To think babies in bikinis is just a step too far?

(88 Posts)
Whothefuckfarted Sat 20-Jul-13 13:12:40

https://www.facebook.com/photo.php?fbid=400511556708813&set=pb.168291156597522.-2207520000.1374321888.&type=3&theater

I don't get it. I just don't...

Some would say that there must be something wrong with me to not agree with it... but I don't get it, I just think no... not for a baby..

Whothefuckfarted Sat 20-Jul-13 13:13:22

www.babikini.com/

This is the website page..

I do like their one pieces for babies though! smile

Pigsmummy Sat 20-Jul-13 13:15:06

I have pictures of me aged about 2 in a bikini, I don't see the issue tbh. My little wriggle pants is difficult to get I to a one piece so I might consider a bikini for next holidays.

pigletmania Sat 20-Jul-13 13:33:23

That is a horrid bikini! But generally yabvu there are some lovely frilly two pieces for babies that are cute and don't make them look cheap

Whothefuckfarted Sat 20-Jul-13 13:38:45

I think some of the two pieces are lovely too, It's the triangle ones I find a bit... shock

southeastastra Sat 20-Jul-13 13:41:45

i had a triangle one in the 70s, it's just a fashion item. looks cute, that's all.

today is like mn groundhog day lots of threads that always appear this time of year, or have i been here too long wink

gordyslovesheep Sat 20-Jul-13 13:42:25

ahhhh it's just a bikini - would I put my baby in one - no - is it a step too far - meh not really

Whothefuckfarted Sat 20-Jul-13 13:43:17

Maybe I just haven't been here long enough southeast ;)

CheeseFondueRocks Sat 20-Jul-13 13:44:11

I find it disturbing.

picnicbasketcase Sat 20-Jul-13 13:45:46

I wouldn't put a baby or child in one myself. Rather odd to cover up non existent breasts.

southeastastra Sat 20-Jul-13 13:46:02

the pic is the op is def weird though, i had mine when i was a toddler rather than an actual baby

Shrugged Sat 20-Jul-13 13:46:54

I've no issue with the two piece swimsuits (apart from sunburn issues), but the triangular-cut bikini tops, which are versions of the adult cups designed to cover breasts, strike me as inappropriately adult on a pre-pubescent child.

Thumbwitch Sat 20-Jul-13 13:47:16

See, when I read your title, I thought you meant something like this - which, while unbearably twee, is ok and not a step too far.

But having seen what you linked to, I agree with you - YANBU, it is a step (or several!) too far and Just Plain Wrong.

FannyFifer Sat 20-Jul-13 13:47:45

Don't understand the point of the bra top bit of the bikini for little ones.
Covering non existing breasts is just odd.

TheFantasticFixit Sat 20-Jul-13 13:50:18

I don't get it at all. Why would they need the top bit? What on earth is there to cover? Actually I do get it - and it disturbs me.

IneedAyoniNickname Sat 20-Jul-13 13:52:25

Surely the side tie bottoms would be impractical n small children?

KissMyStardust Sat 20-Jul-13 13:52:28

I have an issue with bikinis and flimsy suits on babies and young children purely because I am so concerned with sun safety-the wetsuit type suits you get are fab or stick a tshirt over the bikini so shoulders are covered. There is a lovely swimsuit i have seen for DD but won't be buying it because of this.

miffybun73 Sat 20-Jul-13 13:53:40

I find it disturbing. That picture makes me feel a bit queasy.

Aside from how inappropriate they are on tiny babies - what about 'containment issues'? Would that nasty tiny string-sided bottom hold a poonami?

YANBU, definitely. A more 'substantial' two piece on an older child maybe, string bikini on a tiny baby - no way!

My first though is, how can you put a swim nappy under those bottoms.

Thank god I have a son!

SoupDragon Sat 20-Jul-13 13:54:45

I find it disturbing when people say they think it sexualises the child.

