to feel let down by mumsnet

(413 Posts)
cantbedoingwithit Fri 21-Jun-13 16:17:23

A friend has been raving about mumsnet and said that i should join as it is "like talking to friends who are supportive, friendly and who give sound advice." I have been lurking on mn and have been reading lots of threads and have been put off from starting a thread myself because i found some of the replies really quite un friendly (to say the least) and some sound quite rude. I realize that mn prides its self on being a 'no nonsense' type of forum and life isnt all flowers and fluffy clouds, and that sometimes the truth isnt always 'nice' but i was quite shocked at some of the 'un sisterly' comments.

KatoPotato Fri 21-Jun-13 16:18:27

Please have my first ever biscuit

TheCutOfYourJib Fri 21-Jun-13 16:19:37

You get used to it, or maybe nethuns is more up your street.

You have been put off starting a thread because everyone is rude, yet you are quite happy to start a thread slagging off an entire site which you clearly don't know a lot about?

RiotsNotDiets Fri 21-Jun-13 16:20:23

So what's up then?

Gizza problem, I'll solve it for you and I won't call you a cunt nor nuffink

Hilarious! grin

CMOTDibbler Fri 21-Jun-13 16:21:12

MN is like having friends, indeed. But the sort of friends that really will tell you that you look fat in the dress you are trying on, that your kids aren't 'free range' that they are feral, and that you are, at that point in time being a twat. As well as holding your hair when you vom, holding your hand in the bad times, and celebrating in drunken raucousness in the good.

Look elsewhere than AIBU too - thats not the place for support

Hullygully Fri 21-Jun-13 16:21:34

yes it's sadly true

it needed saying


people are just too scared to stand up to the rudeness, cliques and bullying that goes on and tell the truth

ChaoticTranquility Fri 21-Jun-13 16:22:30

Where exactly have you lurked on mn? If it's only AIBU then those are the sorts of replies that you will get on some threads. Try chat which isn't usually as erm...blunt. As for unsisterly most posters won't agree with another poster just because they're the same sex.

Like life...some people are cunts.

But not everyone grin

I love MN & have learnt to ignore shit replies to the point where I almost don't notice them anymore because of my mental shit-reply filter smile

Yikes - so you wade in with an AIBU and expect it to get any easier?!

If this isn't your corner of the web, keep searching until you find one that suits you better. Or just lurk a bit longer and see if it sucks you in.

At its best, this place is great - side-splittingly funny, tear-jerkingly compassionate and often abrasively wise. At its worst, its no worse than any other large forum I have encountered.

ArtexMonkey Fri 21-Jun-13 16:23:21

This? Again? Bye

p.s saying you don't like Mumsnet on AIBU is a tad daft if you're of a sensitive disposition.

I mean that in a naice way!

corlan Fri 21-Jun-13 16:23:51

It's a nest of vipers.

SugarandSpice126 Fri 21-Jun-13 16:23:55

Exactly what tantrums said. Plus it's not like every poster is vetted to see if they qualify as 'nice' in life, some people may be short with you, or voice a strong opinion. But on the whole, I think you'll find if you are in desperate need of help and support, it's a good place to be. And if you don't like it, you can leave instead of telling us what you think of us all. What's the point of coming on here just to make judgements about one group of people?

mylovelymonster Fri 21-Jun-13 16:24:05

There are different cliques, social groups, class groupings personality types depending which thread type. Dear God in Heaven, just don't go anywhere near AIBU.

ArtexMonkey Fri 21-Jun-13 16:24:10

AHEM orchardkeeper, I see you there pyjama gurl wink

CarpeVinum Fri 21-Jun-13 16:24:18
Notgoingto Fri 21-Jun-13 16:24:29

I like the rudeness! It's mostly just speaking frankly and I prefer it to fake niceness any day of the week.

mylovelymonster Fri 21-Jun-13 16:24:34


Pascha Fri 21-Jun-13 16:25:31


runningonwillpower Fri 21-Jun-13 16:25:41

I'm a new member and I love the straight talking.

I had this preconceived notion that it would be all tofu and preciousness. Was I wrong.

ShadeofViolet Fri 21-Jun-13 16:25:56

Its Holly Willoughby!

xylem8 Fri 21-Jun-13 16:26:36

'(I) have been put off from starting a thread myself'

..and yet you did!
..and your first thread is slagging off mumsnetters!

Shh artex grin

The thread made me do it.

I'm going, i'm going....

Sophita Fri 21-Jun-13 16:27:01

I came here for very similar reasons - colleague suggested this might be a forum to get advice from experienced parents - and I actually had a really positive experience. The feedback people gave me was frank & kind and has made a real difference for me.

I'm really sorry you haven't found it helpful, but maybe post the issue and give people a chance - you might be pleasantly surprised!

weebarra Fri 21-Jun-13 16:27:06

AIBU can be a little blunt. Some people are wankers. OTOH, lots of people are nice, there is a massive amount of kindness and compassion around. Just lurk on the relationships board for a bit to see that.
I'm on an antenatal thread full of lovely supportive women too.

usualsuspect Fri 21-Jun-13 16:27:19

We haven't had one of these threads for,oh, at least a week.

Groovee Fri 21-Jun-13 16:27:22

To be honest most forums have a bitchy side to them.

ArtexMonkey Fri 21-Jun-13 16:27:27

Maybe it's fearne.

HoneyDragon Fri 21-Jun-13 16:27:44

I'm nice, you may hang around with me.

What did you want to start a thread about? Why not ask us now, as we are here, problem shared/halved yadda yadda. Go on. We might be able to help/suggest solutions/signpost a way forward.

piprabbit Fri 21-Jun-13 16:27:56

If you start a thread being rude about the people who use a forum, you are likely to get a lot of replies from people who feel a bit cross with you.

If you start a thread about a genuine issue, in the appropriate topic, you are likely to get a lot of helpful, supportive replies.


RiotsNotDiets Fri 21-Jun-13 16:27:58

got to classics to see the best of mumsnet.

It might change your mind. if it does, I'd advise name changing

HoneyDragon Fri 21-Jun-13 16:28:11

Usual, has it been that long?

chocolatesolveseverything Fri 21-Jun-13 16:28:47

Ach..., MN can be the kindest and most supportive place in the world. It can also be rude, judgemental and bitchy. It's an internet forum after all. I've never yet found a website that doesn't sometimes descend into bad-temperedness when people want to let off steam.

If you really don't want to read the 'unsisterly' stuff, then stay away from the AIBU forum - the whole point of is it to provoke debate so yes there will be arguments! There are other forums such as relationships, antenatal clubs, conception, etc, which are far more about hand-holding and supportiveness if that is your reason for joining.

MadBusLady Fri 21-Jun-13 16:29:46

Baha, happy Friday OP.

VivaLeBeaver Fri 21-Jun-13 16:29:51

It can be quite blunt here but its all words on a screen.

It can also be the most supportive, compassionate place going. I think the majority just don't tend to suffer fools gladly and won't beat about the bush calling someone a twat if they think its called for.

But yes, some people can be nasty bitches for the hell of it. Most aren't like this but on a site this big there will always be some.

MadBusLady Fri 21-Jun-13 16:31:05

Don't hang around with Honeydragon, she gives all the new girls Chinese burns.

HelenMumsnet (MNHQ) Fri 21-Jun-13 16:31:15

Ahem. <eyes Talk Guidelines>

usualsuspect Fri 21-Jun-13 16:32:14

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Eyesunderarock Fri 21-Jun-13 16:32:52

There are parts of MN that are squidgier and fluffier than others, parts that are phenomenally supportive in the right sense rather than ineffectual pat on the back and nothing else sense, and areas that are challenging and occasionally somewhat rambunctious.
If you've tried AIBU, Chicken keepers, Style and Beauty, Relationships, In the News and the cookery threads and still found nothing that suits you, it's time to try elsewhere.

stealthsquiggle Fri 21-Jun-13 16:33:00

runningonwillpower - LOL at "all tofu and preciousness" I wouldn't have lasted 5 minutes

MadBusLady Fri 21-Jun-13 16:33:12

I always wonder where all the bitching is. I've only ever been on one thread where I thought people were saying seriously unacceptable things (and it wasn't in AIBU.)

