To ask for your help with this ridiculous problem

(48 Posts)
monkeymamma Mon 15-Jul-13 21:36:05

DS 18m has tonight decided he cannot go to bed without his sun hat on. It sounds cute but it's driving me insane - obviously I don't want him to have it on in bed because it doesn't really stay on (is one of those madchester bucket style jobs) and I fear will suffocate him in the night. But he made such a big fuss (think banshee screaming wailing kicking shouting screeching) I had to capitulate and let him wear it. Snuck in 10mins ago to extract the hat from sleeping DS and it was caught under his head, woke him up in the attempt. Cue 10 minutes major meltdown. I had to give in yet again (yes I feel terrible about this) because the way he was carrying in I thought he would injure himself/lose his voice/cause the neighbours to think something awful was going on.

Now he's sleeping, triumphantly, with the hat on. How on earth do I get it off him? And how does anyone survive the terrible twos, assuming that is what this is?

FrogsGoWhat Mon 15-Jul-13 21:37:46

DD has on several occasions insisted on sleeping in wellies..... just give it a good 30 mins before you attempt retrieval! grin

SmellsLikeWeenSpirits Mon 15-Jul-13 21:37:54

Just leave it. It's unlikely to wrap itsf around his face and form an airtight seal

OHforDUCKScake Mon 15-Jul-13 21:38:13

I have a 2 yo and if he wanted to sleep in his hat id just let him.

I wouldnt worry about suffocating. Its no different from having a comforter in bed, just that this item is hat shaped.

Smartieaddict Mon 15-Jul-13 21:39:20

I would let him have his way with this. A hat is no more likely to smother him than his bedding is, and is it really worth the fight. I think you will get through the terrible two's by picking your battles, and now is the time to start.

PatsyAndEddy Mon 15-Jul-13 21:40:23

It is cute!

He'll be fine, pop in and take it out in an hour

Oxen Mon 15-Jul-13 21:46:23

dd is 2.8yrs and she sleeps with wellies on / hats on / every one of her books in the bed etc

Every night before I go to bed I pop into her bedroom and take off the wellies / hat etc.

It'll be fine, choose your battles is a very good piece of advice imo

monkeymamma Mon 15-Jul-13 21:46:30

Thanks fellow mnetters! I think I worry unduly about the suffocating thing. That's a good point about the comforter - he has never wanted a soft toy in bed or enjoyed snuggling any of his blankets so its usually just him in his sleeping bag (tonight it's just him, his nappy and his hat!)

Good to know this is not the battle to pick - I felt like an idiot for letting him keep it on but honestly 'bedtime' tonight has gone on long enough!

PatsyAndEddy Mon 15-Jul-13 21:49:21

Take a photo! Not for us, cute as it would be, but for keeps. You'll laugh about it for a long time. I've just had ds2 and ds1 loves hearing about all the silly things he used to do.

intheshed Mon 15-Jul-13 21:49:39

I think I would pop in when you go up to bed- it's likely to have fallen off by then if he's as wriggly as my DC!

You could then pop the hat on one of his teddies and claim they stole it when he was asleep grin

Trills Mon 15-Jul-13 21:50:07


Itchywoolyjumper Mon 15-Jul-13 21:50:52

DS aged nearly 3 wouldn't be parted from a t-shirt the other day, it wasn't worth a day long tantrum so I just let him trail it about with him and liberated it from his vice like grip after he fell asleep. Like Smartie says, pick your battles.
As for surviving the terrible twos DS's great gran was telling me about some of the humdingers of tantrums her kids had. She told me just to grit my teeth and wait for it to be over. She's 82 so I think it might be good advice grin

youarewinning Mon 15-Jul-13 21:52:04

Count yourself lucky - most parents have a problem keeping the hat on their LO's heads grin

FadBook Mon 15-Jul-13 21:52:43

Dd went to bed with her bucket and spade from the beach on Saturday night grin

I pick my battles with her. This one wasn't worth arguing the toss with even though there was bloody sand everywhere

Wildwaterfalls Mon 15-Jul-13 21:56:05

Just posting to say that's soo cute! Nappy & hat smile

Or wellies!

