To not be surprised that no one used a photo booth at a wedding at £2 a time

(119 Posts)
Bearbehind Sun 26-May-13 20:25:00

I went to an evening reception last night and have heard today that the bride has had a major strop as hardly any of the guests used the photo booth they booked .

It was £2 a time and you got a photo and the couple got one for their book.

I hate having my photo taken so I sure as hell wasn't going to pay for it.

AIBU to think if you want wedding photos you pay for them or you don't sulk if others don't want to spend £2 a pop on a shitty passport photo.

Seabright Sun 26-May-13 20:27:02

A photo booth at a wedding? Just when you thought you'd heard it all!

If the bride wanted it used, it should have been free.

Cropcircles Sun 26-May-13 20:27:05

YANBU. I think most people wouldn't think to take small change to a wedding, and would expect a photographer to be milling around if the couple were eager to snap their guests.

McNewPants2013 Sun 26-May-13 20:28:35

I would have used it, sounds a fun thing to do at a wedding.

I went to a wedding last year with one of these but it was free to use. Bloody stupid idea though, who wants pics of their pissed up mates pulling stupid faces and flashing their arses?

freddiefrog Sun 26-May-13 20:29:59

YANBU

A friend had one at her wedding but it was free. It was really popular, but I wouldn't have paid for the privilege

HeartOfDixie Sun 26-May-13 20:30:21

My cousin had one, with lots of hats and wigs to play around with. It was free to use though! It was the best fun and the pictures are hysterical!

MrsMelons Sun 26-May-13 20:32:24

At only £2 I probably would have used it, knowing mine and DHs friends they would have spent a fortune on some 'interesting' snaps TBH!

It is very unreasonable of her to be annoyed no one used it though as she should have known if it is the sort of things her friends would do, I think I would have considered paying for a photo each for everyone also.

Cropcircles - I clearly don't mix in the right social circles as I have never been to a wedding with a paid for bar so always have change at weddings!

squoosh Sun 26-May-13 20:34:40

I know photo booths are the in thing at weddings these days but I've never heard of guests being charged to use them!

Cheapskates. Glad people swerved it.

FadBook Sun 26-May-13 20:35:40

I've seen pictures on my timeline on Facebook from a photo booth and they do look funny, normally with silly glasses and wigs etc.

It depends on the type of person you are and if you like pictures being taken.

Unless I'm taking pictures, none get taken as DP never thinks to pick up the camera annoyed that my birthday last week and BBQ over the weekend has all of 3 photos so the photo booth at a wedding is a nice idea to me, I'd use it and pay 2 quid too to look a twat in a wig grin

BackforGood Sun 26-May-13 20:38:47

No - YANBU. If the couple wanted snaps of their guests, they should either
- put disposable cameras on the tables, or
- ask guests to take lots of photos of other family and friends and send them a disc, or
- pay the photographer to snap away during the evening.

I just love MN wedding threads for hearing of the latest bridzilla crazes grin. Makes me glad I only know normal people though wink

Cropcircles Sun 26-May-13 20:41:16

MrsMelons I feel a bit blush at forgetting that, but I seem to have some very hospitable friends!

Bearbehind Sun 26-May-13 20:42:16

I do think the only photos they do have will be of arses and cocks which will be quite amusing if she can identify them!

MrsMelons Sun 26-May-13 20:43:13

Mine are all tight arses skint grin

I think I would like you and your friends wink

merlin Sun 26-May-13 20:45:45

I wouldn't expect to pay for it. A friend had one at her 50th party- all free and great fun!

MrsMelons Sun 26-May-13 20:45:58

The only guarantee is that it will be all cocks and arses. It seems to be compulsory at weddings for some reason.

I bought a beautiful hand made wedding guest book which most people took the time to write beautiful things in - some people chose to be quite disgusting with detailed drawings grin

Only thing is I completely forgot about this and at the time of the Royal Wedding the DCs were asked to take some wedding stuff in to show and tell - DS1 (5 at the time) took our guest book blush

Bearbehind Sun 26-May-13 20:46:38

If it had been free then I'm sure there would have been loads of photos and even some without penises and it would have been a great momento but people, quite rightly IMO, took exception to paying £2 for a photo they didn't really want.

YANBU and she is being a bridezilla.

At my wedding, I scattered disposable cameras around the tables, guests took whatever photos they pleased including a shot taken under the table of another guest in a kilt and we gathered up the cameras at the end of the night. All costs therefore borne by me/DH - purchase of cameras and developing the films. (Films - shows how old I am!)

If you want pictures, you pay for them.

