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AIBU to think that 7am on a Sunday is far too early for kids to be out playing?

(115 Posts)
lastnightiwenttomanderleyagain Sun 07-Jul-13 07:17:04

I'll lay my cards on the table early: DH and I have no.children yet. I also quite like the sound of children playing (not the screechers, mind)

BUT... 7am on a Sunday? I remember as a kid that we weren't allowed out until at least 9am or something on a normal day, let alone a day when it is universally acknowledged that most people are enjoying a bit of a lie in.

Not only are they loud but the noise they make as they jump off kerbs on their scooters is horrendous.

Grrrrr!

AntlersInAllOfMyDecorating Sun 07-Jul-13 07:24:09

I agree! Awful time of day!

MrsPresley Sun 07-Jul-13 07:24:40

I have to say it wouldn't bother me, but then I'm always a early riser (not my choice) so anything after 6am is a long lie to me.

But no way would I have let mine out to play this early, I think 9am is early enough, so YANBU

Sneets Sun 07-Jul-13 07:26:02

Hey I do have kids and don't think that you're being uneasonable!!!

LimitedEditionLady Sun 07-Jul-13 07:26:07

Aaaargh thats my idea of torture!Please note I am only up now as my DC chose my destiny....

ZipItShrimpy Sun 07-Jul-13 07:26:12

That's dreadful! I don't let mine on out play until at least 9am and even then they know not to scream and shout.

It's very inconsiderate!

waikikamookau Sun 07-Jul-13 07:27:11

it is really inconsiderate of their parents.

pictish Sun 07-Jul-13 07:29:00

It wouldn't bother me personally, as I am not noise sensitive at all...but I still wouldn't let my lot out that early on a Sunday. Very inconsiderate of others. Yanbu.

I'd let mine out in the garden at that time. I wouldn't let them scream and shout, but then I wouldn't let them scream and shout at any time. I'd rather hear kids playing than the dreadful noise from the hedge trimmers and lawn mowers.

Rhino71 Sun 07-Jul-13 07:32:08

Normally I would agree but on a beautiful sunny day like today I say YAB a bit U.

oohdaddypig Sun 07-Jul-13 07:34:27

Tricky one. On the whole YANBU.

But it's a beautiful day....

And I agree about the lawnmower thing - the oldies round our way (everyone seems to be about ninety and sprightly) are at it 6am

Kafri Sun 07-Jul-13 07:37:33

I agree. I think any loud noises are U early on a Sunday. We spent the first 3 years in our home with our neighbours dog barking at 6am every morning. She worked early shifts and the dog was left out when she left for work.
I now have a 6m DS and he certainly will not be playing out at silly o'clock on a Sunday when he's old enough.
his crying though I can't do much about

Goldmandra Sun 07-Jul-13 07:40:17

Well nobody who had their windows open in our village would have had a lie in this morning anyway. At 6.45 there were 8 hot air balloons skimming our rooftops. The sound of the burners wasn't something one could easily ignore and the people in the baskets were all yelling to each other smile

They looked beautiful and I had to be up anyway to get DD1 out for a day's volunteering but I might not have been best pleased had I been childless and looking forward to a lie in.

When windows are likely to be open I think 8.00am is the earliest for quiet play and 9.00 if they are going to be boisterous.

waikikamookau Sun 07-Jul-13 07:40:28

I was annoyed yesterday when someone walking dog by our house at 7.15 was calling/talking over the road to someone at the bus stop, it was due to be a once a week lie in for me, shattered, and I have a feeling she did the same last week angry
just cos you are up early no need to wake everyone else up angry

RaisingChaotic Sun 07-Jul-13 07:42:11

YANBU I was woke up at 7 this morning...by my cat hmm

TrickyWoo Sun 07-Jul-13 07:45:09

Agree not before 9, for kids, lawnmowers, car engines running (not driving obv but 'warming up'). I have DC and they make enough noise after 9, couldn't subject everyone to it before that.
Yanbu

Can hear our neighbour mowing their lawn as we speak zzzzzzzz

Summerblaze Sun 07-Jul-13 07:54:05

DS1 has been asking for the paddling pool out since 7am (as I promised him yesterday). I have told him its too early and others will be in bed so he has to wait until later.

