To think that a newborn is a walk in the park compared to a 5mo?

(71 Posts)
Bluemonkeyspots Mon 19-Aug-13 14:47:38

Or am I looking back a few months through rosé tinted specs?

Bring back the days where the only problem was worrying about collapsing through sheer exhaustion.

Now it's all sore gums, hair pulling, screaming because she can't roll over, screaming because she has now rolled over and is stuck, crying as she wants more than milk, crying if i try her with solids as she can't hold onto or swallow them, fighting sleep but being too heavy to rock to sleep, being too nosey to sleep when out in the pram, constantly pulling her blankets over her head then crying when she can't get them off again......... Aarrrgghhh!

It's a good thing she is so cute and has the best smile ever!

chocoluvva Mon 19-Aug-13 14:53:22

Not too much longer before she can sit up by herself - I think that's a particularly nice stage.

Bluemonkeyspots Mon 19-Aug-13 14:55:47

Hopefully that will keep the little demon darling amused a bit longer.

After fighting sleep for a hour she has just fallen asleep right as I need to go on the school run

LoopyLoopyLoopy Mon 19-Aug-13 14:57:40

hahaha just you wait...

jacks365 Mon 19-Aug-13 14:57:59

Aah but not long after they start sitting themselves they start crawling and walking and then life gets really tough. Newborn was a hard stage for me because of problems with bf but conversely weaning was easy.

cory Mon 19-Aug-13 14:58:59

vodka parties just round the corner, my dear..

<joins Loopy in evil cackle>

NachoAddict Mon 19-Aug-13 15:01:47

I love the newborn stage and think its easy peasy. Everyone usually thinks I am mad but to me it gets so much harder when they need entertaining.

I'm with you op.

SaggyOldClothCatPuss Mon 19-Aug-13 15:02:35

MWAHAHAHA <<hollow laugh>>
Ill swap you 5 months for 17 years! Teenagers are not a blast!

Ha, I was thinking the same. Gone are the days when I could sit back with a cuppa and watch a bit of TV while DS was asleep in his Moses basket. He is now 19 weeks and constantly needs entertaining and will not sleep through the day.

He will however, still sit in his bouncer while I have a shower. We visited SIL over the weekend and her 11mo DS and he was like whirlwind - how on earth she manages to perform basic daily tasks with him continually running round pulling stuff apart!!

Yes the best is yet to come, hahahaha! wink

Drinking alcohol -check
Coming in at 4 in the morning -check
Exam stress - check
Opening the fridge , inhaling the contents and still being hungry -check

jacks365 Mon 19-Aug-13 15:10:52

I have teens and a toddler and today the eyes are propped open with matchsticks but that is due to a teen sleepover ( wish they'd been at the vodka it might have knocked them out)

theoriginalandbestrookie Mon 19-Aug-13 15:15:31

I found 5mths way easier than newborn - main reason I was getting some sleep.

FirstStopCafe Mon 19-Aug-13 15:16:23

My son is 5 months and I find the opposite, but as a newborn I found bf hard, he hated going in his pram and would only nap on me. Now he is happy sitting in his chair and playing so I get some time to cook, clean, have a cup of tea etc

KellyElly Mon 19-Aug-13 15:17:22

Newborn was the hardest stage for me so far.

AnnoyedByAlfieBear Mon 19-Aug-13 15:17:46

Just wait til she crawls.


OddBoots Mon 19-Aug-13 15:22:38

It's like a game of top trumps with attributes like 'sleeplessness' 'tantrums' 'hunger' 'messiness' - if you add all the numbers together each age is about the same just in different ways.

wishingchair Mon 19-Aug-13 15:27:30

oddboots I love it!! That is so true!

cupcake78 Mon 19-Aug-13 15:28:51

My newborn is a hundred times easier than my bored, grumpy, disgustingly cheeky 5 year old hmm. Enjoy your baby while they are innocent!

Bluemonkeyspots Mon 19-Aug-13 15:28:57

I have got three older dc as well so have some idea of what's yet to come wink

I'm sure this stage hit me hard with all of them.

I should not mention this as I will lose all sympathy but she does go 12 hours during the night (lucky i know) but boy does she make up for it during the day. It's like juggling plates at the moment trying to keep her amused. My living room resembles some sort of baby Disneyland at the moment but the only thing that keeps her amused for more than 2 mins is giving her a baby spoon to wave about but she's now starred poking herself in the face with it Aarrrgghh!

nothingtoseeheremoveon Mon 19-Aug-13 15:29:27

I have two, aged 12 weeks. Reading the above with trepidation sad

Bloodsocks Mon 19-Aug-13 15:31:18


My 5 month old has decided sleep is for wusses this week. She's slept through since about 3 weeks so the earlier months were easier for me!

