a badly behaved 4 year old?

ChinaCupsandSaucers Mon 23-Sep-13 08:02:07

hackmum how do you suggest those travellers but tickets for their journey, then?

It's all your own fault - if you don't tell people like me in front of you that your time is more valuable than mine, and that despite me arriving prior to you in the queue, your needs are clearly more important than mine are, then how on earth am I going to know?

FreeWee Mon 23-Sep-13 08:02:59

Light hearted thread anyone? brew

I think the moral of the story Boo is to count the dividers rather than the people. As Goldmandra shows, it's not about the amount of shopping or how many people it's for; it's feeling a little bit deceived/cheated/narked/frustrated (delete as appropriate) that what you thought was one paying occasion queue turns into a two or three pay occasion queue which naturally takes longer. Yes yes people might be doing it as carers, for frail, elderly people blah blah blah. It's not the doing it, nor the thoughtfulness of people doing nice things for other people. It's the sinking feeling you get when you realise you've chosen the wrong queue as what appeared to be a short queue turns into a long one because you didn't realise there were multiple sets of shopping being bought.

Crikey sometimes MN disappoints me with the vitriol against was I assumed was a lighthearted moan by the OP feeling hoodwinked that what she thought was a short queue turned out to be longer than expected. Really, this isn't solving the chemical weapons question in Syria FFS!

awakemysoull Mon 23-Sep-13 08:03:53


I do this.

The shopping comes out if the joint account and any items I want for myself and dcs come out of my account.

2 separate transactions every time.

It means dp doesn't see how much I've spent on clothes and shite because there is a separate receipt wink

bouncysmiley Mon 23-Sep-13 08:07:43

They were probably doing a favour for someone. If you go to the shops in person this is a risk you take!

Wouldn't bother me at all. Takes maybe an extra minute per transaction. Sometimes you get stuck behind someone who wants to use loads of vouchers, sometimes it's someone who likes to chat to the cashier, sometimes someone who takes ages to pack their stuff into various bags, or whose card gets declined. If you're really in that much of a hurry, perhaps go shopping another time or shop online.

quoteunquote Mon 23-Sep-13 08:59:36

OP, when I shop for my elderly and disabled neighbours, I put each of the individual shops through, so they all have an separate receipt.

How would you suggest that I get an individual receipt for the shopping, if I don't put it through individually?

If you have a problem with the amount of time you wait at the tills, write to head office and suggest they employ more people to go on the tills.

motherinferior Mon 23-Sep-13 09:04:36

Oh, I do this. We have various different accounts. Doesn't take madly more time, and keeps me as sane as I can get.

Tailtwister Mon 23-Sep-13 09:04:42

I used to shop for DH's granny and had to have a separate receipt, so I could submit it to my FIL. As he was in charge of her money, we had to have receipts for everything in order to show were weren't taking advantage of her I suppose.

I do understand your point though OP, it must be annoying if you think you're going to get through quickly and then it takes ages. I tried to shop at less busy times for this reason, but sometimes that wasn't possible.

Sparklingbrook Mon 23-Sep-13 09:06:55

In fairness to the OP she was stuck behind 2 'splitters'.

SilverApples Mon 23-Sep-13 09:07:57

Well, I suppose this thread is a nice change from all the ones complaining about whiny and demanding bratlets, scooters in supermarkets and hopeless parents who can't manage their own children.
YABU OP, and you have had a lot of excellent reasons why someone might need to pay in batches. grin
I do it on the occasions I'm buying for my parents, who are obsessive about their own receipt and when I'm buying stuff for school that I might have a chance of claiming back. Or to have a separate receipt so that when I do pay with my own money, I can see how much I'm spending on other people's children per month.
Internet shopping, and managing your own children better are the solutions.

cory Mon 23-Sep-13 09:09:50

I realise I am getting old since I can manage to feel faintly nostalgic about the long waits in supermarket queues/at bus stops/on train stations. It seems like a hundred years since I last had to launch into a fairytale to keep Little Mischief occupied. I think even at the time I did realise it was less hard work than having to shop for 87-yo neighbours. And now I miss it- oh, I do miss it! 13yos don't want to hear stories about the fairy kingdom under the sea. 16yos do their own shopping. Can I borrow somebody's feral 4yo?

