TidyDancer's bridezilla thread part 3

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TidyDancer Thu 01-Aug-13 17:27:50

Here you go!

Beastofburden Thu 01-Aug-13 17:31:38


FruOla Thu 01-Aug-13 17:31:39

Have you responded to the sister yet, Tidy?

gaggiagirl Thu 01-Aug-13 17:33:16

Delurking to give you a supportive back slap.

georgedawes Thu 01-Aug-13 17:33:21

Have you replied?

Bowlersarm Thu 01-Aug-13 17:33:32


TidyDancer Thu 01-Aug-13 17:33:34

I haven't responded yet, but I absolutely will tonight.

It will be a measured and calm response. Need to set the record straight while remaining angelic and morally sound. grin

gaggiagirl Thu 01-Aug-13 17:33:53

Back PAT sorry.

thistlelicker Thu 01-Aug-13 17:33:59

Tidy! I missed
Your thread lol!!!

FruOla Thu 01-Aug-13 17:34:34


Sister?!! Where is old thread?

AlistairSim Thu 01-Aug-13 17:36:42

Could you link to the old thread, please?

I think I may have missed something vital.

TidyDancer Thu 01-Aug-13 17:37:31

First thread.

Second thread.

^ for the background

WhiteandGreen Thu 01-Aug-13 17:37:44


FruOla Thu 01-Aug-13 17:38:22

OK, this is Thread 2 www.mumsnet.com/Talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/1811064-TidyDancers-bridezilla-thread-part-2.

The sister emailed Tidy asking what was going on. I suggest you work backwards from the end of Thread 2!

FrancesDeLaTourCoughngIntoABin Thu 01-Aug-13 17:39:00

<leaps in with some sage, relevant advice>

youarewinning Thu 01-Aug-13 17:44:35

How sad am I? I did an advanced search to find a third thread blush

But glad that now means my place is marked grin

prettybird Thu 01-Aug-13 17:45:18

Awaiting agog grin

TidyDancer Thu 01-Aug-13 17:47:14

Okay to answer a couple of bits from the end of the second thread:

We had had no prior discussion about decorating the venue. Like I said, I'm an amateur artist and am competent (but in no way professional!) at interior design, but she had never mention me using this to help her.

I don't honestly think this was a great big plot she'd been planning for a long time, I suspect she just thought "oh fuck, I need someone to do the venue, oh Tidy is good at...." etc. Or at least that's what I hope.

Am also happy to be involved in some weird kind of glue sniffing zombie flashmob. grin

TidyDancer Thu 01-Aug-13 17:47:53


Areyoumadorisitme Thu 01-Aug-13 17:49:29

Sorry, just marking my place smile

thistlelicker Thu 01-Aug-13 17:52:44

When is the wedding again

Lora1982 Thu 01-Aug-13 17:56:44

Tut the reason the threads get filled is all this place marking!!

<marks place>

nannynewo Thu 01-Aug-13 17:57:20

Can someone in short tell me any updates please? I know the basic story that her friend gave her a save the date card then didn't invite her and no wants help decorating! I would read through the other two threads but there are 1000 comments on each and it would take forever! Thanks smile

Cookingmonster Thu 01-Aug-13 17:57:53

Definitely NOT placemarking. Just wondered if anyone would like some popcorn?

prettybird Thu 01-Aug-13 17:58:34

Simply put "...and she won't take no for answer" hmm

Betternc4this Thu 01-Aug-13 17:59:05

Ooh that's me staying in tonight then !!!!

sad cah that I am.

TidyDancer Thu 01-Aug-13 18:00:04

The wedding is in about three weeks.

Morgause Thu 01-Aug-13 18:00:12

That would be nice, thanks, Cookingmonster.

<certainly not place marking, just enjoying popcorn>

BalloonSlayer Thu 01-Aug-13 18:00:41

Well that's it in a nutshell nannynewo.

Except the friend doesn't seem to get why she has been rude, won't take no for an answer and has now got her sister to email Tidy to say she is "upset." grin

I don't know what your settings on MN are like but mine show the OP's posts as green. If you have that I'd suggest skimming through and just reading Tidy's posts which have the texts of the emails on them. And then join us all in breathless outrage . . . grin

nannynewo Thu 01-Aug-13 18:02:54

Thanks BalloonSlayer I will check my settings out too! Oh she sounds horrid! Looking forward to the updates, hope this doesn't make me a meany!!

SecondStarToTheRight Thu 01-Aug-13 18:06:29

Please can we have a resolution to this tomorrow - I go in holiday then for 2 weeks without Internet, and the suspense will kill me!

( not shamelessly place marking at all, no, definitely not!)

have caught up and still in shock

i think stating the facts to the sister is the way to go

TidyDancer Thu 01-Aug-13 18:11:32

Oh yeah, the sister is getting a rundown of the facts and that's it. I'm not going to say I'm upset or anything like that, I think I just need to let her know exactly what's happened.

I do wonder if she suspects bridezilla is being bridezilla-ish as she hasn't accused me of anything, she has just requested to know what is going in as her sister is upset about it. It didn't come across as having a tone about it. It makes me think that perhaps I'm not the only one who has been subjected to some unreasonableness during this wedding!

TidyDancer Thu 01-Aug-13 18:12:21

what is going on

Bloody iPad making me look bad!

scarletforya Thu 01-Aug-13 18:13:04

Tidy could you just reply to the sister asking what has Gluezilla told her?

Before you go explaining yourself to a stranger......!

ArrowofApollo Thu 01-Aug-13 18:14:10

toffee please, Cookingmonster grin

Dear Sister of Gluezilla,

Sorry to hear your sister is upset, however I am confused as to why.
I made it very clear from the outset that I was not available to decorate her wedding venue.
I had booked the day off when I received a save the date card as was under the impression I was invited to the wedding itself.
However when your sister told me I wasn't invited (totally her prerogative), I cancelled my day off for a time when I needed it.
It was only after she told me I was not invited she asked me to decorate. I am sure you appreciate that this was rather impolite especially as I would have to give up one of my days off and pay for childcare.
I wish you luck helping her find an alternative decorator. As far as I am concerned the matter is closed.
I really do hope she has a lovely day.



Dubjackeen Thu 01-Aug-13 18:15:15

I agree, OP, just a very factual email, and hopefully that will put an end to it. I cannot believe the bride's cheek, I think it is safe to say your friendship is over. You have been very dignified throughout. flowers I am guessing that the bride's sister was given a very different version of the story.

Groovee Thu 01-Aug-13 18:15:18

Nanny, friend emailed saying please let me know if you change your mind to help. Next thing Tidy knew, Gluezilla's sister had emailed wanting to know what was going on.

AncientPigeon Thu 01-Aug-13 18:15:26

Ive been following the threads and relaying it a bit to DH and even he's now coming in and asking if there's been any updates!

YouTheCat Thu 01-Aug-13 18:17:11

I am following with interest. grin

LittleBearPad Thu 01-Aug-13 18:19:20

Marking place as I can't believe this is still going on.

Picturepuncture Thu 01-Aug-13 18:20:03

I missed thread 2 but sounds interesting! Are you emailing or phoning the sister TD?

scarletforya Thu 01-Aug-13 18:20:04

I don't think you should explain yourself Tidy, turn it around and ask Gluezilla and sister to explain what is going on, or in the case of Gluezillas sister what she thinks is going on...

I wouldn't keep repeating myself and explaining over and over. I mean really, there comes a point where Gluezilla needs to explain HERself.

Also Gluezilla 'didn't think it was a big deal' about the decoration so why the hell is she now 'upset' ?

Put your foot down about this nonsense OP!

PerchedOnMyPeddleStool Thu 01-Aug-13 18:20:19

How many of you have an image of gluezilla?
In mine she has a crazed look in her eyes and flaring nostrils

Arrow's message at 18.14 is absolutely spot on. Clear, concise, no aggro or drama, no upset or indication that you're fucked off at all but very very clear as to why you won't help. Send that.

ooohh I'm getting married in about 3 weeks too. am I gluezilla?

no, no I'm fine. I haven't used any save the date cards, and not inviting many or disinviting any and the venue is decorating itself. I'm fine. as you were...

FruOla Thu 01-Aug-13 18:27:00

"^Am also happy to be involved in some weird kind of glue sniffing zombie flashmob"^

I'm tempted to join in grin

FruOla Thu 01-Aug-13 18:28:09

Oh damn, italics fail blush

TheDoctrineOfAllan Thu 01-Aug-13 18:30:09


pigletmania Thu 01-Aug-13 18:30:32

Just remember she is no friend, real friends don't treat each other like that!

IKnewHouseworkWasDangerous Thu 01-Aug-13 18:32:55

I second that arrow has it spot on. Calm, factual and unemotive.

Rooners Thu 01-Aug-13 18:33:16

Oh here everyone is! hello smile

BalloonSlayer Thu 01-Aug-13 18:34:13

I am not sure about all the "I cancelled the day off I had booked" stuff. Of course this may be the main reason for Tidy but I get the impression the main reason for declining is: "why do you think I must like you enough to do you a massive favour when you've just made it clear you don't even like me enough to have me at your wedding?"

I still quite like the idea of the simple

'it is never a good idea to show how little someone means to you just before asking them to do a massive favour'

clam Thu 01-Aug-13 18:38:43

Let's just hope that the sister doesn't make us all wait 3 days for a response.

<settles back with wine glass full>>

i also think sister hasn't got anything to do with it.

Strokethefurrywall Thu 01-Aug-13 18:40:39


Strokethefurrywall Thu 01-Aug-13 18:41:27

Looking forward to your response to the sister. Gives you a great opportunity to say what you need succinctly!

RenterNomad Thu 01-Aug-13 18:44:10

Let's hope the sister is a 'zilla chiller!

