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To be pissed off that husband has never got me a birthday present?

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goodgollygosh Mon 19-Aug-13 09:54:39

Well there's more to it than that he has never got me a birthday present. But more so that he will buy thoughtful presents for every other member of his family!
I had nothing off him for my birthday not even a card from the children (yet on his family's birthday he gets them all those cards with pics of the children on). On Mother's Day I had nothing I made myself a card with the children yet his nan (mother is dead) got a picture card and framed picture of the children. Its now coming up to his younger brothers girlfriends birthday. She is a right cow to say I can't stand her is an understatement. She is very sly and tried to set him up with her relative and gave out his number. He has gone and ordered her £30 of items from benefit website. I could cry I don't even have any mascara and would love a benefit set! Its not even like they buy for us! He says its because they buy for the children (yeah cheap tat).
Tell me honestly am I being a selfish cow and sounding spoilt? I'm not so hope it doesn't come across like that I'm sooooooo generous to every one I just feel so unimportant to him (its always been like this).
Thanks ladies.

smallandimperfectlyformed Mon 19-Aug-13 09:55:52

Have you ever asked him why he does this? YADNBU.

ENormaSnob Mon 19-Aug-13 09:58:05

Bloody nora, yadnbu.

Does he even like you? Cos he sure as hell is showing otherwise.

Minifingers Mon 19-Aug-13 09:58:53

I think that's utterly shit.

I'm really sorry for you.

Your dp is an inconsiderate lick-arse.

BigBrassBand Mon 19-Aug-13 09:59:40

Sounds like you have other problems as well. I'd be upset about not receiving even a card, especially in light of his generosity toward others, but how does that sit in the bigger picture of your relationship?
Is he kind to you in general?
Does he treat you like his equal? Or with disregard?
Why did the brother's GF try to set him up with someone? Was this before you were married?

Libertine73 Mon 19-Aug-13 10:01:05

What!!?? How have you not punched his face in given him hell about this before now? How long have you been together?

You making your own mothers day card is so sad sad

MintyChops Mon 19-Aug-13 10:02:53

He sounds quite horrible. Sorry to hear this. I would ask him actually. Oh, and go out and get yourself the Benefit thing and give him the receipt.

OddSockMonster Mon 19-Aug-13 10:05:21

What on earth does he do? Blindly ignore the fact that other people are sending you cards, etc?

Does he take you out as a treat or something, anything?

FreeWee Mon 19-Aug-13 10:13:10

This is the least AIBU I've ever seen! No YADNBU! If he didn't do it for anyone fair enough but for everyone but you...? Does he even acknowledge your birthday?

NatashaBee Mon 19-Aug-13 10:16:43

YANBU. What an arse.

pianodoodle Mon 19-Aug-13 10:19:20

What no pressie?!

YANBU!

VodkaJelly Mon 19-Aug-13 10:22:06

Do you get him anything for his birthday? What about your family? Does he buy for them or do they get ignored also?

RegTheMonkey Mon 19-Aug-13 10:24:26

It sounds awful. Even if money is tight he can write a love note on a bit of paper and put it in your purse or handbag. But it doesn't sound like money is that tight if he can spend £30 on make up for his brother's girlfriend. It seems really odd that he just ignores you this way and doesn't treat you occasionally. Sorry.

chesterberry Mon 19-Aug-13 10:24:55

Does he expect and receive gifts from you on his birthday and father's day? If so then YADNBU. Unless there has been some agreement between the two of you not to get gifts for each other's birthdays then I can't see why he would not buy you anything - has he always been like this even when you were a new couple?

You are definitely not being selfish/spoilt and I think you need to sit down and talk to him about this and ask why he doesn't ever to something to mark your birthday or mother's day.

