Am I the only one who feels like this? School holidays

(51 Posts)
YouareNOTfat Mon 02-Sep-13 13:52:48

I feel as though I hear a lot of people saying that they dread the school holidays, or can't wait for the kids to go back.

I don't feel like this at all, don't get me wrong ds drives me mad at times, but I'm going to miss him like mad when he goes back.

Might he because I'm back at work too, but I love the holidays, no routine, freedom, it hasn't been as difficult as I thought keeping him occupied, and I've saved a fortune in petrol and after school care.

Am I the only one who can't wait for the next holiday.

foreverhot Mon 02-Sep-13 13:55:09

I like them too. Don't get me wrong, I have moments of sheer stress I can actually feel my veins pulsating, saying that, I do enjoy having a total lack of routine.

I'm not looking forward to the packed lunch making, home work, early mornings and all the chaos it brings!

Roll on half term grin

Beastofburden Mon 02-Sep-13 13:55:29

yy to back to work blues, did you see that funny article on the BBC?

http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/magazine-23864719

I take August off with the DC every year, saves me a fortune in childcare but also keeps me sane. I adore my month of downtime.

First day back today. Can you tell I cant concentrate and am doing no work and just blogging on MN from my desk today [embarrassed]

dingledongle Mon 02-Sep-13 13:55:57

I completely agree with you! It is not a popular opinion but I love having the kids home.

I agree there are days when it is hard and it always takes a few days for people to get to know each other again when the holidays start but overall I hate the school run and when the daily grind starts all over again!!!!

Tiredemma Mon 02-Sep-13 13:56:22

I hate the six weeks holidays. Far too long.

CaptainSweatPants Mon 02-Sep-13 13:57:12

Think is though it's only a few days until the weekend & then you've got 48 hours to enjoy them again grin

Viking1 Mon 02-Sep-13 13:59:20

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SmiteYouWithThunderbolts Mon 02-Sep-13 14:00:12

I love the first 4 weeks of the summer break, then we all start to get sick of the sight of each other and tempers start to fray. From that point on, I look forward to the start of term for their sake as much as mine. My boys have gone back today and dd starts reception tomorrow. I missed the boys today but it has been LOVELY having a much more peaceful house with only dd and ds3 at home. Tomorrow I think I'll break my heart sending dd in for her first day.

BrianTheMole Mon 02-Sep-13 14:00:50

I've really enjoyed the holidays. Its hard getting back into that school run routine again.

littlemisswise Mon 02-Sep-13 14:01:54

My children are easy to keep occupied, always have been. My sister's kids on the otherhand are not and I can understand why she counts the days down till they go back to school.

Everyone's children and lives are different.

miffybun73 Mon 02-Sep-13 14:02:05

YANBU, I've absolutely loved the school holiday.

DS has already been at school for a year so is going into year 1.

DD starts the nursery class on Thursday (15 hours a week)

They get on so well together so it's been lovely having them both at home together.

elliejjtiny Mon 02-Sep-13 14:02:24

Me too. I wasn't sure about this summer as DS4 was born just before the holidays and he has health issues so we couldn't go out much. We've had a great time though. We've made dens, played with shaving foam, all sorts of things.

I love spending time with the DCs but am ready for them to go back.
I am self employed, and over the holidays I have been able to earn £8 (minus about £10 of materials) confused
They eat All.The.Time, so whenever I'm not buying or preparing food I'm loading, running or unloading the dishwasher. I won't miss that.
The thing that has been least conducive to a productive work environment has been the constant background bickering.
I need to focus to do my work (author and storyteller), which is nigh on impossible when every 5 minutes I can hear the sound of sniping, shrieking, doors slamming etc. They have had friends round, which I'd hoped would buy me some reciprocal child-free time to work, this did not happen.
When I'm with them it's great, we've had lovely walks, picked fruit and cooked with it, done mad science experiments etc. but I have learned from this holiday that no matter how good children are, they are not compatible with working from home.

