Not interested in the royal baby? You're cold and uncaring

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Or so I was told by a friend this morning. I was bemoaning the seemingly endless media coverage and the fact that real news stories are barely being touched on.

When I said that I have no interest in the baby and couldn't care less about it (beyond hoping that mother and baby are healthy, as I do for all births) she accused me of being cold, unfeeling and uncaring, saying that she would never say she "couldn't care less" about anyone, whether she knew them or not and that the royal baby is special and everyone should celebrate its birth.

Is she overreacting or am I BU and a heartless cow?

ouryve Mon 22-Jul-13 11:49:20

People have babies every day, FFS. Nice for Kate and William, but why should their offspring matter to you?

exexpat Mon 22-Jul-13 11:51:11

She's overreacting. If you're cold & heartless, so am I, and thousands/millions of others. By the time this baby gets anywhere near the throne (if the monarchy hasn't been abolished by then), I will probably be long dead (judging by the fact that its grandfather is still waiting for his go...) so I really could not care less.

In fact, I wish the whole internet had a 'republican?' button, as seen on the the Guardian's website today - click it (top right of masthead) and all the royal stuff goes away.

YouTheCat Mon 22-Jul-13 11:51:18

She's a twat.

Yes, we all wish mother and baby well and all that. The new baby is no more special than any other baby and will be born into extreme wealth and privilege.

I couldn't give a shit and wouldn't care for the opinion of someone who thinks that makes me uncaring or cold.

arabesque Mon 22-Jul-13 11:52:12

Your friend sounds like an idiot. There is a difference between not particularly caring about the ins and outs of some stranger's life and actually wishing them harm. Most of us don't particularly 'care' about the Royal Baby, we are just curious, will it be a boy or a gir;? What will they call it? etc. - and, obviously, hope as we would with any human that both mother and baby will be okay.

tmae Mon 22-Jul-13 11:53:37

She is overreacting! I care in the sense I hope it all goes well but I don't actually CARE about the royal baby etc. so am in the same boat.

I find the constant coverage irritating personally! Their baby is no more important to me than any baby of a random couple I don't know.

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EweHaveGoatToBeKiddin Mon 22-Jul-13 11:57:40

Nope, you're definitely not cold and heartless.

Thousands of babies are born world wide every day. We can't care about them all.

What is cold and heartless are the death threats directed towards the Royal baby strewn across my newsfeed today. sad

YANBU. I am not bothered either apart from I hope it is healthy as I do with all babies.

The birth of the royal baby will not impact me at all so why should I care ?
Your friend is over reacting.

Lottapianos Mon 22-Jul-13 12:00:31

I am very interested in the royal baby but only because I'm a right nosey cow smile I wish the media would just shut the hell up about it already until the baby has actually been born, and then report it in a factual, sensible way, instead of the usual hysterical nonsense.

YANBU OP. Why should you give a fig?

YoniBottsBumgina Mon 22-Jul-13 12:03:15

I think it's more cold and uncaring to be baying for news TBH. Let them have a moment of privacy, having your first child is such a unique and special thing, it should be theirs to enjoy without all of the media attention. I know it's a "special" baby but I still don't see that their privacy for the first few days is any less important.

SusanneLinder Mon 22-Jul-13 12:03:36

I care cos its a baby. I couldnt care less about the whole Royal thing. I get annoyed by the whole privilege of birth thing, as Kate and Willliam and their baby are no better than any of the rest of us, just because they have money and title, and it annoys me that I am expected to respect them or bow to them because they are royal (if I met them).

Having said that, I do not dislike them personally and wish them and their new baby hapiness, same as I would any other mum.

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exexpat Mon 22-Jul-13 12:04:35

I'm so glad it's not just me! She was horrified that I was starting to doubt myself.

That should be "she was so horrified"! blush

cheerfulweather Mon 22-Jul-13 12:08:33

Also wishing there was a republican button grin

I've been making use of the 'hide' button instead for all the royal pregnancy/name/labour/baby threads.

EweHaveGoatToBeKiddin Mon 22-Jul-13 12:10:23

Yep, death threats.

My finger's sore from clicking 'report' and deleting people.

