To refuse to accept a parcel for next door

(92 Posts)
StepAwayFromTheEcclesCakes Mon 19-Aug-13 11:12:11

so man with HUGE box came to the door with a parcel for next door, was I unreasonable to say 'no I'd rather not, its very large and I actually don't get on with them' he huffed at me and stormed away shock and I felt bad for approx a minute. saw him leave without it so nicer neighbour on other side must have accepted it. I am horrible aren't I smile

LadyBryan Mon 19-Aug-13 11:14:13

No I think you're being honest. I hate it when delivery people leave parcels with random people.

Next door either way would be fine, but there used to be an extremely elderly old lady opposite who basically got bullied into taking something in for us. She was really upset and we felt absolutely awful

HatieKokpins Mon 19-Aug-13 11:16:25


usualsuspect Mon 19-Aug-13 11:16:54

I think you were a bit miserable.

How hard is it to do your neighbours a favour?

LRDPomogiMnyeSRabotoi Mon 19-Aug-13 11:17:28


Of course you're not unreasonable. I take quite a lot for my neighbours because I'm usually in and they're usually out, but I wouldn't take something if there was a good reason not to, why should you?

I think there's meant to be some way of getting it marked down that you don't take parcels, but I'm hazy on the details.

LittleBearPad Mon 19-Aug-13 11:17:31

That seems a bit crap, sorry. Would it really have negatively impacted you that much or for that long to be helpful and take it?

Elsiequadrille Mon 19-Aug-13 11:17:56

They really shouldn't do that. I've seen them slamming gates closed and stomping off when neighbours have refused to take parcels in.

I once refused to take in two adult bicycles for a near neighbour as they'd have blocked my hallway, which I pointed out (too narrow with hall benches there also), andI had similar tantrum from delivery person.

StepAwayFromTheEcclesCakes Mon 19-Aug-13 11:17:58

aw lady that's wrong isn't it. Normally I am ok about it and for anyone else but the horrible folk next door It would not be an issue. I just would hate them coming round to collect it as we don't speak.

andadietcoke Mon 19-Aug-13 11:18:00

Nope. We went away for a few days and on our return found that the courier company had delivered an 8ft blind to our very elderly neighbour's, and it had been propped up in her hall for three days. I felt absolutely awful and really wished she'd refused it.

Elsiequadrille Mon 19-Aug-13 11:18:30

No, you're not horrible.

cheeseandpineapple Mon 19-Aug-13 11:20:34

Yes! Might have helped improve things with your neighbour if you'd taken the parcel in. Glad you're not my neighbour!

CrispyFB Mon 19-Aug-13 11:21:09

I nearly always take stuff for neighbours, but in the past I've refused to take stuff when it's for neighbours I hate. Petty, but if they play loud crap music into the small hours and refuse to turn it down when DH knocked and asked really nicely, then show up the next day on our doorstep having a go at us, why should I do them a favour.. plus I don't want further contact with them.

I'd also refuse a huge huge box where we currently live as I wouldn't be able to get the pushchair past.

Couriers shouldn't assume everyone can take every parcel ever, he was very rude to huff at you. The couriers have always been polite to me on the rare occasions I've had to decline.

StepAwayFromTheEcclesCakes Mon 19-Aug-13 11:21:13

Elsie glad its not just me, apart form not being on friendly terms with said neighbours the parcel was huge and I don't really have a hall, just a small space so it would have blocked the place or had to go in my living room. as I said usual I am ok for anyone else, just not these folk.

Our neighbours take for us and we take for them, which works out nicely. I was a bit shock when one parcel turned out to be vintage bayonets though...

Large deliveries, or having to hold on to things for ages, are a bit different.

plummyjam Mon 19-Aug-13 11:23:39

I would have accepted it. I took a small parcel for a random neighbour in our flats because otherwise they go back to the post office 2 miles away. The neighbour who collected it was a mum with 6 month old twins in a double buggy. It would have been a monumental PITA for her to collect it from the post office. Similar pain for collecting a large box I would have thought.

