To let DD (8) dip dye her hair?

(138 Posts)
cluckyduck Sat 20-Jul-13 15:16:58

Just that really.

She has asked, several times, to dye the ends of her - verrrry long - hair pink or lilac, on the condition that its chopped off sept 1st for school.

Will be no more than an inch but I feel conflicted. Part of me wants to encourage her to be creative and that there's nothing wrong with having fun with your appearance etc (based on my own issues as a child with DM, but that's another story!) but I am worried that people will judge her, and me!

It's the only thing she wants to do this summer and she wants to "look like a superhero"...

BrummyMummy2012 Sat 20-Jul-13 15:19:26

Who cares what people think? You can get hair chalk that is probably better for a child than chemical dyes but she is your child and you really shouldn't give a shit what anyone else thinks. It's not abusive or detrimental to her well being in any way shape or form so why not?

thegreylady Sat 20-Jul-13 15:20:18

Let her do it as long as its only the ends and it is cut for school.Does it matter if people 'judge'? You are her mother and you think it's ok-it's not as if it's a tattoo or body piercing.

If it's just for the holidays I would let them TBH. And I am on the strict side for preening/princessing grin It's just for a bit of fun, as long as it's trimmed before school goes back, not a problem.

DH, OTOH, wants our 4.5yo DS to have dreads for the holidays hmm DS is a blond haired white boy with fairly long hair (and a massive head)

JambalayaCodfishPie Sat 20-Jul-13 15:23:11

Do it. DD1, 8, had pink highlights last year for the summer, they'd faded to a natural red by the time September came. She's not fussed this year.

specialsubject Sat 20-Jul-13 15:23:49

she's 8. She can wear bunches, flowers in her hair and frilly dresses, all of which would look silly on an adult but are fine on children.

sounds harmless enough.

cocolepew Sat 20-Jul-13 15:23:53

I would.

sewingandcakes Sat 20-Jul-13 15:23:55

Let her do it! Stick to your rule about losing the colour when she goes to school though. My 2 older boys are thinking of the summer holidays hairstyles they want.

But don't use a hair dye with damaging chemicals... LaRiche Directions do some great messy colours.

ClaimedByMe Sat 20-Jul-13 15:25:48

I let dd (10) get her very long hair dip dyed pillar box red for comic relief, we already had a hair appointment for her to get it chopped off a few days later, even after it was cut she still had red ends but she liked it, I didn't care that it was still red, her hair is strawberry blonde anyway and she really suited it!

directions are fab and only last a few weeks so she probably wouldnt even need to cut it out.

cluckyduck Sat 20-Jul-13 15:29:03

God I thought I was going to get flamed!

I do think it's harmless ultimately, but thank you all for reassuring me. I will look at stockists for Directions dyes, thank you diva and sewing for the recommendation.

I will print out this thread for naysayers my mother

catinabox Sat 20-Jul-13 15:33:09

Ah...well if you had said she wanted to look dye it to look like someone famous, all her friends have it or it's fashionable then i would be saying NO!!

To look like a superhero? Yes why not, if it's done safely and cut for school in september. I would also be tempted to help her make an outfit to match. Sounds like healthy play to me!

squoosh Sat 20-Jul-13 15:34:14

I'm going to sound like a total square but I personally wouldn't let an 8 year old dye their hair. Chalks fine, permanent dye not fine.

D0oinMeCleanin Sat 20-Jul-13 15:40:40

My 10yo has just done (or rather I've done it for her) exactly that.

We used a "semi permanant" ammonia and peroxide free dye, that will (and I know this for fact, because I and my sister have both used the same dye) wash out within 12-18 washes depeding upon the condition of her hair, the shampoo she uses and the amount of dye used.

She is very happy with the results.

She was only with me for a few days after we did before she went away, but no-one said anything to us, a few people did a double take, but I would imagine that is because she has pink and purple hair not because she is 10.

D0oinMeCleanin Sat 20-Jul-13 15:41:45

It can also be washed out quicker using colour correcting shampoo but they can be quite harsh, so I'd rather not use them.

cluckyduck Sat 20-Jul-13 17:10:09

I did think that her aspiring to be a superhero was quite cool!

Ok, will be sure to look for ammonia free.

Thank you all for comments.

FrenchRuby Sat 20-Jul-13 17:13:57

L'oreal do a tinted conditioner which is baby pink, lasts about 3 washes out completely and isn't really bright. Maybe use something like that to see if she likes it as even semi's leave some trace of colour.

DiseasesOfTheSheep Sat 20-Jul-13 17:18:34

I wouldn't judge that, and I'm pretty judgemental grin

Actually, scratch that - I am judging - she sounds cool and good fun!

