where do teachers send their kids

(107 Posts)
teachersaspirations Sun 22-Sep-13 20:54:55

changed my name for this for one as it is potentially a bit hot!

I am beginning to notice that a lot of the teachers who teach our kids, their kids go to the best/better schools
the grammars/the select schools etc...

it would be interesting to know what proportion of parents are teachers for these grammar schools/select schools etc...

PS am not a teacher

pudcat Sun 22-Sep-13 21:01:45

I sent mine to the local primary and secondary schools.

kim147 Sun 22-Sep-13 21:01:55

Teachers get reasonably well paid.
So they probably can afford to live in more well off areas cf the average person - which has the better schools.

Market economics.

HooverFairy Sun 22-Sep-13 21:01:58

And? You have the same information as they do; state schools have to follow the NC and private schools don't. You have to make the right decision for your child, so do teachers. Of course, teachers are out to ruin the lives of other people's children and take the 'best' school places for themselves though, I forgot about that bit.

Pointless and goady thread

creamofparsnip Sun 22-Sep-13 21:02:39

We don't have any grammar or selection schools around here!

Otherwise teachers are just like other parents and send their child to the best school for them. smile To be honest there's no way I would send my child to a school I taught at.

HooverFairy Sun 22-Sep-13 21:03:50

Teachers are reasonably well paid, so are a lot of other professions. I don't think all the well off areas are full of teachers!

kim147 Sun 22-Sep-13 21:04:11

Teachers probably have more inside info on schools and make more informed choices.

kim147 Sun 22-Sep-13 21:04:52

No - but the well off areas are full of reasonably paid professionals which has an impact on local schools.

Morgause Sun 22-Sep-13 21:05:16

State schools all the way for both my DCs.

kim147 Sun 22-Sep-13 21:06:23

It's quite hard to send a child to a private school on a standard teacher's salary. Maybe with two people on good salaries.

MidniteScribbler Sun 22-Sep-13 21:07:26

DS will go to the school I teach at. It's a private school, and the one I would send him to regardless of whether I taught there or not. I will never teach his class, or even the same year level that he is in though.

vaticancameo Sun 22-Sep-13 21:07:32

DH and I are teachers and no way could we afford private. Our two will be going to the local comp.

FourEyesGood Sun 22-Sep-13 21:07:39

My mum was a teacher; she taught at my secondary school. It wasn't horrendous but I would have preferred to have gone to a different school.

I am now a teacher (secondary). My own DS goes to our local primary school (as will my DD). When they get to secondary age, they will go to the nearest school, which is currently not a very good one (but who knows what it'll be like in 6 years?). If we lived near the school at which I work (which is an Ofsted "good" school), I dare say they would probably attend that one, but having been a student with a parent teacher, I don't think I'd want that for my own DCs.

BrianButterfield Sun 22-Sep-13 21:08:34

I don't know any teachers who send their child to private schools. I do know at least a dozen who sent them to the school we work in though! Must be a good sign!

I'm not a teacher, but surely it depends on lots of things. Personal politics/knowledge of area/how you feel about dc being at school you're teaching at/how much choice there actually is locally.

I was taught (in a private school) by a teacher whose dc went to the state school my mum worked at.

kim147 Sun 22-Sep-13 21:09:48

Just out of interest - OP - how do you know where your DC's teachers send their children to school?

FourEyesGood Sun 22-Sep-13 21:10:23

Hang on - how is this an AIBU? Tsk.

blondefriend Sun 22-Sep-13 21:11:03

I work at a better grammar school than the ones my own kids are in catchment for. I couldn't afford a house in that particular town. However I still live in a good area and there are probably people who would see me as being very fortunate. The grass is always greener.

SignoraStronza Sun 22-Sep-13 21:11:14

Many most teachers live outside the catchment of the school that they teach at, so 'their' school, or the one it feeds into, wouldn't even be considered a viable option.
It also minimises the chances of bumping into students and their parents whilst going about their out of school business.