Now I think this week she's teething and has got a sudden bout of reflux that she hasn't had since she was tiny. So there's a lot of screaming and crying in my house atm!

jacks365 Mon 19-Aug-13 15:33:09

You have my sympathy there dd1 slept through the night quite early but wouldn't nap during the day and wouldn't let me put her down, best thing I ever got was a carrier and dd4 who is the toddler lived in her sling at 5 months.

Pascha Mon 19-Aug-13 15:33:43

I hated newborn both times. Much better when they aren't screaming at the slightest thing anymore, actually sleep for longer than 10 minutes and can be put down. Thank fuck we never have to do that again!

maja00 Mon 19-Aug-13 15:38:14

Newborn was the easiest bit for me! Fairly easy up til 18 months and then gets harder.

MisselthwaiteManor Mon 19-Aug-13 15:38:44

I'll swap you her for my newborn (well not so new anymore, 9 weeks) who spends all night screaming unless I walk her outside in the sling. All night. And all day trying to cover everything in sight in vomit and poo. I'm starting to think sleep isn't even a real thing, is it? did I imagine it?

<chucks baby into the thread and runs away>

MrsGarlic Mon 19-Aug-13 15:53:19

YANBU. I have a 7 month old. Newborn was super easy, months 2 - 5 were hell.

When he was a newborn he slept all. the. time. He had jaundice bless him so I had to wake him for feeds, but this meant I set an alarm for myself then woke myself up, sorted myself out before waking him and feeding him. During the day I'd feed him, then pop him in his Moses basket and get on with things. Occasionally my husband would take care of him overnight and feed him my expressed milk in a bottle.

After a couple of months, he stopped being jaundiced so would wake me, he refused to sleep anywhere but in my arms, my husband had gone back to work and my mum had stopped coming round to help me out. I couldn't put him down for a second without him SCREAMING. I couldn't even tie my sling because he'd start screaming hysterically and I'd get flustered. So nothing got done as I spent all day walking the baby round. He refused to take bottles so I couldn't even leave him with anyone, and started being really noisy in his sleep which he hadn't previously.

By month 5 he got a bit less needy and slept more at night, and now he's much easier again... although has just learned to crawl so watch this space! (Already this week I've caught him trying to eat a bin liner, tissues, and some washing powder he poured out of the box.)

Everyone's got a different experience but for me the newborn days were pretty easy, I didn't even feel that tired.

FixItUpChappie Mon 19-Aug-13 16:03:36

I found the newborn stage hard with my first because I was clueless. DS2 that stage was a treat - newborns do sleep a lot after all...during the day mind, but still.

I found 1.5yrs-2.5yrs the hardest bit to date. Into everything, not sleeping, not playing on their own at all - cute but exhausting.

peachactiviaminge Mon 19-Aug-13 16:30:13

YANBU I have a very grumpy 16 week old who is just getting over a cold and finishing cutting his bottom two teeth. He apparently feels the need for lots of nice naps but is a grumpy squirmy bitey monster between said 30 minute naps. I miss the newborn sleep snuggles.

chattychattyboomba Mon 19-Aug-13 16:32:11

Yanbo....3-12 month= hell, 12-24 months worse hell (the whinging never stops!!) 24+...heaven in comparison! I hear 3 years is worse than so called terrible twos.

YoniBottsBumgina Mon 19-Aug-13 16:37:02

YANBU. I loved the newborn bit. Struggle with babies (aside from newborns) - they don't do anything blush Love toddlers, preschool is hard.

I also find the INTENSE CONSTANT NEEEEED for entertaining difficult. DS didn't even sit up until he was 9 months old hmm so he was constantly irritated that he couldn't sit and play with things. Thankfully he could cruise from 8 months so it wasn't too bad if I let him bang things on the coffee table constantly.

YoniBottsBumgina Mon 19-Aug-13 16:38:08

Yeah, 2 is easy. 3? Well, there's a reason most people get pregnant again before their first turns 3 wink

binhome Mon 19-Aug-13 17:56:44

I will swap you for a 10 month old.
I do think newborn stage was lovely. Yes I got very little sleep at night but I had the sense and option to sleep when baby slept.

itsaruddygame Mon 19-Aug-13 18:05:00

My DS is 5 months and it is a peice of cake compared to the newborn phase. Having said that I didn't get more than 1 and a half hours sleep in one go for weeks which was the main reason! Also he fed for quite literally hours and hours each day.

To me this phase is pretty easy although I am still dreaming of a full nights sleep ....

Monkeyandanimal Mon 19-Aug-13 18:07:02

2 year old and 3 year old way harder than baby imo, newborn or otherwise! tantrums, refusal to do anything your way, faddy eating, potty training, running away in the park/street!