Don't let DC outside til at least 9 am. Just good manners innit.

thegreylady Sun 07-Jul-13 07:55:29

Not unreasonable to be out playing but very unreasonable to be making a noise. My grandsons were playing with Lego on the patio at 6.30 am yesterday but you wouldn't have known they were there unless you looked out.

RedHelenB Sun 07-Jul-13 08:03:03

As an early riser I think YABU - at night me & my kids sleep through pub noise for eg & if you are a shift worker you have to sleep during the day when there is tons of noise! A lot ofmpeople now work weekends so I think the traditional Sunday no longer exists.

Yanbu, 9 at the earliest here. If I was desperate I'd take them to the park instead (no houses nearby) but mine are happily drawing for now.

YADNBU. It's way too early for the selfish parents to let them out regardless of the nice weather. 9am or later is perfectly reasonable.

wigglesrock Sun 07-Jul-13 08:13:21

I let mine out from about 8 but they are warned about noise no matter what the time. But I don't think the fact that it's Sunday makes a difference. My husband has been on night shifts all weekend - he's just away to bed now. He could probably cheerfully strangle people who are making noise at around 2pm, just when he's starting to wake up <shrug>

LtEveDallas Sun 07-Jul-13 08:14:12

I've been up since half 5, so I'm wide awake and bushy tailed. But YANBU, 7am is too early, I won't let DD (who has been up since half 6) do anything except draw or watch TV until 9am

(And believe me, she WANTS to play in the garden)

littlewhitebag Sun 07-Jul-13 08:14:46

I find these threads very strange. Who has a monopoly on long lie time? Children should be positively encouraged to go out and play in the morning whenever they want to. We only get a short spell of long days and nice weather in the UK. We need to get our children to make the most of it.
I live by a golf course and very morning at 6 am the ground staff start their mowing etc. I have never thought this was a problem or too early.

PareyMortas Sun 07-Jul-13 08:16:14

Yes I'm listening to shrieking, crying, shouting from toddlers a few doors along. Very inconsiderate.

MadeOfStarDust Sun 07-Jul-13 08:16:41

I think there are a lot of kids out and about at the moment because it is due to be bleeding hot at the times it is deemed "reasonable" to go out and about... they can't sleep because it is too hot, there is no breeze, the only way to get cool is to be outside in the shade right now....

But yep 7am is too early... though I understand the reasoning... probably the same reasoning my neighbour was cutting the grass and using their hosepipe to clean the car about that time....

puddeycat Sun 07-Jul-13 08:21:33

Yanbu! My next door neighbours 4 kids were in their swimming pool screaming and shouting at 7am this morning! angry Not a happy bunny!

Squitten Sun 07-Jul-13 08:23:50

I let my kids go out into the garden this morning before their bath but they are under strict instructions not to be noisy and if they start screeching or shouting they have to come back inside. I think they should be allowed out but have to learn to be considerate too.

shallweshop Sun 07-Jul-13 08:24:25

YANBU. My two have been wanting to go outside since 7.30 and I have told them its too early. I think 9.00 is reasonable. They will have all day to play outside, they don't need to start at 7.00!

Kveta Sun 07-Jul-13 08:28:43

meh, when my bloody neighbours stop shrieking at each other late into the night, I will start being more considerate of them first thing in the morning. I don't normally like the kids going out too early though, as the noise is so jarring, but we were out at 6.30 this morning getting the paddling pool set up and filled so the chill is off it by the time they get out to play properly!

Given that we are told to keep children out of the sun between 11 and 3, it doesn't exactly leave a lot of time for them to play outside does it? What time should they (and you) be in, 6.30 because you are putting small children to bed? My children have to try to sleep through people coming home from the pub etc and playing music in their gardens until late evening. You (and lots of other people on this thread) are being very unreasonable to object to young children playing outside early.

conorsrockers Sun 07-Jul-13 08:31:34

Sounds a little thoughtless, their parents are probably still in bed having their lie in! My kids do go out that early (and earlier), but we live on a farm and don't have any neighbours smile which is handy with 3 boys wink

TimeofChange Sun 07-Jul-13 08:32:35

YABU
I was woken at 5.00am by the farmer getting the cows in down the road.