MadBusLady Mon 19-Aug-13 11:23:57

I took in a big posh deli gift parcel for a neighbour once. NEVER again. 18 hours and numerous knocks on their door later (I'm certain they were in for at least part of that time) it became obvious that the parcel contained fish...

I wish I'd been on MN then. "AIBU to think that it's a fucking stupid idea to post fish to people?"

StepAwayFromTheEcclesCakes Mon 19-Aug-13 11:24:16

Might have helped improve things with your neighbour if you'd taken the parcel in. Glad you're not my neighbour! actually they have been so horrible to me in the past that I would no longer make an effort to improve things with them, I am happy to be ignored and ignore them too now, so cheese if you were at all like they are then I am glad you are not my neighbour too! sure you are not smile

StepAwayFromTheEcclesCakes Mon 19-Aug-13 11:25:10

"AIBU to think that it's a fucking stupid idea to post fish to people?" grin

plummyjam Mon 19-Aug-13 11:25:23

Although I see you don't want any contact with them at all so I suppose YANBU.

DaddyPigsMistress Mon 19-Aug-13 11:27:55

I wont take in for one of my neighbours. Hes a bastard and refusing to take the odd amazon delivery makes me feel better


StepAwayFromTheEcclesCakes Mon 19-Aug-13 11:27:58

plummyjam think it was a courier so they leave a card and redeliver when the person is going to be in. In your circumstance I would have accepted too. just not for the people next door

StepAwayFromTheEcclesCakes Mon 19-Aug-13 11:29:59

Daddypig maybe this is me too <sits on childish bench and swings legs> although if it had been a small box I may have just done it and let DH answer the door when they came to collect it.

ilovesooty Mon 19-Aug-13 11:30:19

If the size of the parcel would have caused difficulties for you I think that was all you needed to tell the courier.

plummyjam Mon 19-Aug-13 11:30:26

Ah well in that case sod 'em YADNBU grin !

DiaryOfAWimpyMum Mon 19-Aug-13 11:30:34

I guess if you don't get on with them it would make it awkward when they collected it from you? I would prob have still taken it in, niceness confuses my unfriendly neighbour.

StepAwayFromTheEcclesCakes Mon 19-Aug-13 11:31:19

Thanks plummy smile

mrsjay Mon 19-Aug-13 11:34:04

yanbu I have stopped taking in parcels for a neighbour who is never in and always huffs when i knock on the door to give him his parcel so now I saw no I dont know when i will see him, I have always taken in parcels but this neighbour seems to have an obsession was 2 last week I had to stop YANBU,

cheeseandpineapple Mon 19-Aug-13 11:34:49

I live overseas so I'm pretty sure we're not neighbours but I would be very nice to you if you were my neighbour and if I thought you'd share your Eccles Cakes with me if I took in your parcels!

No Eccles Cakes where I live!

GhostsInSnow Mon 19-Aug-13 11:34:59


I took a box in once for the people across the road, some type of Parrot food. This was early morning. I then had to go out and was out for the day.
When I took the parcel to them around 6pm they had the audacity to complain that it had taken me so long to bring it over as the parrot was hungry! I apologised, and told them it wouldn't happen again because it would be a cold day in hell before I took anything in for them.

That was about ten years ago and I've told several couriers 'no chance' since.

If I didn't get on with my neighbour for whatever reason, I wouldn't take the parcel in.

Why would I?

ilovesooty Mon 19-Aug-13 11:36:03

I take it that if your husband would have been prepared to answer the door to hand over a parcel they aren't actually abusive /threatening?

