To give up on the Mooncup?

(48 Posts)
Grilledkippers Fri 12-Jul-13 14:56:17

So I had never heard of the 'Mooncup' until browsing on here so I thought I'd give it a go. Great idea in theory - makes perfect sense! Getting the thing is great - removing is just a nightmare. At least 5 minutes of delving and then plunging in with both hands to release the vacuum and remove. Quite messy and a little stressful. Have popped it away in a cupboard - does this get easier - is there a knack to the fanjo delving? Also what do you do when out in public loos/work - how does the cleaning work?

Levvylife Fri 12-Jul-13 14:58:03

Persevere - totally worth it. grin I can literally forget I'm on. You shouldn't have to be rummaging around for it, are you putting it too far up?

You need to give it a few months to get used to it so no, don't give the long run they are much more convenient!

To remove just squeeze the base and it will lose the vacuum seal, easy!!

At work our loo and sink is in the same room so it's fine but if I am anywhere where the sink is outside the cubicle I just give it a wipe with loo roll or sometimes I have wipes with me.

I just give mine a good clean after every cycle, rinsing in the middle....been using for almost a year now and have it all down to a fine art.

theodorakisses Fri 12-Jul-13 16:17:45

You may as well have posted on mn saying breast feeding is messy and uncomfortable. Prepare to be slaughtered.

jammiedonut Fri 12-Jul-13 16:21:35

Is it too far up? Cleaning wise you could always rinse with bottled water straight into the loo if you don't want to use a public sink and give your hands a good wash before and after. Fingers crossed it gets easier, practice definitely makes perfect with mooncups, I managed to tip mine straight into my pants first time I emptied it, luckily I was at home!

YoniBottsBumgina Fri 12-Jul-13 16:23:53

It is scary at first but it definitely gets easier. Don't use it if you're likely to need to change out and about until you feel confident with it.

The secret is to "push" like childbirth (or a poo!) lots of little pushes rather than one big one. It inches it lower, then you should be able to grab with one finger and thumb, squeeze to break the seal, and wriggle it out.

YoniBottsBumgina Fri 12-Jul-13 16:25:18

Breastfeeding IS messy and uncomfortable when you first start! Maybe there's a parallel there... grin

AutumnMadness Fri 12-Jul-13 16:40:47

My method of removing is such: While sitting on the loo, slowly inch one finger upwards towards the rim of the cup, then press on the rim until the squelchy sound indicates that the vacuum seal has been broken. Then quickly pinch the base with two fingers, quite firmly, and gently and slowly pull it out, one side first, then the other like they show in the instruction video. Seems to work.

Mia4 Fri 12-Jul-13 17:17:58

Squeeze and twist tends to work with mine, but YANBU to do what you want. I often only wear at night due to the irritation, and i'm being graphically honest here, of having to faff about so much when taking a shit at work and wearing one-bloody impossible when you're a 3-4 a dayer like me!

QueenStromba Fri 12-Jul-13 17:44:54

TMI alert. I found at the start that if I really couldn't get it out then having a poo would push it down to where it was more easily reached. It's perfectly safe to leave it in until you do need a poo - you'll just need a towel if it starts to overflow. Squatting and bearing down down also helps.

It takes a few periods to get the hang of it but once you do it's the next best thing to not having a period. After a couple of periods I realised that for some reason I could get it out easier with my left hand than my right even though I'm right handed. I must have a slightly wonky vagina or something - maybe you do too.

badguider Fri 12-Jul-13 17:48:38

squeeze and twist works for me smile

brilliantwhite Fri 12-Jul-13 17:49:46

i wouldnt of even started with the mooncup tbh it sounds dreadful.

Calamitykate Fri 12-Jul-13 17:54:29


I tried it. It went in fine. It stayed in place. It didn't leak. It formed a really strong seal/vacuum but I got it out fine. I was thrilled.


Once, this happened.

For the rest of that period and for every period after, it leaked an was generally a PITA. I really tried to get on with it but I was SO happy to go back to tampons.

CHJR Fri 12-Jul-13 18:58:37

Do you have a "tipped uterus" ie cervix points back vs forward? Makes it not impossible but harder.

Kithulu Fri 12-Jul-13 19:07:31

Took me a good few months to get used to it. But I wouldn't use anything else now.