GetOrfMoiLand Sun 26-May-13 20:48:06

I think the problem with wedding is that for the bride it is a really special day and one to commemorate (obviously) whereas to guests it is a pleasant party at best, and another dull wedding reception this summer/an obligation at worst. Most guests I think would not want to bother having an unflattering photo of themselves taken at an event they don't really care about.

It's like favours, some brides spend ages choosing and assembling these things, yet for most guests they are a waste of time and something else to carry, so they get left behind, and the bride gets annoyed.

Xmasbaby11 Sun 26-May-13 20:48:45

YANBU - would have been a lovely idea if it had been free.

MalcolmTuckersMum Sun 26-May-13 20:52:34

Photo booth pictures of people gurning and pulling stupid faces have always been the preserve of young teenagers. We've all done it. In later life we see the pictures and don't find them quite so funny. So the idea of a load of adults doing it - and paying for the privilege strikes me as deeply misguided and more than a little puerile. And this is the latest thing is it? Words fail me.

nooka Sun 26-May-13 20:53:30

Just seems a weird idea to me. The only people I know who think photo booths are fun and exciting are teenagers, and younger ones at that.

I don't really get all the 'extras' that weddings seem to involve now, I am obviously much too old and haven't been to a wedding for a while, but generally expect nice food, good music and a bar and that's it. All the rest seem to be more the sort of thing I might think about for a child's birthday party (favours/party bags etc). Seems odd when everyone is much poorer to have so many unnecessary and expensive extras.

Yonionekanobe Sun 26-May-13 20:56:13

Friends of ours had a free photo booth at their wedding. The photos are the most flattering of me I've ever had so I all in favour grin

Littleolivetree Sun 26-May-13 20:58:01

We went to the most amazing wedding where they had one in the evening. It really was fantastic. It got everyone having fun together. It really broke the ice between the guests. The professional photographs were classy however the photo booth images were hilarious. It's a really fantastic idea in my opinion, but it was free at the wedding we attended.

Bearbehind Sun 26-May-13 21:00:56

That seems to be the big difference. If it is free it is really funny and an icebreaker but if it is chargeable it is just a tight fisted money grabbing scheme that pisses peope off.

AlfalfaMum Sun 26-May-13 21:05:41

I think it sounds fun, it should have been free bloodycheapskates, but I'd have probably used it anyway.

CloudsAndTrees Sun 26-May-13 21:06:23

I can imagine it being a lot of fun at the right wedding, but I can't believe the couple thought people would actually pay for it.

Why would anyone pay to have a photo taken at an event where people usually take their own cameras, or at the very least have camera phones?

BlackholesAndRevelations Sun 26-May-13 21:07:35

Every wedding I've been to in the last year or two (and that's a fair few) has had one of these photo booths. They're a big hit and can be very funny. However, every single one has been free. I can't see it ever being successful if people have to pay; chances are they've spent s fortune already for the privilege of simply being at someone's wedding!

GW297 Sun 26-May-13 21:08:49

It should have been free! Ridiculous!

LastButOneSplash Sun 26-May-13 21:10:59

If the couple wanted it, it would make them happy for me to use it, and I cared about them, of course I'd use it. Why on earth not? It's £2 to make someone you care about happy. I don't see the problem. I wouldn't want it myself, but I don't expect everyone to think the same as me.

squoosh Sun 26-May-13 21:13:15

Another trend I've noticed at weddings is sweet trollies featuring jars of old fashioned sweets hmm And these weddings aren't particularly child populated.

Who wants to eat sweets at a wedding? It's all about the booze people.

MulberryJane Sun 26-May-13 21:17:43

YANBU, bridezilla is. Firstly, charging for stuff at a wedding is tacky unless prearranged. Actually, I can see how it would be tempting to charge when they're about £500 to hire but I thought the point was to entertain the guests, I think the entertainment is taken away when you have to pay for the privilege. It also becomes less entertaining when the pictures (all 1 million of them) are posted on Facebook for all to see.

Guests often spend enough money just attending a wedding; after outfits, gifts, travel, childcare etc, etc, etc having to fork out for 'extras' no matter how cheap can sometimes seem like a big ask. £2 suddenly may as well be £10 in situations like this.

Bearbehind Sun 26-May-13 21:17:54

I think part of the problem was that it wasn't the most extravagant wedding- think cash bar, not enough food and a request for cash gifts- so this was really a step too far.

I bet they were hoping that the guests having pics taken would cover the cost of hiring the booth and because it didn't get used they were landed with a big bill.

raisah Sun 26-May-13 21:21:13

my cousin had one at his wedding with lots of props. There was a massive queue for it as it was free. I unfortunately didnt get a chance to use it because it was so popular.