Can't wait for that phase..

lunar1 Mon 15-Jul-13 21:57:17

For 8 months ds1 took a sealed bottle of food colouring and a tea spoon to bed every night. I think the world would have ended if I took them away

PastaBeeandCheese Mon 15-Jul-13 21:59:54

I'd have definitely left him but my DD took a toy saucepan to bed last week so I'm in a poor position judgement wise.

monkeymamma Mon 15-Jul-13 22:38:09

The food colouring and teaspoon is the best one! Maybe he will grow up and be on masterchef?

PatsyAndEddy Mon 15-Jul-13 22:40:43

My 7 year old is cradling an AK47 right now. Plastic of course.

WafflyVersatile Mon 15-Jul-13 22:50:33

My DN got a verucca on her foot. No one angry was allowed to touch the toenucca. angry so they took to putting bazooka on it after she went to sleep. She took to wearing socks in bed. hmm

TeWiSavesTheDay Mon 15-Jul-13 22:55:27


Very sweet.

I am a mean mummy because my kids always seem to pick something I have to tale away. It was apples with DD - went on for months, she got used to the idea that she could carry them around all day but not to bed (i was scared she might choke).

valiumredhead Mon 15-Jul-13 22:55:42

Ds used to wear wellies and sleep under an umbrellahmm

numbum Mon 15-Jul-13 22:59:12

Santa hats, wellies, fairy wings, sun glasses...all ok to wear to bed at the same time grin

If you're that worried I'm sure you can remove the hat after half an hour

UniS Mon 15-Jul-13 23:04:29

Watch it with the food colouring.... My mum thought I would be fine in bed with a packet of gravy granules I was cuddling on the way back from shopping.... I was fine, until I woke up, opened the packet and redecorated my cot and bedroom walls with gravy powder and dribble.

monkeymamma Mon 15-Jul-13 23:14:00

We (well DH) finally retrieved the hat! Hooray!

MayTheOddsBeEverInYourFavour Tue 16-Jul-13 00:54:00

Well done monkeys DH grin

I have to say, I'm normally all for giving into little things for an easy life but I wouldn't be happy about a baby sleeping in a hat in this heat so I can understand your dilemma

MidniteScribbler Tue 16-Jul-13 01:07:40

Think yourself lucky that it's just a hat. DS has a spatula that he can't be parted from. confused

ZingWidge Tue 16-Jul-13 01:14:11

last week my 12 year old fell asleep with his laptop on his chest.

it never ends! grin

Ds is 20 months and has since 5 or 6 months went to bed with some sort of metal objects - screw, allan key, screwdrivers, ratchet, spoon, baby spoon - basically anything with a metal part!

he is addicted to metal, hopefully he grows out of it hmm seeing him cosy down with his phillips Screwdrivers and huge bob the builder teddy is pretty <squeee> though smile a hat wouldn't bug me compared to his love of metal grin

MidniteScribbler Tue 16-Jul-13 02:14:48

SupermansBigRedPants you need to get him the bob the builder construction hat and tool belt to go with his screwdrivers and teddy smile

ZingWidge Tue 16-Jul-13 02:17:50

base metals are ok, but watch him if he starts collecting object made from precious metals!grin

Onesleeptillwembley Tue 16-Jul-13 06:59:32

Ds3 (18) is currently in bed sans the shoes he insisted on wearing every sodding night at the age of 3. What I'm saying is; don't sweat it. It'll pass. grin

icklemssunshine1 Tue 16-Jul-13 07:09:22

This makes me feel so much better. DD turned 2 last week & the tantrums we have when she decides what's her new favourite plaything is unbelievable! How can a child's grip be so strong? There is so much stuff in her cot that one day there won't be room for her! Can not take anything out though - she knows!

Buzzardbird Tue 16-Jul-13 07:12:37

Just keep in mind that 10 mins is not long enough for your little ones to be in deep sleep and that is why they wake when you try to retrieve objects. 20 mins minimum especially when removing tiaras etc that might be tangled in hair.