Tinlegs Sun 22-Sep-13 21:11:15

I teach both my children (tiny secondary school) and it makes life very much easier but it is the local school anyway.

teachersaspirations Sun 22-Sep-13 21:11:27

HooverFairy Actually I don't think we do have access to the same information
open days and Ofsted reports do not tell parents whats going on
(I don't think these could kid a teacher)

I do agree that it is probably best to send your kids to a different school to the on you teach at

it wasn't meant to be a goad, it was meant to be a point of note

SummerHoliDidi Sun 22-Sep-13 21:12:09

My dd1 goes to our catchment secondary school. I knew which school I wanted her to go to when we moved here, we could have bought a much bigger/nicer house in the catchment of another school but I would rather live in a box here than send dd1 to that horrific, failing school (I did one of my teaching practices there - it's truly awful!). She could have gone to the grammar school, but it's an hour's train ride away from home and we would have had problems affording that.

Most of the teachers at my school bring their dcs to us, because we know we're a good school, outstanding actually according to ofsted.

VinegarDrinker Sun 22-Sep-13 21:12:18

DH is a teacher. DC will go to the primary on the next road from us, which is emphatically not seen as a "desirable" school. I don't know any state school teachers with kids at private school.

sittinginthesun Sun 22-Sep-13 21:12:25

I am a teacher's child, and went to the local comp.

Teacher at dcs' school has similar age children. They are also at local comp, rather than the grammar.

It depends entirely on the teacher and the child. Obviously.

IwishIwasmoreorganised Sun 22-Sep-13 21:13:02

I have several friends who are teachers and who have managed to get their dc into the schools where they teach but are not catchment for.

A good proportion of these schools are then feeder schools for a very well regarded comp that again they would not be in catchment for.

I am very happy with the choices that we have made for our ds's and their choices will definitely not affect our chances of our ds's attending our first choice comp (which I know they will get into) so I haven't thought any more about it. If their choices were in direct competition with ours, perhaps I would have (knowing that the schools in question are oversubscribed)

Blissx Sun 22-Sep-13 21:13:48

I send mine to local state primary, in London. I only know of one of my teacher friends who sends their's to private, but her husband is a banker. However, I don't go around asking all my colleagues where they send thier children. What is your point, OP?

VinegarDrinker Sun 22-Sep-13 21:13:49

Meant to say, the school DH teaches at is definitely seen as "better" than the one DC will go to. Meh.

I know teachers in private schools who get a substantial discount on fees if they send the child to their school.

Also a teacher will have a better idea than most of the hoops to jump through for different schools - whether this is how to get them up to speed in Maths (although they may not be experts they may know someone who is) or the number of years they need to attend a certain church for. They are just doing what they believe is best for their child like many other parents, they just are better informed.

Hulababy Sun 22-Sep-13 21:14:50

I was a teacher and now work as a HLTA.

My DD goes to a nearby independent school. If she hadn't gone there then she'd have gone to our local state school - both the primary and the secondary are very good ones, with very good results and very good inspections.

I work in a state infant school with a good inspection result, but a far more mixed catchment than our local catchment school.

I wouldn't chose to send DD to my school, when she was smaller, as I would rather her not be in my school at all, nothing to do with the actual school.

Tinlegs Sun 22-Sep-13 21:15:02

What's wrong with having your children at the school where you teach? (Not that I would have a choice anyway).

Blissx Sun 22-Sep-13 21:15:27

their, sorry!

NoComet Sun 22-Sep-13 21:16:50

The two I know, one to the comp in special measures (she teaches at a different comp), the other to grammar (where she teaches).

I don't doubt child A could have got into the grammar.

No idea if this is morals or practicality. DD2 didn't try for the grammar because it's a horribly long day (we are right at the edge of the area).

stillenacht Sun 22-Sep-13 21:18:42

DH and I are teachers. DS1 goes to indie school (had to remortgage 60 grand for that!) as he is not grammar material and alternative fills me with fear. DS2 goes to state special school (SLD) and will do until he is 19.

