To sellotape a bow to her head and have done with it?

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Whenever I take DD (8mo) anywhere, she always gets mistaken for a boy. This doesn't bother me at all - she's bald as a coot, never wears pastel pink (hate the colour), rarely wears dresses, is often in some of her brother's hand-me-downs, and let's face it, babies of that age are are often pretty andogynous anyway.

So anyway, I really don't care if people think she's a boy - it matters not a jot. If they ask 'his' name, I'll tell them (obviously girl's name), or say '"she's 8mo" or whatever. The past few weeks I've had people absolutely ranting at me, telling me I should make it clear she's a girl, I should stop putting her in boy's clothes (once she was wearing stripy yellow and brown leggings, once a blue and white spotted dress ), I'll scar her for life if I insist on dressing her as a boy, she's very ugly for a girl (silly cow, she's gorgeous), plus a whole load of other crap, and I'm fed up. I don't care if people think she's a boy, but I do find some of the comments quite hurtful.

Do I just shop with a load of nutters? Today, for example, she's wearing stripy multicoloured leggings with bows on and a bright purple t-shirt, and I still had some arse of a woman telling me off for dressing her in boy's clothes. So, WIBU to sellotape a bow to her head? Alternatively, if anyone could come up with a good response for me ("did you mean to be so rude" just escalates the ranting), that would be fab!

gaggiagirl Tue 09-Jul-13 16:31:37

Simply reply- Fuck off!
My DD is always dressed like a boy for want of a better phrase. people only knew for sure she was a girl due to the pink buggy.
I've never dressed her in pink or dresses she's always dressed appropriately for climbing trees though.
Your little girl sounds super to me.

rootypig Tue 09-Jul-13 16:31:57

Ha. I have 8mo DD, everyone thinks she's a boy. Certifiable MIL who is aghast at the -practical, comfortable, cute- boyish clothes I dress her in has quite seriously suggested gluing a bow to her head.

So yes YABU, Sellotape is for amateurs grin

Nice to hear I'm not the only one who dresses their girl as a "boy", and very glad I don't have a bonkers MIL telling me to glue a bow to her head. My MIL is lovely, and importantly, lives 6 hours away grin. A friend of mine did send me a link to this website after I had a RL rant. I think she was joking, and having seen the link on here I think she's probably a MNer (Come out, come out wherever you are Kate).

ZolaBuddleia Tue 09-Jul-13 16:40:44

Sellotape's never going to work in this hot weather, a staple gun is what you need. grin

Yes, you do shop with some very odd people.

Wow that is bizarre, how rude! Everyone mistakes Dd3 for a boy, she has an average amount of hair and is usually dressed in bright or neutral colours. I have never had anyone berate me for the colours I dressed her in though shock no idea on a clever response I'm afraid, but walking off is always a good idea!

MrsRajeshKoothrappali Tue 09-Jul-13 16:53:15

If someone's calling your baby ugly then they're not worth you even responding.

If you must respond then borrow my personal favourite: Raise one eyebrow, adopt a sacrastic tone and say 'Well, aren't you a delight?'


My DS gets mistaken for a girl all of the time. He's 10 and has flatly refused a haircut since he encountered a really unpleasant hairdresser aged 2.


It is weird. I mean, if I got a baby's gender wrong, I'd apologise, not rant at the mother for dressing her in the wrong clothes. It's not even as if it's a particularly rough area or anything, and it's happened in a range of supermarkets (Tesco, Sainsburys, Waitrose - I have no shop loyalty at all smile ). I think I should just smile and ignore, but I have to say, the ugly comment really hurt, and saying "Did you mean to be so rude?" got the response, "It's not being rude if it's the truth" shock

She's not ugly - there's a pic on my profile to prove it grin.

tableandsofa Tue 09-Jul-13 16:55:19

My DD is 2 and she has never worn either pink or a dress, nobody except our English friends have ever commented. This pink for girls, blue for boys seems to be an English and American thing.

DarkWinter Tue 09-Jul-13 16:57:12

Oh you totes need the things! That website makes me laugh so much.

X-post MrsRajesh - I like that response, although my attempts at raising one eyebrow have so far been unsuccessful...

My DS gets mistaken for a girl apparently he's too pretty and has too much hair to be a boy grin

I had a conversation with a Tesco member of staff a few days ago...