Scrubber Fri 12-Jul-13 19:33:39

When you are removing it, it helps to push it down with your fanjo muscles and push the side in to break the seal. Keep trying, I hated it at first but now it's easy.

Scrubber Fri 12-Jul-13 19:35:03

Push the side in with a finger I mean, not your fanjo!

You may as well have posted on mn saying breast feeding is messy and uncomfortable. Prepare to be slaughtered.

^ ha ha ha ha ha ha

BegoniaBampot Fri 12-Jul-13 20:23:42

Agree, I'm three months in and it is hard and very messy to remove. Blood can get everywhere, all over your fingers etc. even had blood spatter in a blouse when I was out - nice.

valiumredhead Fri 12-Jul-13 20:34:32

Are you bearing down and pinching the bottom to break the seal?

valiumredhead Fri 12-Jul-13 20:35:23

I never get any on my fingers at all, what on earth are you doing to get it everywhere?grin

Grilledkippers Fri 12-Jul-13 20:42:40

Thanks for your advice will try & persevere with it. It takes a while to get a good grip & my fingers can't really get a good hold - slipping & sliding all over. Sorry tmi! Perhaps I have pushed it too far up. The pushing does move it down but it seems like hard work! Onwards...

TotallyBursar Fri 12-Jul-13 20:43:26

Blimey some of you have had some trials...not to mention the suction that seems to be going on.

I love my mooncup and will not go back to other sanpro but if it's not working for you (& if advice upthread is no help) and you're not happy then absolutely change to whatever method suits you the best. Yes practice makes perfect but you just may not like it (both hands up there you say?) Why would you be BU? I mean, you can stick whatever you fancy up there.

I would only think you were being U if you said mooncups were bollocks because you personally couldn't use them - but my feelings on that aren't limited to mooncups, and you said nothing of the sort obviously.

<wanders away concerned about sudden onset fanjo suction>

BegoniaBampot Fri 12-Jul-13 20:44:17

Find it too painful to just pull out (though haven't tried pinching the bottom to break the seal). Have to stick fingers up, pushe side in and twist, by this time the blood is everywhere. How can you not get blood on your hands or fingers, or on the floor, or on your blouse unless you have an exceptionally big and tough foo foo!

TotallyBursar Fri 12-Jul-13 20:45:25

Another fucking x post.

Sorry I have ISP rage issues - connection problems make you look a right knob on forums.

I'm not brave enough to try one. One day.... However tampons and pads make my fanjo "throb" <tmi> I think it's all the chemicals.

libertine73 Fri 12-Jul-13 20:48:32

TotallyBursar You pretty much nailed it <<<wanders off to find more alcohol>>>>>>

TotallyBursar Fri 12-Jul-13 20:50:08

Pinch the bottom to break the seal and twist very gently. Giving it a few seconds to loosen before pulling. If it doesn't I'll pinch again. Never had to go for a cave dive!
All done with 2 fingers nice and cleanly at the bottom.

That's what works for me anyway.

MakeGlutenFreeHay Fri 12-Jul-13 20:52:39

I get on much better with a fleur cup than a mooncup - so if you want to stick with it there are other options.

BegoniaBampot Fri 12-Jul-13 20:53:00

But how does it come out. Can you just pull the whole thing out intact? Can only bring it our the way it goes in with the side caved in to break the round rim.

valiumredhead Fri 12-Jul-13 20:58:45

Begonia-if you just pulled it out without breaking the seal you'd give your self a tonsillectomy via your nether regionsshock grin

valiumredhead Fri 12-Jul-13 21:01:00

I had a c section, so am honey moon freshwink don't get blood anywhere on fingers at all, not sure I'd bother using it if I did tbh.

I have used one for years and wouldn't change now. I grip the bottom and wiggle it back and forth to break the vacuum. I used to have a worse vacuum problem hmm because my untreated endometriosis was causing cramps.
The key thing is you can't just pull it out you do need to do something to break the seal.

I didn't get on with it at all, mine is gathering dust in the bathroom as I type. I found I had awful cramps, I leaked constantly and it was far more hassle than it was worth. Other people seem to get on great with them, but it wasn't for me.

What's a fleurcup?

TotallyBursar Fri 12-Jul-13 21:10:59

Begonia- sorry I think I misunderstood. Do you mean you are unable to physically remove it without folding the rim so it's smaller? Not a suction thing, rather a size issue? It should easily come out without any discomfort (yy transvaginal tonsillectomy grin )

Are you using the right size? There are other brands too with a slightly longer, finer shape which may help?

