to pointedly offer a tissue to the lady in my office who keeps sniffing loudly? (AAARGH)

(51 Posts)
ClockWatchingLady Tue 06-Aug-13 10:05:08

God, it's driving me nuts.

UnexpectedItemInShaggingArea Tue 06-Aug-13 10:08:16

YANBU. Do it. You will feel better.

I do it ALL THE TIME.

I carry extra on public transport for this exact reason.

Do it and then tell us what happened smile

ClockWatchingLady Tue 06-Aug-13 10:13:15

Thanks, unexpected.
I offered one, she took it, dabbed her nose and kept on sniffing. REALLY loudly.
I might just resign - no job is worth this....

UnexpectedItemInShaggingArea Tue 06-Aug-13 10:17:57

OMFG the inconsiderateness.

You need to be even more direct.

"Please could you blow your nose properly and stop sniffing. or I will evacuate your nasal passages with a dyson

Do it do it do it.

And then tell us about it smile

<quiet day at work emoticon>

mignonette Tue 06-Aug-13 10:19:14

It may be a nervous tic. It is surprisingly common. Or she may have post nasal drip. Either way, might not be much she can do about it in the here and now.

lostblonde86 Tue 06-Aug-13 10:33:07

I work with a woman like that, and sneezes loads! Everyday, so now we sort of have a giggle over it, and tell her to go blow her nose, I know it Sounds rude, but she is the sort of person you have a laugh with so we do it in a nice waysmile. If someone else has a cold she gets us backwink

ClockWatchingLady Tue 06-Aug-13 10:34:39

grin Unexpected. I just don't think I can do that! I'm too much of a wuss. And now mignonette has made me worry it's a post nasal drip....

UnexpectedItemInShaggingArea Tue 06-Aug-13 10:41:34

Do it Do it Do it Do it Do it Do it Do it Do it Do it Do it Do it Do it Do it Do it Do it Do it Do it Do it Do it Do it Do it Do it Do it Do it

You know you want to.

How many hours will you be listening to her otherwise grin

ClockWatchingLady Tue 06-Aug-13 10:42:36

That sounds nice, Lostblonde. Don't really know the lady in my case, but maybe this is a way in grin

By the way mignonette thank you for making me think a bit more nicely and combat the rage smile

ClockWatchingLady Tue 06-Aug-13 10:44:32

6 hours and 16 minutes, Unexpected. 6 hours and 16 minutes...

Pascha Tue 06-Aug-13 10:46:49

I never know what is worse, to sniff all the time or blow all the time. Both are equally annoying.

georgettemagritte Tue 06-Aug-13 10:49:29

Could be hayfever, in which case she might not be able to help it. Sometimes even tons of allergy medication doesn't help that much and it actually inflames the tissues more to keep nose-blowing!

Elsiequadrille Tue 06-Aug-13 10:49:30

My dh knows I mean "Will you please stop sniffing, you're irritating me" when I offer him a tissue smile

It really is annoying.

Elsiequadrille Tue 06-Aug-13 10:50:03

I'm afraid I wouldn't dare tell her to blow her nose, not unless she was my own child

UnexpectedItemInShaggingArea Tue 06-Aug-13 10:51:46

Six hours.

12 sniffs an hour?

72 teeth itching, stomach churning sniffs to sit through.

CONFRONT her! All over on seconds, like ripping a plaster off grin

UnexpectedItemInShaggingArea Tue 06-Aug-13 10:52:16

* in blush

ClockWatchingLady Tue 06-Aug-13 10:56:48

12 an hour? I WISH! 12 a minute, maybe.
Thank you for going through this with me, ladies.

Post nasal drip is no excuse, I should know I suffer from it, and allergic rhinitis, and sinusitis. I am however considerate, I hate sniffers.

Are you getting tense waiting for the next big Sniff op? Bet you are, I feel for you.

youmeatsix Tue 06-Aug-13 11:01:51

wait until she goes on a break and cover her desk in boxes and packets of tissues, i'll chip in with the expense OP, raid every toilet roll you can find and stack them in a pyramid right in front of where she sits. sniffing drives me NUTS

Lottapianos Tue 06-Aug-13 11:02:18

How about saying 'you poor thing, you sound like you're really suffering. I find a good nose blow makes me feel so much better when I'm bunged up. Just get it all out!' with a helpful smile smile

When I am Queen of the World, sniffers will have 3 chances to stop it and use a tissue like a normal human being before being shot.

