DH threatening to leave me if I get my hair cut

(99 Posts)
Bilpbip Tue 18-Jun-13 09:22:47

Okay I'm pretty sure I'm not being unreasonable about this.

DH loves my hair long, very long, it is thick and wavy and in great condition. The problem is that I hate it. I have an active, physical job so I spend most days with my heavy hair in a pony tail to keep it out of my face. It takes three days to dry after a wash and I never have the time nor the inclination to style it.

So last year I got it cut into a shortish bob style. OMG, I love my hair like this grin its light and easy and I never have to tie it up. DH said on the very first day that he hated it angry

This morning I mentioned in passing that I intend to go to the hairdresser later and he said thats fine but if I cut it any shorter he will leave! I'm pretty sure he is not serious but I'm still really angry with him.

Honestly my hair looks great in this style! I'm going to get it cut anyway and I'm tempted to test him and get it scalped grin

TheApprentice Tue 18-Jun-13 09:27:21

My dh also prefers my hair long. But I don't! I like it in a bob, like you. Luckily he does realise that he has not got the right to tell me how my hair should be - its my hair after all and he gets to choose how he styles his own hair!

I don't think its unfair of your dh to state his preference (although saying he hated your hairstyle is a bit mean), but its totally unfair to start threatening you with it - he doesn't own you. So YANBU.

Marcheline Tue 18-Jun-13 09:28:05

Yanbu.

Is he otherwise controlling at all?

My DH is allowed an opinion on how I look; sometimes I take it into account, sometimes I don't. If he ever tried to assert his opinion in such a twattish way, I would seriously be considering leaving.

Shave it all off as a way of rebelling grin

strawberryswing Tue 18-Jun-13 09:32:21

Your DH sounds like my DP!
He was the same when I got my long hair cut. I told him to get over it, and he did. I am always tempted to go bald to see his face grin.

Actually I purposely cut it shorter than I intended just to annoy him, but no YANBU to be annoyed, just go and get it cut extra short

Dackyduddles Tue 18-Jun-13 09:33:30

Get an undercut. Shave it round ears and nape but leave top long, or one side, quite a few top models have this look. Quite pretty in a very strong way.

Interesting experiment too, dye shaved bit also?

Crowler Tue 18-Jun-13 09:33:37

It's your hair, sure. He's being unreasonable, sure. But he obviously feels attached to your hair. Couldn't the compromise be the bob?

I'm biased because I can't understand really short hair on women. I understand the ease of it all. But it just doesn't make sense to me.

How can your hair possibly take three days to dry?

Get it cut and tell him to grow the fuck up! YANBU!

Xmasbaby11 Tue 18-Jun-13 09:36:51

YANBU. Get your hair cut how you want. But it must still be very thick, so also invest in a hairdryer so you don't spend your life with damp hair.

HeySoulSister Tue 18-Jun-13 09:37:01

takes 3 days to dry??

Kiwiinkits Tue 18-Jun-13 09:37:51

Dacky I don't quite believe that an undercut would do an adult woman who's not one half of rap duo Mel & Kim (showing my age here) any justice. Can you link to a pic showing which top models have this cut, so you can assuage my doubt?

HotelTangoFoxtrotUniform Tue 18-Jun-13 09:38:09

What a controlling horror! If I were you I would cut it shorter because he has "forbidden" it.

I went through something similar with a boyfriend when I was in my teens. He hated my hair short, so I stupidly grew it to please him. I resented him controlling me and the first thing I did when I dump him was have my hair cropped short again - and it has remained this way for 17 years.

Crowler - short hair suits some women, the gamine look can be very feminine, or maybe they like the ease and can't understand really long hair on women, or maybe it's up to the individual themselves. I really don't understand how someone can't understand a haircut.

ParadiseChick Tue 18-Jun-13 09:40:01

Three days? Is that because it's tied up wet? Does it not start to smell damp?

Anyway Yanbu, he needs to deal with it.

curlew Tue 18-Jun-13 09:40:42

Are people really suggesting the OP should compromise? Jesus wept!

