Aibu to think i have the best mil in the world...

(52 Posts)
londonrach Sun 22-Sep-13 18:56:18

Came back late from holiday last night or this morning if correct. Before going on holiday we moved flats and everything in boxes, were really stressed etc. Walked into new flat at after 2am this morning to find the washing basket empty, washing was washed, ironed and put away, boxes emptied and my favourite bits and pieces out, the fridge full of food as was the fruit bowl, the bed changed, the whole place vacuumed and clean, two new rugs on the floor, new plants, 4 new glasses(with a little letter apologies for buying them and hoped okay) and best of all a bottle of wine in the fridge and my fav but never bought as not paying 5.50 for 6 cakes even if fiona cane made them waiting for us......sent mil about five texts as i explored the flat which i left as a flat and came back to a there best mil awards.....if so i have a clear winner..

mumof5plusazoo Sun 22-Sep-13 18:58:53

You are so lucky, I hope you had a lovely holiday as well.

RandomMess Sun 22-Sep-13 18:59:54

Lovely lovely lovely smile

Theas18 Sun 22-Sep-13 19:01:19

fabulous! That is so lovely of your mil

Earthymama Sun 22-Sep-13 19:01:47

Lovely to hear this as a MIL myself.

Though my SonIL made a wasp sting me today so I don't know he thinks I am that lovely a MIL!!

Shellywelly1973 Sun 22-Sep-13 19:02:43

Im jealous...!

BigBirthdayGloom Sun 22-Sep-13 19:05:38

You have an amazing mil, yes. Remember though, it's a relationship. For every person who reacts like you there could well be one who thinks it is controlling behaviour. So well done both of you for appreciating and living each other. Fwiw, I've got a fab mil too smile

CatsRule Sun 22-Sep-13 19:05:57

Yabu but only because I'm extremely jealous envy and my mil could win the worst mil award!


londonrach Sun 22-Sep-13 19:08:29

I am the lucky....she is so special. I love her so much. Got some special presents for lovely and just what we needed. Have been working silly hours before leaving and in tears when left and think remember asking mil to make place pretty. She has with bells on and then posted keys through seeing her tomorrow. Huge hug coming her way. Mil's are extra mum when you need them.

wispawoman Sun 22-Sep-13 19:08:32

She sounds fabulous, but I am pretty sure someone will be on here complaining that it is intrusive, controlling etc. etc.....

quoteunquote Sun 22-Sep-13 19:09:28

It's really nice, and lovely that you appreciate it.

teacher123 Sun 22-Sep-13 19:13:37

My MIL is also pretty damn fabulous and could probably give you a run for her money-lovely things she has done include:
1) sending DH and I away to London for my birthday weekend, paying for dinner, hotel and theatre tickets and babysitting DS all weekend for us.
2) coming round at 7am to pick DS up to take him to childminders just to make my commute easier
3) cooking me my favourite foods all of the time
4) adoring DS unreservedly
5) EVERYTIME we go on holiday she comes round the afternoon before we get back and leaves a bunch of flowers, a homemade meal and cakes, loaf of bread and some milk on the doorstep in a coolbag so we don't immediately have to traipse to supermarket.

ifyouletmefinish Sun 22-Sep-13 19:15:37

Aww how lovely. Mine is a treasure as well and I feel so lucky to have her.

TweenageAngst Sun 22-Sep-13 19:17:41

I also have a fabulous MIL. Reading some of the stuff on here I think I am really lucky.

HotCrossPun Sun 22-Sep-13 19:18:28


I have the best MIL! grin

She is so motherly and lovely and considerate and caring.

I wish she was my mum. <childish sulk>

londonrach Sun 22-Sep-13 19:22:36

Teacher yours sounds good too. I wish id be told told i get an extra mother when i marry. Might have married earlier. I love mine to the moon and back. We have the same make my husband happy.

londonrach Sun 22-Sep-13 19:24:42

No hotcross i have the best (stomps foot childishly bearing in mind drinking bottle of wine left by best mil award winning...hic)

londonrach Sun 22-Sep-13 19:25:58

Winner not winning.....blaming the wine...

HotCrossPun Sun 22-Sep-13 19:28:27

<steals londons wine>

Livvylongpants Sun 22-Sep-13 19:31:45

No I have the best, I am due today and she has come and cleaned my house, entertained my 2 year old and will be there to hold mine and DHs hand when I give birth, she lives 75 miles away but is staying for as long as we need despite her poor health and the fact she is having major surgery next month

Much love to the lovely MILs

CustardOmlet Sun 22-Sep-13 19:38:47

Also the proud owner of an amazing MIL!