Really horrible to read. And some of them are from old school friends who have just delivered their own babies this week.

cheerfulweather Mon 22-Jul-13 12:12:56

Death threats shock

Obviously I care that they have a safe delivery and healthy baby, the same as I would wish for anybody else. But that's all.

YouTheCat Mon 22-Jul-13 12:14:54

Ewe, you have some really odd friends.

MiaowTheCat Mon 22-Jul-13 12:16:17

I do not give a shit about the royal baby - apart from if my neighbour decides to barbecue in his pants at 5am wearing a union jack top hat again like he did for the wedding... I will be pissed off at him waking the kids up yet again.

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JakeBullet Mon 22-Jul-13 12:18:14

Your friend is wrong.

ButnI am actually enjoying the's nice to have some good news for a change,

ToysRLuv Mon 22-Jul-13 12:20:51

I don't give a shit about babies in general, unless it's someone I know and love. Even then, they're not massively interesting. No ill thoughts there, but no positive ones either.

Fakebook Mon 22-Jul-13 12:21:57

If you wish the couple and baby well, then that's not "I couldn't care less". You do care. You're just not interested in it as a news story.

lottieandmia Mon 22-Jul-13 12:25:26

YANBU. No interest here either, except of course I would wish them well as I would any couple who was having a baby.

EldritchCleavage Mon 22-Jul-13 12:27:33

Isn't it weird how nowadays half the people in the country don't even speak to their neighbours, couldn't care less about others, practise road rage and increasingly bad manners in public but are still GOOD PEOPLE because they waste time being all treacly and ostentatiously sentimental about celebrities they've never even met?

I will never forget an article I read in the Guardian when Princess Diana died by a woman who had just lost her father asking why even close friends had said nothing to her about his death but expected her to emote with them over the death of a princess whom neither of them had known personally or taken much interest in when she was alive.

lottieandmia Mon 22-Jul-13 12:27:41

The problem is that people get brainwashed with this royalist crap. It was the same with the sodding jubilee. Someone on here said that anyone not wanting to celebrate the jubilee obviously contributes nothing to the UK hmm I feel sorry for people who are so easily manipulated and brainwashed tbh.

lottieandmia Mon 22-Jul-13 12:29:34

Very good point Eldritch!

YouTheCat Mon 22-Jul-13 12:29:43

Oh god, don't get me started on all the Diana crap.

I hope they have a boy.

ChippingInHopHopHop Mon 22-Jul-13 12:31:50

I'm 'interested', but only in the same way that I'm 'interested' when friend of a friend is having a baby. It's the 'baby' that I find 'interesting' irrespective of who the parents are.

Also, they seem like a lovely young couple and I wish them well - nothing to do with being royal.

I also feel sad that his Mum isn't here, it will cast a shadow over it, irrespective of who he/she is to the rest of the world.

The Royal Family is good for our economy and I think we are lucky to have the Royal Family that we do.

YANBU - you 'care' that the baby (any baby) & mother are well, so no, you aren't cold or uncaring, just not overly interested, which is fine.

CitrusSunshine Mon 22-Jul-13 12:32:12

I am really really really bored of all the news coverage, empty speculation and discussion about the baby when it has not yet even been born yet. And it is only going to get worse.

I am not cold or heartless, I am just not interested!!!

So, YANBU and your friend is being U.

MiaowTheCat Mon 22-Jul-13 12:32:46

Actually I have two points of interest on the royal baby:

Name - better not be any I've named my kids (I actually vetoed one for DD2 when I found out that she was royally upduffed as it looked like a possibility and I didn't fancy all the "oooh did you name it after the royal sproglet" crap.
Do we get another bank holiday?!

exexpat Mon 22-Jul-13 12:32:51

TheJoyful - is your friend the kind of person who gets all excited about her best friend's hairdresser's third cousin's niece having a baby? Some people seem to get excited about any baby, which is lovely for them, but really, there is no reason for most people to get more excited about the new royal baby than the aforementioned best friend's etc etc.

Except that of course this one will get its photo in all the gossip magazines etc without having to appear on the X-factor or TOWIE first.