My 2 year old slept in a nylon robot costume last night, despite the heat - I removed his duvet and opened the window (thankfully we can open ours at an angle so no climbing out danger). I would have preferred he sleep in loose cotton PJs and a nappy as usual, but he was determined he was a robot, and he has always been a bad and a light sleeper, so I worked around it! grin He also wants to take his scooter everywhere with him atm so it will be going in the car with us in a minute ... he took it in the car to the cinema yesterday (but I did make him leave it in the car, he just didn't want to leave it at home "on its own" confused smile

SamuelAndOscarsMummy Tue 16-Jul-13 09:52:37

My 2 year old sleeps with a whole zoo of teddies & even those little plastic 'minions' from mcdonalds, I don't think the hat would of been a problem smile

DD2 has a knitted, fur lined deerstalker hat complete with ear flaps that has been permanently attached to her head for 2 years now. Height of summer, sleeping in her underwear because of the heat, yet the damned hat is firmly upon head.

No amount of explaining or lamenting the sweat matted hair will change her mind! It is incredibly cute though, although she is 8. As exasperating as it is, when I peek in the bedroom to watch her sleep and see her hat framed pink little face with tendrils of hair sticking to her cheek, I have a little heart surge for my lovely odd little Aspie smile
DD3 has gone to bed in her sparkly ballet shoes for weeks on end, I do have to retrieve those as the stinky feet would be unbearable confused

ithaka Tue 16-Jul-13 10:44:09

My nephew used to insist on going to bed with a teacosy over his head for years. He is perfectly lovely well adjusted teenage boy now.

NotAQueef Tue 16-Jul-13 10:50:04

I am actually surprised DS (2.8) hasn't tried to sleep in his hat.
His cot is full of all his books, and some of his little toys! I have given up trying to stop this as it's just not worth it. Although I did draw the line at a giant helicopter at the weekend - mainly because it's nearly as big as him and has lots of noise making buttons that I didn't want to listen to going off all night
He has been known to sleep in his wellies. I think it's cute.

Olbasoil Tue 16-Jul-13 11:04:13

Ds4 aged 2 insists in sleeping in a deck chair with big white feather, fircone , London eye guide book and a radio times with a " nice lady " on it !

As long as he sleeps!

MummytoMog Tue 16-Jul-13 11:15:57

DD slept with a vest, flannel pjyamas, a duvet, a fleece blanket and a quilt on last night. I snuck in after ten minutes and removed everything but the vest before she got heat stroke. Honestly, I just couldn't face the thirty minutes of screaming it would have taken to reduce the layers before she went to sleep. She's nearly four.

MummytoMog Tue 16-Jul-13 11:16:46

And 2 year old DS went too sleep with a watering can filled with stones. I removed the stones after he was asleep, in case he tried to eat them in the morning.

MidniteScribbler he's got the hat grin but no matter how many toy tool sets I buy he'll give them 5 minutes, realise that they're plastic and not touch them again confused just now he's pottering with a 3 inch bolt <gives up>

zingwidge if he starts that I will worry - I've no jewellery other than my engagement ring so christ knows where he'll be getting it from! My wee gollum grin

10 year old DS1 went to bed with his scooter. This was about 6 months ago. grin

DS2 has taken to wear his bow and arrow. That is very hard to get off a sleeping child.

CrazyOldCatLady Tue 16-Jul-13 11:50:01

15 month old DS fell for a sliced pan one day when we were shopping. He cuddled it all the way around the shop in the trolley, all the way home in the car, and into his cot. Thankfully be the next day he'd forgotten and happily let me put bits of it in the toaster for his breakfast.

ZingWidge Tue 16-Jul-13 11:54:10

another thought - has he swallowed a magnet?
then maybe things just stick to him?!grin

grin grin grin @ wee Gollum!

monkeymamma Tue 16-Jul-13 19:13:56

Very cute stories here! They are keeping me sane as we endure another horrific bedtime. DS just Does Not Want to go to bed and is having a huge screaming tantrum with DH upstairs. It's so horrible; I could honestly cry right now. This is so completely new.

DD2 regularly sleeps in wellies, woolly dressing gown, woolly hat and mittens. In all weather. I have managed to loose the scarf but I'm passed the age of thinking its the terrible two's, she's 4 and shows no sign of stopping.

God knows how she doesn't over heat.

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