"Oh you've got a pack of purple and pink pacifiers there, shall I swap them for the boys pack?"

"No thanks I have some of each colour in the trolley, they're fine."

"But... They're pink...for girls..."


ouryve Tue 09-Jul-13 17:00:09

I had a strange conversation with someone, yesterday, who was convinced I have a daughter.

Yes, my 7yo does have long hair. So does DH, but only ignorant carpet salesmen ever mistake him for a woman.

MrsRajeshKoothrappali Tue 09-Jul-13 17:03:47

I like that response, although my attempts at raising one eyebrow have so far been unsuccessful...

It takes practice.


OTTMummA Tue 09-Jul-13 17:07:19

You know, I thought I had seen it all but fuck me I never knew that babies needed wigs, I have never had the inclination to google baby hair pieces in my life.
How on EARTH did this come about, really, there are people who buy this!?

MrsOakenshield Tue 09-Jul-13 17:07:57

that's very very bizarre, you are clearly shopping with loons. I actually much prefer girls' clothes to boys', mainly because most of the boys' clothes I see are so boring (navy blue/khaki/brown/grey and a bit of red seem to be about all that's on offer) and DD wears all the colours of the rainbow and looks very garish a lot of the time which I much prefer. Also, girls' clothes seem much better suited to hot weather - even boys' pants are thicker, which just seems odd! But that's beside the point. And how very rude to call your baby ugly, what a charmer.

StuntGirl Tue 09-Jul-13 17:08:23

To be fair duchess, most babies look like odd little aliens. The trick is to never say so to the parents. The woman in the shop had the social skills of a slug, clearly.

Someone posted a link to a website that sells bangs for bald any girls to stop them being mistaken for boys confused it was both hilarious and scary at the same time grin

On a more serious note, I really hate the whole pink=girl, boy=blue thing, I think the whole pinkification of girls' clothes, toys etc just creates a gender division from very early on that isn't really sane or helpful. I remember going on holiday with some family a couple of years back, and I painted my nails. DS wanted his nails painted too (he was 3 at the time), so I did, he loved them. Until one relative said "Oh, I don't like that. It'll make you a gay baby!" hmm. Bonkers, and up till then I thought he was a lovely man.

specialsubject Tue 09-Jul-13 17:13:31

random strangers come up to you and berate you about the colour of the baby's clothes? Where do you live, a lunatic asylum?


Fair enough, stuntgirl, most babies (including my own) do look like little aliens. But they mostly are very cute little aliens, unless in the newborn scrunchy stage (My response on seeing DS for the first time was 1. Look at what we made! and 2. OMG, what is wrong with his head, it's hideous!), and even if not, you'd never actually tell someone their baby was ugly...

MadameJosephine Tue 09-Jul-13 17:17:53

She is gorgeous

They are idiots


Beamae Tue 09-Jul-13 17:18:11

I have twin girls and often used to get "oh how lovely, one of each" from strangers. Once at the library a woman was so shocked when I corrected her and said "two girls actually", that she went in to argue with me about one of them being a boy. She was quite insistent but I remained unconvinced. grin

pamish Tue 09-Jul-13 17:18:24

If girls need baby wigs to calm insane people, then I insist that boy babies have stick-on beards.

ApuskiMcClusky Tue 09-Jul-13 17:20:09

Just had a look on your profile - and yes, she is gorgeous! <not broody, oh no....>

Tommy Tue 09-Jul-13 17:20:34

Someone once commented to me "oh how lovely - twins - one of each" when I was with my 2 year and 6m DSs.....

it's them - they're all maaaaaaaaad

TenToWine Tue 09-Jul-13 17:23:06

Your DD is gorgeous!

When DD was born, we had to stay in hospital a few days. I did not know if we were having a girl or boy, so she was in white or cream babygro (and probably would have been anyway even if I had known!).
Anyway, the doctor doing the rounds one evening said "Oh, she looks like a boy". She had quite a lot of hair too so she was clearly taking about her features! I was really upset, particularly with the comment coming from a doctor and when I was quite vulnerable.

ClartyCarol Tue 09-Jul-13 17:26:24

Bloody Hell, I don't know how you managed to stay relatively calm when some bitchone called her ugly. I'm sure I would've bellowed "Well have you looked in the mirror lately, HMMMM?" and stomped off.