LJL69 Sat 20-Jul-13 17:19:18

go for it

cluckyduck Sat 20-Jul-13 17:20:39

Thank you diseases I think she's pretty cool smile she has a 2yo DS that's obsessed with Spider-Man, Superman etc so I think that's played into this...

DiseasesOfTheSheep Sat 20-Jul-13 17:23:01

I'm really hoping you mean Dsister and no Dson as I read that... 'cos at 8, I'd be more concerned about that than her hair! grin

WorraLiberty Sat 20-Jul-13 17:24:01

Which superhero dip dyes their hair?

RoadrunnerMeepMeep Sat 20-Jul-13 17:24:41

I dip dyed my hair and it was completely gone within 2 weeks. I think it looks cool.

Whitamakafullo Sat 20-Jul-13 17:24:50

My 7 year old DD has pink dip dye at the moment. It only lasts a few washes and I don't see the harm, it's a bit of fun smile

cluckyduck Sat 20-Jul-13 17:25:17

Whoops, meant DB smile

cluckyduck Sat 20-Jul-13 17:28:57

Honestly Worra I cannot name one.. But she does a lot of playing "Superheroes" with DS and dresses up in that role so I think she feels this is part of the look...

Souredstones Sat 20-Jul-13 17:31:29

My 8 year old has turquoise dip dye at the moment, did it yesterday.

Would echo the directions recommendations

DiseasesOfTheSheep Sat 20-Jul-13 17:35:42

Well that's a relief clucky grin

WaitMonkey Sat 20-Jul-13 17:36:03

Sounds great fun.

cluckyduck Sat 20-Jul-13 17:37:41

grin diseases

WorraLiberty Sat 20-Jul-13 17:38:20

I have honestly never seen a young child with dyed hair

I don't know how I feel about it really

I don't like seeing kids trying to look like adults, outside of a dressing up game.

They've got plenty of time to look like grown ups when they're grown up.

Are you sure the 'superhero' thing isn't just a red herring?

cluckyduck Sat 20-Jul-13 17:41:04

Well... I don't know what kind of "red herring " my 8yo would throw at me? She's n

mumofthemonsters808 Sat 20-Jul-13 17:42:15

I'm probably in the minority but I would not even let my 11 year old do this . She has years ahead of her in which she can do what she wants to her hair, but in the meantime she is a child who should just have hair a natural colour. But that's me I'm old fashioned.

cluckyduck Sat 20-Jul-13 17:43:00

Sorry pressed too soon...

She's never displayed any manipulative tendencies in the past that makes me question that she wants it for any other reason than a bit of fun? She is a very good, helpful, well behaved child and she wouldn't need to lie to me for this.

WorraLiberty Sat 20-Jul-13 17:45:46

I don't know OP

I'm just thinking if she said she wanted to look like a teenager you might say no.

Say it's because she wants to look like a superhero (even though you can't think of one with a dip dye) and you say yes?

If she had said she wants to look like a teenager and can she dye her hair, what would you have said?

cluckyduck Sat 20-Jul-13 17:46:16

I think I am overthinking this, it's only sodding hair!

Fumingorange Sat 20-Jul-13 17:50:01

Oooooh my dd's would love this!! They are 6&7 and loved Jessie j's black and blue hair. Where can you get the direction dye stuff from?

I don't see any harm in kids having fun with their hair, my dd's always have their hair sprayed different colours on Halloween and comic relief.

fuzzpig Sat 20-Jul-13 17:53:41

I'm on the fence. On one hand I think FGS it's only a temporary thing and in a way just a longer term version of bright nail varnish or something. Especially as you say it's only the ends and therefore not near her skin (all over dying would be a definite no from me, at that age)

But then part of me thinks, as Worra says, she has plenty of time to do this kind of thing when she's a teen. It seems... unnecessary. And I would certainly double take seeing a young child with any dyed hair. Even though my rational brain says my first paragraph above, my instinct says nooooo she's only little. confused

(my oldest is 6 BTW so not had this issue, and she doesn't even like face paint so probably won't come up for a while!)

RatherBeOnThePiste Sat 20-Jul-13 17:54:29

My daughter did this at 15 last summer, bleached the colour out of the ends - about 3 inches then dyed the ends purple, when that had gone she did turquoise, her friend managed to do a three colour stripe, which was fab. When the colour had gone they were left with blonde ends which she still has.

My DD at 8 was all into wraps, those were her summer joys. Dip dyeing seems a bit grown up, but then in my son's class at primary, in year 6, girls had proper grown up highlights done, so whatttdoIknow?