Bearbehind Sun 26-May-13 21:22:43

The trouble is splash most people seem to have viewed it completely oppositely to you, if the couple wanted it, if it would have made them happy for peope to use it and if they cared about the guests they wouldn't have charged people to use it.

I think it's a bit of a peculiar thing. I mean, if I go to a wedding, I tend to assume the bride and groom are the centre of attention, right? So I wouldn't be expecting to go pose for photos other than group ones, it'd feel self-centred when what I want to be doing is ooing over the bride or chatting to people.

And I wouldn't carry change.

So yes, not very well thought out. That said it's a bit sad the bride is upset it was wasted.

LastButOneSplash Sun 26-May-13 21:29:39

Yes bear, I can see that from the thread. Tbh I think that's quite sad. There could be many reasons why they chose to charge. Personally I'd give people I care about the benefit of the doubt and want to make them happy on their wedding day, whether I liked the idea or not. I might think 'how ridiculous' but I'd still humour them. I think I'm allowed to go against the flow on AIBU.

Bearbehind Sun 26-May-13 21:35:03

I'm genuinely intrigued by your thoughts though splash. In my mind, if you can't afford it, you don't do it. What possible reason could they have for charging guests for the photos, other than to save them cash?

I don't think it helps that the couple are DH's work colleagues so I really don't know or care about them.

FairPhyllis Sun 26-May-13 21:37:45

Sounds like one of those 'let's copy something we saw on a pretentious wedding blog but do it in a half-arsed way because actually we can't afford it' moments.

It is U to expect people to pay for 'extras' when they are your guest. Perhaps with the exception of a cash bar (as long as you provide soft drinks and warn people in advance). People don't necessarily carry cash at weddings.

quoteunquote Sun 26-May-13 21:37:58

well that conclusive then,

if you have a photo booth at your wedding, it will be used if it is free and there are wigs and props,

if you charge for it, no one will use it.

someone stick that on the MN wedding planner list.(there should be one somewhere)

MrsMelons Sun 26-May-13 21:38:52

I misunderstood, I thought the company they hired it from decided on the charge, I did not realise the couple chose to do this.

That is dreadful and I may not have wanted to pay for it in that case!

Most people I know could not afford to put on a free bar which is fine IMO but to ask guests to pay for something that is an unnecessary extra seems a bit odd.

MrsMelons Sun 26-May-13 21:40:16

OMG - I really need new friends or I need to move, only in another world would someone not take cash to a wedding in my social circle.

Snazzywaitingforsummer Sun 26-May-13 21:41:53

Isn't this exactly what the packs of disposable cameras are for? And I've just looked and you can get 10 for £20 on Amazon so it's not a lot but it really is something that should be on the couple's budget, not the guests'.

AKissIsNotAContract I think you're right. They hoped it would claw back some of their wedding costs.

squoosh Am flattered now as had retro sweets at my wedding which was hardly 'recently'! I didn't see sweets and booze as an either/or grin

Bearbehind Sun 26-May-13 21:42:26

mrsmelons that sums it up. It was a completely unnecessary extra which people didn't want to pay for.

Snazzywaitingforsummer Sun 26-May-13 21:43:21

MrsMelons I do agree on that score. I have only been to one wedding ever that didn't have a cash bar and then super-rich parents were involved. So I would always have cash, but I wouldn't want to spend it on stuff like booth photos.

MrsMelons Sun 26-May-13 21:51:14

I am liking the sound of retro sweets and booze - sounds like my perfect night!

TheSmallClanger Sun 26-May-13 21:51:36

I wouldn't want to pay for it. I can see how it might be fun if there is a big group of friends there, but weddings are expensive enough as it is, without forking out for pointless photos that are never going to get looked at.

ComposHat Sun 26-May-13 21:52:19

Most people I know could not afford to put on a free bar which is fine IMO but to ask guests to pay for something that is an unnecessary extra seems a bit odd

I was getting a bit heart in mouth as we can't afford to offer free booze all night (certainly not with the amount some of our friends can put away) and I've only been to one wedding where there was free booze all night and that was marquee in a back garden do and they'd done a booze cruise to France.

We're giving them drinks on arrival and drinks for the toast and then 'to the cash bar with thee.' Is that stingy?

But I digress, YANBU. It sounds like a bit of a cheek to charge for a photobooth and a wanky idea in the first place. Mind you given the combination of booze and a photobooth I'm amazed bridezilla wasn't left with endless pictures of bare buttocks and v-signs.