And I know she reads AIBU so will no doubt be in tears with all the love for MIL's (she worries far too much about the MIL hate!)

CoolStoryBro Sun 22-Sep-13 19:41:10

I have an awesome one too. She's COMPLETELY bonkers but kind, loving and very, very funny. I love her.

neontetra Sun 22-Sep-13 19:49:53

Mine is nice too. She holds my hand when we are crossing a road. My own mom stopped doing this when I was, what, 28? I think it's adorable.

londonrach Sun 22-Sep-13 19:52:34

Passes hot cross some orange chocolate truffles also left by mil 2014 winner to go with wine and smiles at other stories but knows she has the best but curious to hear others.....although it take alot to take the crown...

I can't be the only MNetter who read your OP and could hear the parallel "My MIL is so intrusive" thread in her head. It's lovely that she has done all that for you and that you appreciate it.

karinmaria Sun 22-Sep-13 20:02:06

How lovely of her! My MIL is wonderful too. She has the spare key to our flat and has never used it without permission - except once. When I was in labour she let herself in, cleaned, put lavender oil beside the bath, decorated with celebratory balloons and filled our cupboards, freezer and fridge with easy food. I lost my own mum during my pregnancy and that thoughtful gesture made me feel very lucky.

mumthetaxidriver Sun 22-Sep-13 20:17:03

Your MIL sounds wonderful! Sadly I don't have one as my husband's mother died at just 54 so before we met. My FIL is however a lovely man who will do absolutely everything he can given he lives over an hours drive away. Loving this very positive thread compared to lots of other MIL ones at the moment - thank you OP smile

Lomaamina Sun 22-Sep-13 20:19:53

Mine is lovely too! Looked after (with dear FIL) our lovely DS so I could go back to work with an easy mind for 3 days a week all the way from babyhood through primary school.

Now we try and pay back in a small way when they need our help, but nothing can repay their generosity (and I know they did it out of love, but it's still a massive undertaking).

I'm taking notes for when one day I'm a MIL. e.g. not interfering when DS was born, other than to very gently offer help when she knew I was struggling (and no DM of my own around). She also did that leaving food in the flat - when we returned from honeymoon - unfortunately mistiming it and the chicken in the fridge had gone off. We never told her.

HavantGuard Sun 22-Sep-13 20:23:03

I would hate that if anyone other than DH had done it.

microserf Sun 22-Sep-13 20:28:23

You have a wonderful mil! I am quite spoilt with my one too you know. I feel quite sad when I see some of the mil problems on aibu, as sometimes it's clear with a slightly different approach, each party could get on very well!

confusedofengland Sun 22-Sep-13 20:42:25

You certainly do have a gem there (although personally I get all itchy about people doing stuff like that for me, far too independent grin

However, I do think my MIL is amazing, too. She & FIL recently travelled 120 miles each way (so 240 in total) to spend one day helping me & DH do up our new house. MIL brought dinner with her, as she does every time they come down - usually a stew she has been making at 5 that morning. She also brings little bags of chopped up carrots, swede, parsnips etc for my freezer so I don't have to spend hours doing this. They will happily babysit both DSes whenever we want.

Plus she is always buying us little treats & even saves her McDonald's free coffee cards for us! Also, when we were really hard up, she used to give us (and to SIL & her DH) half her pension every month, saying she didn't need it as FIL was still earning. We tried refusing a couple of times, then they just went out & bought things for us anyway that we needed. Oh, and she always arrives with a bagful of shopping for us (tins for the cupboard, usually) And she knows how to laugh at herself, which is something I've not quite mastered blush

Whereisegg Sun 22-Sep-13 21:07:31

Oh this is a lovely thread!

I love my dmil too.

She totally welcomed me and my dd from day 1, and now, 10 years later often remarks that we are the same person as we are so alike.

I think my favourite thing about her, is her sense of humour though. Many a time we have both been silently laughing with tears rolling down our faces, while dp sits looking at us with a mixture of amusement and annoyance as he can't believe how immature we both are grin

Elektra83 Sun 22-Sep-13 21:45:08

Ahh this thread made me cry! My MIL died a few weeks ago and she was a fantastic one too. When we moved into our house both MIL and FIL were so helpful. She has been so supportive throughout all of my family issues (my dad has disowned me) and this thread made me realise how much I miss her.

Altinkum Sun 22-Sep-13 21:50:32

Aw my mil is exactly the same.