OP- do your hair the way you like it. Sorted.

specialsubject Tue 18-Jun-13 09:40:57

how you wear your hair is up to you, although he could be excused for not wanting to be seen in public with someone wearing a green mohican.

bigger problems here? (sadly it often is with posts like this)

busygirl Tue 18-Jun-13 09:41:08

You said yourself he wasn't being serious.didn't realize jokes are not allowed in a couple.

BrokenBanana Tue 18-Jun-13 09:43:34

3 days to dry?! Are you wearing it in a plait for those 3 days or something? Would dry much quicker with a hair dryer you know!

Get your hair cut however you want, it's your hair.

KnittedWaffle Tue 18-Jun-13 09:44:18

You know he is being totally unreasonable.

Have your hair cut and take him home the clippings in a bag seeing as he's so attached to your hair!

ifancyashandy Tue 18-Jun-13 09:45:42

Crowler, what's not to understand about long hair looking shit on me. My hair grows bushy when past my shoulders.

When it's short, it's glossy and bouncy. Full, shiney amd oft complimented.. And I have a lovely long neck that gets hidden if my hair is long. I'm gorgeous with short hair!

BrokenBanana Tue 18-Jun-13 09:46:08

He's not being that unreasonable though either, it's totally normal for him to like a particular style on you. It would be unreasonable of him to actually leave you over it though, but I doubt that would happen.

olidusUrsus Tue 18-Jun-13 09:46:48

I understand the 3 days to dry thing. When you can't/won't use a hairdryer and have to have it up for work it can stay quite damp especially around the hair elastic.

Thick hair woes grin

YoniMitchell Tue 18-Jun-13 09:47:02

What an arse. If he's prepared to leave you over a haircut then I'd be booking in for a buzz cut immediately and finding someone less controlling and petty!

Seriously though - it's your hair, have it cut however you want to and get a hairdryer.

If my DH ever threatened to leave me over anything short of an affair or abusing our DC I'd head straight upstairs and pack his bags. I'm open to compromise and discussion at any point but threats and bullying? Never.

If he was joking, fine, but you might want to discuss with him that you didn't appreciate his joke and let him know how angry it has made you.

valiumredhead Tue 18-Jun-13 09:53:29

I would leave my Dh if he shaved off his hair <shallow>grin

Crowler Tue 18-Jun-13 09:54:07

Surely he was joking.

Snazzywaitingforsummer Tue 18-Jun-13 09:55:26

It sounds like one of those passive-aggressive 'jokes' where the person is using the opportunity to get a dig in, though they probably wouldn't make good on their threat. Not nice. You should not have to have your hair in a hairstyle you 'hate'. As TheApprentice said, he gets to have an opinion, he doesn't get to tell you what to do and make threats.

PrettyKitty1986 Tue 18-Jun-13 09:57:08

'I'm pretty sure he is not serious '

So what's the issue then? Did he mean it jokily?

Tbf if it was a tongue in cheek comment I can 't imagine getting upset over it. Df's last words to me this morning were 'you make sure my dinners on the table by 6 woman! And not the same tripe you served last night!' (Not in earshot of the dc i might add!) If I thought for one moment he was serious I'd change the locks when he was out grin .

Only you know the type of relationship you have with your dp, and so how his comment was most probably meant.

minibmw2010 Tue 18-Jun-13 10:07:11

I had really long hair when my DS was born (he's 2 now). DH never used to comment as such on it. I had it cut into a long bob when DS was about 1, DH said he liked it but I could tell he was a little disappointed but he'd never actually say it. After a disastrous trim where a Junior destroyed the shape I got it cut into quite a gamine cut and have kept it that way. In 3 cuts I've gone from really long to really short. I know my DH preferred it long but he knows short makes me happy (for now). He'll never actually say it because its my head/hair and I hope he loves me for more than my hair smile

TheOneAndOnlyAllan Tue 18-Jun-13 10:09:47

"I'm biased because I can't understand really short hair on women. I understand the ease of it all. But it just doesn't make sense to me. "

I have short hair. Now I'm wondering if it puzzles people in the street. What a weird thing to say Crowler.