Without knowing the circumstances it's difficult to know whether YABU but if you make reference to being childish it's possible you are.

mrsjay Mon 19-Aug-13 11:37:00

I remember the thread about the mealworm or was it maggots a poster had taken in for a neighbour and the box burst every where <shudder>

MadBusLady Mon 19-Aug-13 11:38:28

Oooh it was maggots! That was horrible. The delivery person assured them the maggots couldn't get out and was lying! I can't remember what happened in the end.

valiumredhead Mon 19-Aug-13 11:39:33

I don't understand anyone who wouldn't take a parcel in for a neighbour, it's such a basic thing.

mrsjay Mon 19-Aug-13 11:39:59

neither can i we were telling her to sweep them up and dump them on the neighbours door step <shudder> i

MadBusLady Mon 19-Aug-13 11:41:34

So there you go, OP. Maggot Bullet dodged.

FrigginRexManningDay Mon 19-Aug-13 11:41:58

I got stuck with next doors massive heavy TV blocking my hall for a week when she went away. The second I saw her pull in I went out and told her to come and get it. She sighed and told me she would collect it tomorrow. I was seven months pregnant with a toddler so getting out of my house was such a hassle with my hall being blocked and I fear my hormones tipped me over the edge but I dragged and pushed her telly out my front door and closed it. She wasn't long about collecting it.

mrsjay Mon 19-Aug-13 11:42:02

I don't understand anyone who wouldn't take a parcel in for a neighbour, it's such a basic thing

cos when you get huge boxes or a guitar like i had one day and the neighbour doesn't even make the effort to come and get it or look annoyed when you knock on the door then it becomes irritating after a while and if they can't be in for numerous deliveries then they really need to make other arrangements, and the op and the neighbours have problems I wouldnt take their parcels in

HeffalumpTheFlump Mon 19-Aug-13 11:43:45

Yanbu. I did exactly the same the other day. The neighbour the parcel belonged to is a really nasty piece of work who has threatened myself and my partner in the past. I wouldn't put it past him to say we damaged the parcel in some way, and I wouldn't want him knocking on our door to come get it anyway.

Getting the delivery man to understand this when he didnt speak a word of English was a whole other story. He just kept showing us the notes they leave and saying door. Very frustrating.

He then knocked on all the other doors and unsurprisingly none of the other neighbours took it either. If you are a nasty neighbour, you shouldn't expect people to do you favours!


Our NDN has loads of parcel deliveries and we used to take some for him. We fell out over car parking one day and his astonishingly aggressive nature and threats to damage our property and hurt our cats meant we never did him the favour again.

One courier who asked us to take a parcel was really understanding about it and said it happens all the time and it was best for us to have said no.

So no OP, you are not being horrible at all.

EffyS Mon 19-Aug-13 11:52:36

If you don't get on with your neighbors, it would make sense not to take it in IMO.

JohFlow Mon 19-Aug-13 11:55:26

If you don't really get on with them and they don't really help you out. No probs with that.

shoofly Mon 19-Aug-13 11:56:01

I once took in 2 huge platters of sandwiches for a neighbour 2 houses down from us. The delivery man was very pleasant and explained they were for after a funeral and that he was supposed to deliver them at a specific time. He'd hung about for half an hour after the time but needed to get back to the shop. He put a note through their door and I said I'd drop them over as soon as I saw anyone. Noone appeared back all day! I put a note through the door, saying sorry for your loss, I have your sarnies. Come get them or ring me and I'll drop them round. Never heard from them. Binned the sandwiches the next morning, and never saw anyone again! Estate agent board up 3 days later and house sold within fortnight! Always thought it was odd!

But no YANBU if you really don't get on with them and the delivery person was an ass.

valiumredhead Mon 19-Aug-13 11:56:37

I suppose so Mrs jay, I'm lucky,I have fab neighbours, thank goodnessgrin

mrsjay Mon 19-Aug-13 11:57:56

Shoofly that is welrd i wonder where they went shock

lottieandmia Mon 19-Aug-13 11:58:41

I would have taken it in - I think you were a bit mean. I often take parcels for next door but then they get lumbered with mine often too

The way I see it, if I have the parcel it is far less likely to go missing. I would hope someone else would do the same for me.