Sparklingbrook Mon 23-Sep-13 09:10:06

I think the children bit isn't particularly relevant TBH. It has just been used to pounce on the OP and have a go at her child rearing skills. It would be annoying with or without children in tow.

SilverApples Mon 23-Sep-13 09:11:35

kungfupanda :

'I hate supermarkets.
Every single person in them annoys me. The only way I'd enjoy my grocery shopping experience would be if the place was entirely empty, save for rows of silent staff, waiting to predict my every need and usher me to the right aisle.'

OH feels exactly like this, which is why he doesn't do the Supermarket shop. I hate ironing. We traded tasks in the 1980s and never looked back. grin

carolmillen Mon 23-Sep-13 09:12:17

What I don't understand is why retired people do their shopping at prime time e.g. on a Saturday. My parents do this and I always ask them why don't they do their shopping in the week when it's quiet. They simply do it out of habit - always done their shopping on a Saturday - crazy really.

"In fairness to the OP she was stuck behind 2 'splitters'."

No, she wasnt. She was behind 4 people getting their shopping done. 2 of them just weren't there.

Dont people judge the amount of items in baskets/trolleys before they join a queue? I never chose my queue based on people in it, but amount of groceries in their trolleys!

carolmillen Mon 23-Sep-13 09:13:56

PS, OP, sorry you've had a hard time on this thread - never post in AIBU on a Sunday night unless you are up for a fight. There mustn't be anything good on the telly on a Sunday night ;)

ShatnersBassoon Mon 23-Sep-13 09:14:25

I have to do this at least once a week. I buy food items for various groups I'm involved with, and they don't like having to send receipts that have lots of items on that have nothing to do with them to the auditors, even if the amount spent by them and the relevant items are highlighted. Plus, I can only send a receipt to one group, so couldn't claim back from others if I'm buying for more than one of them.

It takes a couple of minutes more. I don't like doing it, but someone has to so I don't apologise for it.

Sparklingbrook Mon 23-Sep-13 09:14:58

My parents are retired. They go at 8am on a weekday morning. Then my Dad tuts because there's only one cashier on. hmm

limitedperiodonly Mon 23-Sep-13 09:15:32

I did this last week.

I would also like the following offences to be taken into consideration:

I only get my purse out when I'm good and ready to avoid people pinching it.
I pay with change.
If I get change, I check it.
I put my purse away carefully in the zip-up pocket of my bag, then close the zip and put my bag back under my arm.
I check the receipt before moving off.
During all this I will be chatting pointlessly to the till operator.

SilverApples Mon 23-Sep-13 09:15:44

Ohh yes.
Old people and mummies with their precious poppets shopping between 12 and 2 when I'm trying to buy my lunch. That's a whole other rant. grin
Yes, I should make my lunch the day before and put it in the fridge. I know that. But rants are not based on logic.

Sparklingbrook Mon 23-Sep-13 09:16:13

Oh blimey. I am glad I don't go into supermarkets. Invisible shoppers. Whatever next. grin


Maybe we can send our robots in one day.

We would be stuck behind malfunctioning robots. What a to-do!

GemmaTeller Mon 23-Sep-13 09:27:23

One busy week, the only time we could fit going shopping was after 11pm.

Off we went to Tesco Extra, got our full weekly shop, commenting on the quiet and empty supermarket........ to the tills and we were told we had to put it all through the self serve till while being watched by the security guard !

disclaimer* DH won't do internet shopping, he has to 'see' the meat and veg before he buys it smile

MajesticWhine Mon 23-Sep-13 09:27:44

YANBU. Of course its annoying.
Yes I'm sure there are very valid reasons for doing it blah blah 87 year old neighbour etc. To everyone who does this : "You are still annoying"

Well, there is only one thing for it. If you cant change it, (which you cant because people will still do it), you need to change how you perceive it and how you deal with it.

Annoyment will only only irritate you not the other shopper and their invisible co-shoppers. You just punish yourself when you let yourself be annoyed. Why allow yourself to enter into such a state? You are damaging your own very soul when you do this.

