To ask why so many people kill spiders

(108 Posts)
McNewPants2013 Sun 26-May-13 20:40:58

What is so scary about them.

They make the most amazing webs and these webs catch flys.

TattyDevine Sun 26-May-13 20:43:47

Where I come from, you kill them, or they kill you.

Nuff said.

McNewPants2013 Sun 26-May-13 20:44:46

Where do you live tatty

Sparklypinknails Sun 26-May-13 20:46:19

What's so scary about heights? Or going on a plane? Or fish? Or bubble wrap? You could say it about anything people are scared of. Buuuuuut for me its the legs and the speed and the running up your arm if you try to scoop and throw.

MagicHouse Sun 26-May-13 20:47:31

Because they have long scary legs and run too fast! Am trying my best not to kill them these days, and have even been known to catch them in glasses, but have also bashed a few of the really massive ones!

Yama Sun 26-May-13 20:49:46

I remember being quite saddened years ago when I came home after a weekend away and my housemate had killed the two massive spiders that lived in our lounge.

lljkk Sun 26-May-13 20:51:28

I don't kill them ever but I am scared of them.
Feckers are poisonous where I come from.

freddiefrog Sun 26-May-13 20:52:54

I never kill spiders. I'm terrified of them but I've got quite good at holding a pint glass and postcard at arms length and evicting them to the garden although I did get DH to deal with the one that was bigger than said pint glass

My gran used to tell me if you killed a spider, you'd make it rain

ByTheWishingWell Sun 26-May-13 20:53:04

I know they're really interesting, understand they can't hurt me, and don't think we should kill anything for no reason. But when I see one, that all goes out the window and I freak out and kill it blush

I used to be able to pick them up and take them outside, but have had a (completely irrational, I know) fear of them ever since my bastard ex used to pretend to flick massive ones onto me (his house was full of them).

girliefriend Sun 26-May-13 20:53:22

YANBU Spiders are friends and I think to kill one is unforgivable smile

digerd Sun 26-May-13 20:54:52

No, I never kill spiders or any creatures. But I do kill patches of nettles in the garden as they are worse than a wasp sting.

I agree about the beautiful webs spun by the spiders.

Wallison Sun 26-May-13 20:55:15

I got bitten by a spider once (in the UK). So now they're fair game, the many-legged fuckers.

hearthwitch Sun 26-May-13 20:57:45

spiders are really amazing creatures and even though they scare the heck out of me I would never kill them. fortunatly I have a brave sister

McNewPants2013 Sun 26-May-13 21:00:15

I didn't know you could get bitten by a spider in the uk shock

I love spiders and don't understand the hate

Wallison Sun 26-May-13 21:03:23

Neither did I until it happened, McNewPants. But since sharing my trauma I have heard similar tales from others, so it definitely happens. I had to take Piriton to stop the swelling!

LEMisdisappointed Sun 26-May-13 21:03:30

I used to be petrified of spiders, but would never kills one (Everyone knows if you kill a spider you will make it rain). I then got a job working with them (indirectly) so got used to them being around. I am now absolutely fascinated by them and am thinking about getting a tarantula as a pet. Which if you knew how scared i was before is a massive turn around. I have three tube web spiders living over my back door - they are fab, non indiginous species that have come over on the boats, they have green fangs if you shine a torch on them - they bite though, so i leave them where they are.

The key for me is when i see a huge house spider that is making me uncomfortable is to give it a name, that way they aren't so scary. DD sits and talks to them. I was playing with a massive house spider the other day (i had called him gary) wiht a bit of long stick, he was chasing it round the wall grin

McNewPants2013 Sun 26-May-13 21:06:51

Well done LEM. I had one huge spiders web which was perfect out the garden until DH brushed it down.

IceBergJam Sun 26-May-13 21:07:44

Terrified of them but I'd never kill anythingwithout a valid reason. Life is precious.

LEMisdisappointed Sun 26-May-13 21:09:42

McNewpants - all spiders bite - just to differing degrees, those house spiders can give a nasty bite, apparently the tube webs are fairly venemous and can give a really nasty bite too.

I hate spiders...but would rather they were scooped up and put outside. I will only kill one if it ambushes me by surprise and I panic.

