To not want to send DD to nursery in stained clothes(93 Posts)
I am so fed up with DDs (2.3) clothes getting ruined at nursery, she only goes 3 times a week and I would say at least 50% of the time she comes home with stains on her clothes that don't wash out.
Its either paint or food, today I threw away 2 dresses as one had orange down the front and the other one had blue paint all over the front.
I'm not annoyed with the nursery, as I know its DDs fault rather than theirs, but I really really dont want to take her to nursery in stained clothes.
I don't send her in expensive stuff but still its costing me a fortune!!
Just to add, I dont mind a little stain, but the ones this week completely ruined 2 lovely dresses.
Don't they have aprons for painting?
YANBU - nursery is expensive enough!
How about buying her one of those aprons that cover her arms for when she's painting?
Get yourself to primark and buy four tshirts and four pairs of leggings - use these for nursery and just keep rotating, stains or otherwise.
Anything you want to keep nice, keep home.
I had preschool clothes for DS. He went in those staines and all.
How is it her fault, she is two!
Do you spray with vanish, scrub in cold water then wash in machine on cold wash with vanish?
I have never thrown away an item of clothing from stains as always out using above method
As a side, surely nursery should be putting smock/ aprons on when they paint? Ours have school smocks they wear over clothes the whole time they are there
And this is why I have nursery t shirts and jumpers, I could not care if they are stained as it saves the other clothes....
Its bloody frustrating.
But just do not send her in anything at all which you actually care about. DD's wardrobe is leggings and t-shirts bought in bulk from sainsburys. They wash well and amazingly only chilli and green paint have got the better of me.
As for getting stains out. Cold water and fairy liquid, scrub and rinse and scrub and rinse.
If the clothes are washed, than they're clean so perfectly wearable.
At least you don't have to look at them all day if she's at nursery, was my philosophy.
I'd want to know what it is they are putting in their food and paint that won't come out with a bit of stain remover!
My daughter is at private school, when she was at the nursery attached, absolutely all the children wore old, stained clothes, even those whose parents (not me sadly) could afford designer without a second thought. Cheap and cheerful!
You threw away two dresses for being stained? Don't you know what vanish is? Or ACE?
Just send her in stained clothes, it's not a fashion show.
YABU to throw out clothes because they have a stain on them. What a waste. I also hate putting the dc in stained clothes but know that nursery is a place where I can't control what they are doing so put them in suitable play clothes rather than best dresses.
The clothes are washed and clean, so send her back in them. I bet half the staff won't notice and the other half will have children of their own and know exactly what your up against with regards stain removal.
You could ask about why dc isn't wearing an apron for painting though.
Can completely understand your frustration (surely they have painting aprons etc although it doesn't sound like it!) but at the same time - why are you sending her to nursery in 'lovely dresses'?
Agree with Mortified. Go to Primark (or H&M, Sainsburys etc) and get her some cheap tops and leggings. Work on the assumption that anything worn to nursery will get trashed, and keep her lovely stuff for non nursery days.
1) work on your stain removal techniques ;-) (seriously, i just keep washing some stuff and hanging it in the sun, it will eventually shift)
2) i was exactly the same! with my first. by the time I got to the third I was just looking for him to be dressed quite frankly lol.
3) nurseries are stupid with the painting aprons! at the ds's nursery they asked them if they wanted an apron and apparently couldn't make them wear one if they said no!!?? wtaf?
I thought everyone sent their children to nursery in their oldest, cheapest, third-hand clothes, precisely because they do get stained, ripped, lost and so on?
When mine were that age I think they only had a couple of outfits each that weren't scruffy, because two and three-year-olds are basically mess-magnets, in my experience.
I still send DD (10) to school in stained summer dresses, because they still do art projects with stuff that won't wash out, and I'm not going to buy new uniform every month.
Orange like tomato sauce comes out in the sunshine.
My DCs have always gone to nursery in stained clothes. I buy bundles of second-hand clothes from eBay as nursery clothes. The clothes might not be my exact taste, and some are stained, but I don't have to look at them all day, do I?
I then have other clothes for non-nursery days.
The 2 dresses I threw away had huge stains on the front, both the size of the palm of my hand. They had been washed twice with ariel strain remover and stain devils in a 50degree wash (maybe thats the problem!!!). They are still only in the the bedroom bin upstairs so maybe I will try again with some washing up liquid and a cool wash.