I got up and have done some gardening (no machines involved)

I get woken by traffic on other days.

It's fantastic to have some wonderful weather for us all to enjoy.
Let the kids play outside at 07.00.

Go to bed earlier if you want more sleep.

invicta Sun 07-Jul-13 08:33:45

If the children are early risers, then on a hot summers morning like today, it's not unreasonable. However, they shouldn't be too noisy.

likesnowflakesinanocean Sun 07-Jul-13 08:35:29

yanbu its too early, and I get up by seven moat days but no chance would the dc be playing out at that time

SoggySummer Sun 07-Jul-13 08:36:13

Depends where you live. Out in the country with lots of space - then let the kids out when you like.

On a housing estate full of other people/families etc in close proximity - no. Its a little selfish and thoughtless and I say that as a mother who never had the opportunity for 6 years to sleep past 5am thanks to my now 14yoDD who was up just before 5am everyday for the 1st 6 years of her life no matter what time we put her to bed. Its the same selfish attitude as dog owners who live on housing estates who think its ok to let their dog bark and bark and bark in garden for several minutes last thing at night and 1st thing in the morning.

Not everyone has kids,those that do may have had a bad night, it may be some peoples only day off.

Someone the other bank holiday Monday decided to cut their lawn with their whiney flymo at 7am - pissed me off.

YANBU - 7am to be out making a noise is not on if in you live in close proximity to other people.

halcyondays Sun 07-Jul-13 08:37:19

Yanbu and I do have dc. They've got the rest of the day to play out. Mine don't tend to want to go out that early anyway, but there are lots of kids in our street and I don't think any of them would be out as early as 7 a.m. 9 a.m is reasonable.

bamboobutton Sun 07-Jul-13 08:39:14

If my neighbours we're more considerate about keeping exhausted parents awake with their shrieking and braying laughter until gone midnight i would be a bit more considerate about keeping my young kids in in the mornings. But they're not, so I'm not either.

lastnightiwenttomanderleyagain Sun 07-Jul-13 08:39:51

They've just been ordered back inside for breakfast!

Glad to hear I'm not the only one who thinks this is a bit hmm. I think it's more the noise that's too much rather than the simple fact that they're outside. I'd also probably be more tolerant if they were in their own, perfectly adequate garden (next door so we'd still hear, but at least that shows willing) rather than tearing up and down the street.

Eyesunderarock Sun 07-Jul-13 08:41:27

'Given that we are told to keep children out of the sun between 11 and 3, it doesn't exactly leave a lot of time for them to play outside does it?'

Just a really radical thought from way back in the 70s when I lived in a very hot place as a child.
My mum rigged up sun protection for us. Granted it was a selection of old sheets and pegs rather than something tastefully designer and expensive, but it worked.
It's not the delightful little moppets, it's the noise.
Are we going to have a thread a day on this?

Meglet Sun 07-Jul-13 08:44:45

It's better than them being cooped up, squabbling in a hot house.

Eyesunderarock Sun 07-Jul-13 08:47:29

Well, maybe from the parents' POV Meglet, but not from the neighbours' POV if the children are shrieking from 7am.

HerrenaHarridan Sun 07-Jul-13 08:50:55

Every time the sun comes out the grumpy gits are complaining.

Why are you so fuckin special, you want to sleep in, the kids want to play why the fuck should you wanting a lie in trump their need to run off some energy in their own garden.

No matter what time it is some one somewhere is trying to sleep. Whether is a baby to nap or a shift workers main sleep.

It is YOUR problem if it bothers you get ear plugs

Why should the rest if the works tip toe and whisper for you?!?

500internalerror Sun 07-Jul-13 08:52:50

If its late enough for the church bells to be rung, then it's late enough for children to play in their own gardens! Of course they should have respect for people that might be in bed - but that holds for any time of day, as the vast majority of people don't just work office hours!

mumofthemonsters808 Sun 07-Jul-13 08:53:11

It is a little early but it's one of the perils of living next door to a young family. It would not be a problem for me because we are early risers.

