To be annoyed that DP's family eat fast food every day?

(54 Posts)
Holly94 Tue 30-Jul-13 20:01:05

I know I probably am BU and its none of my business what they eat but it's really been getting on my nerves - don't know if its the hormones making me more irritable than normal!
Me and DP are living with them until the tenants have moved out of our new house next month and I'm not kidding, every single day his mum sends his dad out to get her a McDonalds for her and his sister. His sister is 19.

They eat it every single day! AIBU to let it annoy me?

We're having our first baby in February and I think I'll be too worried to let baby stay overnight out of fear they'll just feed it McDonalds/other crap!

ApocalypseThen Tue 30-Jul-13 20:02:23

Why would it annoy you?

Holly94 Tue 30-Jul-13 20:04:15

I really don't know I'm just so irritable at the moment when I see his dad coming home with yet another bag of fast food I just think why would anyone want to eat it repeatedly? Or is it not as bad for you as I think?

BlackeyedSusan Tue 30-Jul-13 20:05:55

euuuw think of their arteries. work out how often you would like your child to have a treat and do not send them more often. grin let them visit you.

Holly94 Tue 30-Jul-13 20:06:30

That's exactly what I think! His mum and sister are just setting themselves up for heart attacks.

valiumredhead Tue 30-Jul-13 20:07:07

Sounds like it's time you moved outwink

DoJo Tue 30-Jul-13 20:07:20

It is bad for them, but it's not bad for you, so I can't see why it's annoying you. People make poor choices all the time, and there's precious little anyone else can do about it, so you just have to accept that they do things differently from you, be grateful that they are letting you stay when you need it and tell your hormones to pipe down!

ImNotBloody14 Tue 30-Jul-13 20:10:44

Yabu - you eat what you want and they eat what they want. It doesnt affect you.

Footface Tue 30-Jul-13 20:11:22

Maybe you could cook them a meal as a thankyou for letting you stay

thenightsky Tue 30-Jul-13 20:12:11

YANBU. It would get on my nerves to not have proper food for a whole month (I'm assuming there is no cooking being done and you have having to go along with this diet as guests).

hermioneweasley Tue 30-Jul-13 20:12:41

YABVU and what footface said

EeTraceyluv Tue 30-Jul-13 20:13:57

The expense would piss me off! Presumably they can afford it?

emuloc Tue 30-Jul-13 20:14:03

My husbands family were like this always eating fast food and ready made rubbish. If I am honest I did not think too much off them for being like that. I belive you should eat as well as you are able too. That entails for me cooking from scratch for most of my meals. It works for me so its what I do. If they wish to end up ill it is up to them. They are adults.

Holly94 Tue 30-Jul-13 20:14:51

They are letting us live there but his mum is charging us rent which she says is for 'food' but not cooking/buying anything in so we end up doing a supermarket shop anyway and cooking ourselves - I wouldn't expect them to cook/provide food for us, and I would have contributed towards household bills but it gets on my nerves that she makes us pay rent towards the food bill then eats fast food everyday.

Argh sorry for the drip feed!!!

squoosh Tue 30-Jul-13 20:15:02

Lots and lots of things that don't effect me irritate me.

I'd be a bit judgey (inside the privacy of my own head) but it wouldn't put me off them if I got on with them otherwise. They don't exactly have varied palates do they, having McDonalds every day?

mrsjay Tue 30-Jul-13 20:18:35

oh i hope your house is ready soon you sound like you are about to blow a gasket, does she not buy any food at all and you are giving her money and THEN having to shop that would do my head in more than them eating Mcdonalds every night, I know it is annoying you but really it is their tea and if that is what they want then what can you do , and when and if the time comes for your baby to visit them you can just give them food for it but that is a long way off just try and relax and think of your new house

ApocalypseThen Tue 30-Jul-13 20:20:00

In fairness though, you can't expect to live rent free and who gets to tell their landlord what they should buy with the ill gotten gains?!

ImNotBloody14 Tue 30-Jul-13 20:20:00

Well, unless you die in an accident, most of us 'end up' ill. No-one dies of good health wink

Holly94 Tue 30-Jul-13 20:21:15

mrsjay, they have things in like pot noodles.. Not really a substantial pregnancy diet so I cook pasta etc from scratch.