Blondeshavemorefun Thu 01-Aug-13 18:46:06

so now the bride adds her sister in- bet she didnt explain all what had happened

a polite concise reply like below should be enough

facts only

ArrowofApollo Thu 01-Aug-13 18:46:24

I mentioned the day off stuff to try and keep the emotion out of it, iyswim?
I assuomg tidy is employed (rather than self employed) and therefore has a fixed allocation off holidays.

CalamityJ Thu 01-Aug-13 18:47:28

Why get her sister involved? People who get other people involved in their arguments who have no reason to get involved do my nut in! Why can't she accept no means no? She's making it really difficult for Tidy to be her friend after the wedding. Even if Tidy hadn't received a STD (love that acronym!) card she is still entitled to say no, I'm not free that day, it's not convenient for me to get childcare. You don't have to do someone a favour if you don't want to! especially someone who's not a 'good enough' friend to make the shortlist!

ArrowofApollo Thu 01-Aug-13 18:48:10

But yes agree that the main reason is the lack of invite. I think TD needs to avoid any implication of sour grapes. we know it is not but the sister might conclude that.

TidyDancer Thu 01-Aug-13 18:50:02

I can't be sure that bridezilla actually knows her sister has emailed. This might be done without her knowledge.

CorrieDale Thu 01-Aug-13 18:53:36

You are going to include the bit about it not being a great plan to mightily piss someone off just before requesting a huge favour from them, aren't you? And I think that the save the date stuff is not just filler - surely it's the crux? Depending on the circumstances I might just help out a friend whose decorator had bailed on them even if I weren't invited to the do. It's the "I'm so great and my wedding's so special you need to save the date just in case you make the cut" that would have me seething!

shellbot Thu 01-Aug-13 18:53:37

Good grief just read the other threads and can't believe the cheek of some people. Definately put your side to the sister.

ApocalypseThen Thu 01-Aug-13 18:55:19

Well I'd say sisterzilla probably is sick to death of the wedding - I'd imagine someone as oblivious as gluezilla probably has situations on all sides. So I'd take that tone in reply - that you're confused about it all too. You got the STD and then no invitation, but then you're somehow decorating? Someone's got the wrong end if the stick somewhere, because as far as you're concerned, there was never any question of you going other than as a guest...

pigletmania Thu 01-Aug-13 18:56:08

Exactly balloon, she must be so self obsessed that people should want to do favours for her, even though she does not like them as much, just smacks I love myself so much. Tidy said in her first tread that she talked about te wedding a lot to people

scarletforya Thu 01-Aug-13 18:56:37

Agree with BalloonSlayer ^^

MrsKoala Thu 01-Aug-13 18:59:41

I agree Tidy, you'd have to be some kind of machiavellian master to have planned not to invite you but sent STD card to ensure your services were available. And i think if you imply that you are going to look a bit strange and narcissistic/paranoid.

Just plain facts. it needs no hyperbole.

pigletmania Thu 01-Aug-13 19:00:19

Exactly corrie bet she's one of those on Facebook who announces quite dramatically that's she's making a cull, and will you ake te cut, see you on the other side if you have, bad luck if you haven't, type things. The friends say pick me pick e in response to tat status. Tidys mum said that when they were younger brides ills was very self absorbed, nothing changes eh

pigletmania Thu 01-Aug-13 19:01:44

I did not not mention my wedding unless people asked me, towards the end I found it all just boring talking about it when asked

GoofyIsACow Thu 01-Aug-13 19:03:31

Tidy can I just say that I am very very pleased that you have started your second and third threads yourself, i have my settings so the OP's threads are green and I can easily scroll through for updates, so when someone else starts the next thads it really bugs me, so thanks for that!

In no way using this thin compliment to mark my place waiting for this crazy saga to unfold further


pigletmania Thu 01-Aug-13 19:03:56

Exactly those std cards sent to the 20 not invited we're to reserve the day so they can provide service to bridezilla, not as a guest

I think ArrowofApollo has it spot on.

Maryz Thu 01-Aug-13 19:05:44

I'm not place-marking either <lies>

Maybe just email the sister and say "I'm not sure why she is upset - she asked me to do the hall, but I don't want to" and leave it at that.

prettybird Thu 01-Aug-13 19:08:33

I'm supposed to be packing to go off to Ireland tomorrow for a cycle race that ds is doing. I've also got to make chocolate chip cookies to make (the kids have come to expect them hmm).

This is distracting me!!! grin

Ezio Thu 01-Aug-13 19:09:06

Ignore the friend from now on, factual response to the sister, thats all that needs to be said.

Gluezilla is starting to sound like a child begging its mother for a new toy.

RaspberrySchnapps Thu 01-Aug-13 19:10:56

TD I reckon you're right about the sister, she is getting grief from Bridezilla about all sorts of wedding related nonsense.

I picture Gluezilla as on of the women reclining on a windowsill on the unhappy hipsters website, ultra modern minimalist all very organised home, with a DH staring mournfully off a balcony, secretly planning escape or praying for death grin

Mia4 Thu 01-Aug-13 19:11:36

It sounds like your friendship with this woman may well be truly done Tidy-question is are you sad or relieved? I'm intrigued, do you know any of the others who received STD but no invites? What were their 'roles' in the brides eyes?

SarahAndFuck Thu 01-Aug-13 19:12:17

I still like Horry's suggestion on the second thread. Perhaps taking up, I think it was Diddl's suggestion, to not say "I'm sorry" at the start.

I would still take out the bits in the strikethrough and add in the bits in italics.

Dear Sister Of The Bride

I'm sorry to hear that Gluezilla is upset. I thought we had come to an understanding.

I really don't understand myself why Gluezilla is upset, so perhaps you could explain it to me.

She invited me to her wedding last year by way of a Save The Day card, and I made plans accordingly. I've since learned that I'm not invited after all, which I've accepted as I appreciate that every bride has budgetary constraints and family pressures that change over time.

What I didn't expect was then to be asked to decorate her venue, but still not be invited to share her special day as Gluezilla had never discussed this with me until X date. I'm afraid it's just not possible for me to help. I would have had to rearrange time off work (which I had cancelled once I knew I wasn't invited) and organise expensive childcare in order to do so.

I can't believe Gluezilla doesn't realise what an imposition this is given how thoughtful she normally is but maybe she will once she has children of her own. I simply can't help on this occasion.

Hope all goes well and look forward to seeing the pictures in due course.

Kind regards

And so would make the entire message read as follows:

Dear Sister Of The Bride

I really don't understand myself why Gluezilla is upset, so perhaps you could explain it to me.

She invited me to her wedding last year by way of a Save The Day card, and I made plans accordingly. I've since learned that I'm not invited after all, which I've accepted as I appreciate that every bride has budgetary constraints and family pressures that change over time.

What I didn't expect was then to be asked to decorate her venue, as Gluezilla had never discussed this with me until X date. I'm afraid it's just not possible for me to help. I would have had to rearrange time off work (which I had cancelled once I knew I wasn't invited) and organise expensive childcare in order to do so.

I can't believe Gluezilla doesn't realise what an imposition this is given how thoughtful she normally is. I simply can't help on this occasion.

Hope all goes well and look forward to seeing the pictures in due course.

Kind regards

Cookingmonster Thu 01-Aug-13 19:13:07

Definitely NOT placemarking. Just wondered if anyone would like some popcorn?

Cookingmonster Thu 01-Aug-13 19:16:25

DAMN! Thought I was good just lurking but accidentally reposted! I have Malteasers as well....

HepsibarCrinkletoes Thu 01-Aug-13 19:17:41


MrsKoala Thu 01-Aug-13 19:18:21

I think i would just answer 'i think it is rude to be asked to decorate for a party i am not invited to and therefore am not willing to do so.'

Sollers Thu 01-Aug-13 19:18:51

Yes, I like the Horry/Sarah response best. Send that.

BigW Thu 01-Aug-13 19:22:14

In no way should this post be viewed as place marking. As you were.

MrsKoala Thu 01-Aug-13 19:22:41

I would not say why it isn't possible to help - childcare/work - because thay implies that if these were not obstructing you you would be willing to do it. And she may then feel she wasn't tude and it's just convenience standing in your way. She may even offer solutions to childcare etc.

i think you need to say you wont do it because it is a plain rude expectation.

PeriodFeatures Thu 01-Aug-13 19:24:04

I really want Tidy to get back to sister and say...'um look i understand how important this is, i'll see what I can do'

string it out for about four days, get their hopes up and BOOM.. 'no sorry, it's absolutely impossible, I really have tried' grin

Gosh i'm horrible!

laeiou Thu 01-Aug-13 19:24:58

I think the response should be clear that gluezilla keeps asking, and keeps getting the same answer.

Witt Thu 01-Aug-13 19:25:45

I like the Horry response too

Thread three - this is the read that keeps on giving. TidyDancer, I think I love you!

BigW Thu 01-Aug-13 19:30:58

As far as I can make out from the sister's response, Gluezilla is upset not because she is worried that she has upset a lifelong friend, but rather that her decorations won't get done.

She's either a self obsessed meanie or...no wait...she's just a self obsessed meanie.

Ooh, I missed the sister bit, you will tell us what you reply won't you Tidy surely it can't just be you subjected to her bad manners and poor treatment!!

farrowandbawl Thu 01-Aug-13 19:38:14

Ooooh, let us know what you said won't you?

I think senua's response (on the other thread, so I will copy it here) is perfect:

Dear GlueSister

It is a shame that Gluezilla is getting herself upset over her wedding plans but it has nothing to do with me.

^She originally implied that I was to be invited to the wedding, but when the invitations went out I was not included on the list. I therefore conclude that I am not one of the 80 most important people in her life. Fair enough, that's her decision.
After demonstrating how little she values me as a friend, she then asked me to do her an enormous favour which would have been a big inconvenience to me. To compound the problem, the favour was in connection with the wedding to which I was no longer invited. So the request was both presumptuous and staggeringly insensitive.^

I declined. I never intimated that I would do it. I had to decline again because she kept asking (and therefore compounding the rudeness). It seems that she is now using you to ask, yet again.