Souredstones Sat 20-Jul-13 17:55:13

I got it on amazon because its cheap and I like dying my hair fun colours so my dd is only copying me

fuzzpig Sat 20-Jul-13 17:56:25

I've not even used any spray on colours for my DD yet - the school has annual 'mad hair day' things where the local shops stock loads of extra, but I don't buy them. Partly because of the mess admittedly! DD has never asked for hair colour anyway, she is happy with multiple plaits/clips etc.

WorraLiberty Sat 20-Jul-13 17:58:45

There'll be nothing left to do to themselves when they're teenagers fuzzpig grin

I feel the same about little boys with close cropped hair and razor patterns.

It looks nice but far too grown up imo

I've just realised I've become an old prude shock

AllOutOfIdeas Sat 20-Jul-13 17:58:48

I am tempted to do my dds hair- they are both under 6. But I have a load of kool aid packets and am intrigued to see how well this works

Souredstones Sat 20-Jul-13 18:00:59

Wtf kind of shit is in Kool aid that you can dye your hair?!

People ingest that stuff!!

ITCouldBeWorse Sat 20-Jul-13 18:04:37

How do you dip dye?

My 13yo is currently being mollified with synthetic clip in extensions, so I guess I am in the old fart school of thought. As I sit here with my dyed hair !

AllOutOfIdeas Sat 20-Jul-13 18:04:44

I have no idea! I was given a load of packets and never bothered to mix it up cos its quicker to open the squash bottle

BreadNameBread Sat 20-Jul-13 18:06:32

I would let her dip dye her hair and I would let her use a permanent dye.

I have to say that because I have let my DD dip dye her hair every summer for the past few years. I also let her have a pink, a purple and an orange permanent streak which looked fantastic. They faded to a natural colour by the time school resumed. My DD has lovely dark brown glossy hair and it looked particularly good dip dyed with bright red ends. When she put it up in a pony tail it looked like a weird foxes tail.

Dip dye = acceptable
Tattoos, nose rings etc = not acceptable

LifeIsBetterInFlipFlops Sat 20-Jul-13 18:06:42

No...too young.

WorraLiberty Sat 20-Jul-13 18:08:15

Orange spray tans for little children?

Are they acceptable?

WorraLiberty Sat 20-Jul-13 18:09:43

How about false eyelashes when they're going about everyday business and not just dressing up?

I'm just wondering what people see as acceptable for a little child on a normal, everyday basis?

TidyDancer Sat 20-Jul-13 18:11:43

I would let her do it, no issue.

It's the summer holidays and it's easy to cut the ends off once school starts so I don't see the problem. smile

cluckyduck Sat 20-Jul-13 18:12:27

Yes worra, yes they are.

Are you happy and outraged enough now? No need to turn this into something it isn't.

WorraLiberty Sat 20-Jul-13 18:15:21

I'm not outraged at all. Why would I be? They're not my kids.

And nor am I turning it into anything it isn't.

I'm genuinely wondering what people consider ok for young children to have done to themselves.

I was going to ask if false nails are ok, but I guess they could be a choking hazzard, or end up being surgically removed from little girl's nostrils.

Souredstones Sat 20-Jul-13 18:15:29

I tie my hair into a ponytail and dye the end handful of hair. Works every time.

Well, I am going to go against popular opinion here. I wouldn't let her, and I would judge you if you did let her. Once they are 13 I think dying their hair pink etc should be pretty much compulsory, but prior to that I think it is unnecessary and encouraging them to 'grow up' too fast.

BreadNameBread Sat 20-Jul-13 18:20:26

Spray tans, fake nails, fake eyelashes = all unacceptable.

High heels, make up, anything vaguely tarty looking = unacceptable

Ear piercing = ok but I didn't let mine have their ears pierced until they started their periods.

Having your hair dip dyed over the summer = ACCEPTABLE and fun.

WorraLiberty Sat 20-Jul-13 18:23:52

But how do you come to those conclusions Bread that's what I'm fascinated by?

High heels = Possible foot damage/dangerous

Fair enough but what's the difference between allowing hair dying for little girls and not all the other things?

cantdecideonanewname Sat 20-Jul-13 18:28:39

I'm going to be dip dying my 8yo DD hair for the holidays.

5madthings Sat 20-Jul-13 18:29:13

Meh I think it sounds fine, my ds2 and ds3 are wanting a pattern cut into their hair for the summer. Its not a style I like but for the holidays I will probably let them, ds2 has mentioned dye as well. They are 11 and 8. Its the holidays, its non permanent and not too grown up.

But then my two year old dd has her toe and finger nails painted at the moment, purely because ds4 (5 yrs) has his painted and she wanted hers done as well, I saw no good reason to say no, its non permanently and its just play to her she regularly colours herself and ds4 in with felt tip pens at least nail polish comes off easily

baskingseals Sat 20-Jul-13 18:30:15

I think worra it's because it's non sexual.

