To think it's a bit strange to take photos of your child after an accident

(54 Posts)
Samu2 Sun 23-Jun-13 14:57:51

Just opened FB and a friend's daughter was in a car accident last night.. thankfully she is ok.

She posted photos of her daughter sitting outside the car with blood pouring down her face and crying her eyes out, then she posted photos of her being put on the back board thing by the paramedics and then being carried into the ambulance.

Perhaps it is just me and I am trying not to be too judgey, but I don't quite understand taking photos of your child bleeding and very distressed with the paramedics just after a car accident.

I think it was very close to home as mum got there before paramedics.

cocolepew Sun 23-Jun-13 14:58:36

Very strange hmm.

RVPisnomore Sun 23-Jun-13 14:58:59

I've heard of people doing this when planning to sue!

NatashaBee Sun 23-Jun-13 14:59:35

I can see why you'd do it if there might be a need for evidence of the injuries, for legal/ evidence reasons. Doesn't sound like that's the case here though.

TheBirdsFellDownToDingADong Sun 23-Jun-13 14:59:37

Compensation of course. Poor child.

Samu2 Sun 23-Jun-13 14:59:55

I just can't imagine even thinking of reaching for my phone to take a photo of my kid straight out of a car accident who is very clearly by the picture, crying her eyes out and looking very very scared.

CatInWellies Sun 23-Jun-13 15:03:20

I've never seen anything as shocking as that, but my news feed often shows pictures my friends have taken of their children having fallen over, bleeding gums, head bumps etc. And even taking pics of children in hospital seems quite common! Why? Is it to prove they are really hurt? Seems odd to me. My little one has been in hospital a few times, and got the usual toddler bumps and knocks, I don't take pictures of them!

Finola1step Sun 23-Jun-13 15:03:40

How old is the child? The only reason I ask is if the child is in fact a young adult and the driver of the car, then I could just about see the taking of photos as a wake up call. So posting such photos to warn other young drivers etc.

That said, I can not see any other reason. Even if the photos are for insurance purposes, why post them on fb?

TimeofChange Sun 23-Jun-13 15:07:19

They are obviously planning to sue.
Though the Face book posting is really wierd.
Though I don't do FB at all - I think it really wierd.

whois Sun 23-Jun-13 15:15:41

I thought you meant a photo later, one showing the big cast on an arm, or huge plaster on a chin or something, not while the child was all covered in blood and waiting for medical attention! That's seriously strange.

Very odd.

MammaTJ Sun 23-Jun-13 15:18:55

I posted a pic of my DS in his plaster cast. But I didn't take a pic of him immediately, and neither did DP who was with him at the time of his accident, he cuddled him, made him feel better, as any normal parent would.

mrsjay Sun 23-Jun-13 15:20:33

I have had all sorts of injuries on my facebook I must have some weird friends TBF some are friends of friends, anyway I have seen a husband after an operation picture a manky infected foot picture a child with a bloody lip photo It is weird I dont get it and I tell the person if I can how horrible it is

WorraLiberty Sun 23-Jun-13 15:21:13

Photos for compensation is one thing, but plastering them all over Facebook is quite another.

Like a sick kind of attention seeking.

PenguinBear Sun 23-Jun-13 15:24:11

Think it depends on the age of the child. And yep I agree with others, photos will be used into sue someone!

Samu2 Sun 23-Jun-13 15:24:50

The child must be around 17-18

She hasn't mentioned suing, just keep posting the pics and saying 'my poor baby sad'

I have taken pictures of my child in her finger cast after she had an operation on her nail, I see plenty of those posts, but this is the first time I have seen photos of someone bleeding and crying at the scene of an accident while with the paramedics.

Mind you, I once remember reading about someone who was tweeting about their child's accident while they were waiting for help.

RollerCola Sun 23-Jun-13 15:25:30

I think sometimes people post photos after the event, once the child is all patched up in a sort of 'omg we've had the most awful day but everyone's ok now' kind of way.

But a) actually TAKING photos when their child is injured, bleeding and just about to get into an ambulance is wrong and severely attention-seeking imo, when they should be putting all their concentration into looking after the well being of their child,

and b) posting them on fb is also very wrong and unnecessary. No-one needs to see them.

I took a pic of my dd1's injuries, but only after she had been comforted and been to A&E and sent home. We used it to get compensation.

Taking photos whilst you child is in distress and not fully medically assessed is horrible, posting it on FB is weird.

bunchamunchycrunchycarrots Sun 23-Jun-13 15:27:49

Most definitely for the claim they will make. I see it a lot in my job - I've seen some pretty graphic images of people in ambulances, in the A&E, at home the day after when bruising comes out etc. It's done to docment the injury and the progress of recovery which is part of how the claim is valued. I think it's just a reflection of the type of world we live in - photographic evidence is a big part of making claims/litigation and the better the evidence, the better for your claim. If you have a vague knowledge of this, it's more likely to be the 1st thing you think of - whereas others would be more interested in comforting their child!