I'm having retro sweets and modern booze at my wedding. You sound like the ideal wedding guest MrsMelons

LastButOneSplash Sun 26-May-13 21:54:37

Genuinely? Ok... I could imagine they might have heard about it, loved the idea, looked at the budget and had so many other things their hearts were set on, that they couldn't fit it in their budget. Worked out it would only be a couple of quid each, that that really wasn't much in the whole scheme of things, and so they could afford it that way. Of course they might have wanted to diddle everyone out of their money, and have some kind of scam going with the machine owners where they shared the earnings, and are now sharing a luxury cruise small cheap dinner on the proceeds. There's no way of knowing. But if I cared about them, I'd assume the former. I just tend to assume the people I surround myself with are usually doing the best they can and what makes sense to them at the time. I might think they're wrong, but would assume it made sense to them. I might also think they got carried away with the whole thing, suckered into getting something they didn't need just because they thought everyone was doing it and should work within their budget. But I wouldn't think it would be helpful to make that point to them by abstaining when the chance of that being upsetting to them was pretty high.

Of course it is a partner's colleague rather than someone you care about, I get why you might not be bothered. But the wider point that lots of people didn't do it seems a bit mean to me. I hate filing in those bloody guest books, don't see the point, didn't have one, but I always will write in them as I know it means something to the couple. I appreciate there's no money involved in that, but £2 to me is neither here nor there. Would I pay £2 for someone I care about to be happy? Of course.

MrsMelons Sun 26-May-13 21:54:50

Compos - not stingy IMO, I think arrival drinks and toast are a must but not a free bar.

MrsMelons Sun 26-May-13 21:56:17

Akiss - I will be there grin

GetOrfMoiLand Sun 26-May-13 21:58:50

Compos, I wouldn't expect an open bar at a wedding, it would be nice obviously but I don't expect most people to be able to put a few grand behind the bar so people could drink to their hearts content.

Bearbehind Sun 26-May-13 22:02:34

Seriously splash you must be a really, really nice person or a mug as there are loads of things I could have decided to set my heart on when I got married but we couldn't afford it so it didn't happen.

I don't think for one minute it was a scam, just a way of cutting costs but getting what they wanted, which, unfortunately I completely disagree with.

ComposHat Sun 26-May-13 22:04:22

I'm having retro sweets and modern booze at my wedding

We are having the retro sweets too (not a child in sight) seems to be quite a trend.

Not sure if the booze will be modern, hopefully it won't be past its sell by date.

MrsMelons Sun 26-May-13 22:06:10

Compos I would be happy with ANY booze, I am a great wedding guest grin

cantbloodywellchoose Sun 26-May-13 22:11:41

I can understand it if free but £2 a photo? Bollocks to that.

ComposHat Sun 26-May-13 22:11:52

Oh phew thanks everyone, I was worried I'd be confronted by a row of cat's bum faces and hoiked bosoms next Saturday evening.

I don't know how anyone at a wedding can afford to chuck that amount of money behind the bar. It could easily get to £4,000 for even a small reception, especially as people will tan the arse out of the booze if they aren't paying for it.

ComposHat Sun 26-May-13 22:13:42

Mrs Melons Have a (virtual) Babycham & Cherry B on me.

MNHQ - why isn't there a smiley for this!

LastButOneSplash Sun 26-May-13 22:15:31

Yes you're right. I am very nice. I care about people a lot. I also have friends around me are the same. I wouldn't think £2 would make me much of a mug. Everyone has things they would like at their weddings they can't afford. Some would take the piss, some wouldn't. I could also imagine the couple had lots of other things they just couldn't afford any which way. £2 costs to guests doesn't fall into the piss taking category for me.

TheSmallClanger Sun 26-May-13 22:20:38

But it isn't £2, it's another £2 on top of what they've paid to get there, on top of what they've paid for drinks, their present and probably new/suitable clothes as well. Sometimes really pointless, little things are the straws that break camels' backs.

is your wedding next week compo? Good luck, hope it goes well. Mrs compo must be a lucky lady

LastButOneSplash Sun 26-May-13 22:22:26

Indeed it is. But I still can't get bothered about £2. It's not enough to hit my radar.

GetOrfMoiLand Sun 26-May-13 22:23:21

Yes, an open bar would be thousands. You would have to have a large budget to accommodate it. And I could think of loads of things I would rather spend a few grand on.

Laquitar Sun 26-May-13 22:23:24

I must be the only one with no sense of fun here then...I don;t find it fun even if it was free [confusd].£2 is not a big deal but ,,, a photo booh wtf? I only imagine it though as i have never been in a wedding with a photo booth. But most of the weddings i have been had free booze so i must be lucky.

