to think once I am 70, I will just eat what I want, when I want.

(48 Posts)
Happymum22 Sun 30-Jun-13 15:36:42

I am currently battling with my latest weight loss efforts! I am not large, just on the top end of my BMI and, having had a 'bingey' few months, am keen to get back into healthy routines and diets.

Was chatting to DD20 who said 'When I'm old and retired I'm just going to eat whatever I want, whenever I want and enjoy all the amazing food out there. By then I really won't care about the impacts on my body or being fat'

Thinking about it, this sounds a rather nice plan. Anyone agree?

CloudsAndTrees Sun 30-Jun-13 15:39:47

I agree.

I have lots of plans for when I get old. It's going to be fun.

NatashaBee Sun 30-Jun-13 15:40:59

YANBU. But most 70 year olds I've met don't seem to eat much... So you might lose your appetite by then!

lovesmileandlaugh Sun 30-Jun-13 15:43:01

But as you get older your weight may affect your quality of life. For example, my Nan had bad arthritis and her weight definitely made a difference to her pain levels and her ability to get out and about!

TimeofChange Sun 30-Jun-13 15:43:28

Well, I'm 60 and to me 70 isn't that far away.
I hope to still be slim, fit and active at 70 and 80.

I want to enjoy my retirement, not have high blood pressure, diabetes, joint and mobility problems just because I eat too much crap food.

tumbletumble Sun 30-Jun-13 15:43:34

I think that was my thought process when I was pregnant!

The thing is, it's no fun being fat. You may not care how you look by then (although my 71 year old mum would disagree!) but what about issues like impact on mobility, getting out of breath from mild exertion etc?

southeastastra Sun 30-Jun-13 15:44:22

but if you can't get about aged 70 it would be grim, you would be housebound!

expatinscotland Sun 30-Jun-13 15:44:48

I hope to be dead by then.

squeakytoy Sun 30-Jun-13 15:44:57

I eat what I want, when I want now, I just dont eat loads of it.

Absolutmum Sun 30-Jun-13 15:47:10

My mother is 80 and just eats crap all day. She has a terrible sweet tooth and diabetes.
She's been like it for the last year or so and seems ok. I'm not going to try and change her at this stage, she's a grown up and it's her life, so why not!

expatinscotland Sun 30-Jun-13 15:49:22

My dad is 77 and eats what he wants. He's never been a big eater, though, and is naturally slim. He's been smoking since 1954. At this ointment, as he puts it, something will kill him, probably sooner rather than later. He is enjoying himself and his retirement.

hmc Sun 30-Jun-13 15:50:58

YABU - better to be a fit and active 70 year old (which is the 'youth' of old age imo) than obese and adding to old age's aches and pains

yamsareyammy Sun 30-Jun-13 15:56:30

huh. I intend to eat better as I get older, not worse.
If I am to live to old age, I want to be as healthy as possible.
My problem is the motivation for fitness.
[Just managed to bore myself].

ZZZenagain Sun 30-Jun-13 15:57:15

you won't have much appetite. The elderly people I know eat like birds, barely at all. Enjoy it while you can

My 75 year old grandmother is so dynamic and to be honest, she does as much as any woman 10, 20, 30 years younger than her! If she threw all caution to the wind and became fat and ate crap her quality of life might be much less than it is now, she wouldn't gain much. It would be like a healthy 50 year old saying chuck it, might as well, haven't got anything to lose!

Easy to say when it's a long way off :-p

yamsareyammy Sun 30-Jun-13 15:58:20

I dont fancy a nasty end. Too much of a coward for that. Though there is no guarantee that healthy eating and fitness are going to stop it.

thatstoast Sun 30-Jun-13 16:01:34

Nevermind eating what I want, I've always said if I reach 80 I'm going to start smoking crack.

hmc Sun 30-Jun-13 16:20:01

grin @thatstoast

Mintyy Sun 30-Jun-13 16:23:27

70 isn't old! Mick Jagger is going to be 70 next month. That is far too young to "give up".