WilsonFrickett Tue 18-Jun-13 10:13:25

Me too oneandonly, I'd hate to think my gamine crop is puzzling people, I thought they were just looking at my hair because, you know, it looks brilliant rather than baffling. wink

I also have a 41 yo friend with an undercut and she looks a. maz. ing.

OP, get your hair cut how you want. But I would be tempted to get a number 1 all over after a comment like that I wouldn't really because I have a funny shaped head but still, I'd be tempted

Flyingtree Tue 18-Jun-13 10:14:15

My old boss's wife cut all her long hair off, her's was down to her waist.

She used to come into work every day to see him and we'd hear them arguing about it (and him 'joking' about it in front of staff). She was Asian and she wore the trousers, so he wasn't controlling in the least.

He then had an affair with an identical looking woman with long hair and left his wife.

I once stupidly cut my toddler's lovely long locks really short. Obviously I didn't love him less, but he def lost the cute factor for a while. I won't be doing that again!

KikeriFreedomCastle Tue 18-Jun-13 10:15:02

I find it very odd for him to threaten to leave you over a haircut, especially an ordinary haircut like a bob (not like you're getting head shaved or anything).

You must have very thick hair for it to take three days to dry! Am also guessing it must be when up in pony tail form.

Crowler
Not all hair is suited to growing long. My hair is fine and it just looks untidy when I grow it long and it makes me look older. A shorter cut suits me much better.

DH expresses no opinion on the length of my hair and I don't make fun of the fact that he is losing his very often.

chickenliversfortea Tue 18-Jun-13 10:17:45

Well I look at some peoples hair and it puzzles me. It's one of the first things we notice about someone and it says as much about you as clothes if not more.
Puzzling hair for example are older women who have very set short permed hair. I really do think why?

Bilpbip Tue 18-Jun-13 10:18:37

Hi there I am here, I'm just trying to work too grin

It takes three days if I wash it an put it up straight away, I have to even sleep with my hair tied up.

I think he is just sulking, I'd love to shave the lot off just to see his face but then I have to live with it... and I don't really fancy an undercut, sorry.

Thing is my hair is really nice shortish, I get lots of compliments and have recently noticed quite a few with the same haircut - short at the back and quite long (below my chin) at the front and wildly wavy - recently.

I'm feeling a little less livid now though, thanks all

From talking to some of my idiot male friends over the years, it seems that for some men, their dislike of short hair isn't an aesthetic judgment but rather an emotional one, in that they associate it with being more of a mum than a wife. (I did say they were idiots!) So basically your haircut ends up becoming a reflection of their life, to them. A sign that things have really changed.

Obviously not excusing your husband's reaction but wondering if his overreaction has some kind of emotional element like this.

sorry x-post!

or maybe he's just a sulker then

AnyFucker Tue 18-Jun-13 10:26:00

My husband would prefer my hair long.

the key word is "my"

My hair, my choice.

AnyFucker Tue 18-Jun-13 10:27:46

DB, I find that the encroaching beer belly and hair in the ears can mark a new time in a certain type of man's life too

They don't sulk about that though, do they ? smile

Bilpbip Tue 18-Jun-13 10:28:37

snazzy I think you have it, passive aggressive. I don't seriously think he will leave me over a haircut and if he does, good riddance! I'm irritated that he that he can have such an aggressive opinion over it.

He is entitled not to like it.

superbagpuss Tue 18-Jun-13 10:29:40

other way round
I told my dh he needed to keep his long hair until we got married

it is amazing hair and it was long when we got together, I grew mine to not be such a difference in lengths

a few months after our wedding he had it cut into a man Bob and kept some of it - yuck envy.

not my choice but its his hair and I respect that

TheRealFellatio Tue 18-Jun-13 10:33:09

3 days to dry? confused

Are you sure? that sounds like nonsense to me.

But apart from that bit of silliness YANBU.

