to not tell my wife....

(104 Posts)
Greavesey Fri 06-Sep-13 09:38:45

I've worked out her username on Mumsnet! [wink[

Greavesey Fri 06-Sep-13 09:39:12

or wink

Took you long?
Lots of digging?

sparkle12mar08 Fri 06-Sep-13 09:40:21

Creepy, frankly.

StanleyLambchop Fri 06-Sep-13 09:41:09

Are you my husband? If you are, then (stern face) Mr Lambchop, get back to work and stop wasting time on MN (that's for me to do!!)

Fairy1303 Fri 06-Sep-13 09:41:42


Charlottehere Fri 06-Sep-13 09:42:08

Well if it's you mr here, I don't care!

ilovesooty Fri 06-Sep-13 09:42:10

Yes, creepy.

Souredstones Fri 06-Sep-13 09:42:15

If you're my husband I will not be impressed!

GibberTheMonkey Fri 06-Sep-13 09:42:27


My dh could easily work out mine. I don't care if he reads stuff I wrote except for the stalking thing is decidedly disturbing

DuelingFanjo Fri 06-Sep-13 09:43:09

DH knows mine, I know his. Is it a problem for you to know hers? Surely she could have told you it if she wanted you to know it?

IneedAsockamnesty Fri 06-Sep-13 09:43:09

Why were you even looking?

Bowlersarm Fri 06-Sep-13 09:43:14

You can't be my DH-he knows.

ShatnersBassoon Fri 06-Sep-13 09:43:47

You need to get yourself a hobby if secretly following your wife on Mumsnet is proving to be a form of entertainment.

BrianTheMole Fri 06-Sep-13 09:44:42

Why would you bother to try and work her name out on here?

ilovesooty Fri 06-Sep-13 09:44:51

Do you open her letters, read her emails and hack her FB account as well?

gamerchick Fri 06-Sep-13 09:45:11

I wouldn't care.. mine knows my username on all my boards.

But to go deliberately looking is a bit creepy unless you're a jokey couple and you're coming clean immediately.

Greavesey Fri 06-Sep-13 09:45:20

I can see why it might be seen as creepy, but it was pure fortuitous circumstance your honour.

There wasnt an awful lot of stalking digging involved. I read one of her posts, which corresponded almost word for word with something she'd said in conversation the other day.

She hasnt written anything too horrible....

LilRedWG Fri 06-Sep-13 09:45:25

DH knows mine so I know it's not you.

Personally, I'd be wondering why my wife is keeping her user name secret from you.... Only joking (sort of).

MrsRajeshKoothrappali Fri 06-Sep-13 09:45:34

Creepy beyond belief.


Why did you feel the need to work out her username?

TalkativeJim Fri 06-Sep-13 09:46:10

Wouldn't the time have been better spent perfecting your combover?

Thepowerof3 Fri 06-Sep-13 09:46:54

Mine has a life so you cant behim

Faverolles Fri 06-Sep-13 09:47:02

I'm sure she'll namechange for the horrible stuff wink

Oh FGS people. It is hardly stalking! If there was v private stuff she would have made a trickier username.
I would LOVE it if I figured out my DP's username if he used Mumsnet!

kim147 Fri 06-Sep-13 09:47:50

So are you posting under her name?

Or else I'm a bit confused by your previous posts/

ShatnersBassoon Fri 06-Sep-13 09:48:17

Be fair then, and tell her that you stumbled across her on here confused.

Does your wife know you habitually use Mumsnet, btw? Is it's the norm for you to both use it, she probably wouldn't be surprised that you spotted her.

PelvicFloorClenchReminder Fri 06-Sep-13 09:48:17

Mrs Greavesey - LTCB.

Hopasholic Fri 06-Sep-13 09:48:59

Well I know you're not my DH as he's not a nobhead.

do you do a nice line in boiled bunny by any chance greavesey?

StanleyLambchop Fri 06-Sep-13 09:49:58

I read one of her posts, which corresponded almost word for word with something she'd said in conversation the other day.

It might not be her at all. Maybe she had read the same post and was relaying what the poster said, word for word?

ShatnersBassoon Fri 06-Sep-13 09:51:11

Good point, Stanley. I do that but pretend it was someone in real life that told me.

Tee2072 Fri 06-Sep-13 09:52:23

And? So?

Do you want a cookie?

