To think men's private parts are not a turn on to look at

(76 Posts)
Caramelbutthorn Mon 02-Sep-13 01:02:46

Hi all,

I've signed up to 'plenty of fish'. Aka 'plenty of freaks'.

I was chatting to a guy who seemed nice so we started up chat via text. Anyway out of the blue he sends me a pic of his semi erect bits. shockblush

Aibu to not be at all impressed or turned on by this? Why do guys think girls want to see that? Maybe it's just me.

pizzachickenhotforyou Mon 02-Sep-13 01:10:01

What a charmer.

Tell him it's a funny shape and get down the drs tomorrow morning incase he's got Peyronie's disease.

80sMum Mon 02-Sep-13 01:12:25

YANBU. What a prat! Just as well you found out before wasting your time getting to know him! I can't imagine what response he had been anticipating from you! Maybe he thought you would reciprocate?! But surely, no-one would?

MayTheOddsBeEverInYourFavour Mon 02-Sep-13 01:15:51

Urgh that's horrible and he sounds weird, but I have to say on the right person in the right circumstances I do find men's 'bits' really attractive to look at though never terry wogans

Bogeyface Mon 02-Sep-13 01:18:20

Send him a message back

"Oh bad luck, I once got the last chicken in the shop too! Go back in the morning and you might be able to pick up something worth having smile"

Alibabaandthe40nappies Mon 02-Sep-13 01:18:40

There was a thread about this a while ago.

Seems that it is v.normal these days to share pictures of oneself starkers. I was unusual on the thread because no-one has ever sent me a picture of their willy.

I was like this shockgrinshockgrin I had no idea this kind of thing happened.

I love dps but if he'd sent a pic before we'd met I'd have been wtaf are you playing at?! I've heard of sites where profile pictures are genitals <boak>

PuffandStuff Mon 02-Sep-13 01:19:32

Semi? pathetic - text him back saying 'don't waste my time! I like huge, fat, throbbing cocks only!'

PuffandStuff Mon 02-Sep-13 01:21:18

no-one has ever sent me a picture of their willy.

I was on a night bus home one night when a 'gentleman' thought I'd like to see his dick!

Men!

Bogeyface Mon 02-Sep-13 01:23:54

I got a dickpic once from a "friend" who it turned out fancied me, this was his overture to romance hmm. I wouldn't mind quite so much but took it lying down so I got foot....erect dick....foot.

He was 5' 4" with very small feet and his dick was smaller than his feet, even at that perspective........

Lazysuzanne Mon 02-Sep-13 01:24:10

I think it's more that they mostly dont know how to present them in an erotic manner blush

Bogeyface Mon 02-Sep-13 01:26:00

Is there an erotic manner with which to present a penis?! Playgirl tried and failed.

Is there any instance in which a picture of a penis (in any state) illicits any reaction other than belly laughter?!

Didactylos Mon 02-Sep-13 01:28:06

suggested replies

'wow, that looks just like a dick but smaller'
'thats fascinating, Ive heard of micropenis but never seen a case'
'you know, theyve got a cream for that now'

NadiaWadia Mon 02-Sep-13 01:30:09

Yuck. Well to be honest, most of them are not exactly decorative.

garlicbargain Mon 02-Sep-13 01:36:11

He took it lying down so I got foot....erect dick....foot. grin grin

I disagree with your thread title, Caramel, but not with your OP! Men's genitals look sexy on the man (if we're lucky.) On their own they look like giblets.

I've always assumed guys do this because close-ups of vaginas are sexy to them? I find that fairly incomprehensible, tbh. Giblets & liver. Decent meat stock ingredients, not great photographic subjects.

Lazysuzanne Mon 02-Sep-13 01:37:43

Bogey I get your point about playgirl, things are not symmetrical between the genders on these matters!
Even so it is surely possible to come up with a naked photo of a bloke which isnt a complete turn off?
As opposed to the usual view looking down, or the one of his equipment with the toilet in the background confused

LeoandBoosmum Mon 02-Sep-13 01:38:34

On Albert Steptoe...no. On Michelangelo's David...maybe... grin
They're generally not pretty though, let's face it.

LeoandBoosmum Mon 02-Sep-13 01:39:56

You should text back... 'I think you're not-yet-developed teenage son got hold of your phone somehow and sent me a photo..'