goodgollygosh Mon 19-Aug-13 10:37:04

Thanks ladies! Ive always felt like I'm being out of order feel slightly better now.
He is a wanker to be honest when it comes to priorities. He would stand back and let anyone treat me like crap I dare say. He knows its my birthday but has never bought me anything. The first birthday I had when we were together we went to Liverpool for the weekend. I'm a huge beatles fan (HUGE) but he ruined it for me by him refusing to leave the hotel and being horrible to me. We got engaged on the first night in the cavern but he didn't want to tell anyone because he didn't want to upset the girl he was sleeping with before me (who was engaged to someone but he was shagging her for 18mnths). I should of left him then but I was in love (I'm obviously the wanker now eh). When we got back she messaged him asking if we were engaged (heard through his friend) I asked him if he would just tell her yes and not to text him anymore but he wouldn't. The list could go on really. He would never go out for a night out with me or introduce me to his friends yet this girl he would meet up with on nights out and take her back to his friends houses for parties etc. he used to be in a band and she would go watch. He wrote loads of songs for her but has never written a song for me. Gosh it sounds dreadful and is making me cry. But I can't dwell on all that shit (am I going for the post with the most swearing) because I've put up with the dire situation.
What I guess hurts the most is that when I was 6 my mother got together with a 17yr old (she was 17yrs older than him) he is the same age as my brother! (They are still together now). Well his birthday is the day before mine and such a huge fuss was made for his birthday but I had about 5 cards and no cake and one present.
Sorry everyone I guess I'm feeling a bit sorry for myself today. Thanks for being so nice!

goodgollygosh Mon 19-Aug-13 10:40:15

I always buy gifts on his birthday and Father's Day I would never not do so because I love to give and enjoy picking presents for people. My family I always buy for. The children we buy for equally. Money is fine he works full time and he is a club singer. I've spoken to him about it loads of times but end up feeling like I'm acting selfish.

Squitten Mon 19-Aug-13 10:41:31

Oh I think you should dwell on it. A lot. I think you should think long and hard about how your husband treats you and whether this is what you want for your life. Life is too short to waste it living in misery.

pianodoodle Mon 19-Aug-13 10:42:21

Sorry if i've missed a reply somewhere but how long have you been with him?

pianodoodle Mon 19-Aug-13 10:43:07

I'd stop buying him presents for a start! And get yourself one.

ImperialBlether Mon 19-Aug-13 10:43:26

He is horrible! You poor thing, having such a shit husband. It's not just the presents though, is it? He doesn't sound like he's a partner at all.

Have you thought about what life would be like without him? (Bloody lovely, I would think!) Oh and I'm in Liverpool - I'll do the Beatles things with you if you come up again!

OddSockMonster Mon 19-Aug-13 10:45:42

It's not your birthday today is it?

chesterberry Mon 19-Aug-13 10:48:13

To be honest it sounds like you have bigger problems than just the gifts, are you happy in your relationship? I think I would be feeling sorry for myself too and, even if I enjoyed picking things out for him, I would definitely not buy him a present for at least one birthday so that he has a taste of what it feels like. If he is making you feel selfish for even bringing it up that is really sad and it is definitely not selfish to expect a present from your husband. Does he buy a gift at christmas?

goodgollygosh Mon 19-Aug-13 10:49:13

Been with him 12yrs. I am quite unhappy to be honest. I'm making positive changes in my life to give me a confidence boost. I've lost weight 17lbs in 5wks. I still have 3st to loose but am determined. I've had my hair styled with a fringe, treated myself to some clothes.
He explains Mother's Day away by saying I have the children with me and his mum is dead (fair enough but my father is dead). I had a £5 box of chocolates off my mum for my birthday this year and he ate most of them(have besides my mum a sister who I don't see and a brother who I don't see).

goodgollygosh Mon 19-Aug-13 10:52:05

Christmas we don't buy for each other because we have the children to buy for. I can't fault him with the children he is brilliant and is very generous.
No it's not my birthday today, its just all risen to the surface for me because its his brothers girlfriends birthday next week.

OddSockMonster Mon 19-Aug-13 10:57:58

Other than 'he's good with the children', what are you gaining from this relationship? Because it doesn't sound like very greatt at all from what you're saying.

goodgollygosh Mon 19-Aug-13 11:01:30

Not much at present to be honest oddsockmonster.

VodkaJelly Mon 19-Aug-13 11:08:38

It is really sad that he values other peoples birthdays and feelings before yours. My DP used to be crap at birthdays but I always got a card, he has been alot better lately and I do at least get presents. He only buys for his parents as I refuse to buy for his family.

DP forgot my birthday once (whole other thread) and i think that it what shamed him into changing.

You need to stop buying for your DP and use the same excuses he uses. He might not be bothered, but if he is then he might see how much it hurts to be ignored.

miemohrs Mon 19-Aug-13 11:09:29

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

LemonPeculiarJones Mon 19-Aug-13 11:11:02

What the hell are you doing with this arsehole?!