Mimishimi Mon 19-Aug-13 11:59:32

YANBU, I find the whole idea of leaving parcels with random neighbours, whether you get on or not, quite bizarre and intrusive. So glad we don't have it here in Australia (yet).

cardamomginger Mon 19-Aug-13 12:08:44

I refused to take a very large parcel for a new neighbour who had just bought the flat downstairs. Our flat is very small, I have a toddler, and I had no idea when the new neighbour would be moving in.

We are due to move towards the end of the year into a house we have been renovating. One of our neighbours is so unreasonable and downright nasty that I will refuse to take parcels on the grounds that if the contents turn out to be damaged I am scared/convinced he will try to blame us and make us pay for it (obviously, if damage occurred because we mistreated a delivery, I would pay for it). He is so unpleasant and 'what's in it for me' that I don't want to leave myself vulnerable to trouble.

I like to be helpful, where I can, but there are limits!

DeWe Mon 19-Aug-13 12:12:41

I take parcels in for quite a distance around because I'm in during the day. i don't see the issue, either I notice they're in and take it round or they call for it later.

The other day I was asked to take a huge parcel in for people down the road who I don't know. Very heavy too. I couldn't carry it, so when I saw they were in I went over to tell them I had it, but they'd need to wait until dh was back and we'd do it as a three (yes it was that big).
Their ds (teenage) was one big grin because it was his birthday present and he thought they'd missed it. Was worth it to see his smile.

FatPenguin Mon 19-Aug-13 12:14:40

Yanbu. I wouldn't take delivery for my neighbour as I can't stand the woman, she doesn't stop her dog barking all evening so why should I do her any favours. I hope she never signs for anything for me as I wouldn't want to have to go round and collect off her.

I don't understand why when people order something big/anything that has to be signed for they aren't in? You usually know at least the day it is due to be delivered ..? It's lazy to just assume neighbours will sign for you

Lweji Mon 19-Aug-13 12:21:32

Personally, I'm not too happy about parcels being left with neighbours and it feels lazy of delivery services.

What if something happens to the parcel? The neighbours could be held responsible.

The receivers should authorise leaving with specific neighbours or arrange to be at home or a set delivery time. Or collect from depot.

JerseySpud Mon 19-Aug-13 12:23:00

After reading the Pouffe thread on here, there is no way i would take in a parcel for anyone...

EllesAngel Mon 19-Aug-13 12:39:59

I'd take in parcels for my neighbours but I get on with them. I wouldn't if I didn't get on with them, so YANBU

In the past when I've ordered online sometimes the parcel has come the day before it was supposed to.

Frettchen Mon 19-Aug-13 12:52:45

YANBU - my postie/courier is a bit crap and left a parcel for me with my neighbours... didn't bother leaving me a note to say it was there. I've been working late/away at the weekends, so the parcel sat there for almost a fortnight before I even knew it had been delivered. I would have much preferred a note saying to collect it from a depot - less hassle all round, and less having to hope said neighbours are in for to collect it.

mrslyman Mon 19-Aug-13 12:55:21

YANBU I have refused parcels for neighbours a couple of times, once because it was huge and there was a baby sleeping in my narrow hallway, and once because we were going on holiday and I didn't want to miss the neighbours before we went as they would then have to wait ages to get their parcel.

McNewPants2013 Mon 19-Aug-13 12:59:07

I take it small parcels, but not large ones as storing them safely is a problem.