Eyesunderarock Sun 07-Jul-13 08:55:10

So you are saying that it's impossible for children to play without screaming and yelling?

BooCanary Sun 07-Jul-13 08:57:33

9am is reasonable, 8.30 at the earliest.
When we go camping abroad, the campsites ask for noise to be kept to a minimum until 8am.

Eyesunderarock Sun 07-Jul-13 09:01:05

'Every time the sun comes out the grumpy gits are complaining. '

Yup, including all the parents of children who object to the neighbours being in the garden at midnight talking and laughing and socialising.
So if everyone does what they like, everyone will also have something to complain about. Balance.

gordyslovesheep Sun 07-Jul-13 09:05:50

7am is just too early - I have 3 kids and they go out after 8:30 ish - Sunday is the one day I get a lie in (they are at there dads) and I was woken up at 6:45 by next doors PFB screaming his head off

I understand it's warm and you want the windows open but come on!

I may be a grumpy old git due to lack of sleep though grin

TheConstantLurker Sun 07-Jul-13 09:08:51

Children should be allowed out but told to keep it down for neighbours.
Keeping them in until nine is ridiculous.

HomageToCannelloni Sun 07-Jul-13 09:17:32

Hmmm, if us parents have to keep our offspring in til 9 then the childless should be banned from having noisy bbq's or indeed ANY social interaction after 7pm, when people are trying to put their teeny babies or little children to sleep.

YABTotallyU. Other people make noise, all the time, night and day. Its impossible to escape it. You yourself probably disturb their family after their kids are in bed all the time without realising it. It's give and take, that's what life is all about. If you really hate the noise of others then perhaps a more rural location would suit. (Though we have NO neighbours and still get woken at various early hours by farm traffic and such!

BoneyBackJefferson Sun 07-Jul-13 09:21:52

HerrenaHarridan
"Why are you so fuckin special"

What makes you so "fuckin special" that your kids can disturb others so early in the morning?

HomageToCannelloni
"Hmmm, if us parents have to keep our offspring in til 9 then the childless should be banned from having noisy bbq's or indeed ANY social interaction after 7pm, when people are trying to put their teeny babies or little children to sleep."

So only the childless have BBQs after 7pm?

Eyesunderarock Sun 07-Jul-13 09:22:58

It's just a shame that compromise seems so difficult for so many people.

coronalover Sun 07-Jul-13 09:23:55

YADNBU I don't care if other people are not polite enough to keep quiet at night, I teach my DC to be considerate of other people regardless. We have buses rattling past until late at night and a dog barking next door at random times but I don't use that as an excuse to be selfish. The OP is cross because the kids are being noisy out in the street which is def NU

coronalover Sun 07-Jul-13 09:28:49

*just re-read my post and it sounds wierd, I didn't mean that buses and dogs aren't polite!! just that we regularly have noise to deal with, as well as the odd pissed up party nearby

pudcat Sun 07-Jul-13 09:32:12

I don't mind quiet children outside, but those scooters bumping up and down the kerbs are a nightmare. The whole house seems to vibrate. We have footballs and scooters until dark and then early in the mornings. They do not play outside their own houses. I wonder why not!!!!!!!

coldwater1 Sun 07-Jul-13 09:39:41

I think it is way too early! My little ones are early risers but none of my kids are allowed in the garden until at least 10am. Not sure why i am so considerate considering most of the estate are up all night partying, shouting, screaming, setting off fireworks and riding mopeds up and down the street all night. But those have always been my rules and my kids know not to ask to go outside before 10am.

SuffolkNWhat Sun 07-Jul-13 09:40:50

Normally I'd agree but today only lasted until 8:30 before releasing DD into the garden, it's so hot here and she needs to make the most of the garden before the midday heat sends her back in!

She is also not a screecher, next door's dog on the other hand has been barking since 5am hmm

TwoCrazyKids Sun 07-Jul-13 09:44:40

I personally wouldn't mind but I wouldn't allow mine out. They are not allowed out until 9am weekdays and about 10:30 on a Sunday.