Wonderstuff Sun 22-Sep-13 21:18:47

I teach in state secondary and know of only one staff member with a child in private ed. My kids will be in local schools, they are good, I have purposefully moved to a nice area, in part because of schools. I don't have any 'inside info' though. Who knows what will happen in the future, dd is in year 1 and DS starts next year.

jacks365 Sun 22-Sep-13 21:19:22

Teachers tend to be higher than average intelligence and better educated therefore their children are often more intelligent and have a good study ethic which means they are more likely to pass an entrance exam for a selective school. Thinking about my daughters group one was the daughter of a uni lecturer and teacher, she also got 6 A/A* at A level so no doubting that she deserved her place. Others parents were solicitors, accountants, company directors etc. and even a couple of lone parents.

Balloonist Sun 22-Sep-13 21:20:05

Dh teaches in a school in a well-off area in which we could not afford to live. Our DC go to the local school in the middle of a large council estate.

teachersaspirations Sun 22-Sep-13 21:20:10

Kim147 Teachers probably have more inside info on schools and make more informed choices, I think this is very true

I dont know where they send their kids, it was just that some of the teachers I do know, or know of, that just seemed to be the case more and more often

sorry if its in the wrong section AIBU

I wasn't referring to private schools

SatinSandals Sun 22-Sep-13 21:20:34

Since here are very few state selective schools left the majority must go to comprehensives but teachers often live some distance from their work.

YoureAllABunchOfBastards Sun 22-Sep-13 21:20:46

To the nearest school.

I did make sure I bought a house in a decent catchment, mind.

Hulababy Sun 22-Sep-13 21:21:51

Tinlegs - it's just not for me. I know others who have had their own children at their schools and who have taught them too. But I prefer for me and DD to be in different schools. We both have our own space that way, especially for DD.

RinkyDinkyDoo Sun 22-Sep-13 21:22:10

I am a teacher and my child goes to a special needs school due to his autism. My teacher friend's children all go to their local state schools. I am the child of a teacher and myself and my brother went to Dad's school, which was private and he got a bit of a discount.
It was mainly ok, but there were kids who said we told tales to dad about what went on,we didn't, and we got in lots of trouble for being quite naughty, dad was mainly unimpressed with that grin

Balloonist Sun 22-Sep-13 21:22:11

"and even a couple of lone parents"

Could they not have been teachers or solicitors too? wink

kim147 Sun 22-Sep-13 21:23:13

"Teachers tend to be higher than average intelligence and better educated therefore their children are often more intelligent and have a good study ethic which means they are more likely to pass an entrance exam for a selective school."

LOL - I wish you could have seen DS this morning when he was arguing and crying for 10 mins thinking about possibly doing his homework.

He's quite bright though. He thinks.

soverylucky Sun 22-Sep-13 21:23:43

They are at primary at the moment. They will go to the local comprehensive. It is not as good as the schools that dh and I teach in but we can't afford private and it is the one we are in the catchment area for.

teachersaspirations Sun 22-Sep-13 21:24:56

Jacks365 Teachers tend to be higher than average intelligence and better educated therefore their children are often more intelligent"

not sure if I agree with how that sounds

I agree about the good study ethic which means they are more likely to pass an entrance exam for a selective school

RinkyDinkyDoo Sun 22-Sep-13 21:25:02

Oh, dad never taught us, he refused. I was in his colleagues geography A level class, my dad did my first homework for me, I got a low grade, dad was the one who set the homework and the grading system for it as well. Dad had words and told the guy he was being unfair, all ok after that.

kim147 Sun 22-Sep-13 21:25:12

" Others parents were solicitors, accountants, company directors etc. and even a couple of lone parents."

Hmm. I know some lone parents who are professionals and earn a reasonable amount of money. Some are even accountants and solicitors.

MakeHayIsAWhaleNow Sun 22-Sep-13 21:25:39

Teachers may well be "reasonably well paid" (not that I have noticed, as both dh and I are teachers) but it's still not enough to - usually - send dcs to private schools unless you teach in the private sector and get a substantial reduction in fees (which certainly does happen). Dh is state, I'm currently neither, dd is going to one of the local state primaries. Not the best (or even one of the 4 best) according to OFSTED and local mothers, but the one that focused on her and concentrated on enjoyment and holistic education rather than SATs results. That was information that anyone could have got just by visiting the school, it was not restricted to teachers.

