to think this couple are weirdos?

(42 Posts)
megsmouse Thu 25-Jul-13 09:13:08

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Doubtfuldaphne Thu 25-Jul-13 09:17:51

What a strange neighbour. I can't think what her motive must be.. maybe she wants to move and by saying she's having neighbour problems it will help her case. Some people are just strange.

Of course she didn't dig up your hamster!
I'm saying this to put your mind at rest.
She just guessed it was a small rodent.

You aren't doing anything wrong but clearly she thinks you're not allowed dogs.

Surely the complaint will just get ignored as you're not doing anything wrong?

Pootles2010 Thu 25-Jul-13 09:27:52

Why on earth have the housing association forwarded these 'complaint's' on to you? You've clearly done nothing wrong.

Did they say what they'd be doing about it?

megsmouse Thu 25-Jul-13 09:30:40

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HooverFairy Thu 25-Jul-13 09:30:48

What a weirdo; I'd write her a long and sarcastic letter of apology and give her it when you move out. New boyfriend must have had some sort of strange effect on her. At least you're moving out smile

mypussyiscalledCaramel Thu 25-Jul-13 09:35:10

I had a neighbour who complained to my ll about my dog once. He used to bark evertime he saw anyone going past our frontroom window.

What annoyed me the most was that she had 2 dogs that were shut in their kitchen for up to 8 hours and one of them howled ALL day. I went round and suggested that I let her dogs out during the day, she said no.

When I spoke to the ll I explained the situation with my dog and explained about her dog. Aparently she felt really guilty

As it turned out, they were going to sell their house.

I still see her OH around and he's really nice to me.

Nowt so strange as folk smile

megsmouse Thu 25-Jul-13 09:39:42

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RussianBlu Thu 25-Jul-13 12:39:41

Does the letter actually say that she has made all the complaints? Perhaps you should just knock on her door, show her the letter and ask her what its all about? Is the bf a bit odd? Might it be him that is telling her to say all those things and stopping her from speaking to you?

HarryTheHungryHippo Thu 25-Jul-13 13:17:08

Does her boyfriend fancy you? Your update makes me think maybe he does

SarahAndFuck Thu 25-Jul-13 13:23:49

Have you still got the letter from her?

If you have, use it as proof that she is making odd and unreasonable requests and has some sort of axe to grind with you.

mynameisslimshady Thu 25-Jul-13 13:26:43

What were your last couple of conversations about before contact stopped, or have you been saying anything about her or her boyfriend to anyone?

It does seem and odd thing to do for no apparent reason, but on the other hand her complaints are all true, albeit very petty. Have the HA said what they want to do? You could request a meeting with them and her to get to the bottom of it.

ENormaSnob Thu 25-Jul-13 13:30:43

She's a cock end.

cuteboots Thu 25-Jul-13 13:51:15

Im in a HA property and they are not supposed to tell you where the complaint has come from and certainly not show you the letters. They have to look into it and sort it out but thats it. This sounds a bit odd to me ...

Empress77 Thu 25-Jul-13 14:06:40

Yes to me it sounds like her boyfriend has a thing for you - watching you in the garden etc? And that inevitably pisses her off. She probably asked you not to hang out in the sun in the garden as he goes on about you or something?

megsmouse Thu 25-Jul-13 18:30:26

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lazarusb Thu 25-Jul-13 18:43:06

The dog turd would be a terrible idea and open your dh to fine for fouling.

Much better to put it through the letterbox.

WorraLiberty Thu 25-Jul-13 18:50:06

How does she live too far away to be able to hear the dog?

megsmouse Thu 25-Jul-13 18:51:47

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BabyILoveYou Thu 25-Jul-13 18:52:52

I think YABU- you have admitted to doing all of them!

LeGavrOrf Thu 25-Jul-13 18:55:09

She sounds like a knob.