BreadNameBread Sat 20-Jul-13 18:30:26

I see dip dyeing hair as a fun thing to do rather than an adult thing. I don't know any adults or even any teens who dip dry their hair. The other things I mentioned are all things that children do to mimic adults.

I didn't want my girls to look like mini teens. Luckily they were never interested (apart from dip dyeing). My niece who is ten would wear make up to school if she was allowed to. Her parents disapprove and don't let her but she would if she could.

WorraLiberty Sat 20-Jul-13 18:31:57

This is obviously going to be a Summer fashion judging by the sheer volume of people on this thread, who are going to dye their children's hair.

Perhaps I just haven't seen it yet here (London) because the kids haven't broken up from school yet?

I await with interest

WorraLiberty Sat 20-Jul-13 18:34:42

I think worra it's because it's non sexual.

Are false eyelashes/spray tans/false nails sexual?

I'm just suprised at the amount of people who would rather dye their children's hair than drum home the message, they look beautiful naturally.

7 and 8yr olds have barely had time to accept their natural looks

nowahousewife Sat 20-Jul-13 18:35:14

I'm a bit of an old prude and tend to agree with Worra. I think it's good for them to have things to look forward too as they grow up. My DD has wanted to dip dye her hair for a couple of years and I've said yes for this summer but it must be all gone before she goes back to school. She's 15.

But each to their own and I do seem to be in a minority here!

SirChenjin Sat 20-Jul-13 18:35:44

I wouldn't allow this, even for fun (and I'm struggling to think of a superhero who has dip dyed pink or lilac hair...). Not at 8, it's too young. Something for the experimental teenage years I think, along with the fake tan and the rest.

5madthings Sat 20-Jul-13 18:39:56

Songbird is a superhero from marvel avengers with dyed hair, red with white streaks/ends. She was originally a 'baddy' but became an avenger.

knows far too much about superheroes as ds4 is obsessed

baskingseals Sat 20-Jul-13 18:40:50

Yes I think they are. More so than pink tips on your hair anyway.

5madthings Sat 20-Jul-13 18:41:24

Silver law is another super hero with dip dyed hair, black with white ends, she is both good and bad tho at various points, good on the whole tho I think...

PrettyKitty1986 Sat 20-Jul-13 18:41:38


I wouldn't even think into it as deeply as 'letting them grow up too soon' or 'giving them the wrong message'. I wouldn't let my 8 year old child dye their hair anyway, because (to me), hair that is dyed on young girls looks chavvy and common. That would be enough reason.
for the same reason, I won't let my ds's have their ears pierced

SirChenjin Sat 20-Jul-13 18:43:59

Dyed black or red - no superhero that I'm aware of has lilac or pink, which makes me think it's not so much the superhero which appeal as the dip dye.

cluckyduck Sat 20-Jul-13 18:44:21

I think I should talk to her more about WHY she wants it done. On the whole I don't think it's harmful, but thank you for your viewpoints.

I will ask her a bit more about it and decide accordingly. Thank you all smile

Ps children cannot be "chavvy" - that is your own horrific prejudices imprinted upon them. HTH.

WorraLiberty Sat 20-Jul-13 18:45:02

So false eyelashes and spray tans are sexual but hair dye isn't?

Personally I don't think 'sexual' comes into it but all 3 are too grown up for a little child imo.

baskingseals Sat 20-Jul-13 18:46:49

Why do you think people are happy to let their dc dip dye their hair, but not wear high heels or false eyelashes then worra?

5madthings Sat 20-Jul-13 18:47:51

But who says she is doing it to 'look beautiful' its just a bit of dress up/play in the superhero theme as the child has said. If her brother is into superheros no doubt she knows about marvel superheros and avengers etc, lots of them have dyed/multicoloured hair, both male and female.

When my children paint their nails or use gel on their hair its not about looking attractive, its because its fun.

LtEveDallas Sat 20-Jul-13 18:48:42

I remember taking DNephew into town on the first day of the school hols to have a Nike Swoosh cut into his hair. Bloody hell, that must have been something like 20 years ago now shock

I'd let DD do the dip dye thing I think, but she's got very dark brown hair so I assume she'd need to be bleached first, and I wouldn't want to do that. Shame really, I'd certainly get 'cool mum' points from her if I did it grin

Crowler Sat 20-Jul-13 18:50:11

No way would I allow it, but I am a possibly a fuddy duddy.

StayAwayFromTheEdge Sat 20-Jul-13 18:50:13

I absolutely wouldn't allow it - I think it looks bloody awful on adults and would look worse on a child.

