DS is moaning about his duvet set AIBU

(100 Posts)
wakeupandsmellthecoffee Wed 10-Jul-13 21:11:05

He says that a 14yr old having a McLaren Lewis Hamilton duvet set is vanquish and can he have another one please.
I SAY a grown man would want this set so he is being unreasonable.I then said I would ask mumsnet.AIBU.

wakeupandsmellthecoffee Wed 10-Jul-13 21:12:13

Babyish not vanquish. DOH

nenevomito Wed 10-Jul-13 21:13:26

I thought it was new teen slang there.

God mum its sooooo vanquish grin

NotYoMomma Wed 10-Jul-13 21:13:54

well it is McLaren.... hmm

it is wrong

he races for Mercedes

stargirl1701 Wed 10-Jul-13 21:14:51

YABU. It's for kids. Get him a new plain one.

Hmm, I bought my DS a 'grown up' navy, red and white striped set last year. It does sound a bit vanquish to me.

QOD Wed 10-Jul-13 21:15:30

Vanquish is way cool!

Tell him to save his pocket money, failing that, I have a Barbie one he could try?

usualsuspect Wed 10-Jul-13 21:16:25

I thought vanquish was teen speak grin

Err, buy him a my little pony one, see how he likes that.

starfishmummy Wed 10-Jul-13 21:17:48

Ha. I got some replacement sheets for my ds a few weeks ago. I bought mid blue, the same as he had. Major stop. He wanted dark blue.
I really didn't think he would mind; I still choose his clothes (because he doesn't care, not because I am a control freak)

Jan49 Wed 10-Jul-13 21:18:30

Is he asking you to replace a duvet cover he already has or have you just bought it?

Let him buy a set of his choice out of his own savings, earnings or pocket money?

wakeupandsmellthecoffee Wed 10-Jul-13 21:18:36

So laughing at these replys. So I will get him a non vanquish duvet set .

DoJo Wed 10-Jul-13 21:18:39

Me too on the 'vanquish' - I was going to try dropping it in to conversation with my young friends to impress them. Good job I saw the correction before making even more of a twat of myself. I would say it depends how long he has had them. If he has had them for years and has outgrown his interest in F1, then YABU, but if he only asked for them a few months ago the n YANBU. I do think that 'themed' bed clothes do become babyish at some point, but it depends what he wants to replace them...?

HildaOgden Wed 10-Jul-13 21:21:58

Tell him to consider himself lucky,I still used a Telly Tubbies one for my son until he was 11 (granted,it was only as a 'spare' but still [grin ]

wakeupandsmellthecoffee Wed 10-Jul-13 21:22:04

Ok just to clarify its an oldish set as Lewis is not McLaren anymore .Plus I was advised many years ago to not buy teenage boys dark blue sheets .I will let you work out why for yourselves.
I'm thinking light blue .Lol

NoComet Wed 10-Jul-13 21:24:20

Lol, grown men shouldn't have navy sheets too.

Your son's opinion is pretty much the same as my son's. He abandoned Star Wars/Doctor Who duvet covers (and t-shirts) about a year ago. Luckily they were looking a bit tired to me anyway, so I got him something much plainer - along the loines of this.

"I SAY a grown man would want this set so he is being unreasonable."
I would not count a man who wanted such a bedset to be a GROWN man, TBH. More of an manchild IMO.

Let him choose his own bedding, take him into Asda.

wakeupandsmellthecoffee Wed 10-Jul-13 21:28:03

Lol I was trying to save money but I will bow to the wisdom of mumsnet.

BellaVita Wed 10-Jul-13 21:28:18

I would consider that kind of duvet cover for a preteen.

Turniptwirl Wed 10-Jul-13 21:30:08

Mum that's so vanquish!

Get him to save up and buy his own or get him to do chores to earn a cheap ikea new one

I think that expecting him to have a racing duvet set is bare peak. He needs something more beast and like swaggy. grin

In adult speak: buy the poor lad some man-bedding.

usualsuspect Wed 10-Jul-13 21:39:04

He needs a bare sick duvet set.innit.

dexter73 Wed 10-Jul-13 21:40:42

My dd is sixteen and has a Mr Men duvet cover! That is so vanquish!

mynameisnotmichaelcaine Wed 10-Jul-13 21:45:25

I bought a Mr Men duvet cover as it is the coolest thing ever, in preparation for when my as yet unborn baby progresses to a duvet. It is currently on DD's bed and will be washed and then put on DS's. They are 9 and 7! They must be well vanquish!