Ooh I'm all nervous now in case she's a mumsnetter too blush

Snazzyenjoyingsummer Tue 30-Jul-13 20:25:30

I would 'reassign' the rent you are paying them, in your head, to be going towards the actual bills. It is a bad habit they have to eat like that every day but try and blank it as much as possible. People who have such entrenched bad habits are unlikely to thank you for saying 'how can you eat that stuff every day?' You can also tell them not to feed your baby fast food when the time comes.

mrsjay Tue 30-Jul-13 20:26:03

oh well least you are eating ok now I do like a mcdonalds but every night it must be bleurgh

TheFuzz Tue 30-Jul-13 20:26:26

Every night... Holy moly.

squoosh Tue 30-Jul-13 20:29:24

I have McDonalds about twice a year on those rare occasions that I have a hangover. I enjoy it soooooooooooooo much. Every day though? Nah.

justanuthermanicmumsday Tue 30-Jul-13 20:31:10

you get To live rent free in my house. It's the norm if i needed a place i could live rent free at my parents home, or sisters or brothers, and they at mine. I wouldn't dream of asking for money but I'm sure they would give money towards food costs.

i know what you mean about them eating out . it's common the way i grew up to live with extended families. So sis in laws living with parents. one of them got my brother onto fast food in such a way they'd be having fish fingers burgers for breakfast. I'd turn up to visit mum unaware and they'd ask me if i want breakfast I'd be like ok tea maybe noting else, they'd offer me fishfkngers at 10am? I would express my disgust and tell my brother he was ruining his body. But you don't have to eat it so try and turn a blind eye, I'd leave off comments too since its not your home it would be rude and ungracious.

EvaBeaversProtege Tue 30-Jul-13 20:31:38

Do you think they eat like that do they don't have to cook?

Do they make you feel welcome in general?

Coconutty Tue 30-Jul-13 20:32:58

UABU and should mind your own business.

mrsjay Tue 30-Jul-13 20:33:42

WOULD YOU COOK FOR THEM for a change maybe the sister would appreciate a non big mac dinner, although she is old enough to cook for herself

lljkk Tue 30-Jul-13 20:35:58

I wouldn't think much of it either, but real problem is you want to move out. Hope it happens soon.

usualsuspect Tue 30-Jul-13 20:36:12

You are moving out soon,then you can eat what you like and they can eat what they like without you screwing your nose up.

parakeet Tue 30-Jul-13 20:38:08

It sounds like they are not charging you the market rate - why not find out what the market rate should be for staying in a one-bedroom flat, say, and work out how much money you're saving every month. That should ease your pain.

I would feel as repulsed by you as their diet, but just keep reminding yourself, they are doing you a mahoosive favour.

mrsjay Tue 30-Jul-13 20:38:34

oh god now i want a big mac blush

thefuturesnotourstosee Tue 30-Jul-13 20:39:28

Rather then than me but they are grown adults and responsible for their own decisions so if they want to eat Macdonalds every night that's up to them. I like it but 2-3 times a year is enough for me

Perhaps you should offer to take over the cooking?

Holly94 Tue 30-Jul-13 20:40:22

For all the people who've said I should cook for them I always offer to make them tea when I cook. They always say no and that they're having a McDonald's.

TheRealFellatio Tue 30-Jul-13 20:42:32

It wouldn't annoy me as such, but I would roll my eyes and feel ever so superior and judgey about it.

formicadinosaur Tue 30-Jul-13 20:47:28

I really couldn't do it myself, I'd feel unhealthy and awful.

Beehatch Tue 30-Jul-13 20:52:06

You should get them to watch 'Super Size Me', I think Morgan Spurlock became very unwell after just a month of eating fast food.

mrsjay Tue 30-Jul-13 20:55:34

all that salt on the chips they must drink gallons still want a big mac

valiumredhead Tue 30-Jul-13 20:58:37

I want a chocolate milkshake

Xmasbaby11 Tue 30-Jul-13 21:03:01

YANBU - it would wind me up even though it doesn't affect me directly. Especially since you're pregnant and a healthy diet is more healthy than ever - most relatives would be aware of this.