I'd say cash bar is the norm, compos. And best of luck for next week!

ComposHat Sun 26-May-13 22:25:19

Thank you akiss

It is indeed on the 1st June!

Mrs Compo. (she will still be Ms MaidenName) hasn't quite seen it that way this week with my dithering, faffing and general Roy Cropper from Corrie type behaviour.

TheSmallClanger Sun 26-May-13 22:25:30

We had a paid-for bar at our wedding, but there weren't many guests there, and our reception was more of a cocktail hour. The money we had wouldn't stretch to an all-night do. Plus, we went without quite a few other things so we could have lovely catering. No regrets at all.

ComposHat Sun 26-May-13 22:25:50

Thank you too LRD

MrsMelons Sun 26-May-13 22:27:54

Thanks ComposHat, it was lovely!

Have a very special day

GetOrfMoiLand Sun 26-May-13 22:31:14

Good luck for next week compos

LynetteScavo Sun 26-May-13 22:31:35

It's a bargain.

It's £5 in Sainsbury's.....if you need a passport photo (or 3, if like me you renew all your DCs at the same time), you'd be laughing.

ComposHat Sun 26-May-13 22:33:29

A pleasure MrsM, can I tempt you with a Malibu and Seven up? or a Baileys and Cherryade?

ComposHat Sun 26-May-13 22:34:21

Thank you getoffmoi and there won't be a photoboth in sight!

FamiliesShareGerms Sun 26-May-13 22:34:45

We went to a wedding that had a photo booth for £3 at it - loved it, lots of silly posing with hats and stuff. Not the end of the world, it's not obligatory to partake.

Why the assumption that it's the "bridezilla's" idea, though? Are men really not assumed to have had any say in their nuptials??

MortifiedAdams Sun 26-May-13 22:37:52

I've been to a couple of weddings with a photo booth, and honestly think it is worth the money the B&G spent on it - there was such a buzz around it, it doubled up as a guest book, ass we stuck our photos in and wrote messages to the B&G on it. Perfect! However, I have never known it to be chargeable. I would be pretty put out at having to pay £2 a time. In my opinion, if the B&G want it, they pay for it.

foslady Sun 26-May-13 22:41:02

Hmmmmm..............going back in time.........

'Oh Mrh2B, I've been to a wedding fair and they have this great ides - you get a photo booth, lots of silly props and people all have funny photos taken, it's great, I want one'

'No way, crap idea and we've no money for it'

'So we charge people to use it - we'll soon cover the £500 cost'

'Well you can find the cash for it when it doesn't work.....'

Travel forward in time to day after wedding...

'Bloody told you so................'

Booyhoo Sun 26-May-13 22:41:03

i would have used it. i mean £2 quid is nothing when you're at a wedding reception paying a fortune on drink. how much was a glass of wine?

MortifiedAdams Sun 26-May-13 22:41:16

Laquitar it is so so much more than a standard photobooth. Massive box of props including wigs, animal heads, glasses etc, and hilarious watching the bride and her maids all trying to squeeze in.

SarahAndFuck Sun 26-May-13 22:52:05

If they had props like bowler hats and those moustaches on sticks they would have made loads of money out of me. They'd have had to prise me (and DS if they'd invited him) out of that booth with a stick.

They really should be free though.

I've seen the idea on poncy blogs and issues of crafty type magazines and you really need the sort of friends who want to go to a outdoor meadow and woodland wedding where the bride had all the womenfolk of her acquaintance gather to handcraft her bouquet instead of having a hen party and the groom and his friends all grew a handle bar moustache and knitted their own bow ties on their stag party held in a mates stable. But they would at least all have personalised hip flasks to keep them company.

All the bridesmaids would be dressed in vintage pastels and would have dyed their hair in pale pink and green and yellow to match and the guests would have to find the wedding via a series of treasure hunt clues.

And when they made it to the photo booth, they would all write a series of thoughtful haiku's on little blackboards shaped like toadstools and vintage spectacles, telling the story of how they met the bride and groom and what they wish for them for the future. All in seventeen hand-knitted syllables.

And then they would eat cupcakes and retro sweets and tiny sandwiches from mismatched crockery while someone else took photos for a poncy blog and crafty magazine.

Nobody really has that sort of wedding, because most people don't have that sort of family. Mine would all be sitting there giving the props the swivel eye and wondering when we were going to admit we were having them on and just get the booze and proper food out.

