A FB friend of mine has just posted a sad face as their status.

(66 Posts)
kim147 Fri 13-Sep-13 23:33:50

AIBU to just ask them why they needed to do that instead of just saying what's wrong?

She's already had 4 "What's up, hun?" replies.

BrianTheMole Fri 13-Sep-13 23:34:37

Make it a 5th then. wink

tanfastic Fri 13-Sep-13 23:35:03

Just hit the like button grin

iloveweetos Fri 13-Sep-13 23:35:34

Gotta love those statuses.
Like it wink

Say whats up and expect the following:

I dont want to talk about it

PM me

Text me

kim147 Fri 13-Sep-13 23:36:20

I've never seen that on FB before. I've only read about it on MN.

squoosh Fri 13-Sep-13 23:36:20

Post a big happy face in retaliation.

HildaOgden Fri 13-Sep-13 23:36:56

`Post a happy face.

tanfastic Fri 13-Sep-13 23:37:12

"Whassup Hun?"

"I'll inbox you Hun"


DameDeepRedBetty Fri 13-Sep-13 23:37:42

Narcissistic Personality Disorder?

(Sorry been lurking in Relationships a bit too much)

hiddenhome Fri 13-Sep-13 23:37:46

"Aw, hun, did you smudge your nail polish" <concerned face and head tilt>

DuelingFanjo Fri 13-Sep-13 23:37:47

Is she a really good friend of yours? If so then give her a ring if you are concerned.

If not then just ignore it and let one of her real friends contact her.

If her Facebook updates annoy you the. You can adjust your settings so you don't see them, or unfriend her.

BrianTheMole Fri 13-Sep-13 23:38:18


Ilovemydogandmydoglovesme Fri 13-Sep-13 23:38:45

Just put 'I know, how awful. grin('

Then sit back and watch as she tries to work out how the hell you know.

BrianTheMole Fri 13-Sep-13 23:39:03

What you going to do then op? You have to choose an option here.

DuelingFanjo Fri 13-Sep-13 23:39:27

Or you could sit there all night on Facebook refreshing so you can see how many of her friends have responded and post about it on here to pass the time.

kim147 Fri 13-Sep-13 23:39:29

Not a good friend. In fact, we've not ever actually spoken.

Most of my friends normally are less cryptic. Except one and I don't get updates from her anymore.

Silverfoxballs Fri 13-Sep-13 23:39:47

Every time I read FB post on here I am reminded of why I closed my account a year ago.

HildaOgden Fri 13-Sep-13 23:39:54

Actually,just post 'whats up,your haemorrhoids still giving you jip?' then post a follow up 'oops sorry,meant to pm that'

Ilovemydogandmydoglovesme Fri 13-Sep-13 23:40:53

That was meant to be : o ( , I didn't even know that worked!

DuelingFanjo Fri 13-Sep-13 23:41:41

She's on your 'friends' list and you've never spoken? And you give a shit about what she is posting?

Go to bed. It's got to be more worthwhile.

If you knew her you would know what the sad face was all about. Which begs the question: Why do you have people you dont know on Facebook?

kim147 Fri 13-Sep-13 23:42:52

We have a few things in common so that's why we're FB friends.

FarelyKnuts Fri 13-Sep-13 23:43:08

Put a wee poem in reply..

When you put a frowny face
on Facebook looking glum
it really makes me want to kick
you square up in your bum smile

Lilacroses Fri 13-Sep-13 23:43:34

Some of my friends do this and it really annoyed me. Then one day Dd was having a terrible time at school and I was struggling at work and I did something similar! It was sort of "Some weeks just seem to go on forever...hate it when Dd is upset" it was just from a desire to express my fe upness but not necessarily ready to share all the details. People got in touch very concerned and I felt bad I'd worrried them!

Lilacroses Fri 13-Sep-13 23:44:37

Hilda! Good suggestion!

tanfastic Fri 13-Sep-13 23:44:38

There are hundreds of people on Facebook who are friends with people they've never spoken to or even met. Some of my nieces have hundreds of "friends". Worries me silly.

kim147 Fri 13-Sep-13 23:45:44

We've emailed and messaged each other. We have certain things that bond us.

How did you discover this bond then, if you have never met?

kim147 Fri 13-Sep-13 23:48:34

That would be telling. But I'm not going to.

Let me guess, you "met" here.....

YouTheCat Fri 13-Sep-13 23:51:59

I have tonnes of friends on facebook that I've never met. I met them on a parenting forum. Some of them I've 'known' for 8 years.

However, none of them would post 'sad' with no other explanation because that is just attention seeking crap imo.

TSSDNCOP Fri 13-Sep-13 23:54:44

12 hours ago a FB "friend" posted 'at X hospital'

Why?! Just, you know, why?! Umpteen ?'s posted, no reply. Coud be catastrophic hideousness, could be fuck all.

DuelingFanjo Fri 13-Sep-13 23:56:02

If a friend of mine was in hospital I would ring or text them. I'd be quite worried to be honest.

numbum Fri 13-Sep-13 23:56:50

I posted things like that after I lost DD and my real friends would have understood. However, I assume you would have mentioned anything like that and therefore YANBU

kim147 Fri 13-Sep-13 23:57:13

No more updates.

I'm sure she'll update in the morning.

I can't stand cryptic statuses. It took me a few months to realise a friend of mine had separated given her updates were so bloody vague. How can you make separation cryptic?

I'll update in the morning. If it's interesting.