But then I am very conservative in my outlook.

WorraLiberty Sat 20-Jul-13 18:50:18

Why do you think people are happy to let their dc dip dye their hair, but not wear high heels or false eyelashes then worra?

Well this is what I'm asking because I have no idea

As I said, I can understand the high heels due to safety

But I don't understand how hair dye is ok for a small child and yet not make-up/false eyelashes/spray tans etc.

To me, they're all something teenagers and adults have

Little children have traditionally been encouraged to be happy with their natural looks.

MrsMeow Sat 20-Jul-13 18:51:11

Yeah let her do it! My DD is 13 and I've been letting her do mad things with her hair in the summer hols since she was slightly older than your DD. I just bought some Directions dye today for her to do her hair pink tomorrow like she had last year smile it fades fine by the end of the summer, especially with swimming etc.

They have to dress so conservatively at school - especially secondary - that it's nice to let them relax in the hols.

5madthings Sat 20-Jul-13 18:51:43

I remember using spray on hair colouror a little wand thing like a mascara brush that you used to put col our on your hair, only when it got wet it ran...

My boys have had spray on col our and glitter etc for their hair.

WorraLiberty Sat 20-Jul-13 18:53:00

But who says she is doing it to 'look beautiful' its just a bit of dress up/play in the superhero theme as the child has said

Then what's wrong with buying wig to go with a superhero outfit?

5madthings Sat 20-Jul-13 18:57:07

A wig will be hot and sweaty and to get a half decent one expensive.

Did you do nothing like this as a child? I remember buying little wands of col our like mascara but for your hair, I also learn how to wrap my hair in embroidery thread it plait it in, spent hours doing that as a child, it was just fun, something non permanent and a bit like face painting etc. Ditto glitter hair spray, at least now you can get decent dye and it won't run every time it gets wet in the rain or swimming etc.

cantspel Sat 20-Jul-13 18:58:27

If she wants to play superhero's buy her a spiderman suit.

I dont think 8 year olds should be dying their hair, especially dip dye which is the favorite pass time of 15 year olds trying to look like an extra from Townies

5madthings Sat 20-Jul-13 18:58:40
SignoraStronza Sat 20-Jul-13 19:00:49

My dd(6) is desperate for pink hair like mummy's. However, she has very long dark brown hair so not sure how it's going to work, as don't really want to bleach it. Desperately needs cutting though, so perhaps I could make a cut a condition of dyeing it. Or maybe just dye the boys at the front that are naturally sun bleached and let it wash out in time for school.

5madthings Sat 20-Jul-13 19:00:56
WorraLiberty Sat 20-Jul-13 19:02:42

A wig will be hot and sweaty and to get a half decent one expensive.

What? confused

I'm not suggesting she walks around town in it...just that she puts it on when playing Superheros, like children have done for decades.

5madthings Sat 20-Jul-13 19:06:09

My kids wear superhero costumes all day, ds2went to london zoo as buzz light year, a costume can be worn all day if they want, unless its a good wig it will be uncomfortable, we have a red one its itchy as hell.

I do think the hair mascara is a good compromise, I might buy some for our dress up/face paint collection.

WorraLiberty Sat 20-Jul-13 19:12:46

So did mine

DS3 spent around a year dressed as the Incredible Hulk

He managed to survive without dying his hair bright green

Heartbrokenmum73 Sat 20-Jul-13 19:12:48

My DD is 11 and starting secondary school in September. She asked if she could dip dye her hair over the summer because 'all her friends are' hmm and I've said no. End of discussion.

I'm obviously weird then, because I didn't dye my own hair until I was 17 and was never into any of the stuff mentioned above. I'm trying to instil in DD the need to be comfortable in her own skin. I'm already getting the shit about 'my hair is awful', 'I hate how I look in photos' etc. Wtf? She's at primary school! There was none of this crap when I was her age. Time enough for that when she's older - she's a CHILD now and I'm dreading letting her go.

And we've agreed that fake tans look shit on everyone grin

Heartbrokenmum73 Sat 20-Jul-13 19:13:51

Worra agreeing with you on everything but <whispers> Hulk has black hair and green skin.

ouryve Sat 20-Jul-13 19:14:14

Hair that's going to get cut off at the beginning of September, perfectly fine (and tbh, I get more judgemental at grown women in their 30s squeeing over dip dying).

Anything that affects the skin directly would be a no from me, though.

MiaowTheCat Sat 20-Jul-13 19:20:18

Wouldn't allow my two to when the time comes - they can do the daft hair butchery when they start secondary, likewise ear piercing... until then they can have makeup and hair mascara.