The answer remains the same and will do, no matter how many times she asks. I would be grateful if you persuaded her that it would be a better use of her energy to ask someone else because I am not going to reconsider. She needs to change track, and fast, because the later she leaves it, the more difficult it will be to find someone.

Sorry that this is so long-winded but I feel that the family needs to hear my side of the story because GlueZilla does not seem to be taking my e-mails on board.



weisswusrt Thu 01-Aug-13 19:40:47

You know what would clear this up for all involved?? Sending links to bridezilla and sis-zilla! Doitdoitdoitdoit!

FriskyHenderson Thu 01-Aug-13 19:44:04

Just forward Gluezilla's email to the sister with the message

"This &#8595;&#8595;&#8595;&#8595;"

FriskyHenderson Thu 01-Aug-13 19:44:36

Oh bollox - those are downwards arrows.

I don't see why Tidy has to pretend she didn't mind being uninvited. I'd go with...

Dear sister,

I'm sorry to hear sister is upset that I won't decorate her wedding venue for free. She didn't discuss this with me earlier in the planning stages - perhaps she should have. She did, however, invite me to save the date for her wedding. I did so, only to be uninvited and then asked if I would decorate the venue for the invited guests regardless. That would be a no. There's friendship, and then there's being treated like a mug.

Yours etc.

Angelico Thu 01-Aug-13 19:45:24

Definitely not marking place, nope, not me wink

Since I am name checked already I have no qualms in jumping into this thread feet first.

Sarah's edit of my letter is excellent, although for strategic/political reasons I would be more bewildered and less shirty where possible.

And I've realised you can cite either time off work or childcare issues but not both...

SarahAndFuck Thu 01-Aug-13 19:50:21

I think the idea behind it is so Tidy doesn't look like she still wants an invite Longtalljosie.

Her perfectly reasonable decision not to help could be twisted to look like sour grapes or angling for an invite if she keeps mentioning it.

I think MrsKoala is right about the the childcare comments actually, so I'm changing my stolen from Horry suggestion again to:

Dear Sister Of The Bride

I really don't understand myself why Gluezilla is upset, so perhaps you could explain it to me.

She invited me to her wedding last year by way of a Save The Day card, and I made plans accordingly. I've since learned that I'm not invited after all, which I've accepted as I appreciate that every bride has budgetary constraints and family pressures that change over time.

What I didn't expect was then to be asked to decorate her venue, as Gluezilla had never discussed this with me until X date. I'm afraid it's just not possible for me to help for a number of reasons.

I can't believe Gluezilla doesn't realise what an imposition this is given how thoughtful she normally is. I simply can't help on this occasion.

Hope all goes well and look forward to seeing the pictures in due course.

Kind regards

all this childcare business is beside the point and actually just diverting attention from the rudeness aspect.

tidy is good enough to help decorate the hall as gluezilla's skivvy, but not good enough to go to the wedding.

and that is NOT ASSEPTABLE.

SlimePrincess Thu 01-Aug-13 19:57:06

Best thread EVAR!

ah x-post.

MrsKoala Thu 01-Aug-13 19:59:16

Yes Sarah/Horry - Mine would be slightly altered :

Dear Sister Of The Bride

I really don't understand myself why Gluezilla is upset, so perhaps you could explain it to me.

She invited me to her wedding last year by way of a Save The Day card, and I made plans accordingly. I've since learned that I'm not invited after all, which I've accepted as I appreciate that every bride has budgetary constraints and family pressures that change over time.

What I didn't expect was then to be asked to decorate her venue, as Gluezilla had never discussed this with me until X date. I'm afraid I am unwilling to decorate for an event for which I am not invited, so therefore have declined.

I can't believe Gluezilla doesn't realise what an imposition this is given how thoughtful she normally is. I simply wont help on this occasion.

Hope all goes well and look forward to seeing the pictures in due course.

Kind regards

CeliaFate Thu 01-Aug-13 20:08:39

This is immense! The saga continues...

fluffyraggies Thu 01-Aug-13 20:11:39

I've just sat and read through thread 1, 2, and this one tidy and i think you must reply to the sister with the same dignity with which you have replied to the bride.

Make sure the reply explains about the STD card and your hurt in a calm and sensible way. I cannot believe anyone who knows the facts of the situation could fail to see your point of view.

No need for wit or vitriol.

missimperfect Thu 01-Aug-13 20:15:54

I would just go with:

Hi sister-of-the bride, I am not sure why Bridezilla is upset as I never at any point discussed decorating with her or agreed to help! She asked me a couple of times but I told her straight away I wasn't able to help. So I really don't know why she told you she was relying on me. I guess she has a lot on her plate with the wedding plans.

To be honest I did say she was a bit insensitive to ask me as she had originally sent me a save the date card and I had thought I would be invited to the wedding. When it turned out I was not invited, I thought fair enough plans change and you cant invite everyone, the save the date cards were a bit odd, but never mind. But then to be asked to give up my time and sort out childcare etc to decorate for the "real" guests didn't appeal to me at all and hence I let her know I couldn't do it.

Anyway, I am sure you can sort something else out. There's always so much to do leading up to a wedding isn't there? I hope you have a good day.


BigW Thu 01-Aug-13 20:17:04

Dear Gluesister,

I am so sorry to hear that your sister is so upset about this. Hopefully I can fill you in on what's happened.

She invited me to save the date for her wedding back in June (?), which I did. I have to admit that I was a little surprised and quite disappointed given the length of our friendship, that a wedding invitation did not follow. As hurt as I was not to be included in her special day I resolved not to bear a grudge as I know how hard it can be on budgets when you are planning a wedding and I truly wish her well for her special day.

Imagine how I felt then when she thought it was ok to ask me to help her decorate the venue for a wedding to which I had essentially been disinvited. I understand that planning a wedding can be all consuming and I am willing to make allowances for that, but I think this request is one step too far. I'm sure you can see my point of view and I hope you will be able to explain to your sister so she is able to find someone in a better position to help than me.

I really hope the day goes well and Gluezilla is able to find the help she needs.

smile smile smile

TidyDancer Thu 01-Aug-13 20:21:22

"Dear Sister,

I'm not entirely sure myself why F is upset if I'm honest. All I can do is really explain my position and hopefully it'll make sense to you.

Your sister invited me and [DP's name] to her wedding by way of a Save The Day card, and I made plans accordingly. I've since learned that I'm one of 20 who received the original save the date cards and whom are not invited after all. I've accepted this as I appreciate that every bride has budgetary constraints and family pressures that change over time.

What I didn't expect was then to be asked to decorate her venue, as F had never discussed this with me before less than a fortnight ago and I'm afraid it's just not possible for me to help for a number of reasons. I'm not sure if you're under the impression that I had arranged to help F and then pulled out, but this isn't what happened. I truly had no idea she was going to approach me to do this until I received her email.

Your sister is normally so thoughtful, so I'm surprised she hasn't realised what an imposition it is. It's just too much I'm afraid and I simply can't help on this occasion.

Hope all goes well and look forward to seeing the pictures in due course.

Kind regards

TidyDancer Thu 01-Aug-13 20:22:42

That was my reply. Thanks to lots of you who helped, mainly Hoppy who I believe put together the main body of it. I have tweaked in a few places, but I am very grateful!

SarahAndFuck Thu 01-Aug-13 20:23:00

Have you sent it Tidy? I like it smile

SuperiorCat Thu 01-Aug-13 20:23:18

Wow, thread three on this and bridezilla still hasn't seen how rude she has been.

I like missimperfects reply. not place marking at all oh no

TidyDancer Thu 01-Aug-13 20:24:29

Yep, it's been sent. smile

TheDoctrineOfAllan Thu 01-Aug-13 20:27:47

Yay Tidy!

QOD Thu 01-Aug-13 20:27:50


HoikyPoiky Thu 01-Aug-13 20:29:09

Dear Sister of GlueZilla

I don't know what you have been told but at no point did I agree to help GlueZilla decorate the hall so I have no idea why she would be upset with me
I thought it was insensitive of her to ask me to do it considering that I am not invited to the wedding despite being sent a save the date card last XXXX
I have been clear about my position with her and i really don't want to discuss it any further

I hope everything is ok with you


(Short, unemotive and to the point)

snuffykins Thu 01-Aug-13 20:29:11

That's perfect.

HoikyPoiky Thu 01-Aug-13 20:29:34

Doh. Too late.....grin

SlimePrincess Thu 01-Aug-13 20:30:49

Classy reply once again, Tidy.

Do you think they'll get the message now?

nicely done tidy

if anyone responds now though making you look insane you should revert back to the glue comment wink grin

HoikyPoiky Thu 01-Aug-13 20:31:23


That is a great reply. You sound really sensible and level headed.

Great work grin

missimperfect Thu 01-Aug-13 20:32:08

Awaiting the next instalment then!! I wonder if the sister has been asked to sort out the decorating after poor Bridezilla was so upset and was trying her luck?
Are you really good at decorating Tidy? It's just hard to imagine why Bridezilla is still making a thing of it otherwise.

Sollers Thu 01-Aug-13 20:36:19

Well done Tidy! That was perfect.

MrsKoala Thu 01-Aug-13 20:37:17

Nice reply. I fail to see how this can be misunderstood or any offence taken, but then again i fail to see how you are even in this situation at all - so what do i know?!

FruOla Thu 01-Aug-13 20:46:46

Great. Hope that Gluezilla's sister now understands it from your POV - and gets Gluezilla to see sense!


flowersfortea Thu 01-Aug-13 20:49:15

well done Tidy, remaining very dignified in your replies to what must be an ever more irritating situation!

Excellent reply. blatant place marking


georgedawes Thu 01-Aug-13 20:51:27

Good reply wonder when she will get backto you?

EATmum Thu 01-Aug-13 20:53:06

Great response.

TidyDancer Thu 01-Aug-13 20:53:27

Thank you all. smile

You have put together the majority of responses for me, and I really appreciate it!

We shall see if anything comes from the bride's sister!