<worries that she is in fact a colossal bitch>

IgnatiusSprat Fri 21-Jun-13 16:33:36

Why is it on these types of threads the first response is ALWAYS someone giving their 'first ever' biscuit?! There must be a team of posters out there who've never posted a picture of a biscuit, just dying to proclaim it when it happens. Weird.

Anyway op, you're right, we're all horrible and the best thing you could possibly do about it is to start a thread pointing it out. Now everyone will want to be your friend smile

usualsuspect Fri 21-Jun-13 16:33:52

Oh sorry, Helen.

Didn't see you there <zips it>

nenevomito Fri 21-Jun-13 16:34:16

Have you only been looking in AIBU? To be honest its like using a tank of sharks to judge how nice fish are. grin

usualsuspect Fri 21-Jun-13 16:34:58

Bloody hell,that was fastest deletion I've ever had grin

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SoleSource Fri 21-Jun-13 16:36:46


i'm nice


Here share my biscuit

Welcome to Mumsnet x

SirRaymondClench Fri 21-Jun-13 16:37:04

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PoppyAmex Fri 21-Jun-13 16:37:35

Carpe that's by far the best link ever!

TrinityRhino Fri 21-Jun-13 16:39:09

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TrinityRhino Fri 21-Jun-13 16:39:46

hi helen

MadBusLady Fri 21-Jun-13 16:40:13

grin You lot

TrinityRhino Fri 21-Jun-13 16:40:22

wow that was lightening quick

sorry miss

usualsuspect Fri 21-Jun-13 16:40:36

Helen has gone crazy with the delete button.

SoleSource Fri 21-Jun-13 16:40:42

I missed the naughty posts!

were they about me? sad

Ooh, what did you say usual grin

< ignores replies (and repeats ?) may also be deleted >

OP. Give us a try seeing as we're on your thread now. What's the problem ?

Eyesunderarock Fri 21-Jun-13 16:41:59

See, OP?
The deadly lasers of MN Towers will make everyone be nice to you. grin
Be happy!

That was my first deletion! And It was only a clip of Saruman singing [sad face and nude heels]

HelenMumsnet (MNHQ) Fri 21-Jun-13 16:42:45


Helen has gone crazy with the delete button.


I think you'll find me and my delete button act in a perfect and utterly reasonable unison of calm.

usualsuspect Fri 21-Jun-13 16:42:50

I will tell you when Helen's gone, will someone start a bunfight thread and distract her.

SoleSource Fri 21-Jun-13 16:42:59

Pwoar look at all those chops on QVC

PWOAR look at the sexy chef

Eyesunderarock Fri 21-Jun-13 16:45:24

It must be like playing Space Invaders, does your heart rate rise as the challenge grows more complex Helen?
Or do you get all cool and focused?

Thumbwitch Fri 21-Jun-13 16:45:35

YABU. But you know that or you wouldn't have started a bunfighty thread in the first place.hmm

This place is phenomenal but it is made up of thousands of individuals, all of whom have their own way of contributing. You won't get the same response from all of them because we are all individuals and we have our own viewpoints. MN is not a "thing". It is composed of all of us.

There are other forums out there that may suit you better; or you could pull your horns in and sit around this one for a while longer.

It's impressive how supportive this place can be, and lifesaving too: This is one example - it's an old thread, yes, but it's the one that has been most recently brought to my attention and one of the most amazing on here, IMO.

IF you can't take a bit of straight talking, then yes, you'd better leave MN again. But you'll be missing out.

Tiredmumno1 Fri 21-Jun-13 16:45:39

sniggers at usual getting deleted a minute after Helen pops up grin

piprabbit Fri 21-Jun-13 16:46:04

(I've hidden a bottle of gin somewhere in Local - shouldn't be long now).

HoneyDragon Fri 21-Jun-13 16:46:17
Echocave Fri 21-Jun-13 16:46:22

I think people are quite blunt at times here and I've been a bit offended at times [oversensitive] but when I had a nightmare with breast feeding, i really did have great advice and kind support. If you have a real problem, I think people here are really helpful. I'd stick around OP. you might grow to like it!

Eyesunderarock Fri 21-Jun-13 16:47:33

Oh, I liked this babyheave:
'Have you only been looking in AIBU? To be honest its like using a tank of sharks to judge how nice fish are.'

So true, so very true. A better image than the nest of vipers even!

TrinityRhino Fri 21-Jun-13 17:01:07

to be perfectly serious, you are totally being unreasonable and totally wrong

mumsnetters are awesome

you may not get on with all of them but that's life

in the huge majority that are wonderful people


no need for any more posts, I have spoken <sticks tongue out>

JohnnyUtah Fri 21-Jun-13 17:09:39

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usualsuspect Fri 21-Jun-13 17:27:22

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usualsuspect Fri 21-Jun-13 17:35:03

Err, I never said owt.

I've got the hump now.

I'm sorry you feel that way cant although you seem to have disappeared.

Sometimes it's hard to be sisterly when other people are being an arse. You get used to it though. Just be yourself and ignore.

JamieandtheMagicTorch Fri 21-Jun-13 17:38:50

Strictly speaking, OP, you hadn't been let down before you started this thread, because you hadn't asked for anything.

You might feel you've been let down after this thread. Or actually, not, because you can't be let down by something that confirms what you already thought.

So I think, for reasons of logic/semantics alone, YABU

WorraLiberty Fri 21-Jun-13 17:46:08

You must be absolutely devastated OP

Hoping you can recover from your traumatic discovery xx thanks thanks

YouTheCat Fri 21-Jun-13 17:51:56

Many people have raved to me about Zumba. 'Come to Zumba, it's so much fun'! hmm

To me, the very thought of a room full of sweaty, red-faced women, especially if it includes me, is my idea of hell.

Maybe Mumsnet is your idea of hell, OP. And maybe you'd be suited to somewhere else?

lionheart Fri 21-Jun-13 17:57:03

Welcome to mumsnet, OP. It is all the things your friend has raved about and more ...

josephinebruce Fri 21-Jun-13 17:57:25

I'm new too and love this forum :-)

Don't do fluffy.

Nowt wrong with bitchiness forthright talking smile

PrincessScrumpy Fri 21-Jun-13 18:06:39

I got lots of support (aibu is not really for that) in other topics but I did leave for about 6 months after someone told me I'd ruined dtds virgin gut by allowing scbu to give them formula when they were born prem. I was asking for advice on mix feeding at the time. I then realised it was one daft person so came back. I didn't keep contact with the antenatal group I was on as I was simply too busy in rl but the group seemed lovely and wish I had kept in contact.
Good luck finding what you're looking for - wouldn't stay in aibu though.

Maryz Fri 21-Jun-13 18:06:40

I agree with Hully.

Acksherly, maybe I had better not, because that would be bullying.

I haven't RTFT, but AIBU to suggest the OP has been on AIBU?

nannynick Fri 21-Jun-13 18:06:45

Geeky Stuff is a lovely topic full of support - well, tech support.

Zumba on the other hand is really hard. YouTheCat try BodyVive it is nicer, even my mum quite liked that class.

Maryz Fri 21-Jun-13 18:08:46

I just love this juxtaposition of posts:

HelenMumsnet (MNHQ) Fri 21-Jun-13 16:31:15
Ahem. <eyes Talk Guidelines>
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Maryz Fri 21-Jun-13 18:11:01

Is the op not coming back [disappointed]?

usualsuspect Fri 21-Jun-13 18:11:41


usualsuspect Fri 21-Jun-13 18:12:19

I got deleted for saying that,Maryz.

