DH's reaction to my hairdo.

(32 Posts)
FlatsInDagenham Thu 01-Aug-13 16:41:02

He didn't mean to be mean. But just when I was feeling a million dollars after a fairly radical colour change ...

Me: "?"
DH: "It looks exactly the same!"
Me (stepping out of shade): "?"
DH: hmm
Me: confused
DH: "Oh yeah, the colour's different. But what about... did you have the car window open while you were driving?"
Me: sad and angry

Grr! Do I ignore and continue to feel a million dollars or do I rush back to salon in tears?

thebody Thu 01-Aug-13 16:43:08

I am sure you look fantastic. my dh and grown up dss wouldn't bat an eye lid if I dyed my hair green I think.

now dds can spot an eye brow wax at 10 paces.

Cluffyflump Thu 01-Aug-13 16:46:10

I don't think the salon can do much for your DHs plonkernes...

You have eyes and saw that your hair looks good, so i would go back to swishing your hair and feeling great smile

runningonwillpower Thu 01-Aug-13 16:46:45

Ignore every time.

Mehrida Thu 01-Aug-13 17:13:39

Do you trust your DH's views on womens fashion more than your own? If not, then ignore him and dine our on it for months, or until next time...

JamieandtheMagicTorch Thu 01-Aug-13 17:15:17

But salons always fart about with "product" in the way you can't really re-create at home, so is he responding to that, rather than the cut itself?

ZingWidge Thu 01-Aug-13 17:15:32

LTB

runningonwillpower Thu 01-Aug-13 17:20:14

On reflection....

.........ZingWidge is right.

emuloc Thu 01-Aug-13 18:27:18

My H would not notice if I did something different with my hair. Like most guys I think.

Euphemia Thu 01-Aug-13 18:29:45

DH is clueless about hair, but he has the good sense to say nice things on the day he knows I've been to the hairdresser's! smile

Mrsrobertduvall Thu 01-Aug-13 18:39:22

Dh is the same.
I had mine cut/regrowth coloured today. Nothing radical, but about 1 inch shorter and drastically thinned out.

Dh comes in and says " have you been?"

I just bent down to show him the lack of grey grin

He is bald. No idea about hair.

motherinferior Thu 01-Aug-13 18:41:52

I think as a general rule straight men only really notice your attire/appearance if you are wearing a miniskirt and stockings. Possibly if you have long hair and chop it all off, on a good day. Or clown makeup.

Or you could LTB, of course.

GrumpyRedhead Thu 01-Aug-13 19:45:15

I had almost waist length hair cut up to my shoulders, DP didn't notice grin

TBF, I don't always notice when he's had his hair cut either!

DH got smart and started to take notice of my hair appointments written on the calender so he would say "your hair looks nice" (whilst probably wondering what is different).

I had to laugh the week he said this but I'd actually taken DS to the hairdressers. grin

StepAwayFromTheEcclesCakes Thu 01-Aug-13 20:14:43

Ive posted this before but DH friend used to look on the kitchen calendar and see when his DW was going to hairdressers then when she got in he would say 'hair looks nice today love' she thought he was very observant until he did it when she had actually cancelled her appointment grin

They're not quite smart enough, are they StepAway?

grin

SmartiesMakeMeNaughty Thu 01-Aug-13 20:19:52

DH played a blinder when I had a radical change of haircut. Made all the right noises. Unlike my (admittedly slightly odd) work colleague who said "why have you gone and got a wee girl's primary school haircut? It was nicer before."
Ummm...thanks.

TheCatIsUpTheDuff Thu 01-Aug-13 20:21:36

Some blokes are just not very observant. I turned up at XP's house with my nose pierced - red, sore, enormous new piercing stud, y'know. Eventually his sister asked if he'd noticed anything different about me. We had to tell him. He thought I'd always had it. grin

We always remember the negative comments though, don't we?

Loads of people could give you compliments, but they fade into insignificance compared to just the one negative comment.

cocolepew Thu 01-Aug-13 20:23:05

Dh is useless too. I cut my shoulder length, dark hair the other week. Shaved the back, cut one side short and the other side left longer (it is lovely really grin) and went blonde. DH didn't notice until i pointed it out to him. His reply "oh I liked it long" said in a whiney voice . Yes he liked it so much he didn't even know it was gone hmm.

To be fair, I didn't notice DH had a moustache for about 2 years. He is very fair and it was just like bum fluff and I wouldn't wear my glasses.

It was only when we were on holiday and one of those people cutting out paper silhouettes for tourists did one of DH. I asked him what the extra bit of paper under his nose was !!

DameFanny Thu 01-Aug-13 20:30:57

I got bored today and cut myself a fringe. It's not brilliant. If DH ever does notice I'll tell him it's a fringe event [geek]

StepAwayFromTheEcclesCakes Thu 01-Aug-13 20:54:14

baroness so true grin

cherry219 Thu 01-Aug-13 21:01:36

When I got my hair done for my wedding (a few weeks in advance, not the Actual Hairdo) I had 10 inches cut off and had highlights for the first time.

Do you think he noticed?!

ZingWidge Thu 01-Aug-13 21:19:47

not DH but my late dad.

on a very very hot day I had enough of my long hair, about 2 feet long.
I had a crew cut. no phasing out, just all off, but 1/2 inch.
I looked like Keanu Reeves in Speed.

when I went home my dad didn't notice, even when I turned around to go upstairs, zilch.

maybe the next morning? Nothing. my mum had to bring his attention to it!
but the hilarious part is that he was a detective in an anti-terrorist unit, where being good at observing is vital skill!grin grin grin

SmallSherryforMedicinal Thu 01-Aug-13 23:48:06

zing I live with an observational social scientist

[cries]

[laughs]

[cries]

ZingWidge Thu 01-Aug-13 23:57:53

sherry grin

TedMoseby Fri 02-Aug-13 00:30:54

This gives me something to add to my ever growing list of why my dad is amazing. Growing up he always noticed and told me my hair looked lovely when I'd had a cut. He also always tells me I look fab when I go out, even when my teenage self looked er....interesting or my skirt was a bit shorter than acceptable or even worse, I wore double denim!

Df gawks at my head as soon as I walk in then stage whispers to dd ''the whales had her hair done'' then he and dd whisper away about my hair and dd tells him not to call me a whale, I'm 9 months pregnant and I've already had 2 babies blah blah she's a star grin

I usually have to shout at them and ask if they like it but I never get an 'oh superman you look nice' when I walk in or ever

MrsKoala Fri 02-Aug-13 04:37:27

DH and i were going out to an important evening function with his work. So i had my hair 'dressed', all curls in an up 'do' i felt lovely. i walked in to get my frock on and he looked at me and said 'oh dear' with a daily mail [sad face] on. I said what did he mean? and he said 'well it doesn't suit you at all does it'

I was tearful and furious, we had an almighty row and then had to go out schmoozing all night. angry

I wonder why my DP is different from other blokes. He always notices when I've had my hair done, my eyelash extensions etc.

everlong Fri 02-Aug-13 05:26:38

Men are weird in this department.

During my time with dh I've had numerous radical colour and cut changes.

I've rushed home expecting shouts of ' wow ' and got nothing and even have had to say ' AHEM ' and point to head.

Bet you look lovely OP.

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