MidniteScribbler Sun 22-Sep-13 21:26:17

and even a couple of lone parents

I'm a lone parent AND a teacher. We can do more than one thing you know.

londonrach Sun 22-Sep-13 21:26:34

My mum was a teacher and i went to local closest comp. At school best friend was also a treachers daughter. Teacher have no more info re schools than everyone else.

kim147 Sun 22-Sep-13 21:26:49

And being a child of a lone parent does not mean you can't get to a selective school either.

londonrach Sun 22-Sep-13 21:27:45

Teachers daughter not treachers..blaming mil wine she left me.

kim147 Sun 22-Sep-13 21:27:49


A single parent and a teacher. The Tories must hate you grin

RinkyDinkyDoo Sun 22-Sep-13 21:28:20

Oh and as teachers, we know that reading the OFSTED reports don't mean a thing when rating a school.

Idislikemymil Sun 22-Sep-13 21:28:46

My children go to the school closest to our house. I teach in a school 45 mins drive away.

I wouldn't have a problem with them attending the school I work in, if it was closer to home. I do actually think it's a better school.

jacks365 Sun 22-Sep-13 21:29:57

Midnite I didn't mean it that way but the op is implying that teachers are getting their children into selective schools because they are teachers I'm just making a point that any child bright enough can. I'm one of the lone parents and also fall into another bracket so does the other lone parent. Sorry if you took offence none was intended.

I know teachers in private schools who get a substantial discount on fees if they send the child to their school.

Also a teacher will have a better idea than most of the hoops to jump through for different schools - whether this is how to get them up to speed in Maths (although they may not be experts they may know someone who is) or the number of years they need to attend a certain church for. They are just doing what they believe is best for their child like many other parents, they just are better informed.

echt Sun 22-Sep-13 21:31:24

In my UK experience, it was definitely true that teachers had the inside info. I taught in London and you always knew someone who knew about a school.

I knew no-one, teacher or not, who sent their DCs to private schools, but they did use their buying power to move house into the right area for a state school.

teachersaspirations Sun 22-Sep-13 21:32:07

I'll bow out against the obvious tide of disagreement

TheFallenMadonna Sun 22-Sep-13 21:33:40

My DD goes to the local primary. My DS goes to our catchment comprehensive. We could have applied for him to go to an outstanding school near by, but we didn't. We could afford for him to go to one of several reasonably close independent schools, selective or non selective (other than by ability to pay of course), but it's not something we would choose.

I was brought up in a town with 4 single sex grammar schools. My mum doesn't agree with selective education, and I didn't take the 11+, although I was likely to have passed if I had.

It runs deep in my family!

smugmumofboys Sun 22-Sep-13 21:35:04

DS1 has just started at the school (secondary) I work in. I don't teach him and, in fact, rarely see him as it's such a big place. Many of my colleagues have/ have had their children at the school.

MidniteScribbler Sun 22-Sep-13 21:35:06

No offence taken Jacks. As a single parent by choice teaching in a catholic school, I've got pretty thick skin. grin

smugmumofboys Sun 22-Sep-13 21:36:23

Oh, and it's one of three local high schools.

kim147 Sun 22-Sep-13 21:37:43


People are saying they send their children to the local school. But you don't know what that school is like.

I would suggest that the school is probably doing ok and providing a good standard of education. And that's "teacher Good, not OFSTED Good".

Teachers are well informed to how schools operate and can cut through the bullshit of parent's evening / targets. In theory, they are better placed to deal with hassles and bureuacracy as they know the system.

I say in theory. It does not always happen but they won't be fobbed off with low expectations.

But they are also supportive of schools and colleagues as they know the reality.

junkfoodaddict Sun 22-Sep-13 21:43:48

School administrations are controlled by the LEA so teachers CANNOT rig the system and get their children into schools that are seen to be leafy and better.
What you may be seeing is that teachers are able to grt their children into schools that are their local catchment area or are making choices for schools outside their area and are able to get in via the distance rule/sibling rule.
I really think you are making very unfair presumptions.
I am a teacher and my child lives in a village with an 'Outstanding' school - in fact, the nearest two after our village are also rated 'Outstanding'. The school that I teach at is a 'Requiring Improvements' school. Are you going to accuse me of geting my child into better schools than the parents of children who I teach?
You will find that most people's children go to their catchement area school unless they are lucky to live in an area with 'more choice'.

difficultpickle Sun 22-Sep-13 21:51:23

Jacks365 it is possible to be a solicitor and a lone parent confused. In fact considering the hours we work it is extremely common to be both.

