7yr old bumping and grinding at a kids' disco

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AIBU to be totally shock at what I witnessed at the weekend. DS was at a disco birthday party for 5-7yr olds. There was a lad there who had taken his t.shirt off (fair enough... a lot of the boys had as it was about 1,000 degrees in there), had pulled his shorts to below his bum cheeks so his whole backside was hanging out (and the front as well), and was bumping and grinding away to all the songs. There was a lot of thrusting, swivelling and sticking out of bottom. He's 7. His mum had gone, so there was no adult who could really deal with it.

He also poured a cup of water over his head, watched one of the mums clear up the puddle, and then did it again. Later he was dropping crisps on the floor and stomping on them. A bit later again he was doing gangsta moves... really quite scary stuff! Loads of the other boys were trying to copy him.

Not sure what point I'm making really. If I'd been his mum and had seen that when I came to pick him up again I'd have gone toto! But should one of us gone and had a quiet word? Friends and I were mostly shock and a bit hmm, but a couple thought it was all pretty harmless (which amazed me!). I'm not sure what on earth he must have watched to pick up those moves!

uselessinformation Mon 22-Jul-13 14:31:45

I would have told him to pull up his trousers!

Would only have to watch a few music videos

Boomba Mon 22-Jul-13 14:38:35

'gangsta moves'??? whats them then? grin

isnt this the plot for 'Footloose'??!

You should have told him off for purposefully making a mess on the floor, for other people to clean up though

squeakytoy Mon 22-Jul-13 14:43:20

"His mum had gone, so there was no adult who could really deal with it"

so no adults were in charge then?

"A bit later again he was doing gangsta moves... really quite scary stuff!"

grin scary? seriously??? hahahahaha!!

so a bunch of supposedly responsible adults were incapable of telling a 7year old to pull his trousers up, stop throwing food on the floor, and were scared of his "gangsta moves"..

incredible grin

Ha... the gangsta moves were sort of flicking his hands... gun salutes... hard to describe really other than it looked really intimidating. You're right... he'd probably just been watching MTV or something. It was still really horrible seeing such a little boy doing it though.

Boomba Mon 22-Jul-13 14:45:03

Really??? have you never been to a key stage 2 disco?! confused

ArtexMonkey Mon 22-Jul-13 14:46:27

Arf at plot for Footloose grin

It sounds like he was being v silly and exandshoff. If I leave my dc at a party and they start acting the giddy goat I would expect any parents remaining to either bollock them or ring me and get me to come and deal.

Kids take their clothes off when they get hot. They copy dance moves and other stuff from grown ups. They make messes, sometimes deliberately. It's all very normal behaviour, it's up to what ever adult is in charge at the time of them doing it to stop them.

ArtexMonkey Mon 22-Jul-13 14:47:33

X posts with squeaky.

Perhaps they were scared in case he pulled an Uzi out of his bum crack and popped a cap in their asses. BRAAAAP!

DragonsAreReal Mon 22-Jul-13 14:51:10

Have you never been to a kids disco before? And from experience it does seem boys like getting their bums out (esp if they watch the simpsons "eat my shorts").

Sparklysilversequins Mon 22-Jul-13 14:53:18

Footloose! grin

Yep, I've been to school discos for R, 1 and 2, but there were teachers there so maybe the kids were slightly more reined in! I hate it when they play 'Sexy and I know it', 'Oooh sexy lady', and stuff like that. The kids obviously love those songs the best though and request them!

I'm obviously way too up tight and a right old fuddy duddy. Maybe it's perfectly fine for a 7yr old to be simulating sex on the dance floor! confused

Sparklysilversequins Mon 22-Jul-13 14:59:41

No I agree it's not fine but I am not sure why no one told him to pack it in. I would have.

squeakytoy we weren't intimidated by him, but none of us were his parent and didn't feel we should really be telling someone else's child what to do... we were just parents of other children who had been invited. Maybe the parents who organised it could have stepped in...