MsJupiterJones Mon 19-Aug-13 18:45:58

Obviously it depends on the baby but I remember a particularly tough bit just before he learned to sit up - then came the most joyous few months of my life. Then the learning to crawl started with lots of head bumps - now at 10mo he is mobile and happy again, although it's harder work than the sitting stage which was a real sweet spot. It's probably just round the corner for you OP. smile

soverylucky Mon 19-Aug-13 18:48:28

Ah I loved, loved, loved the five month stage. I wasn't as nervous any more - we seemed to know a bit about what we were supposed to do, they still slept for a massive amount of time, weren't crawling around and getting into trouble, not weaning yet so no worries on that score. Honestly - I always say I found five months the hardest. (still have the teen years to come mind)

soapysam Mon 19-Aug-13 19:06:09

snortwait until they learn to walk and talk... oh, and weaning, thats a wonderful bit. Potty training... snorts some more

CoffeeandScones Mon 19-Aug-13 19:07:03

Basically they get harder and harder work until they're 21... If you're lucky.

Fakebook Mon 19-Aug-13 19:08:26

Yes you're right, but 5 month stage is a million times better than the toddler tantrums stage. It gets better when they start talking properly and can tell you exactly what is wrong!

soapysam Mon 19-Aug-13 19:09:39

If you have more than 1, once they master the art of speaking they upgrade to bickering. That stage is dreamy :D

marriedinwhiteisback Mon 19-Aug-13 19:20:06

My DS keeps me awake all night. Because he's not home - he's nearly 19. Was better when he was in the cot and I knew where he was.

Depends on the baby and the soreness of the boobs, the ease of feeding and growing and how many stitches were incurrred.

If you have older ones you should know better than to generalise.

FunInTheSunD Mon 19-Aug-13 19:24:16

Wait another 10 years and you'll be saying baby years were a breeze after teenage years grin

soverylucky Mon 19-Aug-13 19:27:19

I clearly meant that I found the five months stage the easiest in my last post - not the hardest!

Maggietess Mon 19-Aug-13 19:33:14

Spent the day screeching blue murder like a fishwife calmly explaining to Dds (5 & 2) why they shouldn't fight and climb/take each others toys/leave carnage in their wake for their brother to swallow/watch any more tv/trail moon dough from one side of the house to the other/play Narnia in their wardrobes .

My 11mo seems an absolute breeze in comparison... Despite having one leg in plaster cast and trying to cruise and tackle the stairs with it. He's seemed a joy since he was born and I swear I think I used to find the baby years the hardest!!

Wine anyone?! wink grin

MiaowTheCat Mon 19-Aug-13 19:46:15

I dislike the 5 month stage immensely. All of what the OP listed with the frustration at not being able to roll or sit up and not knowing what she wants to do with herself, but with an added bulk to bodily fluids compared to teeny little newborn poos, and still pre-weaning so the poos are runny enough to do the nice poonami up the back of the nappy routine as well.

I'd rather deal with endless tantrums from my 16 month old than the permanent disgruntlement of my 5 month old at the moment - apart from the gummy smiles - I DO like the gummy smile thing.

Bogeyface Mon 19-Aug-13 19:47:08


I have 6 children so you would think that the newborn stage would be a stroll for me, but with each one it was the hardest stage as they are so dependent and the exhaustion is something else. I adore newborns, dont get me wrong, but in terms of "easiness", give me a 6 month old every time!

Xmasbaby11 Mon 19-Aug-13 20:10:39

My DD was the same at 5mo, slept 12 hours at night but super lively during the day and wanted stimulation. I enjoyed it but had to plan lots of 'activties'. Unfortunately I have to say it got much harder a few months later when she was on the move - even more lively, never stayed still.

VulvaVoom Mon 19-Aug-13 20:11:23

I could have started this thread about my 10 month old. She's just started crawling and unless you watch her literally every second, she's either
a) eating dead bugs and crap off the floor blush
b) getting annoyed and crying if she can't have the remote controls, my phone, car keys, necklace etc even though she has tonnes of toys to play with!
c) following me to the toilet and sitting outside the door, so I can't get out
d) smiling at my constant barrage of 'No, don't touch that' and shaking her head in a no motion - but then grabbing said ornament/photo and lobbing it anyway.
BUT - and it's a big one, her beautiful cherubic face, wide toothy smile and lovely singsong chuckle make it all so worth while and fun when I'm not totally knackered

marriedinwhiteisback Mon 19-Aug-13 20:12:13

Mine are 18 and 15. Pours more wine. Hoping it will get easier in september when DS goes to uni. Hmmm!

Thesimplethings Mon 19-Aug-13 20:14:02

Yanbu newborns are easier than every other age group. Mine are 3 and 2, I miss the fact that newborns don't talk or move grin

According to many, it only gets harder!