BigW Thu 01-Aug-13 21:01:27

Great response Tidy

knickernicker Thu 01-Aug-13 21:02:18

Bridezilla and Sisterzilla have not followed these threads,so whilst we're all full of righteous indignation we have to appreciate that they're coming at this from a different angle. I wouldn't be surprised if they both continue to be confused by the OP's reaction to the decoration request.

SlimePrincess Thu 01-Aug-13 21:08:27

I think so to. In their heads they are the centre of the universe and Gluezilla's wedding is the most important event mankind has ever born witness to. Therefore people should be falling over themselves for the honour of being a slave to Gluezilla.

Lazyjaney Thu 01-Aug-13 21:08:57

Time to bet on the next email.

I suspect sister has been given task of mediating to get the hall decorated or else they wouldnt have bothered replying to the last one, so I think there will be a re- bid, wonder what her offer will be.

Full points in the game are for getting a bridesmaid offer with dress paid for, but that would be a few emails away.

Here you are.

SmiteYouWithThunderbolts Thu 01-Aug-13 21:10:43

I cannot believe this is still ongoing! Ye gods and little fishes!

Well said Tidy. smile

Betternc4this Thu 01-Aug-13 21:15:02

Very good reply but saying I was looking forward to seeing the pics of a wedding of an alleged close friend who had treated me like this , would have stuck in my throat tbh. I wouldn't give them the satisfaction. But a very good reply and you have definitely come out the bigger person and kept the high moral ground.

Hope there's more or whatever will l do in the evenings now hmm

How many of you have an image of gluezilla?In mine she has a crazed look in her eyes and flaring nostrils

In mine she wears the face of my ex best mate (for whom I was bridesmaid) who morphed into such a fucking nightmare that the last day I saw her was "on this my special day ".

I don't envy you OP, but I admire your restraint. Given my time again, knowing what I know now, I might have opted to just stick the heid in ex best friends face when she asked me to bridesmaid angry

I have to go lie down now, all this has triggered my rage again...

ChasedByBees Thu 01-Aug-13 21:17:06

Oh good reply. I hope that she picks up how rude her sister has been to ask someone not invited to decorate the hall for those that are.

Do you think you'll stay friends? I think on thread 2 the door was still open.

Hoppy? hmm wink grin

Great response though. Good edits from posters upthread, very calm and polite all round.


youarewinning Thu 01-Aug-13 21:22:32

Great reply grin


Fuck knows what I meant to say there. Possibly something like "Fingers crossed it works."

Betternc4this Thu 01-Aug-13 21:22:45

Oh do tell Littlegrey you could provide our Bridezilla tales fix while we wait for next episode from Tiny

Not saying we've become hooked or anything you understand hmm

YoniRanger Thu 01-Aug-13 21:29:06

Shamelessly place marking.

I've never been or known a bridezilla so MN is my only peek into this strange world grin

LemonBreeland Thu 01-Aug-13 21:35:21

Wow I somehow managed to miss the second thread entirely.

I can't believe that this is still going on. shock

PurplePoppy13 Thu 01-Aug-13 21:38:02

marking my place

ratbagcatbag Thu 01-Aug-13 21:43:41

Checking in smile

ArkadyRose Thu 01-Aug-13 21:48:53

Don't mind me, just marking my place.....

ShellyBoobs Thu 01-Aug-13 21:50:19

I've never been or known a bridezilla...

I'm guessing no one thinks they were a 'zilla, Yoni.


magentastardust Thu 01-Aug-13 21:51:08

Great email. Look forward to the reply!

Ahhhcrap Thu 01-Aug-13 21:52:41

Great response Tidysmile

God, no. 6 years on and I could still write a thesis of ranting grin

Some women just utterly lose the run of themselves once they are "the bride".

wizzler Thu 01-Aug-13 21:54:22

Well done Tidy, you have maintained your dignity throughout

TidyDancer Thu 01-Aug-13 22:00:18

Oh man. Horry I'm sorry! My iPad is killing me tonight. Giving me appalling grammar and renaming you!

As an apology, you win the chance to decorate my wedding venue next year. It's such an honour you see....! grin

RandomMess Thu 01-Aug-13 22:00:28

Blimey Bridezilla clearly is a leetle bit crazy!

StrangeGlue Thu 01-Aug-13 22:00:49

Three threads! Three jeffing thread and glue-bride (aka wife of slyvians) is still to utter that most important of little words

... sorry.


Ezio Thu 01-Aug-13 22:01:01

Whenever i get married, my maid of honour, will be on strict instructions to slap me if i get precious or demanding, and she'd fucking do it too.

congresstart Thu 01-Aug-13 22:04:04

Why don't they all just get the hint and fuck off and take the wedding with them! seriously I think you need to start being less polite IMHO....this family just aren't getting it with politeness.

Catmint Thu 01-Aug-13 22:08:24

Tidy, you totally own that moral high ground! smile

uneedme Thu 01-Aug-13 22:09:07

Fantastic reply!

TidyDancer Thu 01-Aug-13 22:11:02

I am giving the sister the benefit of the doubt at the moment. I honestly don't know how much she is aware of. If she replies, I guess I'll find out. But right now I have to assume she's been lied to by bridezilla and doesn't know the full story.

I'm just waiting for MumoftheBridezilla to weigh in now, furious that Tidy isn't jumping through hoops for her princess on her special day.

FGetsMarried Thu 01-Aug-13 22:12:05

Hi TidyDancer
I have to say I am very upset that you have seen fit to share our little contre temps with so many people. I am also very upset that I am being called GlueZilla on this thread when as you know I only did glue a few times in school when everyone was doing it and lots of girls in the class did it a lot more than me.

As I said my sister and I are really confused about why you don't want to help me. I don't know what else you would be doing with your time as you don't even have to get your hair done or anything as you aren't coming to the Big Day.
Sorry about that by the way but if you can come along the day before and do up the venue I'll order you a pizza or something.

I am sorry you are being so mean spirited about this so I am going to get my mum to email you next. then there are some cousins and aunties who could harrass you on my behalf.

You cannot win, TidyDancer. I will make you do this.

Helpyourself Thu 01-Aug-13 22:16:18

Lovely reply.
Now, why is the bride called gluezilla?

RinseAndRepeat Thu 01-Aug-13 22:18:00

Perfect reply. Do let us know if sis gets back to you.


TidyDancer Thu 01-Aug-13 22:18:48

Helpyourself - the most popular/funny suggestion on the first thread was that I ask the bride "are you on glue?". Her moniker was born out of that. grin

clam Thu 01-Aug-13 22:19:36

Helpyourself Way back on Thread One, a poster suggested a reply to the bridezilla:
Dear Bitch
Are you on glue?
Love Tidy x

This has morphed into Gluezilla grin

Hello fgets are you a sock puppet?

mycatlikestwiglets Thu 01-Aug-13 22:20:59

grin love it FGetsMarried!

If you like my page on Facebook then I'll do it, Tidy.

(disclaimer for those who haven't RTFT: not actually my page on FB)

ImTooHecsyForYourParty Thu 01-Aug-13 22:23:43

grin Fgets. V funny.

FGetsMarried Thu 01-Aug-13 22:25:12

Why all this talk of sock puppets? We did consider them for the decorations (with felt eyes and wigs etc added, to look like me and my lovely hubby to be) but TidyDancer is the only person artistic enough to make them work and she is too selfish and lazy to help us. So we are just going to make huge posters of photos of us snogging and put them on all surfaces instead

Beastofburden Thu 01-Aug-13 22:25:41

Tidy can we all come and decorate your hall when you get married? You don't have to invite us to the wedding We will bring our own swans and laminated poetry.

onedev Thu 01-Aug-13 22:30:38

Very dignified response Tidy - no way could I have been so generous in my response had it been me! I certainly wouldn't want to see photos (except maybe on Facebook where I'd be hoping people had posted some hideous ones!) grin

ClaudiaWinklepants Thu 01-Aug-13 22:38:25

Excellent response Tidy. Wonder how long it will be til there is a reply. Hopefully the sister will be able to see reason, but then again everyone seems to go a little batshit when there is a wedding grin

IsotopeMe Thu 01-Aug-13 22:51:09

Have just read all three threads at work tonight. Great response, well done. Can't wait for the update!

Snort at horry's FB page grin

And at Fgetsmarried grin

Picturepuncture Thu 01-Aug-13 23:03:33

Great response, wonder when you will get a reply?

Areyoumadorisitme Thu 01-Aug-13 23:04:23

Well done Tidy. Hopefully the sister will actually 'get' the issue.

Caboodle Thu 01-Aug-13 23:06:45

Marking place and very much needing to know sister's response.....

HooverFairy Thu 01-Aug-13 23:08:49

Yes please Cookingmonster <gets comfy>

SanityClause Thu 01-Aug-13 23:11:30

You know, you can easily mark your place using the handy "bookmark" facility. It saves your place, and when you open the thread, it jumps straight to where you saved.

Caboodle Thu 01-Aug-13 23:12:50

Thanks Sanity

Mimishimi Thu 01-Aug-13 23:13:41

Your reply is very nice whilst conveying very clearly all the emotion felt at being asked to decorate but not to expect an invitation, and this happened to twenty other people too ;) There's no point being blunt and nasty to the sister as she may be fed up with drama herself and just wants to know what is going on.

hedgehogpickle Thu 01-Aug-13 23:23:03

Just caught up on end of thread 2 and this one......bloody hell!
Great reply Tidy - will be looking forward to any response from Gluezilla or her sister (as will DH who is currently shaking his head over this thread in disbelief smile)

Angelico Thu 01-Aug-13 23:30:53

You were extremely restrained Tidy - looking forward to seeing what happens next.

Mimishimi Thu 01-Aug-13 23:35:23

How many of you have an image of gluezilla?In mine she has a crazed look in her eyes and flaring nostrils

in my mental image of the bride to be, she doesn't look deranged at all. She has dark blonde hair, fair skin, slightly piggy looking eyes, a soft jawline, middling height and weight and even in her wedding photos looks very cool and 'efficient'. I thought the moniker came from the glue associated with decorating, not her sniffing it! Both are apt though grin

singmelullabies Thu 01-Aug-13 23:36:14

How do you bookmark, Sanity?