Agree with the others, get him some boring plain ones.

NeverBeenToMe Wed 10-Jul-13 21:45:51

Try him with a My Little Pony one grin

pooka Wed 10-Jul-13 21:47:33

YABU. After age of 12 ish, I think character/merchandise duvets are a bit babyish. Until he's at university and it becomes retro/ironic.

quoteunquote Wed 10-Jul-13 21:51:14

kingsize duvet and cover next birthday.

ThisWayForCrazy Wed 10-Jul-13 21:52:32

Buy him an adult duvet cover! Poor kid

MerryMarigold Wed 10-Jul-13 21:56:24

So grining at 'vanquish'. Though I would think that would describe something positive. "It's bare vanquish, that new duvet from Asda Mum".

Pixel Wed 10-Jul-13 22:29:19

I've bought dd some really pretty grown up duvet sets but the other day I found she'd dug out her 101 dalmatians one. She's 17. Her choice though, unlike poor old ds. I walked into his bedroom a few weeks ago and it suddenly hit me that he still had Thomas the Tank curtains at the age of 13 blush. Needless to say they have now been replaced!
(psst, anyone want to buy some Thomas curtains, good condition? grin)

wakeupandsmellthecoffee Thu 11-Jul-13 07:21:41

He tells me its 2008when I bought it for him .So now in Im on the hunt for NON VANQUISH MAN BEDDING.lol

heronsfly Thu 11-Jul-13 07:25:08

My dd2 17 picked up a Peppa Pig duvet cover at a boot fair, she loves it, teenagers are very strange grin

Bicnod Thu 11-Jul-13 07:29:55

grin at non vanquish man bedding.

This thread has made me chuckle.

NeoMaxiZoomDweebie Thu 11-Jul-13 07:37:47

MN slang is great! I'm so using Vanquish. We should invent our own hard to understand slang.

Hissy Thu 11-Jul-13 07:37:48

Dear god, no grown man I would want to know would have Lewis Hamilton bedding! Or footy teams etc.

Glad you're going for non_vanquish man-bedding.


shewhowines Thu 11-Jul-13 07:38:06

Let him choose it. You won't know what is vanquish or not, in his eyes.

shewhowines Thu 11-Jul-13 07:40:59

Sorry if a new boyfriend had taken me back to his pad for sex, then that a duvet like that would have made me run for the hills. A real man wouldn't do character/themed duvets.

Innacorner Thu 11-Jul-13 07:54:27

My teens still - occasionally - have an Animal Hospital duvet on their beds. It's very cute and was first child's first quilt cover when he went into a big boys bed.
Although since the Rolf revelations I'm not so keen on it.

MiaowTheCat Thu 11-Jul-13 08:54:41

My husband was trying to persuade me that we needed to use his beloved Ferrari flag (I fucking hate the Ferrari F1 team) as a bed throw a while back. I vetoed that one firmly on the grounds that a) I hate Ferrari (I'm a Maclaren fan) and b) he needed to grow the fuck up a bit or did he want the bloody Power Rangers as a duvet cover to go with it?

curlew Thu 11-Jul-13 08:57:20

Do people really have their own designated duvet sets?

Every day's a school day!

MorrisZapp Thu 11-Jul-13 08:58:19

My first shag occurred under a cowboy duvet, the type now ripped off by Cath Kidston.

Actually when I met my first boyfriend, he had racing cars on his pants.

This is probably of no comfort smile

Theas18 Thu 11-Jul-13 09:01:38

we still have some Harry potter and care bears . the kids don't worry, buy then again ds likes the faintly spotty one that was dh for when he went to uni 30 yrs ago. they like the old soft bedding best. the newer ones are bobbly!

