names

(27 Posts)
hogwartsismyhome Mon 02-Sep-13 22:59:13

AIBU to be miffed at people who I don't even know on mn criticising my choice of names for my kids!!! Everyone seems so bitchy and stuck up!

Alisvolatpropiis Mon 02-Sep-13 23:00:59

Depends if you've asked do they like the name over on the baby name board really.

Some people can be outrageously rude. But why does it bother you so much? You like the names don't you? And people on MN are in the main likely to be total strangers you will never meet in real life.

Sparklingbrook Mon 02-Sep-13 23:03:01

MN is full of opinions on every topic you can think of, just like in RL. It doesn't matter at all. Your choice of names is none of their business.

I think the word used reagrading MNers and their opinions is robust.

smile

thebody Mon 02-Sep-13 23:06:11

I am sure the names are lovely to you and that's all that matters. it would be a confusing world if we all choose the same names for our kids.😃

Lilacroses Mon 02-Sep-13 23:06:22

I know what you mean my Dd's name has been described as chavvy on mn but tbh I love it and would choose it again. I genuinely don't "get" the idea of giving your kids dull, boring, classic names so I am just as judgey really!

Sirzy Mon 02-Sep-13 23:06:28

Pick a name you like, don't expect others to like it.

If you plan on picking something more unusual then be prepared for comments on the name including some negative ones.

If you post things on an Internet forum then you have to be willing to take the good with the bad.

hogwartsismyhome Mon 02-Sep-13 23:07:17

It just gets on my tits how people can be bitchy about a child's name!! Some posts even call the child themselves horrible things over a name PARENTS chose!!

Couldn;t find your baby name thread.

sad

Hermione?
Hagrid?
Godric?
Mundungus?

sonlypuppyfat Mon 02-Sep-13 23:08:03

You shouldn't ask if you don't like the replys. I find some of the baby names threads the funniest ones on here.

ifyourehoppyandyouknowit Mon 02-Sep-13 23:08:20

YABU giving a shit what strangers on the internet think of a name that hundred, if not thousands, of children across the country possibly have.

Sirzy Mon 02-Sep-13 23:08:42

What names are we talking about?

Alisvolatpropiis Mon 02-Sep-13 23:11:12

A name being a child's isn't going to make anyone like it any name more or less than if it were an adults name.

It's not as though they're saying "your child is a horrible little shit". They're saying they don't like the name. Pehaps being rather rude in how they express themselves but nevertheless,it's just a name.

I don't imagine everybody 1) likes my name 2) will like the names I choose for my children. Do I care? No.

meditrina Mon 02-Sep-13 23:15:23

If you ask for opinions in cyberspace about a baby name (or read a thread where someone else has asked for opinions on names you've used or are thinking about) you will see exactly that. Opinions. And they will be unfiltered by the normal constraints of politeness that people ordinarily use in RL.

BU if you think everyone's taste in names will match yours.

If the comments stray into excessive rudeness that amounts to a personal attack and thus breach Talk guidelines, use the report button.

Whereisegg Mon 02-Sep-13 23:16:17

I don't like my own name, but I am not offended by my opinion on it.

HTH

Offering negative opinions, fine. Stereotyping a child with that name is wrong. What was happening?

Am I the only one who wants to know what mn naming offence has been committed? A K name? A hyphen? A new spelling of a classic name?

In all seriousness, try to stop caring what strangers on an internet forum think. I'm sure many people here would hate my dc's names, but it really doesn't matter.

LazyMonkeyButler Tue 03-Sep-13 00:17:48

DS1 & DD have names which are commonly berated on MN. DS2's name seems to more accepted smile.

I don't care TBH, and I do give my opinion on other names when the OP has asked for it.

Like RoastedCouchPotatoes says though, stereotyping a child because of their name is wrong. I don't do that & would be offended in anyone posted "MiniMonkey is a chav with no prospects" type thing about my child.

mynewpassion Tue 03-Sep-13 00:36:13

MN is just a taste of the comments you might hear in rl. Or at least what some people will be thinking but not saying aloud.

FondantNancy Tue 03-Sep-13 00:46:28

The baby name threads are bonkers, I wouldn't take it personally. I saw a post in reply to an OP the other day that said something like "My friend had a dog with that name and it was really aggressive and I've hated that name ever since."

How can you take that seriously!?

olidusUrsus Tue 03-Sep-13 03:17:01

Baby name threads are bonkers, yy to that Fondant, the boards seem to be full of people who have this amazing capacity to trace any name back to something like Margaret and then proceed to suggest that as a 'proper' name instead hmm

mrsmalcolmreynolds Tue 03-Sep-13 03:44:29

YABU to use 'berated" incorrectly - it means told off...

littlewhitebag Tue 03-Sep-13 06:15:55

I have no idea why people come on an Internet forum to discuss baby names. For me and DH it was a very private thing.

If people want to expose themselves like that then they have to be prepared to take the flak when others don't like their choices.

My children are older now but I would still never reveal their names on here out of respect for their privacy as much as anything else.

Beamae Tue 03-Sep-13 06:44:00

According to the baby names threaders, one of my twins has a name which isn't real and is a prostitute name and the other has a disgustingly common middle name that only fools would use! I save threads like these so that my husband and I can have a laugh about it. It really doesn't bother me at all. I was quite aware before mumsnet that people's opinions on names were quite varied.

LifeIsBetterInFlipFlops Tue 03-Sep-13 07:03:10

MN does not reflect RL - not mine anyway.

SubliminalMassaging Tue 03-Sep-13 07:07:09

Some posts even call the child themselves horrible things over a name PARENTS chose!!

I don't ever happens actually. I think that's just your very defensive interpretation of it. People will say that a specific name conjures up negative images of the way they imagine a child might be, but I don't think anyone goes as far as insulting/denigrating an actual child, do they?

Spottybra Tue 03-Sep-13 07:16:27

We told immediate family our chosen names for DS. I knew he was a boy so didn't have any girls names. So put off by everyone's reaction that my second pregnancy I referred to the baby as max all the way through. Maxwell for a boy and Maxie for a girl.

Dd ended up with a different name after her birth though.

If RL people offer judgement what do you think people on a faceless, nameless forum will do?

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