Who are these people?! I said it on another thread: I have never come across these sociopaths in my day to day life. Rather disappointed actually.

Dorris83 Tue 09-Jul-13 17:37:24

duchess she's lovely, ignore the crazy opinionated fools that you come across in supermarkets.

Did have to laugh at the woman in the library trying to convince you that your DD was a boy though, Beamae - cos it's not like you'd know, right?

Maybe I just have an inbuilt nutter magnet hmm

FairyJen Tue 09-Jul-13 17:41:17

She is super cute!

On a completely random thing, where did you get the blanket she is sat on from? I've been searching for one like that for ages!

NorbertDentressangle Tue 09-Jul-13 17:44:29

YABVU....what are you thinking of? Sellotape will never work.

You need no More Nails/Gripfill. wink

iamadoozermum Tue 09-Jul-13 17:45:22

I've also been berated for not dressing DD "properly". I had one woman say quite aggressively to me that she "can't tell what sex that baby is because you've not dressed it in the appropriate colours". I got the feeling I was supposed to apologise profusely and perhaps promise never to dress DD in a plain white sleep suit again. Got the same from the doctor who did DDs peds check at hospital hmm

conantg Tue 09-Jul-13 17:46:47

She is a lovely smiley baby and looks full of fun. I cannot believe that someone could call her ugly. If that had happened to me I would have gone into full aggression mode and informed the person that she was ugly herself and also had bad breath, BO, and an extremely low IQ and atrocious manners.And that if she did not back off quickly I would bash her ugly mug and make it even uglier.

FairyJen - at a market in Mexico I think, or possibly Guatemala, can't remember, so not much help, I'm afraid

I think it must be me, DS has very red hair, and also attracts weird comments. Which I find particularly bizarre as I'm not English and where I'm from, red hair is lucky (when I take him to visit family, people will stop him in the street to touch his head "for good luck", and give him a coin or a sweet).

FairyJen Tue 09-Jul-13 17:48:15

If it makes you feel better duchess my do attracts nutters as well. You must have a look grin

IneedAsockamnesty Tue 09-Jul-13 17:53:14

I don't get it, who even cares if she's a girl or a body.

Why does the sex of random baby's matter to weirdos in supermarkets?

Lovecat Tue 09-Jul-13 18:06:53

Gorgeous baby grin

I was once crossing a road with DD in the pushchair, she'd have been about 6 months, dressed in a pink summer hat, purple summer dress with a pink blankie over her knees - a bloke coming the other way grinned down into the pushchair and said 'Cor, 'e's a right little bruiser, innee?' * and was gone before I could say anything.

Those wigs are MENTAL! As are the people you keep running into.

*I live in East London. People do talk like that.

FairyJen A quick google has thrown up this website , which has similar blankets. They are acrylic though, rather than wool / cotton. There's also these ones, if that helps?

selsigfach Tue 09-Jul-13 18:14:41

The gay baby comment is amazing/ridiculous/hilarious. Will dressing your baby boy in blue turn him into a rampant ladies' magnet? It's a mad world out there.

There are people like this out there. I once had a random stranger insist that DD and DS3 were identical twins. When I tried to gently correct her, she got quite stroppy.

McNewPants2013 Tue 09-Jul-13 18:17:27

Dd had a bright pink dress in a pink pushchair and I still got asked if she was a boy or a girl.

Some people are just plain weird.

FairyJen Tue 09-Jul-13 18:18:49

shock and there's a sale on! Dp may just kill me grin

flowers op

I used to get this a lot when DD was younger and I tried not to let it drive me mad but sometimes it did. I HATED shopping girl's departments as everything had bloody pink glitter all over it, so I'd buy her boys jeans and trousers quite a lot. People always though she was a boy.

Ignore them, they're obviously mad, and to call your baby ugly!?

I'm slightly terrified by "baby bangs" though....<<shakes head in disbelief>>

ThreeBeeOneGee - something similar happened to my friend. An elderly lady asked if her twins were a boy and a girl - she said yes - 'Oh' said the old lady, 'are they identical?' My friend did this face - confused

Timeforabiscuit Tue 09-Jul-13 18:26:16

The dyes that make that lurid pink colour lower babies IQ.

You can say you read it on the Internet....

And from the comments your getting whose to say its not true smile

Scruffey Tue 09-Jul-13 18:28:34


If they say what's "he" called, say Harry and get on with your shopping!!