MamaTo3Boys Mon 02-Sep-13 14:04:38

I love having the kids at home and Miss them when they go back to school (even though they stress me out to the point of nearly crying at times)

However, I HATE the lack of routine, I just can't function without it. I have to be a bit slack with it over the holidays though as the kids like to laze around in the mornings, but it drives me insane haha

I really wanted to LOVE this summer holiday as dd2 starts full time on Weds. Unfortunately both kids came down with chickenpox 2 weeks apart so a large amount of the holidays was spent stuck inside instead of doing all the fun things we had planned.

I also find I like the routine of term time. I guess I also like the time to actually get some studying done instead of trying to squash it into tired evenings.

rowrowrowtheboat Mon 02-Sep-13 14:12:36

I want another week before DD1 goes off to school. Just a few more ads doing nothing more than hanging around the Ouse, garden and park.

Think the weather has really helped the holidays fly by though.

BsshBossh Mon 02-Sep-13 14:13:14

YANBU. I love the summer holiday too. We mix things up with family holiday, DH takes time off after that, a couple of week long camps eg drama and gymnastics for DD, friends and family staying over... The time whizzes by.

YouareNOTfat Mon 02-Sep-13 14:13:28

I can see why it would be impossible when working from home.

The holidays are just so chilled out, we've been sleeping until 8 some mornings, we went shoe shopping one evening when the shops were quiet and got in at 9, loved that it didn't matter. We've been in the park all the time feeding the little family of swans, picnics, I even enjoy theme parks though! Weather hasn't been half bad either.

Beastofburden Mon 02-Sep-13 14:13:56

I think TBH that i found the school holidays harder when i was a SAHM. Now I WOH I really enjoy the privacy of being at home, the lack of a boss, of structure, etc during the holidays. The work element isn't as bad as the workload in the office!

I would say it's because they are older, but DS2 at least isn't- his disability means he has remained mentally around 2 despite being 17.

I think if I were comparing school holidays to a term-time routine where I was at home, they would seem hard work. As I am comparing them to a routine where I work FT, all I can see is how nice it was at home enjoying my garden sad

YouareNOTfat Mon 02-Sep-13 14:16:10

Oops just realised that there is another thread on this going.

LadyBryan Mon 02-Sep-13 14:19:00

I adore the schools holidays grin

If I thought it was best for DD I'd home school in a heartbeat.

Flossiechops Mon 02-Sep-13 14:20:20

That's the thing though op many parents have to work through the holidays and don't get time off. Therefore juggling so much time off with child care is a nightmare. Fwiw I love spending time with my dc but I also look forward to them going back by the end of 6.5 wks. It's far too long imo.

yoniwherethesundontshine Mon 02-Sep-13 14:21:52

It depends loads on age, now DC are older its a pleasure to have them round.

Yonihadtoask Mon 02-Sep-13 14:22:00

I don't mind the school holidays at all now.

BUT - I am a SAHM, only have the one DS who is 15. DH works mostly from home.

So the past six weeks have been a total lazy fest smile

I found the school holidays extremely hard work when DS was much younger and I was a LP with a job. I had to make childcare rotas up months in advance - as I couldn't afford to pay for all the care in the holidays.

Much nicer now smile

Oh, and the roads are quieter.

Beastofburden Mon 02-Sep-13 14:22:57

flossiechops my stress levels have gone right down since I did a deal that says I save up my leave and have August off to do my own childcare. It is bliss. I can recommend it.

Topseyt Mon 02-Sep-13 14:24:43

I like the school holidays in general too. Yes, of course my children can drive me nuts, especially if they are sniping at each other.

I still miss them when they go back though. The house seems unnaturally quiet at first.

Flossiechops Mon 02-Sep-13 14:24:48

Not a cat in hells chance that would happen in my profession. I work in a team of 12 women all with school aged kids and only 3 can be off at once! I only work 3 days though so it's not too bad wink

MarshaBrady Mon 02-Sep-13 14:25:47

I quite enjoy the not running around for school stuff.

But they are very long and this last week I have been ready for school to start again.

MammaTJ Mon 02-Sep-13 14:26:14

I work and continue to work through the holidays. I work nights, so go without sleep. Add that on to the fact that my DD has ADHD, I am sure of it, just yet to get a diagnosis and it makes the holidays really tough.