CalamityJones Thu 11-Jul-13 09:01:40

Cowboy duvet and cars on his pants? Erm.. how old was he exactly, MorrisZapp?

purrpurr Thu 11-Jul-13 09:03:40

Vanquish as new slang for bad stuff FTW.

Wait, bad still means bad, right? :S

Tiredemma Thu 11-Jul-13 09:08:03

My BF had a duvet set that was not only 'vanquish' but also hideous and 70's.

A giant horses head picture emblazoned across the entire duvet (poking out of a stable door). with an apple in its mouth.

She had it until she was 16 and got her own part time job. First thing she purchased with her wages was a modern bed set from Next.

The original one was hideous.

VixZenFenchell Thu 11-Jul-13 09:10:30

curlew - yes. DS1 - lego Star Wars. DS2 - angry birds space. Me/DH - plain chocolate satin/cotton. Guest room - patterned / patchwork. Chaos if laundry situation leads to someone getting the Wrong Sheets!

I'd love Lewis Hamilton on my bed.


crazyhamsterdisguisedasahippo Thu 11-Jul-13 09:26:40

SP I bet you would grin

Thisvehicleisreversing Thu 11-Jul-13 09:36:46

Our spare duvet (for when someone gets chucked out onto the sofa) has a tellytubby duvet cover on it grin

It's about a million years old.

CorrieDale Thu 11-Jul-13 09:36:52

Feeling less bad about 8yo ds's Thomas the tank engine curtains now. really must sort that out this summer

Theselittlelightsofmine Thu 11-Jul-13 09:48:18

Argos had some plain ones for around 5-6pounds

Isoscelesnorks Thu 11-Jul-13 10:14:57

Living in rural Australia as we do, we have home made duvet covers and quilts, and home made sheet sets and lovely pillow cases and pure wool and cashmere hand knitted blankets for the bed. It's currently winter so I am sleeping in a mauve floor length Jane Austen styled nightie (we live in the snowy mountains) with metres of lace trim. It's not everyone thing but its all made to last so it must be well thought out.

NeoMaxiZoomDweebie Thu 11-Jul-13 11:30:02

Why do you need homemade duvet covers in rural Oz? I know you can't live close to any shops...but surely you get to town now and then? grin Not that I wouldn't love a nightie such as the one you describe! Sounds dreamy!

curlew Thu 11-Jul-13 11:34:33

My mother used to talk about going to the Snowy Mountains for holidays when she was a child in the late 1920s/early 30s.

Isoscelesnorks Thu 11-Jul-13 12:21:47

I don't get to the shops very often (small son with ASD) usually for snatch and grab missions only. But I did find the most fab quilt supply shop today in a small rural town on an outing to the beach. Even DH wanted some fabric! He chose Galactica pin up girls. Life can be a bit tough so I enjoy what I can and bespoke home wares are so far going very nicely. Sewing entire bedding sets may not be for everyone but I enjoy having some very nice unique stuff built up over time.

Isoscelesnorks Thu 11-Jul-13 12:24:18

Curlew did your mother catch the train? My mother is from Sydney and she used to catch the the Cooma Bombala train to the mountains in the 50's to visit some of the other relics.

JerseySpud Thu 11-Jul-13 12:29:17

We have designated duvets here

Me/hubby - red/black set or blac set

DD1 - tatty teddy or hello kitty or patchwork

DD2 - has got tatty teddy or minnie mouse but the little swine darling won't sleep without her itti blanket at the moment

Mandy2003 Thu 11-Jul-13 12:37:45

DS (14) is still quite happy with his Next "Ready for Lift Off" space rocket duvet cover. And its navy! Happy to report no whitish accidents.

He also has a vintage Pokemon one which I really want to steal and convert into Lolita/Kawaii dresses that will sell for a fortune on eBay!

wonderingsoul Thu 11-Jul-13 12:42:18

argos have a nice set, blue , white and red striped and a another that is checkerd. there lovely and at £15 for two you cant compain.

gotthemoononastick Thu 11-Jul-13 12:50:51

most vanquish of all!!Dh takes a deep blue set to a yearly man retreat.It has printed white lace frills and spots and bright pink roses .He is in his sixties and these are quite erudite men!