Bearbehind Sun 26-May-13 23:03:51

That's part of the problem IMO booyhoo the drinks were expensive anyway, we were only there because of this couple's wedding, and were still expected to pay £2 a go for a photo 'to help make their day memorable'

Booyhoo Sun 26-May-13 23:09:07

i think they were UR expecting you to use it. i think they should have been prepared to accept that some would and some wouldn't at it would be unlikely that they'd have the whole cost covered by guests. if i was to do it i'd have it for free as a novelty with no expectation that people would use it- just if they wanted to for a bit of a laugh.

but i would definitely use it even at £2 a pop if i attended a wedding. it's only £2. i'd spend far more on drink so i'd probably need the photo to remind me i was actually there grin

pigletmania Sun 26-May-13 23:11:06

It's not a bad price, you don't have to use it. The bride is being very unreasonable getting into a strop because not many used it. If they wanted pictures of the guests, they could ave asked uncle Norman to take random pictures if guests, or put disposable cameras on the tables

We put £500 behind the bar at our wedding (admittedly over a decade ago) and it didn't all get spent (we were astonished given some of our guests, but it was in line with what the venue had told us was likely to happen -- by that point they'd had a pre-dinner drink and wine with dinner and people just didn't order that much extra. And our biggest-drinking guests went off and climbed trees and moved traffic cones about and so forth, which presumably distracted them from drinking as much as usual).

Snazzywaitingforsummer Sun 26-May-13 23:18:42

compos I agree that drink on arrival and for the toasts, but then having a cash bar, is the norm in my experience, and it's what I did. Hope you and your beloved have a fabulous day!

Going back to the booth issue, it also now seems particularly odd to me given that almost everyone takes 'natural' unstuffy photos all the time on their camera phones and would be doing this at the wedding - these would also be shareable with the B&G, so why pay out to do something you can do for free anyway? I can sort of see why the props might make it seem more fun, especially if you were with good friends, but maybe that wasn't the case here.

Snazzywaitingforsummer Sun 26-May-13 23:21:06

SarahandFuck grin I'm sure I have actually read that wedding story, or if not, I'd like to.

TotallyBursar Sun 26-May-13 23:22:19

To be quite honest - if I couldn't afford to provide sufficient food for guests that have paid in time and money to give us the pleasure of being surrounded by the people we love on a day that is important to us but not really to anyone else;
that had bought us gifts, that had travelled, got holiday, yada yada the last thing I would do is hire something like that. That money could go on food/booze.
Providing that is a thank you from us to them. Heartfelt hopefully. It is a celebration, feed people properly if you are having a meal.

Asking for cash gifts, inviting to the very limit of the budget in order to rake more in from guest obligation, covering the expense of a superfluous periphery by charging underfed guests to use it are the marks of greed & wanting a wedding day themed cash party not a marriage witnessed by the people that mean most in your life. They couldn't afford stuff but invited work colleagues. Priorities are fairly self centred then.

If I did this I would feel like a massive twat.
If I went to wedding I would be thinking 'you are greedy beggars', if I went to a wedding with a wishing well or dollar dance they can fuck right off. I would discharge my guestly duties, leave promptly & wonder how the hell we ended up with an invite we accepted.
If the bride threw a bitch fit about having to shock pay shock for something they wanted? I would feel our presence celebrating & honouring them was really fucking appreciated.

Bearbehind Sun 26-May-13 23:27:41

totally were you at a wedding reception last night because you've pretty much summed it up wink

TotallyBursar Mon 27-May-13 00:04:34

Is this the time for a 'I've seen it all before' cynical nod then?! grin

I guess it depends on whether you think it is an honour to have your guests support you or if you feel you deserve a bucket full of notes because it's such a fucking privilege to be in the same room as you on 'the bride's big day' hmm (I never know if that means the groom doesn't care or is not allowed something as dangerous to the bride's vision as an opinion in the mind of the speaker of such delightful phrases).

I'm not even in a bad mood! These things just irk me.
I got a 'pay to come & give us more money' poem once.
Once.

TotallyBursar Mon 27-May-13 00:05:06

Ha so irked I forgot how to punctuate! blush

TheCraicDealer Mon 27-May-13 00:15:17

DP and I went to a wedding last weekend, the bride told us there was a bouncy castle outside and she was gutted no-one was using it. Initially I thought, "what a shit idea". After a bottle of rosé I'd managed to drag DP, two colour sergeants and their wives onto it, I was like the bloody pied piper.

Had there been someone shaking a tin at me before we got on I probably wouldn't have bothered and just got another drink instead!

piprabbit Mon 27-May-13 00:23:37

Back in the day when we got married, we put disposable cameras on the tables, everyone took bloody stupid pictures of themselves for free and I got to use the resulting album as blackmail fodder for many moons.
So I can see that the photo booth photos could be fun, but I still wouldn't want to pay for the pleasure.