Wonderstuff Sun 22-Sep-13 21:55:47

I don't think that teachers are an homogeneous group though. The decisions that some of my colleagues have made for their children are different from the decisions I have made for my children. My priority is for my children to attend a local school, I want that school to have a decent catchment area, I would be very reluctant to move them during a school stage. I went to 'good' state schools with decent results, but I feel that I personally wasn't pushed and underachieved, I moved during a school year and I found it very difficult. So for me stability in school is a top priority and that is because of my personal experience of schooling. As a teacher I will be well placed to understand progress tracking and also well placed to organised extra tuition if I feel either of mine are under-achieving.

I'm finding primary interesting though. My dd is 5 and I feel that the academic drive of her school is a bit overkill. I'm struggling to fit in the reading and spelling practice they expect. I'm pretty laid back with demanding she works at home, I feel 5 is very young for formal schooling.

ilovesooty Sun 22-Sep-13 21:56:12

Quite a few staff at my last school lived in the catchment area which was very mixed. They all made it clear that they wouldn't expose their children to it. Even the Chair of Geverners sent his kids to out "leafy lane" rival.

kim147 Sun 22-Sep-13 22:03:26

wonderstuff "As a teacher I will be well placed to understand progress tracking and also well placed to organised extra tuition if I feel either of mine are under-achieving. "

You'd have thought so. But that requires your DC to want to be tutored by a parent. DS thinks his teacher knows everything and I can't possibly know more than her. (Despite teaching maths). It is hard to teach him at home - despite having loads of resources. I get into teacher mode apparently grin

I even got told off for daring to ask a question when reading a book as that's only for guided reading.

GigiDarcy Sun 22-Sep-13 22:07:31

No children here but my teacher friends' children go to the local schools. Don't know any in private or selective schools. In current school I teach colleagues' children, have done every year so far. As a school we must be doing something right then! grin

echt Sun 22-Sep-13 22:09:22

kim had to laugh. I've been a know-nothing English teacher for years, and only come handy recently now the exams are looming.grin

Wonderstuff Sun 22-Sep-13 22:09:54

grin I meant I know other teachers who would be able to privately tutor my children - obviously as their parent I know nothing!

teachersaspirations Sun 22-Sep-13 22:27:25


"Teachers are well informed to how schools operate and can cut through the bullshit of parent's evening / targets. In theory, they are better placed to deal with hassles and bureaucracy as they know the system.
I agree with this

but it is the teachers who are delivering these 'parent's evening / targets' to parents

"I say in theory. It does not always happen but they won't be fobbed off with low expectations."

are we fools for believing these expectations

kim147 Sun 22-Sep-13 22:38:19

DS's teacher came out with some rubbish at parent's evening about maths and what he was doing. I knew how capable he was as I'd listened to his maths skills and I could see his assessment and the group he was in when I was reading her upside down bit of paper. I knew what her codes meant.

I'd looked through his book, was not impressed with the work he'd been doing and was unimpressed with the target. So I challenged her. She did not know I was a primary teacher with a maths specialism.

DS is know in the top group and is being challenged.

kim147 Sun 22-Sep-13 22:39:16

now not know.

Obviously not English specialism.

Tortoisegirl Sun 22-Sep-13 23:48:50

I'm a teacher, a lone parent and have a child at a private school (not mine). Rare breed indeed! Info I have about schools is the same as everyone else.

teachersaspirations Mon 23-Sep-13 18:04:36

sorry I find it a teeny-weeny bit hard to swallow that teachers don't or can't glean more information about schools and teachers and teaching than people who are outside the profession

SilverApples Mon 23-Sep-13 18:10:24

State schools.
I did move from a shit area in the NW to a much nicer area in the SE when my children hit school age though. DD did a year and a half in a rough and aggressive school and that was enough.
I enjoy teaching on the front line, but I see my children as NCs.