We moved to our forever home 5 years ago, not only did she pack and clean the "old" house, she also helped unload the new house.
Better still she sent me to Spain with the girls and I came back to a stress free environment.

intangible Sun 22-Sep-13 22:27:31

god damn im jealous. Mine isn't like yours at all

Tuon Sun 22-Sep-13 22:32:33

Loving the lovely MIL stories.

Mine is a Darling, treats her step grandson as her own. Drove me to hospital when my appendix went and had ds for a few days so I could recover.

Cooking her a lunch once I'm back on my feet, there will be wine and flowers for her, lovely woman.

jojane Sun 22-Sep-13 22:34:17

My MIL is great. When she comes to stay y the time I get up around 8am she has fed, washed and dressed the kids, emptied the dishwasher and started to refill it, hung up washing, put more on, hoovered, etc etc.

Dubjackeen Sun 22-Sep-13 22:34:48

Lovely thread! I don't have a MIL, so nothing to add, but it's lovely to read these positive stories. flowers to all the lovely MILs!

AWwwwwww grin Isn't it lovely to hear about nice MiLs for a change grin

londonrach Mon 23-Sep-13 07:41:46

Sorry to hear about your mil elec. Xxxx

Morloth Mon 23-Sep-13 07:50:07

My MIL is also a gem.

She was discussing moving to a retirement village just around the corner the other day and was feeling us out as to if we would be OK given how much closer they would be.

I just about jumped for joy and said we could have coffee and go shopping and garden and blah blah blah.

Both my children are there this week, I love that I can drop them off knowing that they are with people who love them as much as we do.

Captainbarnacles1101 Mon 23-Sep-13 07:50:40

She is indeed a lovely mother in law. I agree that you must both love and appreciate each other. There are plenty if misery guts who would complain about this. grin

LookingThroughTheFog Mon 23-Sep-13 08:05:08

Mine is also awesome. I've waxed lyrical about her over in Relationships already in an epic, epic post. Bottom line; awesome.

Beastofburden Mon 23-Sep-13 08:49:02

What is nice is that these relationships go both ways. You have allowed your MIL into your lives without fighting the "intrusion" and she has responded by knowing where to draw the line. Life is so much better when we allow ourselves to accept affection. Hooray for you lovely DILs.

londonrach Mon 23-Sep-13 13:41:15

Two years ago mil was going through bad time with fil following retirement, moving etc. As a result of that she would turn up announced to see me, sometimes without even seeing her son. I always welcomed her, provided tea and an ear. Luckily everything was sorted and i can honestly say i really enjoy her company. The bad time she went through showed me she was just someone trying her best for her family. She and i have the same interest, her sons happiness. She my fav person to go shopping with and is excellent with her advice, cooking help when asked. I still have no idea how the dirt on an oven magically disappears when she looks at it whilst i can scrub for hours and its still there. My life is so much better having her in my life. Seems im not the only one who appreciates the gems we have in our life.

londonrach Thu 26-Sep-13 20:17:15

Seriously is there somewhere i could nominate my mil for this year.

StitchingMoss Thu 26-Sep-13 20:22:58

This is a really lovely thread smile.

My MIL is sadly a complete cow but as a mum to two utterly gorgeous boys its reassuring to know that positive MIL/DIL relationships do exist!

sadly my MIL died in april of this year and had been ill for a very very long time, and was losing it when i got together with dp, so i didnt get to know her very well.
i did manage to give her a granddaughter though and she always had a smile for us, i will miss her forever. my FIL is bloody brilliant!!

mumofweeboys Thu 26-Sep-13 23:29:03

Glad u appreciated what she did, she must know u well. I love my mil but sould have been annoyed if she unpacked my boxs but im a control freak

WahIzzit Thu 26-Sep-13 23:40:07


Only because I have the best mother inlaw in the world grin
For the 9 months of pregnancy I had terrible sickness for most of that time, so ate at hers nearly every day. (Dh cant cook). Then after dc1 was born, she cooked for us for 6 months. Yep 6 whole months!! She would have continued but we put a stop to it as realised we had taken the piss for long enough.

londonrach Sun 29-Sep-13 17:07:23

Shamelessly bumping my own post as love the stories, its sunday and why not......

londonrach Wed 04-Dec-13 20:22:49

Mother in law winner of 2013 has purchased my fav perfume which normally costs over 100 pounds for less than 20. She spent hours locating it at a price she can afford (bicester). Lovely xmas pressie to look forward to. Got her a polish pottery jug.. Just bumped as love everyone stories re their mil s. X

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