I would just completely ignore it. She is probably avidly waiting for a reaction for you, so don't give her one. Just carry on as you are. If you are moving shortly there is no need to cause hassle. Just call the housing association and tell them the complaints are completely unreasonable.

megsmouse Thu 25-Jul-13 19:33:01

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RussianBlu Fri 26-Jul-13 02:00:27

Perhaps it wasnt her who made all the complaints, maybe it was him and she knows nothing about it? Maybe it was him who texted you from her phone, deleted the message and again she is oblivious. You do say he is odd and that you have no issue with her. Might be wise to speak to her without his presence and ask about the garden text and complaints made.

megsmouse Fri 26-Jul-13 08:05:42

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megsmouse Fri 26-Jul-13 08:08:04

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Sounds like she was okay with you until she got a boyf, could this boyfriend be controlling considering you haven't heard from her since? Could he be the one putting her up to making all these complaints?

Seems odd things have changed since she aquired a boyf

imnotmymum Fri 26-Jul-13 08:13:31

How do you know he uses drugs ...you been spying megs!

megsmouse Fri 26-Jul-13 08:22:13

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WeleaseWodger Fri 26-Jul-13 08:23:27

You are just guessing it's them, though. Since HA don't tell you the source, how do you know it's not a number of neighbours? Your next door neighbour complaining about the dog, her complaining about burying dead rodents in a communal garden? (By the way, that would really bother me too. You say you didn't leave a mark in the garden, so you probably didnt burry it so deep that a fox or a dog wouldn't dig it up. )

Wowserz129 Fri 26-Jul-13 08:23:46

To be honest I used to live in flats with shared gardens and to be honest I wouldn't be too chuffed if someone just decided to bury their dead pet in their without asking the other people who shared the garden. Rubbish being left out and not put in the actual bin would annoy me as well. She might well be a weirdo and if I was her I probably wouldn't of complained because its too much hassle. Having said that though I would just go up and ask her? If you don't clear the air there will just be tension from now onwards.

VulvaVoom Fri 26-Jul-13 08:24:48

Some people/neighbours are just weird. I think I've posted this before on a neighbour thread but think it illustrates how people lose perspective.

My brother was diagnosed with Leukaemia at 16 and 2 days later a VERY apologetic council lady came round to say that our neighbours were making a complaint about the noise of my Dad emptying our fire and saying it was cracking their fireplace, they knew what was going on.

My Mum and Dad were at the hospital with DB, so I had to deal with it. I think they could have a) come round themselves before and mentioned it or b) phone and cancel the council visiting for the time being? confused

RussianBlu Fri 26-Jul-13 13:08:51

You say she clearly doesn't like you. What makes you think that? One minute she is having tea and cake with you and asking you to take in her parcels, the next she has someone move in with her and the strange things begin to happen. Has she actually spoken to you/given you funny looks? I think she may either not know about any of it or is being told what to do.

megsmouse Fri 26-Jul-13 13:22:59

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megsmouse Fri 26-Jul-13 13:24:24

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OnIlkelyMoorBahtat Fri 26-Jul-13 13:47:09

I can't get over the fact she thought it reasonable to tell you when you can and can't use the communal garden.

VulvaVoom Fri 26-Jul-13 15:50:04

Nope they knew megs, they we're just wrapped up in worrying about their blessed fireplace!

Groovee Fri 26-Jul-13 16:06:50

Does her bedroom over look the garden? Just wondering if she wanted noisy sex without you hearing.

phantomnamechanger Fri 26-Jul-13 16:09:10

is it only you and her who share the garden - that's the bit I don't get - or has she told everyone else in your block not to use the garden too? How come only her flat looks over the garden - how many flats are there in the block?

as for knowing about the hamster of course she did not go dig it up! she knew you had one, saw you burying something - it's not hard to put 2 and 2 together and get 4.

I wonder whether the garden thing is not about them not wanting to see you out there, but about not wanting YOU to see what they are up to - ie DTD in view of the windows or maybe even a drug factory???

phantomnamechanger Fri 26-Jul-13 16:09:40

x post with groovee

megsmouse Fri 26-Jul-13 16:21:48

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Groovee Sat 27-Jul-13 09:46:10

I definitely think she wants noisy sex! grin

Eilidhbelle Sat 27-Jul-13 10:06:35

It's really annoying and petty.....but in the nicest possible way, you have done all the things you've been accused of. I wouldn't be happy about someone burying a hamster in the communal garden. I also wouldn't be happy with someone smoking drugs out there though, so YWNBU to report that. I suppose it depends on what outcome you're looking for - if it goes tit for tat then it could go on forever, so it might be easier to write her off as someone you won't get on with.

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