I used to love spiders but when I was about 8 I fell into a bush. Inside the bush was a newly hatched spider egg ball thingy. Basically a ball of thousands of tiny orange spiders. It cracked open and I got covered in them, literally COVERED....it totally freaked the shit out of me and they make my skin crawl ever since...too many legs....nasty creepy things.

I don't like killing them though.

BMW6 Sun 26-May-13 21:13:39

Sorry, but if I see one in the house it has to die, or it will come and get me later. The only thing worse than seeing a spider in the house is seeing it run and hide so I can;t kill it.
I know it;s irrational, but they make me vomit with terror.

Chivetalking Sun 26-May-13 21:16:37

I don't like them but I don't kill them partly because I don't want to and partly because it'd make a mess I'd have to clear up.

I keep an old margarine tub to hand. The dimwitted feckers always try and climb it so they're easily caught grin then tipped out of the window.

Samu2 Sun 26-May-13 21:17:55

I hate spiders but I do not kill anything. I get someone to take them outside for me. I think it's horrible to kill anything other than fleas and nits grin

NotYoMomma Sun 26-May-13 21:22:51

My friend had one lay eggs in her ear once.

I thought it was impossible/ old wives tale but it was true!

Then I saw on a super old episode of casualty a few years back moths do the same thing

I then developed a phobia of tthings crawling in all holes/ crevices and am legitimately TERRIFIED

I have not hung clothes.on the washing line since spidergate 2007

I had to buy a tumble drier and use it all summer too

NotYoMomma Sun 26-May-13 21:23:42

I am too scared.to even kill them.

Dh does it lol

FadBook Sun 26-May-13 21:25:28

I hate them but don't kill. DP removes them whilst I scream on the sofa

InsanelyBrainDeprived Sun 26-May-13 21:28:58

I got bitten by a spider down south years ago. Had two bloody fang marks through my tights and it took ages to stop bleeding. Within hours I couldn't bear any weight on my foot and it was swollen from toe to knee! Spiders are nasty!

Pobblewhohasnotoes Sun 26-May-13 21:29:55

Sorry but I kill them. I'm terrified of them. I can't go near them to put a glass over them incase they run at me. If H is in he deals with them.

EuroShaggleton Sun 26-May-13 21:33:50

Ive been bitten by one too.

I kill the mofos. They can lie anywhere in the world peaceably apart from inside my house.

MsWazowski Sun 26-May-13 21:42:31

I'm scared of them, but would never kill one. My dad got me a spider catcher thing for Christmas, best present ever!

CloudsAndTrees Sun 26-May-13 21:44:55

Because sometimes the easiest way to get rid of them is to make them go back down the plug hole they just came out of, or to Hoover them up.

SoleSource Sun 26-May-13 21:45:26

I have a.pet house spider, Sam

Kill him, I kill you

gordyslovesheep Sun 26-May-13 21:45:27

I am terrified of them in my house - I can tolerate them else where with a deep breath and deliberate not looking at them - they just freak me out

we have on in the garage we call 'mouse spider' as it is the size of a small mouse!

in my house though I have to kill them - I can't bare the thought of them touching me sad

I am only scared if it is big and crawling up my top, arm, whatever, but I would never kill one, or a wasp - I will trap and release wasps and leave spiders, they will be killed by my cat if they are not careful to stay off the floor.

I can't even kill ants that come into the house, I do throw them out in a pathetic attempt to disorientate them so they don't lead their friends in.

I remember seeing a child walking down a street about 10 yrs ago and there was one of those funny beady bodied, long legged spiders(the non-hairy kind) just walking across the pavement - the horrid boy stopped and side stepped just so he old kill it.

I am impressed by the children in South America who go hunting tarantulas, which they kill then cook, for their afternoon snack - without a helicopter parent hovering in the background!

LyingWitchInTheWardrobe Sun 26-May-13 22:14:33

We don't kill spiders in this house, we love them... move them to places of safety and, in some little people instances, cut up little bits of ham and put it in their webs if we think they didn't catch something to eat that day... hmm

I'm particularly fond of the stripey legged variety, I call them all "Bertie". grin

Now moths - and twiddlebugs - they can all become extinct for all I care and I'm happy to help them achieve that if they cross my path! angry

Whatalotofpiffle Sun 26-May-13 22:17:18

I don't kill them but once had a weird jumpy one chase me and threw a DM boot at it. hmm

Other than that one I am a spider lover!

But... If completely phobic I don't know what I would do

KenAdams Sun 26-May-13 22:21:38

Aaah now I'm itchy and scanning the room constantly!