Mintyy Sat 20-Jul-13 13:58:20

I don't find it disturbing, but I can't imagine all those babies are toilet trained. Babies need to be in a swim nappy if in a public place, wear whatever they like once they can control their bowels and bladder.

I don't real,y understand the bra bit, but then little girls wear swimming costumes which are designed to be a handy way to cover your breasts and bum etc; in one piece, so this is really no different to a swimming costume but easier for a baby.

Imagine how uncomfortable it must be for a tiny baby having to lie on that huge knot tied in the back of the bikini top.

JimmysMum1988 Sat 20-Jul-13 14:03:46

I personally wouldn't dress my child in it. Probs would just put her in a swimming nappy.

oohdaddypig Sat 20-Jul-13 14:10:24

YANBU

Makes me queasy too. Not entirely sure why but I think it's because you are going to the bother of separately covering the baby's chest. But she is a baby. There is nothing to cover. It might not be sexualisation but is is definitely separating genders in a way that is utterly unnecessary at that age. Yuk.

mejypoo Sat 20-Jul-13 14:15:47

Yes I find them bloody awful and they make me cringe.

Swimsuits all the way!!

Xihha Sat 20-Jul-13 14:23:50

Oh dear, they've even got ones with bottoms designed to go over nappies!

When my daughter was really small she had a tankini because it was easier to put the top and bottoms on seperately and made it much easier if she needed the loo but it covered as much skin as a swimming costume would.

IMO the little triangle bikini tops are disgusting on a child and I wont let my daughter wear them. plus if you are wearing them outside there is far too much skin exposed to the sun (I make my son keep a t-shirt on at the beach for the same reason)

Suzieismyname Sat 20-Jul-13 14:28:51

Horrible.

NobodyPutsMyBabyInTheCorner Sat 20-Jul-13 14:49:04

I have a little tankini type of thing for my DD (2) and it's fine. However I do find the triangles a bit disturbing, not sure why?

farewellfarewell Sat 20-Jul-13 14:53:56

awful yanbu

specialsubject Sat 20-Jul-13 15:27:12

how ridiculous.

small children/babies at the beach should wear sunsuits and hats, not tiny swimsuits of any kind.

usualsuspect Sat 20-Jul-13 15:29:37

Meh

catinabox Sat 20-Jul-13 15:36:20

God, how absolutely depressing, and disturbing. What is the matter with people? YANBU.

mikkii Sat 20-Jul-13 15:49:09

My DD's wear bikini bottoms on holiday, even the 6yo doesn't bother with a top. Most of DD's sets no longer match as tops are pristine whilst bottoms are faded.

DD2 does have a bikini with triangle top (don't flame me, it was a gift), we just leave it at home.

The best we have are some that are just pants, no tops, much better.

Beastofburden Sat 20-Jul-13 15:54:43

Two pieces aren't new, I had one in the early 1960s. But it was as sexy as a cheese sandwich, and was mainly so I could pee, I think. That whole pink bow hair band on bald baby head, plus zebra skin combo is creepy on a baby, yes including the triangle tops.

Mine lived in those all in one sunproof Lycra zip up things, brilliant at keeping sand out of little girls bottoms as well, no more itchy nights.

5madthings Sat 20-Jul-13 15:58:45

m.johnlewis.com/mt/www.johnlewis.com/john-lewis-butterfly-tankini-red/p367988?un_jtt_v_pdp=yes&un_jtt_v_from_product=un_product_9

My dd has this, so essentially a vest and swim pants, purely as we may be potty training this summer and so its easier to just pull bottoms down rather than take off a costume. At the pool she only wears the bottoms over a swim.nappy as no need to put a top on as she has nothing to cover. At the beach i tend to put her in the bottoms and a t shirt on top because of the sun.

Little bikini tops are pointless as they dont have boobs and they offer no aun protection.

soontobeburns Sat 20-Jul-13 16:03:08

Wrong wrong wrong.