PipkinsPal Sun 07-Jul-13 09:45:03

OP, I have the opposite, neighbourhood kids out playing until 9pm on a school night, 10pm last Friday night and the youngest is 2 and the oldest 9 or 10. At 7am on a Sunday morning they are too knackered to be up that early. I have no problem with kids playing but the ones around here are screamers and shouters too.

FatherSpodoKomodo Sun 07-Jul-13 09:48:32

YANBU. I have 5 boys, so lots of noise. DS2 has ASD and can be very loud when he gets excited and is on the trampoline, or when we leave the house. I do keep him in till after 9 at the weekends so people can enjoy their lay in without his yelling.

Dixiefish Sun 07-Jul-13 09:51:21

I let mine out around 8.30 so long as they're quiet.

On a related note, is AIBU to let DD do her clarinet practice at 9am? Not sure how much of it the neighbours can hear!

gamerchick Sun 07-Jul-13 09:53:19

Kids are entitled make the most of the short but of nice weather we get.. Especially before it gets too hot. Id rather listen to kids than the noisy bbq that went on and on and on out back last night. Ear plugs come in handy.

Bio ears ear plugs are really decent if you want to sleep the morning away.

ElectricSheep Sun 07-Jul-13 09:54:38

I'm just wondering if it's too early to start my noisy mower? What do you think?

<my neighbours were up gone 2am partying last night so I'm sure they are still asleep>

Oh god, I'm just glad you don't live next to us (in a nice way, honest) ds doesn't walk, he runs. Morning is his full on energy time. I have to let him out the back otherwise he will run back and forth the hall, living room etc and we have wooden floors. Althgh when he is out the back he doesn't make too much noise. Parents do what they have to to survive

pianodoodle Sun 07-Jul-13 10:05:12

I think I'm going to be in the minority here - YABU

Get out of bed lazy smile

HomageToCannelloni Sun 07-Jul-13 10:09:48

'So only the childless have BBQs after 7pm?'

Blimey Boney I should hope not, we have kids AND a life, but I realise that my doing so might disturb others, and accept that I may get disturbed in return. grin

amazingmumof6 Sun 07-Jul-13 10:12:50

YADNBU.
mine don't go out. ever. and 7am is too early for anything. if they disturb us I whack them with a paddle.

Whathaveiforgottentoday Sun 07-Jul-13 10:23:04

Ours are let out after 9.00 although they've only just come out as they've been playing upstairs. Before 9 is too early particularly since our youngest is being very moany and screechy at present.

KrazyKurls Sun 07-Jul-13 10:25:32

Why can't people live and let live - different lives mean we are all up and asleep at different times! Get some ear plugs and a grip

Disclaimer: I have no neighbours so can't moan about anyone or have anyone moan about me.

Dubjackeen Sun 07-Jul-13 10:30:36

It's about having a bit of consideration, in my view, and that goes for all on a street, with kids/ without kids/ party animals/ zealous mowers... smile. There used to be one lad on our street here who had a voice that could be heard in the surrounding counties, and he never stopped roaring, while out playing, early morning or late evening. Then again, he wasn't playing near his own house...

GiveMumABreak Sun 07-Jul-13 10:35:01

YABU I think it's lovely that children are out enjoying the sunshine and fresh air on a Sunday morning!

secondchances Sun 07-Jul-13 10:39:30

Next doors son was outside calling Dds name at 7am. Dd was still asleep.

BoneyBackJefferson Sun 07-Jul-13 10:42:08

HomageToCannelloni

"we have kids AND a life, but I realise that my doing so might disturb others, and accept that I may get disturbed in return."

I agree, but there is an expectation of reasonableness to it.

If the children are playing quietly in a sand pit fine, if they are screaming their heads off on a trampoline then its unreasonable

pudcat Sun 07-Jul-13 10:44:25

"we have kids AND a life, but I realise that my doing so might disturb others, and accept that I may get disturbed in return."
BUT I am sure you do not tell them to go and play down the road so that you are not disturbed by their noise.

CatharinaZ Sun 07-Jul-13 10:51:52

Ours don't go out until 10am.

Our old neighbours used to let theirs out whenever they woke up, usually 6.30-7. I found it very annoying not least because they were SO noisy and the parents would have been up until 3-4am keeping us awake. Don't miss them at all!