Bramshott Mon 23-Sep-13 18:12:00

A lot of teachers send their kids to the school with the best wrap-around care as they work and inflexible long hours (I'm not a teacher).

SilverApples Mon 23-Sep-13 18:12:17

'sorry I find it a teeny-weeny bit hard to swallow that teachers don't or can't glean more information about schools and teachers and teaching than people who are outside the profession'

Weally weally OP?
You do realise that the majority of teachers live way outside their jobs catchment areas?

Tailtwister Mon 23-Sep-13 18:13:49

Quite a few teachers who teach in DS1's school have children there and one of the major factors for them taking the job was having fees for their child paid. I don't know if they are taxed as a benefit or not, but imagine they are (the government don't miss a trick!).

As for the best state schools...I don't imagine they would have preferential treatment for places if they teach there, or maybe I'm wrong.

LynetteScavo Mon 23-Sep-13 18:19:38

I find in interesting that all the teachers I know, even those with high earning spouses who could afford to send their DC to independent schools, chose state schools for their DC.

A lot of teachers I know have older DC at grammar school. This is because their DC (like them) are genuinely bright.

I know one teacher who is about to move house to a smaller house to the same value of the one she lives in now, because it's in the catchment area of a secondary school she prefers.

I think at the end of the day, with state schools it's which school you prefer. I very much dislike one local school, which others are desperate for their DC to attend. DC are leaving my DCs school in droves. DH and I will not be moving our DC, because there isn't another school in this town we would prefer them to attend.

SatinSandals Mon 23-Sep-13 18:37:36

Strange that so many go to grammar schools when there are a mere 64 left!

LynetteScavo Mon 23-Sep-13 18:44:23

And two of them are in the town where I live grin

Interestingly, none of the teachers I know used tutors for the 11+, but did "give their DC a few papers".

Tailtwister Mon 23-Sep-13 18:46:42

We don't have grammar schools in Scotland Lynette, so maybe that's why lots of teachers seem to go private.

vj32 Mon 23-Sep-13 18:48:51

Some schools (Academies who can set their own criteria) now give preference in their admissions criteria to children of staff, but I think this is still very rare. I could get DS into the secondary I work at if I wanted to.

I disagree about the insider knowledge about local schools, but I do have a better understanding of how the 'system' works and a better idea of what kind of school I want DS to go to having worked in a few school.

I have never lived in the catchment of a school I worked at.

And school catchment was the biggest factor when we moved house. How very lower middle class of us! I know some wealthy educated people who didn't give school catchments much thought until was too late to do anything about it, and then they are 'forced' to go private or send their child to a school they don't like.

Talkinpeace Mon 23-Sep-13 18:50:26

teachers comply with the admissions code and use catchment schools like the rest of us

lljkk Mon 23-Sep-13 18:51:15

ime, they send to local schools or same schools where they work at or same schools as that their friends go to. Bit like most people.

DS goes to another school in the own in which I teach. Actually, it is perceived to be a 'worse' school than my own- but we are very happy. I chose it because I felt it would be happy there and it had access to wrap around care. I have never felt I made the wrong choice.

At secondary level my DH's academy would give him priority entry if we wanted it. We'll see....

ICantGoOverItICantGoUnderIt Mon 23-Sep-13 19:16:36

I will send my DD to our local primary school, which isn't the one I teach at, although I would have no problem with her attending there either.

I am concerned about the reputation of both our local secondary schools at the moment, but DD is only 10mo so we can reassess closer to the time! We will consider private for secondary if the state options are still poor at the time. We could afford this due to DH's job. The poor reputations of the local state secondary schools are common knowledge, I have no inside info!

BeatrixIsPotty Mon 23-Sep-13 19:55:13

I teach in an independent boarding school, my DC go to my local state primary. I couldn't afford the uniform for the school I teach at, let alone the school fees even with the staff discount!

Arisbottle Mon 23-Sep-13 19:58:28

I teach in a state comprehensive / secondary modern. With one exception all of my children have or will attend the school I teach in. One is at the grammar, only because he was on a managed move from my school. I would far rather that he attended my school.