YouTheCat Fri 21-Jun-13 18:13:52

Nannynick, thanks for the suggestion but any organised exercise type thing with actual people isn't really my thing.

In fact, anything organised, with real people, isn't my thing.

I am an anti-social old bugger. grin

Maryz Fri 21-Jun-13 18:17:00

I suspect that wasn't the only thing you got deleted for usual grin

And it's not even wine o'clock.

Themobstersknife Fri 21-Jun-13 18:17:52

Usual behave! We need you in about an hour or so!

JamieandtheMagicTorch Fri 21-Jun-13 18:18:16


May I hazard a guess that that is something that unites many of us on here....

I hate blardy New Year.

GiveMumABreak Fri 21-Jun-13 18:18:33

So silly.....

GiveMumABreak Fri 21-Jun-13 18:19:26

AIBU to feel let down by OP and this silly thread?

Maryz Fri 21-Jun-13 18:19:32

Would I be deleted if I asked Helen whether the op could be considered to be a GF?

HokeyCokeyPigInAPokey Fri 21-Jun-13 18:21:51

So you come to a website, decide its not for you and rather than buggering off and finding somewhere else you decide to tell us how disappointed you are.

Please do excuse us, we will all of course moderate our behaviour to suit you.....oh sorry actually we won't go and find another bloody site!

yamsareyammy Fri 21-Jun-13 18:21:53

Did you have trouble on any board in particular?

or just the AIBU board!

I dont think the op is coming back.

I dont think you lot were friendly.

I remember coming on mumsnet way back in the day for some advice about my pfb and running away back to babycentre thinking Jeez what a bunch of cunts.

However, the pregnancy hormones soon wore off and I came to my senses smile

usualsuspect Fri 21-Jun-13 18:23:07

See, I sort of said that too,Maryz and got deleted.

yamsareyammy Fri 21-Jun-13 18:23:09

I have a theory that friday nights and sunday nights are not good times to start threads.

valiumredhead Fri 21-Jun-13 18:24:48

like talking to friends who are supportive, friendly and who give sound advice

Ha ha ha ha that is so not how I would describe MN grin

Maryz Fri 21-Jun-13 18:25:47

Ok, what about:

The way the op has written her post, and the opinions that she expressed in it make it sounds as though she may be aspiring to sound like a goady fucker.

Is that ok?

yams, I'm not sure any night is a good night to start this type of thread grin

LittleMissGerardButlerfan Fri 21-Jun-13 18:26:36

I would liken MN to real life, some people are lovely and you get along great, and there are people who disagree with you but you still like, and people who you just don't agree or get along with.

But did you honestly think we would agree you are reasonable to hate us? Have you tried Netmums? Perhaps it's more your sort of thing?

Personally I love it here, you can't beat a good debate, and those posts where you laugh so much you cry, and those that bring a tear to your eye with the help and support people give each other and the fact you can use swear words like fuck and cunt grin

YouTheCat Fri 21-Jun-13 18:26:41

I'd say a Friday is a good day for it.

Once the wine starts flowing... grin

Maryz Fri 21-Jun-13 18:28:46

I dunno, YouTheCat, I'd say this is the type of thread that will go downhill become great fun after wine o'clock, and then mnhq will suddenly delete it leaving us all dressed up with nowhere to go.

And then Honey will have to start yet another bunfight elsewhere [arf]

internationallove985 Fri 21-Jun-13 18:32:14

Well I'm a member of mumsnet and I've never been abusive, don't get me wrong I haven't agreed with everything people have said, but you can give your opinion without giving someone a verbal beating.
I've had a few verbal beatings mind. On the conception thread. However it's all sorted out now.
Oh and welcome aboard. Hope you stay with us. xxx

YouTheCat Fri 21-Jun-13 18:32:36

True. But there's always the Drunk thread. grin

DowntonTrout Fri 21-Jun-13 18:38:33

Oh bum!

I've missed all the fun!

badgeroncaffeine Fri 21-Jun-13 18:40:59

Yes, OP, absolutely correct. On this site you find a lot of good people and a lot of utter losers. I give as good as I get, or ignore them...depending on how I feel.

yamsareyammy Fri 21-Jun-13 18:46:27

I am feeling bad about this. I offer the hand of friendship to you.
Ironically, on the discussions of the day, is "Kindness of strangers" - your tales

oinkment Fri 21-Jun-13 18:46:31

I know what you mean OP because I had a similar experience - my friend RAVED about Asda's own fig rolls. She said they were delicious and moreish and filled you up and she couldn't get enough of them. Well I tried them and I didn't like them at all. So I wrote to Asda to complain.

LittleMissGerardButlerfan Fri 21-Jun-13 18:49:30

oinkment that is shocking shock I hope you never spoke to her again?

Tee2072 Fri 21-Jun-13 18:51:15

Your opinions are stupid.

I missed the good bits, someone PM the deleted ones!

I mean...hello Miss Helen, how are you this fine Friday?

YouTheCat Fri 21-Jun-13 18:52:10

And now you've made me hate Mumsnet too.


I want a fig roll! envy

HoneyDragon Fri 21-Jun-13 18:52:18

Did Trinity say something?

LittleMissGerardButlerfan Fri 21-Jun-13 18:53:56

I want a pm too but no one at MNHQ can tell cos I put a line through it so it doesn't really exist

Tiredmumno1 Fri 21-Jun-13 18:54:28

I really have nothing of any importance to say, but I am now laughing at, the did trin say something? And the fig roll story grin

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

TrinityRhino Fri 21-Jun-13 19:00:17

I may have told the op to p*&& off.....


TrinityRhino Fri 21-Jun-13 19:01:40

oops now I've used too many full stops or whatever the posh name is

MadBusLady Fri 21-Jun-13 19:02:04


TrinityRhino Fri 21-Jun-13 19:04:32

yes that word that I didn't want to attempt and also get wrong

.................................. <rebellious>

Tiredmumno1 Fri 21-Jun-13 19:05:05

grin Trin and mad - I think I need a lie down

Your friend sounds like a caaah oinkment!

Khaleasy Fri 21-Jun-13 19:06:24

Some people on MN can be cunty to be sure - I've had a fair few people make my cry/get extremely upset.

But for every one of those people, three more have made me smile or laugh, comforted me in a crisis or encouraged me in some way.

My OH always rolls his eyes when I say I'm on MN and says "why do you do it to yourself?" because he only sees the nastiness.

It is what you make of it, I guess. You soon learn what not to say wink

TrinityRhino Fri 21-Jun-13 19:06:27

Did Asda sort you out a new friend Oinkment?

DioneTheDiabolist Fri 21-Jun-13 19:06:54

I dont think that MN is unsisterly. But then my sisters are a pair of cunts.grin

I still love them.

badgeroncaffeine Fri 21-Jun-13 19:25:59

Never let anyone here make you cry or get you extremely upset. Most people doing that have actually set out to "achieve" it.

ToysRLuv Fri 21-Jun-13 19:28:10


I think you should sue ASDA for some compo, oinkment.

CarpeVinum Fri 21-Jun-13 19:32:37


Tis an old fave. grin

ouryve Fri 21-Jun-13 19:34:09

Bye, then. Don't let the door hit you on the arse, on your way out.

ChippingInWiredOnCoffee Fri 21-Jun-13 19:34:51

and have been put off from starting a thread myself because i found some of the replies really quite un friendly

... and yet... here we are hmm

OccasionalTherapy Fri 21-Jun-13 19:35:30

She said they were delicious and moreish and filled you up and she couldn't get enough of them

oinkment are you sure your friend said big cocks fig rolls?

MammaTJ Fri 21-Jun-13 19:52:27

Ignore the rest of them, they are a bunch of vipers.