BellaTheGooseIsDead Mon 02-Sep-13 01:47:48

Very strange. The genitals are the last bit of a man I'd be attracted to after wit, intelligence, charm etc

I met DH on the internet and there was no need for any of that.

Do these men think that they are the only ones to possess a cock?

Bogeyface Mon 02-Sep-13 01:57:00

On their own they look like giblets.

This grin

ElephantsAndMiasmas Mon 02-Sep-13 01:58:48

"I once got the last chicken in the shop too" AAAAAHAHAHA thanks for that bogeyface, think I just woke the neighbours.

In answer, no I don't think a picture of a penis living its own life would do much for me. Naked men can be proper gorgeous, of course. But I think to a lot of women an erect penis when you weren't thinking about sex has the same meaning as a pile of dirty dishes - something to ignore or attend to before you can get on with the day
<pessimist>

NadiaWadia Mon 02-Sep-13 01:59:12

Carmel - did you respond when he sent it? What will you do? Just ignore and stop messaging him, or what?

Is this really considered normal these days?

K8Middleton Mon 02-Sep-13 01:59:44

How revolting. A semi too because he couldn't even make the effort hmm

Genitals generally - women's and men's - aren't nice to look at, without a bit of context.

Mumoftwoyoungkids Mon 02-Sep-13 09:11:46

Ooh - yuck. No - not an attractive part. All hairy and dangly.

Now if it was a photo of an impressive set of abs......

meditrina Mon 02-Sep-13 09:14:55

I don't think 'size' put down should be used, when you are complaining of taste and appropriateness.

It's his action in thinking that sending is a good idea that's the problem. Not the appearance of other parts of his anatomy.

Sparklingbrook Mon 02-Sep-13 09:15:11

Oh good god is this what it's like on the dating scene these days?

Men's bits are very untidy and not the sort of thing you want 'popping up' on your mobile phone. sad

ArtisanLentilWeaver Mon 02-Sep-13 09:16:32

at least it gives you a chance to scrutinise said willy for disease, thrush, bits of toilet paper and the like. smile

yanbu unless he wrote next weeks winning lottery numbers on it.

Buzzardbird Mon 02-Sep-13 09:20:52

I would just text back "on well, never mind" and leave it at that.

they can be a turn on to look at but context is everything

agree that ridiculing size is the wrong way to respond

Buzzardbird Mon 02-Sep-13 09:24:37

How about "oh, I didn't know you knew Walter Matthau?" ?

CatAmongThePigeons Mon 02-Sep-13 09:29:03

I find penises not very attractive to look at, not on their own at least. I prefer a muscular body and a nice face to see before we get to the cock.

I just don't understand the reasoning behind sending pictures of body parts, maybe I am getting old?

Tryharder Mon 02-Sep-13 09:34:02

I disagree that men's genitals are noa turn on when viewing them in the context of about to have sex (iykwim)

But, I would not be impressed if a man I had never met sent me a photo of his. It wouldn't make me want to meet him.

I have been with DH for over 10 years and he has never once sent me a photo of his dick. Perhaps it is we who are abnormal!

grin

Emz8369 Mon 02-Sep-13 09:59:18

YANBU

Blatherskite Mon 02-Sep-13 10:08:42

Do you have a really good male friend who could take a matching photo for you and send it as a reply?

The thought of his face when he receives it...grin

LessMissAbs Mon 02-Sep-13 10:09:40

This is a really strange thing to do, to someone you barely know. I guess the picture senders in question do it to shortcut the normal chat up lines to see if someone will be cheap enough to shag them without the normal hassle of getting to know them through dating or even conversation. I also assume there must be a few women out there who respond positively, otherwise they wouldn't do it.

Its a whole little world all of its own. Thankfully one that I will never be part of.

HairyGrotter Mon 02-Sep-13 10:10:09

I met DP by OD, and neither of us exchanged nudey photos, however, prior to meeting him, I got a shit tonne of awful looking cocks sent to me, all without asking for them confused...one looked so painful it actually made my eyes water.

I've no idea what it is meant to achieve...however, I love the look of my DP's genitals, but in context wink

Latara Mon 02-Sep-13 10:17:46

YANBU, pictures of men's genitals are definitely NOT a turn on.