GhostsInSnow Mon 19-Aug-13 13:21:09

jerseyspud pouffe thread? Link?

we do accept for each other but I would turn down if anything big as would block the tiny hall and id be trappedgrin

Costypop Mon 19-Aug-13 13:30:28

Not unreasonable at all.
I once to a parcel of what I think must of been a printer or something along those lines, the box was huge! 3foot by 3foot at least! They ran a business from home. But it took them 3weeks to get it from me, kept popping over always no answer or had the reply they would get it later. I had a bad back and couldn't lift the thing. It was very much in my way in the hall so involved me having to step over it to get out of the house. Massive pain in the back side. The husband finally came round to get it at 11:30 one night when I had friends over. And not even a thankyou! I later suck a note though there door saying I would no longer take in anything for them. They responded by continually blocking in my car, very pretty people. So glad when they moved

rootatoot Mon 19-Aug-13 13:33:46

YANBU and from now on, I won't be taking in parcels for my neighbours who clearly have no regard for us, and think we are a walk over (see my other thread about them taking the p*ss!) It isn't in my nature to not be neighbourly, however it seems being good natured is open to abuse sadly so going to toughen up.

The last parcel I took for them was a massive box, which took up loads of space all day, stank of plastic and then when I told them it was there, they also didn't get it until later on as it wasn't convenient when I told them.

Fakebook Mon 19-Aug-13 13:38:51

Yanbu. One of my neighbours kept a parcel of mine for weeks and weeks and handed it back to the post man when I had re ordered the item. The arseholes. I have no idea which one it was but I "opted out" after that. There is no way I would help either of them now.

marciaoverstrand Mon 19-Aug-13 13:41:01

YANBU, I used to take parcels in for the couple over the road from me, but as her husband is a miserable git who never makes eye contact or says hello after 6 years I don't bother now!
And they used to take days to collect, parcels propped up in the hall are an invite for my dog to cock his leg!

oinkling Mon 19-Aug-13 13:48:40

Sounds fine to me. Although my neighbour (who I'd never really met) took in a parcel for me last week and if he hadn't, I don't know what I'd have done. I live in a city and we don't tend to do things like that. My friend, who lives out in the sticks, says that if it's raining, one of his neighbours would take in his washing for him. I was stunned at this and would hate if someone grabbed my washing.

In general, though, I think it's fine not to take the parcel, especially as you don't get on with these people.

NoelHeadbands Mon 19-Aug-13 13:49:27


I will take parcels for all but one of my neighbours as I got so monumentally fucked off with them never coming round to pick them up.

It all came to a head when my DH took in a massive coffee machine for them. Almost a week went by with me seething and kicking the jeffing thing every time I passed it in the hall way.

Eventually whilst I was putting out the recycling, the lazy arse bloke shouts over "have you got a parcel for us?"

"Yes" sez I

Lazy bastard just looks at me expectantly. hmm

I go back indoors.

After I guess, thirty minutes or so, it dawns on lazy fat bastard that I'm not bringing it over to him.

No more!

NoelHeadbands Mon 19-Aug-13 13:50:32

I thought I was over it.

Obviously not grin

bigbluebus Mon 19-Aug-13 13:52:58

I don't think you were being unreasonable if it was a very large parcel - not withstanding the fact that you don't get on with the neighbours.

I take in parcels for quite a few neighbours, and they do the same for me if necessary. I remember being embarrassed once though when a delivery arrived (supplies for DD) whilst I was out and they left it next door - without leaving a card. Lovely neighbour (whose English can be a little difficult to understand) called round on my return with a box in her hand and said she had taken a delivery in for me. She then proceeded to bring around the other 14 boxes they had left in her hallway [embarrassed].

The couriers are only paid something like 40-50p per delivery regardless of how many calls it takes to deliver the parcel, so they are naturally keen to get rid on 1st call. I was on my doorstep one day talking to a BT engineer who was repairing my phone line when a courier who was trying to deliver a parcel to a house down the road, without success, spotted me and came up my drive and asked me to take the parcel in. I explained that I didn't know the occupiers of that house - but he wasn't bothered at all and virtually thrust his machine into my hands to get me to sign for the parcel. As I could see it was books from Red House, I took it, but wouldn't have been at all happy if a courier had gone that far down the street with one of my parcels.

ChasedByBees Mon 19-Aug-13 13:58:12

Of course YANBU. All these PP's saying they don't understand why you can't be 'nice' - my neighbour drove at my family. Should I continue to be nice? I don't think so. OP has said that her neighbours are horrible, you don't have to do a favour for someone that is horrible to you.