You need to LISTEN to your wife more, and engage with her. Thats the conclusion.

Greavesey Fri 06-Sep-13 09:52:56

"Mrs Greavesey - LTCB"

Cheers PelvicFloorClenchReminder - although not sure what the C is for!!

Generally just use MN for finding helpful hints and tips re: our DS, not a massive poster.

I will of course tell MrsG that I spotted her.

Kim not posting under her name!

TeaJunky Fri 06-Sep-13 09:56:20

Gosh, give the guy a break confused

Thepowerof3 Fri 06-Sep-13 09:56:29

I think it stands for cunting

Locketjuice Fri 06-Sep-13 10:00:04

Not mine..I'm not married smile

Don't quite know why everyone is so angry at you for figuring out her name.. I will laugh if its not actually her though wink

Greavesey Fri 06-Sep-13 10:00:43

thepowerof3 - I should hope it doesnt.

IcingTheCake Fri 06-Sep-13 10:01:24

Oh wow bit of an over reaction here! grin Its not like he was rooting through her belongings looking for some kind of dirt on her as far as we know wink
Especially since he already uses MN, she probably won't be too shocked anyway!

daftdame Fri 06-Sep-13 10:02:37

Well they can have an anonymous argument if she works out his...oh the possibilities, Mumsnet the ultimate go between! grin

PelvicFloorClenchReminder Fri 06-Sep-13 10:02:38

I was actually going for Creepy, but I rather like thepowerof3's suggestion.

aufaniae Fri 06-Sep-13 10:02:54

For goodness sake, it seems fairly obvious this guy is being lighthearted!

If you're my DP, hi! <waves>

Nice to see you here, doesn't bother me at all, I have nothing to hide. I have other names for that wink

GibberTheMonkey Fri 06-Sep-13 10:04:22

He said that she hadn't said anything too. Bad. Meaning he's searched out her posts

I bet the poor bloke is scratching his toupee wondering what sort of hell hole has his wife captive! grin

FreeWee Fri 06-Sep-13 10:06:28

My usernames have been private jokes between me and my DH so if he didn't know my usernames the joke would be even lamer! Just don't troll your wife OP!

mignonette Fri 06-Sep-13 10:06:59

My DH knows my username and I am perfectly comfortable w/ the idea of him reading what i write.

I don't disclose personal information about him that would upset him anyway and think it is a breach of trust to disclose personal details of sex life/private life anyway. Am continually amazed at the stuff people disclose on here.

Greavesey Fri 06-Sep-13 10:08:18

I've come clean, what a huge weight off my shoulders!!!

For the record I did check on other posts - just out of curiosity, rather than any kind of sinister ulterior motive.

I'm sure she will have another nickname to discuss leaving me now....

daftdame Fri 06-Sep-13 10:09:29

Greavesy Why don't you post one of your old circular arguments to see if she takes the bait? grin You could score points with how many posters side with who.

pianodoodle Fri 06-Sep-13 10:10:27

I don't think mine is on here. I have a feeling he trolls on Gransnet though...

MrsDeVere Fri 06-Sep-13 10:11:50

I know your not my OH.

Bless him.

Greavesey Fri 06-Sep-13 10:12:38

... I've never been described as a cunting bastard before either... cheers!

Golferman Fri 06-Sep-13 10:14:43

Hmmmm, poor guy gets a flaming yet on numerous posts on MN it is OK for the wife/partenr to snoop on thier OH phone, emails, FB etc? Double standards or what! confused

Trills Fri 06-Sep-13 10:15:06

Have you told her yours?

Lazyjaney Fri 06-Sep-13 10:15:29

Your post has really rattled some people OP, i suspect quite a few would not like their other halves to read what they post on here.

Am awaiting a rash of "post deleted at users request" now..... grin

comingalongnicely Fri 06-Sep-13 10:16:12

Crikey! Some aggressive people on here today! It's a public forum, not like he hacked into her laptop!!

I know my DWs username & she knows mine, it was her that got me onto these forums in the first place.

The only "creepy" thing is how many people think it's some sort of secret society!

It's not really on, OP. Everyone should be allowed a little internet playground of their own, free to speak their minds without worrying about the delicate sensibilities of prying spouses.

Thank God my husband and I are not the least bit interested in what the other says.