I don't care whether it's hayfever, I don't care if she's Typhoid Mary - blow your damn nose! Nobody wants to hear your snot! <rage>

youmeatsix Tue 06-Aug-13 11:02:19

wait until she goes on a break and cover her desk in boxes and packets of tissues, i'll chip in with the expense OP, raid every toilet roll you can find and stack them in a pyramid right in front of where she sits. sniffing drives me NUTS

ClockWatchingLady Tue 06-Aug-13 11:03:03

I just can't unexpected. What if she has a postnasal drip, hayfever, a nervous tic, and a tissue phobia? WHat then?

Lottapianos Tue 06-Aug-13 11:04:26

AlexReid, I suffer from post nasal drip and rhinitis too - what works for you? I am really sorry for TMI but I have constant runny mucus falling down the back of my throat and it is seriously unpleasant. I tried Beconase and Nasonex from the GP but neither made any difference.

Sorry for disgusting derail!

squoosh Tue 06-Aug-13 11:04:45

I feel your pain, I cannot tell you how much I feel your pain. These people deserve to die a slow and painful death.

Why do some arse wipes insist on sniff, sniff, sniffing. Blow your motherfucking noses people!

I have a colleague who does this, happily he's on holiday this week. If he's not sniffing he's coughing, if he's not coughing he's whistling. My rage levels rise just being near him.

DramaAlpaca Tue 06-Aug-13 11:16:39

I too feel your pain.

I have a colleague who talks to herself constantly. If she's not doing that she is humming, and if she's not doing that she is whistling.

If she sniffed as well I really would have to strangle her.

ClockWatchingLady Tue 06-Aug-13 11:16:54

Yes, AlexReidsLonelyBraincell, I am. Thank you to you, and squoosh, and youmeatsix, and Lottapianos for feeling my (rather petty) pain. You are all my heros - maybe I can get through this....

ClockWatchingLady Tue 06-Aug-13 11:18:02

Oooh, and Drama. Strangulation is beginning to seem like the only option.

ClockWatchingLady Tue 06-Aug-13 11:20:52

youmeatsix what an excellent plan. Although my prediction is that she wouldn't notice if I wrapped her up in tissues like a mummy.

I used to know an American who got huffy with me when I discreetly blew my nose. Apparently, it's POLITER to sniff in California.

People are weird.

UnexpectedItemInShaggingArea Tue 06-Aug-13 11:23:03

Woman up and confront. You will be the office heroine. You will be Mumsnet's heroine.

I reckon she's a coke fiend so she's only brought it on herself.

12 sniffs a minute x 6 hours = 4,320 sniffs before home time angry

Lottapianos Tue 06-Aug-13 11:23:09

A colleague once told me that her husband thought it was the height of rudeness to blow your nose, and much better to sniff and sniff and sniff. People certainly are weird!

squoosh Tue 06-Aug-13 11:23:19

Apparently in Japan blowing one's nose in public is akin to bending over and farting in someone's face.

oscarwilde Tue 06-Aug-13 11:28:03

Ear plugs ? Headphones and some music ? God I would murder her.

Capitola Tue 06-Aug-13 11:33:17

Erk, I hate sniffing.

But then I also hate nose blowing confused

squoosh Tue 06-Aug-13 11:43:18

Throat clearing also irritates me, and people who say 'ahhhh' after every sip of tea.

I'm such a tolerant person. grin

ClockWatchingLady Tue 06-Aug-13 11:43:27

Not a bad idea oscar. Ear plugs; headphones and some music; pick-axe?

I just snorted into my coffee (<hypocrite>) that she might be a coke fiend. She appears to be virtually asleep.

All these points about the culture-specific nature of my gripe are making me feel more reasonable. I might deliberately work myself up again to justify going out to get cake.

Thank you, lovely people thanks. I'm off out for some lemon drizzle. (If they will insist on making me work under these horrifying conditions...).

crapartist Tue 06-Aug-13 11:49:17

These people deserve to die a slow and painful death.

Really Squoosh?

I have a eustacian tube dysfunction which means the tube behind my eardrum closes itself up, causing my hearing to go in one ear. The only way for me to open the tube to hear again (albeit temporarily) is to sniff. I can't help it, it's automatic, like swallowing.