Try shop with serenity and calm. It will do you good. smile

BeCool Mon 23-Sep-13 09:43:29

Well it certainly adds another element to my M&S lunch purchases (me, colleague, staff birthday cake - that's THREE separate payments!!!) To know half the customers in M&S will be getting their knickers in a twist about my activities.


mumnosbest Mon 23-Sep-13 09:44:50

Don't you just choose the till with the least amount of shopping not just the one with the least people? 1 with a trolley load takes longer than 3 baskets.

HarrietIsHistory Mon 23-Sep-13 09:48:46

I do this if I am shopping for a friend, I put my stuff through and pay on card, then put her stuff through and pay with her cash. Then we both get our own receipt and if and we can each return our own things if we need to.

SilverApples Mon 23-Sep-13 09:50:58

'Try shop with Serenity and Calm. It will do you good.'

I like Quint's idea. Rename your children and teach them how to chant in a soothing manner.

nonmifairidere Mon 23-Sep-13 09:55:44

If you get this worked up about something so inconsequential, how do you cope with the real stresses in life? People shop in different ways for a variety of reasons, none of which are targeted at deliberately frustrating you. Get over yourself.

MiddleAgeMiddleEngland Mon 23-Sep-13 09:55:49

I find it fascinating to discover that some people have spent far longer faffing about on this thread than they would ever have had to wait in a supermarket queue while someone did a favour for another person.

Off to faff about in the queue at Waitrose now. Anyone care to follow me?

Thurlow Mon 23-Sep-13 10:00:52

Oh my god, you've got to love this.

Half the thread having a go at the OP for not psychically knowing the reasons why the people ahead of her split their shopping - yet at the same time presuming to know that the OP's 4yo is obviously a little terror and harrassing the whole supermarket.


Only on MN on a Sunday evening...

Somerset8 Mon 23-Sep-13 10:02:47

Yabu. Just that

SatinSandals Mon 23-Sep-13 10:03:35

I can't see that it holds it up for more than a few minutes. I can think of things that hold it up far longer, someone forgetting something, picking up something without a bar code, replacing something that is leaking, card not working, I could go on and on. It can't be good for your stress levels if it upsets you so much.

MisguidedAngel Mon 23-Sep-13 10:04:02

I haven't actually counted, but most people seem to think YABU, as do I. You asked - they told you. Why are you arguing?

ExitPursuedByADragon Mon 23-Sep-13 10:14:42

YANBU Gets my bloody goat as well.

Growlithe Mon 23-Sep-13 10:22:58

That person in front of you could have been me a few years ago before my DDad died. I had to do my dad's shopping, choosing things that I thought he could probably heat up without burning down his sheltered accommodation. I was trying to do mine and his shopping as quickly as possible because I worked and was also trying to have a bit of a life of my own with my new DH but I felt the need to spend as much time with DDad as I could because he'd gone so downhill with grief and was so lonely in the years since my DMum died suddenly of a heart attack. He was physically and mentally a shadow of the man I knew and loved and looked up to all my life.

It made it all a bit easier to split the bill this way. I would have taken standing in a queue with a restless 4 year old over all that, I know because I've done both, and I know which made me feel more harassed and stressed.

Touched a nerve this thread, because he died 9 years ago yesterday, and I didn't have to split my shopping anymore. I'd forgotten I'd ever done it, but this brought it back.

The 'small stuff' you shouldn't be sweating, might just be someone else's very big stuff.

SarahStrattonIsBackForJustABit Mon 23-Sep-13 10:25:43

The lovely man on the till in Tescos split my shopping for me, as they were doing a spend £X get £Y back. He scanned it through until it reached £X, processed the payment, then carried on doing it until all my shopping had gone through.

I had 5 separate payments. I thought it was lovely of him to be so thoughtful.

treadheavily Mon 23-Sep-13 10:53:59

Quint your post about your chat in the pastry aisle was very sweet. People like you brighten others' days.