LeonieDeSainteVire Thu 11-Jul-13 12:51:25

We've had similar, DS (11) has been asking for plain white duvets for a while to replace his camo ones. Luckily I guessed camo would be a short lived stage and only paid £2.99 for them in the Argos sale a few years back smile so I visited the John Lewis clearance and got two plain white duvet covers with black trim reduced from £70 to £15, we're all happy!

That's it now though, no more duvet covers til he can buy them himself!

Heartbrokenmum73 Thu 11-Jul-13 12:51:49

This thread is so vanquish! I am going to try using this on DD (11) and her friends on Monday - I'm on a school trip with Y6, will report back and let you all know whether 'vanquish' has legs in the long-term.

wonderingsoul Thu 11-Jul-13 13:03:28

i think ic ould. its got a ring to it.

your so vanquish.

do we know if its a good or bad thing yet?

i want to vote for being a good thing.

notso Thu 11-Jul-13 13:11:22

He is NBU it is vanquish!

Theselittlelightsofmine Thu 11-Jul-13 13:29:09

Vanquish has to be a bad thing on par with that's so out of order I think grin

Feminine Thu 11-Jul-13 13:39:50

Poor males. They have a quite a short time to control their bedding!

Mum does it, they get fed up...choose something more 'grown -up'

Then they find a partner...wink

One that I'm trying to introduce is the phrase "I really goved that up."

Use this to describe what happens when you take something you know nothing about and keep messing with it, when it would have been better for all concerned if you had just left it alone.

usualsuspect Thu 11-Jul-13 17:29:15

Teenagers would shorten it to 'van' though.

That's so van.

Ds is going to be so vanquish in a few years shock he has:

2 bob the builder sets
Fireman sam
Thomas The tank engine
Green dinosaurs
Grey spiderman
And 'shares' dd1s very first bedding set - white with one side pastel butterflies and the other side pastel dots.

Good job he's not even 2 yet grin

AaDB Thu 11-Jul-13 18:15:44

I'm using vanquish from now on.

All my duvet covers are white. Ds 6 said they were too boring so I bought nice grey ones from Ikea.

wakeupandsmellthecoffee Thu 11-Jul-13 18:31:36

Laughing at all the vanquish.lol

Pixel Thu 11-Jul-13 18:55:48

Dd is still using a duvet set that my mum bought for me about 30 years ago, white with a pattern of tiny pink flowers. Actually she got two as my sister and I were still sharing a room and sis still has hers too. They are fab, still look like new, feel lovely and cool and crisp and don't need ironing after they come off the washing line. They haven't even faded, you can't get quality like that nowadays <nods sagely>.
I also still own my Thelwell pillowcase which is even older. One day I'll take it on the Antiques Roadshow wink.

MerryMarigold Fri 12-Jul-13 09:03:46

Surely vanquish is positive. It means to blow everything else out of the water. "That duvet set is VANQUISH, bruv."

van·quish [vang-kwish, van-] verb (used with object)
to conquer or subdue by superior force, as in battle.
to defeat in any contest or conflict; be victorious over: to vanquish one's opponent in an argument.
to overcome or overpower: He vanquished all his fears.

1300–50; Middle English vencuschen, venquisshen < Old French vencus past participle and venquis past tense of veintre < Latin vincere to overcome

jeanmiguelfangio Fri 12-Jul-13 11:16:24

Oh this thread is so vanquish-given that one to my husband too, it'll be round the nick in no time!! So my local police force will help get vanquish going
My DD has planes, simply because I love it!! I goved that up didn't I? I am def a van mum.

Purplecatti Fri 12-Jul-13 11:19:55

OH just asked if I could make a batman bedding set. Haha!

Purplecatti Fri 12-Jul-13 11:20:59

That is unless Christian Bale fancies coming in with...

Lweji Fri 12-Jul-13 11:41:46

So, vanquish is now MN speak for babyish.

<takes note>

My DS, 8, still has Cars curtains and lamp, as well as pillow case/duvet cover.

I keep wondering when he's going to say it's vanquish, but so far so good.

But most of his bedding is now plain.

Yabu. Not even my 11 year old would want that.