I have the same sort of very mild interest (ie hope for their sakes that mother and baby come through the process healthy and alive) that I would have in (eg) a workmate's sister's best friend's pregnancy. Childbirth is, even now, a potentially dangerous business and the birth of a baby is generally a happy occasion. But no one baby is more special to people outside the family circle than any other.

cogitosum Mon 22-Jul-13 12:45:56

I care in as much as I'm jealous as I'm 41+3 today with no signs of anything happening!

aldiwhore Mon 22-Jul-13 12:49:39

To be frank I find those who moan about it are as tedious as those who follow every contraction.

You are not cold and uncaring TheJoyfulPuddleJumper but complaining about it is annoying, it IS big News. I have very little interest in the whole thing but it's a given that if I watch the News over the next few days it's going to be covered a lot, and really, it isn't awful or 'bad news' to cover the good news occasionally.

Your mate IBU, as are you, but I completely understand your utter disinterest!

In RL I dont know anyone whos particularly interested in the Royal Baby, a few fanatics camping outside the hospital (for what reason??) but I think most people will go `thats nice` and move on.

JumpingJackSprat Mon 22-Jul-13 12:51:38

I am with you op. i seriously am not interested in massive pictures of her all over bbc news with minute by minute updates. its typical of the media these days all this hysteria. its just a baby! There are thousands born every day some into abject poverty... i think theyre more deserving of our attention tbh.

elQuintoConyo Mon 22-Jul-13 12:53:50

I'm about as interested as if it were Cheryl Cole having a baby, or Madonna adopting another, or Josephine Schmo from down the road.

Couldn't give a flying fig. It doesn't make me uncaring, it makes me uninterested; there is a difference.

EldritchCleavage Mon 22-Jul-13 12:56:46

It's interesting and important if only because this child will be our head of state at some point. Doesn't mean people need to have any personal, emotional reaction to it beyond, 'Oh, good that it all went well. What's for dinner?' sort of thing.

sidneypie Mon 22-Jul-13 13:10:18

Couldn't give a monkeys. My issue is that any real news story (including anything the government prefers to keep quiet) will be hidden by toe-curling, gushing nonsense!

NicknameIncomplete Mon 22-Jul-13 13:12:56

Im interested to the point of wanting to know the name (yes i am name obsessed). In not gna sit watching the news waiting for the announcement.

On another note has anyone heard the news about The Orange One who loves his kids smile

Purple2012 Mon 22-Jul-13 13:16:50

I am interested as the baby will one day be king or queen and I do think it is a big deal. I don't think it should be the main news story constantly and I don't think people should be told to care. Some people like the royal family, some don't. If you don't I wouldn't think you were cold and uncaring.

NellysKnickers Mon 22-Jul-13 13:19:24

I'm with your friend. How can you not be interested, that baby will one day be king or queen? I've only found my love for the royal family in the last couple of years and until Harry is married off, there is still a chance I can be a Duchesse grin

FreudiansSlipper Mon 22-Jul-13 13:19:55

i am not interested because she is a royal

my interest goes as far as i hope that the labour is not complicated and she has a healthy baby as i wish the same for others

and i am not that sure this child will be king or queen one day

Didactylos Mon 22-Jul-13 13:20:48

yup, am probably cold and uncaring
Im used to it, it goes with my complexion

frogwatcher42 Mon 22-Jul-13 13:26:52

I don't know anybody in real life who gives a damn about the Royal Family, full stop.

I haven't heard one person in my home life, or at work, mention the Royal birth today or this week leading up to today. I reckon most people have forgotten - I only remembered as I saw this thread title and it reminded me. Thought I would see if I was in a very small minority in not being bothered - glad most of you agree! Mind you there is probably a full on thread full of people really excited somewhere on mn.

I wonder when the media will switch onto the fact that there may be an opening for a newspaper that refuses to report on royal twoddle!!!

giveitago Mon 22-Jul-13 13:37:21

I'm not cold and uncaring but I just work bloody hard and lots of things to do and no time for the news. This baby is not under my care and I assume as they are royal it will be beautifully looked after. Why then would I care?