NumTumDeDum Fri 12-Jul-13 21:14:28

I was thinking of trying one but I'm not sure now. I have the ability to be extraordinarily clumsy, in fact, if I were a superhero, that would be my special power. Superklutz. Me plus inner suction is a casualty episode waiting to happen.

BegoniaBampot Fri 12-Jul-13 21:14:33

That's why I asked if you all had big foo foos that you could so easily pop them out. Seriously, can you just pull it out, straight down with no problem, no discomfort?

valiumredhead Fri 12-Jul-13 21:17:02

No, no one can without breaking the seal first.

piratecat Fri 12-Jul-13 21:21:14

i would say i have stretched, due to bad tearing, and i am talking really changed down there, yet i couldn't just pull my mooncup out. I have to break the suction, and wiggle it out tilting it to the side slightly to get the last bit out iyswim.

It would be an ouch if i didn't tilt it over right at the end.

TotallyBursar Fri 12-Jul-13 21:26:53

Ok I think I'm with you now sorry.
I follow the direction of travel as it were. When sitting this means a slight tilt which helps the lip of the cup miss any of me on the way out.

Maybe look at a lilycup as no rim.
Or try the pinch and tilt.

There are a few of blogs full of comparisons and info
I used this one although I think most here use an actual Mooncup brand I think we sometimes use it as shorthand for menstrual cup.

badguider Fri 12-Jul-13 21:37:52

I pinch and twist mine from the outside of the cup lower than the rim - and it's never so full that it spills - i then ease it out with a slight kink it in on the way out to break the seal but not completely folded up like when it goes in.
I almost never get any blood on myself.

AutumnMadness Fri 12-Jul-13 23:34:14

I don't think I've got a very large fanjo as I am also virginal after a C-section. When I pinch the bottom of mine, to get it out, I have to grip it very firmly with my nails. Doing it just with the finger pads is very slippy. Then I pull it out slowly, one side after another. This is not a very comfortable process as it feels a bit like pulling out a melon, but it's not painful. I never spill blood at all, not even on my fingers. confused My problem is flushing the blood down the toilet as it all ends up sitting in one little scarlet pool at the bottom of the bowl.

BegoniaBampot Sat 13-Jul-13 00:11:22

Oh well, maybe I should change my name to Begoniaofthesmallfanjo!

TotallyBursar Sat 13-Jul-13 01:05:25

grin if you've got it why not flaunt it?!

Mooncups are quite stiff though and brands like Rubycup and Sckoon (?sp) aren't and have different shapes so worth having a look around. They are suitable for girls from the start of their periods so smallness of fanjo, however enviable envy grin, shouldn't cause you a problem. If you can <ahem> manage a penis or similar (there is just no delicate way to enquire about someone else's fanjo filling activities, I'm sorry, ykwim hopefully!) I suspect a softer cup will help rather than a smaller one.

I fully expect you to completely avoid me now btw but I promise it's the mooncup and not your bits I'm interested in.

TotallyBursar Sat 13-Jul-13 01:13:01

Autumn - I know some people just use the sink but I tend to put folded toilet roll down the loo before I remove my cup (and post wee obvs) I find it absorbs enough/is enough of a barrier to stop that pooling at the bottom of the bowl - we have a weak flush as well which doesn't help.
Not very green I guess with the extra paper but I think it's better than wasting extra flushes of water and I'm not using/disposing of other sanpro. I keep fingers crossed it evens itself out.

Or you could go the way of our awesome but super hippy friends - chuck it in a bucket and then throw it on your compost heap and flowers shock.

OrangeLily Sat 13-Jul-13 01:25:39

Keep trying! It gets better. The first use for me was fine but strange, second I thought it was stuck and almost asked DH to get up there with a torch!!! Little pushes, if you get stressed out walk away and try again a bit later. I also have to tip mine a bit funny whilst removing but I don't spill.

I often do the loo roll down the loo first too but iv usually gone for a wee first anyway so it isn't wasted!! (The thing we share on MN)

MakeGlutenFreeHay Sun 14-Jul-13 08:15:35

Fleur cup is just another make of cup -

They come in pretty colours too! (Some other makes even do sparkly ones....)

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