I try to be a good, considerate shopper, but I don't feel bad if for any reason I have taken a bit long at the till. Like I did when my card was declined and I went online on my phone to transfer funds then swipe again. I explained it to the self checkout guard person, offered to stand aside but they were very cool and said no no, it's all fine. Crumbs, it's only life. You are going to give yourself a stress condition if you let these little things rule your feelings.

candycoatedwaterdrops Mon 23-Sep-13 10:59:37

Supermarkets really bring out the worst in some people. I'm sure they're the root of all evil.

BergholtStuttleyJohnson Mon 23-Sep-13 11:09:15

YABU. I've never done this but I can see many reasons why someone may need/want to. There's no rule against it and it doesn't take that much longer.

ChinaCupsandSaucers Mon 23-Sep-13 11:33:54

There's no rule against it

Thats the thing isn't it - supermarkets would quickly insist on a one-customer, one-transaction rule if it in any way affected the image or profits of their business. Despite the OP moaning, I'm sure she won't boycott the store just because they don't have a policy against it.

If supermarkets can insist on footwear and shirts being worn in store, I'm sure they could prevent "splitters" from buying their shopping in this way if it was bad for business wink

Charliefarlie1192 Mon 23-Sep-13 11:36:23

yabu, they were in the queue before you and can pay however they wish

Lweji Mon 23-Sep-13 11:43:52

PS, OP, sorry you've had a hard time on this thread - never post in AIBU on a Sunday night unless you are up for a fight. There mustn't be anything good on the telly on a Sunday night ;)

Or... never post in AIBU unless you are up for a fight.

You may be pleasantly surprised that it doesn't lead to a fight, but consider the default option before you post and keep your sense of humour.
Which you clearly can't, if you have to post about people paying separately at the supermarket.

DamnBamboo Mon 23-Sep-13 11:45:27

Does it really take that much more time to process? I don't think so.
Often if they have done it this way, they will be more organised in terms of payment and bagging etc.

SatinSandals Mon 23-Sep-13 12:01:27

I very often do it, for my mother, for groups that I belong to. It makes life so much easier to give them separate receipts. I have no intention of stopping.

SatinSandals Mon 23-Sep-13 12:03:18

I would say it is much quicker than have to faff about with the packing. I find the annoying people are the ones who won't pay until it is all in bags.

Whether you do this or don't do this or whether you must do this, it doesn't mean it is not annoying to the people behind you.

Bottom line is vouchers, coupons, 3 separate parts of shopping or counting with pennies, it is annoying & time consuming.

5Foot5 Mon 23-Sep-13 12:43:31

OP you would hate to be behind me at the Self Service checkouts on a Friday lunch time then!

On Saturday morning I need to be able to dish out various amounts of cash to family members (£14 for one music lesson, £12.50 for another £12 for something else) These are all situations where it helps enormously to be able to have the exact money so I have to make sure I have a supply of tenners and at least 8 pound coins. Of course when I go to the cashpoint it gives me the money mostly in £20 notes. The solution therefore is for me to go in to the nearest supermarket and buy three small items - e.g. a sandwich, a packet of crisps and a newspaper - and then I go to the Self Service till and pay for each of the three items separately, thus getting my supply of change and notes.

Never notice anyone fuming behind me but I suppose it is possible

Lweji Mon 23-Sep-13 12:44:32

Anything you can possibly do at the checkout is potentially annoying to the people behind for the simple fact that they are behind you.

I think a little good will with others is necessary.

Those who get annoyed have the additional problem of stopping being annoyed.

Just be patient.
And try not to annoy the person behind you. grin

limitedperiodonly Mon 23-Sep-13 12:47:34

It's true, other people are very annoying. I often think how different things would be if my life were one long personal Zil lane.

Stupidly, I chose the wrong career path and failed to become a high-ranking Party official in a totalitarian state.

ChristineDaae Mon 23-Sep-13 12:48:48

When I was a support worker we couldn't pay altogether. We needed receipts for the lady's account, we were on 24 hour shifts we had to provide our own food so when shopping for 'bits' we old have to separate them out.

BeCool Mon 23-Sep-13 13:03:09

Off to buy lunch annoy someone grin

SelectAUserName Mon 23-Sep-13 13:18:31

I would be mildly annoyed. My level of annoyance would vary depending on whether it was simply a case of "great, I'm going to be stuck in the soul-sucking Hellmouth that is the supermarket for slightly longer than I hoped" or whether I'd dashed in to get a few bits while on my 30-minute lunch break from work, and was now likely to be a couple of minutes late back to the office which might only be a couple of minutes, but will get noted as poor punctuality (we don't have flexi time in this department).

