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I love my children too much to work full time..

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LostMarbles99 Sat 31-Aug-13 20:31:31

AIBU to be royally pissed off at the person who said this to me today?

Am just back at work 2 weeks after birth of first baby who is now 7 months. 'Friend' was adamant that I must regret it and then proceeded to say that she loves her children too much to be working full time.

Yeah because I hate my child and can't wait to get away from him hmm

I'm working full time as I'm the main earner and we need the money.

Why are people so insensitive?

What do you say?

HeyMicky Sat 31-Aug-13 20:33:04

I say I love my job. I say it's important for my daughter to see me working and contributing to the household income. I say mind your own business

shoofly Sat 31-Aug-13 20:33:05

YANBU that is a shocking thing to say!

BOF Sat 31-Aug-13 20:33:10

You say "Haaaaahaaa, did you mean to be such a cock?"

Labootin Sat 31-Aug-13 20:33:48

Fuck off seems to cover all the bases

TondelayoSchwarzkopf Sat 31-Aug-13 20:34:03

Say "I love my child too much to see the bailiff's take our house away"

BruthasTortoise Sat 31-Aug-13 20:34:09

"I love my children too much to let them go without food in their stomachs, clothes on their backs and a roof over their heads" is my stock answer when I encounter insensitive cows like that.

ubik Sat 31-Aug-13 20:34:09

That person is an idiot. There are some about.

HumphreyCobbler Sat 31-Aug-13 20:34:26

what a silly woman

I love my children too much to fail to pay the mortgage tbh

NutritiousAndDelicious Sat 31-Aug-13 20:34:30

She's a twat and probably jealous of your financially independance/freedom from the monotomy. My DSister says things like this to me sometimes, I just laugh. Winds her right up.

TempusFuckit Sat 31-Aug-13 20:34:34

I love my children too much to see them on the street?

Not that it has anything to do with her or me, but have you been back at work two weeks, or did you go back when your 7mo was two weeks old? If the latter, I'd steel yourself for more similarly offensive comments.

HumphreyCobbler Sat 31-Aug-13 20:34:54

but yeah, fuck off is better grin

arethereanyleftatall Sat 31-Aug-13 20:34:55

Yanbu at all. What an utterly horrible and insensitive and incorrect thing to say.

MoleyMick Sat 31-Aug-13 20:35:24

"I love my children too much to not put a roof over their heads."
"Stop being a sanctimonious, offensive cunt."

MsVestibule Sat 31-Aug-13 20:35:32

The only response to somebody as ignorant as that is "That's nice. I'm not that fussed about mine." Completely deadpan. And then break contact; this is no friend of yours.

BonaDrag Sat 31-Aug-13 20:35:42

Oh dear, this person isn't your friend. No point in saying anything IMO, just don't meet up with her so she can keep her barbs to herself.

I'm a WOHM and it's not possible for me to love my child anymore.

My cousin is a SAHM and I've met alley cats who are better parents.

Really, whether you work or you stay at home has NO bearing on how much you love your children. She's a twat.

TiredDog Sat 31-Aug-13 20:35:42

Did you mean to be so rude?
Or just stare in silence

Elsiequadrille Sat 31-Aug-13 20:35:46

What a silly thing to say.

fanjobiscuits Sat 31-Aug-13 20:35:46

Does her other half work full time? Does he not love their children?

paperclipsarebetterthanstaples Sat 31-Aug-13 20:36:02

Oh, I like it that DS sees me as fun Mummy who spends every spare minute we get together playing rather than just some woman who's always there'

To some woman who said similar... I'd never say it to a normal sahm but she was a cow.

LillyNotOfTheValley Sat 31-Aug-13 20:36:19

YANBU, I would be too! In fact I read your title and was about to jump at your throat grin

Each to his own, I work because I want to, that does not mean I love my children less.

NatashaBee Sat 31-Aug-13 20:37:04

YANBU. You can't pay a mortgage with love.

lecce Sat 31-Aug-13 20:38:07

YANBU.

The day I went back after being off for a year with ds2 a colleague, who had joined the school while I was off, gave me a whole lecture about a former friend of his who'd had to become a SAHM as she 'had such a strong bond with her baby'. He also went on and on about how said baby was a beautiful little girl - implying that if I'd had daughters and not smelly, grubby sons, I too would have given up on work as well as all those handy little things like having a house to live in and food to eat.

I'm afraid I have no clever replies as I just nodded and smiled weakly, while thinking what a massive arsehole he was being sad.

LostMarbles99 Sat 31-Aug-13 20:38:16

I went back 2 weeks ago when baby was just under 7 months, it was hard but I'm getting there. The evenings are tiring as I feel pulled in so many directions, trying to have quality time with my son and keep the house, food, washing etc going.

I need supportive people not wankers masquerading as friends.

foslady Sat 31-Aug-13 20:38:16

Wow - stupidity and insensitivity in one mouthful. Agree with those re roof over heads/food in stomachs, then avoid her

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