I hate them. Absolutely hate them. They're all hairy and come out of nowhere and have billions of eyes. Bleugh.

Wallison Sun 26-May-13 22:30:15

What is a twiddlebug?

Kafri Sun 26-May-13 22:34:01

so killing spiders makes it rain? then I must hold my hands up and take full responsibility for Britain's weather!
as wrong as it is, I just cannot leave a spider be. they have too many legs!

my mum used to remove them for me when i lived at home and I was happy with that arrangement but obviously I grew up and moved out just didn't grow out of the fear of spiders

apologies to spider lovers. I've tried to leave them be and just find myself watching their every move but then I have to go off to do something abd can't risk not knowing where the bugger has gone.

NotSoNervous Sun 26-May-13 22:37:44

Because they scare the shit out if me. If I DP or the dog doesn't kill it then it will kill me while I sleep confused

Wallison Sun 26-May-13 22:40:42

What's that horrific statistic about how many spiders the average person swallows in their sleep over a lifetime? Urgh urgh urgh fucking hairy-legged bastards.

KenAdams Sun 26-May-13 22:41:14

Scarlet I would have actually died.

Samu doesn't putting house spiders outside kill them anyway?

LyingWitchInTheWardrobe Sun 26-May-13 22:44:51

Wallison... It's apparently, a woodlouse, I had to check. I've been blithely calling them 'twiddlebugs' without the faintest clue of what I've been talking about... blush

EleanorFarjeon Sun 26-May-13 22:47:48

We never kill spiders. And if we spot nests anywhere in the house we are careful not to get rid of them.

Spider lovers here!

Sh1ney Sun 26-May-13 22:48:08

Did you know that you can get bitten by a black house fly? I never knew this until one day recently when I was lying on my bed. There was a fly buzzing about that I was batting off me from time to time. I suddenly felt a sharp bitey pain on my leg... the fly was there. I brushed it off and I had a pin prick mark from a bite. I was still contemplating that this must have been a coincidence when the fucker got me again!

Yes, I exterminate spiders as a rule.

Wallison Sun 26-May-13 22:51:58

Thank you, LyingWitch, I kill them too. At least they don't move as fast as spiders though!

elQuintoConyo Sun 26-May-13 22:53:38

Because I'm petrified of them after waking up one morning, aged 9, with one covering my eye.
I can't scream when I see one or it will jump into my mouth - even if it's the other side of the room. I usually just whimper a lot until DH eanders along to see what's up and has to deal with it. Then deal with me crying and scratching.
Not afraid if anything else, though: snakes, rats, Peter Stringfellow!

hellymelly Sun 26-May-13 22:58:41

I never kill spiders. I do sometimes relocate huge ones to the outhouse as they worry me if they are wandering about in a "I'm about to suddenly run right over your chest while you watch TV" sort of way. This stems from the biggest one I'd ever seen running right over the white pillow I was using to lay dd on while she bf, she was about 6m old and I so nearly dropped her onto the floor, I screamed and frightened her half to death. I was so big that when DH got it into a large-ish jam jar, it only fitted in the bottom with its legs hunched up. It was almost the size of my hand.
I do kill clothes moths as they are eating half my clothes to bits, but even then I feel very guilty.

peeriebear Sun 26-May-13 22:59:44

I love spiders. They are so interesting and complicated.
Their breathing system is completely different from other invertebrates- they have 'book lungs' where the oxygen diffuses in through super-thin sheets of tissue in a book formation. They can hold their breath underwater for aaaages.
Their hearts run down the centre back of the abdomen where your spine would be.
They shed their skins so many times to get from the tiny teeny pinhead-sized spiderling to the bigger spider you see in your house.
Then people squash them like they're some hideous worthless vermin. It's sad!

NotYoMomma Sun 26-May-13 23:03:23

I figured wouldn't kill a spider outside etc as that is where it lives. Its natural habitat if you will...

But come into my house, my natural habitat and I will have it killed.

Spider doesn't show mercy to flies in its own house, should I show them mercy in mine?