As someone who deals with these kinds of things a lot, I'd always recommend taking photos of anything to do with an accident, because it makes my job easier. But that's just me grin

RiotsNotDiets Sun 23-Jun-13 15:28:35

That's really grim. I wouldn't want pictures of me in that state plastered over the internet. Really she should have been comforting her DD not getting her camera out and posting on fb.

FFS

Samu2 Sun 23-Jun-13 15:29:00

Oh well, just went through her page and came across a status where she said she wishes people wouldn't post breastfeeding photos on fb hmm

Defriended.

Taking pics for insurace/compensation - fine.

Plastering them on FB - downright weird.

ihearsounds Sun 23-Jun-13 15:30:56

People in shock do some pretty odd things. Not everyone acts the same way. The parent could have been taking the pics while her dd was being treated to keep herself busy and not get in the parademics way, when she wouldn't have been able to consol her dd without getting in their way. Some parents haven't got an ounce of empathy in their bodies and just think about me, me, me. Maybe the parent was over thinking in the event of an accident take as many pictures as possible.

Samu2 Sun 23-Jun-13 15:33:18

There was one before the paramedics arrived where she was just sitting by the car so at that point they weren't there.

People are strange!

Jamillalliamilli Sun 23-Jun-13 15:36:06

I find it weird but CatinWellies mentions taking them in hospital.

I took photo's of my d/s fighting meningitis in hospital, and d/d with severe head injuries. In both cases I was absolutely terrified they'd be the last one's I had of them.

He has some residual damage and ASD and can be hard work, and she has been left a different person with extreme brain damage.

One of each in major trouble are still up, along with the 'normal' pics, many years later, to remind me (and their siblings) when either or both of them are being total goits, how much I love them however they are, how very lucky I am to still have them, and to keep the small stuff in perspective. smile

bruffin Sun 23-Jun-13 15:39:02

My friend took photos of her dds injurys. Doctors were really pleased as she could send them in advance, so they knew what expect in when she arrived at a&e and the consultants they saw later also had a reference point.

bunchamunchycrunchycarrots Sun 23-Jun-13 15:45:05

Photos can be very helpful and informative, for lots of reasons, when it comes to things like this. I had a claim involving a woman who was thrown from her horse, and had pretty severe bruising. Reading about severe bruising and seeing the extent of it does change how you view these things. The woman concerned had the biggest bruise I have ever seen, and it did impact the level of compensation she got. So, although it seems a bit mercinary, it's actually quite helpful in many ways.

Buzzardbird Sun 23-Jun-13 15:45:27

Fb brings out the worst kind of attention seeking idiots.

mrsjay Sun 23-Jun-13 15:47:52

She hasn't mentioned suing, just keep posting the pics and saying 'my poor baby

^ ^ morbid attention seeking then she isn't going to sue she will probably go for compensation but that is just wanting everybody to know,

FrustratedSycamoresRocks Sun 23-Jun-13 15:48:48

I have photos and a record of dates and places and how on my calendar of every head injury dd has had this year. It helps when we see consultants to illustrate how often dd falls over. Not fb-ed them though.

Did fb a pic of how badly dd had chickenpox when she was hospitalised. But it was mainly so I didn't have to go through the same explanations to multiple family members all asking the same questions

mrsjay Sun 23-Jun-13 15:48:59

Mind you, I once remember reading about someone who was tweeting about their child's accident while they were waiting for help.

a friend was posting on facebook while she waited on an ambulance for 1 of her kids

Sirzy Sun 23-Jun-13 15:55:26

I wouldn't think to take photos in that situation but I have when DS has been in hospital.

When he was on Cpap at 8 weeks old a nurse suggested I took photos, seemed odd at the time but they were strangely comforting afterwards. I have never considered sharing them on Facebook though to me that doesn't seem appropriate but I have no problem with others wanting to.

His first smile came whilst he was on oxygen so I did put a photo on Facebook of that - the nasal specs in just make the photo more special in a strange way.

He has had too many hospital admissions since then and I have posted photos of him sat in bed smiling, or in the play room simply because a lot of people care, ask how he is etc so it is a nice way to show he is on the mend.

shock How odd, now that is a fb picture i DONT agree with, which is a 1st for me!

digerd Sun 23-Jun-13 16:22:37

Yes, morbid sympathy seeking attention imo on FB

I posted a pic of DD in an ambulance on FB, she was being transferred between hospitals and was giving a 'thumbs up', it was to reassure the family members that we'd left behind that she was OK.
Would have dreamt of doing it if she was distressed or unstable.

LadyFlumpalot Sun 23-Jun-13 16:43:12

I posted on Facebook during the 2 hour drive to get to my fiancé after a serious car accident had him airlifted to a specialist unit. My mum was driving, she drives slowly and carefully (as well she should) and I was going out of my mind. Face booking about inane stuff helped.

I also took pictures of him in hospital, as well as getting the attending firefighter (rural area - everyone knows everyone) to text me the picture of his car in situ, as I knew DH (then fiancé) would want to see them when he got better, which thankfully he did.