I only meant that its her fault as she can be a little minx and get the paints out when its not painting time and shes a very messy eater. I was really only saying that I dont really blame the staff.
I have got loads of cheap leggins and t shirts, but its been so warm this week she has been wearing her summer dresses, (may as well as it will be cold/wet next week) .
Most paint we used to use in Nursery came out with non-bio. Purple was the colour that was a PITA.
I think you need to look at how you are treating the stains before you wash the clothes.
H&Ms summer dresses are 2.99. Binnable if needed at tjat price
I've learnt not to send DD in clothes I care about to her current nursery. Her old nursery took great care of her clothes, but so much so that I doubt she really did much painting - more a carefully controlled splodge of paint and then off to do something less mucky. I am a bit sad about a few of her clothes that got ruined - but they did warn me. We have just stocked up on H&M basics for nursery. I am a bit sad that I can't indulge in my shopping habit for nice clothes for DD now as she doesn't need cute little outfits as much.
And I really don't think that you should consider it a 2.3 year old's fault for getting their clothes stained - I think she is way too young to look after her clothes.
Hot wash fixes stains. Need to do cold to start with
If DD comes home covered in paint, I see it as she has had fun! Orange food stains always come out in the sunshine. I have nursery clothes, and non-nursery clothes. I fully expect DD to come home filthy, covered in paint, felt tip, dust, or whatever.
If your DD is 2.3, it's a bit odd to blame her. Honestly, you sound a bit precious.
Paint-stained clothes that are freshly laundered and clean are fine for nursery.
I wouldn't send them in clothes covered in fresh food or mud.
My nursery told us to send them in clothes that don't matter.School uniform-type supermarket clothes seem to be the cheapest & perfect for that.
Eh? You're worried about stains on a two year olds clothes? I envy you. You need more stuff to worry about!!
Just soak the clothes in vanish for an hour before washing. Gets all the paint and food stains out my ds clothes from nursery and he goes full time so I deal with a lot of stains!
They are now out of the bin, have been scrubbed with fairy liquid and are now back in the machine on a cold wash. I will hang the one with orange juice in a window if I see the sun again.
Thanks for the tips!
Lots of DD's and DS's nursery wardrobes were second hand from NCT sales, charity shops and hand-me-downs. At a push I'd send them in Primark and sainsburys stuff. Their nursery clothes were separate from their presentable weekend clothes.
And I never got purple paint out of clothes, it was there until they grew out of it.
As some others have said orange food stains come out in the sun, its like magic! I no longer fear the spagetti bolognaise stains since I discovered that!
"I know its DDs fault rather than theirs"
Sigh. Your child is 2!!!
Please don't send your child to nursery in 'lovely dresses'. Your child is there to learn & explore. They probably have aprons & yes they probably do their best to keep your child clean, but the priority should be on your child getting involved & learning through her play not worrying about if she looks 'pretty' or whether she is going to get a stain. That also goes for the staff to- they should be able to focus on being involved with your child- extending & fostering her learning. Not rushing about keeping her clean & pretty.
What message are you teaching her about what is more important in life?
Also dresses are not practical for developing gross motor/physical skill, it impedes a child's ability to climb & move.
This is a complaint I hear most terms & honestly I have to wonder where the parents priorities are. I understand wanting your child to look presentable- so have practical nursery clothing (that doesn't matter if it gets stained) & change her when you leave, but please do your child a favour & chill out over this!
I had thrown so much of my own stuff away that had spag bol etc stains on, am excited about the sunshine idea!!!
A hot wash sets stains in and they never come out. Cold wash them in future
yanbu but it's the nursery's fault, not hers, she's only 2. They should have little aprons or something for them to wear when they're painting or eating. I'd send her in with something and tell them to put it over her if they're doing anything potentially mess.
Wait until she starts school!
You wont be binning expensive uniform jumpers if they've a little paint on them, trust me!
Why can't a child wear clean but stained clothes for nursery? When DS was at nursery he had joggers and cheap t shirts he wore until he out grew them most of them scruffy looking some stained but they did the job for nursery - they have now been handed to my nephew to ruin further!
Try hanging her stuff out on the washing line whether it be rain or shine. The rain and sunshine helps gets stains out
"What message are you teaching her about what is more important in life?"
believe me she has no idea of my frustrations. I don't blame her as in tell her off for getting her clothes stained!