My ddad died at 81, he was as fit as fiddle and incredibly active (until the bastard lung cancer got him).

hmc Sun 30-Jun-13 16:29:58

Yep, have to agree - my dad is 85 and is really good health. Does lots of walking, gardening etc and very few health issues; he enjoys life. He would have had a different retirement if he had stuffed himself silly since turning 70

CMOTDibbler Sun 30-Jun-13 16:32:33

Trouble is, these days 70 can be not old at all, great health, travelling round the world or it can be a point where you are really falling apart.
And being obese makes a huge difference at that age in terms of joint health, diabetes, blood pressure etc - and unfortunatly these are things that may not kill you outright but leave you really compromised and miserable.

GW297 Sun 30-Jun-13 16:38:53

My 28 year old sister has been saying this very thing for as long as I can remember!

thebody Sun 30-Jun-13 16:45:16

My dmil never smoked or drank and died at 60.

My dfil was a smoker and drinker and 22 stone and lived till 78.

Absolutely no guarantees so just enjoy.

Madlizzy Sun 30-Jun-13 16:45:39

toast, I always said that I'd be mainlining hard drugs if I hit 80 grin

VivaLeBeaver Sun 30-Jun-13 16:45:40

Me too.

And I'm going to start smoking!

expatinscotland Sun 30-Jun-13 17:07:13

I love how people think their lifestyle guarantees a long, healthy life full of 'retirement'. Bet dementia units and nursing homes are full of them.

Eat right. Exercise. Die anyway.

exoticfruits Sun 30-Jun-13 17:11:20

If you do live longer you might as well be as fit and healthy as possible. I intend to be still running, skiing, dancing etc if I get to that age.
I have got used to eating less and exercising more and feel so much better for it.

Scruffey Sun 30-Jun-13 17:13:43

Have to warn you that my 71yo MIL is still obsessed with clothes and how big her bum looks in things grin. And she puts my FIL on a salad based diet if she thinks he's getting too porky!!

yamsareyammy Sun 30-Jun-13 17:16:23

expat. I used to think about full nursing homes etc.
But when I looked up the figures once, it is only 1/7 or 1/10, I cant remember which, of people that end up in them.

propertyNIGHTmareBEFOREXMAS Sun 30-Jun-13 17:25:28

I shagged a bloke who at 32 was looking forward to retirement and getting fat. Needless to say I dumped him.

LastTangoInDevonshire Sun 30-Jun-13 17:30:19

No, OP, you won't. Because you might be 70 in age, but inside you are still 33. Believe me, I know grin

timidviper Sun 30-Jun-13 17:34:56

Some of the latest evidence implies that the people who live to old age may be slightly larger in their younger years than we are told is healthy and slim down naturally as they age. See here

There are no guarantees however. My Dad was fit and healthy until he succumbed to a rare and unpredictable cancer at a relatively young age. If we all had an expiry date we'd be able to plan better but we can't and I would hate to spend my life dieting and being miserable only to die young anyway! I think the key is to enjoy your life as much as you can every day without prejudicing your future.

hi expatinscotland

personally I can't understand why people waste their lives planning what they are going to do when they retire
you might be dead by then
or virtually dead by way of not wanting to do anything ever
the most exciting food you may get is fortsip drink

thegreylady Sun 30-Jun-13 17:43:46

I said that when I turned 60 and usually keep to it though I do feel obliged to diet occasionally.

maternitart Sun 30-Jun-13 17:50:20

I eat what I want, when I want. Which involves quite a bit of cake, but loads of veg too. I guess I'm lucky to be slim.

GW297 Sun 30-Jun-13 18:18:15

I know of a lady who is in her mid eighties and still wears anti wrinkle cream!