Wow. What a horrible man.

ouryve Mon 19-Aug-13 11:11:36

YANBU. He obviously remembers other people's birthdays so doesn't even have the forgetful excuse.

Buy yourself something nice.

ouryve Mon 19-Aug-13 11:16:42

And reading on, he's a grade A* arsehole and treats you like a possession. You can't go back and change anything from the past, but you can definitely make changes for the better, now (and it sounds like you've made a good start).

He's not ever going to care for you, so I'm glad you've started caring for yourself.

LaRegina Mon 19-Aug-13 11:19:41

He sounds like a selfish pig who doesn't give much of a shit about your feelings TBH sad

In the past I have had boyfriends who didn't bother (much or not at all) with birthdays/gifts/etc and their level of effort definitely reflected their level of day to day effort and care in our relationship in general.

My DH takes a lot of time choosing birthday/Christmas presents and little random gifts for me, because he loves me and wants to make me happy, as I do for him.

You deserve to be treated just as well. You say he's always been like this - so it will be a hard slog to change his attitude, sadly, if you can at all. How long have you been together?

Earthworms Mon 19-Aug-13 11:27:45

Get some counselling for your self esteem ( been there- it does work)

Dump the sorry fucker.

Hopasholic Mon 19-Aug-13 11:41:09

You sound like you have a lot going here and maybe this is the final straw?

You'll get lots of good advice and support in relationships if you want to move the thread there?

Any DH who treats his DW like that is not a good dad. He's a very poor role model indeed. Just because he does all the brownie point stuff does not make him a loving kind person does it?

Happy belated birthday. You can have a better life than the one you have you know. Everybody deserves to be happy flowers

RegTheMonkey Mon 19-Aug-13 11:46:35

You really do deserve to be treated muuuuuuch better than this. You sound like a really nice person and it's horrible that he thinks so little of you. Imagine another 5 years of this, another 10, another 15 - all those years of unhappiness stretching ahead, when you could be with someone lovely who would love and cherish you.

goodgollygosh Mon 19-Aug-13 11:49:50

Thanks everyone. Some great advice. Iam worth more than this. I don't deserve to feel second best to some slag who was sleeping around who quite frankly was an ugly bitch. I shouldn't dwell on how he thought so much of her but is too ashamed to be seen with me, but I'm feeling very bitter right now. I'm a nice person and I think I could be so happy by myself right now because all I'm gaining at the moment is self pity.

MarnieMadden Mon 19-Aug-13 11:58:01

My ex husband was like this. My sister used to end up buying me a Mothers Day card from my son when he was a baby. My ex used to go and buy one for his mother, and never had that train of thought that maybe he should get one for his sons mam (ie me!) too! Christmas and Birthdays were the same, even though I always made the effort to get stuff for him from me and our son.
This is one of many reasons why he is now my exh.

FayeKorgasm Mon 19-Aug-13 12:12:17

Oh he is a real charmer.

He is nice to everyone else so the world thinks he is a great bloke, but to his wife and the mother of his children, he reveals his true nature.

OP, you say he is a good father, I beg to differ. A good father would treat the mother of his children with kindness and respect. They are learning now about love and respect between adults. He is showing them that a mother/wife is at the bottom of the heap. This is a template they will use when forging relationships as adults.

I think the time to stop accepting his cruelty - and that is what it is - has come.

You sound heartbroken sad

stickyg Mon 19-Aug-13 13:01:26

Im a lurker and very rarely post of here but i had to come out of lurk mode to tell you what an absolute wanker this fucker is .

please dont let a scumbag like him treat you in such a cruel way. I would be packing his bags for him

goodgollygosh Mon 19-Aug-13 13:28:16

Stickyg never a finer sentence spoke. Its true he is a fucker, and I have been blinded by my devotion to him. I adore him its true. He is one of those people that when he walks into a room he is the centre of attention. But I've had enough of years of everyone else's feelings being more important than mine.

hotritenow Mon 19-Aug-13 13:31:18

Oh OP I feel so angry for you...I can't believe he is buying a present for his brothers girlfriend and none for you...I mean WTF is that all about...

Hercy Mon 19-Aug-13 13:41:54

I don't like to say it, but it does sound like he's ashamed of you and takes you for granted.

You say you are devoted to him, perhaps if you were to completely curtail all the nice things you do for him, be it buy him presents, bring him a cup of tea, do things he likes doing, cook dinner, wash his clothes...everything. To illustrate that you feel he doesn't care about you and your relationship is all one sided, so why should you do all these things for him.