Nah!

littlepeas Sun 26-May-13 23:05:23

I consider it bad luck to kill a spider. Not sure whether it is generally thought to be bad luck, or whether I have just made it up? Some are allowed to live in my house and others are evicted! Small - medium ones I can do myself, but I did once scream my head off and go and get my very manly neighbour to sort it when a very large one fell out of the cardigan I was about to put on. And there was once an absolutely humungous brute on the stairs that I was was very scared of - I actually phoned dh at work to come and get it (he was working 5 mins up the road at the time). I was around 8 months pregnant and sounded so scared on the phone that he didn't even wait to hear why I wanted him to come home and raced back thinking it was baby related. That was quite embarrassing!

We have lovely Bill our house spider who I mentioned on another thread, he lives in a nook in the back door, he's been there many years and is currently my hero after catching a crane fly in his web.

<I hate crane flies>
<<shudder>>

Maleeka Sun 26-May-13 23:32:23

I've been know to get the hoover out at 3am to suck up a little fucker that was wandering around my house not paying rent and acting like he owns the place !

I really should let them live because my other deadly foe is the crane fly! Spider with wings??, WTH was nature thinking !!!

xkittyx Sun 26-May-13 23:44:23

Another spider lover here. I actually think it's sad that so many people will end another living creature's life for no reason.

MultumInParvo Mon 27-May-13 00:04:44

I don't kill spiders. My dogs do. Sometimes you see them with legs sticking out of their chops.

hiddenhome Mon 27-May-13 00:24:49

I love them. I look for them in their webs then donate the tarantula's live crickets to them so they're all well fed and happy smile

VenusStarr Mon 27-May-13 08:30:08

I don't kill them, but I have two cats who like a spider snack, so if they come in the house they don't seem to last very long!

livinginwonderland Mon 27-May-13 08:41:27

I kill them because if I know there's one around somewhere, I get anxiety and can't sleep.

Ratata Mon 27-May-13 10:38:17

DH has to deal with the spiders, they get killed for having the gaul to enter our house. And for being fast and creepy. Slaters are fine. I deal with those by popping them outside as they aren't fast and I can pick them up. Wasps are my domain... DH hates them and I can chase them around with a rolled up newspaper. Bumblebees are too cute to kill. Yeah we have lots of different rules here lol.

propertyNIGHTmareBEFOREXMAS Mon 27-May-13 12:34:32

I catch or squash spiders. It is them or me. We can't live happily under the same roof.

Fakebook Mon 27-May-13 12:38:40

Because they're scary leg wiggling little shits.

MidniteScribbler Mon 27-May-13 12:56:32

Because around here, they can kill you. And it's them or my DS or my dogs, and I know which I'm going to choose. I get a spider treatment done every six months which keeps most of them at bay, but the occasional one chooses to come in.

dufflefluffle Mon 27-May-13 13:01:52

I got stung by a scorpion once, it cured me of my spider phobia (I thought I was going to dieblush) I've never killed one since (not even that one though I did capture him and in all likelihood he (or she) probably suffocated to deathsad)
I have to rescue my dh often from spiders but try to teach my dc that as spiders kill dirty flies they are our friends (neither dc convinced yet)

Loulybelle Mon 27-May-13 13:27:42

I hate the evil little fuckers, opened my door this morning, 2 huge spiders came running in, i tried to get them out, but the thick bastards werent getting it.

Spiders have a conspiracy to overthrow the human race you know, and all you spider lovers are working for them, and i will turn you in to the "SPLAT" team (Spider Protection, Lets Annihilate the Twats), Men in Hazmats are coming for ya..

goldierocks Mon 27-May-13 13:29:58

I live in an old Victorian house...a magnet for spiders. Since I got my two pet tarantuals I've not had a single visit from any other spider.
Having pet taratulas is probably quite a drastic solution...:-)

I thank my dad for curing me of my spider phobia when I was a very little girl....he bought me some spider glove-puppets to play with.

McNewPants2013 Mon 27-May-13 13:36:05

I get some people have a phobia, but just imagine them with skates on like on Harry potter lol

Loulybelle Mon 27-May-13 13:37:44

McNew, i cant watch that scene in HP2, alll those spiders..................

<shudders>

McNewPants2013 Mon 27-May-13 13:42:15

Aragog is an amazing spider, even if it is totally fictional

jamdonut Mon 27-May-13 14:07:20

I can deal with little spiders, but anything bigger than 10p,I just can't live with. I don't like to kill them,and prefer if someone who doesn't mind them puts them outside. But if there is no-one available, I vacuum them and they get pulverised in our cyclonic cleaner. I just can't manage the glass and paper trick...they escape to easily from that before you can get to the door!