But as long as you are able to buy in food and cook it, you should be OK, and maybe your habits will rub off on them? I don't know if they've always eaten a lot of fast food, but they might just be in a rut and if they see you rustling up meals without too much effort/expense, they might start eating better.

Xmasbaby11 Tue 30-Jul-13 21:04:50

And yes when the baby comes, I would be open about what your DC can/can't eat. Hopefully they will respect this. If not, then no, you can't trust them to look after him/her.

theodorakisses Tue 30-Jul-13 21:38:15

Go and pay rent then.

xylem8 Tue 30-Jul-13 21:42:27

Yes I watched 'supersize me' the other day.Scary!
But it is NOYB and they are doing you a favour so you shouldn't be looking down your nose at them!

Pancakeflipper Tue 30-Jul-13 21:45:09

Are they constipated ?

Auntfini Tue 30-Jul-13 21:53:47

My dps family are like this. Their fridge is just of sauces and fizzy drinks. They order takeaway every night. And no fruit/veg. And then wonder why they all have no end of illnesses.

I love them very much, they are so warm hearted and would do anything for anybody, but they're setting themselves up to die early.

mrsjay Tue 30-Jul-13 21:58:29

have they always eaten like this OP was your partner brought up on a diet of Mcdonalds .

My mil wouldnt cook for herself when her sons left home she lived on crisps bread rolls and chinese take away she would only eat properly when dd was there we took food for them both and when we went on a sunday, the woman died at 60 herpoor diet contributed to her illness sad

littlemisssarcastic Tue 30-Jul-13 22:16:34

I think I'd feel dreadful if I ate McDonalds every night!! shock

Are they healthy? Full of energy?

I imagine I'd be bloated, constipated with no energy and awful skin, but I have a friend that eats nothing but roast potatoes or chips and meat, all roasted in oil or fried in oil. She is rarely ill. confused

foreverondiet Tue 30-Jul-13 23:37:14

I would be offering to cook. Are they overweight?

I'd struggle not to say something but its their choice and unlike smoking you can't passively eat a McDonald's! So probably best to offer to cook but otherwise keep quiet, and be thankful that you know more about nutrition than them.

Salmotrutta Tue 30-Jul-13 23:44:12

I'm with theodorakiss.

It's not a good diet - but it's none of your beeswax really.

You say you are paying "rent" but I'll bet you are saving a fair bit with no bills etc.

Are they good/decent people generally?

If you didn't give a shit about them I daresay you wouldn't mind, so YANBU.

everlong Wed 31-Jul-13 04:15:46

There was a programme about a man who ate Mcdonalds every day for a while ( I think it was a month ) and it seriously fucked him up.


PigOnStilts Wed 31-Jul-13 04:33:35

Are they overweight? Im Just curious....Im not sure how you can eat so much junk and not be feeling it and seeing it on your frame.

I had mcD about four times one month when I was preggers and was too ashamed (at the expense as well as the food) to tell anybody!

Longdistance Wed 31-Jul-13 04:34:00

Yanbu. It'd piss me off too. Just Bleurgh to their food. We have a take out once a week to take the pressure off me cooking all week and dh's a lazy arse and that's our limit. We have friends who eat McDonalds and other take away food, almost on a daily basis.

We've to their house for bbq's and their fridge is nearly always empty every time, as they go get take out nearly every night. They have dc aged 5,7 and 9. And wonder why they never have any money. They are living mortgage and rent free ATM too.

<hoiks up judgy pants>

Holly94 Wed 31-Jul-13 07:41:17

Yes they are overweight.
I know next month when we are paying proper rent we will know how good we've got it at home but I'm craving my own space! There is 5 adults in a 3 bedroom house so as you can imagine no room.
I know they've been lovely in letting us live here and I'm not disputing that, that's why I feel so mean now sad
It just winds me up how his mum is always going on about how skint she is and how she's had to put all her debts into a debt management programme yet they can manage to spend £15 odd quid a day on fast food.

YABU but you know what - that would annoy me as well. The smell of the McDs in the house every night would drive me nuts! It's hard to be reasonable all the time smile
Just try and get out of the house more in the evenings, go swimming or whatever and think happy thoughts of having your own space next month. They sound like good and kind people though, letting you stay even though it must be quite strain for them as well.

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