FreudiansSlipper Mon 22-Jul-13 15:02:04

what are gangsta moves ?

i can not get wound up about children copying dance moves they have seen from tv as we used to copy hot gossip routines wearing my mums lacy silk cami tops

though he should have been told to pull his trousers up if they were really that far down and to not throw crisps on the floor

hazeyjane Mon 22-Jul-13 15:02:17

I went to dd's school disco the other day to help out (which mainly seemed to involve me dancing the macarena).

I went to get some squash and came back to dd2 krumping in the middle of the room, honestly I have no idea where she got her moves from, it was hilarious.

By the end of the disco, there had been a nosebleed, 2 children had been sick, and the year R teacher was dancing gangnam style - it was an eye opener!

KellyElly Mon 22-Jul-13 15:04:38

Would only have to watch a few music videos << exactly what I thought!

FreudiansSlipper Mon 22-Jul-13 15:05:07

but children are not simulting sex hmm they are dancing

i have been to many middle eastern parties young girls tie a scarf around thei hips and move in a way that for an adult would be sexual for a child it is not it is simply dancing

usualsuspect Mon 22-Jul-13 15:06:19

Your post made me laugh, hazyjane grin

Poor,OP it must have been very scary for you.

A great big 7 year old with his gansta moves and shizzle.

hazeyjane Mon 22-Jul-13 15:08:00

The only music videos dd's have seen are things like Queen, I did show them YMCA the other day, they have never seen MTV, but anyone watching dd2 would have thought she had been bought up watching nothing else!

Sparklysilversequins Mon 22-Jul-13 15:09:05

This thread is really making me grin.

meditrina Mon 22-Jul-13 15:10:45

In my day, it was "The Bump" or singing along to "Little Willie".

I think every generation has these moments about current dance crazes and lyrics.

But if he was chucking water around, then he should have been taken aside until he'd calmed down. Ditto reminders about keeping basic level of clothing in place.

Boomba Mon 22-Jul-13 15:12:07

farewell what we really need you to do, is web-cam and up-load yourself re-enacting the boys bumping and grinding, low slung jeans and gangsta-moves; so that we can really judge whether it was appropriate or not

Boomba Mon 22-Jul-13 15:13:29

did you carry a watermelon farewell?

hazeyjane Mon 22-Jul-13 15:13:44

Usual, the funniest thing was that the song that produced a near riot was the Hokey Cokey, I had to get in amongst a group of 6 year old boys, high on cheap squash and pickled onion monster munch, who turned it into one enormous bundle.

imademarion Mon 22-Jul-13 15:15:24

start acting the giddy goat

Thank you for my biggest laugh today. I'd completely forgotten that phrase. It's just so squashing.

You've made me see sense. This is why I love mumsnet. I hadn't thought of it as simply dance moves... of course he wasn't simulating sex. Sorry for being so completely thick. Thank you fellow mumsnetters. I will now crawl back under the stone where I came from. That all sounds horrible sarcastic, but honestly... it's not!

No boomba I am not going to plug in the web-cam. It is far too hot to be bumping, grinding or shizzling.

usualsuspect Mon 22-Jul-13 15:18:46

Oh I can imagine Hazy, crazy kids high on squash at a school disco is the stuff of nightmares.grin

formicadinosaur Mon 22-Jul-13 15:19:41

I think any of the parents present should have told him to pull his trousers up and then got him to clear up his own water and crisp mess.

The gangsta moves must have been quite funny to watch.

grin at watermelon!

usualsuspect Mon 22-Jul-13 15:21:20

Bless you,Farewell.

I think the heat has us all acting the giddy goat.

That you for the blessing usualsuspect. I am going to put a cool flannel on my forehead and try to erase the visions of bumping and grinding and goats from my brain.

FreudiansSlipper Mon 22-Jul-13 15:26:18

i expected ds school disco to be playing katy perry pop crap but it was full hardcore house with a few heavy rock anthems and of course that fucking awful song

still ds and his friends loved waving their glow sticks and busting a move hmm he is 5

it took me back to my raving days grin

pollywollydoodle Mon 22-Jul-13 15:32:31

do goats get giddier as they get warmer? I have visions of whole herds plumetting from mountain crags...

maja00 Mon 22-Jul-13 15:32:48

I would be really unhappy if my 7 year old went to disco and no adults were prepared to take responsibility! That is really shocking.