Im sorry but it just looks like young babies even are being sexualised at such a young age. Whats next having toddlers in thongs ffs

usualsuspect Sat 20-Jul-13 16:07:45

I've got photos of my DDs in bikinis as toddlers.

Something else I did wrong,according to the MN rules on parenting.

Oh well.

Whothefuckfarted Sat 20-Jul-13 16:07:45

You see, that's the difference for me. Two pieces, great, there are some lovely ones and I can see the more practical side to them. But the triangle ones just freaked me out when I saw them..

NinaJade666 Sat 20-Jul-13 17:31:49

That really is awful. String bikinis for babies is just plain wrong. How can anyone think it's 'cute' ???

Yuk! YANBU

Branleuse Sat 20-Jul-13 17:49:42

i have no strong feelings on the subject.

looks a bit silly, but... meh

ChestyNut Sat 20-Jul-13 17:49:52

That particular one is a bit strange

Can't see anything wrong in two pieces though.

cheerfulweather Sat 20-Jul-13 17:54:41

I find them unnecessary at that age. Bikini bottoms alone will do just fine.

cheerfulweather Sat 20-Jul-13 17:56:24

Though most babies I've seen this summer have been in UV suits with legionnaire style hats.

Sirzy Sat 20-Jul-13 17:58:25

I have no issue with little girls in bikinis, but i do have issue with things like that - so wrong!

Nasty.

Faezy Sat 20-Jul-13 18:25:13

God they're horrid. The tops are disturbing

ChristineDaae Sat 20-Jul-13 18:29:35

I really really hate anyone younger than hitting puberty in a bikini. I just don't see why?!
That's only me though. Each to their own I guess

cheerfulweather Sat 20-Jul-13 18:34:52

I've just looked at the link. My they're ugly bikinis, the headband too.

wigglesrock Sat 20-Jul-13 18:37:36

All my daughters wear two pieces, tankinis I suppose they are. I know the ones you've linked to are different but mine wear seperates because its so much easier to go to the toilet in or change a nappy. Is there anything more awkward than peeling a wet swimsuit off a squirmy child.

They also wore bikini bottoms with t-shirts a lot on holidays and here over the past few weeks.

intheshed Sat 20-Jul-13 18:57:54

Most of the pictures are of toddlers though, which is a bit different. My 5yo mithered me for a bikini fpr ages and I kept saying no, then SIL got her a horrid lurid pink one for her birthday hmm I let her wear it in the garden and on the beach, and actually it is much more practical in terms of her being able to go to the toilet etc. So I am now a bit of a convert!

Xmasbaby11 Sat 20-Jul-13 19:00:16

It doesn't look comfy for the baby, as others have pointed out. I don't think it's possible to sexualise a baby, though I would never put DD in this! She has a two piece but both pieces are big and comfy.

MiaowTheCat Sat 20-Jul-13 19:25:18

Tankinis when potty training... yeah - I can see the use of those and the next size up I buy DD1 will probably be a two piece like that purely for the "whipping the pants bit down fast" factor.

Bikinis - not to my liking... I don't want that much baby skin exposed to the sun more than anything else. Plus it's not as if you're going to be able to use it for weekly school swimming lessons and get moneys worth out of it when they're that bit older - our local pools all have bans on bikinis and oversized swim shorts too (too many incidents of kids climbing out of the pool leaving their shorts behind!) for school swimming sessions (and I assume for their own pool-organised swimming lessons).

Mind you ours generally are last summer's reduced in the factory shop jobbies anyway - would never pay 30 dollars for a bloody baby swimming cozzie!

YANBU that is twisted and truly fucked up. I am unsure why anyone with an ounce of common sense would put their young daughter in a bikini.

MummyPig24 Sat 20-Jul-13 21:13:09

I wouldn't put my baby in one. But what other people put their baby in for swimming, I don't really care. Dd (3) has a few cute two pieces but they are full pants and longer tops.