AnyFucker Tue 18-Jun-13 10:33:56

My daughter's hair can take a couple of days to fully dry.

M0naLisa Tue 18-Jun-13 10:35:52

My DH says this but he's joking. Are you sure he's not joking?

Startail Tue 18-Jun-13 10:36:34

YABU
We all love/hate things about our partners and of course we express an opinion about them.

DH would hate it if I got very short hair, I'd hate it if he had his really short too.

Conversely I also moan if DH lets his get very wild.

We have to look at each other, sleep with each other, of course we have preferences over each others hair, clothes etc.

Pleasing each other, up to a point, isn't controlling, it's considering the others feelings.

propertyNIGHTmareBEFOREXMAS Tue 18-Jun-13 10:36:48

Yanbu. How dare he try and control you. Fuck him. Go get your hair cut exactly how you want it.

expatinscotland Tue 18-Jun-13 10:38:26

Tell him not to let the door hit him on the way out.

CrapBag Tue 18-Jun-13 10:44:20

Say "I'll help you pack your bags when I'm back from the hairdressers then" grin

All in a jokey way of course. wink

eminemmerdale Tue 18-Jun-13 10:50:22

My dh always tells me he likes my hair as it gets a bit longer because it costs a fortune to have it cut but I love it sort!

AF -- ha, they don't, do they?

FWIW I did tell them they were being idiots. And pawns of modern marketing.

AnyFucker Tue 18-Jun-13 10:55:00

wink

Seenitall Tue 18-Jun-13 11:00:36

I think that you should have your exactly as you please, however, you have obviously have had long hair for quite some time and take it from someone who has had short hair for the larger part of their life, it will take you at least a year maybe 18 months to grow a chin long bob (all one length) and you will have to suffer every horrific in between helmet head hair style whilst you do. The compliments on your new short hair are great but they tend to only last a few weeks...

WallaceWindsock Tue 18-Jun-13 11:01:36

I have very very thick hair which takes days to dry fully if I have it up and I never blow dry it. My mum hates it long. Once at 16 I asked her to take 2inches off my almost waist length hair. She chopped it all off into a bob just below my ears. I cried for weeks.

DP likes it long but not as long as I've got it now. Tough. I love my hair and it is a statement of my personality. I dress quite uniquely and my hair is a big part of that look. DP never comments, even tells me it looks nice even though I know he'd prefer it shorter. That's because he loves me and respects my right to make choices about my own body.

ParadiseChick Tue 18-Jun-13 11:33:48

So what's to the point in hair so long you keep it tied up and its damp all the time? Sounds rank actually. I have long thick hair, about bra strap length. I let it dry naturally but wear it down, it's cut in a style. I've never understood long just for the sake of being long hair. Frizzy ends and all. Gives me the heeby jeebies!

GhoulWithADragonTattoo Tue 18-Jun-13 11:39:43

Since you say it's a joke I would just take it as such. He prefers you with long hair. I wouldn't mind if my DH had a view as to what haircut suits me best as long as he didn't think he had any real say in it.

Samu2 Tue 18-Jun-13 11:48:21

I have my hair short because it's the only way I can manage my thick and fuzzy hair. I would love to be able to have long hair though.

My husband had long hair when we met for years, I loved it and when he said he was going to cut it I was really upset! Sounds stupid I know but I was. Funnily enough when he did cut it I was amazed by how even more handsomer he looked.

As long as your H said it is a jokingly way then no big deal.

My hair, my choice but I do always ask his opinion, mainly because I am always unsure of what will suit me.

KellyElly Tue 18-Jun-13 11:51:32

Tell him you'll dump him when he starts going bald. He can start saving for the hair transplant now grin

SunRaysthruClouds Tue 18-Jun-13 11:51:33

Ah, there's nothing like a 'I want to get my haircut the way I want it and DH doesn't like it' thread to bring out the calls of 'Controlling, LTB'.

As a bloke of course I think you are being VU.