However even while acknowledging my own annoyance, I would recognise that I was BU to let it get to me, that the person/people ahead of me in the queue hadn't set out that morning thinking "I know, today I'll really piss off Select" and that having to faff about with three loads of shopping was probably more inconvenience for them to deal with than for me to wait for. And if they, or the cashier, apologised I'd just smile - even if it was ever-so-slightly through gritted teeth - and say "that's fine, no hurry." My issues aren't their fault or responsibility.

Sparklingbrook Mon 23-Sep-13 13:21:53

Our local supermarket has a pay and display car park. 50p for half an hour, £1 for an hour. With all these invisible customers and massive queues I wouldn't know if 50p would do it. sad

Solo Mon 23-Sep-13 13:32:01

I do my Mums shopping for her. I use her credit card for her shopping and I also hand over her club card for her shopping. If it's just a couple of items, I'll pay for it in one bill, but I've had her £60+ bill and my £30 bill and it would not be reasonable for either of us to lose out by putting all that on one persons bill.
So! I apologise, but will continue to do it. I do try to get through it all very quickly though and if you are behind me with just a few items, I will let you go in front of me. HTH.

Sparklingbrook Mon 23-Sep-13 13:36:23

That's dodgy territory Solo using other people's cards, and knowing their pins.

Growlithe Mon 23-Sep-13 13:39:18

Well would it help you to imagine if all those customers were visible then. So instead of me doing my dad's shopping, I brought him along. He'd be very slow round the aisles as he was no good on his feet. He would ram you and your children with his trolley, not deliberately. He would take ages to load the conveyor belt because he'd find it hard to keep leaning into the trolley then getting back up to the belt. He'd FAFF about packing and goodness knows how long he'd take paying. Then he'd shuffle out of the shop.

Take my word for it, you'd rather be behind me then him, even if I was paying separately for his stuff.

Sparklingbrook Mon 23-Sep-13 13:41:34

No Growlithe it helps me to use Click and Collect, and leave all the customers both visible and invisible to their queues.

Growlithe Mon 23-Sep-13 13:59:14

Which is an option for anyone who doesn't want to come across anyone else while shopping. But then I suppose the member of staff going round picking your order might annoy me with their massive trolley getting in the way in the aisles. wink

KellyElly Mon 23-Sep-13 14:02:48

I did this the other day - one batch of cards for work (needed a receipt for accounts), my shopping and DD's sweets she wanted to be a big girl and buy and pay for herself. It didn't take much longer than if I'd paid for them all together. Don't see the big deal myself. Much less annoying than when the person in front of you decides they've forgotten something and everyone has to wait while they go looking for the item.

BooCanary Mon 23-Sep-13 14:17:31

Thanks to those who have realised that I was expressing mild annoyance, and I am not intending on going postal in the middle Asda. Freewee your post sums it up completely!

Aaaahhhh, I haven't had such an enjoyable roasting on AIBU for ages.

As it turns out, I've had a particularly annoying day at work, and my supermarket gripes have paled in comparison. <slopes off to post 'AIBU to expect people to replace the printer toner'.... grin >

Sparklingbrook Mon 23-Sep-13 14:18:49

grin Growlithe. I have always thought there must be an easier way of doing it than trudging those massive trollies around the actual supermarket.

Sparklingbrook Mon 23-Sep-13 14:20:52

Printer toner. angry I know what you mean Boo. Where I used to work no bugger ever used to change it except for me. It involved going to the stationery cupboard and everything. hmm

Growlithe Mon 23-Sep-13 14:23:47

Sparking it's the only way of guaranteeing they are giving you the stuff that's just about to go out of date. grin

Sparklingbrook Mon 23-Sep-13 14:25:47

grin Don't say that Growlithe, I will have to venture back into the supermarket.

I used to work 12 hour shifts from midday to midnight, used to drive me loopy when the toner would run out at about 10pm and the day staff hadn't ordered any to replace it, and of course at 10pm I couldn't order any either.