TalkUsernameYoudLike Mon 27-May-13 00:24:17

My dp told me that when he was a little boy, he went to this wedding that had disposable cameras on the tables and no one was using them, so he gathered them all up and took pictures of guests picking their nose, yawning, eating.. just taking any opportunity to take a picture of the guests looking bored!

God, I bet that bride was pissed off.

piprabbit Mon 27-May-13 00:25:47

Talk sounds like there wasn't enough booze flowing.

TalkUsernameYoudLike Mon 27-May-13 00:28:10

TotallyBursar That's exactly my thinking!

TalkUsernameYoudLike Mon 27-May-13 00:30:10

piprabbit I know grin

ComposHat Mon 27-May-13 00:30:51

I went to the worst wedding ever last year. We'd travelled from Scotland to the south coast of England to attend it.

1) Got to the registry office and found that there wasn't enough seats, so kicked around the carpark for 40 minutes.

2)Bridesmaid had a hissy fit and refused to attend the service.

3) Said bridesmaid got 'refreshed' at a nearby pub and then turned up for the photos and preceded to verbally lay into assembled family members.

4) The reception: no welcome drink whatsoever, only a very expensive hours of standing around waiting for god knows what, no welcome drink, no speeches, no one said 'thanks for coming,'

5) crap food that had been bought from Tesco the day before and had slowly been festering in a warm room, and to add insult to injury, a DJ who thought he was doing a summer season in Pontins circa 1974. But to cap it all there was a fucking wishing well at the door. It felt like you had to pay to come in and to be frank, I wish I'd turned around at that point and got the next train back to Scotland.

It was an invaluable lesson on how not to organise a wedding.

SirRaymondClench Mon 27-May-13 00:34:08

YADNBU
If I'd wanted detailed photos of my guests inner arses, I would have asked for them personally.

piprabbit Mon 27-May-13 00:34:57

I think some people organise a wedding with the pleasure and comfort of their guests as the priority, and other people don't. But you can't tell which is which until you get there.

They're fun, especially after a few drinks.

There was one at a wedding we wnet to last week, but the b&g put coins in a big jar for their guests to use to pay for it. This was an old style booth from the 40s. unfortunately it broke down just before it was our turn.

Generally most photographers have their photo booths as part of their kit for a wedding and are part of the photo package, no extra charge to guests.

jessjessjess Mon 27-May-13 01:13:43

We had one and it was very popular - we had lots of props (hats, wigs, signs, etc) and cards for people to write messages and hold them up in the photos. I can't believe anyone would charge for it, that's just so rude! Ours didn't print on the night - we got a CD after and sent prints to people with their thank you cards (got the prints free using various offers on Snapfish etc).

ifancyashandy Mon 27-May-13 05:34:25

Oh for gods sake, it was only two quid! Nice idea. I'd happily pay it.

TheDoctrineOfSnatch Mon 27-May-13 08:40:21

Surely the point of those would be that you don't just take one photo, you take loads with different props, hence it wouldn't be just £2?

LastButOneSplash Mon 27-May-13 10:31:44

I assumed the couple were upset they didn't have pictures from it of people rather than all the individual props being used, so I would have assumed one use was plenty. Unless of course people enjoyed doing it and then could certainly spend more if that was their thing.

Snazzywaitingforsummer Mon 27-May-13 13:51:10

Compos that sounds terrible. I really don't understand this lack of seats thing which seems to be getting more common. Surely you check there is enough room for the people you've invited?

ComposHat Mon 27-May-13 13:59:47

You'd think so wouldn't you? The whole day smacked of trying to do too much on too little money.

That doesn't bother me but the money was spent on showy things for the pictures at the expense of the enjoyment of the guests.

I got the impression that the guests were there only as a backdrop for the bride's big day.

Bearbehind Mon 27-May-13 14:25:29

Things like this photo booth and the wedding without enough seats do seem to be more common place now. It really pisses me off.

You should have the wedding you can afford, whatever that may entail and you should ensure your guests feelings/ comfort are very high on your lst of priorities.

The guests are generally not absolutely honoured to attend your wedding and are not absolutely over the moon at having to give up their day and spend a lot of money to attend your wedding, you should be honoured that they have chosen to do so, and should look after them accordingly.

You should not have things you can't afford then expect the guests to meet the costs for you. I know in this instance it was only £2 but everyone there had a camera or a camera phone so had no need to pay to have a photo taken. And it was £2 per photo on top of paying for the cash bar, the cash wedding gift, the taxi home etc.