OnFoot Mon 19-Aug-13 14:09:44

YABU. I take in parcels happily for most neighbours and always have done. But I currently have one neighbour who is a total pain and I simply want no non-essential contact with her so I've asked the couriers and postie not to leave anything for our house at her house and I will not be taking parcels for her if the matter crops up.

She's extremely nosy and comes into our garden if she thinks we're out and tries to get into our sheds etc. Other neighbours called the police once as they thought we had burglars. If you're out front gardening say, and have the front door unlocked, she'll try to sneak past me into the house to nose. So, no, I don't want any unnecessary contact with her, I don't want her getting my post and I won't be taking in her post.

LisaMed Mon 19-Aug-13 14:22:11

My neighbours are lovely and I cherish them, they take in parcels for me and I get them goodies. I would take in a parcel for them in a heartbeat.

Previous ones with the death threats, abuse, grief and vandalism - probably wouldn't bother.

chocoluvva Mon 19-Aug-13 15:07:46

Go on OP - spill your neighbours horribleness with us!

quoteunquote Mon 19-Aug-13 15:12:42

I actually don't get on with them'

It would of been a good opportunity to start to change that.

OnFoot Mon 19-Aug-13 15:19:53

oh bother. I meant to type YANBU, not YABU. Sorry.

Madlizzy Mon 19-Aug-13 15:21:12

I don't get on with my neighbour as he's a misogynistic, foul mouthed, aggressive twat, and I won't take parcels in for him, so no, I don't think that YBU at all.

StepAwayFromTheEcclesCakes Mon 19-Aug-13 15:28:26

Thanks all who see my point, the rest... I am not normally horrible, will do anything for the rest of my local community but next door got all shirty with us when we had an extension done, no reason as far as we could see just stopped speaking then hung over the fence at every opportunity glaring everytime we went into the garden. The fence on their side blew down, its their responsibility but DH offered to put up a new one at shared cost. on the day he did it she came out and put out washing and ignored him, he came home later and went out and said 'its not straight and you are over on our side!' DH explained that it needed to dog leg a bit to meet the wall at the end. He got a tape measure out! I said 'what about a thanks then?' he told me to shut up! wtf ungrateful gits. since then he has complained about DS... not at the time but when we have been away he hangs around glaring and says stuff like ' i will complain to the police next time DS plays his music loudly when you leave him home alone' my response 'he is 20, an adult, if its too loud knock and ask him to turn it down, if he doesn't, feel free to call the police' called me a few names... ffs what can I do if I am not there and 6 weeks after the event is pointless anyway. If DH goes out to cut back the trees he is out there saying they are falling in my garden, rant rant, they never cut their grass, never open a window, never finish a job and there is cat shit all over their garden that stinks in warm weather. so no just not very nice people at all. I am happy to be ignored as all the other neighbours are friendly and nice.

StepAwayFromTheEcclesCakes Mon 19-Aug-13 15:29:35

quoteunquote no I am happy not to bother with them tbh.

PedantMarina Mon 19-Aug-13 15:41:01

I am insanely jealous at valiumred and anybody else who so comprehensively doesn't get how nasty neighbours can be.

JerseySpud Mon 19-Aug-13 16:05:16
hardbeingme Mon 19-Aug-13 16:21:47

YANBU i take them in but usually end up feeling annoyed - one side is fine but the other side shes often at home but 'can't be bothered to open the door, besides i knew you'd be in' hmm

neighbour opposite has taken them for me but has lived here long enough to have fallen out with half the street so has strict rules over who's parcels she will or will not accept.

however was most annoyed taking one in for neighbours i don't know, big heavy box, here for days - i kept knocking incase they didn't receive a card and when i did finally catch them not even a thank you and they expected me to carry it over the road for them - nope! next time i will say no and feel guilty for the rest of the day

GhostsInSnow Mon 19-Aug-13 17:59:18

Oh God jersey that made me howl, thank you!

thanks jersey

silverten Mon 19-Aug-13 18:11:41

It's really very simple- if you are a twat you can't possibly expect your neighbours to do you any favours.