If she's blonde though the Directions stuff may well not come out as easily as people are making out... poppy red made my hair go a shade of candy floss pink that never did fade when I was about 14 (god my mum hit the roof when I did that when she was out of the house) - loved it at the time but these days I'd rank it as one of those massive fashion disasters of my youth.

Feminine Sat 20-Jul-13 19:21:00

I don't like it.

Well I don't like it on any age.

OP my dd is only 4. My worry would be when does it stop?

8 is still very young.

5madthings Sat 20-Jul-13 19:22:00

What if it was a boy? See lots of little boys with spike/mohican styles in school holidays, often with the ends coloured. Again its only a school holiday thing, my boys have done similar but only with the spray on hair col our that washes out at the end of the day. Ditto glitter hairspray etc.

As I said as a kid the hair mascara, spray on one day colour were very common for school discos and summer holidays etc. It wasn't about being sexy or grown up, it was just play and my boys are the same, they have mainly had silver hair spray or red but whatever colour fine as long as it washes out and its school holidays.

How about a braid or some beads instead? I don't like the idea of using chemicals on children, so that's one of the reasons I don't like it.

The idea of fake tan on children fills me with horror tbh, and make up on girls younger than teen is tacky and horrible imho.

FrenchRuby Sat 20-Jul-13 19:24:09

When I was 8 or 9 I use to use hair mascara smile not because I wanted to look older, because I liked having bright coloured hair (still haven't grown out of that, currently sporting baby pink hair).

Feminine Sat 20-Jul-13 19:24:41

Yuck on boys too!

I'm sure none of us ( boy or girl) worried this much about how we looked back in the 70's 80's

LackaDAISYcal Sat 20-Jul-13 19:29:20

personally I think it's too young. Maybe for an 11 year old, between primary and high school, but I'm not there yet with DD, and DS who has just left Yr6 is not yet interested in his appearance, other than wanting to grow his hair a bit.

False nails is an interesting one for me though; we went to a wedding last year when DD was 5 and I had my nails done as I'm a serial nailbiter and wanted them to look nice for a change. When I was in the chemist I saw these little stick on nails with flowers on that changed colour in UV light so got her some. She loved it, as she was just like mum, but there was no harsh glue involved and they were really fun and girly and had all fallen off by bedtime

WorraLiberty Sat 20-Jul-13 19:29:55

Worra agreeing with you on everything but <whispers> Hulk has black hair and green skin.

Oh right. Maybe that's how he survived?! grin

Xihha Sat 20-Jul-13 19:30:23

Go for it, sound fun to me.

stargazer and directions both do some lovely shades of pink and purple that are not permanent or very chemically, alternatively you can use chalk on wet hair and fix it with a hairdryer/straighteners, it washes out in 1 wash too so if she wanted she could change colours lots. You can buy special hair chalk but normal chalk works too.

5madthings Sat 20-Jul-13 19:33:35

Fgs it doesn't mean they are worrying about how they look!

frenchruby I was the same with the hair mascara, plus wrapping it in colored thread and glitter hair spray etc.

I once did ds4's hair in a cheetah pattern to match his face paint, just spray on stuff that washed out at bedtime, he was obsessed with the thunder cats at the time.

I have just shown the hair mascara to ds2 and he thinks its cool, he wants blue.

Its the damage to hair from bleaching it that would be my biggest concern but if its just the ernds that are going to get cut off anyway it doesn't matter so much. The hair mascara is a good compromise tho and you can get loads of col ours, cheap as chips as well smile

5madthings Sat 20-Jul-13 19:35:35

xihia shall look up those makes and the hair chalk, sounds interesting, I am bored with my own hair at the moment....

DiseasesOfTheSheep Sat 20-Jul-13 19:36:58

I think there's a difference between dying your hair pink and dying it blond or another normal colour. The latter strikes me as trying to look pretty, or not liking her hair colour, not being comfortable with her looks, or wanting to attract boys - all of which should be avoided at 8! To me dying it an unnatural, bright colour is like playing dress up, or look unnatural (like a super hero, or Tonks, or something daft and juvenile), which is just playing and no less inappropriate than face paint and such.

Basically, I think the motivations are different and that's what matters. Just my opinion though - and this is just a matter of opinion smile

WorraLiberty Sat 20-Jul-13 19:38:49

Fgs it doesn't mean they are worrying about how they look!

Of course it does confused

If they weren't conscious of how they look, why would they bother wanting to join in with this latest fashion trend?

At 8yrs old I was far too busy playing with teddy bears and toys, to want to look like a teenager/adult.

It just wouldn't have entered my head to jump on this bandwagon.