Of course the grown up thing would be to have a proper talk with him, say how hurtful his treatment of you is and that you deserve better or it's over, but I suspect you've already tried this.

Hercy Mon 19-Aug-13 13:46:42

Oh and try to have as much confidence in yourself as you can, it's great you'd losing wight, new haircut and clothes etc. Keep doing these sorts of things for yourself, have confidence in yourself and realise and act that you don't deserve to be treated in such a way.

That might help him see how awfully he's been treating you and taking you for granted. Perhaps you putting up with his behaviour has desensitised him to it, so he sort of thinks oh it's only goodgollygosh, it doesn't matter. So you being more confident in yourself may be a real wake up call for him. And if it isn't? Well hopefully it will give you enough confidence to leave...

goodgollygosh Mon 19-Aug-13 13:49:39

I'm thinking of emailing him? He works in an office so has access to his emails. If I email I'm just going to come out with all of it and detail as much as I can of how he has treated me like a first class mug over the years. I've tried countless times, I've written him a letter before and at the start of the year around my birthday time I told him that it doesn't need to cost a penny but he needs to show me he has any feelings for me. It hasn't happened and I'm just about ready to tell him to piss off.

PedantMarina Mon 19-Aug-13 13:51:16

When I was a teen, there was something in one of the heartthrob magazines entitled "Fan, Friend or Forever Love". Don't remember the breakdown exactly, but based on your description, you fall into neither the middle nor latter category in the alleged-brain of your (I suspect) STBXH.

Some people (men) are not capable of friendships or love, but only of having what they consider fans. I had a [apparently not] friend who was like this: any attempt to be nice to the guy was taken for "oh, that's only my due because I'm such a fantastic poet" (he wasn't, btw): he was simply incapable of thinking people might do it because they're genuinely nice or caring or - gods forbid - that it's normal give&take of normal relationships.

In my case, the guy did it with pretty much everybody. In your case, I think he does it with you alone. And, sorry, I don't see how he's every going to think differently about you.

A classic MN LTB vote from me, I'm afraid.

Ghirly Mon 19-Aug-13 13:51:46

YADNBU - bang out if order!

I'd be gutted too.

Happy Birthday from me. X

goodgollygosh Mon 19-Aug-13 13:54:45

Thanks Ghirly but its not my birthday haha! Not for another 5mnths I'm just ever so slightly annoyed because of the (I want that) present he has bought for yet another person.

SueDoku Mon 19-Aug-13 13:57:14

Well, here it is - my very first LTB.

You deserve much, much better than this selfish man (?) angry

Ghirly Mon 19-Aug-13 14:04:27

Well happy birthday when it comes.

My ex doesn't buy me birthday card/present but does get me Mother's Day card from kids.

It's my birthday this week and I've resigned to not getting anything from him.
Just luckily I have two adult children who spoil me so that makes up for it.

The email sounds great.

FWIW I've recently ended a relationship with someone I ADORED because he put his exes feelings first and even after 17 months of us being together couldn't admit to ex he was with me.
We have no children - thankfully - so it was a bit simpler but still hurt massively.

We're trying to stay friends so I made a fuss over his birthday just gone. He knows mine is in 2 days...... I'm waiting with baited breath for.......... Probably nothing!

I feel your pain. Xx

misskatamari Mon 19-Aug-13 14:19:03

He sounds bloody awful. He doesn't sound like he does anything at all to show he cares about you. I agree with others that you deserve a hell of a lot more from a relationship. LTB!

goodgollygosh Mon 19-Aug-13 14:33:31

Hope you have a lovely birthday Ghirly.
Looking back on the whole thing, I can see I should of just walked away after the Liverpool trip. But I was so in love with him I just wanted him to be mine! At the start we lived 2hrs away from each other but quickly moved in together within about 6mnths (he moved to me).
Things definitely won't change. He thinks I should just get over this ex girlfriend but how can I when all I've ever wanted is an ounce of the affection he has shown her?

PomBearArmy Mon 19-Aug-13 17:19:41

I'm sure you already know this OP, but it's not healthy to project all those negative feelings onto his ex, calling her a slag and an ugly bitch. The way he treats you and treated her is nothing to do with her, it's all him.