My dd used to have the same thing - in ds's old blue and yellow buggy dressed in some of his handed down tshirts. I didn't bother correcting the, in the end.

meganorks Tue 09-Jul-13 18:42:11

Often used to get people thinking DD a boy, but never had any vaguely rude comments. How about
'She's ugly?! Do you own a mirror?'
Other than that probably 'would you and your ridiculous opinions please fuck off'

Hasitfallendownagain Tue 09-Jul-13 18:48:42

I once had a woman tell me off for having DD in a blue baby carrier on my front, as apparently this was misleading people into thinking she was a boy confused.

I thought she was joking, so laughed politely, but turned out she was deadly serious.

StickEmUp Tue 09-Jul-13 18:54:49

there are lots of ways of addressing a baby when you don't know the sex

'well what is this little gorgeous one called' usually works.
you get the name, work it out, then say 'he/she is adorable'

coronalover Tue 09-Jul-13 18:56:27

Next time someone gives you grief give a furtive glance around, then tell them in a hushed voice that you are actually a nanny and that she is the DD of a v high profile/VIP couple, and that you have to dress her in 'boys' clothes because she's incognito and you are supposed to avoid her being papped! Spin it out for as long as you can smile

She is totally gorgeous btw!

Beamae Tue 09-Jul-13 19:09:11

Maybe we should all get these and blow their tiny minds!

wickedwithofthenorth Tue 09-Jul-13 19:41:18

Hair doesn't help! Dd has a stupid amout, always up in bunches or clipped back and still gets call a boy!
I'm related by marrage to the type of nutters who will insit babies need to wear pink or blue and that you are wrong about the sex of your own baby!
Dh's grandmother did't believe dd was dd until she witnessed a nappy change at christmas, yes because we'd lie about baby's gender for 7 weeks, batty woman. Bil regaled us with the tales of her telling everyone that that baby just can't be a girl. Luckily she didn't have the nerve to say it to dh or I she'd have been run over by the very heavy pram. She freely addmits she wanted us to have a boy.

MsJupiterJones Tue 09-Jul-13 19:49:00

DS gets the reverse, people fall over themselves to apologise that they have mistaken him for a girl. The horror!

He is very pretty smile and we dress him in bright colours although I really want to buy him this just to fuck with people's minds...

Buzzardbird Tue 09-Jul-13 19:53:15

Ah, she is cute. A pink slide though? You will scar her for life!

LifeSavedbyLego Tue 09-Jul-13 19:56:43

I had this with ds2. He was very pretty, so unless he was in blue, people assumed he was a girl. Even colours like red which I thought were pretty neutral, nope. not a mistake ever made about ds1, he has grown into his features - bless him.

I don't get it. Presumable for this reason words like they and child were made along with phrases such as "oh they are gorgeous, what's their name?"

Though TBF I was somewhat taken about how hung up about the gender of babies people get. First question when pregnant - oh is it a boy or a girl, second question do you want a boy or a girl. Fucksake.

FridaKarlov Tue 09-Jul-13 20:36:55

I have a girl and don't like pink. I told relatives this before she was born. We were deluged with pink stuff from well meaning but selectively deaf aunties.

Funghoul Tue 09-Jul-13 20:40:11

Gender is a hang up, you're right, and answering with just a healthy baby isn't acceptable! confused
Admittedly dd wears lots of pink and dresses, but this is because these clothes were bought for her. Personally I can't wait until she grows into the run DMC t shirt I bought her that my mum says a girl cannot wear!
How anyone can call a baby ugly is beyond me, your dd is anything but. grin

rootypig Tue 09-Jul-13 20:58:07

fairyjen has Mexican blankets

DameFanny Tue 09-Jul-13 21:28:03

Going back to the original what can you say back... How about "why do you need to know my baby's sex, are you some kind of PEEDO or wot?" Delivered in a screech, obv.

Or (although she is a gorgeous little dot) "well you say she's ugly but she's got plenty of time to grow into her looks. You on the other hand..."

DameFanny Tue 09-Jul-13 21:31:52

Oh, but you might want to swap the buggy for a racing one grin

soaccidentprone Tue 09-Jul-13 22:14:47

I love this thread. Some people are completely batty! What the hell does it matter who wears what colour? I think society is very strange atm. Ds1(17) told me the other day that only girls and gay men wear pink, and I have no idea where he has got this from.