Does Horry's fb page remind anyone else of the creepy mouse taxidermy things from dinner for schmucks?

NadiaWadia Fri 02-Aug-13 00:25:43

Nice reply. But is Gluezilla really 'normally so thoughtful'? Or is that a dig?

Notafoodbabyanymore Fri 02-Aug-13 00:57:22

Horry that fb page made me giggle, as did the random use of "fingers".

I am quite childish.

Tidy I think your response was great and look forward to seeing if you hear anything back.

BeyonceCastle Fri 02-Aug-13 02:39:46

Now there was a time, when I used to say, that behind every glue bride there had to be a sane reason
But in these times of Zilla we know that it's no longer true
So I'm comin' out of my lurking 'cause there's something I forgot to say to you
I say, "Sister is doin' it for herself
Standin' on her own two feet ladder and decoratin' with twee bells
I say, "Sister is doin' it for herself

Now this is a song, to celebrate, the conscious saving of date just to decorate
Mothers, daughters and their daughters too
Bridezilla's asked them all cos she's high on glue
The inferior F she wants a new interior
She hurt Tidy Dancer, 19 others too

take a look around
Can you see, can you see, can you see a Mumsnetter right next to you

We say, "Sister is doin' it for herself
Standin' on a two foot ladder and decoratin' with twee bells
We say, "Sister is doin' it for herself... wink

Hello tidy
Good reply. Can't believe Sister has sent that mail - she must be being mithered by ZilliPish to sort out the deco/or guilt you into it.
gecko deco lizards the pair of them grin

Stay strong Luke Tidy and as Zammo and Gluezilla should have done, continue to Just Say No.

realizes noone born after 1986 will have the foggiest what I'm talking about

MrsKoala Fri 02-Aug-13 03:21:23


I once picked up Zammo's Ice cream which he dropped in the queue for the Cinema in Croydon. I handed it back to him and he said thanks. I know, I know 'why haven't i shared this vital info before'? you are all shrieking. But just for a while i wanted to be just like the rest of you ordinary people. I know now i'll never be truly as ordinary as you, but it was nice to be anonymous for a while. It's okay, you can still talk to me, just as a superior now. I'll always be fond of the little people.

GoodMorningMoon Fri 02-Aug-13 03:36:45

Amazing reply Tidy.

This is going to be a good read when I get back from holiday.

ah hell, no sense in packing a book

ArrowofApollo Fri 02-Aug-13 07:36:31

Great reply.
Awaiting response grin

GoodtoBetter Fri 02-Aug-13 07:39:20

great response.

FruOla Fri 02-Aug-13 07:42:41

It would be nice to think that the sister was as much in the dark about this as Tidy thinks she probably was. At least she'll look at Tidy's response with 'fresh eyes' and, hopefully, be able to talk some sense into Gluezilla.

<ARF> FGetsMarried grin

pigletmania Fri 02-Aug-13 07:50:07

Really tidy your too gracious. I would not want anything to do with bridezilla after this, let alone view her photos. She has shown that she does not value you as a friend, and does not really care about you, why would you want to know someone like that! I know yo have known her for a long time, but really even long term relationships break up! Move on

Wow Tidy you're reply was lovely, far more than glue deserved but I suppose you don't know how much the sister knows so perfectly worded for her.

grin Beyonce

ZillionChocolate Fri 02-Aug-13 08:01:41

What with this and the recent wedding cake thread, should Mumnset be publishing a book of wedding etiquette to rival Debrett's?

Good reply Tiny - clear unambiguous and (hopefully) final, and well done for asking to see the photos so we can play bingo with the decorations. I reckon a wishing tree/ well.

FrancesDeLaTourCoughngIntoABin Fri 02-Aug-13 08:05:05

Did you erally MrsK? And did he eat it off the floor??

diddl Fri 02-Aug-13 08:12:24

Well I've only just found you-& you're 9 pages in & the reply sent!

Where was my invitation-or even STD card??!!grin

I missed thread 2, but on tenterhooks for gluesister to reply!

KoalaFace Fri 02-Aug-13 08:26:00

Thread 3?! Wow.

I liked your reply! You could show the whole series of messages to absolutely anyone and not be embarrassed. I'll bet Gluezilla wouldn't. In fact she obviously was very vague with her sister or she wouldn't have had to email you.

If I was Gluezilla an really believed I was in the right I'd have shown DS the emails and said "isn't Tidy mean?" But se didn't because she knows!

Good reply. Marking my place on the new thread. Looking forward to the next instalment in gluezilla.

RappyNash Fri 02-Aug-13 08:30:02

Ooh, here we all are.

HolidayArmadillo Fri 02-Aug-13 08:40:59

I love this thread (s).

thistlelicker Fri 02-Aug-13 08:44:11

Ok I'm on nights and just off to bed! Op-very proud of the dignified stance and glad u won't be pressured into doing that gluey lady wants! Have a nice day I'm off to sleep:-)

Three threads - I am stunned :-)

Nice reply to the sister. Can't wait to see what (if any) reply you get Tidy.

Highly entertaining none the less.

flatmum Fri 02-Aug-13 09:01:15

any reply from sister? I have read all 3 threads and am still astounded someone would ask an old friend to decorate their wedding venue ie trust them enough for that but not invite then to the wedding, even just the evening. did she invite you to the hen do?

youarewinning Fri 02-Aug-13 09:05:49

grin * Horry fb page and Fgetsmarried - genius post!

DidoTheDodo Fri 02-Aug-13 09:06:59

I'm in!
Shameless place marking. Now off to read update.

AaDB Fri 02-Aug-13 09:12:56

Any more "glue is very upset nonsense" and I'd respond with another poster's comment about how rude it is to ask for a massive favour immediately after demonstrating how little the friendship means.

TweedWasSoLastYear Fri 02-Aug-13 09:17:46

Was the STD card sent out to other friends who could also be helpful in other weddding necessities? Like friend #3 who is handy with a camera , and friend #5 who is a dab hand with the Fondant Icing, plus friend #8 who has a naice car?
All your wedding 'essentials' covered by friends and acquaintences who have a free day as they were/are exspecting a formal invite to the wedding
Surely though, the STD card can't have been for the same day/date as the actual wedding ? The venue would need decorating the day before as there isnt enough time on the day itself.

I have been to a wedding where I didn't attend the ceremony , and cooked all afternoon for the guests . I was asked and was happy to do so , and got to enjoy the party afterwards , which was way more fun than the church bit.

Maybe Slyvian figurine based sock puppets could be placed in the church and the venue , peeping round pillars and out from behind flower displays?

Cuddlydragon Fri 02-Aug-13 09:20:42

Fabulous reply but I'd find it hard to resist linking the threads tbh.

IceNoSlice Fri 02-Aug-13 09:26:52

Tidy reply, Tidy.
I'll get me coat.

FruOla Fri 02-Aug-13 09:27:19

Tweed the STD cards were for the actual wedding itself, then 20 odd of them discovered that they weren't being invited after all - so, at the time she sent the cards out, it wasn't about expecting Tidy to be available the day before as well.

The request to Tidy only came a couple of weeks back.

YoniMatopoeia Fri 02-Aug-13 09:39:47

This is compulsive reading

( not marking place, oh no, not at all)

Pigsmummy Fri 02-Aug-13 09:51:14

Send some glue as a wedding gift?

Whathaveiforgottentoday Fri 02-Aug-13 10:03:54

just marking place
going away for the weekend so will have to wait until Monday to find out what happened.
nice reply Tidy

HMG83 Fri 02-Aug-13 10:09:19

Found you all!

Nice reply Tidy. I wonder what's being discussed between sister and gluezilla now?!

SerotoninCanEatTomorrow Fri 02-Aug-13 10:12:35

On tenterhooks right now - this could be the new obsession! grin

TweedWasSoLastYear Fri 02-Aug-13 10:13:32

Right , I get that , That was mostly Thread#1 wasnt it. Tidy was asked months ago to STD , expecting a formal invite to follow which never came

. Then Gluey wanted Tidy to book a day off work and pay for childcare ( nice double whammy of earning nothing and paying for childcare ) so she could decorate a venue for a wedding that she had effectively been uninvited to.

Now Gluey is upsetzilla and doesnt see any reason why and has got sisterzilla involved as well . in a nutshell.

mindyourownbusiness Fri 02-Aug-13 10:16:46

You're actually going away for the weekend Whathavelforgotten ???? hmm

Lightweight !!!! grin

DreamingofSummer Fri 02-Aug-13 10:18:16

Classy reply Tidy! Moral high ground held securely

FruOla Fri 02-Aug-13 10:27:03

blush Sorry, Tweed, I thought you meant did Gluezilla ask Tidy to STD, some months back, for the day before as well grin

Shamelessly marks place.

I like your reply to Gluezilla's sister.

fab reply tidy. well done. i really hope sister replies... i think it would be rather deflating if she doesnt!

anyone else hoping it reaches thread no.4? blush grin

ArkadyRose Fri 02-Aug-13 10:36:17

I don't know if anyone here follows the CaptainAwkward.com blog, but I'm thinking an African Violet would be the perfect wedding gift. grin

jamdonut Fri 02-Aug-13 10:46:09

This thread is the best ever!...waiting with bated breath!

chickenfactory Fri 02-Aug-13 11:25:15

Is gluezilla decorating her venue on the morning of her wedding? So actually 'help' decorate would probably have become 'you're doing a great job tidy, keep going, I'm just away to get ready'

Whathaveiforgottentoday Fri 02-Aug-13 11:28:17

mindyourownbusiness I know, quite reluctant to go in case I miss the reply from the sister. Do you think my DH will understand if I cancel so I can stay in and log onto Mumsnet every hour to see if there is a reply yet.