Tell me about your ishoos, I'm understanding and nice and I don't even fucking swear much unless you treat me like a cunt!!

yamsareyammy Fri 21-Jun-13 20:01:15

Chipping. But does it take a certain type of person to go on MN.
Or be able to cope with MN?

usualsuspect Fri 21-Jun-13 20:03:10

MN has thousands of posters, I doubt they are all a certain type.

josephinebruce Fri 21-Jun-13 20:05:26

Do you think OP is watching this and laughing?

FanjoForTheMammaries Fri 21-Jun-13 20:06:13

Well I think yANBentirelyU as there does seem to be a plethora of ornery arseholes on AIBU.

usualsuspect Fri 21-Jun-13 20:09:27

You are not wrong, Fanjo.

gordyslovesheep Fri 21-Jun-13 20:12:45

I'm not here enough to notice any cliques or silly stuff - sadly I do notice the loons

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ToysRLuv Fri 21-Jun-13 20:15:52

gordy: I have certainly noticed the fence woman. Otherwise everyone seems sort of normal (even if not all very likeable).

cory Fri 21-Jun-13 20:17:07

Do you think it's the same poster posting the I-am-writing-my-first-post-ever-to-tell-you-I-don't-want-to-play-with-you or do you reckon it's a new one every week?

They always claim to have been lurking for some time, but apparently not for long enough to get bored with the ever-recurrent surprised-to-find-you-are-a-nest-of-vipers.

Or perhaps they are like Douglas Adams' sheep, surprised every morning at the fact that the grass is green.

ToysRLuv Fri 21-Jun-13 20:18:13

<wonders what happened to fence woman, and thinks that she is surely due to give another update on the current colour of said fence soon>

SunshineBossaNova Fri 21-Jun-13 20:19:22


usualsuspect Fri 21-Jun-13 20:19:22

I got deleted for saying similar, cory.

So watch out for Helen.

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

Portofino Fri 21-Jun-13 20:25:14

In. H experience there are a few long standing right goady posters. And then there there is the odd troll. But the vast majority are lovely and helpful in the extreme

OnIlkelyMoorBahtat Fri 21-Jun-13 20:26:23

It really annoys me when people say, "MN thinks X" or "MN behaves like Y" - Newsflash Different individuals have different opinions, personalities & attitudes. A talkboard populated by 1000s of people does not speak with one voice. End of Newsflash

yamsareyammy Fri 21-Jun-13 20:28:43

Chat - is generally ok
AIBU - avoid
Relationships - just be aware you will be advised to ltb regularly. Or HIHAA - he is having an affair.
Mental Health - pretty safe.
Pets - pretty safe on the whole
Style and beauty - hmm. mixed
living overseas - very helpful
philosophy - robust debates
feminism - robust debates
baby names - mixed
teenagers - lots of good advice
step parenting - beware
conceiving - very good advice
legal - good advice
work issues - good advice
site stuff - fun

dont know enough about the others to comment

As you can see it is a bit of a mixed bag
So, if you have the misfortune of spending too much time in some topics, rather than others, then yes, you can end up with the feeling of "un-sisterly support"

Portofino Fri 21-Jun-13 20:31:52

When did you become the MN Oracle, Yam?

gordyslovesheep Fri 21-Jun-13 20:32:01

Tack room is good - although I always feel a bit stupid there because the people know lots!

MadBusLady Fri 21-Jun-13 20:37:03

All the topics I regularly hang out in are "Avoid", "Mixed" or at best "generally ok" grin

yamsareyammy Fri 21-Jun-13 20:37:45

grin Portofino
I seem to visit a lot more topics than a lot of people grin

I could go on
slimming - good
nannying - good
General Health - supportive

~"Pets - pretty safe on the whole"

Have you been to The Doghouse???

Safe? SAFE?

Hell no.


usualsuspect Fri 21-Jun-13 20:42:40

Camping topic is fab, I go there when I'm feeling in need of a boost of loveliness

LineRunner Fri 21-Jun-13 20:43:23

First poster I knew who got banned was Doghouse-based.

usualsuspect Fri 21-Jun-13 20:43:32

Its all bunting,fairy lights and campfires.

famousblueraincoat Fri 21-Jun-13 20:43:40

The Doghouse is much better now. You are allowed to talk about puppies.

usualsuspect Fri 21-Jun-13 20:44:13

I know 2 posters that got banned because of Doghouse threads.

famousblueraincoat Fri 21-Jun-13 20:44:34

Gardening is relatively sunny and calm.

I personally find the Changing Bags topic to be welcoming and just generally lovely.

TrinityRhino Fri 21-Jun-13 20:45:32

I NEED TO know if OINKMENT got a new friend from Asda...

usualsuspect Fri 21-Jun-13 20:46:12

I don't understand the pushchair topic though.

I don't know what a bugaloo is.

famousblueraincoat Fri 21-Jun-13 20:46:18

Ethical Living is under-populated because no-one is living ethically.

LineRunner Fri 21-Jun-13 20:46:37

PigletJohn is fab on DIY and GoodHousekeeping.

Aetae Fri 21-Jun-13 20:46:40

Yep, yam, I have to agree with Ferret the Doghouse gets nasty. The current fight between dog lovers and cat lovers dog haters about whether the former think the latter actually like dogs is something to behold...

JamieandtheMagicTorch Fri 21-Jun-13 20:47:31

soooo many topics

And people still put every bloody thing on AIBU just for the joy of getting told to "get a life" or, a "grip"


Message withdrawn at poster's request.

yamsareyammy Fri 21-Jun-13 20:48:01

That is why I said "pretty safe"!
Fish is lovely, cats seem fine, the tack room looked good.I had heard that dogs wasnt!

gordyslovesheep Fri 21-Jun-13 20:48:05

oh yes Camping is lovely - but likely to make you jealous or very poor!

I never knew there was so much debate about pushchair a either.
I'm sure that this did not exist when mine were babies.
Either that or I was too stupid to notice every one pushing £2000 buggies grin

Mine was £70 from Mothercare. Back in the day when dd was a baby I thought that was fucking expensive.

yamsareyammy Fri 21-Jun-13 20:49:05

Forgot Good Housekeeping - outstanding

There's never a whole topic dedicated to changing bags?

Wallison Fri 21-Jun-13 20:49:11

Well, vipers don't. (Live ethically, I mean.)

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

hemel07 Fri 21-Jun-13 20:49:36

do vipers really live in a nest?

usualsuspect Fri 21-Jun-13 20:49:50

Although there was a bit of a luke warm heated debate on camping once about windbreaks.

Beer I got my arsed tanned in there. did get a public apology a few hours later

<stares at dog>

Yup she's still here.

JamieandtheMagicTorch Fri 21-Jun-13 20:52:46


Are we to conclude that people who own fish have nothing bad to say?

That is reassuring

OrmirianResurgam Fri 21-Jun-13 20:54:24

Nooooooooooo! Let us stop at once and learn the error of our ways....

reelingintheyears Fri 21-Jun-13 20:54:25

Me too Ferret,i only asked if i should get the bloody dog an outside kennel cos she was moulting so bloody much. grin

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

yamsareyammy Fri 21-Jun-13 20:55:57

The fish topic is normally how to try and stop a fish dying!
So people rally round.
Particularly the aptly named poster EauRouge. Who seems to know everything you ever need to know about fish.

Reeling, just shave her. grin

reelingintheyears Fri 21-Jun-13 20:56:29

People who own fish are the worst.

Fish are for eating not looking at.

Have you seen how much they spend on their fish tank stuff <<glowers at DP>>

You have to admit though, doghouse gets sticks because there has been some fucking enormous bunfights in there. grin

famousblueraincoat Fri 21-Jun-13 20:57:32

Think the bad rep of The Doghouse is an illustration of "Mud sticks"

reelingintheyears Fri 21-Jun-13 20:57:41

She's moulting at the moment Ferret,it's driving me mad,clumps of hair like tumbleweed floating around everywhere.