Nice for those who don't have to work, and find holiday times very chilled, but for most of us, that is not reality!

Beastofburden Mon 02-Sep-13 14:29:03

Sympathy MammaTJ. If it helps, the rest of my working year is pretty damn busy- August is what helps me survive, not least as two of mine are disabled so childcare for them otherwise costs a fortune.

ouryve Mon 02-Sep-13 14:40:55

Mine have spent most of the holidays fighting. And DS1 has just gone into another mood, is destroying things, being downright spiteful and is refusing to leave the house so we can all get some fresh air.

In fact, he has spent a good portion of almost every day ranting at us and telling us to get rid of DS2. Wednesday will bring its own problems but can not come soon enough.

BsshBossh Mon 02-Sep-13 14:40:59

Yes, I work from home and can be extremely flexible with my hours which certainly helps with a stress-free holidays. So I work like a maniac before the holiday so I can take the six weeks off; if I need to work then I can do so while DD is asleep at night and also when she's at a day-long activity. Also, she's an only child and though only 5 is quite self-contained/independent and plays really well on her own.

Beastofburden Mon 02-Sep-13 14:48:29

ouryve I always found that by the end of holidays they were more than ready to go back to school....

valiumredhead Mon 02-Sep-13 15:19:22

Me too, I'll miss ds. Dh went back to work today it's so quietsad

MrsDeVere Mon 02-Sep-13 15:29:03

I usually find the school holidays very difficult.
One of my children has SN and my OH is disabled.

This makes getting out and about very hard.

There is loads of fighting, the house gets in a mess, I feel guilty, its all just horrible mostly.

This year we spent our life savings on a static caravan. Keeping it is taking all our money but we have had the best summer holiday in many years (since my DD got sick 9 years ago really).

It has still been stressful but I feel the little ones have had some freedom, my son with SN has managed the holidays because he is going to the same place every time, OH gets some fresh air and I get to be by the sea (even if I am still doing all the same stuff I do at home).

But we are lucky that we could do this. I am going to hang on to it for as long as I can.

The long holidays can be a proper nightmare if you are dealing with kids with SN and other things that restrict what you can do.

Threads like this have really not helped me in the past. I am not going to say they make me feel guilty but they have certainly not helped me feel any better about myself.

valiumredhead Mon 02-Sep-13 15:32:25

I love caravans Mrs d,I spent my first 5 years in one, lots of happy memories. That sounds great, glad you've had a nice timesmile

LittleMissGerardButlerfan Mon 02-Sep-13 15:39:47

I like the rest of the holidays but struggle with the six week holidays.

My boys can play nicely together sometimes but after a couple of weeks they fight more and bicker.

It also can get expensive trying to entertain them for 6 weeks, not too bad this year with the better weather.

I love them to bits and only work weekends so am lucky that I don't have to fork out for childcare but feel that the time we have after school is much more quality time.

I am exhausted now and my house is a tip but whilst I will be glad to get things in order and have a routine I will miss them a bit when they go back.

Beastofburden Mon 02-Sep-13 16:26:02

hugs to mrsdevere. I have two with SEN and i love the long holidays BUT I dont attempt to go anywhere, ever. We just enjoy home. Its less stress for me than going to work and juggling childcare and such like.

Especially as DSs school finishes at 2.30 on Fridays, as so many kids have a long commute (its a SEN school so wide catchment) that it is easier for traffic. But for me tis a freaking nightmare as my carer isnt available till 3.15 and they have no option for him to stay at school until 3pm because of course if your kid has severe disabilities you wont be at work so I have to go home myself for 30 minutes not that i am stabby or anything

Want to be home not back at work howls at moon

MrsDeVere Mon 02-Sep-13 17:19:07

When I win the lottery I will buy a fleet (or should that be a static?) of caravans. I will rent them out cheaply to families who find the holidays a struggle.

They really can be fab for kids with SN because they get used to going back to the same place every time. We buy postcards when we visit a new place in the area so DS knows it if we visit again. We have a nice little collection on the caravan wall so far smile

They can be fearful expensive to run though. I think its worth it for just not being in sodding tears and feeling like the worst mum in the world come September.