5madthings Sat 20-Jul-13 19:43:43

I played with dolls and stuff at eight as well, I also rollerskated, rode my bike played at the park it wasn't about being grown up or that I was worried about my appearance, it was play like putting on fancy dress or having face paints.

You think its about wanting to grow up/appearance, the child in question says its about playing super hero.

It can just be play we don't have to attribute adult thought processes and motivations to everything children do.

She wants to play super hero, plenty of them have odd coloured hair, she doesn't have to be identical to them it can be just fun.

KoalaFace Sat 20-Jul-13 19:44:03

5madthings for shame I knew about Songbird too!

What about hair chalk? My friends going to festivals absolutely raved about this stuff I wouldn't judge you for her having it dued though. It's up to you!

DiseasesOfTheSheep Sat 20-Jul-13 19:46:37

I was a very booky child, and I can guarentee at that age if there'd been a very cool character (or human-esque species!) in a book I'd read that had blue hair, I can guarentee I'd have been desperate to dye mine too. I've always been the least fashion conscience person I know blush

I just don't think that fashion is the only reason a child wants to change something about how they look.

WorraLiberty Sat 20-Jul-13 19:48:25

The OP can't think of a single Superhero with dip dyed hair, so I really doubt that's the reason her DD wants it.

It's probably more to do with the fact she sees it as grown up.

I would imagine more little girls want to dip dye because of the likes of Jessie J, Britney Spears, Christina Aguilera et al...than a Superhero.

I think the difference is, in the past most parents would have said no to such a young child.

5madthings Sat 20-Jul-13 19:51:15

Yep I loved rainbow brite and care bears and ,y strawberry shortcake doll, I remember using a felt tip to give myself freckles like my strawberry shortcake doll had, she was just a rag doll that smelt of strawberries.

Feminine Sat 20-Jul-13 19:51:39

What super hero has odd coloured hair though?

I'm a little bit of the opinion that Op's daughter told her Mum that, so as to get it!

she sounds smart!

WorraLiberty Sat 20-Jul-13 19:53:47

A couple were named upthread Feminine but I don't think they're very modern characters.

I'd certainly never heard of them.

Feminine Sat 20-Jul-13 19:53:54

I do remember doing some D.I.Y beauty jobs.

Links from a chain for earrings....pins in my shoes to make them 'clip-clop'

felt tip pen to do my nails...

I didn't let me mum see however as she would have been cross.

5madthings Sat 20-Jul-13 19:54:18

Oh god too ,much googling now I may have to buy a vintage strawberry shortcake ragdoll... Too cute!

Bit pissed off they have brought out a sexed up rainbow sprite doll!!

5madthings Sat 20-Jul-13 19:56:03

words the marvel superhero range is totally 'in' at the moment, its very retro and cool, all the kids are into it, the cartoons are being repeated etc and loads of books and toys out, a child that knows ,marvel will ow of song bird etc, my five year old can name them all, and sadly I know far too many myself.

cluckyduck Sat 20-Jul-13 19:57:53

We do a lot of superhero based play, so as to capture DS's imagination too. This includes making up stories, games and doing drawings, and yes DD does draw her heroes with vivid hair - just because she hasn't copied a Marvel comic doesn't mean she doesn't identify that hair with a superhero!

5madthings Sat 20-Jul-13 19:57:56

Lego has brought out a range of marvel super hero Lego, seriously the toys are in most toy stores.

5madthings Sat 20-Jul-13 20:00:18

And yes Clucky she doesn't have to want to emulate a specific super hero, its just the whole theme/fun aspect of it dress up, cool hair etc. Dyed hair is very super hero, of you Google super hero hair you get lots of links to dip dyed hair, stripes, streaks etc.

Did you see the hair mascara you can get clucku may be a good compromise and then she can change col ours etc or the hair chalks also look good smile

cluckyduck Sat 20-Jul-13 20:01:29

Just looking at hair mascara now - thanks 5madthings - might buy one for myself as well....

5madthings Sat 20-Jul-13 20:03:11

Me too grin

BreadNameBread Sat 20-Jul-13 20:04:03

My girls were never interested in how they looked or in trying to look like pop stars but they loved their dip dyed hair. It's fun, nothing more.

My DDs are older teens and still don't wear make up etc (apart from a bit of lippy to prom smile ). Having your hair dip dyed doesn't mean your DD is trying to emulate anybody, it just means they like having pretty coloured hair.

WorraLiberty Sat 20-Jul-13 20:04:24

Well I've learnt a lot from this thread

I have genuinely not seen a dip dyed child under the age of about 14 or 15.

But as I said, the schools haven't broken up yet...and if this is set to be this Summer's fashion, I'll probably see lots of little dip dyed children soon.