JamieandtheMagicTorch Fri 21-Jun-13 20:57:49


yes. But not much nourishment in a guppy

famousblueraincoat Fri 21-Jun-13 20:59:05

STicks, sticks, sticks and bones

JamieandtheMagicTorch Fri 21-Jun-13 20:59:19


they do die a lot. Although I'm having a good run at the moment.

Will head to the Fishtank (or whatever it's called) when another is imminent

arethereanyleftatall Fri 21-Jun-13 20:59:20

I couldn't disagree with you more OP. Posts get honest replies, when they deserve to be called a twat, they are. And, when people deserve support, they get it. I suppose if you want to be always right, then you wouldn't like it.

reelingintheyears Fri 21-Jun-13 20:59:25

Thick as their own shit are fish,pretty but stoopid.

yamsareyammy Fri 21-Jun-13 20:59:34

I havent visited every topic yet.
I did think, on one nutty bored day, that I would post on all of them
But I looked in on "Ford" , out of curiosity.
I couldnt decide exactly what the board was going to be about before I looked.
Yep, Ford cars!
About 6 new threads a year are started on there!
Gave up there and then on being on every board!

I own fish.

Well tbh I'm actually waiting for them to die.

Don't get me wrong i'm not mistreating them. I feed them, I care for them.

I just want rid though. sad

yamsareyammy Fri 21-Jun-13 21:01:17

Lots of funny posts about fish since I last looked [ grin]

When I wrote the list, I didnt think it was going to be pets that was talked about smile

reelingintheyears Fri 21-Jun-13 21:01:40

We went to an aquarium shop yesterday,it is extortionate.

Pretty but expensive.

Nice carp though,you can eat carp.

reelingintheyears Fri 21-Jun-13 21:03:30

The Polish eat Carp at Christmas i'm told.

yamsareyammy Fri 21-Jun-13 21:04:11

reeling, I get the impression you are not a big fan!

<Amazing, send your fish to reeling>

reelingintheyears Fri 21-Jun-13 21:06:10

Not a fan?

I bloody love fish.

I wouldn't dare.

The evil cow would be eating Hagrid (plecko) on toast before I knew it.


Pimpf Fri 21-Jun-13 21:08:07

Don't slam the door on your way out

SelfRighteousPrissyPants Fri 21-Jun-13 21:13:38

'Course you love fish- you're reeling them in aren't you?

usualsuspect Fri 21-Jun-13 21:13:45

Has OP been back?

reelingintheyears Fri 21-Jun-13 21:13:56

Who me Pimpf?

Well i never. sad

reelingintheyears Fri 21-Jun-13 21:14:44

Ah SRPP grin

Nah,i'm just reeling all over the place.

Wallison Fri 21-Jun-13 21:41:56

I don't understand this thread any more.

Mind, I didn't understand it to begin with.

josephinebruce Fri 21-Jun-13 21:45:40

What's a changing bag?

usualsuspect Fri 21-Jun-13 21:47:02

I never had a changing bag, a co op carrier bag did for mine.

FeegleFion Fri 21-Jun-13 21:49:04

TheCutOfYourJib Fri 21-Jun-13 16:19:37
You get used to it, or maybe nethuns is more up your street.


It's frustrating, it nurtures anger, it gets right on yer tits but it's also a great place to discuss all sorts with mostly like-minded people.

OccasionalTherapy Fri 21-Jun-13 21:51:26

I was a big snob when dcs were little...always used an M&S or straw bag from local farmers total rip-off market.

SunshineBossaNova Fri 21-Jun-13 22:00:24

Of course not usual. <taps side of nose knowingly>

marjproops Fri 21-Jun-13 22:12:50

ive been upset a few times by some posters but sometimes you ask for it!

a couple were where I felt ignored (cos im usually boring anyway

) and another ona 'chat' thread where maybe I shouldn't have given a personal experience opinion but the very people I was complaining about then mocked me and I nearly posted 'I rest my case' !!

on the ohther hand though ive also had loads of friendliness, pms of support and hand holding and the occasional laugh, and its my social life in the evenings.

steppemum Fri 21-Jun-13 22:15:20

I am sure it has already been said, but I just can't let this thread go by and not comment

Look at the threads where someone comes on upset or hurt or suicidal, or where their dc has just been diagnosed with cancer

The response is awesome, people are so kind, caring and supportive. I have seen so many threads where a desperate OP gets a gentle hold handing support from many, often in the middle of the night. There are threads where people have gone round and cleaned a house, sent food parcels, co-ordinated practical support, and recently even found someone's long lost Dad for them.

Yes it can be an incisive , fast, moving (and often very funny) place, but when the shit hits the fan, people here are amazing.

FunnysInLaJardin Fri 21-Jun-13 22:18:15

hello, I hate MN they are all cunts. OP YANBU. In fact what am I doing here?

everlong Fri 21-Jun-13 22:18:20

How predictable.

One arsey post then nothing.

FeegleFion Fri 21-Jun-13 22:31:43

Oi! I can't find my wee offering of wisdom on this thread. confused

Pimpf Fri 21-Jun-13 22:33:27

No reeling, the op, sorry should have made that clearer!

yamsareyammy Fri 21-Jun-13 22:35:15

steppemum. But we dont know if this poster was upset,hurt, suicidal, or their dc has just been diagnosed with cancer.

FeegleFion Fri 21-Jun-13 22:40:18

Also... AIBU for plotting to skull fuck 'D'P with something sharp when he falls asleep, for allowing me to see to DS 6 months (who was whinging) while he ate dinner and then fucked off outside for a cigarette and I still hadn't had any fucking food.

Oh and I'd just spent ages making the bloody meal!

I know I'm not BU, after reading it back. grin Thanks if you took the time to read though wine

FeegleFion Fri 21-Jun-13 22:45:38

shite Feegle goes too fucking far again confused

usualsuspect Fri 21-Jun-13 22:54:29

If she had any of those problems, Yap, she would have got support.

And anyone saying she wouldn't ,doesn't know MN.

HoneyDragon Fri 21-Jun-13 22:59:41

ABF, my Zebra Snail was called Hagrid.

We LOST our Pleko. Actually lost it. It is quite high on my list of shit that has disturbed the fuck out of me.

that jardin is a real cow. Just sayin'. I hate being on threads with her. she is not funny. oh no. never. ever. ever.

ever. ahem.

reelingintheyears Fri 21-Jun-13 23:22:05

DS1 had a plecostomus called Lord Zed and a red tailed shark called Billy.

reelingintheyears Fri 21-Jun-13 23:23:56

HoneyDragon,have you looked down the back of the tank?
DP found two fish that had disappeared when he couldn't understand where they'd gone.
They must have jumped ship!

SanityClause Fri 21-Jun-13 23:38:02

YANBU, Feegle!

Wallison Fri 21-Jun-13 23:43:20

So are all of you on this thread talking about fish then? Maybe that's why I don't understand it.

usualsuspect Fri 21-Jun-13 23:49:12

MNHQ seem to have given up on this thread.

so, is OP a PBP with a grudge?

MNEdBlackpoolWiganandSalford Fri 21-Jun-13 23:53:55

[ignores confusing fish talk]

Op Mumsnet is an open forum which like real life has a wide selection of society so of course there are different personalities that reflect that, mostly people are decent though and I have a list for the rest.....

FeegleFion Fri 21-Jun-13 23:54:47

Oh thank you so much Sanity

I did tell him he was a self-serving bastard but he denied it! Pfffft

I've told him he can see to the Boss' nighttime awakenings (of which there are many) and we've agreed I'll leave the depravity until next time...grin

SinisterBuggyMonth Sat 22-Jun-13 00:00:12

Oooh is this the random thread?

90% of my colleagues wear vests.