SilverApples Mon 23-Sep-13 14:34:28

'But then I suppose the member of staff going round picking your order might annoy me with their massive trolley getting in the way in the aisles'

Unlikely, DS was quite keen on the job of being an online shopper assistant for the local supermarket, until he saw the start time. 5am.

Growlithe Mon 23-Sep-13 14:39:08

Silver they do it all hours round here. I guess it's to service all delivery/collection time slots.

SilverApples Mon 23-Sep-13 14:43:25

Probably, Growlithe, I was too busy crying with laughter at DS's response to think further.
His ghast was well and truly flabbered. grin
All the shifts started at 5am.

Latara Mon 23-Sep-13 15:02:57

I once worked as an online shopping picker while at uni, it was exhausting because yes, the shifts started so early - not ideal with the student lifestyle!
I soon got a job working as a bank HCA instead - still exhausting but I could pick my shifts and start times.

Yesterday was a nightmare at the supermarket, all went well until I booked my taxi home (couldn't carry all the shopping) - my frozen fruit n veg defrosted because the taxi took so long to arrive. Arrrghhhhh....

Sparklingbrook Mon 23-Sep-13 15:04:23

I was an expert in paper jams by the time I left MurderI was a dab hand with a pair of tweezers. Toner replacement/paper jams you name it. I could have left and become a photocopier engineer.

Haha oh yes. I used to run a Jessops minilab and spent less time sorting those machines out than bloody fax machines and photocopiers!

flamingtoaster Mon 23-Sep-13 15:12:25

If my friend has two £5 off £40 she will split her shopping in two so she can use both.

SelectAUserName Mon 23-Sep-13 15:38:42

Oh Lordy, printer toners. Whatever you're going to post about them, YANBU.

I used to be responsible for ordering toner cartridges for the department. Somehow that equated in everyone else's mind as "also responsible for changing them". I developed a great line in saying "no, don't run off, come here and I'll show you how to change it so you know for next time" and not taking "no" for an answer.

limitedperiodonly Mon 23-Sep-13 15:49:47

sparklingbrook do you know nothing?

Never admit to being the person who knows how to work the printer. Much less how to fix it. smile

BooCanary - is the printer toner the office equivalent of the loo roll at home? I have never worked in an office, but am well, all too well acquainted with the fury that comes from walking into the loo and finding one sheet left clinging to the roll, because the teenager who was in there last thinks that absolves them from putting a new roll on - grrrr!

Aaaand breathe.

Sparklingbrook Mon 23-Sep-13 17:07:05

I learnt the hard way limited. grin

I remember being the junior that had to change the hand towel thingy in the loos too. The ones that hang down in a loop. There was a knack-I didn't have it. I got told off lots because I had been shown once and wasn't to be shown again. I cried. sad

sashh Mon 23-Sep-13 18:19:37

YANBU - you choose your queue depending on how many people are already in the queue so it's irritating when you find that someone is splitting their shopping up in this way.

Bad idea, pick on the speed of the person on the checkout.

I shop for my DM sometimes, and its very simple for me to add her bits up from the receipt afterwards. Not rocket science.

If you put mum's stuff through first and ask for a sub total you don't even need to do that and it prints on the receipt.


Some kind people do shopping for neighbours. Some people are paid to shop for other people. But you need separate receipts, you can't allow one person to know what another has said.

Tabby1963 Mon 23-Sep-13 18:21:43

Does this person look like they are doing multiple shops for home/work or for other people?

My mum was a home help and wore a tabard when working. When she was doing a shop for a couple of clients, she would divide the shopping and pay for it separately. The tabard easily identified her as a carer.

I see women doing this regularly at my supermarket, I don't mind waiting a bit longer.

No worries about people splitting their shopping into as many batches as they like, what i do hate is the customers who tut because they have to wait and then proceed to spend 10 minutes looking through a whole wad of out of date vouchers trying to match one of them "because I'm sure that I bought something off this list" instead of doing so while they were waiting! [bah!] (not saying that OP does this btw!)