I'm still not sure I agree with it, whether they're emulating a Super Hero or Britney Spears but that's my problem I suppose.

I can guarantee that by August there'll be at least a couple of MN threads berating these children as Chavs...but there are snobs everywhere sadly.

5madthings Sat 20-Jul-13 20:06:41

Loads of kids here sprayed their hair ir bits of it red for red nose day and have glitter spray or coloured clip ins for parties etc or dress up. Boys as well as girls. I did it myself as a child.

manicinsomniac Sat 20-Jul-13 20:11:59

I think you are probably NBU, it is only in fun.

I don't think I'd let my daughters do it but now I really want to dip dye my hair! Now is that unreasonable? !

scrumpkin Sat 20-Jul-13 20:14:47

I dip dye my 7 year olds hair pink every summer, then cut it off for school.

She loves it smile

Thymeout Sat 20-Jul-13 20:20:05

When I was a child - a loooong time ago - some preteens had perms. Or their mothers wrapped their hair in rags at night to make ringlets. It was regarded as 'common' - presumably the same as 'chav' today. Especially by aspirant working class families trying to pull themselves up by their bootstraps. I don't think I'd call them snobbish. I wasn't allowed. Had my hair in plaits till secondary school.

I think being too preoccupied with your appearance was regarded as something to be discouraged.

Hair colour for halloween or dressing up, fine, for a day. But something that's going to last 6 weeks at 8? No - too young.

SaucyJack Sat 20-Jul-13 20:26:13

Your kid, your choice.

My eight year old will not be having it done however.

SirChenjin Sat 20-Jul-13 20:31:18

The schools up here broke up 3 weeks ago. Thankfully it's not a fashion that has taken hold up here amongst young children (with parents enabling it).

DoubleMum Sat 20-Jul-13 20:35:28

I have an 8 yr old DD, and it would be a definite no from me.

ravenAK Sat 20-Jul-13 20:56:33

Quite fancy it for the holidays myself, & I'm a 42 yo teacher.

I'd be fine with any of my dc wanting to do this; valuable life lesson in that the world is FULL of odd people who think that funny-coloured hair makes you somehow incapable of serious work, so it's important to fit the fun stuff in in your holidays, or whilst you're young/old enough to get away with it, unless you actually want to engage with/challenge these people.

Hair grows continuously. Anything anyone does to the last couple of inches of their hair can easily be chopped off 6 weeks later, with no harm done.

It really does strike me as quite a joyous way to celebrate the end of term.

SirChenjin Sat 20-Jul-13 21:08:31

What - literally FULL of? wink grin

ravenAK Sat 20-Jul-13 21:18:54

Perhaps metaphorically rather than literally. I'm permitting myself some end of term hyperbole & general frivolity. grin

SirChenjin Sat 20-Jul-13 21:24:25

A little end of term dizziness is allowed grin

D0oinMeCleanin Sat 20-Jul-13 21:44:15

I wasn't aware that it was popular with young children. I haven't seen anyone bar dd1 with dip dye hair around here. She wanted it because she's always wanted pink hair, ever since she was three and met a lady with pink, purple and blue dreadlocks.

The dip dye became her fascination when Jessie J and a YouTube cake baker/Minecraft player named Cupquakes did it.

I let her this year because she's had a rough year with bullying at school and if it makes her marginally happier, where is the harm? It's only hair. It will wash out/grow back.

BreadNameBread Sat 20-Jul-13 22:21:18

My DDs first dip dyed their hair or should I say I enabled them to do it grin about 8 or 9 years ago. They were not the first in their school to do it. I think it is more popular as the dyes are much cheaper and easily available and they have lovely bright colours
My DDs first had it done at the hairdressers but ever since then we have done it at home.

Icelollycraving Sat 20-Jul-13 22:43:52

I wouldn't. I remember coloured hairsprays,I sprayed mine with a pinky red when I was about 8. My mum went absolutely mad.
There is plenty of time for that,she's only young.

MissStrawberry Sun 21-Jul-13 09:00:26

My only experience of dip dyed hair is on Caroline Flack and I think it looks awful.

My youngest are 8 and 9 and I would not allow them to do it though I am 100& sure they wouldn't want too. I let them have their toe nails painted but while I would let my son have his nails painted I don't like my daughter having them done. Too grown up and therefore looks common in my opinion.

I would judge as the parent letting the child try grown up things too quickly.

My eldest son when about 7 had spray painted hair for comic relief but that was for a day and washed out. It is the dyeing aspect as well for me.

I have been thinking about this and I think teaching children that their appearence is theirs alone and they can play and have fun with it iis a good thing.

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