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to have taken down this sign?

(43 Posts)
hotair Tue 30-Jul-13 17:09:48

went to the very small public playground (one toddler swing, and a ride on rocker) at the end of my street just now and discovered someone had placed a printed A4 sign over the gate reading
"Could you please respect the resident's privacy and not use this park. Thank you."
I tore it down and I now plan to go every day for the rest of the summer because I cannot believe the gall of whoever placed the sign.
Just to give some context, there are 3 houses, set back of the road, which front on to the park, which has been there since the estate was built (and was on the plans for the estate before construction. One is up for sale, the other was recently let (--to some very inconsiderate parkers--) and the third were really rude when we recently returned their lost dog... Oh and on the rest of the street (ie. in front of my house) children play on the road/ in their front gardens constantly so it's not like they are being overly inflicted with noise. I cannot believe some people are so selfish that they would expect people not to use a park that they knew was there when they built it because they don't like people being able to see into their dining room (the only room that can be seen properly from the park) and they don't want to put up blinds!

PenguinBear Tue 30-Jul-13 17:11:09

YANBU. Use the park a lot and loudly grin

Possibly the sign was not aimed at people with young children using the playarea, so much as the teenagers sitting there drinking late at night. If it was aimed at local people with toddlers, then YANBU

WorraLiberty England Tue 30-Jul-13 17:12:48

YANBU

If they have a problem they need to take it up with the council

But going every day for the rest of Summer is a bit silly, unless you'd planned to do that anyway?

parakeet Tue 30-Jul-13 17:13:48

I know MN can be a contrary bunch, but surely no one will say YABU to this one.

Bright idea: stick a similar notice on their front gates saying "Could you please respect the children's right to privacy while playing in the park and not use your dining room. Thank you."

MayTheOddsBeEverInYourFavour Tue 30-Jul-13 17:14:03

YANBU

What cheeky fuckers! I hope the park is incredibly busy and noisy all summer now grin

hotair Tue 30-Jul-13 17:14:36

justforlaughs- I can tell you that this is a naice neighbourhood and there are no teenagers drinking there! I have only ever seen toddlers and their families in the park.

HeySoulSister Tue 30-Jul-13 17:16:41

Assuming that that is what the local 'teenagers' do there justfor..... Maybe they don't! hmm not all teens do that

If it's a public park then while it's open it's for the public to enjoy.
Not sure if it's even legal to go round putting your own posters up?

(And like those "Polite Notice. No Parking" signs that people put outside their house on a public road, no restrictions)
<<sigh>>

hotair Tue 30-Jul-13 17:16:49

worra- I or my dh go most days at the moment, even just for 10 minutes play time when he gets home from work... I'm just going to make a point to go as often as possible, which tbh the dd's will love as they ask to go everyday

RenterNomad Tue 30-Jul-13 17:31:25

Maybe the sign was posted by someone who hates the residents and wants them to be wound up as much as possible!

Beastofburden Tue 30-Jul-13 17:33:02

How strange. Surely they can't have expected you to say yes? I can't think what else the sign could have meant, but perhaps there is another explanation.

I expect the poster (ho ho) will come and approach you when you are there, so it might be worth listening to what they meant to say -- before you tear their head off and ram it up their arse--

Fakebook Tue 30-Jul-13 17:36:10

Yanbu. It's a public park. Why on earth would someone think people wouldn't use it? Weirdos.

NeoMaxiZoomDweebie Tue 30-Jul-13 17:36:11

It sounds like something my Aunt would do. She has a Narcissistic personality disorder.

Bowlersarm Tue 30-Jul-13 17:38:32

Good for you OP. Don't leave any subsequent notices up either as it may intimidate other park users.

Flobbadobs Tue 30-Jul-13 17:41:01

I would just be organising a play rota, just to make sure there's someone there as much of the day as possible... But then I can be a pissy sod at tomes blush

weisswusrt Tue 30-Jul-13 17:45:55

Can the residents not screen themselves somehow? Just seems odd to move opposite a play park and never sort your own privacy after all this time?

usualsuspect Tue 30-Jul-13 17:48:57

I'd go as often as possible too.

Ignore the miserable sods.

usualsuspect Tue 30-Jul-13 17:50:13

Can you call the council and have a word about it?

hotair Tue 30-Jul-13 17:52:02

omg dramatic update!
dh just come home from work and saw a pcso at the park. I ran up and told him I had the sign if that was what he was looking for. It was- apparently the rude dog owner had screamed, shouted and terrified a family with toddlers who had ignored her sign and used the park just before us. They had gone home and called the police.
I ran back home and told dh- who then told me that last night the woman dog owner had screamed at him and the dd's to shut up while they were using the park but he had ignored her and she went away- he didn't say anything because he didn't realise she could be talking to them until later- he thought she was shouting at a car parked nearby.
PCSO is going round to give woman a serious talking to....

