to wish this child would stop effing screaming?

(39 Posts)
NoisyBrain Thu 22-Aug-13 21:29:43

There is a child somewhere nearby, who is incapable of playing outside without screaming like a banshee. I'm talking blood-curdling, top-of-voice screaming and it's extremely irritating.

Of course I expect to hear kids' laughter and some shouting during the summer holidays (and I'm noticing it more because I'm on maternity leave I suppose), but is high-pitched screaming during play necessary under ANY circumstances? I don't know how old the child in question is, but definitely sounds older than a toddler who might not know better. It sounds like proper horror film screaming too. The only reason I know the child is playing is because I can hear other children's voices at the same time as the screams.

My mum was really strict with me about things like this. If she'd heard me screaming I'd have been made to come inside and told off for annoying the neighbours. Aside from the annoyance factor, her argument was that if I was ever in real trouble and screaming out of fear or pain no-one would realise - like the boy who 'cried wolf'. I think she had a point, but being pregnant with my pfb I'm aware I know very little about the realities of policing such behaviour. So, aibu to think it shouldn't be encouraged?

Mumsyblouse Thu 22-Aug-13 21:41:37

You are right and I don't let mine scream for the same reason, it's very alerting when a child really screams that horror film scream and hopefully people will react if there's a real emergency. But what can you do, unless you can see the child and peer over the fence saying 'sorry, I thought there was really something wrong' in earshot of the parents.

MrsLouisTheroux Thu 22-Aug-13 21:42:14

I really dislike screaming, screeching or whining children.
YANBU

LadyMaryQuiteContrary Thu 22-Aug-13 21:43:21

You must live near me as said child was yelling at her mother at 08:20am this morning.

spottygoat Thu 22-Aug-13 21:43:47

YANBU

Although I often join in with a good screaming competition with my girls and their friends!!!!

RandomMess Thu 22-Aug-13 21:44:18

YANBU however the child may have special needs and therefore the parent not able to implement a reaasonable stop the screaming rule sad

LadyMaryQuiteContrary Thu 22-Aug-13 21:45:11

Or maybe the child is a Diva who is incapable of being quiet, Random?

vintageclock Thu 22-Aug-13 21:46:38

YANBU. I live beside a green. The sound of children out there playing is lovely. But there's always a really annoying child who can't play without screeching their head off.

kiwidreamer Thu 22-Aug-13 21:47:34

I completely agree its annoying and disconcerting... DD is two and has started a god awful screaming habit, for attention or fun or when greatly aggrieved, it is mortifying but I would take her inside if she persisted.

littlemisswise Thu 22-Aug-13 21:49:24

YANBU. I bloody hate screaming and screeching.

PelvicFloorClenchReminder Thu 22-Aug-13 21:49:55

My son makes a dreadful noise out in the garden sometimes. He has various complex SEN and doesn't always understand that he might be upsetting other people. He finds life very stressful sometimes, and likes letting off steam in the garden.

Sorry, and all that.

Would you prefer it if I locked him inside?

lougle Thu 22-Aug-13 21:50:33

Oh dear, that could be my 4 year old. She's going through a very angry phase and when she's overwhelmed with injustice at my parenting she screams.

It's very high-pitched, very annoying.

Not much I can do - to stop the screeching I'd have to back down on enforcing whatever rule she disagrees with and there's no way I'm doing that.

urgh i HATE this!

i have a couple of friends who have little girls who always seem to have to scream whatever game they play. it drives me insane!
it's just so unnecessary

CrabbyBigBottom Thu 22-Aug-13 21:54:33

YANBU at all - high pitched sounds physically hurt me. Next door neighbour's child and friends were doing this this morning and I just wanted to shout out of the window
stop fucking screaming! you can enjoy yourself without screaming like hysterical banshees!
angry

justanuthermanicmumsday Thu 22-Aug-13 21:56:34

Children scream whine cry. Whining and kids go hand in hand. I've not met a kid who didn't whine at some point in their life.

I can understand your sentiments but my daughter is a banshee I don't live near you do I! Lol no amount of me talking to her helps. She apologies profusely promises she won't then as soon as her brother so much as touches her even by accident high pitched scream. It's like a Hitchcock movie moment lool. It's not funny it's annoying, angers me stresses me. To be fair her and my son are only a year apart and they've come to a phase where they seem to argue or fight every day, then five mins later they're best mates again. I have spoken to other mums and teachers they've told me its normal phase and will pass.