NatashaBee Fri 02-Aug-13 11:38:25


FunLovinBunster Fri 02-Aug-13 12:10:41

I didn't know cuntworm tendencies could be passed genetically.
I shall inform the Lancet immediately.

Good on you Tidy.

QueenStromba Fri 02-Aug-13 12:15:58

This must be the longest non-quiche thread ever at this point.

Is anyone else going to be really disappointed if the sister turns out to be sane and makes gluezilla apologise for being so rude?

LadyClariceCannockMonty Fri 02-Aug-13 12:23:03

'then there are some cousins and aunties who could harrass you on my behalf.' grin

Lovely response, Tidy.

Blondeshavemorefun Fri 02-Aug-13 12:43:15

perfect reply tidy to sister- dignified and precise

wonder if mother of the bride will reply next or even the groom grin

Trigglesx Fri 02-Aug-13 13:24:01

No, won't be disappointed if sister turns out to be sane and makes her apologise for being rude. After all, as much entertainment as it's provided, it's still something Tidy has to deal with IRL. So it'd be nice to see things smoothed over.

mistlethrush Fri 02-Aug-13 13:29:18

I wonder whether the Sister's thinking 'I thought that's what happened' now to herself... grin

I have a feeling that glue sister will probably just realised what gluezilla has done, but wont have a hope in hell of convincing gluezilla that she is in the wrong. The only hope is that she may show gluezilla what a twat she's been later on and gluezilla may apologise

SanityClause Fri 02-Aug-13 14:01:07

For the person that asked about bookmarking -

If you are on a computer, hover over the post you want to bookmark, and a box that says "Bookmark" will appear. Click on it, and it will show "Saving" and then "Saved".

If you are on the mobile site (not the app) the "Bookmark" box is at the bottom of each post.

I'm not sure if you can bookmark on the app.

What happens is that the next time you open the thread, it jumps straight to the bookmark. However, the bookmark does seem to disappear if you move backwards in the thread (to check previous pages).

It means you don't have to find something witty to say everytime you want to mark your place!

DameFanny Fri 02-Aug-13 14:13:17

Sister sounds nicer than bride to me. Could be the start of a much nicer friendship...

Why yes, I am placemarking, how could you tell?

FruOla Fri 02-Aug-13 15:34:29

I really, really, really want the sister to be nice and sensible - and talk some sense into Gluezilla!

ginslinger Fri 02-Aug-13 15:39:21

I have spent most of this afternoon reading all the way back through the threads. It is the best investment of time I've ever made.

WaitMonkey Fri 02-Aug-13 15:39:29

not marking my place at all

Talkinpeace Fri 02-Aug-13 16:10:39

threads like this are rather like the DM website.
We know we shouldn't but we just cant help ourselves grin

ThisLittlePiggie Fri 02-Aug-13 16:14:00

Delurking to say:

Brilliant post Beyonce

You made me teasplurt grin

DoudousDoor Fri 02-Aug-13 16:14:49

Does your DH knew her future DH? Maybe he'll get ropped into forcing asking you to decorate....

Inertia Fri 02-Aug-13 16:21:01

Good email Tidy- I think you are right to explain the facts clearly, because I'd put money on Gluezilla wailing to everyone she knows that you've let her down at the last minute.

SunnyIntervals Fri 02-Aug-13 16:25:39

Very good reply!

AncientCrone Fri 02-Aug-13 17:12:43

I am hoping the sister is quicker at replying than GZ.

I also hope that GZ has the mirror thread to this somewhere where a mad army of bridezillas are helping her compose replies to Tidy smile

RaspberrySchnapps Fri 02-Aug-13 18:12:38

imagining conversation this evening between Gluesister and Gluezilla and hoping its along the lines of
"is this true, what you have done to TidyDancer? have a word with yourself, you selfish, inconsiderate nitwit"
Gluezilla "you're right, but without Tidy to help decorate the venue, my wedding will be ruined. I may as well cancel"
Gluesister bitch slaps Gluezilla upside the head. Gluezilla decides to go ahead after all, but trails up the aisle with her dress caught in the back of her knickers grin.

IrisWildthyme Fri 02-Aug-13 18:39:01

nanny it's easy enough to get the updates, just click "show all messages" then use the "find" function in your browser to find the OP's posts. catching up takes all of 4 minutes.

Ok I have caught up!

I would be so tempted to offer the help, the pull out the day before! But I'm mean like that!

nannynewo Fri 02-Aug-13 20:17:51

IrisWildthyme Thank you!!!! I will try it out now...still getting to grips with all the technical stuff on this website! And there's me been scrolling down the whole time :P

spg1983 Fri 02-Aug-13 20:42:35

Love love love this thread - Tidy you have acted with such dignity throughout.

My prediction for the outcome of the email to Sisterzilla... Sisterzilla will agree that Gluezilla is being totally out of order and kind of suspected this, hence the email to Tidy to find out the full situation...but although she agrees with Tidy's reasons, Sisterzilla will still try to convince Tidy to help out "just this once" as maybe Gluezilla has been let down by someone else and is only acting like this because she's totally stuck and only the amazing Tidy can make things better, and then Gluezilla and Sisterzilla will promise to live Tidy forevermore.

I'm probably totally wrong but just thought I'd throw that one in there!

spg1983 Fri 02-Aug-13 20:43:22

Oops - love Tidy forevermore. Typing fail! smile

MammaTJ Fri 02-Aug-13 20:54:39

Wonder what the reply will be!

TidyDancer Fri 02-Aug-13 21:19:20

Hello all!

Thank you for the nice comments, you are all very lovely!

Just checking in to say nothing from the sister yet. Will let you know as soon as anything comes (if it does)! smile

nkf Fri 02-Aug-13 21:21:47

It will be awful if she does apologise and then asks her to decorate and then invites her to the wedding.

Cookingmonster Fri 02-Aug-13 21:22:43

Damn! Doesn't Sisterzilla know that there are about 9 million people waiting for her response? Some people are just plain selfish!

Sickofthesnow Fri 02-Aug-13 21:24:38

Been lurking on all 3 threads now and have to say the initial cheek from "Gluezilla" was one thing, but to get the sister messaging now is just nuts!

FruOla Fri 02-Aug-13 21:41:19

I hope suspect the sensible sister is currently giving Gluezilla a piece of her mind.

CamperWidow Fri 02-Aug-13 21:51:34

Come on glue-sister.......reply!!!!

tigerdriverII Fri 02-Aug-13 21:58:59

Gluezilla. Just the best monicker ever!!!!

CrapBag Fri 02-Aug-13 22:00:12

Damn the no reply, does she not know there are many random strangers waiting for an update this is in no way me marking my place grin

What if it turns out that sister has had major input into organisation of Bridezilla's wedding, and it transpires that she was the one who came up with the 'save the date' cards AND for Tidy to decorate the hall? So now Bridezilla has told sister to get things sorted with Tidy?? don't really think this is the case, just coming up with a few conspiracy theories to while away the time until the next update

pigletmania Fri 02-Aug-13 22:13:01

I think it would have been easier to tell bridezilla initially from the outset tat you could not decorate as you were busy that day

AaDB Fri 02-Aug-13 22:17:57

OP was only asked to decorate two weeks ago. This was after it was confirmed there would be no wedding invitation.

AnneofGreenFables Fri 02-Aug-13 22:29:09

I agree with spg1983 sisterzilla will agree that Gluey is mad as a box of frogs but still ask Tidy to please do it just this once etc

Stand firm, no decorating will take place

Now, now, I reckon Gluezilla's sister is obviously on MN and deliberately making you all wait for your update. grin

nilbyname Fri 02-Aug-13 22:58:58

I am on holiday now, and this thread is still demanding my attention! Go tidy tidy!

HoikyPoiky Fri 02-Aug-13 23:24:26

What's with all the parties in this saga taking so long to reply to one another's texts and emails. confused. I know Tidy deliberately kept GlueZilla waiting but in my world people usually respond very quickly?

Its weird.

pigletmania Fri 02-Aug-13 23:26:59

Not everyone hoiky

Great reply Tidy but I'll bet you'll just get another long winded explanation of why you weren't invited.

Gluezilla has missed the point spectacularly, we've no reason to suspect sister has any more sense we can hope not! wink

bringthethunda Fri 02-Aug-13 23:50:37

Tidy for president!

TidyDancer Sat 03-Aug-13 00:57:25

OMG I actually love you all. grin I can't believe you're all still with me through all of this, but I am very appreciative. It's could easily have upset me but you've all made me laugh so much I haven't even been particularly sad about it beyond the initial reaction!

Tbh I quite often take a long time to reply to emails. Texts I reply to straight away, but emails take me longer. I didn't think it that unusual that gluezilla and her sister are similar but maybe I'm wrong?

And FYI, I accept nomination for president and will be campaigning for regular zombie flashmobs and sylvanians themed picnics on the White House lawn. grin

Notafoodbabyanymore Sat 03-Aug-13 01:12:49

Glad all of our silliness has helped distract you from what could have been a very hurtful time. smile

HilariousLotus Sat 03-Aug-13 07:55:13

I have to say you have had some cracking threads in the past like the takeaway one but these wedding ones make me laugh If the sister replies and thinks you should still help I vote we send man with straight jackets and a padded van round smile

mindyourownbusiness Sat 03-Aug-13 08:25:58

Definitely Whathavelforgotten and if he objects just LTB.


DidoTheDodo Sat 03-Aug-13 08:49:04

May I just say I am proud to be a part of these threads and will be putting it prominently on my CV.

Come on Sisterzilla, Gluemum, Stickyaunty or any other family members who wish to get involved....

HoikyPoiky Sat 03-Aug-13 09:44:19

I guess I am forgetting. blush If you have little DCs and/or you work then you can almost literally not get a moment to yourself so I shouldn't be suprised that people don't answer texts and emails quickly. I always have my smart phone with me so tend to keep on top of things but I know not everyone can do this.