As far as gifts go, I would stop buying him a birthday present. Use the occasion to remind yourself it's time to treat yourself. Whatever you were going to spend on him, blow it on yourself. If he says anything just go for the wide-eyed innocent bit 'But you never buy me a present, I didn't think you were into celebrating our birthdays?'

FutTheShuckUp Mon 19-Aug-13 17:40:35

If you email him anything make it a link to this thread. He seems to show you no love whatsoever and if I were you I'd be looking for that love you deserve and getting rid of this baggage

Lweji Mon 19-Aug-13 17:47:46

He's the typical abuser who presents a front to the world and is a twat to those who he perceives are safe.

What on earth are you doing with him?

I was married to one of these. Wanted everyone to love him, walked into a room and expected attention, lovely to everyone except me. He knew he 'had' me because I married him so made no effort.

Bin him. I did and ended up with lovely DH who took me to a lovely hotel for my birthday AND I got presents.

goodgollygosh Mon 19-Aug-13 17:50:10

PomBearArmy I know you speak the truth but I'm extremely in Rage overflow. She is a slag and to be honest she is extremely ugly. But again I'm just very very pissed off.
I did email him and he said he would talk to me when he got home..... He got home and called me pathetic. What more can I say ladies he has now gone out and I feel like an even bigger pile of shit.

elah11 Mon 19-Aug-13 17:56:08

This has nothing to do with his ex and all to do with the way he treats you. He is mean and nasty and I don't care how good you say he is with the kids, if he can't treat their mother with love and respect then he is sending them a very bad message. You deserve better and you know it. He will treat you like this for as long as you accept it .

Facepalmninja Mon 19-Aug-13 17:56:47

Get rid and make a space for someone who cares about you and gives you the love and respect that you deserve.

(((Hugs)))

OddSockMonster Mon 19-Aug-13 17:57:42

Don't waste your energy on him, or hating his ex. He's just not worth it.

Use your energy to figure out what you want to do next, the practicalities of anything (esp if it's to LTB), and don't let him bring you down any more.

You're worth more than this and if he's too dense to see it then it's his loss.

goodgollygosh Mon 19-Aug-13 18:04:47

You are right, I shouldn't be getting so worked up about his ex and the difference in the treatment. There's obviously sod all which can be done about it. I've told him today how I feel (as I have many times). I don't want to be with anyone to be honest even some amazing person who would treat me decently. I want to be on my own with the children, focus on my weight and my confidence. Then I'm sure I will feel so much better.

binhome Mon 19-Aug-13 18:07:39

I have had serious issues with my dh re presents. However even he get mothers day, birthday and valentines cards and birthday presents. Although i was a bit pissed off with him this year as he got all his family to put their money together to buy me a tablet. My parents are dead. Yes it was a generous gift but he brought himself a better one because he wanted it. (No gift forfeiture required)
Yanbu. Are you able to go and treat yourself?

knickernicker Mon 19-Aug-13 18:07:44

Does he actually like you? Don't spend your life with someone who isn't your friend.

Libertine73 Mon 19-Aug-13 18:09:24

That's the spirit OP, pack his bags, he's a nasty twat who has no regard for your feelings, calling you pathetic when you go to him with how you feel, waste of your time. LTB

FlossyFloozie Mon 19-Aug-13 18:22:32

knickernicker is spot on. I was sucked in once by a bloke who sounds a bit like your OH. Caused me no end of misery and turned me into a shadow of myself...fortunately I saw the light before things went too far. Took about 5 more years till I met DH but every now and again I stop and realise how easy he makes our relationship, that it really doesn't have to be hard. If it's as hard as you find it, it's already broken and you need to get rid and make a new life for yourself... and make yourself available for someone who really cares about your happiness.Be strong, and good luck.

beepoff Mon 19-Aug-13 18:26:03

Please use this rage as the catalyst to LTB.

He can still be good with the kids if you aren't together you know?

pigletmania Mon 19-Aug-13 18:26:06

Op he sounds god awful, imwould leave him, he des not sound like he lies you, let alone loves you, he either cares or respects you! Imwouldvhaveasked him where my card and presse was. Seriously I would leave him!

pigletmania Mon 19-Aug-13 18:31:03

The most positive thing yu could doms leave him! You don't sound happy, infant yousound like you are in a very abusive relationship.

pigletmania Mon 19-Aug-13 18:33:41

Op,channel,all this anger and rage into leaving him! He sounds shit sorry he does!