Some parents have told me to chill out.I can't reprimand them every five mins. so now I choose carefully when to reprimand and other times I leave them to resolve their disputes. If its gets too out of hand I get them indoors. I do try and respect the neighbours and in the summer if I know they are out for a barbecue which is really rare I get my kids indoors.If i can see theyre gardening and my boy is bothering them, hes so darn chatty and cross questions everything, that kid could give jeremy paxman a run for his money lol.Otherwise I'm afraid I will leave them out to enjoy the weather. They're kids I'm sure we shouted, screamed whined too.

If we go to a big park I let them talk loud shout kids need some outlet I don't like always hushing them up. I've yet to see a parent here bat an eyelid at their behaviour. Or maybe I'm just a bad parent with evil kids .

If you have solutions for the screaming or whining please do tell.

WorraLiberty Thu 22-Aug-13 21:57:12

I hate it too although I've never complained

I've just thanked fuck that they're not my kids grin

But it physically hurts my brain

lougle Thu 22-Aug-13 22:01:37

Hurts mine too.

I was actually in a queue in a supermarket a couple of months ago and the chap serving us has ASD. DD3 normally saves her unreasonable behaviour for home, but on this occasion let rip in the store.

I was doing quite well until the chap serving us said 'That girl is really annoying me...' I looked at him and said 'She's annoying me too, but if you serve me I can get her out of your way...' and thought 'at least you don't have to take her home

It's horrible.

DD screams when angry and not getting what she wants and I hate it sad it's an ongoing problem along with everything else she is going through.

The neighbours judge me because of her ways, I know this because they mainly ignore me throw dirty looks, slag me off these days.

I spend my days being a referee to DD and her siblings, we stay in a lot because of everything which in some ways makes it worse.

Famzilla Thu 22-Aug-13 22:25:04

Ugh I hate hate hate the Screechy screaming noise!

NDN's kid screams every day about everything from 8-6 without fail. We live in terraced houses with French doors going out to our gardens and I actually have to shut all windows & doors when it's DD's nap time as there is no way anyone could sleep through it.

No SN's, just an annoying kid with a stoner mum.

NoisyBrain Thu 22-Aug-13 22:26:20

My unborn ds is going to be a screamer just to pay me back for starting this thread isn't he? blush

emmelinelucas Thu 22-Aug-13 22:35:35

The local primary school is very near our house. It is bliss in the holidays. Every year there is just ONE screamer, that can be heard above all the others.
I really do dread them going back every year.
Having said that, the neighbours at the back have something knocked down and built up every summer (when they - both teachers bugger off for 4 weeks)
So-there is always something to get on the nerves.
And I feel sorry for mothers of screamers.

carabos Thu 22-Aug-13 22:42:32

We live in a terrace house with a lane behind wide enough for two cars. Some neighbours park there, but essentially it's a safe traffic-free zone. As a result, all the kids in the street play there. They congregate round our back yard because NDN's DS1 is the ringleader popular.

The noise is horrific. I work from home and my office is on the first floor at the back. During the school hols, I can't take a phone call in there because of the screeching. I can't work with the windows open, and I find myself migrating around the house throughout the day in search of quiet.

I have never complained or asked them to keep the noise down - they're just kids, and they're off school. The thing that majorly pisses me off though is there is a huge school playing field at the end of our road and none of them ever plays there - even the ones whose homes are adjacent to it. No, they must come round to ours. hmm

MrsLouisTheroux Fri 23-Aug-13 19:14:25

justanuther :Children scream whine cry. Whining and kids go hand in hand. I've not met a kid who didn't whine at some point in their life.
Not all children scream/ whine/ cry on a daily basis.
I've met plenty who don't make a habit of it.

EndoplasmicReticulum Fri 23-Aug-13 19:18:28

I hate screaming. If mine scream they only do it once and then they have to come in. I have told them they have to save it for emergencies.

I blame school, they seem to have screaming competitions in the playground, they didn't do it before they started.

I think some of you are my neighbours.

I live on a green and my DS and his friends are so bloody loud when they play outside. blush

MummyPig24 Fri 23-Aug-13 19:26:44

Yanbu. I hate screeching. Unfortunately dd is a screecher and ds is a shouter. I have to remind them frequently that no one wants to hear them shouting and screaming and if they continue they will come in. Our ndns have 3yr old twins who shout over the fence to my 2 and its annoying as it encourages ds shouting. They are great kids and we get on well but stop bloody shouting, all of you!!

trinity0097 Fri 23-Aug-13 19:27:40

I can live with normal kids playing sounds, but I agree that screaming for no good reason, e,g I just screamed earlier this evening as my cat jumped up and dug claws and jaws into my leg, is unwarranted and parents should be disciplining their children to ensure that they are not playing out in an antisocial manner.

