Reporting Drug Smoking?

(36 Posts)
Nat38 Sun 01-Sep-13 21:49:13

Advice needed please!!
The teenage boy a couple of doors away has taken to smoking drugs with his mates in the back yard.
The stink of the drugs they are smoking keeps coming into my house, with me & my children in it.
I have asked them all to move down the garden so this does not happen & they can still smoke!
They have totally ignored me!!
I am going to have a word with his mum tomorrow to hopefully resolve the problem.
Would I be unreasonable to report to the police as well??

Crack or cannabis? If the latter I doubt the police will care.

EBearhug Sun 01-Sep-13 21:50:35

I'd wait and see how his Mum responds first. But I wouldn't rule it out if they keep doing it.

It depends on the family, you might be better doing one or the other. If you do both it will be obvious who reported it to the police and you may end up with more trouble than you have now. Do you really think that a mother that allows her DS to smoke cannabis in the garden is going to care what you think? or does she not know and if so, do you think she would want to?

and, yes, the police will care if you do report it

WorraLiberty Sun 01-Sep-13 21:53:17

They're hardly going to admit it to the Police are they? grin

Hopefully the Mum will make them move down the garden.

morethanpotatoprints Sun 01-Sep-13 21:54:32

What are your windows like OP grin
Are they safety glass? as they will know it was you.

YABVU and a killjoy, were you never young?
Its too cold to have windows open now anyway, so it won't be a problem now summers over.

CharityFunDay Sun 01-Sep-13 22:06:52

Next time they're out getting stoned, decide it's time to water your garden with the hose, and accidentally-on-purpose let water arc over the fence, where they'll be sitting on the other side.

OTOH see what the mother says. Don't try to grass them up (NPI) for smoking dope, just mention that the smell of cannabis is drifting into your house and you don't like it.

catgirl1976 Sun 01-Sep-13 22:16:19

YABU

Unless it's crack

Were you never young?

Just have a word with them

WorraLiberty Sun 01-Sep-13 22:18:56

The Police couldn't do fuck all anyway.

"Excuse me, we've had complaints about a smell of cannabis coming from your garden".

"Really? No it's not our garden. Must be someone else's".

"Oh, OK then. Sorry to have bothered you".

and, yes, the police will care if you do report it

Really? What do you think the police will do?

marriedinwhiteisback Sun 01-Sep-13 22:39:14

I feel for you OP - I wouldn't want my dc growing up thinking even smoking cannabis was normal. It remains a classified drug which cannot be obtained legally.

I emember being young and having a lovely time. I didn't need recreational drugs to have a lovely time.

I would want to call the police in your shoes OP but depending on the people involved and the neighbourhood I probably wouldn't dare.

WorraLiberty Sun 01-Sep-13 23:03:55

I wouldn't want my dc growing up thinking even smoking cannabis was normal

But for the neighbours (and for many other people) it is.

Therefore it's up to us as parents to drum that into our kids and hope they listen.

However, the fact remains that the Police can do nothing without firstly having evidence, secondly being invited on to the premises to search them and thirdly finding enough cannabis to even caution them.

They just don't have the time or resources to nick everyone who sparks up a spliff.

WorraLiberty Sun 01-Sep-13 23:04:38

I mean to drum it into them that it's not normal or particularly OK.

MrsDeVere Sun 01-Sep-13 23:12:09

Its fucking horrible.
My neighbour is always smoking and the smell of skunk is rank.

Selfish, lazy, fuckwit that he is.

I don't care about the legality of it. I don't care if he falls on his ugly arse because he is so off his face he doesn't know where his feet are, I just care that he makes my house smell.

Wingit Sun 01-Sep-13 23:24:31

I emember being young and having a lovely time. I didn't need recreational drugs to have a lovely time.

Bet you got pissed off your face a few times on alcohol though. That's okay though because it is a good taxable legal drug.

Calling the police will achieve nothing. Like a PP said they can't prove anything.

Have a word again with the mum to ask them to smoke further away or at the other end of the garden.

marriedinwhiteisback Sun 01-Sep-13 23:30:53

Not sure I've ever been pissed of my face but being a bit merry generally doesn't lead to a caution or other permanent stain on one's record.

FrillsandLaces Mon 02-Sep-13 05:28:57

Id talk to his mum, I would NOT ring the police. They can't do anything unless they witness it first hand, and its nit really worth having broken windows over is it? Could you close your windows? Not a good solution really but I can't see much you can do tbh

Lottiedoubtie Mon 02-Sep-13 07:17:12

I've rung the police over a similar issue (teens smoking cannabis in a car down the road).

The police started to drive around more, and now they don't turn up there anymore.

I did speak to them first, <no joy>, and not had my window put in!

Wingit Mon 02-Sep-13 07:24:30

Being a bit merry can lead to a caution or permanent stain on ones record - it just depends what you're like when drunk.