SatinSandals Mon 23-Sep-13 20:48:56

I don't think it is 'dodgy ground' having someone else's card and PIN. I use my mother's for her, she is 91 yrs and it is much better than expecting her to do the supermarket shop. It is also a lot faster to have 2 lots of shopping.

Sparklingbrook Mon 23-Sep-13 20:51:34

It would be if said card was to go missing and someone steals money from the account Satin. sad

SatinSandals Mon 23-Sep-13 21:05:59

Her card is much safer with me than it is with her!

Sparklingbrook Mon 23-Sep-13 21:19:36

I get that Satin, but if you were to lose it and it did get used, the first question would be 'does anyone know your pin?' and it could put any investigation/refund in doubt as someone does.

Would it be better to make the account joint signatures and you able to sign on it and have a card with your own name on?

Also, sometimes if the chip and pin isn't working you would have to sign-what would you do?

SatinSandals Mon 23-Sep-13 21:25:53

I am not going to lose it. If the chip and pin failed I would pay for it. I don't do it as a regular thing so there is no need to have joint signatures. It also isn't going to stop me splitting the shopping in two as generally she gives me cash anyway.

SatinSandals Mon 23-Sep-13 21:26:37

If I am shopping with her I put her PIN in as she has a very shaky hand.

Sparklingbrook Mon 23-Sep-13 21:31:40

It's not about stopping you splitting the shopping in two Satin, just about protecting yourself and your Mum from fraud.

You are happy with the arrangement so that's ok, I am just not sure what the bank would make of it that's all.

ZingWantsCake Mon 23-Sep-13 21:47:54

sorry YABU

I often shop for others and it is easier to hand over the receipt.
and some items I want to pay for with a credit card or cash not with tesco card.

I guess you were a bit unlucky, but I don't see why a few extra minutes waiting is such a big deal.

you could have used that time to MN - and be happy about your time well spent!wink

IamSlave Mon 23-Sep-13 21:49:12

I have to split up my shopping onto different cards.
I cant and will not "tot it up later" I have to split it up, for myself.

Did you manage to bag a parent & child parking space at the supermarket OP?

OhDearNigel Mon 23-Sep-13 22:18:13

I regularly have to divide my shopping 2 or 3 ways. Some is home shopping. The second is for a tuckshop i run at work. The third is for my cake decorating business. They all require separate receipts for accounting purpses. The alternative to doing this would be to go round the shop 3 separate times, dont see why i should be inconvenienced by a long time so that the shopper behind me can save 3 minutes

The moral of the story ? If you're aggravated by the shopper taking 3 minutes longer than anticipated perhaps it's time to start organising yourself better and leaving sufficient time to do your shopping

Solo Tue 24-Sep-13 01:35:33

See, my Mums bank told her to do it this way! give me the CC's and I use that account for her purchases. I'd bet a million quid she doesn't know the PIN and it's the one the bank gave her, I've not changed it!
Oh yes and I've signed the card with my own signature as I once had to forge Mums! so when new cards came through, I signed!

SamanthaB Thu 03-Oct-13 18:29:15

YABU. I do all the shopping for my housebound father. He & I prefer a separate receipt. The same amount of shopping is on the belt irrespective of whether it's divided or not. Some people have complained to me at the checkout. I don't feel it is any of their business, actually.

Solo Fri 04-Oct-13 14:17:46

Well exactly SamanthaB If we took our parent shopping, then they would either be in front of or behind us/me and therefore two people in front of the OP or another person in the queue!

Solo Sun 06-Oct-13 11:18:27

I had a lady in Asda do this to me yesterday. It didn't annoy me in the slightest!

ihearsounds Sun 06-Oct-13 11:46:41

I do it all the time. I regularly pick up things for others. After having the nob of a son banging on my door, threatening to break my hands for nicking of his elderly mum, and calling me some very nasty things, I no longer do a single recipt. He saw a single recipt and he couldn't get it through his thick head that his mum had only paid for her own stuff. And in fact she had saved money because of offers along with another person. Because of him I no longer even get stuff for the other people delivered with mine.

Solo Sun 06-Oct-13 11:51:58

That's very sad ihear sad it's sad that we/you can't help someone out for fear of attack.

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