FeegleFion Sat 22-Jun-13 00:10:19

How do you know that Sinister hmm

SinisterBuggyMonth Sat 22-Jun-13 00:11:57

Hello! grin

SugarandSpice126 Sat 22-Jun-13 00:15:37

love this thread. and Sinister how DO you know that? I don't understand vests...why don't people wear lovely big jumpers in the winter? Or are these people wearing them in the summer too? (I'm way too interested in this, aren't I...)

ToysRLuv Sat 22-Jun-13 00:19:27

Yes, aren't their arms cold? Or their torso too hot?

FeegleFion Sat 22-Jun-13 00:19:30

Hello! grin how do you know? I'm nosey

SugarandSpice126 Sat 22-Jun-13 00:27:13

ToysRLuv maybe they wear long sleeved vests? And long johns underneath their trousers?

ToysRLuv Sat 22-Jun-13 00:30:26

Umm.. yes, that's a good point.

SinisterBuggyMonth Sat 22-Jun-13 00:55:41

I'm forced to do thread laundry

Right, back to fish...

reelingintheyears Sat 22-Jun-13 00:59:10

You wear layers to keep you warm,not just big jumpers,vests are very sexy warming under a tee shirt and a big fluffy jumper.

BeyonceCastle Sat 22-Jun-13 01:26:39

flowers ßßßßß

Okay the second thing is meant to be a fluffy cloud how does talc do her pics

Carp is bony btw

amazingmumof6 Sat 22-Jun-13 03:30:08

oinkment when you were in Asda did you notice any T-rexing?

oinkment Sat 22-Jun-13 07:07:29

Sorry to leave you all hanging on the Asda fig roll issue.

Asda did get back to me - they said if I don't like their fig rolls I should probably just not bother buying or eating them confused, and then rather snippily (I thought) suggested maybe I'd be better off with a much gentler M&S fig roll if I couldn't cope with the figginess of Asda's own. And then they went on about their wide range of fresh and frozen fish. It was a bit weird to be honest.

oinkment Sat 22-Jun-13 07:09:26

(I don't know what T-rexing is and I have a strict policy of never googling Mumsnet things I don't know about so sadly I may never find out)

amazingmumof6 Sat 22-Jun-13 08:42:40

oink Google it.

it is possibly the funniest thread

yamsareyammy Sat 22-Jun-13 08:47:17

reeling. I have a horror of that as well.
They jump sometimes as someone walks past the tank.
I do a double back, to make sure they are all still in there!

usual. You said that if she had any of those problerms she would have got support. "And anyone saying she wouldnt, doesnt know MN".

But she said "have been put off from starting a thread myself..."
So we dont know, do we?
She never got past first base on here.

yamsareyammy Sat 22-Jun-13 08:49:32

I realised I havent phrased that quite right.
Yes, I agree with you that she would have got that support, if she felt able to write about it in the first place.

[Yes, I realise she may have wanted to post about fish!]

famousblueraincoat Sat 22-Jun-13 09:42:58

Haha, MN as Asda and Netmums as M&S. grin Is that good or bad for the marketing strategy?

amazingmumof6 Sat 22-Jun-13 10:18:25

I think OP is that hoor Sharon. stirring trouble.wink

LittleMissGerardButlerfan Sat 22-Jun-13 10:22:17

More like Nethuns = organic farmers market
Mumsnet = Waitrose (Pom bears and naice ham)

I wonder what the Nethuns make of us?

famousblueraincoat Sat 22-Jun-13 11:53:57

I dunno. In Waitrose you don't get fights in the checkout queues.

ClaraOswald Sat 22-Jun-13 12:11:25

Going on past discussions seen on NM they think we a bunch of itches.

Maryz Sat 22-Jun-13 12:14:00

Helen must have given up on this thread.

Either that or she likes me more than usual [smug]

None of my posts have been deleted.

and arf at fish topic, I always thought it should be combined with recipes

cantpooinpeace Sat 22-Jun-13 12:17:36

Leave the bastards wink

(Just incase it hasn't been done)

yamsareyammy Sat 22-Jun-13 12:23:53

Maryz, can I ask you a question.
Do you think that this op is a goady so and so
If you do what basis do you have for that?

Because, across the board, particularly in teenagers, you are v v helpful.
So how do you know, for instance, that this op was not going to ask for help about her teenager?

And lay off people's fish btw!

LittleMissGerardButlerfan Sat 22-Jun-13 12:35:21

A bunch of itches <snort> yes they even banned the word bitch didn't they, along with cunt, fuck and all the other swear words!

I wonder if the word troll is banned wink

Maryz Sat 22-Jun-13 12:36:38

It's very simple yams.

If she wanted to ask a question about her teenager, she would have asked a question. And she would have got lovely non-judgemental, supportive advice and help. And presumably not posted this thread.

Same applies to anything else she wanted advice about (barring buying from a puppy farm or complaining about someone in a wheelchair taking the "pram space" on a bus hmm) the same would have happened.

So therefore either she has lurked only in aibu, specifically looking for bunfights and nasty comments on contentious threads or she's a GF (as in the standard definition of a Goady Fucker, as approved in previous threads).

She could be a genuine newbie, starting this before heading back where she came from. But I doubt it. I suspect she is a regular who has changed names or opened a new account in this name, in a desperate attempt to cause a bunfight. This thread has been pleasant though, so she failed grin.

I love fish, especially baked with butter and lemon

JamieandtheMagicTorch Sat 22-Jun-13 12:40:55

yy Maryz

JamieandtheMagicTorch Sat 22-Jun-13 12:42:05

if you have lurked and not posted before, and found MN to be too bracing, would you really post your first thread on AIBU, bitching about it?

I think not.

yamsareyammy Sat 22-Jun-13 12:47:02

See, I read it differently.

I think that she is probably genuine, and feels intimidated to post about her teenager or whatever. Probably from being on some of the boards that are a bit, what shall we say, robust. [not meaning the teenager one at all].
Perhaps, for instance, she has seen Education, which, again, can sometimes not be for the faint hearted.

I could be wrong. I havent been on MN anywhere near the amount of time you have, and I suspect that your radar for this type of thing is better than mine.

And I am not going to tell you again about the fish!hmm

yamsareyammy Sat 22-Jun-13 12:48:21

Good point Jamie.
Depends how long you have lurked for though, I suppose.

Maryz Sat 22-Jun-13 12:49:45

Message deleted by Mumsnet for breaking our Talk Guidelines. Replies may also be deleted.

RiotsNotDiets Sat 22-Jun-13 12:52:48

As someone pointed out upthread, the OP has to be Holly Willoughby

Thumbwitch Sat 22-Jun-13 13:29:11

Maryz is wise even if she's a bit insensitive about the fish

I like fish, in tanks and in my tum, although not the same fish, usually. grin

Pimpf Sat 22-Jun-13 13:44:06

Can I ask why the op has to be HW? Am I missing something? (I usually am!)

usualsuspect Sat 22-Jun-13 13:46:58

Maryz is wise and clearly a MNHQ favourite as her posts have not been deleted.

<narrows eyes>

Purlesque Sat 22-Jun-13 13:47:28

Cantbedoingwithit I know what you mean (haven't read many replies btw) this is why I don't spend much time on the (school playground) AIBU forum.
I only pop over here once in a blue moon, when I do I am reminded why I don't bother.
I've been called a pervert on this thread by some mumsnetters (cyber bullies) on a thread I started a while back.

RiotsNotDiets Sat 22-Jun-13 13:48:16

Pimpf she did a webchat and a few MNers asked some tricky questions

Maryz Sat 22-Jun-13 13:51:39

<laughs at usual>

ShadeofViolet Sat 22-Jun-13 13:52:25

Which she dodged and instead talked about dresses and other yawn inducing stuff.

ClaraOswald Sat 22-Jun-13 14:06:02

Usual, you know MaryZ bribes HQ.


Maryz Sat 22-Jun-13 14:11:29


How could you suggest such a thing? They just lurve me 'cos I'm wonderful


ClaraOswald Sat 22-Jun-13 14:16:17

and you send them lots of gin.