Snazzywaitingforsummer Mon 27-May-13 15:14:27

Wasn't there a thread fairly recently where the venue had only about 20 seats (think was a very small registry office or something) and one of the siblings was told there wouldn't be space for them? I don't understand why people book really inconvenient venues like this. I knew someone who booked a pub/restaurant for their reception that was a special place for them - fair enough perhaps, but it was miles from anywhere and had no accommodation on site or nearby, so everyone would've had to arrange long taxi journeys back to the nearest town or find a non-drinker to drive. Your 'specialness' translates into everyone else's hefty taxi fare.

amandine07 Mon 27-May-13 15:18:39

YANBU!
That's pretty tight of the couple to charge per photo- honestly what else did they expect?!

Recently went to a friend's wedding, there was a photo booth and it was great fun going in as a group and posing for all sorts of ridiculous shots.

Certainly made the B&G laugh when looking through them all after the wedding.
And yes- there was some nakedness from a few guests after they'd had a few too many grin

All part of the great memories of the wedding day I say!

amandine07 Mon 27-May-13 15:20:11

And no we weren't charged per photo, it was completely free.

TotallyBursar Mon 27-May-13 16:50:39

I have no problem with the booth, or whatever thing you particularly want, but if you can't afford it it's tough tits.
More and more stories are spreading about, as pp said, guests being used to finance the couple's ideal wedding.

That is just greed. Self centred entitlement, I don't think that's a good look on anyone really & certainly don't want to have anything to do with it.
I know of one couple that threw a bitch fit (to they extent of phoning & berating guests) that their guests had not provided sufficient funds for their honeymoon to be paid for. This was a basket that guests were expected to fill on top of providing the requested cash gifts.

The couple's bridal party were taking baskets around the tables asking for cash. The couple then sat at the top table and counted it, announced to all there was x amount & they were sure we could give more than that, then proceeded to open their wedding gifts with such delightful running commentary as 'Oh, £100 from Uncle Jim, obviously still recovering from your divorce then'. At the end of the night it was all counted again - the total was not sufficient, bride made a teary announcement that left the DJ crimson with mortification and the couple left in a huff. Only heard from when they called to express their displeasure.
As if it was somehow my fault that they didn't want to wait to be wed so they could save, didn't want a small wedding and booked a honeymoon they had absolutely no way to afford.
I cancelled our cheque and told them a home truth or two.
I did not stoop however to passing a single comment about their divorce 2 years later.

I'd pay! Be even better if it was for a local charity. Sounds fun.

Totally! Oh my fucking god. i'd have left. I hate weddings as it is. When me and dh married we asked for nothing. Didn't mention it in the invites or anything. We just wanted people to show and celebrate with us. We received a random selection of stuff. Glasses, a posh blender, some gift cards for random shops and the grand total of £65 in cash.

dontsqueezetheteabag Mon 27-May-13 16:58:17

Bloody stupid idea - Grow up!

If the bride was so touchy about it she should have made it free for her guests to use. Bum hole!

catgirl1976 Mon 27-May-13 17:05:32

I have seen these at weddings but never pay-to-use

They seem very popular when free

Bananapickle Mon 27-May-13 17:15:00

I, like others, think that these things should only be present when the bride and groom can afford to pay for it.
We were at a wedding recently which had one and it was fun and free!! Did it add hugely to the day, probably not but they got a pretty cool guest book as a result. I wouldn't have done it if I'd had to pay as I'm not very confident. I did it as it was obviously important to the couple as they had made it part of their day. If that makes sense!!
It is getting really silly how people think they need to have a crazy extravagant day they can't afford and a shame as I think some things are distracting from what the whole thing should be about, the start of a marriage.
Anyways that sums up to a YANBU!!

Bearbehind Mon 27-May-13 17:17:39

I can totally see the attraction if it was free but, to me, it was the principle of being charged for the couples choices that annoyed me. I mean, where will it stop? What's next- charging for favours, wedding cake or to request a song from the DJ?

totally words fail me with the wedding you have described shock

SarahAndFuck Mon 27-May-13 18:12:41

If you can't afford to pay for a hired photo booth, why not just set up a table with a few borrowed props and ask a reliable friend to take photos?

You could even ask people to bring something to put on the props table, or gather them up a few days before if you are worried they might be forgotten on the day, and easily make a few cut out smiles and moustaches on sticks. Everyone must have an old hat or shawl or fancy dress wig knocking about the house somewhere.

Totally 'your' wedding must win some sort of MN award for entitlement. shock

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