I don't know anyone who is interested in the royal baby, if anything I know more because I just had the news on hmm it's exciting the baby is coming just like anyone else I 'know'/hear of who goes into labour - how exciting, hope all goes well etc but not like when close friends drop - that is worth getting worked up over.

exexpat Mon 22-Jul-13 14:15:14

Given the longevity of the royal family, will any of us still be alive and caring by the time this baby becomes head of state?

The Queen is 87 and still going strong; Prince Charles is 64 and still waiting his turn. William looks like quite a strong, healthy sort - good for another 60 years or so, I'd say, by which time I'll be well over 100, or more likely dead. Not worth getting excited about the possible next monarch but two, IMO.

The British royal family also has lots of spares already, unlike the Japanese imperial family which faced a real succession crisis for a while, until the wife of the crown prince's younger brother popped out the first boy for decades.

And again, I say meh. Or bah humbug. Or whatever.

josephinebruce Mon 22-Jul-13 14:37:36

Don't care about babies.
Don't care about spoiled, smug women who have never done a day's work in their lives doing what millions of women do each year
Don't care enough about the Royal Family to even bother with the death threats.

And I am cold and heartless

I'm cold and heartless because every day for the past 6/7 months all I have heard about is a woman who I don't know, having a baby when I can't. Every time she is in public it is reported on the news and we are reminded sh has a baby bump by the flipping news reader. Now for months I'm going to have photos of he baby on the front of every magazine/paper etc. and it makes me feel a bit sad and a bit shit.

I must admit Inthebeginning, I was thinking that, this must be a very difficult time for anyone who cant have a child or who has lost a child.

thanks for you.

Your not cold and heartless either. x

ComposHat Mon 22-Jul-13 14:55:45

On another thread, someone described her as dilatey Katie, which made me laugh.

Personally couldn't give a shite, I'd only be interested if they called it Sh'diamond or something a bit street.

LookingForwardToMarch Mon 22-Jul-13 14:57:18

I wish the woman and her baby the best...

That said I'm in favour of the royals being abolished and couldn't give much of a shit about anybody I don't know.

(Well ok maybe suffering people I don't know but certainly not privilidged 'divine right' ones grin )

maillotjaune Mon 22-Jul-13 14:57:35

I'm not interested either. I'm glad I'm off work this week because when they got married I was called similar for saying I had no interest. Whatever.

josephinebruce Mon 22-Jul-13 15:06:00

My thoughts are with you inthebeginning - I'm in the same position and there are some people out there who just say that my grumpiness about all of this is because I am JEALOUS of her. FFS!!!!!

mignonette Mon 22-Jul-13 15:13:36

I took the day off when Diana visited the drugs rehab I worked in as a staff nurse.

Glad I did because the reports from patients/ staff regarding her self centred behaviour gave me the green rages....

Proud and out Republican here- and as for the tourism income argument, Versailles makes more money than all the UK royal attractions.....

I wish her a safe delivery as I would everyone but am disgusted and ashamed at the money, power (Charles influence via letters will eventually be revealed) and privilege accorded this shower simply by birth. The whole country has gone mad.

FunLovinBunster Mon 22-Jul-13 15:26:15


I font care either.

Prince Harry naked? Yes that will get my attention but not someone having a baby

ishchel Mon 22-Jul-13 15:32:08

"Bread and Circuses" (from Latin: panem et circenses). A palliative to distract the masses from things that matter. Though I wish them like every new set of parents, the best.

mumofthemonsters808 Mon 22-Jul-13 15:33:56

No interest whatsoever , I hope they impose a reporting ban so that every aspect of this child's life does not fill my newspaper day in and day out. I will not be watching the news for several weeks because this first woman to have a baby story will dominate. The jubilee was bad enough but the next few weeks will be painful. If that makes me cold hearted so be it.

josephinebruce Mon 22-Jul-13 15:36:33

Made even more painful by the fact that the Jubilee was over in a few days. We're going to be stuck with hearing about this kid (and the others that will inevitably follow) forever.......

Thanks onestep thing that bugs me is its not him and her (I can just about cope with another pregnancy) it's the flaming media.
josephine thinking of you too. Tell anyone who says your jealous to fuck off. Infertility has been a learning curve about friendships for me!

josephinebruce Mon 22-Jul-13 17:56:08

Ha ha me too!!! Lost count of the amount of times I've been told "you wouldn't understand, you don't have children."