FruOla Sat 03-Aug-13 10:04:12

I like your conspiracy theory EachAndEveryHighway grin

TidyDancer Sat 03-Aug-13 10:04:39

I can only speak for myself, but generally if something is not really urgent and necessitating a reply straight away, I won't give it immediate attention. I have an iPhone and iPad, but I won't drop everything to reply to an email when I have other stuff I'm already doing. smile

Not sure about bridezilla and sister though!

QuintessentiallyOhDear Sat 03-Aug-13 10:11:15

Tidy, thank you for your predicament. wink

It was a lifesaver to log on last night to see your third installment, it was 2 am my time, and dh was still not home from mountain biking in the mountains. It took my mind of it. In fact your thread has possibly prevented me from mobilizing the police, red cross and a helicopter or two, needlessly. In fact, your thread has saved Norway gazillions in unnecessary rescue costs. Thank you.


MintyChops Sat 03-Aug-13 10:23:47

No!!!!! Just found this yesterday and have spent all evening, late into the night and this morning catching up. Tidy you are a model of restraint, HOW did you resist sending "Dear Bitch, are you on glue?".

I'm betting as well that the sister will come back all reasonable and oh yes Tidy I understand but the pressure The PRESSURE of being sent to Betty Ford of the wedding has unhinged Gluey, please help just this once, etc etc.

toldmywrath Sat 03-Aug-13 11:04:53

Quint It seems that not only is Tidy keeping us all enthralled but now she is performing potential sterling economic work for the Norwegian govt.

QuintessentiallyOhDear Sat 03-Aug-13 11:16:25

She is a true secret hero, undercover international economic restraint officer. grin

comingintomyown Sat 03-Aug-13 11:32:00

I have to say I almost found myself asking Is Tidy being a bit mean here such is the power of Bridezilladomn grin

Well lets see what the sister has to say about it all , she may be suffering at the hands of F as well

laeiou Sat 03-Aug-13 13:14:26

I hope that sister replies saying she didn't know what had happened, blah blah assumed you pulled out of attending and sister was upset about a good friend not attending, apologises on behalf of gluey and leaves it at that. However, I think sister probably knows that you aren't invited and that the upset is related to you "being essential" to gluey having the princess-for-a-day wedding she has always dreamed of.

If sister asks you to reconsider decorating will you stand firm? I think your explanation to sister was fab and should be quite enough, but I suspect it won't end here.

Beastofburden Sat 03-Aug-13 13:52:42

You do realise that one day gluezilla will get married and it will all be over. We need a contingency plan,,,,

Anything yet?

MrsKoala Sat 03-Aug-13 14:26:52

Gluebaby baby shower. Gluebaby naming ceremony. I think it may become a franchise.

Altho i jest, but sadly given the increase of these threads and the recent Wedding invitations i have received, i don't think we will ever be without wedding behaviour astonishment.

TidyDancer Sat 03-Aug-13 14:40:22

Nothing yet.

Keep your fingers crossed! grin

I'm hoping gluezilla sister is giving her an earful about how she has treated Tidydancer.

onedev Sat 03-Aug-13 15:46:09

I don't think the sister will reply as she's not likely to bad mouth her sister, regardless of what she thinks & certainly not in an email, so what can she say.

Hopefully she'll have spoken to get sister though & explained just how out of order & hurtful she has been.

Bullygirl Sat 03-Aug-13 15:51:01

Am loving this one. Everyone is so funny and so supportive. Tidyyou are one classy lady. And BeyonceCastle funny and clever lyrics. And Jim I'm not sure I'm ever going to be able to look at a Sylvanian Family toy without smiling to myself about a certain Gluezilla again. Hoping that sisterzilla is sane.smile

SilverOldie Sat 03-Aug-13 16:49:11

Wanders in, no reply from Gluezilla's sister, wanders out again.

Not marking my place, oh no.

qazxc Sat 03-Aug-13 17:16:47

Any word? How rude! does she not know we are all lurking waiting for a response or an email from parentzillas as to why mean tidy is upsetting their little princess.

laeiou Sat 03-Aug-13 17:28:01

I think gluey and sister are thinking about how to respond in a way that gets Tidy to do the decorating.

Gluey favours a "how dare you refuse, you're lucky to be involved" approach.
Sister will seem apologetic but will lay on the emotional blackmail.
Both want Tidy to decorate.

shellbot Sat 03-Aug-13 17:30:17

I think sister will come back and try to guilt trip you into doing the decorating. After all it's bride's big day and you don't want it to be spoiled do you etc etc.

Here's hoping that you stand firm if she does.

Sister77 Sat 03-Aug-13 18:14:24

Place marking! Or making place settings for gluezilla!

TidyDancer Sat 03-Aug-13 18:21:40

No nothing yet.

I really couldn't tell from the sister whether she was genuinely asking what was going on, or if it was more of knowing the story but not believing how selfish I was blah blah blah.

DevastatedD0G Sat 03-Aug-13 18:23:01

<<Shamelessly marks place>>

Wanders out

TeWiSavesTheDay Sat 03-Aug-13 18:24:53

It's a weird one. You really can't tell from the email whether she's fishing with bias or without.

It's going to be very awkward for her if she decides she believes you, because that means acknowledging her sister is being a dick though...

I hope you get an understanding reply.

TidyDancer Sat 03-Aug-13 18:27:44

Yeah that's the trouble TeWi. I have no idea what kind of reply I could get regardless of how she feels. I suspect that if she understands how badly her sister has behaved, she won't reply. Which is annoying, obviously!

We shall see!

laeiou Sat 03-Aug-13 18:35:38

Maybe they're looking into other options for the decorating before they decide how to reply.

I hope you get an apology.

FruOla Sat 03-Aug-13 18:36:52

Despite the fact that this has been a most bizarre and unpleasant episode for Tidy (which hasn't finished yet anyway), I'm beginning to think that the poor, but hopefully, sensible sister is actually stuck in a far worse place than Tidy is now.

Pobblewhohasnotoes Sat 03-Aug-13 18:42:12

Also shamelessly marking place...

PeriodFeatures Sat 03-Aug-13 18:50:09

Please can you email her and say actually you will do it...then perhaps pull out in a few days?

What you could do in this time is suggest some really outlandish and bad taste decoration styles. Turn up with some objects you are going to use for decorations and leave them in gluezillas house? We could all perhaps help you with those ideas?

It would really help me. This is the most entertaining time off work i've had in a really long time grin

sorry i'm evil

FunLovinBunster Sat 03-Aug-13 19:05:06

I too think you should cave in and decorate.
By staging a dirty protest all over the wedding venue.

MintyChops Sat 03-Aug-13 19:11:37

Bunster, what about a mumsnet flash-mob dirty protest?

BurningAsh Sat 03-Aug-13 19:17:39

Saw Sylvanian's whilst shopping yesterday and started imagining them in a wedding venue

PeriodFeatures Sat 03-Aug-13 19:20:06

What about a mumsnet flashmob sylvanians protest smile

TidyDancer Sat 03-Aug-13 19:22:25

Can we get adult sized sylvanians costumes?

Happy to bribe DP to join in. grin

FunLovinBunster Sat 03-Aug-13 19:22:44

A MN flashmob dirty protest, with Sylvanians stuck in our shit, please Madame TidyDancer.
I'm in.
Who else??

SlimePrincess Sat 03-Aug-13 19:28:51

I think we can. We might need to look on websites catering to furries and otherkins and wossnames. But I'm sure we could get them grin

SlimePrincess Sat 03-Aug-13 19:31:05

I'm in FunlovinBunster! I think we should be gangsta sylvanians though.

TidyDancer Sat 03-Aug-13 19:32:13

See, in my head we wouldn't just randomly show up on the day, we'd do it in shifts. In the days leading up to the wedding, adult sized Sylvanians would start appearing in odd places the bride would be in. Pulling up next to her in traffic, sitting in the waiting room at the hospital she works out of, illuminated by a street light outside her house at night, etc. grin

Talkinpeace Sat 03-Aug-13 19:34:54

Oh god, I must have drunk too much
a MN flashmob seem so UTTERLY beguiling
we've got 2 weeks to get the tune and choreography sorted
but "put a ring on it" and "stronger" spring to mind

Snapespeare Sat 03-Aug-13 19:37:05

'And FYI, I accept nomination for president and will be campaigning for regular zombie flashmobs and sylvanians themed picnics on the White House lawn'

On the basis of this <delurks> I would quite like to get married in 2016, I think your zombie flashmobs and sylvanian families would be absolutely appropriate for the tone of my day and would the like you to STD (which I always read as 'sexually transmitted disease') for the whole of 2016 (well maybe just July and November)

You are a star OP.

normaleggy Sat 03-Aug-13 19:40:24

I would never be so crass as to post a comment just to mark my place.


Cerisier Sat 03-Aug-13 19:40:25

Another one hoping for a response from the sister. You never know it could even be an apology...

If she's a relative of Gluezilla, I doubt it.

RenterNomad Sat 03-Aug-13 20:30:45

You never know: the sister might be driven to madness by Gluezilla, too, such that their shared blood will melt into water and allow her to join in with the Sylvanian madness, too...

MintyChops Sat 03-Aug-13 20:40:52

I'm in but will need to get some Sylvanian thingies and FILTH them

(worries about self)
(pours more wine)
(feels better)

magimedi Sat 03-Aug-13 20:44:33

I am up for being a Sylvanian & might even go so far as to NC to a bit of Silvania!

(But I am taken with wine atm. )

FriskyHenderson Sat 03-Aug-13 20:54:48

I fear it's a fine line between Sylvanian bunny outfits and the Donnie Darko rabbit nightmares grin

SlimePrincess Sat 03-Aug-13 21:23:25

O yeah! Was that bunny called Frank? Or is that just my imagination?

Geographically, I'm out of the Sylvanian plan. sad

SanityClause Sat 03-Aug-13 21:49:30
TidyDancer Sat 03-Aug-13 21:58:24

Close enough Sanity. I want the crocodile!

