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I think I was but I just saw red.

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CbeebiesIsMyLife Tue 04-Jun-13 14:14:38

Please be gentle!
I'm sat on the sofa cuddling my sleeping teething 16 month old who has been up most of the night, up stairs is my sleeping 2 and a half year old.

A van pulled up outside and tried to deliver a parcel next door. She wasn't in so the delivery driver came and rand my door bell. The front door is frosted glass and my the living room door is open so he could see me sat on the sofa.

I ignored him, as I didn't want to wake my sleeping baby. He knocks loudly on the door and peers in the glass shouting, I continue to ignore and he knocks harder (I swear he was going to break the glass it was that hard and loud)

DD2 jumps awake and starts crying and then I hear DD1 moving around upstairs. Meanwhile delivery man is peering and knocking again.

I'm shattered and was half dozing myself, I'll admit I saw red. I flung the door open (he almost fell in through the door) and shouted, 'if someone doesn't answer the door there is usually a reason, I'm not interested today' and slammed the door leaving a rather stunned delivery man.

I then tried to shush my baby back to sleep and could see him in the street trying other doors shouting in my direction (no idea what he was saying!) Now I have 2 tired grumpy toddlers awake after only sleeping for less than an hour. I know that's not his problem and he didnt know. BUT.

Am I Being Unreasonable to not answer my door? Did I really commit some great crime?

(I know I was probably unreasonable to shout at him!)

Signet2012 Tue 04-Jun-13 14:15:57

Nope.
In my view there is a line between trying to do your job and being ridiculous. He was the latter.

Munxx Tue 04-Jun-13 14:16:59

Yanbu at all. I switch my doorbell off during my children's nap times.

Poor you. Have a brew

YANBU - this drives me mad! I recently bollocked our new postman who likes to ring and knock 7 or 8 times before he'll bugger off, usually during my two girls' nap time. I've told him if no one answers after the first knock/ring then there is a reason and I'm quite happy to miss the delivery. It's either that, or he puts the missed delivery note through the door without even ringing. He's not very good at his job is he?!

pipsqueakz Tue 04-Jun-13 14:20:20

Maybe a bit unreasonable to shout at him but as you said there is a reason why ppl don't answer the door. One ring on door bell would of been enough but I think with two cranky toddlers and lack of sleep I would of been the same. Only so much someone can take with lack of sleep. Don't worry op he will get over it. Or learn His lesson not to push us sleep deprived parents.

xigris Tue 04-Jun-13 14:22:49

YNNNNNNBU!!!!!! this has happened to me about a billion times and it DRIVES ME MAD!! My neighbours are forever ordering stuff from Next and Amazon but are never home so I'm constantly signing for giant parcels. I too have a toddler and a baby. I really don't know why delivery drivers think it's acceptable to ring the doorbell about 10 times then hammer on the door. I live in a terraced house so it's not as if I'm miles away in the east wing or something. They only wait approximately 0.2 of a second between the first ring and battering at the door. Grrrrr! angry

CbeebiesIsMyLife Tue 04-Jun-13 14:23:54

Thank you, you've made me feel a little better.

Were all having a quick snack of cheese on toast, hopefully it will make all of us feel better! and I might even get the girls dressed blush slattern mummy

MisselthwaiteManor Tue 04-Jun-13 14:25:52

YANBU, I hate it when people bang at the door over and over, especially when they can see you don't want to answer! Do they think you don't understand the concept of doors and if he keeps banging away you'd eventually realise and open it? You had every right to shout at him IMO.

CbeebiesIsMyLife Tue 04-Jun-13 14:26:22

xgirls, they order 2-4 parcels a week I'm the only one here on a week day so its alwyas me that takes them in. Normally I dont mind so much, but I just wanted the baby to sleep a little bit longer.

My worry is hes put a card through their door telling htem how unreasonable I was sad

tunnocksteacake Tue 04-Jun-13 14:28:16

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

diddl Tue 04-Jun-13 14:29:51

YADNBU.

Don't they leave a note anymore for the addressee to fetch parcels themselves?

Why is it such a big deal to leave the parcel somewhere rather than take it back?

YANBU at all.

He won't put a card through saying that. For starters there's not enough space on the card to say it.

He got it wrong. Your neighbours are also being a bit inconsiderate assuming you're a permanent solution to them not sorting out their post, TBH.

CajaDeLaMemoria Tue 04-Jun-13 14:30:04

You weren't unreasonable.

I had this last week. Someone let the delivery guy in the communal door, and he started hammering on mine. He'd already rung the doorbell three times. He properly kicked the door a few times, and made all the locks rattle. Then he left the parcel outside, and left. Fair enough.

Until he walked round to the window and put his head against the glass, hands shading his eyes, to see in. He saw me, hammered on the window, rang the doorbell a few more times and drove off in a proper huff.

I would have answered the door, but I was bedbound with a kidney infection and literally couldn't move.

People will answer the door if they can. It's not fun being left little cards, or ignoring people! So all the hammering and aggression isn't necessary sad

I hope cheese on toast is helping boost everyone's mood.

Lexiesinclair Tue 04-Jun-13 14:30:36

YWNBU. Next time why not put a note on the our saying 'Babies sleeping - please do not knock.'?

diddl - royal mail changed the system recently, and said by default they'll try to leave parcels with neighbours. Or at least, RM round here did.

pipsqueakz Tue 04-Jun-13 14:31:59

Don't worry bout it you shouldn't feel obliged to take the parcels. If your gonna be their sorting office I would start charging parcel rent lol. You should be able to relax in your home. I leave the dog to answer they don't knock much now hmm why is that I wonder lol.

diddl Tue 04-Jun-13 14:32:11

"My worry is hes put a card through their door telling htem how unreasonable I was"

I doubt it-not if he wants to keep leaving parcels with you!

Tell them it's not convenient anymore!

Lizzylou Tue 04-Jun-13 14:32:21

YANBU Cbeebies, I remember exactly how that feels.

I would go and speak to the parcel neighbour and explain.

Hope you have a nice afternoon!

mumofthemonsters808 Tue 04-Jun-13 14:32:33

I'd also be angry, nap time is sacred when children are young.

diddl Tue 04-Jun-13 14:33:47

Here (small town in Germany), they leave in the garage if I don't answer.

KansasCityOctopus Tue 04-Jun-13 14:37:04

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

Floggingmolly Tue 04-Jun-13 14:38:32

He peered in your bedroom window, Caja? shock
I'd report him.

KellyElly Tue 04-Jun-13 14:39:24

No not unreasonable. I would have done the same even if I wasn't tired. How unbelievably rude of him.

CbeebiesIsMyLife Tue 04-Jun-13 14:40:01

The cheese on toast has gone down really well! DD1 has just told me its her most favourite food EVER! So we're all good!

CbeebiesIsMyLife Tue 04-Jun-13 14:40:55

I was thinking that too flogg, that seems like a huge invasion of privacy!

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