As an adult there, why didn't you make him pull his trousers up? Really, really weird that a load of adults just stood round watching a child dancing half-naked. Really inappropriate.

ArtexMonkey Mon 22-Jul-13 15:38:17

Life was so much simpler when it was all Wigwam Bam or jumping off chairs to Superman....

OKnotOK Mon 22-Jul-13 15:39:09

When i saw the thread title all i could think of was
"Big Fat Gypsy Kids Disco"grin

usualsuspect Mon 22-Jul-13 15:41:55

Or when we pranced about pretending to be pans people [old]

WilsonFrickett Mon 22-Jul-13 15:42:00

Artex have you heard the lyrics to Wigwam Bam? They are rude! And as for the coreographed dance routine to 'try a little touch, try a little too much...' shock

imademarion Mon 22-Jul-13 15:50:08

Or when we pranced about pretending to be pans people [old]

I sometimes threaten to revive the entire routine I made up to 'Save your kisses for me' that blew away Tawny Owl at our Brownie disco summer 1975 [christ, even older]

foofooyeah Mon 22-Jul-13 16:03:56

so now I am sitting at my desk singing 'wigwam bam' which is a bit wrong, pople will think I have the giddy goat

TattyDevine Mon 22-Jul-13 16:05:33

If you are really bothered by this, mention it to the head teacher, and if he or she has a concern, they are legally obliged to lodge a "concern" form under safeguarding policy. If there is a behavioural or inappropriate conduct issue with this child it is likely there have already been concern forms filled in and it is being kept an eye on.

TattyDevine Mon 22-Jul-13 16:07:22

By the way, a concern form, or incident form etc does not necessarily go further; but if various incidents or concerns lodged by members of staff add up to a worrying picture, as judged by the member of staff in charge of safeguarding, then they know what avenues to explore to take it further and its out of your hands.

Oh thanks tatty. It wasn't a school disco though it was a birthday party.

pollywollydoodle Mon 22-Jul-13 16:11:50

remembers "little willie willie won't go home ....." wink

usualsuspect Mon 22-Jul-13 16:16:00

Remembers 'my ding a ling'

teaforthree Mon 22-Jul-13 16:21:04

What's krumping?! Is that like trumping with gangsta krumpets? What's bumping and grinding? I need to start watching this MTV shizzle...

We used to dance to 'sex on the beach' at school grin

valiumredhead Mon 22-Jul-13 16:23:17

What boomba said. Welcome to ks 2grin

ArtexMonkey Mon 22-Jul-13 16:24:10

My 3 yo ds was twerking the other day <proud> he was nuddy too because it was 57 million degrees.

valiumredhead Mon 22-Jul-13 16:24:59

Not too long ago that everyone was wearing a silver glove, cocking their hats and grabbing their crotches!

pollywollydoodle Mon 22-Jul-13 16:38:13

oh yes they called him the streak, eeeeeeeeeep! grin

imademarion Mon 22-Jul-13 16:42:14

I am still word perfect on 'Billy Don't be a Hero.'

I thought it was Deep.

It still makes me snivel.'

Chopstheduck Mon 22-Jul-13 16:44:18

I agree that it is simply dancing. My ds1 has sn, LOVEs performing, doesn't give a shit what anyone thinks. He copied the dance to "I'm sexy and I know it' on stage. The teacher drew the line at him stripping, but he did the dancing.

The HT turned puce with rage and stormed out with the governer in tow [sigh]

Ds1 was the talk of school though, and rather proud of himself!

MrsMelons Mon 22-Jul-13 17:30:52

I ran a Y2 disco with some other parents recently and we told the DCs if they were OTT with the inappropriate moves etc, their parents weren't there but I would have no issues saying something to a 7 yo behaving like that, I actually find it a bit odd no one felt they could say something.

MrsMelons Mon 22-Jul-13 17:32:42

And yes it is just dancing, I think people need to lighten up but I would object to the 'stripping' or bumping/grinding with other children not just dancing on their own iyswim

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