I have gone for a marine style with blue white and red sort of stripes for my boys.

Otherwise plain dye. Check out Next bedding.

I am loving the use of vanquish here! grin

alemci Fri 12-Jul-13 11:47:24

I think when my DS was about 12 I got rid of the more childish ones, I also chucked out the Chelsea Football one as the Quality wasn't great. he has blue laura Ashley check one and a John Lewis stripe one. I think I may still have the odd more childish one but they were nice for when he was younger.

Lweji Fri 12-Jul-13 11:53:33

Vanquish reminds me of James Bond, though...

wakeupandsmellthecoffee Fri 12-Jul-13 19:43:47

Team Vanquish.Lol.

Theselittlelightsofmine Fri 12-Jul-13 23:00:50

So we have move to 'van' now grin

Loving the 'that's so van' comment grin

I think you could use it either way as a good or bad thing.

'that's so van' as in 'that's so shit'
or 'that's so van' as in 'thats so fantastic'

Or 'he/she is so van' again bad or good


Theselittlelightsofmine Fri 12-Jul-13 23:01:17

Moved not move confused

QOD Sat 13-Jul-13 03:03:51

Omg I've made the round up

QOD has arrived! I'm so excited, I know that's a bit vanquish but hey! No one said I had to grow up

thornrose Sat 13-Jul-13 03:14:40

Oh god this reminds me of my teens when my mum insisted I have matching floral Dormer bedding and curtains. Oh yes,and the matching bloody wallpaper borders.

I vowed to let my future children have a say in their bedroom decor.

Loving Van/Vanquish.

Whothefuckfarted Sat 13-Jul-13 08:25:39

Buy him a new set lol

ifindoubtnamechange Sat 13-Jul-13 10:02:10

I think if his friends came round to visit he could get a lot of heat for "sleeping" with Lewis Hamilton.

One of my (Male) childhood friends was kindly gifted a George Michael "Faith" duvet set as a teen. He still gets slagged about it once in a while. He's 39.

wakeupandsmellthecoffee Sat 13-Jul-13 10:05:12

This thread is so making me smile.

ThatsSoVanquish Sat 13-Jul-13 10:06:40

thanks for my new username inspiration

wakeupandsmellthecoffee Sat 13-Jul-13 11:07:10

Seriously lol

LoveBeingUpAt4InTheMorning Sat 13-Jul-13 11:11:35

Tell him to turn it over and use the plain side

plainjaney Sat 13-Jul-13 14:03:33

Made me smile. My DD (15, almost 16) was over the moon with her recent charity shop find.... a brand new Blues Clues Duvet set. She cares not a jot what her mates think and thinks its brilliantly retro. She also has Avengers covers.

I think at 14 I let DS (now 20) have input, he had mostly Marvel comics and Spongebob on his double bed. He was quite put out when he moved in with his GF earlier this year and she refused to let him bring his spiderman or spongebob duvet grin

SueDoku Sat 13-Jul-13 14:10:07

DGS staying soon and I have just ironed the pillowcase featuring Misca the Bear (mascot for the Moscow Olympics in 1980) which was given to my DD when she was 3.... grin. It's still going strong..!

MadderHat Sat 13-Jul-13 15:33:52

When my DH went to university, he had to buy himself some bedding. He went for the 2 cheapest sets available in the shop - so plain yellow and plain pink.
I didn't run a mile, though I do loathe pink.

WireCat Sat 13-Jul-13 15:36:09

adds vanquish to teenage speak dictionary

Dow he only have 1 duvet cover?

Get him a new one & this vanquish one can be his spare when the new one is being washed.

WestieMamma Sat 13-Jul-13 15:36:21

My daughter still has her Barbie bedding. She's 20. [parenting fail]

digerd Sat 13-Jul-13 16:47:34

Think it's time he learnt the important pros and cons of different colours.
In a nut shell, light colours show the dark dirt/stains and dark colours show up the light coloured marks/stains wink.

wakeupandsmellthecoffee Sun 14-Jul-13 11:56:42


burberryqueen Sun 14-Jul-13 12:03:09

get him a hello kitty set that will be well vanquish

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