Maryz Sat 22-Jun-13 14:25:51

Well, yes, there is that.

But then, lots of people send them gin grin

usualsuspect Sat 22-Jun-13 14:26:58

I drive them to gin grin

HoneyDragon Sat 22-Jun-13 14:33:37

This being sisterly thing bothers me. Give me ONE could reason why I should be nice to you lot? <<scowls>>

Maryz Sat 22-Jun-13 14:34:48

Because I'm nice to you most of the time ?

<bats eyelids>

HoneyDragon Sat 22-Jun-13 14:36:30

<<backs slowly away from the Maryz imposter>>

<<real Maryz would never bat eyelashes>>

JerseySpud Sat 22-Jun-13 14:44:19

Congratulations. Here is my first ever biscuit

Thumbwitch Sat 22-Jun-13 14:44:43

Not sure that bats have eyelids, do they? not very obviously anyway.

JerseySpud Sat 22-Jun-13 14:45:07

Actually i'm eating custard creams. but i stubbed the blister on my toe from my new shoes and it hurts so i feel sorry for myself.

That is my excuse and i'm sticking to it

HoneyDragon Sat 22-Jun-13 14:47:29

Thumb. That's very very cute.

ClaraOswald Sat 22-Jun-13 14:49:00

and therein lies your answer Usual! grin

amazingmumof6 Sat 22-Jun-13 15:15:29

JulieMumsnet (MNHQ) Sat 22-Jun-13 15:35:46


Usual, you know MaryZ bribes HQ.


No body bribes HQ. hmm

yamsareyammy Sat 22-Jun-13 15:53:30

Can I ask JulieMumsnet, while you are there
I presume you have no way of knowing whether the poster is genuine or just a gf?

JulieMumsnet (MNHQ) Sat 22-Jun-13 15:56:24


Can I ask JulieMumsnet, while you are there
I presume you have no way of knowing whether the poster is genuine or just a gf?

I could answer that. I could. But, you know what they say? TSSDNCOP wink

HoneyDragon Sat 22-Jun-13 16:06:27

Julie. Is that an incredibly subtle hint that you'd appreciate bribery to start? grin

yamsareyammy Sat 22-Jun-13 16:06:49

That is not on the acronyms list, so can someone explain that to me please?

amazingmumof6 Sat 22-Jun-13 16:11:33

the secret service do not comment on procedure

HoneyDragon Sat 22-Jun-13 16:11:44

The Secret Service Does Not Comment on Procedure

amazingmumof6 Sat 22-Jun-13 16:12:34

🍰 anyone?

amazingmumof6 Sat 22-Jun-13 16:13:22

yes honeydragon does not


MadBusLady Sat 22-Jun-13 16:13:39

How did you do that??

MadBusLady Sat 22-Jun-13 16:13:57


MadBusLady Sat 22-Jun-13 16:14:30


MadBusLady Sat 22-Jun-13 16:14:44

Oh, bah. I don't care anyway. <sulk>

amazingmumof6 Sat 22-Jun-13 16:16:59

it's [[ &#127856]] without the gap

MadBusLady Sat 22-Jun-13 16:17:15


amazingmumof6 Sat 22-Jun-13 16:17:33


see? magic!

MadBusLady Sat 22-Jun-13 16:17:52

Ah, had nearly got there!

[[ &#127856;]]

Not that I care grin

MadBusLady Sat 22-Jun-13 16:18:18

Oops! One more.


MadBusLady Sat 22-Jun-13 16:18:25


amazingmumof6 Sat 22-Jun-13 16:18:43

yay yay cake!

amazingmumof6 Sat 22-Jun-13 16:19:15

I'm easily amused!

usualsuspect Sat 22-Jun-13 16:19:23
amazingmumof6 Sat 22-Jun-13 16:21:30

more cake! yes yes!

amazingmumof6 Sat 22-Jun-13 16:22:54

I'm off to have a nice brew with 🍰

smile smile smile smile smile smile smile smile smile smile smile smile smile smile smile smile

BoomChicaBoom Sat 22-Jun-13 16:24:47

amazingmumof6 Sat 22-Jun-13 16:25:44

reveal please boom

usualsuspect Sat 22-Jun-13 16:27:09

Seriously impressed with that,Boom.

How do you do that?

amazingmumof6 Sat 22-Jun-13 16:28:06

usual must have drawn it with a tiny pencilgrin

BoomChicaBoom Sat 22-Jun-13 16:30:20

BoomChicaBoom Sat 22-Jun-13 16:31:41

a tiny pencil like this?

usualsuspect Sat 22-Jun-13 16:37:02

I want to do tiny drawings on MN <stamps feet>

BoomChicaBoom Sat 22-Jun-13 16:38:49

You both have PMs

BoomChicaBoom Sat 22-Jun-13 16:40:33
BoomChicaBoom Sat 22-Jun-13 16:42:01

usualsuspect Sat 22-Jun-13 16:43:15

Yay, thank you Boom, my favourite mnetter ever.

BoomChicaBoom Sat 22-Jun-13 16:46:35

I don't know how to do the cake though so if you find out, please share!

I'm having such a purposeful, productive afternoon...

usualsuspect Sat 22-Jun-13 16:49:48

usualsuspect Sat 22-Jun-13 16:50:30

Hours of fun, on a rainy afternoon.

vintagecakeisstillnice Sat 22-Jun-13 16:51:16


vintagecakeisstillnice Sat 22-Jun-13 16:52:19


BoomChicaBoom Sat 22-Jun-13 16:58:45

If you ever return OP, you've just seen some 'sisterly' sharing of essential new skills on MN...

yamsareyammy Sat 22-Jun-13 17:03:13

I am assuming, from JuilesMN post, that the op was not genuine.

BoomChicaBoom Sat 22-Jun-13 17:08:10

Oops, missed that, too busy finding pictures blush

TrinityRhino Sat 22-Jun-13 17:11:41


TrinityRhino Sat 22-Jun-13 17:12:00

oh piss

TrinityRhino Sat 22-Jun-13 17:12:52


TrinityRhino Sat 22-Jun-13 17:13:16


TrinityRhino Sat 22-Jun-13 17:14:46

TrinityRhino Sat 22-Jun-13 17:15:01

Yay I did it grin

usualsuspect Sat 22-Jun-13 17:21:40


OP thank you for starting this thread.

It's cheered up a rainy afternoon

LittleMissGerardButlerfan Sat 22-Jun-13 18:11:44

LittleMissGerardButlerfan Sat 22-Jun-13 18:14:17

🍰 ooh I could be here all day grin

Tailtwister Sat 22-Jun-13 18:33:50

Well. I do think Mumsnet is very different from other parenting forums and can be a little caustic. It doesn't take long to get used to though and there is some very good advice here, not to mention some hysterically funny threads.

BelaLug0si Sat 22-Jun-13 18:50:05


BelaLug0si Sat 22-Jun-13 18:50:23


Maryz Sat 22-Jun-13 18:54:47

Oooh, how does this work?


Maryz Sat 22-Jun-13 18:55:44

SnookyPooky Sat 22-Jun-13 18:56:07

I love Mumsnet and am totally addicted, am not even a Mum.
Favourites are AIBU and Relationships.
Amazing forum with great advice and lots if support where needed.

Maryz Sat 22-Jun-13 18:57:17

<ignores the fact that Julie has deleted a post despite the fact that she has only been here for a wet weekend shock>

<offers Julie [gin]>

OfficialSweetieMonitor Sat 22-Jun-13 19:19:27


OfficialSweetieMonitor Sat 22-Jun-13 19:22:11


OfficialSweetieMonitor Sat 22-Jun-13 19:22:51

sad not working

CatsAndTheirPizza Sat 22-Jun-13 19:23:52

It is a very straight talking forum - sometimes too much so. Maybe you have been reading the wrong threads though - there is lots of support usually for people who make it clear they really need it.

