Is this reasonable or not

(37 Posts)
HarlotOTara Tue 23-Jul-13 16:37:39

Have a friend coming to stay with two young dds, she has requested that I find something to cover the windows so that no light comes in as her dcs can only sleep in a totally blacked out room - don't think they are vampires! grin. Am a bit stumped tbh, there are blinds in the room they will use but they are evidentially not enough. DH and I are wracking our brains but is this an unreasonable request?

My dds are teens and I used to just adapt when staying elsewhere so just wondering, although suggestions about what can be put on the windows would be welcome - which can be removed I hasten to add.

myfirstkitchen Tue 23-Jul-13 16:38:32

Use old card board boxes

HeySoulSister Tue 23-Jul-13 16:38:54

the window request will be just the tip of the iceberg....you watch!

prepare for more odd requests...

DwellsUndertheSink Tue 23-Jul-13 16:39:23

suggest she invests in this portable black out blind

scubastevie Tue 23-Jul-13 16:39:49

Black bin bags taped up thats what we've done. Works a treat.

NotYoMomma Tue 23-Jul-13 16:41:49

duvet hooked round the curtain rail

Wolfiefan Tue 23-Jul-13 16:41:52

If she is that concerned then I'd ask her to bring something she considers suitable. (Grobag co do groblinds) Towel over the curtain held up with pegs?
Sounds PFB to me. I wouldn't expect a friend to do this (although DS once refused to sleep at a friend's house as her curtains were so thin. He just yelled! Gotta love little babies!)

Thyeternalsummer Tue 23-Jul-13 16:42:11

The people who do gro bags also sell these portable black out blinds. Spotted them at all the baby places we've been at recently - Mothercare, Kiddicare etc

Suggest she buy some if she's worried about her kids sleeping. She shouldn't be putting you to any extra trouble/expense.

Xihha Tue 23-Jul-13 16:42:30

we used to pin a quilt cover over the window for dd, but only when she was really little, she took to puling it down and pinging drawing pins across the room when she was about 3

Fairenuff Tue 23-Jul-13 16:43:20

Why don't you suggest she brings whatever she feels will be needed to black out the windows and sort it out when she arrives so that the job is done to her satisfaction. You could be helpful and provide measurements.

hermioneweasley Tue 23-Jul-13 16:43:29

My DCS are up with the dawn so I'd be asking for this too, though otherwise I'm not precious!

Bin liners taped over the windows will do the trick

Sirzy Tue 23-Jul-13 16:44:39

Tell her she is welcome to bring something with her, if needed tell her the dimensions of the windows!

When we hire caravans I always take an extra blanket to cover the window in DS room as caravan curtains are rarely thick enough to block light.

OrangeLily Tue 23-Jul-13 16:44:42

Tin foil will also work

LadyBryan Tue 23-Jul-13 16:46:00

I would have thought she'd already own a portable black out blind given I'm presuming when they stay in hotels/cottages etc she doesn't sent a demand for light blocking.

Ask her to bring it

HarlotOTara Tue 23-Jul-13 16:49:14

Bin liners might be ok but the neighbours might wonder what the hell I am up to. I have blinds which I think have a blackout coating but no good evidently. No curtain rail and the window is a bay. I do feel it is a little ott and much as i aim to please, i do feel a little put out now i am thinking about it. I may suggest the portable blinds ( bet that is a no go), I am amazed such things exist.

Groovee Tue 23-Jul-13 16:52:46

I'd tell her to bring something herself!

specialsubject Tue 23-Jul-13 16:57:27

I do this when we have a small visitor to avoid the whole house being awake at 5am. I got some black art cardboard and a lot of masking tape, and I also have thick curtains. Works a treat.

(the visitor comes by train, this is to avoid lugging of the portable blind that they do own!)

YoniMitchell Tue 23-Jul-13 16:59:23

Oh God, I have a friend like this - she brings her own black-out blinds to put up in case her pfb wants to take a nap while they're at our house. They're only ever over for a few hours at a time! hmm

YoniMitchell Tue 23-Jul-13 17:00:37

Sorry - my post wasn't too helpful - get her to bring something herself.

Beastofburden Tue 23-Jul-13 17:06:33

Def make her deal with it. She and they may realise that other people's houses cannot be customised like that.