I would not teach in a state and send my children private, despite being financially able. I am very very uncomfortable that my son is at a grammar school when I teach in a comp/ secondary modern.

Clawdy Mon 23-Sep-13 20:34:58

Mine went to their local primary. Then they all attended our local comprehensive where their dad was a teacher. We would never have considered anything else.

FavoriteThings Mon 23-Sep-13 20:44:52

It is like asking your doctor where he would go if he had to have a certain operation. Or asking your optomotrist.

Arisbottle Mon 23-Sep-13 20:48:19

It is important to me that I provide a level of education that I would be happy for my own children to receive. I would feel like a hypocrite to live in catchment and then choose to send my children elsewhere

bigTillyMint Mon 23-Sep-13 20:52:39

My DC went to the local primary and are now at the local comp.

Neither of us wanted to send them private, or put them in for the super selectives. Of my friends who are teachers, all send/have sent to local non-selective schoolsconfused

soul2000 Mon 23-Sep-13 20:57:31

Aris. Why would your prefer your Ds to be at your school when it is
obvious he is much more suited to the grammar school.

Why would you not want your DCs to go to the most suitable schools
for them if possible.

I take the managed move to the grammar school, was because the work
was not challenging enough for your Ds and that he was finding the other pupils were not academically up to his level.

Arisbottle Mon 23-Sep-13 21:01:29

He is not more suited to the grammar , although we have managed to make it work.

No, my son was academically stretched at my school, sometimes more than he is at the grammar. He was moved because of bullying that got out of control and resulted in my son retaliating in a way that meant that he was facing a permanent exclusion. My son has special needs which means that he will struggle to a certain extent in mainstream school.

Arisbottle Mon 23-Sep-13 21:03:25

My daughter number one could also be at the grammar, she is also at my school - which suits her.

Daughter number 2 is a borderline grammar student, she has just started at my school.

Our son is too young to tell but he will also go to my school - although I may not be teaching there by the time he is ready to move up.

Child number 5 is still a fetus - so we will see!

soul2000 Mon 23-Sep-13 21:09:31

Thank you Aris. I can see you have answered that question on another
thread. For a grammar school to take a pupil with a threatened expulson
is unusal.

Is your Ds happy at the grammar school where presumably he will not
get builed for either being a bit different or being a son of a strict

SuffolkNWhat Mon 23-Sep-13 21:14:55

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

Arisbottle Mon 23-Sep-13 21:21:41

He was not bullied for being my son, although he was bullied for being different - but it did not start in school. My stepson and other children have never faced any problems for being my child. He was bullied at the grammar school as well. We knew quite quickly that we had made a mistake moving him to the grammar but my son could not take being moved again.

I suspect the grammar school knew they were looking at a boy who would get them straight A * at GCSE and possibly A level. The fact that he was being bullied so badly added to the reasons to move him - rather than keep him where he was.

My ds does not enjoy the social side of school, he does not really see the point in making friends - although he has people that he knows. For him school is somewhere he goes to learn.

Judyandherdreamofhorses Mon 23-Sep-13 21:21:41

I am a teacher (part time, primary).

My DD is part time at a local independent school and will be so long as we can afford it.

lljkk Tue 24-Sep-13 18:00:03

Not exactly teachers, but...ime a majority of children of uni lecturers go private, at least for secondary. A majority of the PGs & academic staff (RAs, lecturers etc.) were privately educated themselves.
This is not down to insider local knowledge.

teacherandguideleader Tue 24-Sep-13 18:19:44

I live in a grammar area. If I had a child I would send them to the comp I work in (non grammar area). On paper it isn't outstanding but I would send my child there in a heartbeat. Sadly I won't be able to as I don't live in catchment

Sokmonsta Tue 24-Sep-13 18:23:22

I'd hazard a guess that with teachers not just working school hours, it benefits their dc to go to a school which has potentially more resources if they can afford it.

I know my teacher friend struggles to find time to sit with her dc to help with their homework and do all the marking for her pupils by a reasonable hour.

sheridand Tue 24-Sep-13 19:15:31

Mine are at the same school as me. Not a problem at all. It's a state primary and we live in a rural area which is high on the deprivation index.

I would always choose a comprehensive education, even if I had the money.

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