BikeRunSki Sun 30-Jun-13 18:20:53

My mum decided to do this at 60, after a life of poor eating habits, yoyo dieting etc. She is now 70 and has Type 2 diabetes.

yamsareyammy Sun 30-Jun-13 18:24:15

I have always been intrigued by your name BikeRunSki. Do you do that, and is that the reason, because of what you have just posted?
Dont answer if you dont want to, no problem.

marriedinwhiteagain Sun 30-Jun-13 18:28:19

Yes I will eat exactly what I want when I want it and am hoping that might include smoked salmon sandwiches and champagne in bed on Christmas Day before strolling round to see the DC somewhere or another after they have had a big blow out lunch with all the trimmings. DH and I will also have calves lives gently sauteed with a little butter and sage with crispy spuds and curley kale (DC won't eat it). Mmmmmmm looking forward to having all the things we like and half the shopping and washing up.

SacreBlue Sun 30-Jun-13 18:52:18

I do that now - not waiting til 70 cos i mightn't make it that far grin

I also don't have things kept 'for good' it I've bought something lovely I use it/wear it/eat it whenever, I don't want a cupboard full of gorgeous things that I don't get the benefit/enjoyment from.

aldiwhore Sun 30-Jun-13 19:23:01

When I'm 70 I will still look after myself but my focus will be more on health and how I feel than weight and how I look.

If I reach 85, I will smoke dope all day and procrastinate fabulously.

70 has always seemed old, but my Mum will be 70 in a couple of years and is still busy (hate the word 'active') and needs to stay healthy for the energy required for all her social events.

hmc Sun 30-Jun-13 19:33:50

I don't think that anyone has suggested that a healthy lifestyle guarantees a long healthy retirement - am failing to see what point you are making Expat, since the incontrovertible facts are that obesity and eating crap increases your risks of morbidity whilst healthy lifestyles decreases your risks. Nobody has suggested that it is a cast iron strategy however confused

TattyDevine Sun 30-Jun-13 19:48:56

Life is it now

Okay it might make your life shorter

Sod it. Lol.

apostropheuse Sun 30-Jun-13 19:51:26

I believe in living for today, because tomorrow may never happen.

My maternal line seemed to have been blessed with living long lives. My great, great grandmother lived until she was 95, my great grandmother lived until she was 86, my grandmother until she was 86 and then to everyone's shock my mother died at 62.

My maternal ancestors were very poor and had a terrible diet, with no healthcare whatsoever. In fact my grandmother was the first generation that could read and write. (Bearing in mind they were born in Ireland in 1902, 1885 and 1860). They lived to these ripe old ages when others around them were dying in their forties and fifties.

I every intention of enjoying my life for now and what happens in the future will happen.

You're a long time dead.

Jan49 Sun 30-Jun-13 19:51:55

I think it's an acceptable plan for when you're 85, unless you have an illness which is made worse by a particular diet. But a bad plan at 70 when you hope to have 10-15 years of being able to get out and about, because being massively overweight might stop you having the retirement you want. You might also find when your old you no longer desire those "forbidden" foods or they have unpleasant effects. Surely it's better just to have them occasionally now.

Jan49 Sun 30-Jun-13 19:52:50

I did of course mean "when you're old" not "when your old".blush

yamsareyammy Sun 30-Jun-13 19:59:13

apostropheuse. To me it is not so much about a shorter life.
It is more to do with the quality of life while living.

You say youre a long time dead.
I say you are a long time living if your health is not good.

aldiwhore Sun 30-Jun-13 20:01:00

I think balance is the key.

Live, really LIVE but think that you maybe around for a while.

I watched my MIL die of cancer about a month after she should have had a retirement party and years of happy procrastination ahead. I am watching my FIL die a little bit every day thanks to Alzheimer's, yet, being a man who always denied himself the good things in life, and exercising regularly, he's destined to die very slowly.

I'm not saying that's a reason to actively harm yourself, but it's certainly a reason to savour every bloody moment you can.

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