My husband is not keen on picking them up after he got bitten by a large house spider once,a few years ago. That is another reason not to like the huge ones.

And Crane flies....uuuuurgh actually worse than spiders!

My cat eats spiders and spider webs.(shudders)

TSSDNCOP Mon 27-May-13 14:39:44

No I can't imagine them with skates on. Sorry. I get that to many they are things of amazement, but equally those people must realise that those of us at the opposite end of the scale have a fear beyond all reason.

The only good spider chez TSS is a stone dead one. Otherwise I can't stay in the house. Not a room. The whole house. I will never, ever visit Australia.

It's irrational, inconvenient and something I go out of my way not to communicate to DS.

xylem8 Mon 27-May-13 15:15:54

I remember coming out of the shower once , took off my towel and there was the most humungus spider on my leg.I screamed and flicked him off and had 2 bleeding puncture wounds on my leg, rally hurt.Ladybirds can bite too , but the worst are horse flies.I nearly fainted from pain when one of those fu*kers bit me on the neck!

Cobrepat Mon 27-May-13 15:26:19

I live in Australia and kill around 5-10 a day! They're always White Tails so I definitely need to kill them. I leave Daddy long leg spiders in the hopes they will eat the mean ones, but hate to do so. Yesterday I squished a spider with my shoe and it spilt baby spiders all over the place; horrific!

Tillyandjamie Mon 27-May-13 15:26:51

I don't kill spiders. I can't catch them in a glass though either. If one comes in the house I have to leave the house. Once there was a massive one in the middle of the night. I couldn't be there. I had to get my children out of bed and sit in the car! I rang my sister who got out of bed and got it for me. If she didn't we would of been in the car until someone got it sad it's ridiculous but I don't know how to get over the fear. I've just bought a spider repellent. I spray the house everyday. It doesn't kill them just stops them coming in.

VerySmallSqueak Mon 27-May-13 15:31:24

'If you want to live and thrive,let a spider run alive'

(But not if you live in a country where they are dodgy fuckers,obviously)

TiredyCustards Mon 27-May-13 15:33:24

I can't bear the thought of them crawling into my dcs' mouths.

If they come in the house they get hoovered I'm afraid.

happyreindeer Mon 27-May-13 15:58:04

I don`t kill them even though there are massive scary ones lurking in the garden shed.I hate it when people automatically stamp on insects etc.

ItsTheYoniWay Mon 27-May-13 16:16:01

I'm scared shitless of them although don't mind them in the room once they keep away from me. Don't like killing them.

loofet Mon 27-May-13 18:41:18

I hope the ones saying they never kill living creatures are vegan, just saying wink.

We always have spiders roaming around and i'm not bothered tbh, they rarely come out to say hello though because the house is too noisy. If I do see one it does freak me out a little, it's just the shock of seeing it running, makes me jump. But I just leave it be and pray that it doesn't crawl on me grin I like spiders, they eat annoying flies.

Tilly I'm sorry but you need help. You can't pass on that level of fear on to your children. When it affects your whole family in such a severe way enough is enough.

jamdonut Mon 27-May-13 21:08:14

They only eat annoying flies if they've made a web in the right place to catch them!!

VeganCow Mon 27-May-13 21:40:27

I agree.
A spider is a living thing that has a much right to life as we do. Who made us god, to decide when another living thing dies? And this unstable view of 'its me or them' is pathetic...they didn't target YOU personally, so why take it that way?

Just put a glass over them, slide paper under and put them out...or leave them abloodylone.

bowlingforsoup Mon 27-May-13 21:41:47

I cant even be in the house if i see one. I have had my neighbours round at all times of the day and night to rescue me. I can't even kill them.

I am actually sick with fear when I see one. I'm in Scotland so they aren't dangerous and i know this but even the smallest ones make me ill.

I won't pick things up from the floor because I'm terrified a spider will be underneath it or in it - clothing is the worst for me. I used to get DP to pick everything up and do a spider scan for me (he loves them, used to keep them as pets) but he used to get really annoyed with me because i was being so pathetic. We split up so I'm on my own and my neighbours know to expect a knock on the door lol.

It actually is really pathetic but phobias are irrational and trying to explain the fear to someone who doesn't mind them is impossible. There is no reasoning and i wish i could find a way to overcome my fear but it's so expensive for therapy/counselling sessions to overcome phobias.