Having been caught by the police when searched, (as a passenger in a car that was pulled over) with a rather large chunk of cannabis on me as an 18 year old led to... wait for it... nothing. All they did was take it off me. and probably smoked it themselves the arseholes

My dp called the non emergancy line on friday night as a large group we smoking skunk at the back of our flats there are garages and a loading bay for the shops they called a hour later to say they popped round checked to make sure no poperty was damaged and they vist more often

Nat38 Mon 02-Sep-13 07:54:07

I pretty sure his don`t know, going on that when they light up his mums bike is not in the garden!!
Will have to talk to his mum, would not like to be in his shoes after I`ve told her!!
I think you`ve confirmed what I already thought about the police that there is not a lot they can do without evidence & other than camping out in my house how would they get it?!
Thanks all!!

moustachio Mon 02-Sep-13 07:59:19

My neighbours dealt cannabis and the police didn't care! Best mumsnet advice I got was to change your WiFi name to 'Police surveillance unit' and scare the shit out of them. They'll never know its you grin

marriedinwhiteisback Mon 02-Sep-13 08:10:08

Precisely wingit - it depends what one is like. I have never been stopped by the police, either in a car or in person. Have only ever found them to be extremely kind and helpful when I have been a victim of crime or even a possible victim of crime. They found our DS's Oyster once on a thug and phoned the house to check he was OK and whether he had been mugged lately. He hadn't but he had lost his oyster.

TheGirlFromIpanema Mon 02-Sep-13 08:38:47

Moustachio, that is genius grin

OP I'd say it depends where you live. On my estate, which is in a city with bigger issues anyone watch Burgled?! you'd be laughed off the phone I imagine.

In my mums rural area they might check it out, if they could be arsed to drive out there. Petty crime seems much more frowned on in areas where the police have time to do something about it!

Misspixietrix Mon 02-Sep-13 09:05:46

moustachio grin <looks for how to change wifi name>. OP I would have a word with the Mum first too ~

catinabox Mon 02-Sep-13 09:17:37

Oh poor you OP. The smell of weed is horrible for people that don't smoke.

I'd have another word with them and perhaps ask whether the parents know that they are smoking down the garden.

If the parents don't know, suggesting you might have a word if they carry on could put them off.

I personally wouldn't call the police.

Sounds like they are getting it far too easy anyway, when we were teenagers we were forced to hide in bush shelters to smoke grin

comingalongnicely Mon 02-Sep-13 09:21:52

There're a couple of lads that obviously sneak out of the house to have a puff in the small nature reserve near us. They think they're being subtle & cunning but everyone knows what they're doing because of the clouds of smelly smoke & the shifty looks! Makes me laugh every time.

I don't think Plod would be much use to you in this situation, parent maybe, but if they're not in when the kids are doing it, it's quite hard to stop them....

Arnie123 Mon 02-Sep-13 11:16:52

I used to live next door to heavy pot smokers. Did not bother me they we pleasant enough people, no loud music or anything

musicismylife Mon 02-Sep-13 11:36:04

They just don't have the time or resources to nick everyone who sparks up a spliff.

Worra grin

Nat38 Wed 04-Sep-13 18:07:18

I am now getting sick of this lad a couple of doors away & his mates!!
They are still smoking drugs, they are winding up a dog-pitbull type dog-going to slam it in the face with their feet, shouting -no yelling at it-to attack, all with plenty of swearing in there!! Another neighbour came out & told them to tone it down, just to get a load of abuse & laughter of them!
They are jumping my gate into my garden for god knows what reason!!
I am sitting hear feeling so angry & scared!!
I get the impression that his mum knows about his behaviour from what got said from the other neighbour but not the drug smoking.
I am going to have to have a word with his mum, there is no way round it is there???

littlewhitebag Wed 04-Sep-13 18:08:33

Call the police. This is more about anti social behaviour than just drug smoking.

Oblomov Wed 04-Sep-13 18:24:47

I have no idea what you all think the police will do, but let me suggest to you all that it will be completely minimal!!

OddBoots Wed 04-Sep-13 18:30:43

That latest behaviour is very much a police matter. Poor dog (and poor you)!

12thDoctorsCompanion Wed 04-Sep-13 18:44:23

people can be young and not indulge in drink/cigarettes/drugs/sex.

or is the world so changed that they HAVE to now, to be 'cool' or whatever the word is nowadays!

i wouldnt want my child smelling this stuff, (and weve lived in places like that), nor do i want my child indulging when theyre older- they may experiment yes, but im hoping they wont.

seeing/hearing/smelling other people doing it is not exactly discouraging is it?

op, dont recommend speaking to their mum, if you can smell it shell be able to and is obv not doing anything about it, theyll just cause trouble, id phone 101 and seek advice.

dont speak to neighbours again about it, if police do go round theyll susss it was you who dropped them in it otherwise.

MrsWedgeAntilles Wed 04-Sep-13 21:00:42

We had this trouble with our old neighbours.
DH dealt with it beautifully. He reckoned there was a very big element of trying to look cool in front of their mates so he listened to them until one of them started coughing. He then went out and was madly over solicitous in offering help in the way of glasses of water, hankies, patting hands, calling in medical held etc. He only had to do this 2 or 3 times and we never saw them out smoking again. It might help that he's a giant, hairy Scots man.
I would have recommended this method to you until I read your last post but if they're scaring you I think you should call 101 and get some advice.

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