To insist he uses the toothpaste

(72 Posts)
TheCatIsUpTheDuff Thu 23-May-13 08:07:26

This is trivial, but DH wants the Mumsnet opinion.

I bought some Arm and Hammer baking soda toothpaste, which he says he Does Not Like and Will Not Use. I don't like it much either, but it would be a waste to throw it away, and you only have it in your mouth for a minute at a time. A tube lasts about a month in our house.

Earlier in the year, I accidentally bought some lemon-flavoured shite that made me gag. I still used it, and by the end of the tube had at least learned to tolerate it.

AIBU to tell him to suck it up for 2 minutes a day, or is he BU to throw it away?

Sirzy Thu 23-May-13 08:08:43

I wouldn't use a toothpaste I really don't like.

IneedAsockamnesty Thu 23-May-13 08:09:02

Yabu. He's a grown up that means he gets to choose this for himself

StuntGirl Thu 23-May-13 08:09:45

You use it and he buys a new one?

Kittenkatzen Thu 23-May-13 08:10:27

Unless money is an issue I woul just buy a new tube of toothpaste tbh! Maybe give the A&H someone who does like it so its not wasted?

Startail Thu 23-May-13 08:10:31


lookingbusy Thu 23-May-13 08:11:42

I would have to be very broke to use toothpaste I didn't like. I'm amazed you think you could possibly force your DH to use toothpaste if he didn't want to. Surely he'll just go out and buy more?

purplewithred Thu 23-May-13 08:11:44

Exactly how much did this toothpaste cost? £2.50? So for the sake of £2.50 you would make your and your DH suffer four hours (2 mins x twice a day x 2 of you x 30 days) of yeuch?


Yabu and controlling. You use the toothpaste if you don't want to waste it, your dh can use whatever he buys for himself.


Use it yourself if you like but you have no right to expect him to.

A tube of Colgate is 99p.

I can't understand how you can give this much of a shit.

Pascha Thu 23-May-13 08:14:44

No. You can't force him to use it. Just chuck it away and move on.

alienbanana Thu 23-May-13 08:16:03

YABU. And a bit weird.

You use it up if it bothers you that much.

NewAtThisMalarky Thu 23-May-13 08:16:33

YABU. Even if you are broke, you could buy supermarket value toothpaste for just a few pence.

What kind of a relationship is it if you think you should be able to insist on what products he uses?

Gobbolinothewitchscat Thu 23-May-13 08:22:20

For goodness sake - this is quite confused

My DH regularly brings home samples of toothpaste I don't like from reps. I don't like arm and hammer - tastes salty. I don't like sensodyne - tastes sweet. They both make me feel sick. He's just given me a new Colgate electric toothbrush - dont like it, it's shit.

I would be shock if the then tried to force me to use them. I'm an adult - I'm allowed my own opinions and tastes. He's not very fond of mashed potatoes but I don't force him to eat them on the basis it would only take him two minutes to do so.

Bumply Thu 23-May-13 08:28:06

Ds1 didn't like minty toothpaste, but I had to force him to use it when he outgrew the baby strength ones available in different flavours.
I wouldn't want to use a toothpaste I didn't like if there were other suitable ones I did like available.
I wouldn't experiment in buying different things if I then felt I had to be a martyr and use it up however disgusting it was. This is not normal behaviour. If you're so skint you can't afford to not use it then you should only be buying stuff you know you like.

RubyOnRails Thu 23-May-13 08:32:50

OP, you are either skint or controlling. Now, which one is it? smile

FredFredGeorge Thu 23-May-13 08:35:14

Can't be skint or you wouldn't be buying expensive toothpastes... so YABU.

Wishiwasanheiress Thu 23-May-13 08:39:11

Do u baby ur dh in every way op or just in regards to toothpaste?

Weird and yabvvvu

samandi Thu 23-May-13 08:42:39

Depends how much he doesn't like it. I can happily use a toothpaste I don't like a little but not one I really don't like.

ImTooHecsyForYourParty Thu 23-May-13 08:42:40

I'd just tell him to go and buy the brand he likes and keep that one for myself.

Two tubes used by one person each will last as long as one tube used by two people so it's not like you're even saving money by trying to get him to use one he doesn't like.

It's going in his mouth so he gets to choose it! grin

HazleNutt Thu 23-May-13 08:42:43

Does that apply to everything else as well - if you have bought some food he does not like, he should eat it anyway, not to waste it?

TheCatIsUpTheDuff Thu 23-May-13 08:45:25

I'm really surprised, but fair enough, I'll have to use it. I don't see it as important enough to constitute martyrdom, the amount of contact you have with it is so limited. Would you really waste a whole tube just because you didn't like it? We're not so skint that we couldn't buy a new one, but that's not the point. It's bought, it's perfectly ok, it does the job, and within a few days he'd have got used to it.

If it was a small child, I'd change the toothpaste rather than put him off brushing his teeth for life, but a grown man?