What if your H decided to get a green mohican? (assuming he has hair of course)

Whoknowswhocares Tue 18-Jun-13 12:21:36

Hmm now that IS an idea. Tell him that unless he gets a green Mohican then you are leaving him!

wigglesrock Tue 18-Jun-13 12:33:13

Do you know in 20 years of being with my husband I don't think I've ever discussed my hair with my husband. I get it done how I want, he notices and that's that.

He has asked if I've had a slightly different colour but he has actually never discussed a preference.

To be honest Id be just as receptive to his opinion as he would be to me picking out his clothes smile

Bilpbip Tue 18-Jun-13 12:36:15

I quite fancy the idea of a green mohecan grin I had something similar when I was at uni many, many years ago.

He didn't say it in a jokey way just not in an absolutely I forbid you to cut your hair kind of way.

I don't give negative opinions about his dress sense or hair cuts, I do tell him if I like it, I just shut up if I don't. He has a few pairs of jeans that could do with the shredder.

Remotecontrolduck Tue 18-Jun-13 12:38:29

I would be receptive to an extent, but not to the extent I was unhappy with my own hair. Say I was considering two different hair cuts, both I liked and DP preferred one more than the other, I'd probably take his opinion into account.

I would not however keep my hair long/short/whatever just because he liked it, when it was impractical or annoying me.

I reckon it was said jokily, there's nothing wrong with your partner having an opinion on your hair. If he was being serious though he is a bit of knob!

pigletmania Tue 18-Jun-13 12:40:39

Go ahead, do what you wish to your hair, let him leave! Why does he not gro hi hair if he likes long hair

Cut it. If he leaves, you know you've been released from marriage to a knobhead!

BrokenBanana Tue 18-Jun-13 14:18:00

I seriously think you need to get yourself a hair dryer OP. damp hair for 3 days is minging

Lweji Tue 18-Jun-13 14:18:20

What did you reply to him?

wealthypensioneriamnot Tue 18-Jun-13 15:33:34

Want to swap husbands ? I've tried to grow my hair several times as I like it longer so I could do more with it ... wear it up etc. each time I've tried my DH has carried on about how messy it looks and how he likes it short. What he actually means is that he doesn't like how long it takes for me to wash, dry and generally sort it out . Men seem to love long hair on women ... something to do with fertility or some such basic thing I expect ... but get really cheesed off with the time and money the upkeep takes .

SmiteYouWithThunderbolts Tue 18-Jun-13 15:40:41

He doesn't have to like your haircut. You don't have to give a shiny shite if he likes it or not. If he's stupid enough to leave over a haircut, you haven't really lost anything.

Get your hair cut the way you like it. He can have his opinion.

My DH has recently informed me that he's growing his hair long again. I hate it long. It was lovely when he was 20 and suited his "I wanna be a rock star" persona, but now he's mid-30s and it just looks like a mid-life crisis! He'll grow it anyway and that's fine. I have no right to tell him how to have his hair unfortunately. wink

LayMeDown Tue 18-Jun-13 15:42:36

if he is not serious then whats the problem? Why are you getting annoyed over a flippant jokey comment?
My DH prefers my hair long - the longer the better as far as he is concerned. I give some weight to his opinion on this, as I do with most things, but much more weight to my own since it is my hair.

allmycats Tue 18-Jun-13 15:46:42

if he is serious then you really do have a problem. You do just what you want with your hair, he may express an opinion but that is all it is.
You want it short ? then have it cut.

sleeplessbunny Tue 18-Jun-13 15:47:07

he is being vv u, obv.
tell him you like his hair long too, and you will keep your hair the same length as his.

VerySmallSqueak Tue 18-Jun-13 15:47:34

He'll not go.He's making his views known and has been a little OTT in doing so.
Clearly you need to get it cut now though to let him know it's your hair,your rules wink.

Dahlen Tue 18-Jun-13 16:01:15

It goes without saying that you have the right to do whatever you like with your own hair. He has no right to tell you what to do or how to present yourself.