ILetHimKeep20Quid Fri 23-Aug-13 19:33:52

Kids playing isn't the problem, can be quite nice.

It's the pointless fucking screaming I can't abide.

MrsYamada Fri 23-Aug-13 19:38:38

Buy some ear-plugs.

Nagoo Fri 23-Aug-13 19:51:24

In my extended family screeching DC get sent upstairs as soon as it starts. You scream you don't get to play.

Play shrieking is different to a temper tantrum screaming session. The children screaming in a supermarket are screaming because they are objecting to a parent. I don't judge that, it's a temper tantrum, they all do it, and the parent is dealing with it.

Shrieking and screaming while playing that is allowed to go on and on gets on my tits because it happens due to the parent not bothering to tell them to STFU stop, in many circumstances I have heard.

Mumsyblouse Fri 23-Aug-13 20:01:37

I had one screamer who had the worst scream I've ever heard on a toddler it terrified us all, the childminder, anyone in a 10 mile radius and so on. But she screamed for anger/frustration one large scream and would then get removed/put in her cot if it carried on. I didn't just let her scream for hours at people, it was truly awful for us and we love her! Play screaming isn't permitted in my house, shrieking/fun shouting/laughing all ok, but not proper screaming, it's worrying for others if they hear a child scream properly.

cansu Fri 23-Aug-13 20:04:44

Child could have sn. My ds has ASD and is non verbal. He screeches and screams a lot. There isn't much that can be done about it. We do everything we can to keep him calm but sometimes he shouts or screams for no apparent reason.

My children scream. If I try and stop them then the neighbours just hear my screaming on too.

Just thank your lucky stars that you don't live as close to them as I do!!!

ketchupontoast Fri 23-Aug-13 20:14:54

Screaming doesn't bother me, its hearing - 'sticks and stones can break my bones but you mum will never fuck me' coming over my back wall from some 7 year olds, that disgusted me. When I went out to ask them to not be so disgusting but they had gone by the time I got out and I found my coping stones off the top of my wall broken (it was built 18 months ago) so when I see them there will be some very strong words said, pity the rain is being the police today!

comingalongnicely Fri 23-Aug-13 20:15:01

The brat next door screeches when he wakes up, when he goes to school , when he goes to bed, when his parents dare to say no....

It's never bloody ending.

I tolerate it, I've had kids, I know what they're like. Sometimes though, I think - "it's 07:00 on a Sunday morning, for christ's sake tell your fucking child to be quiet".

I did it to mine, you did it to yours - they're still healthy happy kids!!

I make allowances & would never say anything as that's life unfortunately. The fact that the mother seems unable to communicate with him by any other means than bellowing pisses me off mightily though....

I'll either win the lottery & move or go postal - time will tell....

ouryve Fri 23-Aug-13 20:15:30

DS2, with ASD and non verbal, is one heck of a screamer, sometimes, and it drives me to distraction. I reach a point where I end up numb to it. DS1, also with ASD, really struggles with it.

I still found it hard to tolerate a girl (NT) who used to live in our street who could not play out without being just plain shrill. Catch a ball shrieeeeek walk down the street with her friends shrieeek and, as soon as there was a big enough audience, she'd conduct every single conversation at the top of her effing shrill effing voice. She'd even talk to her mother, who was in the house, from the other side of the street, in the same way. Mother didn't pull her up on it any more than she'd pull her brother up for running in front of cars or hurling things at them, or taking the piss out of my kids.

twistyfeet Fri 23-Aug-13 20:19:25

dd is non verbal and screams a lot. I keep the windows shut and apologise to the neighbours constantly but there's nothing I can do. She is brain damaged. Drives me nuts too and I'm trapped in with her.

StillSlightlyCrumpled Fri 23-Aug-13 20:23:53

DS2 has hearing & speech impairment & he has a high pitched voice at the best of times, but when he is upset/ angry I'm quite sure the noise can be heard in space. Fortunately, as soon as I say 'shush!' he will try but by then the toddler has joined in, I have to be loud to be heard.....

I am strict about what time etc they are allowed outside though, & my lovely neighbours know about his difficulties.

StillSlightlyCrumpled Fri 23-Aug-13 20:24:28

Oh, YANBU at all to wish the child would be quiet.

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