Anyway I have come up a solution to your dilemma op.

You need bows with Velcro on, and then attach the other piece of Velcro to your dd's head. Tbh I find araldite the best glue on the market.

You can then mix and match the bow according to the outfit. This isn't on the market yet, so I am going to patent the idea before anyone else. Would you like me to send you a prototype?

Spidder Tue 09-Jul-13 22:20:27

I don't actually think they look like girls or boys until they're about 3- especially if they have curly hair.

People think dd (20) months is boy all the time. dh gets a bit upset about it, but I pointed out that people thought I was a boy until I was 5 (mum was once asked if we were Scottish hmm ), but no one thinks I look like a bloke now. grin

For whoever noticed the pink slide in the background - it's actually DS's - it was orange but has faded over the past couple of years, so it's him I'm scarring for life I suppose grin.

Loving all the suggestions - soaccidentprone you should definitely go ahead, it's not any more bonkers than baby wigs really smile

::puts araldite and velcro on shopping list::

Thank you all for making me laugh, and telling me that DD is in fact gorgeous. I actually got quite upset about the ugly comment (DD was very prem and I am a bit precious sensitive about her), especially as DH helpfully pointed out that babies are quite ugly really, when you look at it objectively hmm. Thanks DH.

rednellie Tue 09-Jul-13 22:47:21

I got mistaken for a boy up until I was about 16. I even had a woman in a dress shop sniggering to her friend because she thought I was a teenage boy trying on a dress. Oh yes.

I am in no way masculine looking, I just had the temerity to be tall and have short hair. There was one advantage, I never got id for anything.

And I can confirm I am a very womanly woman now with very few no gender issues. grin You're baby is a sweetie. Just nut the next idiot who says anything.

MsJupiterJones Tue 09-Jul-13 22:47:56

Soaccident, you jest, but...

Oh. My. God. They actually sell bows you glue to your baby's head?! There aren't enough shock faces in the world...

Seriously, what kind of loon must you be to think, every thinks DD is a boy, so I'll glue a bow to her head?


soaccidentprone Tue 09-Jul-13 22:54:18

OMG I don't know whether to be shock or angry

MsJupiterJones Tue 09-Jul-13 22:57:20


blackbirdatglanmore Tue 09-Jul-13 23:03:25

She's gorgeous and I think she looks like a girl! So there! Honestly, I'm not just saying that to appease you, she's a very cute looking baby. Silly mare. And it was rude!

Dd1 had loads of hair, usually wore pink or purple hand me downs and people often asked how old he was or what a lovely boy I had. In the end I reasoned that people who knew me knew she was a girl and people who didn't know me were generally happy with a smile and a nod and no need to correct them. Strangely ds has never been mistaken for a girl despite my lazy approach to haircuts.

Spidder Tue 09-Jul-13 23:04:09

I'd want a bigger bow. They just look like sweets have got stuck. You want something that really screams 'girl'. Blue would definitely be out.

blondieminx Tue 09-Jul-13 23:07:41

shock the FAQ on that website - um, no one frequently asks wtf you'd GLUE a bow to your baby's HEAD???

Some og the comments are really scary:
^"I think these baby bows are adorable!
I'm very excited about it! Finally a
product that works so I don't have to
loose my bows to K Y Jelly or Karo Syrup!"^

What was she using before? Superglue? Plus ick at using KY on your baby's head.

SueDoku Tue 09-Jul-13 23:10:13

The world has truely gone mad....shock

Who in their right mind would GLUE a bow to a child's head..?????
<runs screaming from the room>

PlainOldVanilla Tue 09-Jul-13 23:14:17

Tbh I don't think youcan ever win. My DD is always in pink, not some people's choice I know but it's mine, and so many times I've been asked "is it a boy or girl" and "what's his name" ... Erm she's wearing all pink and a pink blanket what part of that makes you think she's a boy??

Not very helpful though sorry

DalekInAFestiveJumper Tue 09-Jul-13 23:15:25

Okay, I was going to say that sellotaping a bow to a baby sounded highly amusing, and like the sort of thing I'd do to my brother's DC. (Because ticking my brother off is fun!)