Going to work now, not hiding smile

ImTooHecsyForYourParty Thu 23-May-13 08:46:39

How is it being wasted though? You'll use it.

littlewhitebag Thu 23-May-13 08:46:48

My DH buys toothpaste he likes and i have stuff i like. Where is the problem? If you use it up the money won't be wasted, it will just take you longer to finish it.

Shesparkles Thu 23-May-13 08:48:18

Buy another tube and keep the arm and hammer as an emergency back up

Sirzy Thu 23-May-13 08:49:05

If you purchased food you didn't like would you eat it all just because you have paid for it?

The taste of toothpaste lingers in your mouth for a while after and is really strong whilst you are brushing - why would you want to carry on using it if you don't like it?

kiwigirl42 Thu 23-May-13 08:52:49

are you his mother? I really thought you'd be talking about a toddler. Even then I was going to say you can't force him to like something you like.
Are you always on his back about every little thing like this?

ImTooHecsyForYourParty Thu 23-May-13 08:57:20

I wonder if the poor OPs husband is doing a little victory/in your face dance right now? grin

CaptainJamesTKirk Thu 23-May-13 08:58:57

YABU. He's an adult, he doesn't like it. You cannot and should not try up force him to.

sooperdooper Thu 23-May-13 09:00:54

Yabu, I can't stand Arm and Hammer either, you use it if you want and he can get a different brand

Camwombat Thu 23-May-13 09:04:59

DH and I use different toothpastes, because I have "issues" with the stuff and I can only use one specific type. If I cant get that, I don't use toothpaste, as long as I use a fluoride mouthwash all is ok.

YABU, it's toothpaste, you use it and let him have his own. Whether it's only in your mouth for a minute is irrelevant, it's still long enough if your gag reflex kicks in!

Continue using it yourself by all means but don't insist that your DH should.

Buy another tube for your DH to use (pound land do a range of brands) you continue using the A&H.
Both tubes will last you two months rather than one - no waste! smile

starfishmummy Thu 23-May-13 09:16:19

You bought it, so you use it.

GhoulWithADragonTattoo Thu 23-May-13 09:22:43

To be honest I can see your point. It's toothpaste; it's not that bad. I'd be surprised if my DH refused to finish off a toothpaste we'd bought and neither of us were massively keen on. We'd both use it up and then decide to buy another brand in future. Also I think A&H is a bit of an acquired taste but you do get used to it after a few brushes. I actually find it the best toothpaste for feeling clean afterwards.

mrsjay Thu 23-May-13 09:23:41

buy another tube toothpaste that you don't like is torture I heave if toothpaste is too minty get him to buy something else , it is just toothpaste

TheCatIsUpTheDuff Thu 23-May-13 09:39:12

I have told him you all agree with him. Those who asked about food, of course we eat what we buy unless it.s truly disgusting, which has only happened once, you just don.t buy it or make it again. Nobody would throw away a perfectly good meal because they didn.t like it, would they? Sorry, can.t find apostrophe on phone.

Gobbolinothewitchscat Thu 23-May-13 10:01:05

No - I wouldn't throw away a meal. However, if I bought a new thing and my husband didnt like it, I would respect his opinion on that and not force him to eat it like a recalcitrant toddler. A tally, I wouldn't force a toddler to eat something they clearly didnt like either

However, kudos for coming back and agreeing YWBU grin

HazleNutt Thu 23-May-13 10:07:33

There's the difference, you would try the digusting food just once and never again - not eat it every single evening for a month.

alienbanana Thu 23-May-13 10:14:57

I'd throw away a meal if I really didn't like it.

Pandemoniaa Thu 23-May-13 10:20:28

YABU. I look at it another way. Adult life is actually too short to be forced to use the wrong toothpaste in. It's toothpaste. Not diamond encrusted caviar.

mrssprout Thu 23-May-13 10:26:38

I picked up a toothpaste that was on special & I hated the taste, I just went & picked up a cheap tube of plain mint toothpaste for me, luckily DH was happy to use the other one. I just couldn't use it, I have a really sensitive gag reflex & first thing in the morning the taste was just a bit much & had me heaving.

valiumredhead Thu 23-May-13 10:40:19

I can't use that Arm and Hammer stuff, my teeth never feel properly clean and it makes me feel sick and gives me a weird heart burn feeling. I am not known for being a fussy person.

MegaClutterSlut Thu 23-May-13 10:45:53

YABU Arm and Hammer is disgusting and I threw it straight out!

we don't share toothpaste in my house - we each have our own tube - is that not normal? Toothpaste isn't expensive (or doesn't have to be) so why make an issue.

....and seriously someone suggested passing it on to someone else?? Would you use someone elses toothpaste?

CajaDeLaMemoria Thu 23-May-13 10:47:28

Put the arm and hammer in the guest room. Use normal toothpaste. Both be happy.

Honestly, it's not worth it. Arm and hammer is vile. I wouldn't let anyone put it anywhere near my mouth... My mouth, my choice.