Maybe you are just taking my rant too seriously .
Has she not got some shorts and a t.shirt she could have worn to nursery?
Practical and cheap
Normally nurseries only use washable paints I thought, anyho the lesson here is don't send her into nursery in anything that would annoy you if it got ruined!!
Why don't you just buy her dark clothes, navy blue, black and dark green are hard to stain! Dresses don't sound the most practical clothes to wear to nursery regardless of colour.
Car boot sales only for nursery stuff. The girls still go in looking nice - but at between 20p - £1 an outfit. They can spill/stain the clothes with whatever they like and it's no biggie. Love bootsales. Make the most of the end of the season and go to a few to stock up until the spring would be my advice!
Yes, as others have said dark colours can be more forgiving. (when my dds were at nursery they had some deep pink/purple clothes rather than pastels so dark colours don't have to be drab. Also print tops rather than plain, pale colours.
I used to find leggings and tunics more practical for activities than actual dresses.
unfortunately now my littlest
mucky puppy dd is at school and the school dress is pale yellow and white checked!
Send her in play clothes. Dark tshirts and jeans = no worries!
I've never sent my DC's to nursery in anything that I would be upset if it got ruined. For nursery, if the clothes are clean but tatty that's good enough for me. I see it as a good sign if they come back covered in paint and general grub from the garden - the only time I would have any concern is if it had implications for their welfare ie clothes stayed 'soiled' or they were wet.
Get some cheap black or dark coloured t-shirts,joggers,or dresses from primark. If they are cheap and dark she will be able to have all the fun in the world without stains that show and you won't be wasting money on nice clothes that will be ruined
I wouldn't blame the nursery either. Some just activities just require "working clothes".
My dh used to be a digging archaeologist. He didn't go to work in a neat suit and tie and then get terribly upset when his clothes got ruined; he made sure to wear his oldest and scruffiest shirts and second-hand trousers.
Dd does physical theatre. As far as I can make out it takes 2 minutes to work your way through a pair of leggings sliding along a rough stage floor. So again she doesn't go in wearing her best trousers.
I don't know any painters or sculptors or potters but I'm pretty sure they save their nice dresses for exhibitions and use stained old clothes when they're producing the actual work.
That is the work your dd is doing: she is a painter/potter/collage artist: she should be wearing working clothes.
Iron on transfers are lovely, why not give it a try?
Message withdrawn at poster's request.
I used to row with ds's nursery about this! I don't think I should have to buy second sets of clothes. Its my right as a parent to dress him smartly and not in primark tat. All his stuff is hand-me-downs but decent quality
They said if he didn't want to wear an apron then he didn't have to. He was between10months and 2 years old and I was paying £50 a day for his care. Send her with an apron and say you want her to wear it.
Do they not wear little smocks for painting and eating?
ime painters aprons are not enough to stop a 2yo getting paint on sleeves, feet etc
we accept that they need non-smart special gear for PE lessons so why not for creative activities?
(tries to imagine the reaction of HT when told by irate parent that she has a right to send him to PE dressed smartly and it is the football coach's job to make sure he doesn't get muddy)
I love clothes but would never send mine to nursery wearing smart dresses, you are inhibiting their play, what's more important your 'right' as moustachio puts it to send them in smart things or their right to enjoy themselves and be a kid
When ds was in full time nursery, I bought him a "uniform" - 5 pairs of Asda's £2.50 jeans, 5 dark coloured t-shirts and a couple of dark coloured cheap fleeces for if it was cold. The only time he wore these clothes was for nursery, and if they got wrecked then hey ho! Couldn't care less if people thought I was a slattern for sending him in cheapo, stained clothes lol he was clean and his good stuff was saved for weekends and holidays.
I'd think you were a sensible mum JulietBravo
Washable paints are a fucking myth - the blue and green never bloody comes out properly, and that's from a teacher's perspective!
It's quite possible that she's not putting the aprons on properly - with the ones that the kids are meant to be able to put on themselves lots of them don't quite manage to do that so while they get the general idea of apron over head - the arms and head often don't make it out of the right holes and you've got some interesting approaches to clothes coverage going on.