Think before you say such nasty things please. People don't do things like this in order to deliberately wind others up.

Lottapianos Tue 06-Aug-13 11:59:47

I'm guessing squoosh's comment was meant to be black humour, not a serious threat of physical violence smile

But do you sniff all day long crapartist? Or just as and when you need to? If it's an occasional thing, I think that's fine - it's the people who have a cold or hayfever or whatever, who will sit all day and sniff, sniff, sniiiiifff, SNNNNNNIIIIIIFFFF who I get furious with.

crapartist Tue 06-Aug-13 12:06:29

Some days are really bad and it's pretty much constant and I feel so self conscious about it. Some days it's not too bad but it's always there to some degree.

No medicine will fix it, I've tried everything and the doctor is out of ideas too. So all I can do is bloody sniff.

ClockWatchingLady Tue 06-Aug-13 12:30:39

Hi crapartist. That sounds really difficult for you, to say the least. I hope today is a "not too bad" day for you.

UnexpectedItemInShaggingArea Tue 06-Aug-13 12:36:42

How was the cake? Has it dispelled any rage?

ClockWatchingLady Tue 06-Aug-13 12:46:37

The cake, Unexpected, was incredible. Thank you for asking. No lemon drizzle today, but a new (to me) Turkish syrup cake. I don't think I will ever be enraged by anything, ever again.

Lotta I have found, a daily, year round antihistamine, Flixonase spray and a salbutamol inhaler are finally improving things a bit. I still have flare ups though.
I've had it since I was a child and it's horrible, I've had surgery x2 and think I must have trialled every medication out there. Grim.

Lottapianos Tue 06-Aug-13 12:58:21

OK, will investigate, thanks! Is your antihistamine an over the counter pill?

mignonette Tue 06-Aug-13 12:58:56

That's ok Clock. I had a nervous sniff as a child and my parents subjected me to various surgical treatments such as nose cauterisations, adenoidectomy etc until it was realised what it was. My Father throwing his slipper/shoe at my head every time I sniffed didn't help much so I recommend you try not to do that grin....

I grew out of it after a couple of years but it was a miserable time.

yourcruisedirector Tue 06-Aug-13 13:04:15

[disclaimer: office-sniffer isn't me]

I was mortified the other day when a lady on the bus offered me a tissue - I didn't even realise I'd been sniffing, but I had. I said thank you and that my toddler had used up my supply, blew my nose, and then spend the remainder of the journey carefully and quietly not sniffing even though I desperately needed to. I even checked MN afterward to see if she'd posted about her rage. The shame, it stays with you...

Not sure I could cope with an entire day worth though. I experienced a similar rage with a strange girl who couldn't stop clearing her throat in the library during finals. I wanted to murder her.

I use fexofenadine which is really good, gps are crap about prescribing it thoughas its expensive.
Loratidine is OTC and effective I've found that to be ok, the non branded version is cheap and is non drowsy.

I only use the inhaler in the spring/summer months, it helps with the cough brought on by the drip and the hay fever. God I'm such a catch! grin

Lottapianos Tue 06-Aug-13 13:09:22

Yeah I know it's all pretty attractive stuff eh? wink Thanks

nennypops Tue 06-Aug-13 13:55:57

Can you get one of you moved to a different desk? Or can you suggest you work from home till the problem is sorted?

I had a mad hayfever sneezing fit on the train the other day and had run out of tissues. I was mortified as I just had to sniff. In the end I had to use my glasses wipe thingy to wipe my nose. I would have loved someone to offer me a tissue.

On the flipside when I was 8 months pregnant, my (lovely) colleague had a cold and he had done great big manly snorting sniffs for about 6 hours. The rage boiled up inside me until I shouted 'Stop sniffing. If you don't stop I will stab you with this scalpel and go to prison, and I DO NOT WANT TO HAVE THIS BABY IN PRISON'. He mentions it to this day (6yrs ago). Our friendship remained intact.

Good luck and I hope you get through the day. There is nothing worse.

ClockWatchingLady Wed 07-Aug-13 18:46:59

Thank you all for your excellent sniffer/sniffing stories, good humour & support yesterday.
Office sniffer has gone, but I shall be more understanding about both the sniffing and my own inevitable rage if she returns grin

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