Nadalsballs Sat 03-Aug-13 21:59:25

Shamelessly marking my place with baited breath! Go tidy!

IceNoSlice Sat 03-Aug-13 22:06:14


Quidgetmidget Sat 03-Aug-13 22:14:11


PerchedOnMyPeddleStool Sat 03-Aug-13 22:15:21

Giant sylvanians.
I'm scared...

Also laughing my head off at the idea grin

Baggsy me to be Mrs Weasel smile
I like your plan, it has whimsy and bonkersness in equal measure.

fuckwittery Sat 03-Aug-13 22:35:03

Marking place for sister reply, just read all three threads!

pointythings Sat 03-Aug-13 22:57:41

Just caught up on these threads, and am gutted the lobster costume won't fit me as I'm too tall. sad

Tidy you should not only be President, you should also be God(dess).

ChunkyChicken Sat 03-Aug-13 23:03:57

Feel like I should defend myself whilst I de-lurk/mark my spot...

I did use STD cards BUT appropriately.

I did have someone not invited decorate the venue BUT she volunteered. And I sent a proper thank you note etc.

I did go on Confetti & Hitched or whatever sites BUT hopefully retained my sense of perspective & gaffawed at many of the bizarre ideas. Like spending £90 on a tiara to wear in my hair for 1 day when one from Claires or Accesorize worked as well... And NEVER went on the forums.

Oh and one of my friends who had been asked to do a reading dropped out on morning of the wedding sad


<gets comfy awaiting further developments>

WherewasHonahLee Sat 03-Aug-13 23:28:11

I'm worried there will be no further response from either GlueSniffer or her sis, and then where will that leave us?

I've lurked long enough. Well done Tidy. smile

FunLovinBunster Sun 04-Aug-13 00:04:13

STD cards
Who the fuck does this?
(Apart from my DB and his now Chavzilla wife.
Not only did they do STD cards.
Their invites had the wishing well poem/demand for cash.
They got married in a hotel that closely resembled Crossroads Motel.
And don't get me started on Chavzilla's bridesmaid dress hysterics involving my DD...)
Hate weddings. Should have arranged MN sylvanian dirty protest flashmob for theirs too...
In fact MN should outlaw STD cards. Punishment for breaking this rule is MN dirty protest Sylvanian flashmob...

Ezio Sun 04-Aug-13 00:20:35

Im so glad my sister wasnt a Bridezilla, she was getting bored of her own wedding before it even happened.

bringthethunda Sun 04-Aug-13 00:38:29

Just back from my first night out without baby (after 8 months) and not sure if it's the drink but the updates re sylvanian families have me pissing myself laughing. I see it as a Swedish kind of film noir, shot in black and white, and the smell of superglue and rage pumped into the audience for the whole experience

WhiteandGreen Sun 04-Aug-13 01:23:16

And we're accusing these people on Confetti of being maniacs confused

Notafoodbabyanymore Sun 04-Aug-13 04:22:44

Tidy, your idea is hilarious. I've just been giggling away to myself imagining her going about her daily business surrounded by life-sized sylvanians, wondering wtf is going on.

Thumbwitch Sun 04-Aug-13 04:46:28

Found you! Wondered what was happening...

SlightlyItchyBraStrap Sun 04-Aug-13 06:29:55

So glad I finally figured out how to highlight the ops posts! Makes it a lot easier keeping up with LOTR trilogy sized threads like this.

FiftyShadesofGreyMatter Sun 04-Aug-13 07:44:32

Delurking to wait with bated breath for a reply, come on sisterzilla!

Nothing to do with place marking, as if I would!

ArrowofApollo Sun 04-Aug-13 07:49:16

I used STD cards but it was because most people were travelling at least 2 hours to get to the wedding venue (in the city near where DH and I lived) and we wanted to make sure that our closest friends and relatives could definitely make it - we actually changed the date by a week to accommodate my Uncle and Aunt because it was important for me to have him there. And I had to arrange accommodation for everyone as I managed to negotiate a big discount rate at a nearby premier inn.
it was important to me to take as ,much stress out of going for my guests as possible as if they were having a good time so were we.
I did ask for Argos vouchers though but there was no poem grin and everyone got individual thank you letters no matter what they gave. I was actually astonished at how generous people were. only 2 people didn't give vouchers, they both brought a lovely gift which we grateful for. Tbh I don't get offended by wish lists or asks for cash and vouchers, frankly it makes it easier for me and I only spend what I can afford.
I think it is telling that 10 years on I still have friends and family tell me how ,much they enjoyed our wedding smile

CamperWidow Sun 04-Aug-13 08:55:00

Shamelessly marking place. Come on....reply damn you!!!

I used STD cards but it was 6 years ago and we got married on a Friday which was virtually unheard of then.

helenthemadex Sun 04-Aug-13 09:55:52

I cant believe she is keeping us waiting, so inconsiderate

TidyDancer Sun 04-Aug-13 10:52:25

Afraid to say still nothing wrt a reply. sad

The suspense is a killer!

LisaMed Sun 04-Aug-13 10:57:21

Gluezilla's sister may be too embarrassed to ever reply.

FruOla Sun 04-Aug-13 11:00:46

I fear you might be right Lisa. Or maybe she's trying to persuade Gluezilla to apologise to Tidy?

if I were gluesister I'd at least try to cover with a 'I must have gotten the wrong end of the stick, sorry to bother you tidy' email.

clam Sun 04-Aug-13 11:15:16

I wouldn't be expecting a reply to be honest. She asked what was going on; you told her. End of story.

MintyChops Sun 04-Aug-13 11:24:32

If Gluezilla's sister doesn't reply then it's clear that rudeness and twattery run in the family.....

Mimishimi Sun 04-Aug-13 11:25:22

I wouldn't be expecting a reply to be honest. She asked what was going on; you told her. End of story.

Sadly I agree with this. Sigh...they'll hire someone to decorate ... but they might try to hit up the other STD non-invitees for freebies nonetheless. Might be worth getting the word out..

RenterNomad Sun 04-Aug-13 12:57:08

" If Gluezilla's sister doesn't reply then it's clear that rudeness and twattery run in the family....."

Not sure about this! The sister, if she agrees with Tidy, is in an awkward position, and it might be least-said-soonest-mended for her to just shut up or, at best, tell Gluezilla off privately but not humiliate her publicly on MN.

MintyChops Sun 04-Aug-13 13:46:33

Well the sister has involved herself in what she knew was a situation which had upset Gluesilla. I think Tidy's email to her deserves some sort of response if only to say something like "Oh, sorry, sounds like something you and Glue need to sort out". To ignore it would be twatty and rude IMO.

Beastofburden Sun 04-Aug-13 15:21:11

Hehe yes we can have a franchise mrsK. Gluezilla honeymoon is the place to start. Will join in the sylvanian stalking, not dirty protest tho, too much like home life.

I think glue siblings are trying to see if they can find someone else to decorate, before deciding how much they need to grovel to tidy.

Neighbourhoodwatchbitch Sun 04-Aug-13 16:01:09

I'm so desperate for the sister to reply...!

This better than eastenders!!!!

Notafoodbabyanymore Sun 04-Aug-13 16:04:39

I really hope this works...

Think this is the guy we need

Notafoodbabyanymore Sun 04-Aug-13 16:05:32

Yay!!! Did my first linky thing on my phone!

mindyourownbusiness Sun 04-Aug-13 16:31:33

Notafoodbabyanymore please do not start another post with the word 'Yay!!!!'

I have just leapt out of another thread thinking 'Oh yes, this is it, ere we go then, Sisterzilla has replied'

Only to find it's you jumping up and down about a linky on your phone.

<skulks back out of thread>

mindyourownbusiness Sun 04-Aug-13 16:32:40

grin - sorry forgot to insert one of these to indicate non arsey post.

Notafoodbabyanymore Sun 04-Aug-13 16:53:30

Haha... sorry, mindyourownbusiness . Can I call you Mindy for short? Small things amuse small minds and it's late at night here. Didn't mean to raise false hopes.

<hangs head in shame>

mindyourownbusiness Sun 04-Aug-13 17:07:11

I'll let you off seeing as it's you!! Yes 'Mindy' will do fine l been called worse on here grin

Notafoodbabyanymore Sun 04-Aug-13 17:26:41


IceNoSlice Sun 04-Aug-13 20:21:01

Careful, someone called someone a 'Mindy' the other day when they meant 'Wendy'. You don't want people to think you're a Wendy!

RenterNomad Sun 04-Aug-13 20:49:04

Minty, that would indeed be a good response by the sister. Very tactful! Not sure we can know she's that smooth-tongued, though, which us a great pity. Don't suppose you're up for a spot of sock-puppeting? grin

NamelessMcNally Sun 04-Aug-13 21:40:02

My poor weans are running feral - found this thread today and kind of inhaled the whole thing whilst ignoring them. Oops.

Tidy - could you send an email to gluesister along the lines of "Well, do you really intend to make no comment". Cant face this being the end.

Off to confetti.

poorbuthappy Sun 04-Aug-13 21:51:15

Bollocks no reply yet?
Although I doubt the sis will reply...cos if i was her, i would be bollocking my gluezilla of a sister to next week and back for being so damn rude.

Ah well at least I've marked my place.

2rebecca Sun 04-Aug-13 22:12:49

She might not reply.

gutzgutz Sun 04-Aug-13 22:47:04


ScrambledSmegs Sun 04-Aug-13 23:23:38

I doubt she will reply. If she's taken this long to respond then I think Tidy's instincts are correct - there won't be a response as she knows her sister has been overcome by the wedding crazies.

MintyChops Mon 05-Aug-13 00:00:03

Sister won't reply........or will she?

(Wishes knew ins and outs of sock puppetry as might make the waiting fun...... Casts glance at Renter)

thistlelicker Mon 05-Aug-13 01:56:16

Still waiting for sister reply?

Tortoiseonthehalfshell Mon 05-Aug-13 02:26:16