JackNoneReacher Sat 20-Jul-13 21:16:53

guineapig I put my young daughter in a bikini because its easier for her to go to the toilet herself esp when its wet. I'm neither twisted nor fucked up.

Whothefuckfarted Sat 20-Jul-13 21:20:32

jacknone

Did you look at the links?

Is it a triangular string bikini that you put your DD in or a two piece?

Just asking as I think there is a huge difference between the two....

I really don't see the need to put a string bikini top on a baby...

JackNoneReacher Sat 20-Jul-13 21:28:59

Yes and I don't like the string bikini on a baby.

But I also don't like the comments from several posters that small children shouldn't wear a 2 piece. This is a world away from the baby in a string bikini.

Whothefuckfarted Sat 20-Jul-13 21:31:54

Oh right, I think guinea pig was referring to the string bikini on the baby when using 'twisted and fucked up'

I think 2 pieces are lovely. String bikini's are totally shock IMO.

JackNoneReacher Sat 20-Jul-13 21:33:57

Maybe you're right... I took 'young daughters' to mean little girls rather than babies.

Thumbwitch Sun 21-Jul-13 02:05:26

Tankinis - no problem, quite sensible. I had one of those back in the early 1970s!
String bikinis with triangle boob-coverers for babies with no boobs - WRONG.

And that's where the sexualisation bit comes in - the suggestion of boobs where there are none.

SamHamwidge Sun 21-Jul-13 02:30:19

Very disturbing. Almost more disturbing is the fact that some posters on this thread don't find it disturbing !

I agree it's a world away from a talking style two piece, which is only a two piece for reasons of practicality.

SamHamwidge Sun 21-Jul-13 02:31:48

Tankini not talking... A talking bikini would be interesting though...

Angelfootprints Sun 21-Jul-13 03:48:08

Dislike!

Whothefuckfarted Sun 21-Jul-13 04:44:04

thumb witch I think you've hit the nail on the head there for me. THAT is why I was shock when I saw it. I just didn't know how to word it.

SoupDragon Sun 21-Jul-13 11:54:31

But why is a swimsuit, which is also designed purely to cover breasts, OK? No men wear them, thus the design is breast related and thus just as bad as any bikini.

Mumsyblouse Sun 21-Jul-13 12:00:43

Why is it easier for a baby/toddler to wear a bikini than just the swim bottoms? Mine had nappy type bikini bottoms and didn't worry about covering their tops at all and plenty of littlies on the beach were like that- and some naked ones as well.

For older girls, I love the tankini styles, very sensible, I don't want my 9/10 year old in a frilly bikini, it sends a weird message out and invites people to think she's older than she is.

50shadesofpink Sun 21-Jul-13 12:24:21

Looks totally wrong - my DD is 6 and its s one piece swimming costume here. Children should be children for as long as they are children!!

50shadesofpink Sun 21-Jul-13 12:25:48

Thumb witch - just read your post and couldn't have put it better myself.

charlottehere Sun 21-Jul-13 12:29:46

Truly vile. sad

charlottehere Sun 21-Jul-13 12:30:32

Yay thumb whitch

charlottehere Sun 21-Jul-13 12:31:24

I have just started letting dd1 who's 11 wear bikini because she actually has boobs.

They're a bit garish aren't they, and not exactly practical. Not sure there's any advantages to putting a baby/toddler in a bikini rather than a tankini/two piece. Surely it's more of a faff?

Surely the easiest and most sensible solution is swimming trunks/shorts (or just a swim nappy) and either nothing or a light t-shirt?

Thumbwitch Sun 21-Jul-13 12:36:43

Soupdragon, I get the feeling you're playing devil's advocate here but I'd just like to let you know that my DSs both wear one piece swimsuits that cover their whole bodies. It's far safer that way. As DS1 gets older, he'll move to trunks and a t-shirt/longsleeve shirt top. When he's old enough to go swimming on his own, then he can decide to go topless.