Melonbreath Mon 19-Aug-13 18:56:04

You deserve better

goodgollygosh Mon 19-Aug-13 19:02:41

Wow thanks everyone for the support. Its true I'm a push over and have been treated like dirt for far too long. I don't want this anymore. I don't need to be with him for the kids sake anymore its gone too far and I hate feeling so worthless

pigletmania Mon 19-Aug-13 19:12:46

Good golly you know what you must do. It is detrimental for children to witness you being treated like that by their father. By te sounds of things, he does not like you, let alone loves you

PixelAteMyFace Mon 19-Aug-13 19:44:46

Your H (can`t bring myself to call him DH) sounds so unpleasant that my blood is boiling on your behalf.

He has absolutely no respect for you, don`t waste any more of your life with him. As others have pointed out upthread, your children are going to grow up with this as a template of a relationship. Do you really want them to think that it`s normal for one person to be the doormat that the other tramples on so carelessly?

Some people get a kick out of being particularly nasty to someone they know is "devoted" to them. They like to keep pushing the limits to see just how much they can get away with. Stop being nice, but most of all, stop throwing away your young years on such a tosser. He will never change, the pattern for your relationship was set at the beginning.

You deserve far better than this self-centred arse who has destroyed your self-esteem. Be good to yourself and end your marriage.

SoftKittyWarmKitty Mon 19-Aug-13 20:12:09

I'd have left his sorry ass over the Liverpool incident and the way he pandered to his ex but you can't go back now. However this thread has made me recall something very wise I once read on MN that is relevant here, which was something along the lines of this:

The only thing worse than spending 12 (in your case) years in a bad relationship is spending one more day in that relationship.

You can choose to stay in this marriage, OP, and remain in the same situation a week, a month, a year, ten years down the line, or you can choose to leave the marriage.

He called you pathetic. You're not. He is. You have a choice here - choose wisely.

SoftKittyWarmKitty Mon 19-Aug-13 20:15:11

Just realised my first sentence sounded harsh and almost blames you - I didn't mean it to and that's not what I meant, so apologies for that. All I meant was that we all make mistakes that we can't go back and change, but we can ensure we don't make the same mistake again.

Dawnywoo Mon 19-Aug-13 20:26:35

Oh gosh, are you me? Right down to the weight loss and new fringe!

I have just been through this with the father of my child. For 5 years, I put up with it. Till eventually, 2 months ago I could not bear to waste another year of my life. I'm not necessarily saying LTB, but you know in your heart, he's a waste of space. For me, the saddest truth of all was the realisation that he had no respect.

Bizarrely, I have never put up with such shit before. I knew I was better than him and he didn't deserve me. I feel sooo much happier that I have had the guts to do what I wanted to do for the last 2 years and get rid!

Good luck and hugs. xx

KateCroydon Mon 19-Aug-13 20:31:31

hmmm. It sounds like you might want to talk to a divorce lawyer.

inneedofrain Mon 19-Aug-13 20:34:29

Golly

You are without a doubt worth more than this

We are all worthy of some not only to love but that loves us back and shows that love for what it is unconditional

Just take a second and think is this going to be you life? Only you can answer that question

Emilythornesbff Mon 19-Aug-13 20:38:46

See a lawyer.
See a lawyer
See a lawyer.

brew

goodgollygosh Mon 19-Aug-13 21:53:01

Softkitty its ok. I didn't take offence I said in another post that it should of ended after Liverpool and that I can't dwell on it because I have myself to blame.
Dawny well done n getting out you sound so strong.
Well when he returned and I tried to talk to him he said I'm being selfish for ruining the childrens home life. That it isn't about me being happy but for the children to have a proper family. He then said I needed help (mentally). He is sleeping downstairs so I guess that's it. Wow what a day from my first thread on mums net to my relationship (joke of a one) ending and do you know what....I've stuck to my diet 100% and didn't run to chocolate like I would of done a month ago.
Thanks ladies you have made me feel so much better and really helped me get my head around the fact I was not being unreasonable!

pigletmania Mon 19-Aug-13 21:55:01

Go to a solicitor tomorrow! He is one nasty piece of work, you don't have to take this shit

pigletmania Mon 19-Aug-13 21:57:38

He des nothing for you, are worth so much more get out!

pigletmania Tue 20-Aug-13 09:50:57

Hw are things today good?

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