I saw someone commented about spider repellent. I'm away to Google where to find some.

WafflyVersatile Mon 27-May-13 21:42:18

I try not to kill spiders but if they touch me or threaten to touch me or look at me funny they die.

Firm but fair.

bedmonster Mon 27-May-13 21:45:04

I will stop killing them when they start contributing to the mortgage.

PicardyThird Mon 27-May-13 21:46:41

I have to say I agree with YourMa. I would have thought you could get CBT on the NHS for phobias which are affecting your life and children to that extent (and CBT, while not a panacea by any means, is good for phobias).

Neither dh nor I are frightened of spiders, and will happily scoop them up and put them outside etc. But my dc2 is very nervous of them. I don't think he's picked this up from anyone else and so I assume it's a kind of instinctual fear, an evolutionary throwback somehow, which would explain why so many suffer from it.

TSSDNCOP Mon 27-May-13 23:12:41

Thing is Pic I think "hmm few dead insects as a consequence of phobia vs. very good NHS money that could be spent on humans.

Humans win.

TSSDNCOP Mon 27-May-13 23:13:21

And I know the feckers are Arachnids not insects grin

ThatVikRinA22 Mon 27-May-13 23:21:26

i kill nothing.
i should become a buddhist. i cant kill anything - im not a huge fan of spiders but i cannot kill them.
they always go out.
i get cross if anyone kills anything in my house. DD thinks im a nutter....i dont care.
nothing gets killed by me.

ThatVikRinA22 Tue 28-May-13 01:18:02

well just to test me a huge one was just plodding across the floor....

we dont seem to get big ones in this house but this was the biggest ive seen here.

it was ploddy until i tried to sweep him into the dustpan! grin
but then obviously his survival instinct kicked in and went quiet....

i popped him outside near the garage - he is welcome to live in there!

the other night i found one the cats had been playing with....i thought it was dead - curled up on its back.
they are quite clever....it was pretending! it worked as the cats lost interest the minute it stopped moving.

he went outside too!

OrangeFireandGoldashes Tue 28-May-13 02:37:49

bowlingforsoup I completely understand. I am stupidly, irrationally petrified of them to the point I shake and am on the verge of tears if I spot one in the house unexpectedly. I have to kill them (or get my husband to, more accurately) as I can't bear the thought of not knowing where they might end up if left. I wouldn't be able to rest or sleep. I hate doing it as I know rationally they are the good guys in the battle against pests but it's the only way I can cope. If I'm on my own I struggle to get close enough to kill them as I start to feel sick (and would vomit if forced to get too close) so I have to use a thick newspaper at full stretch as that's as close as I can get, and even that makes my heart race with fear. I can't look at pictures of them and certainly can't watch the Aragog sections of the CofS film or Shelob in LOTR.

Last year we stayed in a holiday cottage and a spider ran over my leg while I was sitting on the sofa; after I'd finished shaking and shrieking, I had to go and change my clothes and put the jeans I'd been wearing straight in the wash blush

olidusUrsus Tue 28-May-13 02:42:27

They are fucking gross gross gross and must be murdered. MURDERED. I am too scared of them to actually commit said crime though, OH gets sobbed at swoons

ThatVikRinA22 Tue 28-May-13 02:51:02

sad

i find it sad that anything can be killed on the way it looks.....i think i need to move into a hippy commune or something ....i think im starting to see why i have issues with the job! (im meant to be 'ard and all that....but i cant kill spiders so speaks volumes!)

If the bloody bastard things are in my house, then they'll just have to run the gauntlet and try to get back out before they're spinning webs in spider heaven.

The inside of my house is mine - the bloody bastard things can have everywhere else. That's perfectly fair IMO.

<major spider phobic>

Pobblewhohasnotoes Tue 28-May-13 07:05:40

I just think that if they don't want to be squashed then they shouldn't come in my house. It's an easily solvable situation.

Samu2 Tue 28-May-13 09:19:36

Putting house spiders outside will be fine as long as you put them somewhere appropriate, like near bricks or a woody are etc.

NotYoMomma Tue 28-May-13 09:23:20

I don't think telling perplexity phobias to imagine them in roller skates is remotely helpful, just shows your ignorance of phobias

Cbt or hypnotherapy would be far better advice. I've had both

threesypeesy Tue 28-May-13 09:30:49

There horrible things im terrified of them. I make dh kill then rather than put them out as they might come back.