HerrenaHarridan Sun 07-Jul-13 10:58:15

It doesn't bother me when neighbours have Late night bbqs.

I don't complain about my neighbours making a noise.

If you live near people sometimes you might hear them when it's not convenient. Tough shit.

I don't expect the whole street to work round my dds nap and I don't expect you wanting to laze about in bed to affect when my dd is allowed to play.

Get a grip, the world does not revolve around you wanting a lie in. It carries right on.

It is your problem to solve. Move to house with no neighbours or by ear plugs

Mintyy Sun 07-Jul-13 11:08:07

Yanbu. It is horribly selfish. I can't begin to understand how some of you can defend it!!

mrsyattering Sun 07-Jul-13 11:15:41

I wouldn't let mine out till 9am...although both dcs slept till 10 this morninggrin

extracrunchy Sun 07-Jul-13 11:16:37

YANBU at all! I nearly went over and complained but someone else clearly did cos they suddenly stopped. Maybe you live on my road, OP!

BoneyBackJefferson Sun 07-Jul-13 11:19:39

HerrenaHarridan

yes its called common courtesy.

On the flip side I don't expect your DD playing to affect when I lie in bed, she is your problem to solve, keep her inside during the early hours or teach her how to play quietly.

KobayashiMaru Sun 07-Jul-13 11:22:07

Does anyone keep their children in between 11 and 3? It's not the middle east, you're in England, ad thats most of the day. Ever heard of sun cream and hats?

EliotNess Sun 07-Jul-13 11:25:39

Yanbu

Emilythornesbff Sun 07-Jul-13 11:29:41

YANBU
Everyone should stay at home until a time that suits you.

Maybe you could make an announcement on your local radio or do a leaflet drop.

HerrenaHarridan Sun 07-Jul-13 11:31:28

Yes what?

Dd is not a problem to be solved. She is a normal kid who wakes up in the morning. She doesn't have an off switch for when she's not convenient.

I just don't get why you honestly believe the rest of the world should tip toe round you.

You need to learn coping mechanisms if it bothers you that much

miffybun73 Sun 07-Jul-13 11:33:26

I agree, YANBU.

Mine are 3 and 5 and very noisy.

I don't let them play outside until about 9am.

BoneyBackJefferson Sun 07-Jul-13 11:36:16

*HerrenaHarridan

"Dd is not a problem to be solved. She is a normal kid who wakes up in the morning. She doesn't have an off switch for when she's not convenient."

But you can kick her outside for when her noise is not convenient for you.

KobayashiMaru Sun 07-Jul-13 11:52:32

She's my problem if she's screaming outside my window at 7am on sunday morning, and you'd soon find you had a problem too. hmm

Jinty64 Sun 07-Jul-13 11:53:13

Well, our neighbours are happy to sit out BBQ'ing until the early hours in this good weather so I have no problem with ds playing out as early as he wants to.

KobayashiMaru Sun 07-Jul-13 11:56:08

nice for your other neighbours, to have to put up with both of you. Late nights and early morning, lucky them!

gordyslovesheep Sun 07-Jul-13 11:58:47

exactly BoneyBack - parents are kicking these kids out so they can get a lie in or a break - and everyone around has to share the noise

My 3 have no problems staying in doors until 8:30/9am - they aren't desperate to go out - they play in their rooms, eat breakfast (make me a cup of tea in bed grin ) - I don't understand why parents find it so hard to entertain them indoors for a bit

HerrenaHarridan Sun 07-Jul-13 11:59:24

No I can't she requires constant supervision, as a lone parent I don't really have convenience as an option.

But assuming your assumption was correct how would her making noise in my garden be less able to bother me in house that adjoins garden than in those along the street confused

You talk about compromise but the only compromise you offer is that the kids should shut up until a time that suits you.
People suggesting earplugs that work for them are ignored.

I have trained my dd to sleep with a lullaby cd on to create a sound barrier between her and what ever noise is going in. I do not expect everyone else to shut up for her, I found a solution to our problem ie noise at nap time and bedtime because that was OUR problem to solve.

I certainly did not think the solution to that problem was to go round to my neighbours and complain about them making a noise when my kid was trying to nap, can you imagine!