But then the glue. Glue. And bows. And, wow, Mumsnet is always proving that the world is weirder than I realized.

shufflehopstep Tue 09-Jul-13 23:23:58

Utter nonsense. I never buy DD pink dresses but she tends to get them as presents but I have bought her (shock, horror) blue clothes from the boys section before now. My dad bought her some shoes that he saw that looked cute - denim-look trainers that went with a little denim dress my mum had bought for her - the sales woman looked at him with a patronising smile and said "you do realise they're boys' trainers, don't you? Don't give in. And please don't glue a bow to your baby's head.

Does it matter if you can't tell if it's a boy or girl if you're just walking past in the street? And she is very rude to call your beautiful baby ugly. Next time you see her, just punch her. Sometimes, violence is the answer.

LoganMummy Tue 09-Jul-13 23:31:37

Loving this thread!

DS and DNiece who are both 3 love swapping clothes - DS loves the pink leggings especially! Get some weird looks but I honestly don't care.

More stories please! smile

shufflehopstep Tue 09-Jul-13 23:37:43

Just clicked the link to that site. Those bows aren't even near the baby's hairline. They look stupid.

Oh wow. Just chatting to my sister (lives in the States) about this, and told her about the baby bows. She actually knows people who do this - one of whom is her SIL. People really do buy these things confused

rootypig Wed 10-Jul-13 00:24:19

Guys, when I said my (American) MIL wanted to glue a bow to DD's head I was not joking. She is a nurse on a new mother / baby ward in California and apparently they routinely do this to NEWBORNS for photos. GLUE. In a HOSPITAL.

I am shock and angry and sad all at once. Especially as she is DD's grandmother. sad sad sad

aldiwhore Wed 10-Jul-13 00:29:32

Find the amusement factor in their embarrassment.

My sons got mistaken for girls until they wore the 'boys' uniform at school, they're very pretty, they have delicate faces and amazing hair that many people seem to think girls should have the right to.

Never get offended. Mildly miffed and roly eyed at others' narrow minds and lack of bravery to ask.

Being ranted at is another matter. If the ranters know your child then they ABU because they already know the gender, if they are strangers, they ABU to rant at you.

Gather some of the replies on this thread and use them with much amusement.

rootypig - I'm sorry, I have to say when I first read your post I couldn't imagine anyone would seriously suggest gluing a bow to a baby's head (and yes, I know you said she was serious). That's mad that it's routine in a hospital - just what you want to hear when you're that knackered and emotional: "Let's take some photos of your baby. Oh she looks like a boy, doesn't she? Well, let's glue a bow to her head for the photos..."

It's really sad actually, why does it even matter?

rootypig Wed 10-Jul-13 00:47:21

It is a truly American form of bonkersness. Unfortunately MIL is the most bonkers of them all.

But then I think, I was berated in the M&S bloody refund queue for having DD in a green hat - "that colour? On a girl?!" "er yes. It is green" - and think that the English are just as bad in their own way.

Yes, it is truly sad, and I hope that DD enjoys and wants to continue wearing a range of bright colours when she's old enough to express an opinion

(MIL: "if she wants to dress like a princess, who am I to stop her?" .....<eye roll, sigh, bangs head off wall>)

SlumberingDormouse Wed 10-Jul-13 00:57:15

I was always mistaken for a boy as a young child; now I have waist-length blonde hair and am hardly ever seen in trousers. Don't worry about it! They're the unreasonable ones, not you. And as for the comments about your DD being 'ugly for a girl'... Simply vile, and not worth any further thought.

InsomniaQueen Wed 10-Jul-13 01:01:58

Although I totally feel for you OP - I have been side tracked by the 'baby bangs' DD was born with a full head of hair which now reaches 3/4 of the way down her back at 15 months - I'm tempted to buy her some 'baby bangs' for a laugh grin !

ljny Wed 10-Jul-13 01:06:02

a woman tell me off for having DD in a blue baby carrier on my front, as apparently this was misleading people into thinking she was a boy

Was she offering to change the baby's nappy?

<can't think of any other reason it matters>

lisianthus Wed 10-Jul-13 02:20:51

Wow. There is more looniness in the world than I thought possible. Gluing a bow to a baby's HEAD? Hairpieces for babies? What on earth do these people think would happen if their child was thought to be a boy? Spontaneous combustion?

Your daughter is adorable. You do know some complete nutters though. I am in favour of the FTFO response for the kind of person who tells you your baby is ugly.