Maybe i'm just tired of seeing men's privates after yesterday at work trying to cover up several patients' willies - why do certain men think it's ok to show them off to nurses in hospital?

I put the sheets back on to cover them up, turn round and the sheet's 'fallen off' again fgs...

Latara Mon 02-Sep-13 10:37:24

As for Online Dating, well I've signed up to Match and i'm beginning to worry after OP's and other people's experiences, hope I don't get any photos like that!

CockyFox Mon 02-Sep-13 10:42:08

I like to look at DHs in the flesh. I would be a bit freaked out by receiving a picture of a random one. Equally I would never send a pic of my bits to a man.

They aren't very attractive......neither are lady bits tbh, 'squashed hedgehog' springs to mind, bit of a design flaw imo hmm

YANBU btw, ask him if he's lost something and offer to cobble togethersome lost and found posters with pictures of his lost willy and his details wink

Writerwannabe83 Mon 02-Sep-13 10:48:25

These are the guys to avoid!!

I once had one guy on POF message me and ask if he could wrap me in tin foil and have sex with me?! Wtf?

I did however meet my DH through POF and I'm happy to say that the first time I saw his genitals was on our 7th date wink

I like looking at his bits grin

PrincessFlirtyPants Mon 02-Sep-13 10:50:41

Was there any text that came with it? Was there flirting beforehand?

I don't find penises particularly attractive. I don't mind DH's but if I seen someone else's I would probably scream (yes, very childish I know)

PrincessFlirtyPants Mon 02-Sep-13 10:51:44

Writer in tin foil?! WTF?! Are the men on these sites really this weird?

CarpeVinum Mon 02-Sep-13 10:58:11

If it were a case of no pre chat (would you like to see my willy ? Oh yes please! ) isn't randomly sending a picture of your fluffy bits to any unsuspecting person ... basically a digital form of flashing ?

Beastofburden Mon 02-Sep-13 10:58:19

Lame. He should be texting you a photo of the nice beach / restaurant/ country walk he proposes for your next date.

But a very useful way to filter out the people you wouldnt want to get involved with.

I would text back saying, "thanks for totally ruling yourself out"

Writerwannabe83 Mon 02-Sep-13 10:58:50

Yes Princess, I would say that at least 50% of them are fruit cakes!! Apparently he collected robots and thought if he wrapped me in tin foil it would make me look like one.... hmm

Clawdy Mon 02-Sep-13 11:00:23

Conversation at coffee morning last week:
Friend 1 : Sam (three years old) has started saying "Look at my willy!" I keep saying "I'd much rather look at your nice face."
Friend 2 : Well,that's a fair comment on men in general,isn't it?!
Laughter...and we all agreed.

StormyBrid Mon 02-Sep-13 11:01:00

DP's knob in pretty knickers I could look at all day. A random stranger's? Eww, no thanks! Have never been able to understand why some blokes think sending pictures of their bits to all and sundry will get them laid.

badtime Mon 02-Sep-13 11:11:44

I read an article a while back that was interesting (although I can't remember where or by whom). It suggested that the cock picture is sometimes an end in itself. The man is not trying to turn the lady on, he is just going 'Look! I have a penis! I like my penis!'

I actually find that quite plausible with some of the chaps who've sent me pictures of their old chap.

LessMissAbs Mon 02-Sep-13 11:13:15

I would text back saying, "thanks for totally ruling yourself out

Why would you even bother to reply to someone like that?

EllesAngel Mon 02-Sep-13 11:16:04

I think to a lot of women an erect penis when you weren't thinking about sex has the same meaning as a pile of dirty dishes - something to ignore or attend to before you can get on with the day

gringrin

YANBU Unfortunately it is one of the perils of online dating.

Lazysuzanne Mon 02-Sep-13 11:33:12

the cock picture is sometimes an end in itself
I agree Badtime, he know's he has no chance of pulling but he gets a sexual thrill out of exposing himself to random women, it's the modern day version of the of the flasher in the park

LessMissAbs Mon 02-Sep-13 11:35:12

Yes, that's why I don't think you should honour them with a reply. They get a thrill out of sending women inappropriate pictures. Replying telling them that its inappropriate simply prolongs the thrill.

Lazysuzanne Mon 02-Sep-13 11:38:26

I think you're right LessMiss, any response at all acts as a reward & reinforces the behavior.