I'd cut my losses on the summer dresses to be honest - they're not likely to fit her next time the sun comes out anyway so I wouldn't be tying myself up in knots trying to rescue 'em at this point in the year. I sympathise though - I really don't like seeing clothes getting ruined if it's avoidable - I'd be going for the selection of scruffyish clothes for nursery (or patterned to hide the stains... or anything that you've been bought that isn't 100% to your taste!) approach. Or if it's getting the aprons on and off she's struggling with - would an adult sized T-shirt kept in her bag for her to put on and off be easier for her to use than the nursery aprons?
I've worked in a lot of school nurseries (not childcare ones though) and however much of the day you spend intercepting kids making a beeline for the paint and water without an apron on, and the kids making a beeline for the outdoor area in the dead of winter without a coat on - occasionally one gets to their destination without you catching them - and invariably they're the one who can get green paint all over their front within a nanosecond. I take this to more advanced levels myself and can manage to get green paint all over myself from the opposite side of the room (answers on a postcard if you can figure out how the fuck I manage that so consistently)
The dresses she has gone in recently when it has been hot have been loose fitting that would not have hindered her movement, but have kept her cool to try and keep her eczema at bay and also assist her potty training efforts.
I don't feel I had a necessary right to send her in good clothes and them not be ruined. I just get fed up with scrubbing stains and seeing her in scruffy stained clothes.
My dd came home once absolutely covered in paint, and I mean covered.
The nursery were hugely apologetic, but she had seen the paints out, knew she had to put an apron on and done just that. Unfortunately, she had got her arms well into to the sleeves before they saw her - she was busy putting it on inside out. She was caked in the paint left by the previous user on the front of it. So they can have aprons and rules but it might not save the clothes! 'Tis life.
My DD wore a navy smock from age 2 to age 7 at school and, providing the sleeves of her t-shirt weren't too long, never got stained.
babybythesea What an adorable image, a little toddler conscientiously sticking an apron on painty-side-inwards.
I don't want to send ds in stained clothes or cheap, dull clothes.
So he wears his usual clothes to nursery and I just buy colours like blues, reds, greens, browns, greys and oranges. Nothing pale or white.
I treat the stains as soon as he comes home and try usually come out well.
Lower your standards, it is the secret to a happy life.
Both my boys had/have daycare clothes, it isn't worth spending any energy at all worrying about it.
Just chuck 'em in the wash, if the stain comes out then all good, if not then oh well.
Dd got sent to nursery today wearing red check jeggings accessorised with grass stains that I can't remove, one blue paint stain, a tshirt that amazingly is unstained and a river island beige jumper that dd has picked the diamontes off and has a full collection of marks and stains.
I vowed my kids would never go to school and nursery looking anything less than perfect - in reality it's impossible I couldn't afford to buy new clothes each week. I keep new clothes for evenings and weekend and then swop them to nursery clothes when her current nursery clothes are no longer just stained but are actually grubby.
Play clothes are play clothes and are meant to be stained surely? Busy " working" preschoolers get grubby/painty/mucky.
Keep play clothes for preschool/play and " nice" for going out.
REally no one cares what she wears to preschool ( except if she can't get out of it to got to the loo) and the worst out come would be that she also becomes a bit " precious" about her clothes and doesn't then want to get stuck in and learn from messy activities.
Why don't they use washable paint. My dd comes home every day covered in 'fun medals' and they almost always wash out.
Send her in dark clothing bought cheap, I know this is probably what you do anyway.
I totally get where your comming from and dresses are so much easier when potty training, must admit I didn't know about a cold wash but disagree about white, bleach works a treat!
I too have fallen fowl at purple paint though and that was on a designer t shirt ! Don't put it on them I hear you cry..... I wouldn't but you can't control dh's
I do tend to stick to sainsburys / car boots etc but I wouldn't want her to go in with stains either and I hate waste
I am OCD about stained /messy clothes and no way could I send any of my DC out in them, but that's just me ~ I like them to always look nice, but I am a champion stain remover, so they can get as messy as they like, no worries!!!