Posted the car picture on FB, not his injuries though.

IneedAyoniNickname Sun 23-Jun-13 17:23:13

I've posted pics of a.couple of the dcs injuries, but not unless they are calm enough that I can take them. And certainly not pics involving lots of blood

Manchesterhistorygirl Sun 23-Jun-13 17:25:59

I can understand taking photos for insurance purposes, but to post them on fb?

Although DH ds post pictures if the towbar in boot situation (literally a photo of towbar in boot) that occurred just days before our caravan holiday last year.

Floggingmolly Sun 23-Jun-13 17:38:54

Why the hell poet them on Facebook???? hmm

Because my privacy setting only allow close friends and family members to see them.

I don't do Facebook but, like a poster upthread, I took photos of my DD in hospital at 1 year old throughout all the stages of her heart surgery - from admission and our allocated room, then immediately after operation in ICU surrounded by masses of wires and equipment (and painted yellow iodine?) right through to drains out, dressings off, stitches out and finally our goodbyes and thank you's to amazing hospital staff.

Made into a book with the hospital tags, ECG printouts, drug charts etc and all the get well cards and messages. During all her growing up years DD has loved looking through the album and had lots of questions. At 18th get together her friends were really interested and amazed at the detailed "record".

So, actually I can understand taking photos in perhaps strange situations (I've also photographed family funerals too and received thanks from those understandably unfocussed at the time to take notice of everything) but of course it is each to their own smile and definitely not so good if purely for financial gain through compensation, rather than genuine concern.

thebody Sun 23-Jun-13 18:32:41

When my dd was trapped and bleeding surrounded by other children and teachers, one who was dead (adult)and others critically injured, ( children and adults) the vast majority of motorists stopped to help.

Some however just took pics of which one appeared on the front page of one out rather nastier papers with the child's face clearly visible.

They had to pay for that mistake!

We took pictures of her many injuries at some point after to help build a compensation case which she needs and of course to provide a journal of memories for her to have as she grows older.

As for face book no I certainly wouldn't put them on there.

megsmouse Sun 23-Jun-13 18:58:06

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

Hassled Sun 23-Jun-13 19:02:07

thebody - that must have been horrific for you - I'm sorry.

I actually did this once and now I don't know WTF I was thinking. A DC was bitten by a dog and I put a photo of the bite-mark on FB. God knows why - I'm not usually one for over-sharing on FB. I think it was outrage and anger and upset - OP's friend may well look back as I have and think "WTF was I thinking?". You don't always act rationally after a shock like that.

I had to take photos of my 6 year old DS's split ear whilst the nurse was getting ready to glue it together - not for ArseBook or any of that shit, but because DS insisted as he wanted to see what was going on! grin

SillyTilly123 Sun 23-Jun-13 19:38:24

Is there a "add all pic to facebook" button? I have photobucket and when I 1st installed it there was an option to upload every photo taken. Though if shes adding taglines than I doubt its that..

IneedAyoniNickname Sun 23-Jun-13 19:58:25

I can sync my phone and fb silly so all my photos upload. I haven't though. Luckily, as ds thinks its funny to take photos of me in the bath or asleep hmm

kennyp Sun 23-Jun-13 20:57:31

a woman i know uploaded pictures of her 10 year old son being nebulized in hospital. really upset me tbh. that poor boy did not ask to be broadcast.

shallweshop Sun 23-Jun-13 21:07:21

I think it is awful, shocking and totally out of order!

TeaCuresEverything Mon 24-Jun-13 00:24:48

I hate ppl who do this. someone I have on fb took photo's of her dd when she was ill with d&v recently. actually showed the poor girl holding a bowl and looking miserable! why does anyone need to see that?!

KhaosandKalamity Mon 24-Jun-13 09:58:13

If the girl is crying then I don't get it, but I kind of understand taking pictures. Usually we wait until after painkillers and medical attention though, and the one with the wound is the one that asks for the picture to be taken.

SmiteYouWithThunderbolts Mon 24-Jun-13 10:02:18

Taking pictures.. well there could be all sorts of reasons to do that, as others have said. Posting them on Facebook though - that is bizarre behaviour.

Has social networking turned us into a nation of narcissists and attention seekers? confused I'm trying to think of a time before Facebook and the like, to when people behaved sanely at the scene of an accident!

ZenGardener Mon 24-Jun-13 10:11:18

Last year a friend of mine's daughter caught chicken pox. We had over 20 photos taken over the space of a week to update her progress.

My DS2 insists on having photos taken of all his various injuries. Between those and the pictures he and DS1 took of their bums and willies I really hope social services never get hold of my phone.

Bunnygotwhacked Mon 24-Jun-13 10:44:02

We do the minor injury photo's here too Zen especially if it's bleeding then it's extra wicked according to ds. Mind you it's a bit different for her to be taking photos of her dd after a car accident what goes through someones head when their child is seriously injured and shocked and the parents first thought is ooo best take some pics and update my fb

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