Lazyjaney Fri 06-Sep-13 10:20:45

It's not really on, OP. Everyone should be allowed a little internet playground of their own, free to speak their minds without worrying about the delicate sensibilities of prying spouses

You should read the MN Relationships board! Would make a private eye feel inadequate...

SugarMiceInTheRain Fri 06-Sep-13 10:23:26

DH knows mine, I don't mind. He's got better things to do than read all my posts on MN. Mind you so do I, but I have less willpower! grin

Listentomum Fri 06-Sep-13 10:27:47

Why do people think this creepy, surely it's no different than anyone posting that they have worked out they know someone in RL. Those posts don't tend to get a stalker accusation.

I would tell her and give her option of name changing.

Retroformica Fri 06-Sep-13 10:29:41

Less creepy and more cheeky I'd say. You naughty boy, now go make your beloved a cup of tea

JerseySpud Fri 06-Sep-13 10:31:39

I know you're not my DH as that would involve tearing himself away from PC gaming.

Nor would he involve himself in what he lovingly calls 'Your council of bitchiness'

But Hi to you anyway you brave daft man!

mrsdowneyjnr Fri 06-Sep-13 10:32:02

I know your not mine. He has never used fortuitous in any context, ever.

comingalongnicely Fri 06-Sep-13 10:32:19

it's not really on

WTF? Can't get my head round this one, so you read a post that is word for word what someone else has said in real life & connect the two. It's really not Poirot & it's really not in the same league as checking someone's internet history.

Some guilty consciences out there methinks!!

Snatchoo Fri 06-Sep-13 10:41:19

I regularly leave a tab with MN open when I'm not using the computer. We only have the one so all DH needs to do is scroll down and see my nickname on the message box.

Or open MN from the favourites as it is always logged in.

I do vent sometimes about him. I wouldn't get too worked up if he found my posts though. I can see why others might.

Greavesey Fri 06-Sep-13 10:43:13

Just had a phone call from MrsG. Apparently she's worked out mine as well....

PelvicFloorClenchReminder Fri 06-Sep-13 10:46:37


aufaniae Fri 06-Sep-13 10:48:28

"Less creepy and more cheeky I'd say. You naughty boy, now go make your beloved a cup of tea"

I agree.

The OP hsan't said he came here to spy on her. He's already an occasional MNetter and happened to come across her.

I expect he wanted to have a bit of fun with his OP - in the spirit of a true mumsnetter, something interested happened so his first instinct was to tell MN about it grin

Listentomum Fri 06-Sep-13 10:48:58

Ha ha, did she feel particularly violated OP?

Greavesey Fri 06-Sep-13 10:51:14

not particularly, she took it in the spirit in which it was intended, a la aufaniae - although I have the distinct impression that "cunting bastard" is going to be my pet name for a while.

Listentomum Fri 06-Sep-13 10:54:24


utreas Fri 06-Sep-13 10:56:26

I can't believe how defensive so many people are, its a public forum so you should accept that there is a possibility that someone you know (including your OH) make see whatever you write.

KissMeHardy Fri 06-Sep-13 11:05:48

There's a lot of people on MN who have their knickers in a knot so tight that is cuts through their forehead !!

Wellwobbly Fri 06-Sep-13 11:07:09


If you're my DP, hi! <waves>

Nice to see you here, doesn't bother me at all, I have nothing to hide. I have other names for that wink

Ha ha ha!

ilovesooty Fri 06-Sep-13 11:12:11

With regards to Golferman I don't think thats ok either.

Really? So both the OP and his wife have non-jobs that allow them to have unlimited time to piss about browsing in AIBU on a workday morning?

No wonder they are both so totally cheeky and relaxed and right-on, like many of the recent posters.


TigerSwallowTail Fri 06-Sep-13 11:14:34

Just had a phone call from MrsG. Apparently she's worked out mine as well....

I wonder what gave it away grin

Thepowerof3 Fri 06-Sep-13 11:15:21

I was just guessing! Only pelvicfloor can say for sure what the C stands for

TigerSwallowTail Fri 06-Sep-13 11:19:55

C = curious?

CatAmongThePigeons Fri 06-Sep-13 11:21:04

My husband couldn't work out Mumsnet, although I have linked him to the odd post in classics before now.

I like the term cunting bastard, very friendly grin

Mojavewonderer Fri 06-Sep-13 11:21:20

I have actively encouraged my husband & mum to come on here. They don't post unfortunately ;) they just lurk.