Telling him it doesnt work for you just falls on deaf ears, he just thinks 'she responded..she wants it'

PrincessFlirtyPants Mon 02-Sep-13 11:44:28

Writer the robot thing just made me laugh so hard I woke the dog up from her nap. That is hilarious.

SoleSource Mon 02-Sep-13 12:45:19

NO! to penis pics on dat8ing sites.

I do find the 'Gentleman's area' very nice to look at --if shaved-

squoosh Mon 02-Sep-13 12:52:40

What woman gets turned on by an anonymous, disembodied cock? Might as well send me a photo of your nostrils.

I only find a cock sexy when they're attached to a person I find sexy.

Fairenuff Mon 02-Sep-13 14:03:31

Isn't it indecent exposure though? confused

If you were out and about with him and he flashed at you, that would be an arrestable offence wouldn't it.

The fact that it was on your phone shouldn't make a difference, you could have been 'out and about' with friends, or children when you received this picture.

Someone enlighten me please sad

Fairenuff Mon 02-Sep-13 14:05:01

Oooh, x posted there.

Glad I'm not the only one who thinks this.

OP if you're not interested any more, why not report him. I would.

MyBaby1day Tue 03-Sep-13 02:18:02

I don't generally but if I love the man then they are o.k.

garlicbargain Tue 03-Sep-13 02:48:16

That is an interesting point, I think. If you'd just started chatting to a man in a pub, say, or the bus queue, and he suddenly whipped his dick out, it'd be reasonable to scream/point & laugh/call for help. I'm unconvinced that doing it via a photo's any better.

Would it be an idea to make a website for online daters to post unsolicited penis pics, along with the owners' mugshots? If this doesn't already exist, shall I start it?

I could call it 'dick-heads' grin

Bluesky2 Tue 03-Sep-13 02:50:13

It's blokes being stupid.

AndAnother Tue 03-Sep-13 03:25:37

How bizarre to send a semi - maybe that was the best he could do.

Not something I'd want to look at normally tbh.

Last time I got a pic (totally out of the blue) I replied "Wow, that looks like a penis...only smaller". He never did it again! grin

Caramelbutthorn Tue 03-Sep-13 18:39:23

How did I respond?

First I said: "it's like a penis only smaller"

Then I said:

Me: "sorry still trying to compose myself".
Him: what do you mean?
Me: laughing at the contents of your pants
Him: oi, that is rude
Me: so is sending a pic of your bits

He then blocked me!!!

Notenjoyinglife Tue 03-Sep-13 18:44:56

Someone did this to my friend and asked for a picture of her pussy in return. She sent him a picture of her tabby cat and deleted him.

Caramelbutthorn Tue 03-Sep-13 18:48:27

The day before he said "do you want to see my willy". I replied saying no thanks and made it clear it wasn't something I was interested in. The next day he sent it whilst we were having a normal conversation.

Lazyjaney Tue 03-Sep-13 19:03:48

Mens privates look like dead plucked roosters, send him a picture of one in return smile

Unless they are standing to attention by my own handiwork I'm not interested.

xxxxmrsxxxx Tue 03-Sep-13 19:06:29

My ex used to send pictures of his to women on a site for swingers. It was a fairly normal size but in the pictures it looked tiny (especially when he had all the hair waxed and had it in a ring)!! Men aren't attractive when naked. I would rather look at a man with sexy pants and a smile smile

One of my mates did this to me. I suggested he stuck googly eyes to it next time to make it look more appealing.

Fairenuff Tue 03-Sep-13 20:18:11

The day before he said "do you want to see my willy". I replied saying no thanks and made it clear it wasn't something I was interested in. The next day he sent it whilst we were having a normal conversation

See, this is why I think it should be reported. Maybe he would think twice next time.

FutureNannyOgg Tue 03-Sep-13 20:43:11

I once read this awesome conversation where a woman had received such a picture, then googled the phone number, found the guy on facebook, and threatened to tell his mum (whose name etc she pulled from FB) that this was how he behaved towards women. The extended conversation was hilarious.

iklboo Tue 03-Sep-13 20:43:47

It always reminds me of turkey giblets.

Caramelbutthorn Wed 04-Sep-13 01:36:25

I can't report it unfortunately as this took place on 'whatsapp' rather than pof & he has deleted his profile (or blocked me).

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