ImNotBloody14 Tue 30-Jul-13 17:53:37

Write 'no' under the sign and stick it back up again

IceNoSlice Tue 30-Jul-13 17:54:01

parakeet grin

SingingSands Tue 30-Jul-13 17:54:11

I've heard of some odd requests in my time, but that one takes some beating! Requesting people not to use a playpark? How bizarre! How would you be impinging on their privacy anyway? It's not like you had gone to play in their back garden.

Nowt as queer as folk...

SingingSands Tue 30-Jul-13 17:55:20

Just crossed posts with your update! Curious behaviour.

ImNotBloody14 Tue 30-Jul-13 17:58:00

Oh wow! She has issues i think- glad the pcso is going to give her a bollocking little chat

Sparklingbrook Tue 30-Jul-13 18:00:23

Brilliant. Bonkers people. Who needs the telly?

hotair Tue 30-Jul-13 18:00:36

very curious indeed. The house in question always has blinds up and closed so it's not like anyone can see inside....

PCSO has asked if it occurs again to call and log it with them and reassured me that the woman has no history of violence so it is safe to use the park. Reading between the lines of what the PCSO said and based on the behaviour when we returned the dog I suspect a drinking problem.

We need another update later to find out if she has been taken away in handcuffs/ men in white coats/ has put up another sign! grin
I didn't mean to imply that all teenagers hang around drinking/ that OP lives in a rough area or any other slurs, I was just trying to find another explanation for why someone would put up a ridiculous sign, as I found it hard to believe that anyone would do this.

diddl Germany Tue 30-Jul-13 18:05:07

Ooh-you took away evidence against her!

hotair Tue 30-Jul-13 18:06:49

I know diddl! Next time (although I hope there isn't one) I shall leave the sign in situ until the PCSO turns up, along with a note saying to ignore sign 1 and that the police are dealing with it!

Icelollycraving Tue 30-Jul-13 18:10:37

Can you be told if someone has history of violent behaviour by a pcso? hmm

SingingSands Tue 30-Jul-13 18:11:01

I suspect the pcso may have warned her that if she repeats her behavior she'll be charged with breach of the peace.

Canidae Germany Tue 30-Jul-13 18:12:22

That's like the bloke up my road who bangs on his window everytime someone walks past his car (which is parked on the street.)

I like to let my dog's sniff it as we go past just to wind him up. Odd thing is that he has an empty drive with gates but doesn't use it. hmm

Some people are bonkers.

hotair Tue 30-Jul-13 18:17:23

Icelolly- I asked if he was sure that my children would be safe in the park as while I didn't mind being shouted at I was concerned that they might attack my family, based on the incident earlier today.
He told me that the individual in question was known to them and that we should feel safe using the park.
So he didn't tell me that she had a history of violent behaviour, in fact the opposite and I'm glad he reassured me that I don't need to be afraid that someone will attack my children using the park.
Also he didn't confirm her identity, just provided enough details that I was able to confirm her identity based on my knowledge of my neighbours! (Plus the fact that I watched him go to her house was an additional confirmation!)

FeckOffCup Tue 30-Jul-13 18:17:40

One of the houses that looks out onto my little local playpark has put a tinted film over their windows like you get on car windows so you can see out but you can't see in. That seems reasonable if you don't want blinds or nets up, expecting nobody to use the park ever is mad.

ChippingInHopHopHop Tue 30-Jul-13 18:19:15

Icelolly - no you can't, but you can be told they don't smile

Icelollycraving Tue 30-Jul-13 20:13:45

Oh,really suprised at that!

Beastofburden Tue 30-Jul-13 22:12:57

Sounds as if she is ill. Sad for her, and she will probably be a very annoying neighbour. I expect her social or health worker will be round to tell her to stop this.

hotair Tue 30-Jul-13 22:55:46

beast- I think that she has already been causing problems for the people selling who live next door. Very sad, but I won't be stopping using the park- I will try and be more understanding than I might be otherwise if she remonstrates with me when I'm using it though

TheFallenNinja Tue 30-Jul-13 22:59:49

this weather seems to be making everyone crazy

SuburbanRhonda Germany Tue 30-Jul-13 23:01:50

I would have taken the sign down for wrong use of an apostrophe grin

Avondale Tue 30-Jul-13 23:05:15

I think you should organise a Fun Day to be held there ( with bouncy castle, brass band etc) and raise money to be spent on new equipment for the park. Possibly a Teen Shelter?! grin

Beastofburden Wed 31-Jul-13 10:11:50

agree hotair, you should use the park exactly as you please. Quite apart from anything else, if she is ill, she wont be rational, so if it isnt this, it will be something else.

So often people say jokingly, "she needs to remember her medication" but perhaps in this case, whoever is supporting her genuinely does need to tweak something and perhaps it will all calm down.

But if she is ill (and I am only guessing, after all) then I dont think she intended to insult you or be arrogant in quite the same way as a well person. She may just have lost it a bit.

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