Beastofburden Tue 03-Sep-13 09:25:59

My mum works for Mencap and they have a little collection of caravans and the like that they rent out cheaply I think. Worth looking into if the finances get threatening.

The weather was a help this year, no? DS was playing with water in the garden without hypothermia, surely a plus...

CalamityGin Tue 03-Sep-13 09:41:36

same here Op - this holiday has flown by and me and DD have had a brilliant time - good weather helps. I'll really miss the "freedom" of just going with the flow and taking things at our own pace.

But, that said I do enjoy my own company so I think I'll survive until the next holiday, somehow ... brew cake boxset

FreudiansSlipper Tue 03-Sep-13 09:44:12

i have loved the school holidays it was ds first year at school. i feel he is ready to go back now and i am ready for us to be in more of a routine

we were busy for the whole holidays and he is more tired than ever but it has been great i am sure tomorrow i shall feel a little sad but only 7 weeks until the next holiday

Soditall Tue 03-Sep-13 09:49:45

Even though 3 of our 5 DC have been hard work for some of the 6 weeks holiday,I still wish we had longer before they all had to go back to school.

Our 5DC have slept in for the the first time ever over the school holidays and it's been lovely to not be up by 6 am in the morning which is the time our 11 year old and 5 year old are usually both up by,they're both disabled so we go with the flow.

I'm also disabled now and it's been lovely not having to force my poor aching body out of bed in the morning before it's ready and being able to tell our littlest(she's only 5 and disabled)that no it's not school today you get to spend all day with Mummy which gets met by lots of hugs and cheering which is lovely.

Also not looking forward to the pack lunch making,traffic on the way to school,endless school letters asking for things and last minute notice about costumes ect needed and endless amount of homework to watch over.

Brandnewbrighttomorrow Tue 03-Sep-13 09:53:30

I have three, two at school and one preschooler. It's funny how the dynamic has changed each summer they've been at school. It took a good fortnight last year for them to settle into being together, this summer it only took a couple of days. I'd love to have them home for longer.

Bowlersarm Tue 03-Sep-13 09:55:56

No I don't feel like you. After 8 weeks I've just shooed them out of the front door with a massive sigh of relief.

The next school holiday is only too soon.....

Sparklymommy Tue 03-Sep-13 09:57:03

I love the holidays in principle. I am a SAHM and have four aged 10-4. My baby has her first day in reception on Monday. However, I do think the summer hols are a bit too long, and the Christmas ones too short. I would much prefer four weeks at Christmas and four weeks in the summer.

GibberTheMonkey Tue 03-Sep-13 09:59:15

I want to send my older three back. The eldest two especially need school. but I don't want my baby to school sad I'm going to miss my little friend

Takver Tue 03-Sep-13 10:02:38

I think it depends
- how many dc you have
- how old they are
- your working patterns
- how much spare cash you have
- how your dc are at school

Right now I have been dreading the end of the holidays to the extent that DH & I have been seriously considering HE. DD has been a dream, no meltdowns, incredibly constructive, lovely to be with. (She is starting secondary, they are meant to be really inclusive / good with all dc so fingers crossed it will all work well for her & everything will be fine)

She is 11 & we are self employed so she can help out at work & get on with her own stuff.

I work FT, but DH and I both can work from home quite often. That being so, even though it involves a lot of advance planning and juggling, the holidays are somehow much more relaxed than term time and I am not looking forward to the DC going back next week, when we collectively revert to being permanently late or worrying about being late for something.

OTOH I don't have to do packed lunches in term time whereas I generally do for assorted holiday clubs grin I bloody hate packing lunches

wordfactory Tue 03-Sep-13 10:19:40

Someone else was saying this to me yesterday.

I explained that I do enjoy the holidays and I love to do things with my DC, but they are rather long (seven/eight weeks).

I'm itching to get back to my work. Work I love. I'm itching for a quiet space to start the creative process.

MarshaBrady Tue 03-Sep-13 10:23:05

Me too Word, I start getting very jumpy when I can't work.

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