One set of my neighbours is lovely- no problems with taking in their parcels, lending them our drive, moving their bins, unblocking their drains (we have rods and are much younger than them) ...

The other set wouldn't piss on you if you were on fire. They get nothing from us.

What goes around comes around.

I have refused to take in parcels for one set of neighbours twice on the grounds that they are fucking horrible people and we don't speak. I felt like a tit but no way am I having them come to my door, I fucking hate them.

coldwater1 Mon 19-Aug-13 18:16:07

I don't get on with my neighbour but still take their parcels in, they send their kids round to pick them up though. Lol

Spikeytree Mon 19-Aug-13 18:25:17

It pisses me off when you take a parcel in, try knocking repeatedly on their door and just get ignored. I can see them moving around, I can hear them, but no I'll just stand outside your house with a heavy parcel being ignored. After 5 days of this I left it on their doorstep. I don't take in for them anymore and I have the sticker on my letterbox saying return to delivery office.

Cheesyslice Mon 19-Aug-13 18:37:24

I used to quite happily take stuff in for our neighbours. Then they asked the delivery company that frequently dropped stuff off for them to NOT leave anything with us! We've only ever had very pleasant exchanges with them.

Cheeky fuckers. grin

MammaTJ Mon 19-Aug-13 18:44:49

I would take in for some neighbours, but not for others. I don't need the 'lady' who shouted 'Oi, fat cunt' to me to have a reason to knock on my door. I also don't need the people who were so called friends of mine but saying all sorts about me behind my back knocking on my door either.


JerseySpud Mon 19-Aug-13 18:48:15

takes a bow

I knew my memory for random threads that make me laugh would come in handy

Mouserama Tue 20-Aug-13 05:09:58

In the last week, I've accepted around 8 parcels for my NDN. I'm on Mat Leave, and NDN eorks so I'm not too bothered about taking in the parcels for him although am bloody curious to know what all of the parcels are - 8 in one week is a bit excessive! I just wish that the ting of the deliveries were better - I generally get the knock on the door as soon as I've just got my boob out to feed baby!

Mimishimi Tue 20-Aug-13 05:38:20

It's so weird. I just clicked on this thread to check responses when there was a knock at my neighbour's apartment door. "parcel delivery!" from the courier. Since they just moved in from downstairs (to a bigger apartment), they've had a lot of deliveries lately but neighbour said she wasn't expecting anything. Courier said the people upstairs nominated her and she sounded surprised but I think she took it. From the grunting and thump as it was placed down,I doubt it's books. She is a housewife. And here I was thinking it didn't happen here ! It's just so strange that it happened exactly at the moment I was also thinking about it. I would be quite cross if neighbours nominated me without asking first. Not likely to happen as I am not from the same cultural group as most of my neighbours but it's still going to be annoying if she starts getting treated as a collection depot ( this is the first time I've heard it though).

PrincessFlirtyPants Tue 20-Aug-13 07:22:29

YANBU, if you don't get along with them you don't have to do them any favours if you don't want to. If I didn't get on with my neighbour and I got a note saying that they had my parcel I wouldn't be looking forward to collecting it.

I do it for my neighbours but I don't like it. The other week I took in a parcel and we had it in our hallway for 3 weeks because our next door neighbours were hardly ever in. It was so irritating having it there taking up space! Would have moved it into a cupboard but I wouldn't have wanted to invite them in while I got the parcel from the cupboard.

I always take parcels for my neighbour but once it was a box the size of a coffin and I said no as I had no where to put it and it would cause an obstruction in my hallway . My 2 year old likes to open other people's parcels too lol.

StepAwayFromTheEcclesCakes Tue 20-Aug-13 16:39:19

50shades hope you read the linked poo pouffe thread grin

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