That said, I think he's entitled to have a preference. I know I would have felt less attracted to various partners if they had changed significant bits of their appearance. I guess it comes down to acceptable ways of expressing that preference, and if he wasn't unequivocally joking, then he was unreasonable to make his comment.

If he's often given to foot-in-mouth syndrome and doesn't display any other forms of controlling or entitled behaviour, I think I'd stop short of LTB though. wink

MissPlumBroughtALadder Tue 18-Jun-13 16:11:10

Go on to YouTube and look up the song 'Haircut' by The Waifs. Might be appropriate?

MalenkyRusskyDrakonchik Tue 18-Jun-13 16:12:52

That would really piss me off.

The polite response when your partner does something to their hair/clothes/appearance you don't like is to say so once, then leave it. Badgering on about it is controlling and wankerish.

amicissimma Tue 18-Jun-13 16:13:06

Obviously he's BU to threaten to leave you if you cut your hair.

OTOH, you know he really likes your hair long and you had it cut anyway. You're entitled to do what you want with your hair but it doesn't look as if you care much about his feelings.

I hate it if my DH grows a beard. He's entitled to, but I would feel very hurt if he went ahead and grew one, knowing how much I hate it.

PipkinsPal Tue 18-Jun-13 16:15:52

YANBU. It's your hair. If he wants long hair then tell him to grow his own.

kerstina Tue 18-Jun-13 16:23:13

I don't think you are being unreasonable but can understand how your DH feels. I absolutely hate my DP's hair if he shaves it all off. It just does not suit him at all. He is much more attractive if he lets it grow a bit. I have told him this very vocally!! Am I controlling? Possibly. It is a fact though we also prefer our partners to look how we did when we first met ,with the same style etc. This goes for beards too.

MrsDeVere Tue 18-Jun-13 16:34:41

YANBU.
Cut your hair.

Yes we all have certain looks we prefer on our partners but we are not in charge of their bodies.

It is a hair cut not gender reassignment.

Cut your damn hair you are a grown up.

Osmiornica Tue 18-Jun-13 16:45:45

If he likes long hair that much tell him to grow his own.

I'd love to have short hair but being overweight I figure it'll just make me look round. I have very thin hair and is impossible to style as there just isn't enough of it - it does dry in seconds though.

UserError Tue 18-Jun-13 18:01:34

I'm a hypocrite. I'd never stand for being told how to wear my hair (and DH has seen me with dreads, long hair, a bob, a pixie crop, bald, etc) but I would hate it if he shaved his beard. He's handsome with a beard! Without it, he has no chin and looks like a twelve year old. I can't fancy him at all without a beard.

Bilpbip Tue 18-Jun-13 20:36:23

Well I got it cut like this but a fraction shorter, and...DH loves itgrin!! bloody unpredictable man that he is

internationallove985 Tue 18-Jun-13 20:40:32

I hate to say this to you, but he must be very very shallow. It would be a cold day in hell before a man would tell me what to do and not do with my hair. xxx

ToysRLuv Tue 18-Jun-13 21:16:49

I have shortish hair (bob with an undercut, and I'm nearly 33!).

Have had my whole head shaved before, and would do it again in a flash, but my figure isn't quite what it used to be, and I reckon a 6 mm hair cut requires a lithe physique to carry it off (to still be feminine rather than butch).

DH prefers long hair. Duh. Most men do, as it's a symbol of youth, fertility and girly, not-a-care-in-the-world, sexiness. However, as it is MY hair, I will do what I want with it. After all, is DH going to wash, dry and style my hair for me? Does he (having had very short hair for most of his life and now balding) KNOW how much work that is? Does he know how annoying long hair can be, how it gets in the way? No. Well, then he can't ask me to have long hair. And, anyway, I had short hair when we met (I have had both long and short hair since)!

MrsRickyMartin Tue 18-Jun-13 23:13:12

He was joking, my DH says if I wear a wig he will divorce me. I love curly hair and I have straight hair and won't perm it, so I said a wig might be an option curly hair doesn't look good on me to have a different look.