Or, if the person is female, look her in the eye, smile and respond "You have a moustache".

NapaCab Wed 10-Jul-13 02:39:32

My DS is very pretty, golden curls, blue eyes and baby doll eyelashes etc so sometimes people think he's a girl. It irritates me sometimes I have to admit but children under 2 are very androgynous.

If it bothers you, OP, then by all means get your DD a giant plastic pink hairband with a big bow for her non-existent hair but you seem chilled out about it so I'm sure you don't need to!

NapaCab Wed 10-Jul-13 02:52:16

Just saw the baby bows: it's too subtle in my view. Instead they should print up signs that Velcro to the baby's clothes saying: THIS CHILD HAS A VAGINA in bold letters. That should remove any doubt for photos, visits etc.

And what if you have a pretty boy like me? What is the male equivalent of a bow? A little football glued to his head? A car? The mind boggles...

Onetwo34 Wed 10-Jul-13 03:11:29

Fake eyelashes. Solved.

bugsybill Wed 10-Jul-13 03:29:12

What rude people you meet!

My son has a purple shirt that has some small pictures that are of a sea/surf theme (but i think it is still much more masculine than feminine) and whenever he wears it people think he is a girl, I don't correct them unless he is aware of it and the keep saying it (then I correct it for his sake so he doesn't get confused). He always wears it with neutral blue, brown or khaki bottons and a "boy" hat and trainers, but all people seem to notice is the purple. I think it is funny and just a sign of the times.

bugsybill Wed 10-Jul-13 03:32:02

I wouldn't do headbands though, they look silly and I think must be a choking hazard.

sashh Wed 10-Jul-13 06:50:14

Are you naturally so rude or did you have to study?

Gender is a social construct I do not wish to bestow on my child.

It's hardly my fault you are too thick to realise she is a girl.

OTheHugeManatee Wed 10-Jul-13 08:25:09

Next time someone comments like that, look horrified and screech 'OH NO! RILLY??? AM I GOING TO GIVE MY DAUGHTER THE GAY????'.

Aniseeda Wed 10-Jul-13 10:47:55

I once had an elderly lady telling me that, no, I must be wrong and my DS must be a girl because his eyelashes were too long to be on a boy!

Someone once said to my mum "oh this must be your little boy" about my sister who wearing a dress and aged about 6 - she did have very short hair, that hideous style that hairdressers in the 1970's were so good at and which mum basically forced us to have until we were old enough to rebel, but even so! Sister was most offended!

People are strange!

I don't remember DD being mistaken for a boy, though some people must have assumed she was as she would often be out and about in a Paddington bear sleepsuit and blue blanket handed down from her brothers. She was also bald until she was getting on for two!

Stinkyminkymoo Wed 10-Jul-13 11:11:42

Argh! I sympathise and would just tell them to fuck off.

My dd is 11mo and wears what I consider to be normal clothes. Some items are pink but many are blue too as well as greens, reds & yellows. Big deal!

I hate, hate hate this fucking pink/blue/gender obsession people have and the hideous pinkification of everything.

She's a baby and won't get scarred by wearing any other colours FFS!

jeanmiguelfangio Wed 10-Jul-13 11:15:37

People are strange my 4 month old DD always gets mistaken for a boy when she wears all pink, but today in navy blue she is a girl!!
I can't quite imagine why it matters to some people, and I've been told I'm misleading. Apparently we are dressing our babies for other people- who knew?? I also love the ones that say "are you sure?" hmm

elfycat Wed 10-Jul-13 11:28:23

A daft lady in a supermarket told me off for having a girl. Apparently she had a 'boy shaped head' confused DD1 was about 6 months at this point.

WTF is a boy-shaped head?

I didn't over-pink her and she was in a navy blue Kari-Me wrap, but still.

I always wonder if they would say yes if you offered to strip your babies nappy off and prove it!

Snort at babygros with "THIS CHILD HAS A VAGINA" on them. I just really don't get the people who ask "Are you sure?" or try to convince you that you're wrong. I have to say, after having DS I was ready for all sorts of judgy comments, but I never thought I'd be told off for the clothes I put on DD.

Badvoc Wed 10-Jul-13 12:36:02

Someone actually told you your dd was ugly?
<shakes head at the mind numbingly shitty, crass, cruel and vindictive things people say>

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