"Excuse me mr/s NDN but half past 7 is my daughters bed time and she finds it difficult to get to sleep when you have your tv on that loud but don't worry in return for you ceasing all noise when convenient for me I will keep dd seen and not heard till 9/10"

freddiefrog Sun 07-Jul-13 12:06:02

YANBU

We've had the family from further down the road screaming and squabbling over bikes from 7am this morning. Followed by continual knocking for my kids from 8am

If they want to scream at each other, they should do it outside their own house - but then they'd be annoying their own parents and that won't do hmm

gordyslovesheep Sun 07-Jul-13 12:07:06

I am a single parent of 3 - 2 have SEN - I manage to keep them in

MrsOakenshield Sun 07-Jul-13 12:09:05

sorry, but that's way too early - DD nipped into the garden at 7.30 this morning (door was open in kitchen for cats) - I hoicked her back in smartish. I had a summer of neighbours doing this a few tears back, pre-DD, every Saturday and Sunday their kids were out at 7.30, for about 6 weeks. I do not have loud parties every single weekend. In fact, I've had a loud party about 3 times in the 9 years I've lived here. If I did have a loud party till the wee hours every weekend, I would expect the neighbours to complain - and rightly so. It's called living with others.

HH - if you are so insistent that your kids have to be out at that hour (they have of course more than enough hours to be outside, surely - 9 till say 6 not enough?) then you move to the backside of nowhere where you can teach your kids to be as inconsiderate as you.

Sheesh.

MrsOakenshield Sun 07-Jul-13 12:09:23

few tears? few years.

sandberry Sun 07-Jul-13 12:25:52

YABU. And I say that as someone who has no children and slept into 10am this morning. Next doors youngest was up about 6am, I registered that and went back to sleep.

Everyone needs to be a bit tolerant, we put up with their kid noise, they put up with our watching films late at night. They sometimes tell their kid to be quiet and we turn our films down if it's late. If you want total quiet then move to an isolated house in the country, in reality we all have to adjust to each others noise.

I used to work shifts and often I'd be sleeping in the day. Should everyone forbid their kids from playing in the street between 9am and 3pm because I am trying to sleep?

BoneyBackJefferson Sun 07-Jul-13 12:39:26

HerrenaHarridan

"But assuming your assumption was correct how would her making noise in my garden be less able to bother me in house that adjoins garden than in those along the street"

That would be because
1. she is your DD
2. In the garden for you would be less noise

"You talk about compromise but the only compromise you offer is that the kids should shut up until a time that suits you."

The compromise is that between 0900 and whatever time she goes to bed I do not come round and complain about the squeeling, laughing, crying, slamming around and general noises that children make.

"People suggesting earplugs that work for them are ignored."

been there tried that, a little over 6 months worth of ear infections and sinus problems.

pudcat Sun 07-Jul-13 12:47:40

"People suggesting earplugs that work for them are ignored."

Earplugs do not stop the thumping vibrations of those wretched scooters.

usualsuspect Sun 07-Jul-13 12:50:26

It's a lovely day.

We don't get many, let the kids enjoy it.

Yabu.

lustybusty Sun 07-Jul-13 12:54:16

I am single and childless. Yesterday I was enjoying my back garden lying in the sunshine. Next door (left) were playing cheesy shit dance choons from 0900 till about 1700. Small children shrieking and splashing, dad shouting at them for running, hitting etc etc. next door (right) had contesting cheesy shit pop music all day. Dad and 2 kids playing football with the adjoining fence (me and them) as the goal post bang bang bang bang I had a BBQ. We were laughing, joking and shock smoking and drinking. At 10pm I dragged us all inside and closed the back windows (kids all sleep at the back of the houses).
I guess they were being unreasonable for the constant cheesy shit music, shouting and footy, I was being unreasonable for smoking and drinking till late. I didn't complain, nor did they. grin
But 7am on a Sunday? I'd be ready to kill. 8-8:30 I wouldn't be happy, but y'know, it's summer, they're kids....

HerrenaHarridan Sun 07-Jul-13 12:57:05

If you live near people they will make noise sometimes.

you cannot live near people and expect not to have to hear them.
If you don't want to hear them YOU need to do something about that be it move somewhere isolated, ear plugs, sound proof your room or god forbid think of your own solution.