And stop buying random toothpastes! Lemon flavour sounds horrid.

MegaClutterSlut Thu 23-May-13 10:47:55

And yes I would throw away a meal if I didn't like it

valiumredhead Thu 23-May-13 10:49:32

We have our own as well soon because we all like different sorts!

Just buy a new one! I've bought toothpaste on offer before then binned it when I didn't like it - I personally can't stand the gel ones. Make my teeth feel weird. Arm & Hammer is my favourite and the only one I buy now! If you feel bad about binning it, post it to me, it won't go to waste here! grin

forevergreek Thu 23-May-13 10:55:45

We only use arm and hammer as the rest are full of sls which makes my gums hurt. Just use yourself or keep for guests.

Whether you use one tube together a month or two seperate tubes lasting 2 months surely it makes no difference

hiddenhome Thu 23-May-13 11:02:10

Arm & Hammer is dreadful and I wouldn't use it. Your dh should be buying his own toothpaste.

valium - sometimes we all have the same type but it's a hygeine thing - people have a tendency to wipe their toothbrush on the opening as they get toothpaste on the brush. Not a major health risk grin but i wouldn't use someone elses toothbrush so I'd rather not use their toothpaste either - OH is worse than me about it and the boys wont use each others but it's not to do with taste although No2 son prefers a sensitive and less minty toothpaste.

LegArmpits Thu 23-May-13 11:03:42

There's nowt so queer as folk.

DeskPlanner Thu 23-May-13 11:20:16

Bloody hell, he's an adult, he can make his own choices.

TigerSwallowTail Thu 23-May-13 11:23:05

Yabu, I couldn't brush my teeth twice a day with something that tastes revolting. I vote for new toothpaste!

HesterShaw Thu 23-May-13 11:27:54

Here's a plan: why don't you use it, AND HER CAN BUY HIS OWN!

Everyone's a winner.

getyourheadout Thu 23-May-13 11:54:07

i wouldnt use it if it was that gross , surely a new tube of toothpaste for him wont break the bank.

fieldfare Thu 23-May-13 12:04:40

You use it, he buys another one that he likes.
Where's the problem really? It's only toothpaste!

cumfy Thu 23-May-13 12:50:38


Why do you repeatedly buy weird toothpaste. Lemon? Salty? Just buy one you both like.

Samu2 Thu 23-May-13 14:50:53

Is he a child or an adult?

Kittenkatzen Thu 23-May-13 15:54:19

soontobeslendergirl it was me suggested passing it on.....if my mum/sister/best mate said to me "I bought this toothpaste and we didn't like it, I know it's your brand did you want it?" then I can't see what's wrong with that <shrugs>. No different to leaving it for guests as others have said.

I'm not suggesting OP try and palm it off on a randomer!

BrianButterfield Thu 23-May-13 15:58:53

I've gone and bought my own toothpaste before as DH likes to try weird gel/whitening/grainy ones and I just like Colgate from the pound shop. It's no big deal.

We also wouldn't eat food we didn't like, although it's rare. Life's too short to force yourself to do these petty things if you can afford not to.

ouryve Thu 23-May-13 15:58:53

You use it, then. DH can buy some toothpaste that he likes. He's a grown man and perfectly capable of knowing what he likes and dislikes.

samesizetoes Thu 23-May-13 16:20:35

Buy a new toothpaste and use the other one to clean with

luxemburgerli Thu 23-May-13 16:40:57

Unless money is VERY tight, life is too short to use terrible toothpaste. Chuck it away pronto and forget about it.

You see throwing it away as a waste of toothpaste, your DH sees it as a waste to spend 2 min x 30 days trying not to throw up!

maras2 Thu 23-May-13 18:45:13

Use it to clean the tile grouting.No way would I put that stuff anywhere near my mouth.

I've recently bought one that taste like one of those airwaves chewing gum. It's gross.

It's going in the bin as soon as ive b ought a new one!

complexnumber Thu 23-May-13 20:03:52

I bought my sister some gin flavoured toothpaste once.

Apparently that was disgusting, and probably had no dental hygiene benefits whatsoever. I'm assuming she threw it away.

Maybe I'll just buy her the gin in future.

Oldraver Thu 23-May-13 20:54:42

Life is too short to be putting shit in your mouth and gagging for the sake of a couple of quid.

By all means do it to yourself if your daft enough....but dont inflict it on someone else.

trixymalixy Thu 23-May-13 23:06:27

I'm with your DH on this one. Arm and hammer is beyond vile. It makes me gag.

Whatalotofpiffle Thu 23-May-13 23:09:27

Bleurgh!!!! I hate that toothpaste and I bought a new one when I realised how rank it was

Tilly333 Thu 23-May-13 23:17:19

give in... buy him another tube....and let him gloat for a while, it'll keep him happy
life is too short... just one question .. why the hell did you buy it and not your normal stuff?

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