Hmm YANBU my dd is 1 and throughout this hot weather she has been wearing the uv sun suits or shorts and t shirt and sat in the shade nearly all the time
That bikini is ridiculous at that age. Once out of nappies fine but even then not the top just pants or a swimsuit.

NoComet Sun 21-Jul-13 13:07:57

The site is American and I don't think they are very comfortable with nudity even in very small DCs.

I think tops would just feel natural there.

Anyway a bikini clearly isn't suitable for the beach and swimming, but for getting covered in sand, mud and water in the garden then going straight in the shower it might well be.

The toddlers on the site look cute, the face book baby doesn't

brimfullofasha Sun 21-Jul-13 13:14:59

Horrible. I don't understand why people want to dress babies like adults.

SoupDragon Sun 21-Jul-13 13:17:51

I'd just like to let you know that my DSs both wear one piece swimsuits that cover their whole bodies

That is in no way the same as a swim suit is it?
Nor is board shorts and a t shirt.

A girls one piece swim suit is designed to cover the breast area. It is not for sun protection.

Thumbwitch Sun 21-Jul-13 13:21:09

So are you playing devil's advocate, or do you really believe there is no difference between the string bikini and any other little girl's swimsuit, Soup?

(I never said board shorts, by the way. I think they're vile).

SoupDragon Sun 21-Jul-13 13:32:00

Can you not see the contradiction between complaining about bikinis covering non existent breasts and putting a girl in a one piece swimsuit specifically designed to cover non existent breasts?

I don't look at a child in a bikini and think "sexualisation"- I think that is weird and fucked up (to steal a phrase from the Nay Sayers). Unless the top is padded to resemble breasts there really is not a problem.

And good luck with getting an older boy into trunks rather than swim shorts. smile I think mine wore them until 7 then flatly refused. Swim shorts cover more and thus give more sun protection anyway.

Thumbwitch Sun 21-Jul-13 13:52:53

I believe that one piece swimsuits for females are a modesty issue. That string bikini has nothing to do with modesty at all. Happier with that?

Thumbwitch Sun 21-Jul-13 13:54:04

Sorry - not explicit enough. One piece swimsuits and tankini style swimmers.

SoupDragon Sun 21-Jul-13 14:33:41

And what has a small girl to be modest about?

A string bikini is about covering breasts.
A one piece is about covering breasts.
A tankini is about covering breasts.

There really is no difference in the function of any of them. Some cover up the stomach as well but their function is to keep the breasts covered. And the lack of breasts in a small girl is what people are claiming the "wrongness" stems from. If this were the case they would object to all but sun protection suits and trunks with or without a t shirt.

DD wears or does not wear the top half of her bikini as she pleases. It doesn't bother me either way.

A top padded to resemble breasts is sexualisation. Flat fabric is not.

thebody Sun 21-Jul-13 14:42:26

I never look at any child and see 'sexualisation'.

I can't really see that a child in a bikini is 'twisted and fucked up' I think posters need to get a bit of a grip.

the shooting of Malala by the Taliban is twisted and fucked up.

a baby in a bikini isn't really is it??

SoupDragon - I would say that there are differing levels of sexiness. If you consider adult swimwear, a sting bikini is sexier than a more substantial bikini, which is itself sexier than a tankini or one piece swimsuit - and it is with those perceptions that we look at baby swimwear, and that is what makes some of us see the sting bikini as less acceptable than the tankini or one-piece.

foreverondiet Sun 21-Jul-13 15:38:02

I think it's unreasonable but only because baby should be wearing a swim nappy not because of the top!!!!

Oldraver Sun 21-Jul-13 15:55:47

From a practical point of view, I think a tankini looks better, as young children dont have anything to hold up a bikini top so must be uncomfortable for them. Though nothing wrong with a child wearing just a bottom of nothing at all

I think when you look at a child whatever they are wearing you should think child....

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