AntlersInAllOfMyDecorating Mon 22-Jul-13 18:31:08

500 years ago our (future) queens were mainly symbolic figures required largely to stay silent, dress well and give birth...

I have nothing against Kate or the royal baby, I wish them well... it disappoints however, that this is still largely the case in the 21st Century.

josephinebruce Mon 22-Jul-13 19:07:13

What do you want them to do? Rule us? Personally, however much I hate and despise our present govt, at least we voted them in.

Well not vote as much as allowed them to take office.

But would prefer David Cameron to bloody Prince Charles who is trying to get the bankrupt NHS to PAY for homeopathy!!! WTF planet does that man live on?

JakeBullet Mon 22-Jul-13 20:56:14


Now feel free to tell me to "fuck off". grin wink

Fuck off Jake


Fb is annoying me now!

JakeBullet Mon 22-Jul-13 21:25:05

Yeah, have to admit it is becoming overkill now.i am pleased for them, they seem fairly "normal" but don't need any more company logos coming up with smarmy congrats al over the place.

'Like if you are proud of our Kate'

She ain't my Kate and she ain't your Kate!

strawberryswing Mon 22-Jul-13 21:35:25

It's definitely overkill! It's my dd's 1st birthday today and all attention should be on her instead grin

I wish her and baby well, as I would any other person, but apart from that I'm just not bothered. If that makes me cold then so be it smile

OP, are you me? smile

mumofthemonsters808 Mon 22-Jul-13 21:41:07

The madness has begun, Cameron will be rubbing his hands, a good news story to distract the paupers from having no food. Facebook congratulations from people who have never met the couple why ?

Who are these knob heads stood outside Buckingham Palace ?.Why would you do that ?.

Makes my blood boil, going to make no further comment and refrain from TV and newspapers forever.

FutTheShuckUp Mon 22-Jul-13 22:22:22

Its my birthday today, instead of happy birthday having a nice day everyone I know is gushing over an unknown baby. But it doesnt matter cause im too old for birthdays...

YouTheCat Mon 22-Jul-13 22:25:19

I just want them to name him Kensington Tyler Helsinki Windsor, to piss Katie Hopkins off and so he doesn't end up being invited on playdates. grin

Grr, what makes my blood boil is the fb updates I have seen..'wills and Kate, congrats on your baby boy'. THEY ARENT ON YOUR FRIEND LIST YOU MORON...

YouTheCat Mon 22-Jul-13 22:54:52

That also makes me hmm

This baby may not be Our Head Of State. It's reasonably likely that, by the time the current one drops dead, there will be enough of a groundswell of opinion to dump the whole family and become a republic. No need to execute them or anything, just let them sod off to their country houses and stay there.

LookingForwardToMarch Mon 22-Jul-13 23:24:05

Ahhh Solid...that would be just lovely grin

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

ComposHat Mon 22-Jul-13 23:33:44

Yes I suspect granddad Charles will make such an unholy fuckup of the job that by the time an aged bald and paunchy William gets a shot at the main gig that enthusiasm for the monarchy will have ebbed away.

perfectstorm Mon 22-Jul-13 23:37:34

It's definitely overkill! It's my dd's 1st birthday today and all attention should be on her instead

Happy birthday to your DD!

OP, you pay for the royal family. Isn't that enough by way of contribution? Is forlock-tugging obligatory, too? confused

I dunno. I wish them well, I wish all new parents (actually, all people) well, but I am so fed up with the news right now. So no, YANBU, because if you are, so am I, and that's clearly an impossibility. ;)

2blessed Mon 22-Jul-13 23:47:52

YANBU. Baby born, all well, the rest of the world can move on.

CMT346 Tue 23-Jul-13 02:20:59

I'm with you, I wish them well like I would any new parent but I don't care about them beyond that. Personally I think it a bit odd that people have reactions to the life events of strangers that are of a similar intensity to comparable ones of people they know and / or love. As a republican I'm often astounded at the presumption that I should celebrate events such as this.

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