Catsize Sat 22-Jun-13 19:54:12

I agree with you. I drift in and out. It can be horrible, but also funny.

yamsareyammy Sat 22-Jun-13 20:23:36

Could MNHQ come on after a while and say if the op isnt genuine.
That would solve the problem wouldnt it?

Or perhaps it takes a couple of days for them to know for sure yay or nay.

HoneyDragon Sat 22-Jun-13 20:51:10
OfficialSweetieMonitor Sat 22-Jun-13 21:04:57

I am reserving judgement on whether MN is fantastic or not until I can figure out how to do those little pictures.

If nobody tells me, then you're all a bunch of meanies.

Haven't read any of the thread cos cba but lol lol and thrice lol.

SoleSource Sat 22-Jun-13 21:12:55





VivaLeBeaver Sat 22-Jun-13 21:22:30


VivaLeBeaver Sat 22-Jun-13 21:23:31


VivaLeBeaver Sat 22-Jun-13 21:23:46

Why do mine not work?

You need the brackets

Maryz Sat 22-Jun-13 21:35:02

I think they need double square brackets Viva.

LtEveDallas Sat 22-Jun-13 21:36:34
LtEveDallas Sat 22-Jun-13 21:37:06

Oh, I am so impressed with that!

A whole new world.

2rebecca Sat 22-Jun-13 21:42:53

"Unsisterly" comments? my sister is ruder to me than many of my friends! I still love her though but sister and calling a spade a spade go together in my book.
If you don't like it then the internet has plenty more sites. I sometimes go on sites and think "not for me". I don't leave a rude message though as that just makes me look like a pillock as there are obviously folk who like those sites.
It's OK not to like something. It's not OK to then abuse people who like something different to you. Just walk away, the world is a big place.

LittleMissGerardButlerfan Sat 22-Jun-13 21:46:00

Thanks to Exit I now have a whole new world going round my head, unfortunately it's the Katie Price version! hmm shock

LtEveDallas Sat 22-Jun-13 21:46:29

Oh I could have so much fun with this.

Today I have been on a 🚲 ride, watched the 🏈 🐆

DD was a bit of a 🐄 at times but on the whole, OK. The 🐶 needs a 🛁 after rolling in fox 💩 and I am just too 😴 to keep this up.


(and if it doesn't work I'm not coming back)

LtEveDallas Sat 22-Jun-13 21:47:43

Damn, that was supposed to be a lion.

VivaLeBeaver Sat 22-Jun-13 21:49:10

2rebecca Sat 22-Jun-13 21:50:16


My pleasure

VivaLeBeaver Sat 22-Jun-13 22:15:30

Thanks, that's cool!

HoneyDragon Sat 22-Jun-13 22:36:47

🐍 <------average Mnetter

LittleMissGerardButlerfan Sat 22-Jun-13 22:38:02

Is that a viper Honey grin

BelaLug0si Sat 22-Jun-13 22:48:12

HoneyDragon Sat 22-Jun-13 22:49:06

I think it might be grin

amazingmumof6 Sat 22-Jun-13 23:44:03

LittleMissGerardButlerfan Sat 22-Jun-13 23:45:51

It looked like a green rubber duck at first glance grin

MadBusLady Sat 22-Jun-13 23:51:54


Rubby ducky, you're the one!

<may have partaken>

TrinityRhino Sun 23-Jun-13 00:35:10
TrinityRhino Sun 23-Jun-13 00:35:29


MadBusLady Sun 23-Jun-13 00:37:03

ooh we can do tiny little snowmen? And bollocks?

Thumbwitch Sun 23-Jun-13 02:17:53

I can't SEE half of them! I just get square blank boxes. Including honey's viper, all of LtEve's and the cake. Whyyyyyy?? <wails>

MyBaby1day Sun 23-Jun-13 04:24:28

I too expected some good support on a few issues but don't bother!, sorry to tell you OP but a lot of them aren't nice, it's sad but true!. I am though grin.

MyBaby1day Sun 23-Jun-13 04:26:39

I was laughing with a friend about me (who stands at 4ft, 8 inches) standing upto bullying on here. Didn't Amanda Holden call it 'The Nest of Vipers'? hmm

Notgoingto Sun 23-Jun-13 07:08:51

3 steps to asking a q on mumsnet:

1. Ask a question.

2. Take gleeful delight in thinking of new and creative ways to tell any nasty ones how stupid they are and to fuck off.

3. Reap good advice from the nice ones and bask in a warm glow of goodwill towards them.

amazingmumof6 Sun 23-Jun-13 08:41:10

what a good little thread this one turned out to be!

and they say you can't make gold out of shit.grin

mymagaret Mon 24-Jun-13 18:52:24

I have to admit some people are a little too rude on here. You wouldn't say some of these things to a persons face (not without a slap at least) so why is it socially acceptable to do it semi-anonymously online! In essence, its Cyber Bullying but people will never admit that, they like to think this is a group of 'friends'. I think being mean just makes some people feel better about parts of their lives they are perhaps not so happy with. I like to give my advice or reassure some genuine worries as others have done for me, but i think some people use it to be a total Bitch and big themselves up.

Elquota Mon 24-Jun-13 19:00:21



I know exactly what you mean. Some people on here can be really harsh and don't know any tact. However, others are just being jokey and sarcastic and most are really friendly.

It's all about getting to know the site and the humour a lot of people have on here.

Plus, we are all ladies with hormones, sometimes they get on the top of us.

AIBU is a dangerous place to post!

DarceyBissell Mon 24-Jun-13 19:25:26

Girls, girls. Really you should all be ashamed of yourselves being so unsisterly to poor OP. Where is she by the way? Haven't seen her since Page 1.
It's a wind-up, innit?
I hope.

amazingmumof6 Mon 24-Jun-13 21:00:12

\ tennis _ tennis /

tennis bra! grin

amazingmumof6 Mon 24-Jun-13 21:00:37


amazingmumof6 Mon 24-Jun-13 21:01:18

tennis tennis

tennis balls! grin

SugarMouse1 Mon 24-Jun-13 21:03:41

I have never found this -so I disagree

The mods do delete offensive posts/threads..

Sorry, but Netmums is full of idiots with poor spelling/grammar and garish tickers......

2rebecca Mon 24-Jun-13 22:09:29

Brightly coloured hearts?

Frond1982 Tue 25-Jun-13 06:52:15

I find that the trouble is that, alongside the 99 nice posts on every thread, there's always some bell-end who says something so pompous or sanctimonious you wonder how on earth they make it through the day without someone taking a rusty chainsaw to their head.

So I do see what you mean, but most people on here are sane.

amazingmumof6 Tue 25-Jun-13 16:00:54

MN changed me. I used to think I was a nice intelligent person.
MN taught me I'm also and ignorant bitch.

fairy nuff!grin

amazingmumof6 Tue 25-Jun-13 16:01:25

sn that I cant spel

yamsareyammy Thu 27-Jun-13 11:28:57

MyBaby1day, which boards would you say were not supportive apart from AIBU

Scarletohello Fri 28-Jun-13 00:12:11

Someone on MN once told me I should be shot, on a relationships thread. There are some mean and bitter people on here. ( and some lovely ones too..!)

Scarletohello Fri 28-Jun-13 00:17:41


Scarletohello Fri 28-Jun-13 00:19:08

Bollocks, thought that'd be an umbrella. sad

Scarletohello Fri 28-Jun-13 00:26:33


Scarletohello Fri 28-Jun-13 00:27:11

Give up now, will just have to get wet...sad

amazingmumof6 Fri 28-Jun-13 02:44:44
amazingmumof6 Fri 28-Jun-13 02:45:15

yamsareyammy Fri 28-Jun-13 10:25:57

Pretty sure I have got told things along the way, but fortunately for me, I cant remember any of them! grin

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