My eldest DD went on an outward bound day and they were told to wear old / messy clothes ~ I had to go and buy her some cheap stuff from Asda, cos she didn't have anything old and messy ~ crazy
Unfortunately doing a cold wash now won't help as the stains have already been set by putting them in a warm wash. You need to either soak in cold water before the first wash, then spray with stain remover, then wash, maybe with stain wash powder in too. Or you could spray, then do a cold prewash with extra stain remover in. Washable paints and OJ will come out this way. I'm afraid YABU due to your stain removing techniques.
what does it matter if her clothes are stained she is not a precious little doll to dress up
relax as long as her clothes are clean what is the problem. most children look scruffy at nursery after 5 minutes (well they did at ds nursery)
I used to get dirty looks of preschool nursery for suggesting they bought, and used, painting overalls rather than not using useless aprons.
Small children don't have old clothes, they grow out of them before they are old.
They get attached to Mr happy, pink fairy, red ted. They want to wear them. I sodding well don't want the upset it causes when they are ruined.
And most importantly it teaches a dreadful lazy attitude to getting in a mess, that has to be un-learnt as soon as they are wearing £12 school jumpers.
Mess is one thing, I don't mind food, flour and a bit of mud. Nursery/school clothes get grubby.
It's not teaching the DCs the difference between mess and destruction that makes me black and red powder paint and white board pens need treating with respect.
you can but cheap clothes in all supermarkets
why should children be fussing about not getting messy they are learning and enjoying themselves
ds and his school friends seem to manage fine now they are in school and do not get quite as messy as they once did as their motor skills and awareness has developed
If a child is attached to a piece of clothing even more reason to not let them wear it to nursery.
I can't understand this fuss about children getting dirty and clothes getting stained. It happens (in school and out) its part of being a child!
No they shouldn't come out dirty at all your paying for them to look after your child that's what they should start doing. It's not hard to check all the aprons on or to put a pair of wellies on them if there outside its there job to keep them clean not dirty.
Honestly yanbu I hated it too, but learned to live with it, as whatever clothes I sent my kids in they came home ruined. I had nursery clothes in the end, and if we were going somewhere after nursery I changed them before we left.
I usually presoak any stained clothes in vanish or ace, then wash in the machine.
Even staff end up with paint and things down us and we have to suck it up too.
I would say it was a sign of a good nursery! Don't send her in decent stuff. I feel so sorry for little children who have to consider their clothes. Get second hand. If a child comes out clean I would wonder what I was paying for!
They should have little aprons or something for them to wear when they're painting or eating. I'd send her in with something and tell them to put it over her if they're doing anything potentially mess
Yes, because the nursery staff won't have thought about that, will they?
Nursery is for getting messy.
Lower your expectations.
A 2 year old is going to get paint on themselves despite aprons, that is what 2 year olds do!
Unless a member of staff hovers over them they will get messy and the hovering is frustrating for the child.
My dd wears boys navy and blue joggers for nursery and a top, not what I'd usually dress her in but I was sick of the stains
How about some dark coloured clothes for nursery? Some nice navy tops won't show nearly as many stains
I've always found that red and black are the worst colours for staining. I never did the very messy activities with those colours.
Aprons are never 100% effective. Paint can sneak up the arms. So can painty water when hand washing. And there's itches that need to be scratched or other children about. Nursery clothes need to be able to get messy, and to be practical.
My highlights include: Potty training children in dungarees with tight jumpers over the top, "special" clothes that "can't get dirty", white linen dresses, white fun-fur coats, and shoes with laces.
Please don't be one of those parents.
BTW, with stained clothes why not dye them? If all stain removal methods have failed it's better than throwing them out.
DS has separate nursery clothes - all cheap, in dark colours or with patterns that hide stains. Cold wash with stain remover (sainsburys own brand is good hand half the price of vanish) usually works a treat.
Never mind wearing aprons, you could wrap DS head to toe in cling film and he'd still get mucky he's 2 fgs! As it happens he refuses point blank to wear an apron for painting, he gets upset and won't join in so I told nursery not to bother. That's what his change of clothes in his bag is for.
Get ready for the white board pens at school then. They don't wash off, despite scrubbing/ vanish / ace bleach. So mine go in with tops with black marks on.
Oh and the sand, DS2 came out stained orange from the sandpit. I did bin that white top as it was washed several times and wouldn't come clean.
A few years down the line and you will not care.
You can pick up cheap, hardly worn, good quality clothes in charity shops, car boots etc -keep them for nursery and it won't matter.
The op was posted in Sept!
I always get caught by old threads. If I ran a nursery I would make it plain from the first meeting that they needed old clothes and they would get dirty and messy and not to choose me if they don't like it!
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