IsItMyArseOrMyElbow Fri 06-Sep-13 11:21:37

Ha ha Mr Arse, if it's you I use 3 different ones!


<wonders whether OP will re-emerge as cuntingbastard on MN>

SoupDragon Fri 06-Sep-13 11:39:41

Interesting how it is "creepy" for a man to see what his DW is doing on the internet but not when a woman stalks her H.

Takingbackmonday Fri 06-Sep-13 11:49:49

I found out my ex's, did a little investigative work and saw that he was posting rather weird shit about past sex dreams/experiences. Couldn't read all, made me feel a little ill, but on up side got me over him grin

HeffalumpTheFlump Fri 06-Sep-13 11:55:21

Wow some of you must be pretty worried about your dh seeing what you have written about them!! I wouldn't give a flying fart if my dh read all my posts on here, he knows it all because I talk to him! He knows my username, but doesn't use mn. If he was curious I would happily let him see all my waffling interesting posts.

Poor bloke, op you haven't done anything wrong!

MammaTJ Fri 06-Sep-13 12:22:40

Just had a phone call from MrsG. Apparently she's worked out mine as well....

I had a feeling she might, just by checking on your profile after reading this.

I think you NC to Cunting Bastard! grin

I am sure you were not actually stalking her, and found out innocently as you said. You have geven her the opportunity to NC, should she so wish after having a nosey first, so you have done the decent thing.

OnTheBottomWithAWomensWeekly Fri 06-Sep-13 12:25:12

I don't get the nastiness. I think that people forget that this is a PUBLIC forum, everyone can see what you write, its not a private haven.

Wellwobbly Fri 06-Sep-13 12:29:21

That's right, why the hostility? What is wrong with a little banter? Not all men are The Enemy. I'm rather jealous of the lovely exchanges on here to purported H's, and the friendship they show

eatriskier Fri 06-Sep-13 12:31:54

Mr riskier knows mine, and my previous names.

Celadorthepinksequineddragon Fri 06-Sep-13 12:32:46

If you're MrCelador, please pick up some lindt chocolate on your way home - I missed it off the online shop and I don't want you to sulk because you haven't got enough snacks grin.

Breathes sigh of relief that I namechanged recently

Chotter Fri 06-Sep-13 13:12:06

'Not all men are The Enemy.'

New here are you, Wellwobbly? grin

BMW6 Fri 06-Sep-13 13:21:24

Jeez, some of these reactions to the OP sound like a fox has got into a chicken coop!!! [squaaark]

If you're my DP, it means you weren't listening to me AGAIN, because I told you who I am on here ages ago :D

Blueberryveryberry Fri 06-Sep-13 21:10:21

If you are my DH, get your ass off the bed and help me with the baby instead wink

ThingsThatMakeYouGoHmmmmmmmmm Fri 06-Sep-13 23:04:21

Bugger off, OP, let the women concentrate on advising each other on installing keyloggers on DH's laptop...........grin

Wellwobbly Sat 07-Sep-13 19:10:16

Chotter, arf!

Fairenuff Sat 07-Sep-13 19:48:36

But you and your wife have both been posting under this name? Or was that you masquerading as your wife. Or her being you?

EasyMark Sat 07-Sep-13 21:11:02

If thats Mr Easy get your ass in bed I want to fuck you silly................

No not my dh wink

LegoDragon Sat 07-Sep-13 21:32:58

MrDragon. As I am oregnant and tired, I would like some gentle massaging and a box of Thorntons and a tube of Smarties pronto, okay? Thanks.

Minx179 Sat 07-Sep-13 22:31:42

Humm. Just spotted DH on this thread. Just pissed off that he can MN when he's supposed to be working and I can't.

ShellyBoobs Sun 08-Sep-13 11:08:42

If a woman had posted that she'd worked out her DH's username on here, there would be post after post laughing with her and thinking up ways to play a prank on him. Or more likely, encouraging her to search through every one if his posts.

But because the op is a man, he's ripped to pieces by some.

Bizarre. If not unexpected.

Fairenuff Sun 08-Sep-13 11:11:26

His wife knows, though Shelly because they have both been posting under the same name on previous threads. Advanced search will show all you need to know.

lifesgreatquestions Sun 08-Sep-13 11:15:47

Ha! I sometimes start to tell my oh something I posted and then stop for this very reason!

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