You could send the others in to overdrive by writing - "OMG are you ok ater what happened? No wonder you are so sad. Here for you hun xxxx"

Mwahahahaha <evil>

YouTheCat Fri 13-Sep-13 23:57:41

I have friends who'll post they are at X hospital. It invariably means one of their kids has gone and done something daft again though and they always update with details.

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kim147 Fri 13-Sep-13 23:58:08

I think it might be because Tony Benn is in hospital. She's very left wing.

ZingWantsCake Fri 13-Sep-13 23:58:29

maybe she meant to do smile but it got autocorrected

YouTheCat Fri 13-Sep-13 23:58:59

Well that is fair enough and makes me sad.

Though not sad enough to post sad

ZingWantsCake Sat 14-Sep-13 00:01:32

it's that drawing game!



ad the next person who posts




kim147 Sat 14-Sep-13 00:02:16


elcranko Sat 14-Sep-13 00:03:27

Irritating. Hide or delete.

ZingWantsCake Sat 14-Sep-13 00:05:34

or you could post : shock hmm confused thanks ?wine ?brew ?biscuit ? cake ? tennis ?


HildaOgden Sat 14-Sep-13 00:11:39

A sad face because a politician she doesn't personally know is in hospital???

Ah God love her,she must have no life.

RiffyWammal Sat 14-Sep-13 00:17:36

One of my fb friends (an old schoolfriend who I never see in RL) posted a cryptic status this week, about what a heartbreaking week she'd had...I didn't feel I could ask for details as I don't know her well enough. Someone else asked 'what's wrong hun' and she replied with the inevitable 'I'll inbox you hun'. GAH for God's sake woman, tell us all of it or don't tell us anything at all, you attention-seeking tit!

Bogeyface Sat 14-Sep-13 00:22:14

Post the last line of Riffys post

GAH for God's sake woman, tell us all of it or don't tell us anything at all, you attention-seeking tit!

Oh god Riffy, I had exactly the same scenario with a cousin a while back, except I was the fool who expressed concern. In the promised PM there unfolded the heart-wrenching story of how a woman in a charity shop had been quite rude to her teenage daughter. Nowadays I periodically repost the "If you don't want to talk about it, don't post vague Facebook statuses fishing for people to ask what's wrong" meme to remind myself and others that I am a hard-faced cow.

usuallyright Sat 14-Sep-13 00:30:32

the sad faces are almost as annoying as the 'feeling blessed' posts. Almost, but not quite.

ZingWantsCake Sat 14-Sep-13 00:33:05

it could be worse.

you could be informed by a friend that something extraordinary happened to another friend that can only be communicated face to face.
so you change your plans, arrange childcare and travel to your friends house half-excited, half-worried making up the most crazy&wild scenarios you can think of - only to be told that this Earth-shatteringly amazing piece of information is no other than the fact that Pippa Middleton made an apple pie.. confused angry

true story. (didn't happen to me, it was a distant friend)

picnicbasketcase Sat 14-Sep-13 07:51:17

I'm trying not to wake DH laughing. Pippa Middleton made an apple pie. shockshockshockgringringringrin

kim147 Sat 14-Sep-13 08:15:09

12 "What's up hun, here for you and hugs" type comments.

But still no reply. It could be so many things. Political, football or relationship related.

Ohhh apple pie! I wonder who was going to enjoy it , and how!

softlysoftly Sat 14-Sep-13 08:35:53

"Would totes be there 4 u hunni! If I had a singular fucking clue what was wrong. On 2nd thoughts. .."

Souredstones Sat 14-Sep-13 08:57:34

I have a couple of offenders on my Facebook who do the 'I'm blessed' or 'I'll inbox you' things. Drives me reete mad it does.

As does the one, who I've now deleted, who posted a picture of her husband in the same corner as she takes photos of her kids in their uniform/every frikkin day within the label 'aww so proud of my gorgeous husband ready for a night out' WTF!!

Tee2072 Sat 14-Sep-13 09:01:17

I usually hide people who do that. I can't be bothered to give into their neediness.

SarahAndFuck Sat 14-Sep-13 09:12:01

Is she Pandora from Adrian Mole?

I think she once had a crush on Tony Benn.

kim147 Sat 14-Sep-13 10:31:40

Looks like a political friend of hers died. It's sad but why can't people just say it rather than just posting a sad face.

DizzyPurple Sat 14-Sep-13 10:41:35

You should have gone with the haemorrhoids line. Would have at least cheered up everyone else reading her status! Not too late..

ShellyBoobs Sat 14-Sep-13 10:58:48

I think it might be because Tony Benn is in hospital. She's very left wing.

Fucking hell.

That alone is reason enough to delete her (or whatever it is you do with people you don't want to know on facebollocks).

smokinaces Sat 14-Sep-13 11:17:55

soured that just made me spit tea everywhere!!! So proud of her husband dressed up for a night out???!

treadheavily Sat 14-Sep-13 11:22:14

Oh I do love facebook threads.

murvanutta Sat 14-Sep-13 11:48:30

Oh I am one of these people.. I'll get my coat.. though I have "lists" so when i post a sad face after I've had a horrible therapy session, I custom it so just close family and friends see, so i get virtual hugs which help.. do I still need to get my coat?

TalkativeJim Sat 14-Sep-13 11:58:04

Post 'Aww, what's up Visigoth?' Give her little brain something to work out, take her mind off all her troubles grin

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