I see some people said LTB already grin

Kiwiinkits Tue 18-Jun-13 23:58:36

I'm glad it worked out for you Blip

ouryve Wed 19-Jun-13 00:01:00

Bloody hell. If he's that big an arse, wave him goodbye on his way out of the door. If he wants a doll to play with, there's plenty of good toy shops around.

WafflyVersatile Wed 19-Jun-13 01:25:19

buy a hairstyle magazine, turn down the corners at some of the really short cuts and leave it lying around. If he asks you about it tell him you've decided on one of those. Then your actual cut will seem like a compromise! wink

ChippingInWiredOnCoffee Wed 19-Jun-13 01:53:24

Really Bilpbip? I'm sure it must look nicer than that then! To me she looks like she's been up all night with kids that don't sleep and needs to go to the hair dressers!?!

MrRected Wed 19-Jun-13 02:02:39

My DH said I was to do whatever made me happy when I had my long hair cut off.

I did it and HATE it. I truly do. I had it cut off over a year ago and it's grown less then an inch.

I wish he'd said something to discourage me.

OP - I am sure you DP couldn't have been serious. If he was, he's being a controlling twit.

kerstina Wed 19-Jun-13 07:44:11

I like it Bilppip smile It is actually very flattering as its quite soft and long around the face. Looks more feminine than a lot of longer styles.
I love long hair but my hair is very fine and not a lot of it so if there is a bit of wind it looks a right mess so I wear it in a ponytail most of the time. Would love long thick shiny hair and would never get it cut if I had that. My hair is easy to style though just wash and leave it suppose because it is so fine.

I'm an adult and have a MASSIVE undercut/sidecut - wasn't in Mel and Kim last time I checked grin

I don't think DH would dare say that to me...I change my hair pretty much monthly and quite drastically as well.

I'm sure he didn't mean it, seeing as he likes the new hair-cut. My hair is important to me and if someone tried to control that he'd be out the door. DH is allowed to not like my hair, although he's never been anything other than encouraging (to my face anyway).

ToysRLuv - I think a full shaved head can look stunning on certain women but I do think you need to have quite feminine or striking features to really pull it off. I've thought about doing it in the past, but I'm too scared! I do have more of my head shaved than not now though.

RhondaJean Wed 19-Jun-13 08:14:06

Wasn't there some research once about how men are most likely to cheat with women who have longer hair than their partner or did I imagine that?

ToysRLuv Wed 19-Jun-13 08:29:08

Scarlet: I think I can pull off a shaved look well (had lots of compliments). If only I could shift a stone and a half..

StuntGirl Wed 19-Jun-13 09:07:31

Why all the hate for green mohicans? If you subscribe to the 'your hair, your choice' school of thought then it goes both ways and that means each individual gets to choose their own hairstyle. Mohicans included. Anything else is being as equally judgemental and twatty as the OP's husband.

grumpyinthemorning Wed 19-Jun-13 09:08:20

A bob is so much easier, isn't it? I have very fine hair, but there's so damn much of it! A bob is the only way it's manageable.

Cut it how you want. And if he leaves, be happy for the lucky escape!

Unfortunatelyanxious Wed 19-Jun-13 09:14:21

Three days to dry, goodness op are you Rapunzel?

It's your hair do what you want, I don't especially want short hair but if that was my DH it would make me want to have it cut

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MortifiedAdams Wed 19-Jun-13 09:19:42

My hair is long and thick but if DH threatened to leave me.over a haircut I would purposefullly make it a buzz cit and stand at the door with his bags. Controlling arse.

Suggest to him that you will have your hair the same length as his so if he wants ypurs long he has to grow his long too.

Bilpbip Wed 19-Jun-13 14:38:39

Gee thanks Chipping Its actually a bit wilder than that picture as I never brush it and it is quite wavy.

The problem with my DH is it is very hard to tell when he is joking, he I have been married to him for 5 years and still find him hard to read, he is dead pan.

He has many faults but I'm a long way from leaving the bastard, contrary fecker that he is.

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