If all else fails they can sleep in her bed and she can deal with it.

HarlotOTara Tue 23-Jul-13 17:14:13

I did offer to get up with the children if they don't sleep well so that she can have a lie in. I am an early waker so no problem. They are staying for four nights should be interesting. I will look up portable blinds and suggest them as a 'tongue in cheek' option.

So just for the record, is she BU or NBU?

fubbsy Tue 23-Jul-13 17:21:34

I think she is BU. Your blinds are not good enough?

I would go for the black bin liners option. I would also ask for her help putting them up.

PearlyWhites Tue 23-Jul-13 17:23:45

I would say she is not unreasonable kids awake at 4.30 am will not be fun for anyone in the house

HarlotOTara Tue 23-Jul-13 17:27:19

Magic blackout blind is about £30 and looks easy to fit, in fact I am quite impressed. I think I will suggest she investigates this as an option. If she isn't keen to buy I think tough, she isn't short of money.

FoodieToo Tue 23-Jul-13 17:29:14

She is being completely unreasonable in asking you to cover the window.
She should bring something herself. How cheeky!

UC Tue 23-Jul-13 17:33:09

I don't think she's being that unreasonable. But I do think she could invest in bringing her own portable blinds if they'll fit. Otherwise pin up a dark coloured towel. DSS who's 10 has asked me to do this to stop the light waking him. And I'll admit light wakes me too so I have heavy blinds on my own windows!

Bowlersarm Tue 23-Jul-13 17:34:16

She is being unreasonable. She is a guest in your house. She fits in with you, not the other way round. You're not a hotel.

After saying that, if you can find something to tape up to block out the light then that would be a nice thing to do. You would be a perfect host. Don't go to any expense though.

I wouldn't worry what the neighbours think,it'll be gone after four days.

OrangeLily Tue 23-Jul-13 18:11:46

Oh and YABU. Me and my siblings were these kind of kids. If your child woke up at the faintest hint of sunshine I'm pretty sure you would feel like a plan should be in place too. This way you can all be well rested and the Mum can relax. It's not difficult to cover a window with more material/card/foil/whatever and she's your friend.

maddening Tue 23-Jul-13 18:14:05

If I went somewhere and needed extra blackout I would bring my own - have the one with the suckers that goes on any window - I certainly wouldn't ask my host to go out and buy one.

maddening Tue 23-Jul-13 18:14:34

Ps tin foil

Wibblypiglikesbananas Tue 23-Jul-13 18:17:21

The onus is on her to bring her own portable blackout blinds - easily found one Amazon search later...

fairylightsinthespring Tue 23-Jul-13 18:20:48

well, given the time of year, I don't think it is that U to raise it as an issue, but I would say that you have blackout blinds, maybe you can tape the edges down to eliminate any gaps. We do do all we can to block light out of DS's room as he will be up at 5am otherwise. When we stay with grandparents we put a towel over the top of the venetian blinds and I have been known to gaffa tape the edges of curtains to the wall. You shouldn;t have to go to any expense though - maybe say wait til she gets there and then she can assess the situation and decide what is required.

fairylightsinthespring Tue 23-Jul-13 18:22:09

also, its not so much HER that is wanting this, as her kids, who I assume are pretty young and therefore will not listen to reason on this one, sadly..

Indith Tue 23-Jul-13 18:23:24

One of mine needed it pitch dark so I understand the request but the only ones I have tried to ask for such arrangements are my parents when they decorated and made curtains for the dc's room at their house. i asked them to line them with blackout fabric. For holidays etc I just take a gro blind.

HairyGrotter Tue 23-Jul-13 18:30:54

Blimey, I think she is BU. It is her 'issue' as it were, therefore she, as a guest, should arrange appropriate action (such as buying a portable black out blind or what not). I fit in with the host, never expect the host to fit in with me.

Branleuse Tue 23-Jul-13 19:11:21

just say to her that youve had a look but you dont have anything that would work but you have heard about the portable blackout blinds you can buy and suggest she gets one

HarlotOTara Tue 23-Jul-13 20:26:11

Well my dh has brought home some stuff he thinks we can cut and stick on the windows with masking tape, may not be able to open the windows but c'est la vie.
Ps. I think I am being very reasonable by being the perfect and helpful host grin

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