I agree it's not on to send then down the street so your not the one listening to them.

Plenty of people have pointed out that everyone has different sleep patterns.

I get on very well with my (childless neighbours) they make a noise when they feel like it, we make a noise when we feel like it. Neither of us is being inconsiderate IMO we just don't stamp our feet and have a paddy every time it's a nice day and we both want to use the garden.

I hate to bring the law into it but it should be pointed out that excessive noise between 11-6 is considered anti-social anything outside if that is luck of the draw

BoneyBackJefferson Sun 07-Jul-13 13:11:06

The children round the back of me are having an absolute whale of a time, trampolining, some sort of bubble machine, there is water spraying over the hedge (so I will not be able to dry any clothes). It is brilliant, but then it is not rediculously early in the morning.

usualsuspect Sun 07-Jul-13 13:17:29

Won't be long until it's dark and dreary at 7 in the morning.

So not long to put up with kids having early morning fun.

TonytheFish Sun 07-Jul-13 13:44:49

See, I have trained my children to weekends.......they woke at 9 am this morning, came into me, climbed into bed, and we all dozed off again, snuggled up together till half ten......bliss.

Sneets Mon 08-Jul-13 07:09:38

Goodness me, some people get so heavy on here! What's with all the aggression? Take a chill pill folks.
I'm a mother with growing kids, and blimey, whoever said only childless have parties? What planet are they on. A good BBQ and a few beers with music (not too cheesy or mentally loud) is great for relaxing. But my kids still don't go crazy outside too early. They certainly have a few argybargies in the house though!!!! (2 boys). My street is full of kids and we all must think alike because I can't remember being woken by child-noise-pollution.

HoppinMad Mon 08-Jul-13 09:29:45

I posted a few weeks ago about the noise outside of kids playing while I was putting dc(3) and baby to sleep. It was about 8.30pm then and had taken me way over an hour iirc because of all the screaming, screeching, swearing outside.. I made it clear I have no problem with them playing, its the noise levels yet I got such a toasting because how dare I think my dc's sleep trumps the right for kids/teenager's rights to play outside as late as they like hmm
They like to play up and down the cul de sac, funnily not in front of their own houses much. So I dont see why one child's right to play out as late as they like trumps another child's to play out as early as they like.

Despite my annoyance, I am still considerate an keep ds inside until at least 9pm.

HoppinMad Mon 08-Jul-13 09:31:06

Sorry that should say 9am*

shewhowines Mon 08-Jul-13 09:34:58

YANBU it's just considerate.

aldiwhore Mon 08-Jul-13 09:38:53

Our children were in the garden at 8am on Sunday, BUT they were under strict instructions to keep it quiet until after breakfast (we ate at 9.30) I felt I'd found a happy compromise... until at 8:05 our neighbours revved up their chainsaw and started chopping down a tree, shouting at each other and generaly making me think all bets were off.

YANBU to think that everyone should be a little quiet early in the morning, YABU to think it's just children who can be inconsiderate!

It never fails to amaze me how some people here defend what is essentially ill manners.

Yes, we all have to put up with noise, some of it unsocial hours. But letting your kids out to play at 7am on a Sunday morning is selfish and bad mannered.

A bit of consideration for others goes a long way in life, you know. God forbid anyone should try and prevent your childrens needs to express themselves at 7am hmm

aldiwhore you make a very good point! It's not just kids playing out, it's neighbours mowing the lawn, washing the car blah blah blah. You've got all day to do that stuff. Don't be so bloody selfish.

aldiwhore Mon 08-Jul-13 09:54:17

I don't mind on a Saturday, but I think a Sunday morning is the one morning where MOST people can take their time and have a bit of peace (obviously some poor sods have to work)... it was very hot this weekend though, and my children were up at 5am, so it didn't FEEL late, but you know, there is a compromise, keep it quiet!

IneedAsockamnesty Mon 08-Jul-13 11:19:13

If you live in a residential area in the uk then The law requires you to not make loud noises before or after certain times it also requires you to only make reasonable noise between the two specified times.

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