CuriosityCola Mon 19-Aug-13 20:15:50

I have a newborn and a toddler. I wish I could go back and have a word with my pfb self. He was actually really easy and extremely portable. My newborn is a terrible feeder, but still pretty easy considering. It's the constant entertaining that becomes exhausting.

I miss naps snuggled with my pfb.

Doinmummy Mon 19-Aug-13 20:21:24

I'd swap my 15 year old for a whole room full of newborns.

PastaBeeandCheese Mon 19-Aug-13 20:34:57

Ha ha. My friends and I are always shaking our heads at out 21 month olds and asking 'what was hard about a newborn again'?

Bluemonkeyspots Mon 19-Aug-13 20:39:14

Well she is in bed now recharging the demon batteries for tomorrow wink

Funny how no matter how much you think you love them during the day you always love them that tiny bit more when their sound asleep with their chubby wee fists clinging onto their blankets.

Now I just need to get the older three to settle and I can collapse with a glass of wine.

arethereanyleftatall Mon 19-Aug-13 21:42:19

Newborn, 1, 2 and 3 all easy peasy. 4.5 yr old? Ahhhh, leave me alone for one arsing second please. Please.

arethereanyleftatall Mon 19-Aug-13 21:45:25

Oh, can I retract that? Feel bad now but pissed.. Love you darling girl.

PastaBeeandCheese Mon 19-Aug-13 22:03:14

No you may not arethereanyleft I thought exactly the same thing as I had to walk across the kitchen with DD clutching my leg. I used to think that only happened on tv.

arethereanyleftatall Mon 19-Aug-13 22:08:29


AmandaCooper Mon 19-Aug-13 22:11:57

Omg looking after my 5 month old is an absolute piece of piss compared to when he was a newborn.

thebody Mon 19-Aug-13 22:13:43

ClassieSandiago!! please give me my teen girls back!!! not!!!

oh to share am NOT watching cd with dh and dss. ( old enough) The expendables.. what the fuck happened to Winnie The Poo??

FreeWee Mon 19-Aug-13 22:17:10

Oooh YABU! My newborn was a nightmare! Wouldn't sleep till 6/7/8am (been awake since 6pm), wouldn't nap during the day except on me, screamed if I put her down, would only settle when bounced, nibbled my nipples for weeks in the early days. My 6 month old is a joy! She's easy going, can be left long enough for me to make lunch (didn't have lunch at lunchtime till about 7 weeks) and interacts with smiles and chuckles. Yet my house is a tip with toys but now she entertains herself rather than me having to do everything. Yes she has clingy days weeks but then she chills out and gets on with it. She's such good fun now!

bigbuttons Mon 19-Aug-13 22:21:35

Young kids and babies are very easy compared to teens, honestly.

YoniBottsBumgina Mon 19-Aug-13 22:23:04

grin arethey.

My almost 5 year old is in a state of near-constant giddy excitement currently, which gives way about once every two hours to whining, petty sniping, over-emotionalness and RAGE. We are moving house (actually, country) in ten days. I get that he's struggling to process this. But by god, I wish DP was coming over earlier than 3 days before to help me deal with him!

Monty27 Mon 19-Aug-13 22:37:25

Parenting is hard work, different levels :D Try and enjoy the good bits.

When I look back with rose tinted glasses, the most enjoyable bits were when they starting to talk and starting school. So funny and enjoyable. smile

skint dm of young adults

Bogeyface Tue 20-Aug-13 00:25:18

YY to the teens! I would swap one teenager for sextuplet newborns on my own whilst running my own alligator dentistry business.

bigbuttons Tue 20-Aug-13 14:15:57

bogeyface I'll raise you to octuplets whilst having both arms tied behind my backwink

Hahar wait till they are toddlers

SaggyOldClothCatPuss Tue 20-Aug-13 14:45:43

Toddlers Shmoddlers! grin
Teenagers. There is nothing to compare!

Bogeyface Tue 20-Aug-13 15:10:54

A sneeze is to Mt Vesuvius as a toddler is to a teenager grin

jeanmiguelfangio Tue 20-Aug-13 15:28:55

I prefer my 5 month old to my newborn!! I actually get sleep which is a bonus, makes it so much easier to deal with!! She has always wanted attention constantly, but now she can entertain herself for a bit with toys, and she can sit on her own and look at me with gummy smiles.
But when she is asleep, my lord that baby is beautiful. Cute little hands and little face. Can't beat it!

LimitedEditionLady Tue 20-Aug-13 17:16:27

New born was only hard for the lack of sleep,was still getting up every few hours at five months though.I loved looking after baby all the way tjrough,loved the new stages as i found it amazing how one day they wake up and do something new.i do find argumentative toddler a bit testing however....breathe.

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