I do genuinely get paralysed with fear even at the small tiny ones

peeriebear Tue 28-May-13 12:35:42

House spiders outside are perfectly happy. My ivy outside is riddled with them, some of them quite enormous.

Alisvolatpropiis Tue 28-May-13 12:48:29

Because fatally poisonous or not,they can all bite. Even in the UK.

I'm too frightened to actually kill them myself though. My ability to think rationally shuts down completely. I see one and I move away very quickly,without warning. Funnily enough it the moving quickly without warning that I hate most about spiders!

I woke up when I was 2 or 3 with a massive one crawling across my chest. It's one of my earliest memories.

theodorakisses Tue 28-May-13 13:36:41

I like spiders as well, in Qatar however we get these little jumping ones which means you never quite know where they have gone. I got bitten on the eye by one a few years ago and was really ill. I don't kill them but the cats absolutely Hoover them up along with the monster ants who have their own shadows.

loopylou6 Tue 28-May-13 15:04:17

dh is terrified of spiders, I'm terrified of moths. I would never kill either tho, I deal with the spiders using the cup and paper method, dh deals with the moths.

I don't understand how people can so readily squash creatures sad

( I do consider, wasps, fair game because they'll sting me, mozzies coz they'll bite me, and big fat blue bottles coz they wanna be sick all over my food and lay maggots, but even then I try and tempt them out the door before I'm forced to splat them)

HopALongMcLimpyLegs Tue 28-May-13 15:10:55

I don't kill spiders, I just scoop them up and put them out the window. Wasps however, can all fuck off, and I will kill every last one of them that comes into my house.

jamdonut Tue 28-May-13 15:37:24

See, I can deal with bees.They're daft and will go were you direct them.

Wasps I'm more wary of because of their persistance. But I always try to waft them out of the house, unless they are too angry. Then they have to be swatted.

I'm not afraid of flies,but I don't like the pesky buzzing bluebottles. I don't kill them though.

I abhor moths, but also butterflies. Not in the same way as moths, because they tend have horrible hairy bodies and eyes that glint in the dark (uuurgh [shudders]).

I like to see butterflies, and I will get up close and look at them where they've landed, but if they are flying anywhere near me I will have a fit of the screaming ab-dabs. I have NO idea where this fear cam from. I tried to go into a Butterly World with DH and kids, when they were younger, but I had to get out fast!! DH thought I was stark staring mad!

I also can't stand ladybirds, because they're horrible when they're flying,or any other type of beetle,centipede or millipede. Its all to do with the legs.

I hate it when we do about minibeasts at at school. I try hard not to pass my fear on, but inside I am recoiling!!

The worst time was when we had an expert visit with a hissing cockroach,giant millipede, Giant African Land Snail and some other creatures I don't want to remember. I just stood back and tried to smile and look interested.blush I was fine with the snake ,though!

5Foot5 Tue 28-May-13 17:02:13

jamdonut I am the same as you with moths and butterflies. I think it is the flutteriness of them. Never really been able to analyse it but I have always had this fear. Totally irrational I know but there it is.

Once when DD was a toddler a HUGE butterfly got in the house and we were trapped in the living room as the butterfly was in the hall. It was nearly time for DH to come home but I wanted to make sure he would come straight home to deal with the creature and not stop chatting. However, the phone was in the hall with the killer butterfly and my mobile was in the kitchen. In the end I had to climb out of the living room window and go round to the kitchen to get my mobile as I simply daren't go through the hall.

Poor little DD looked a bit bewildered when Mummy started bailing out through the window!

loopylou6 Tue 28-May-13 17:32:23

see, now like I said, I'm TERRIFIED of moths, but butterflies dont bother me at all [ confused]

jamdonut Wed 29-May-13 11:22:32

It is reassuring to know I am not the only butterfly phobic...was beginning to think It was only me!smile

freddiefrog Wed 29-May-13 11:36:58

I'm utterly terrified of moths and butterflies too.

I remember going to one of those butterfly farm places as a kid and one flying into my hair and then having a massive panic. I've been terrified ever since.

KellyElly Wed 29-May-13 11:39:42

I don't kill them because my cats do it for me - they eat them. I'm terrified of them so am more than happy for my cats to do this smile

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